JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


How To Lock Down A Man In 2023


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9 minutes

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2,525

Sentence count

229

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Misogyny

30

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Toxicity

70

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Hate speech

23

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In this episode, we have a heated debate between two of my good friends about women and men. We talk about what it means to be a woman in a male dominated world, and how to deal with men who are not ready for a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 So to go back to one of my earlier points, firstly, to make it clear in the disagreement, I agree with, of course, I think everyone knows who I agree with, but I do, because you know what it is, though?
00:00:09.760 You know what's actually funny?
00:00:11.220 The things that she's saying are common knowledge 20, 30 years ago.
00:00:16.460 This is how the world functioned.
00:00:18.240 This is how the whole world functioned.
00:00:19.600 The things I say that somehow people believe are controversial are exactly the way the world functioned in, like, the 90s, the 80s, the 70s, all of the entire period of human history, men had a role of masculinity, women had a role of femininity, we worked as a team.
00:00:34.740 Now the world's come along and they've destroyed and broken everything, and there's this new progressive think and this new generation of women who seem to believe that if we completely fuck it all up, it's going to end up better. 0.94
00:00:44.980 And my argument to that is, listen, we went from walking around in fields and small nomadic groups to building cities to building the pyramids to going to the moon.
00:00:52.780 We managed to go from a few thousand to billions of people, populate the entire planet, build canals, build skyscrapers, cities.
00:00:59.280 All of this was done based on the back of man being a man, woman being a woman, working together as a family.
00:01:05.180 And now it's destroyed. 0.99
00:01:06.340 Now they're going to come along and fuck it up. 0.99
00:01:08.700 If it's not broke, don't fix it. 0.99
00:01:10.360 It's been destroyed.
00:01:11.340 Man has destroyed Earth.
00:01:12.560 What are you talking about?
00:01:13.240 It's been bad decisions from powerful men that got men to go to wars and from women to lose husbands.
00:01:19.180 Men built Earth.
00:01:20.380 Men make decisions for war. 0.96
00:01:22.080 Listen, please. 0.99
00:01:22.600 Men kill men. 0.67
00:01:23.500 Please listen to me.
00:01:24.640 Men built the Earth.
00:01:26.380 I'm not saying men are perfect, but the entire world that you're existing under was built by men.
00:01:31.300 Yes, true.
00:01:31.840 All of it.
00:01:32.320 And the point I'm making is now we're entering a world of new think.
00:01:36.020 And the problem with new think is it's not tested. 0.98
00:01:38.180 I don't give a shit what anyone's opinion is. 0.95
00:01:39.940 What I can state as a matter of fact is we had 5,000 years of history that tells us how the world works with X and Y together. 0.98
00:01:47.360 We're now entering a new paradigm.
00:01:49.280 There's no 5,000 years of history.
00:01:50.840 So whatever you believe about how it's going to work or it's going to be better or worse, whatever, that's just you guessing.
00:01:55.780 Everyone is guessing, right? 0.98
00:01:57.360 So we're entering a brand new paradigm and everything's completely fucked up. 0.91
00:01:59.820 The point you were making earlier, which is a fantastic one, about if I pick a woman who's advertising, et cetera, et cetera. 0.96
00:02:06.200 Men always, please keep this in mind, especially if you're a female. 0.95
00:02:09.420 People always say, you know, the number of emails I get from girls will say you don't give enough girl game. 1.00
00:02:12.700 I'll give you girl game right now.
00:02:14.180 Your man wants status.
00:02:16.060 That's what he wants.
00:02:17.280 You need to find a way to make him look good to the world and to his friends.
00:02:21.980 So how do you do that?
00:02:22.760 I'll tell you, one of the ways a man can get status is to get the girl that no one can get.
00:02:26.700 That's a very simple way, right?
00:02:28.400 I said not ready to mingle.
00:02:29.620 I did right.
00:02:30.280 Okay, no, but this is the truth, right?
00:02:31.900 If I date a girl and she's perfect in every way, head to toe, and then I'd say, I've met this girl.
00:02:38.400 Yeah, she's this, she's this.
00:02:39.240 Oh, yeah, I took her for a date. 1.00
00:02:40.500 Even if you didn't fuck her. 1.00
00:02:41.400 Did you fuck her? 1.00
00:02:41.840 No, no, I just went for a date. 1.00
00:02:42.980 So you went, the attraction goes from this to zero, done.
00:02:47.620 And it may not for some men because some men haven't got choices, but men like me who genuinely have unlimited options.
00:02:52.760 We want complete exclusivity.
00:02:55.180 That's what we're looking for because that gives status.
00:02:58.080 That's what you're looking for.
00:02:59.000 So you have to be very careful as a female with all of your actions, all of your interactions with your boyfriend or when you're looking for a boyfriend, et cetera, and say, am I going to make my man look better by doing X or look worse?
00:03:08.900 Simple things.
00:03:09.780 I've had endless arguments about girls' nights out, right?
00:03:12.500 Oh, you're insecure.
00:03:13.740 It's nothing about insecure. 1.00
00:03:14.920 I don't give a fuck if no man talks to you all night long. 0.99
00:03:18.520 I don't care if you're going out and you're going to an all-girl club. 1.00
00:03:21.080 I don't care.
00:03:21.580 I know that when my boys say, oh, all the girls are going out, and I say, not my girl.
00:03:26.260 She stays home.
00:03:27.620 I look good.
00:03:28.800 That's it.
00:03:29.460 She stays home.
00:03:30.400 She doesn't go out.
00:03:31.000 She doesn't want to go out without me.
00:03:33.920 That's status.
00:03:34.680 It's not about the night out.
00:03:35.780 It's about the status of being the man in the house.
00:03:38.480 That's what a man wants.
00:03:39.520 He wants respect.
00:03:40.200 He wants to be the man of the house.
00:03:41.340 I say she stays home.
00:03:42.500 She stays home.
00:03:43.300 Big G.
00:03:44.120 That's what we want.
00:03:44.900 Can I ask you something?
00:03:45.720 What about what does the woman want in your eyes? 1.00
00:03:48.440 What do you think?
00:03:48.960 And what's the game you give for the boys?
00:03:50.120 I'm going to tell you, but before that, I need another Clementine, and I need to give
00:03:53.240 half to our friend here because she just rolled her eyes at me, and I'm perspicacious.
00:03:56.460 I know it's everything.
00:03:57.100 She doesn't realize that I'm a ninja.
00:03:58.480 I detect these things.
00:03:59.380 Even when I'm looking directly ahead, I can detect it.
00:04:01.400 That's why you have shades.
00:04:02.200 I'm going to give her some of my Clementine, and she's going to feel better.
00:04:04.980 So I'm going to get a Clementine for you. 1.00
00:04:06.120 Would you like some Clementine, my dear?
00:04:07.320 I'm sure.
00:04:08.160 You want some Clementine? 1.00
00:04:08.700 I just, I think for me, it's like this is-
00:04:10.400 I asked you a question.
00:04:11.080 Would you like some Clementine? 0.99
00:04:11.300 Yeah, I would love some.
00:04:12.100 You want some Clementine? 1.00
00:04:12.860 Yeah.
00:04:13.260 We're going to hook it up.
00:04:13.940 Okay.
00:04:14.380 Clementine's coming.
00:04:15.300 All right.
00:04:15.660 Go on.
00:04:15.980 Continue.
00:04:16.700 Okay.
00:04:17.260 What?
00:04:17.420 No, I mean, I just feel like this is definitely a different conversation for me because I'm
00:04:23.700 very open-minded.
00:04:24.760 I love hearing different perspective, and I do feel like this is a newer idea.
00:04:30.400 Like you said, within the last 30, 40 years, this is a new concept.
00:04:33.220 We don't know how it's going to end.
00:04:34.920 I just know from my experience, other women that I've met as well, it's like the reason
00:04:40.920 for even relationships, why they're not lasting is because people don't want to put up with
00:04:45.920 the disrespect.
00:04:46.360 And even when you were talking about like, oh, it's okay for me to cheat, but not for
00:04:49.980 you, my thing is, is like, why not have transparency and have it be polygamous, polyamorous, whatever
00:04:55.700 works for you?
00:04:56.560 That's like, to me, where it loses me with the traditional stuff.
00:04:59.740 I get it.
00:05:00.040 It's like, why can't we have transparency if I sign up for that?
00:05:02.500 Cool.
00:05:03.060 So how does it- no, no man in a million years, let's all be realistic, right?
00:05:06.680 No man in a million years is going to meet a girl he likes and go, I want to be polyamorous. 0.81
00:05:10.060 Like, come on, that's gay. 1.00
00:05:10.880 Let's cut this bullshit. 1.00
00:05:12.020 So let's be realistic. 1.00
00:05:13.080 How does a man show love to a woman? 0.96
00:05:15.380 Tell me.
00:05:15.580 Sexual exclusivity.
00:05:16.680 Wrong.
00:05:17.780 Time, resources, and something else.
00:05:19.540 Time, resources.
00:05:20.480 So that's a good way to start.
00:05:22.280 So sexual exclusivity is how a female shows primarily that she's interested in a man. 0.99
00:05:27.440 He's the only man who has sexual access to me because I can get pregnant, and this man
00:05:30.600 is the only man who can do it. 0.93
00:05:31.620 That's how it's done.
00:05:32.860 A man, yes, I'm not saying all men can cheat.
00:05:35.220 I'm not saying all men should cheat.
00:05:36.220 I'm not saying that.
00:05:36.740 I'm saying that if I truly love a woman, she won't sit there and go, he shows me his love 0.99
00:05:41.100 because he doesn't fuck anyone else. 0.98
00:05:42.620 She'll sit there and go, he shows me his love because my bills are paid. 0.99
00:05:45.500 I'm in a Bentley.
00:05:46.380 I fly private.
00:05:47.760 I go to Dubai anytime I want.
00:05:49.260 I have a Chanel bag.
00:05:50.160 And I'm not talking about just money.
00:05:51.780 I'm talking about resource and a lifestyle as a whole.
00:05:54.020 This is not just me.
00:05:54.880 This is the world.
00:05:55.640 And most of the world today, if you go to Moscow and you find a big G, a rich guy, right?
00:05:59.900 He has his wife.
00:06:00.820 She's pushing a Bentley. 0.97
00:06:01.800 She has the kids.
00:06:02.320 She's living in a mansion, whatever. 0.98
00:06:03.280 When he goes to the club with his boys, you think he ain't with 19-year-old strippers? 1.00
00:06:05.660 Of course he fucking is. 1.00
00:06:06.460 Can I ask you? 1.00
00:06:06.760 But she's just like, whatever.
00:06:08.120 Don't care.
00:06:08.780 I'm the one who has the money. 1.00
00:06:09.720 Don't give a shit. 1.00
00:06:10.460 So you have to sit there, and to a point, you have to sit and analyze the difference. 1.00
00:06:14.780 When you're saying disrespect, if you're going to go through life as a woman and say,
00:06:18.600 I only care about the sexual exclusivity of my man, then what you're going to end up doing 0.99
00:06:22.820 is having a bunch of failed relationships and fucking loads of dudes. 0.99
00:06:25.040 There has to get a point where you go, you know what? 0.99
00:06:26.780 This guy ticks so many boxes once a year, twice a year. 1.00
00:06:30.740 He's out with his boys, does some dumb shit. 0.99
00:06:32.360 I'm just going to pretend I didn't notice because my bills are paid. 1.00
00:06:34.580 I'm looked after.
00:06:35.720 I can tell he cares about me.
00:06:37.280 If I have a problem, he's going to fix it.
00:06:39.200 He ticks so many.
00:06:40.020 That's the smart female move. 1.00
00:06:41.820 As opposed to go, I don't care how good he is to me. 1.00
00:06:44.040 He fucked that bitch once, so I'm going to leave, and I'm going to get another man who 1.00
00:06:46.680 I don't love who'll fuck another bitch anyway, and then I'll get another man who I don't 1.00
00:06:49.440 love who'll fuck another bitch. 1.00
00:06:50.360 It's the end of cycle of dumb shit. 1.00
00:06:51.800 Can I ask? 1.00
00:06:53.060 But more mild examples, though.
00:06:55.100 Dena, wait.
00:06:55.760 I have a question.
00:06:56.480 Is there ever cheating that's too far?
00:06:59.140 Like, so if a guy cheats on a girl, is there ever a point where she...
00:07:02.580 Yeah, there's a lot of cheating.
00:07:03.360 There's completely a lot of cheating that's too far.
00:07:04.520 So, like, if he knocks up another girl, would you say that's too far?
00:07:06.960 All right, all right.
00:07:07.560 So, first things first, I'm a man of my word.
00:07:09.440 I don't want anyone to think I'm a liar.
00:07:11.220 So, here's your Clementine. 1.00
00:07:13.480 Thank you.
00:07:14.100 And he peeled it.
00:07:15.000 I'm a gentleman.
00:07:15.760 I'm a gentleman.
00:07:16.900 Right.
00:07:17.340 So, obviously, I'm not saying blatantly disrespect your woman, right?
00:07:21.460 She's your woman.
00:07:22.180 She's your queen.
00:07:22.760 She's the most important thing in the world to you.
00:07:24.400 She needs to be treated in a way that she feels that, right?
00:07:28.680 But it's unfortunate because I keep tying back to this baseline point.
00:07:32.660 But the reason I keep going back to this baseline point is to try and explain to everybody at
00:07:35.620 home how simple the world can be if you go back to the baselines of it.
00:07:38.820 Why do men cheat?
00:07:40.320 Most women don't know. 1.00
00:07:41.520 You'll see them all the time.
00:07:42.620 Why do men cheat? 1.00
00:07:43.220 Oh, because men are just stupid. 1.00
00:07:44.840 And why do men fuck girls uglier than their main chick? 1.00
00:07:47.260 Why do men do all this stuff? 1.00
00:07:48.320 Do you know why?
00:07:49.220 I'll tell you why.
00:07:50.100 Let's go back to the first thing I've been saying this whole time.
00:07:52.140 Status.
00:07:53.100 Yeah, that's my chick. 0.82
00:07:54.180 She's home.
00:07:55.160 Took this one home.
00:07:56.160 Yeah, I got that one.
00:07:56.940 She's chasing me.
00:07:57.580 Status.
00:07:58.240 Status.
00:07:58.800 Status. 1.00
00:07:59.320 But it's stupid to females. 1.00
00:08:01.220 I get it. 1.00
00:08:01.980 But that's the male world because sexual access is an easy indicator of status. 0.89
00:08:06.640 So that's one of the reasons they do it, right?
00:08:08.460 So you have to go back into the baseline of why men even cheat in the first place.
00:08:10.900 I'm telling you, if you're a woman, the smartest thing you can do is look after your man, make 1.00
00:08:14.580 him not want to cheat.
00:08:15.460 Be perfect.
00:08:16.440 But there's going to be a time across a 20-year marriage you might just need to be a little
00:08:20.240 bit blind.
00:08:21.340 A little bit.
00:08:22.180 Just a tiny bit.
00:08:23.060 Just don't look at his phone.
00:08:24.200 And you'll be cool.
00:08:25.200 You'll be cool.
00:08:26.140 Just make sure the bills are paid.
00:08:27.340 He does his job as a man.
00:08:28.260 What if you can pay your own bills, though?
00:08:29.720 But this is it.
00:08:30.920 We'll talk about that in a second. 0.98
00:08:31.780 But I'm not saying allow this for some fucking Joe Schmoe. 1.00
00:08:34.080 I'm not saying let some fucking loser pick you up, lock you down, and go cheat on you. 1.00
00:08:36.860 I'm not saying that. 1.00
00:08:37.680 I'm saying if he's a G and he's doing enough of his other jobs, as for you saying what if
00:08:40.740 you can pay your own bills, then what's the reality you face?
00:08:43.520 Just like I described earlier.
00:08:44.960 I'm going to decide that the thing that I prioritize above everything, above his resource, above
00:08:49.340 the amount he cares for me, you'll see men cheat on a woman and then cry his eyes out trying
00:08:52.840 to get that woman back.
00:08:53.560 He still loves you.
00:08:54.500 It's not the same as if you cheated.
00:08:55.800 He loves you with all his heart.
00:08:56.760 He'd die for you. 1.00
00:08:57.440 He'd take a bullet for you, and he'd still fuck that bitch. 1.00
00:08:59.060 It doesn't matter. 1.00
00:08:59.940 It's a different game for men, right?
00:09:01.920 So you're sitting there going, well, I'm going to prioritize his sexual exclusivity over all of
00:09:06.320 his other, all of his other attributes. 1.00
00:09:08.100 You're just going to end up having endless failed relationships, fucking too many dudes. 0.99
00:09:12.700 And then what's going to happen is your psychology is going to break because females don't like 1.00
00:09:16.700 to accept the fact that if you sleep with enough men and you get rid of the stigma around a 1.00
00:09:20.400 new dick, your instant answer is constantly new dick. 1.00
00:09:23.340 Ah, he didn't text me today. 1.00
00:09:24.320 Fuck it. 1.00
00:09:24.680 Someone else. 1.00
00:09:25.300 Ah, he was rude to me. 1.00
00:09:26.240 Fuck it. 1.00
00:09:26.500 I'll cheat. 1.00
00:09:27.080 Ah, he was this.
00:09:27.760 I'll get a new boyfriend. 1.00
00:09:28.740 And then you end up just jumping on cock all day and you're fucking done. 1.00
00:09:32.360 You need to, the reality is there has to come a point where you get a guy and he ticks 0.99
00:09:35.400 the boxes and you're like, you know what?
00:09:36.620 I'm wifey. 0.91
00:09:37.460 I've got the Bentley.
00:09:38.400 He does whatever he does, but my bills are paid.
00:09:40.580 That's it.
00:09:41.360 Many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:09:47.580 this platform.
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