JustPearlyThings - October 07, 2023


How Women DESTROY The TOP 1% Of Men


Episode Stats

Length

1 hour and 3 minutes

Words per Minute

182.81378

Word Count

11,635

Sentence Count

3

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

24


Summary

In this episode of The Sit Down, I have a special guest, Riz Khan, who shares his story of false accusations and how they have impacted his life. He talks about how false accusations have affected him in the past and how it has affected his career and his marriage.


Transcript

00:00:00.560 the only time i found out bang bang bang eight o'clock in the morning look outside the window
00:00:07.760 nine police car like nine police officers so seven police officers nine nine police officers
00:00:15.680 just barged into your house wow yeah and you're just like eating breakfast i just come down the
00:00:21.600 stairs i just come down the stairs i was like i'm coming i'm coming yeah i took my time i'm not going
00:00:27.120 anywhere walked out the police was there he had drugs in her handbag drugs in her handbag in court
00:00:36.640 i can't even make this up exactly and how did that allegation impact your life
00:00:46.800 the saying is when you had everything and now you have nothing what up guys welcome to the just
00:00:54.000 pearly things youtube channel and welcome to the sit down today i have a special guest riz khan welcome
00:01:00.400 to the show thank you very much um so this we're doing is a part of my documentary series um we're
00:01:06.640 doing a documentary on the court system um and just the issue of men getting custody of their children
00:01:13.120 and false accusations um so i brought you here today because you had a story to tell
00:01:18.480 you did i really appreciate it thank you very much yeah thank you for coming um so before we get
00:01:25.280 too much into your story can we talk a little bit about your background uh yes uh my name is riz
00:01:31.040 and i'm a northerner from the northeast not far from newcastle and i am an actor and a model that's
00:01:37.920 what i tend to do i don't class instagram as a job but i do instagram as well okay hey hey i'm on
00:01:44.480 this is a hard job this is uh it's tough to take the selfies all right ready with the gym it's good
00:01:51.920 pausing a full-time job in itself yes i've been doing that now full-time for the past few years
00:01:59.120 well i was until things started okay so um you and you worked for disney at one point uh yes so i've
00:02:06.960 been involved in quite a few quite a lot of projects for quite a different people yes okay so can you like
00:02:11.840 talk about a couple um so i've been involved as i said to do with the acting so i've did things for
00:02:16.960 like netflix and amazon and i'm doing something for marvel at the moment so we shot that but
00:02:23.200 obviously the strike's on at the moment so it's okay so your career was going really well before this
00:02:29.200 whole thing happened it yeah i mean netflix these are some big names netflix like marvel disney like
00:02:35.680 that's that sounds like incredible opportunities especially for someone who's kind of a late bloomer
00:02:41.760 so i've already decided to do this so i used to work in finance full-time okay and it was good
00:02:46.560 enough and that was glamorous and i kind of got offered an opportunity for the bbc to do a tv
00:02:54.240 show called taxi tales stereotype or what when i went with it uh and the irony is i don't drive
00:03:01.360 so were you were you a taxi driver okay so how old were you when you did that so how old were you when
00:03:22.800 you took the first role so i did that when i was 32 at the time okay and but then i kind of put
00:03:32.400 everything on a back burner uh because i met someone and she got pregnant pretty quick so as you kind of
00:03:41.520 do but i wouldn't now uh i kind of changed everything got a full-time job you know settled down
00:03:49.280 try to be the ideal partner and more importantly you know the good parent as it were okay and how
00:03:55.360 long were you with her uh i was with her for four years another day specifically okay so you're with
00:04:01.600 her at 32 to 36 basically and then what was going on with your career in that time you were just in
00:04:06.000 finance uh yeah so i used to work for telecoms and i flit about like i've never really had any
00:04:12.000 consistency i go where the money is okay go where the money is and then i got offered a job in finance
00:04:18.240 and uh said it was fantastic okay really good job so when did the acting stuff start that was after
00:04:24.160 so i got offered a job whilst i was with her and as i said but at the time i did it but as i said i
00:04:32.400 loved it but then i remember here we go again when you're in a partnership it's not kind of viable
00:04:39.120 but i wasn't being supported to be fair with you i wasn't being supported at all so i was like okay
00:04:43.600 i won't do it i just left it out um and how many kids was it one kid or just one okay and was it
00:04:50.320 planned or was it unexpected no this is where again i'm very honest to admit and very brash to say
00:04:57.440 second time like we had sex and she fell pregnant oh wow yeah so it's kind of this is where the
00:05:05.200 culture thing comes into part so i am muslim and i remember i had a conversation with my parents
00:05:12.880 and they were like look you need to do with islamic marriage so we sat down we had the adult
00:05:19.200 conversation she was all for it that was meant to be my happily ever after okay because what i'm trying
00:05:27.040 to what i'm trying to understand just for the viewers watching is i want them to understand how much
00:05:31.120 like time you put into like getting where you were yeah so i did it when i was at college and i pursued
00:05:37.280 it and i always had really positive feedback like this i can't sing even when i'm in the shower i need
00:05:43.600 to stop i i've got two left feet uh but the active thing it's something i could really get into it's one
00:05:52.160 it's one of the few things in life i was always passionate about and i always realized i smiled which is
00:05:58.960 something i don't usually do when i do something i'm like it's just a chore yeah and so as i said
00:06:06.000 like when i become a parent i kind of just left at it and it wasn't until afterwards
00:06:13.440 uh like i said after we broke up and then the director somebody got in touch with me was like
00:06:20.000 where have you been because i've been trying to hold of you i didn't really do social media because
00:06:24.960 i was settled so i didn't really want to do anything and uh he kind of he got me back into
00:06:32.160 it okay he was like you are actually good do you don't realize no because i'm not getting that from
00:06:37.440 her and so that was when you started doing like the disney the netflix the marvel yeah so so you guys
00:06:43.360 broke up then yeah so i uh again it was all happily ever after i woke up one day and uh received a
00:06:50.880 message to say she was having an affair oh wow yeah uh who is she having an affair with uh one of her
00:06:57.200 work colleagues um the the the girl in question was six months pregnant was her fiance wow so yeah
00:07:09.840 i've still got the messages i'll show you later on imagine reading that wow like especially when you've
00:07:15.040 got a beautiful house you've got your business you've got a child and she's having an affair with
00:07:20.960 someone at work yeah who he had another girl six months pregnant yeah second child wow okay so she's
00:07:28.160 having that affair and so then obviously you guys broke up yes uh obviously as usual people deny this
00:07:36.000 or the the the girl who sent me the messages she had screenshotted everything like even the snapchat
00:07:44.400 messages so obviously there was yeah it refused to get evidence and i was just yeah and again when
00:07:50.080 you're trying to confront like to confront something no i didn't do that oh she she denied yeah it's like
00:07:56.720 you can't even deny this you know what's interesting in the 1900s there's like um an article from a guy
00:08:05.840 who like would well i forgot what his job was but he was in court all the time and one of his observations
00:08:11.280 was about women was that like the men when they got caught they would kind of be like okay i did it
00:08:16.880 you know it'd be the punishment but the women like no matter how much evidence was against them
00:08:22.160 would still it's funny it's funny it's like it's not a new phenomenon like women just did not like no
00:08:27.120 matter what's in front of them i'm just denying until they die yeah yeah so he was like it's a really
00:08:35.040 strange phenomenon these women don't yeah okay so you had all this evidence she said no i didn't do
00:08:41.440 it you obviously believed the evidence um did she break up with you or you broke i'm guessing you broke
00:08:46.800 up yes uh obviously you know yeah well it's one of them ones because do you do the old there's a child
00:08:56.240 involved yeah and you know i i i would admit i know we sat down but i don't know i have this mentality of
00:09:06.400 somebody else has been there i i can't look at you that loving puppy eyes anymore yeah like you've
00:09:13.600 been tarnished as it were you know as backwards as that may sound i i couldn't i couldn't you know we
00:09:20.160 we again we slightly abacable because of our son uh but that's only lasts for so long it does
00:09:27.840 so were you okay seeing your son uh yes there was like this was things so we broke up in
00:09:35.120 so it was early to like late 2015 january 2016 and then the family court this is when
00:09:43.360 the big bad world started that was in about 2017 that's when that started to begin
00:09:50.160 okay 2017 yeah and what was um your first impression of family court so i actually
00:09:58.720 written this down because i like i actually wouldn't like remind this so this this is something i've
00:10:03.440 like some i've read so family court reminds me of the scene in wizard of us when the great horse is
00:10:09.200 blustering and bluffing and when they're in his magnificent castle his voice and indignation
00:10:13.440 is fundus and it's very frightening but in reality when little torto pulls the curtain back
00:10:20.160 it's a bluff that's what it was so when i first found out about it or family court was
00:10:26.880 oh i was panicking as soon as you google
00:10:33.600 there's nothing positive for fathers yeah nothing and this was years ago bearing in mind
00:10:39.200 nothing at all positive to give a father hope just the opposite what did you find
00:10:45.280 that was awful so again um you go into it and you kind of get pushed towards going for legal
00:10:54.480 representation and i spoke to a few solicitors at the time i'd like any legal representation they
00:11:01.600 sell you the dream look we'll do this we'll get x amount of dates you can get your son back don't
00:11:07.200 worry we support you what they mean to say is we only support you because there's money involved they
00:11:12.000 don't care about you why would they when i first went i just realized that this being a mouthpiece
00:11:20.640 that's all the work and i like to think obviously years have gone on and this is where it's kind of
00:11:27.120 i'll be in the family court has kind of helped me in acting wise with my confidence because just
00:11:31.840 speaking to a judge someone of position of authority and it's kind of helped me a lot and
00:11:37.280 i'm i now self-represent and i have for many years now and i've not seen a difference really no
00:11:45.840 it's i'm very fortunate that as i said there's a lot of groups as long as you get in the correct
00:11:50.720 network this is where social media does come in handy as soon as you put in single fathers there
00:11:56.240 is quite a lot of groups will come up so you always got to be careful because you will have the bad
00:12:02.800 single fathers with slate every single mother and put them all in the same category and you will have
00:12:09.120 the decent ones like your fight for justice your disqualified dads and the people who i work for
00:12:15.440 put kids first and they will actually say don't forget there's some good moms out there as well
00:12:19.680 yeah i know a few just before i get a shot here and so again it's seeking the correct advice not legally
00:12:27.680 and that's where you've kind of got to be careful and back everything up like you say so what so when
00:12:35.440 you went to family court um were did you in this time period did you have trouble accessing your son
00:12:41.840 yes um so here we go this is where the travels unfold over the years it's baffling
00:12:48.080 so um as you as you most likely already aware the legal aid mandate changed i believe it was in 2013
00:12:57.520 and obviously it rapidly increased women's aid helped to do this that basically as soon as you cry
00:13:05.520 violence or anything else sexually you get legal aid hence there was a spike i think it was two
00:13:12.880 percent or something along the lines of that when this happened yeah so when we actually went when
00:13:19.680 we were going to court as i said it kind of all got involved
00:13:25.360 yeah so what was like the first allegation first allegation is i was going to run away to pakistan with
00:13:33.040 my son wait say that again i was going to run away to pakistan with my son so my family are from pakistan
00:13:40.320 i myself i've only been there once just to clarify i am bored and friendly so you've only you've only
00:13:45.760 been to pakistan once yeah yeah i know sorry and she thought you were no no no no no no no but that
00:13:51.200 would be like because i'm american but that's like saying i'm gonna go to germany because i'm like
00:13:55.440 part you know oh yeah by all means it is my national anthem yeah british but yes uh this was not
00:14:02.320 once this was actually three times i got accused of this okay so and here we go a bit of a
00:14:08.960 this actually shocked me so the i asked the police officer the second time it was the same officer
00:14:16.240 and i again my son is helping his grandma my mother he's eating and the police come in i was like
00:14:22.480 did you want to help me pack the suitcase you know you can drop us off at the police station if you want
00:14:26.320 at the airport and he started laughing and i go why is this a big deal okay so he explained it
00:14:33.840 the reason being is pakistan is associated to kidnapping so it becomes a priority okay so they
00:14:43.120 it's associated with kidnapping why i don't know i don't know i didn't want to like you know ask too
00:14:50.160 much okay and he goes it's kind of a priority that's why we're here like is it okay so it could be a
00:14:54.960 murder there could be a stabbing that's fine but someone associated pakistan get there now okay so the
00:14:59.680 police came to you yeah and then took your son uh so his mother then turned up as well okay and again it
00:15:07.120 was the police probably the where the where time actually would say they were actually quite decent
00:15:12.240 they turned up and obviously she contacted her she was outside putting on the putting on the works
00:15:17.680 being too advertised and then the cops was like he's he's sat inside with his grandma eating so once
00:15:23.200 he's done he'll come out and then obviously i came outside i was like what are you doing but again this is
00:15:30.880 the start this is the start of the ploy okay uh then you know again we found it quite amusing and this
00:15:41.760 is when family court started to get involved and the next allegation was i used to beat him up oh okay
00:15:51.680 so again so she said you used to beat her up yeah and you never put a hand on her no i haven't and
00:16:00.560 again when you're in family court regardless if there's any evidence or not it's her word is
00:16:06.160 gospel yeah which is for i don't mean so irating and there's no evidence and the whole time we're
00:16:12.960 together was any phone logs police logs how tall are you i'm 510 okay and how how tall was she
00:16:21.440 taller than me okay so but five eleven five five eleven six but you're you stronger than her oh hell no
00:16:28.000 no i've only just been decent size now what back in the days no no okay i'll show you later what
00:16:33.760 the kind of picture okay really she was stronger than you she was bigger than me yeah okay not
00:16:38.560 bigger i said stronger i would probably say yes as well oh okay i was gonna say i i because i'm i'm
00:16:46.880 an athlete but i i even think that the average guy can beat the average woman up so i just imagine if
00:16:52.960 you were beating her there'd be some evidence but i guess not well this is it again because
00:16:58.960 you know without trying to go on it too much like as you can imagine someone who suffers domestic
00:17:04.640 abuse she was trying to say every single thing but again the picture goes to study police calls out
00:17:10.400 there's any pictures no videos and the and what so what the what would the court say they would just
00:17:15.600 take it as gospel so yes when we went to family court uh this is when it all appeared nothing
00:17:21.040 otherwise again let's remember the police haven't questioned me about any of this in the past so
00:17:26.480 again we were in family court and the judge you could just see him just claring and this is when i
00:17:32.400 started to start to self-represent and at first i was slightly intimidated and then i realized nah no
00:17:39.760 this is absolute yeah that's exactly what it is and then i kind of realized again it's the theme
00:17:46.720 and this is how to do it because it's the women's aid mandate start off with this you know start off
00:17:53.680 with the domestic violence start off with the sexual abuse start with whatever you want so the next so
00:18:00.000 she first accused you of running away to pakistan yeah now you'd only been there once then she accused
00:18:06.400 you of beating her up what was next so we finished went together anymore um and again i said i need to be
00:18:14.480 very careful the way i'm saying this because obviously it's still an ongoing court case uh so
00:18:18.240 it was after seven years this allegation that appeared okay seven years so let's bear in mind the
00:18:25.360 whole entire time you were going to family court not once was this ever mentioned and this is doc this
00:18:32.160 is evidence recorded to the court of law not once and the only time i found out bang bang bang
00:18:39.360 eight o'clock in the morning look outside the window nine police car like nine police officers three vans
00:18:47.680 and two cars for little old me i was like wow intimidation tactic i couldn't believe it i couldn't
00:18:56.480 i have never been involved with the law ever so you can imagine what i was like what on earth barge did
00:19:03.040 eventually and again surrounded me and i was like wow have you having a quiet morning i couldn't believe
00:19:10.640 it so seven police officers nine nine police officers just barged into your house wow yeah and
00:19:19.360 you're just like eating breakfast i just come down the stairs i just come down the stairs i was like i'm
00:19:24.240 coming i'm coming yeah i took my time i'm not going anywhere did they arrest you uh yes they arrested me
00:19:31.040 wow they arrested me and uh they said look you know then they said obviously the allegation of rape
00:19:38.240 and i was like i'm sorry what okay it's the first time i've ever been aware of it and so you can imagine
00:19:45.920 again as a man this is the most scariest thing ever to be accused of forget they want to go out in
00:19:52.800 pakistan forget they're beating someone up rip it's the most scariest thing as a man ever before that
00:20:02.000 and that's something that i've had to kind of live with to this day it's like what was her story
00:20:09.280 again so what did she said you raped you you raped her seven years ago yeah okay um so what was because
00:20:16.720 i'd imagine if someone's a rapist they wouldn't you wouldn't want to like why was she with you the
00:20:21.440 next seven years this is the conversation to be have and this is again you know when you when you
00:20:29.360 speak to other people and you look at things and you kind of like hang on a minute so i was getting
00:20:34.400 cut i was getting there told i was narcissistic and coerced and uh coerced yeah i was coercing
00:20:41.120 there quite a lot i was gaslighting her the whole yeah the women uh you know the women red flag
00:20:46.400 words uh which tends to be i never knew these words beforehand and that was just common you
00:20:52.160 think it's like from the women's shelters they like teach them that i believe so yeah because
00:20:56.320 i'm seeing it so much more the red flags term this wasn't a thing not long ago and now narcissistic
00:21:03.200 gaslighting coercive behavior huh but it's as i said it would be fantastic to get a record like
00:21:10.640 statistics from family courts to see how often this has happened right i would say it's probably
00:21:15.760 four or five cases in family court that's just my opinion so yes so let's bear in mind when i'm in a
00:21:21.600 relationship with someone and please correct me if i'm wrong uh she was going on holidays with her
00:21:25.600 friends and she was going on nights out with her friends i was at home sat after look after the child
00:21:32.400 she would do what she wants you tell me so was that the last allegation was it those three or was
00:21:42.320 there more that was the last one okay and that was for now well yeah yeah for now and when was that uh
00:21:49.520 so this was in march 2021 the last time i see my son and what what and how did that allegation impact
00:22:00.240 your life well the saying is when you had everything and now you have nothing
00:22:13.280 i was someone the most confident individual in the world i would go somewhere and i would try to take
00:22:19.120 over and my career as i said like i was doing some huge shows i got a modeling contract me at my old age
00:22:29.120 got a modeling contract i was like wow i couldn't believe i was in top of the world i got 50 50 shared
00:22:36.960 accommodation for my child which i fought for for myself nice house and i was like what the hell i am
00:22:45.760 living my dreams i couldn't believe even i couldn't believe it i remembered we were in london staying
00:22:51.600 and i was with my family and all of a sudden i got the contract through for the modeling contract and i
00:22:55.760 started crying and i was like you always hear the saying go pursue your dreams i did the acting and
00:23:02.640 then for some reason somebody thought i was handsome and look good in photos and i just thought it was
00:23:06.880 just my mom and i was like wow and then i guess i'll take it away from you my acting agency dropped me
00:23:18.160 my modeling agency dropped me i wouldn't even class with friends people stopped talking to me because
00:23:26.080 this made mainstream media which i still don't quite understand it's not like i'm someone of any
00:23:32.640 significance um the article got put on social media channels and it's always interesting to see uh
00:23:41.920 the keyboard warriors the little trolls and the majority of there was it was the fact that my
00:23:48.800 color of skin was getting brought into question deport him send him back to his country they're all the
00:23:55.280 same i'm thinking where am i going to go up do they know i'm born here well clearly they don't so
00:24:04.000 regardless you know the reference will always be the color of my skin or my surname being tan
00:24:11.440 no one now as soon as like i said soon as you google me that's it that's associating me and let's
00:24:17.680 remember there's no evidence it's he said she said there is nothing to refute the back these claims
00:24:25.680 up or anything at all in fact it's the opposite i have provided so much evidence i said i'll give you
00:24:31.920 a little snippet after and even it's like huh how was this even getting there right the reason being
00:24:38.960 it's because i'm a statistic because i'm a muslim that is 100 and i've asked a lot of people who've
00:24:45.520 been in the same boat and i've said to them again they've had my mobile phones free thoughts don't
00:24:51.680 ask and nothing together obviously you can't okay and obviously the biggest thing is why does this never
00:25:01.760 get mentioned in family court you would think again let's let's talk about the women's rights
00:25:07.040 you would think that would be the first thing that you would for because that's the worst and
00:25:11.600 sickest allegation you could imagine for anybody as soon as a judge hears that be like yeah you've
00:25:15.840 never seen your child again so you're okay with me getting 50 50 you're okay dropping the child off to
00:25:23.040 my house me collected from your house but apparently i've done all this to you
00:25:29.360 as a man you've got no chance you have no chance anymore and personally on a personal impact it it's
00:25:36.480 it's rude me completely it really has there hasn't been a day and this is where it gets morbid there
00:25:43.920 hasn't been a day that i haven't contemplated suicide there's like a million different ways i think
00:25:49.440 what if i jump in the train what if i jump out like jump in front of the bus i live by myself no one's
00:25:55.440 going to know my son was my world this was commonly known he was my everything he was the one who got
00:26:03.040 me into my acting we were on the way home once and it was valentine's and we picked him up from school
00:26:09.120 i call him baba baba how was school he goes all right dad like it's like my girlfriend's doing my
00:26:13.760 heading and i started laughing my mom goes tell who's come after and he goes what about you
00:26:19.040 and he goes let me guess you hated it was boring you couldn't wait to get home and that hit me
00:26:26.000 fathers are meant to be role models for children my eyes they're meant to be role models and my son's
00:26:31.760 looking at me like i'm a piece of crap and that kind of hit me and i couldn't believe it and hence
00:26:38.880 as i said eventually i decided you know what i get it i don't have anything to answer to i don't
00:26:44.320 i don't have to send someone a good morning i don't have you text anymore let's focus on me
00:26:48.880 and i did and i pursued my passion i did my dream and i was living it like and i can guarantee you
00:26:54.400 right now pal if i carried on this trajectory i was going and this could you could just look at my
00:26:58.160 credits i was doing i would have been something and whether i get that back or not after all this
00:27:05.520 rubbish who knows but yeah the most important thing for me is my son and especially when you're here
00:27:15.040 afterwards in court uh you're scared of daddy wow imagine even that i'm trying to get emotional yeah
00:27:24.400 imagine even that well let's bear in mind she's had two and a bit years to tell him
00:27:31.360 to you know to brainwash him yeah brainwashing she's had two and a bit years so again it goes
00:27:39.120 back to the family court when these social workers were involved and then you have kafkat which is
00:27:44.960 the court appointed social workers and the work hand in hand and this is where the culture thinker
00:27:52.640 was at the play so he's mixed race so when he's with me we try to again we ask him do you want to go to
00:27:59.760 the mosque i am not saying by all means i'm religious i do not pray five times a day at all
00:28:04.560 but that's something again later in life i would like to when my son's with me like you want to go
00:28:09.760 to the mosque yeah okay dad no dad i'm chilling okay pal that's on you but when it's eid like he
00:28:15.680 will go with us he loves it and i love him in his little shawai he looks so cute and it's amazing
00:28:20.080 the rare opportunity i do as well family photos etc and now that's something he lives for he strives for
00:28:27.440 he loves my mom's curries he loves it chapatis everyone does you know i mean so it's amusing
00:28:32.320 you'll sit there when it's quite amusing over the years i've seen him develop his spice even i can't
00:28:37.920 i'm a big wuss i have medium when i go to nando's and it's quite amusing to watch him grow as a child
00:28:43.520 and as a father and now again he adores me there's videos on my instagram and youtube and everything this
00:28:50.560 is again which is quite amusing considering the child so scared he's on my youtube and he's like jumping all
00:28:55.360 of me adores me you're like hey so now he's being told he doesn't like me they tried to change his
00:29:04.240 surname wow she's trying to remove me from the birth certificate so you went from being a very involved
00:29:11.680 father yeah to not being able to see your son for two years and being told that he's afraid of you yeah
00:29:18.240 he's afraid he doesn't call me dad anymore because people is uh when i have tried bringing up this with
00:29:27.600 the social services of the authorities and i said i'm also concerned because he's going to lose his
00:29:33.120 muslim heritage his identity i would like to think he's getting the best of both well she's not religious
00:29:38.000 by any means i'm not but i believe it's just a slight bit of stability from a child just the culture
00:29:44.240 just the mannerisms and everything it's fantastic the way watching him grow is amazing now it's not
00:29:49.840 he's having his like ham sandwiches and that he doesn't what he did he never wanted to beforehand it
00:29:53.520 was a school conversation had as well which we both attended by the way we both attended school
00:29:58.720 meetings together okay but again as i said now the social workers words were oh if you ever want to know
00:30:08.320 you know you and mommy could google it so prayers google a prayer google is that what religion is
00:30:14.880 now yeah it's google when he has his grandparents on the phone anytime beckon day my brothers my
00:30:20.640 sister-in-law's his dad because every time he used to go to sleep he used to do a little prayer
00:30:25.920 it's just something he used to do like we never forced him he did it how old is he now he is now 10.
00:30:32.480 so he's 10 so you the last time you saw me was eight yeah that's like a different kid he is and
00:30:40.080 i i i'm very honest like i i hate to say when people when he gets older he'll remember who you
00:30:45.040 are no you won't let's cut the he's not gonna know who i am because he's being brainwashed into
00:30:52.080 if you love mommy you're not you know you don't want to be seen mommy hurt do you
00:30:57.360 all these little niggles he's a child he's innocent yeah you know he's not mentally prepared
00:31:02.320 to understand so how did the media pick up this story because isn't family court sealed i thought
00:31:09.600 i i don't completely understand it yeah like so i got explained this a while ago and actually
00:31:16.400 laughed so let's bear in mind me and you we could walk right now we can go into
00:31:22.960 quite like the crown court we can watch a murder trial we can watch drug smugglers
00:31:28.880 right we can go and sit in the gallery but in family court nobody's allowed in
00:31:34.720 that is the best comparison i could ever say we could go watch someone get
00:31:38.400 murdered a serial killer but you can't go to family court so obviously family court happened
00:31:46.240 but then obviously then as i said i got arrested but then obviously it's got a criminal court now
00:31:50.560 we kind of got told uh that somebody had contacted the local media
00:31:58.160 and then as i said i just i still remember as i said i walked out the court and like she's like
00:32:03.280 hid behind the boulder the reporter and she like just pops out with the phone and i was like look if
00:32:08.240 you want me to pause for you i'll pause i've got nothing to hide i was actually trying to say
00:32:12.240 but as usual they keep they get the worst picture of the world out there and and then from that it
00:32:19.360 rolled a daily mail the sun the liverpool echo because the tv show specifically that they chose was
00:32:28.320 based there every baby you could imagine even hello and okay magazine like wow i would love to get the
00:32:34.960 royalties back from these guys um twitter apparently and i was like wow and again you can just imagine
00:32:45.600 the amount of bashing but again the significant thing and this is where the reality kicks in the
00:32:51.920 significant thing being that like i'm on unconditional bail hence i'm here hence i can go abroad anytime i want
00:33:00.880 so the media have portrayed me to be this sexual predator you know someone who goes around pounces
00:33:06.240 at everyone but i'm allowed to do whatever i want and i'm not allowed to see my son
00:33:14.320 and so there was like it sounds like all these articles written about you from family court which
00:33:20.720 no one else is even allowed to watch so they essentially can say anything were there anyone else
00:33:27.200 that came forward or is it just your wife uh no there was another individual as well my ex-partner
00:33:31.840 okay yeah so my ex-partner who i was with covert time we were together for five months
00:33:38.160 um i know when we had a discussion i said i said look i was very shallow i just went for the looks
00:33:43.600 i just went for the looks completely we got on doing social media and and we just kind of hit
00:33:50.320 it off she visited me and then from there for like five months together absolutely fantastic
00:33:58.160 then as i said uh she was she was ill we still don't know the reason why she's told a few different
00:34:05.920 stories which again is good for me uh and so we live like an hour away she was like this i'm not
00:34:14.240 well uh can you come look after the kids i've got to go to the hospital the ambulance is coming
00:34:18.320 and whoa again like any disaparty would do you would think yes okay let's forget that so i went down
00:34:24.720 and then i remained there for 13 days to look after her she went to the hospital she came back the next
00:34:30.080 day then she went back again and she stayed for 13 days i looked after the kids so they had three
00:34:35.600 children two girls and a boy but the youngest boy he was still a nappy as i'm like that not gonna
00:34:41.920 happen not doing that two girls they could look after themselves so it was always quite a bit of a
00:34:47.760 crazy scenario because she had three different fathers to the kids yeah no i didn't know this
00:34:53.280 until afterwards she kind of but i was kind of too involved how hot was she yeah was she that hot
00:35:00.400 three fathers wow yeah he's like yeah not now not now she's like the wicked witch in the general
00:35:10.800 okay but so this isn't this isn't the most credible witness this is a woman with three different baby
00:35:16.000 fathers like you know and someone who did only fans okay so she it's three different baby fathers and on
00:35:22.320 only fans yes and the media said this is a very credible witness yes and this is not the first time
00:35:28.560 she's accused someone okay so she's done this more than once yes she's not accusing this is not the
00:35:33.280 first person she's accused but again let's you know the only thing i want to say about this so
00:35:38.880 apparently so i had raped her beforehand okay before you guys dated well no before like i had to go and
00:35:45.680 look after her and the kids okay so i've raped her and she phones me a live an hour away a week after
00:35:51.040 we were still talking every single day on the phone video call but i was doing a few jobs because life was
00:35:55.760 amazing and so then she goes to hospital and i'm looking after her two girls so let's bet let's get
00:36:02.720 this let's get this correct yeah so i've raped you but then you're still okay for me to come and look
00:36:07.920 after your children right and you're in hospital and i'm visiting you regularly in hospital as well
00:36:13.200 well it doesn't make any sense and i'm bringing you shopping by the way as well yeah it makes like zero
00:36:18.320 sense um but the media doesn't ask any of these questions no so you basically you had two accusers
00:36:26.720 one was i don't remember if you said did you guys get married yeah so islamically yes yeah okay but
00:36:32.400 never legally no okay so you got you got legally married to the first woman or sorry you got islamically
00:36:38.800 married to the first woman not legally second woman you dated for a couple of months and they both hung
00:36:44.640 out with you after yeah wow um then again this is where again as you said the media don't see this
00:36:52.640 it's uh again they both coerce this because we actually they've actually both admitted to message
00:36:58.640 each other wow uh but again but what's kind of amusing is for the fact of in their interviews and
00:37:07.360 the transcripts like you can't imagine when i'm reading that i'm religiously reading it
00:37:12.000 they both get asked the question they'll be like oh my phone updated the messages are deleted
00:37:19.040 and the other one i deleted them i didn't see the point
00:37:24.000 whereas i i've got every single text message which by the way my none of my messages are classed as
00:37:29.680 evidence none of your messages why do they accept theirs as evidence and no but that's what i'm saying
00:37:35.120 there's no there's no mobile phone evidence in the case at all wow it is only just hearsay so it's all
00:37:41.280 just there's no actual evidence even though on the mobile phone the second girl her last text
00:37:46.480 message to me was watch i'm going to ruin your life wow and we also have messages of her messaging
00:37:54.160 other females why are you messaging my man for i'll fucking kill you so this is a mentally unstable
00:38:01.200 this is all in his evidence as well wow but again the fact that it's still going on we
00:38:06.800 the thing what my referee representation said is and i i was absolutely gobsmacked and i could not
00:38:17.440 believe it the fact that he turned around and said because you're muslim so what because you're muslim
00:38:25.200 they'll want to carry this on and you can imagine when i was like i'm just about to get questioned
00:38:30.800 he was like don't you dare keep your head all high who said that to you my solicitor oh your lawyer did
00:38:35.600 yeah at the time yeah i've heard so the story i've heard is um if you're from a more traditional
00:38:41.680 background um whether that be muslim i've also heard like nigerian i've also heard like there's a couple
00:38:48.240 like more traditional countries the women's shelters use that as like um a tactic like they tell the women
00:38:56.000 what to say basically so they'll have like a script for the muslim background they'll have a strip
00:39:02.000 script for like the it's like eastern europe africa muslim yeah so imagine as i say it's all one big
00:39:09.520 theme yeah if they could jump on it they will and only last week and the individual that you had a
00:39:19.040 while ago disqualified dancing messaged me and he goes uh riz like there's another father who's been
00:39:24.160 accused of yours and uh he's really not in a good place can you chat to him okay yeah why not because
00:39:30.160 i had nobody there for me yeah i've had to self-taught myself and even then do you know how worrying that
00:39:36.240 is writing that on google how do you deal with rape yeah because for for someone who's being accused of
00:39:44.000 this there is no support compared to the accuser right there's no support for anyone again there's only
00:39:51.680 so much you can put on a friend before they're like look pal i've got my own life to deal with
00:39:56.000 which is understandable so i spoke to the individual and he's from yeah he's from pakistan
00:40:04.240 and and when i spoke to him long story short he's i told him what to be aware of so they're going to
00:40:10.080 try to antagonize you they're going to try to put words into your mouth they're going to put the word
00:40:14.560 consensual in 50 different ways to you that's what they're going to do and again i remember when i said
00:40:20.560 when they said it to me i just sat there i went i don't know how many different ways you want me
00:40:24.400 to answer this i understand what consensual is but i was shocked they brought up the pakistan card
00:40:32.080 so we understand that you're from pakistan so i don't know if you're going to be if you've been
00:40:36.640 taught this educational if you don't yeah because they'll act like you've been like brainwashed or
00:40:41.280 something yeah so when he told me that i was like wow i couldn't believe it it opened up that's
00:40:48.560 something i said i got an insight all of a sudden so in pakistan you probably don't know and he's
00:40:53.360 like i do know what sex is and i do know what yes and no it is and i was like did they really
00:40:57.920 he was like like yes and i was like dude i don't believe it so basically before this whole thing
00:41:07.200 happened you were at like the the peak of your career you had a great relationship with your son
00:41:13.200 and now you go to your son being afraid of you um are you unemployed what's your yeah uh so at the
00:41:21.520 moment so i've gone from like so for example the crown i'm in season six so i've gone from being a
00:41:26.960 lead a second lead in that uh background from nothing i've gone from being the face of the camera
00:41:35.680 to someone i was like hidden away there has been and i've got to put my hands up there have been a few
00:41:41.040 people netflix being one of them who actually have given me the opportunity i sat down and had a
00:41:47.360 meeting with him now that was scary it's probably more scary than court i'm there and there's about
00:41:51.840 10 of them on that side and i showed him the legal documents and he looked at me and he went
00:41:56.400 there's no evidence it's like the head of the european i don't know what it was yeah and he goes he
00:42:02.160 looked he went mr cannes so there's no evidence because the protective force there's no tna nothing
00:42:08.880 it's just their word against your word i went yeah and he goes the fact that you brought this to us
00:42:14.320 was to show something because that is the thing i am not afraid to talk about this it's not because
00:42:20.080 it's something i have not done and i will continue to keep my head on high people you shouldn't you
00:42:24.960 should they want you to run and hide why should i want to hide when i haven't done something they want
00:42:30.480 me to not talk about this and be afraid but again it's the whole system is completely flawed as i said i
00:42:37.040 went from being on the highest of the high i was loving life i said i was getting the best jobs in
00:42:41.840 the world again i'm always in london absolutely enjoying it going around and we talk about this
00:42:47.440 i know you talk about the status figure all the time now imagine talking to a girl i'm an actor
00:42:51.920 i'm a model and showed you imdb and all the credits you're like wow but you're doing it with pride
00:42:57.840 not to kind of like show off but you're doing it with pride look at me i've gone from this to this
00:43:03.120 and now what do you do uh yeah nothing
00:43:08.720 yeah it's it's soul destroying and again it kind of goes back to like you know the kind of
00:43:14.800 suicide thing and it's kind of it worries me like the whole you know one in three children live without
00:43:19.680 a father and when you look at these statistics it's like every 22 minutes one male commits suicide
00:43:26.960 based on the fact that a divorced male is 2.5 to three times more likely to commit suicide than the
00:43:31.280 average male and i can safely say with my own personal experience i said i have gone from one of
00:43:37.520 the most outrageous individuals with a smile best of the room and i will have everyone in stitches
00:43:43.840 i've always become the sort of the party that's something i've loved and now i've kind of gone
00:43:50.240 from i don't want to leave my bed i don't want to leave my house my four walls i look at every single
00:43:56.560 day and i could stare i could just stare at something non-stop and it annoys me because again i went
00:44:04.720 through a phase because as you can imagine when this article come out i'm thinking my my windows are
00:44:09.680 gonna get puffed through it's gonna be graffiti in the water i'm gonna get i'm gonna get attacked
00:44:16.560 everything you can imagine is running through your head and then you do the thing well actually
00:44:21.840 you know i'm not allowed to see my son i've been accused of this i've got no life i don't understand
00:44:25.360 it now and the fact you have to think like that and it pisses me off when people say oh you know i'm
00:44:33.200 here for you but you're not you're not the one who's dealing with this you're at home happily ever
00:44:38.400 after with your children playing happy families i'm the one who was a happy person and i was in
00:44:45.280 a relationship and for some reason no idea to this day what happened i have no idea to this day and it
00:44:53.280 frustrates me and the fact that the system is totally rigged and it's against men again there's
00:45:00.080 no validation there's nothing plausible behind these claims the family court meant to remain neutral
00:45:06.160 i thought there was a saying you're meant to be innocent until proven guilty so a common pushback
00:45:11.120 i get is there's no law that specifically discriminates against men in family court
00:45:16.720 exactly there's nothing and that's why there's so much more and this is where i'm appreciative now
00:45:23.840 more and more men speaking out about it they're seeing the system and they're like and i myself have
00:45:29.920 told many people be careful there's a theme keep every single text message do not delete text messages
00:45:37.040 back up everything to the clouds and that's been my safe haven backed up everything to the clouds i've
00:45:42.640 got nothing to hide i said be careful even if you meet a girl even if you have a one night stand with a
00:45:46.720 girl back it up whereas now my mentality has changed i've got so scared if i was to meet a lady outside i'd be
00:45:53.520 like i want you to text me to say you're coming back to mine i want you to text me to say we're
00:45:58.400 going to have sex because that's how pet i do not trust a female anymore hell no you know i'd be
00:46:04.480 fantastic if there was like a from print recognition app or something you consent to sex yeah because
00:46:10.000 verbal clearly doesn't mean anything these days right well and it's almost ruined the relationship
00:46:16.160 between men and women because men are afraid yeah and it's by these ugly hags that no one was trying
00:46:22.720 to approach anyway these feminists that like put all this ideology into it but but but this is it
00:46:28.400 this is another thing that i've i've realized as well the women sit in the little groups the
00:46:33.760 and moan so one female will be saying look i broke up with him but i'm going to let him have x amount of
00:46:40.240 days with the kids why are you doing that for take him to court then you'll got more money out with him
00:46:46.160 so it becomes financially oriented unfortunately now we live in a society when a breakup happens
00:46:53.920 they don't they're more bothered about hurting the other party and not caring about the child involved
00:47:00.320 and that's where it's got messed up now you need to step back and you need to realize
00:47:05.920 you're putting the child in the in the middle of a road you have mother on one side and father on one
00:47:10.240 side and you're asking him or her to choose who do you love the most you should never do that
00:47:17.040 but women are women are doing this you should be able to say look whatever's happened between
00:47:23.360 us it's happened you're a dick i'm a dick it's happened let's do what's best for the child
00:47:28.640 but it's not anymore let's go for the call let's make up an allegation i'll get legal aid paid for
00:47:33.600 you have to pay and then you'll have to pay me x amount of money a month if you don't pay me you're not
00:47:38.960 seeing the child i i had um i i interviewed a divorce lawyer and he told me um that he doesn't
00:47:48.320 fear marriage but he fears children because he said when you have kids they're not yours
00:47:54.800 yeah i agree with that you agree with that yeah as i said i've gone from a child having my surname
00:47:59.920 there you go she's trying to remove him from me his name and for the best to forget and as a father as i said
00:48:05.440 when he become a parent again if you look at our parents i would wear their everything and now i've
00:48:11.840 gone from like eight years raising this kid chasing his nappies watching his first steps first cuddles
00:48:15.600 kisses words whatever and that's been taken away it's kind of like i wake up sometimes i'm like
00:48:23.040 do i have a child the only thing i get to see is a photo i'll go on social media and i might see his
00:48:29.600 pictures on one of his schools that's how i am a father these days how do you think it's naive for
00:48:36.560 men to get married and have children in 2023 i could safely say now this i know i know i was
00:48:43.520 watching one of your podcasts with someone a while ago and uh i believe it was fast for justice matt
00:48:47.840 o'connell and he said at least with a netflix contract you can get out of it with a marriage
00:48:52.720 you can't that's why i'm very grateful actually that i wasn't actually legally married i probably
00:48:57.680 wouldn't have got my trainers on my watch or nothing she would have taken off
00:49:02.160 i would love to sit here and say i would love nothing in the world to have my happily ever after
00:49:06.640 i think that's what every individual wants in life i will you know under the same world
00:49:12.560 but it's not going to happen now because there's too much there's too everybody thinks they could do
00:49:18.640 better now and now because they're getting there's so much going around now that they know they can do
00:49:24.640 better and as i said now statuses have got involved and they're like well actually this
00:49:28.960 guy could provide better for my child than his own dad can he can provide a better living for me and my
00:49:33.280 child whereas what are you going to do you can fly me out here then you can't even protect your kid
00:49:38.320 from like who the mother dates no too like you don't know what men are influencing him or her
00:49:44.480 so this was it so i got told i got phone call from the school this was a few years ago so the son's
00:49:50.560 mother has a new boyfriend they've got another child and again this is where as i said i have
00:49:55.360 a smile on my face because i know and this is where again the media don't see anything and
00:50:00.880 the boyfriend not once but twice has hit my son and the authorities have got involved
00:50:05.760 so hang on so i got accused of something and he's been accusing something which my son also said
00:50:12.480 and now imagine this i am sat in the hospital with him and they're trying to say did he do anything else
00:50:21.200 and obviously i didn't understand at first and then they went i went whoa it's how upsetting that
00:50:26.400 is that goes through your head and then four then you are thinking blue murder you are saying if that's
00:50:31.920 done that i will kill him nothing happened but he did hit him but the authority is oh we'll do it
00:50:38.080 we'll sit down with him and we'll do a little course and then he'll be allowed whereas me an allegation
00:50:44.960 which has nothing to do with my child then i got my child taken off me it's like hang on a minute
00:50:50.800 it's like you can't even protect your son no well the other one as well and this this is what this is
00:50:56.320 again as i said when i try explain this to people you can't even make this up and she also got fat so
00:51:05.680 when you go to court you have your hand back on you but they're only internal security guards they're
00:51:12.480 nothing really eventually we were in so i was in the room with the with the judge with my legal
00:51:19.680 representation at the time and she had hers and all of a sudden knock knock on the door security guard
00:51:25.280 and i think it was a code word the security guy told the judge there's like so-and-so on the phone
00:51:30.080 okay they walked out and the police was there you had drugs in her handbag drugs in her handbag
00:51:38.960 in court i can't even make this up exactly i still thought that she should have primary custody
00:51:45.440 and was a credible witness yeah it's it's it's insane i i used you and that's why that's why i
00:51:51.200 always say it's like okay there's nothing in the books maybe but it's like the way they treat men
00:51:56.080 and women is completely different in court it's like not even it's not even that's what i'm saying
00:52:00.880 it's not even like you know we talk about equality well yourself obviously quite a lot we talk about
00:52:07.120 but in family court i might as well be castrated you don't have like you think i could be the most
00:52:13.360 plausible father in the world the best father in the world which i like to think i am and again let's
00:52:18.080 remember i have never put the child in danger the child loves me he said it himself multiple times on
00:52:23.760 record but the female the resident parent she is allowed to do whatever she wants sleep with
00:52:29.520 whoever she wants introduce him to everyone wants emotional damage doesn't matter then
00:52:35.440 how much money have you spent are you on child support now uh so when i was going through family
00:52:41.520 court and this is why i stopped as well i had spent 39 000 pounds wow on legal base so that's like the
00:52:48.240 equivalent of like 60 65 in america yeah yeah i actually know that right used to do a stream of
00:52:52.960 that don't ask so that's like um i mean that's over a year's salary for most people average average
00:52:58.800 salary is like uh 45 50 so that's like a year's salary so as you can imagine the the the actual
00:53:05.840 form so you're going to put a form in to fight to see your own son like how on earth so i can turn up
00:53:10.240 to you and say okay my son back now so now i'll get the police call for harassment how does that happen
00:53:15.440 bear in mind both parents are on the birth certificate we always have to remember that
00:53:20.640 so therefore you have rights but do you have rights i don't think so i don't think i don't
00:53:25.920 think that even matters so what again let's remember every phone call as you know yourself every email
00:53:31.440 every text message and the fact that you go to court and they're like okay we'll have to come back we'll
00:53:36.560 go back again or we'll have to come back or we'll go again we'll have to come back or has to go to
00:53:40.480 social work because they need to do a report the report comes okay now we need to get our
00:53:47.120 court appointed social workers cafcas involved
00:53:53.760 i would say only the one time in 2019 when i got 50 50 the judge that we got ironically enough a female
00:54:00.880 judge absolutely fantastic she put her in a place i was wow i was so smile it was amazing
00:54:11.840 because she tried to play again the culture card because she did convert to islam
00:54:16.160 this was on her own doing she had talked to my parents about it no coercive yeah i did not know
00:54:21.600 this and again there was 14 people in the room when she actually said it because we just had a little
00:54:24.960 shing dig at my family's your sign nothing special nothing glamorous uh i think we got a takeaway
00:54:30.560 after that and i remembered i actually stopped and went are you sure about this i'm not asking you
00:54:37.360 is that means i've spoken to your parents well you didn't speak to me you wonder if she was yeah fine
00:54:43.040 and she also did call her surname as well i was like oh wow and that's what obviously in my head i was
00:54:48.720 like okay she's a keeper stupid me um yeah sorry no i don't no no it's worth it's worth laughing at
00:54:59.200 i agree now that's what i would do to someone now um so you spent 39 000 pounds um are you on
00:55:07.280 any alimony child support any of that i do pay child maintenance again from a child that i am not
00:55:12.000 allowed to see wow how much do you pay mine uh so it's in the region of about four to six hundred pounds
00:55:17.760 okay wow yeah that's a lot of money so that's like a grand a month us dollars and you don't
00:55:23.040 even get to see your kid no barely by two years now um what would you say to your son if you could
00:55:28.640 talk to him oh i wouldn't know um i wouldn't recognize his voice anymore i actually seen a picture
00:55:36.480 of him a while ago and i didn't actually know it was my son do you know how hard that was my mother
00:55:41.600 my brothers were like bris that's your son like really had a zoom in i felt so bad well what can
00:55:50.320 you say to someone who was being brainwashed to the max that he's actually saying i don't want to call
00:55:56.560 him dad i want to call him riz i would love nothing in the world to give him a huge cousin and a kiss
00:56:03.440 but he's gonna look at me and be who the is this guy because that's how he's being taught yeah like
00:56:09.120 where has he been so as much as i would love to say i love you you are my everything
00:56:14.960 but that's an alternate reality that's something you know that's something i dream of but i know it's
00:56:20.960 not going to happen until now and even then the fear factor of because i will get him back
00:56:26.160 because well who knows with this system but if i do and there you go again how do you become a father
00:56:33.360 again right this is what people don't realize because it's been in the system you sat down with
00:56:39.840 social workers he's doing work he's at school you've got her family saying things as well the you
00:56:47.600 partner said something how do you become a parent again two years is a lot in a kid's life you know
00:56:54.800 like two years is nothing to an adult but like and a kid's like you're completely different kid
00:56:59.520 and that's something i it scares me thinking about it yeah and i'm kind of like i don't know i would
00:57:07.840 want to cuddle him but i don't think you want to cuddle me because of what he's been taught i would
00:57:12.000 like to think if he sees me he'll run to me that's what he used to do and again the whole school everything
00:57:19.360 again in my case there's like 14 character witnesses i have some of the biggest of the biggest of the
00:57:23.280 people people i've slept with in the past as well and people who met who know the bond between me and my
00:57:27.920 son so again i said i'm not even phased about that you've just unfortunately it's a due process that
00:57:33.280 you have to endure but unfortunately this come moment in time they've decided to pick on me
00:57:40.480 so that's a very hard question to ask and you've got me thinking quite a lot now
00:57:45.280 honestly i wouldn't have a clue what changes would you like to see in the system
00:57:50.640 equality the man to be actually taken seriously i think this whole bs of so the resident parent the
00:58:03.920 work on seven days a week and if you have more than 50 percent you are by default a resident parent
00:58:10.000 so by default you get all the benefits and i don't think and then any
00:58:15.680 so the usual thing is every scumbag amazing dad gets every other weekend that's just me mommy wants
00:58:25.600 to go out and get drunk and find a new partner that's what it does to my eyes and a lot of us
00:58:29.760 say this as well so you've got to go out and enjoy yourself and i can look after the child oh fantastic
00:58:36.000 i think there needs to be more done i think there needs to be realized again exactly like criminal
00:58:41.040 court which is again as i said i am you know i have all my faith in the judicial system uh because
00:58:47.360 again there needs to be backed up by evidence i think from now on i don't think a mother's word
00:58:54.160 or a father's word for that case should be taken as gospel i think you should back this up with actual
00:59:00.800 evidence and not just what you're saying and what i'm saying evidence just actual hardcore evidence
00:59:08.800 that's not that should not be hard to get to get i punched you in the face i'm sure you're going
00:59:14.960 to take a photo yeah yeah well actually i don't know someone might hit themselves is are there any
00:59:24.960 ways that men can protect themselves stay away from women as i said a while ago um keep everything on
00:59:36.800 your phones keep everything on your phones i know there's always been that mentality of a player a guy
00:59:45.120 who goes and sleeps around but i think even then you now have to be very very careful with that because
00:59:52.880 being accused and becoming a victim has become a trend
00:59:56.720 i would always say support everything and i would say yes but do not ever take her word as gospel
01:00:07.040 get it in a text get her to email it while she's getting changed while she's getting stripped tell her
01:00:12.640 to text you yes we're going to have sex tonight and then i've also again the fear and i've heard this
01:00:17.840 from a lot of dads is even when they go home tell them to text you again because a victim would not text you
01:00:24.080 again would she just kind of like well no no she texted me when she was here she texted when she
01:00:28.560 got home and as i said just keep everything and that's what i rates me now do you think your success
01:00:35.840 had anything to do with it i've noticed a trend of women like tend to come out when the guy is very
01:00:42.160 like starting to become rich and successful i i i would say the way that i was going on my instagram
01:00:49.200 that was growing massively as i said i was becoming so i also work with my charity mental health
01:00:54.800 um and the jobs i was getting and especially the modeling my face was getting plastered all over the
01:01:00.320 place when you turned on your your channel one to five my my so imagine you being the next and you're
01:01:06.640 seeing my faces of commercials it's going to piss you off and i believe that i had a huge thing to do
01:01:13.120 with it he's doing good in life yeah and i i've kind of said this and i know it's going to sound
01:01:19.120 very egotistical they're not going to do any better than me they're not going to have a man who actually
01:01:24.880 looked after them the way that i did and i mean obviously physically protected them financially
01:01:28.880 looked after them etc there you go i took on your fear of the children wherever somebody like you
01:01:34.560 he just been selective out and has left the perch yeah and you don't slightly you clearly don't have
01:01:39.840 any intelligence because you're doing only fans yeah but so as i said i would say again and i've
01:01:48.160 seen this a lot of people who ask me for advice now because i've been accused of this have you kept
01:01:52.480 your text messages yeah back them up to the clouds because again people don't realize because if you do
01:01:57.120 get taken to the police to take your phones off you and i don't trust the police as well things might
01:02:02.240 go missing so again as i said the fact that the police are meant to find anything on a mobile phone
01:02:10.080 the fact that their text messages they can't find i find that conspicuous lately so i would say keep
01:02:15.680 everything back into the clouds dropbox google cloud whatever you want apple whatever back everything up
01:02:23.520 well thank you for coming in today um i'm sorry this happened to you i think i think it's really
01:02:30.880 unfortunate because it's like traditional men seem to be punished and it's like they always say
01:02:37.200 like guys have to do the right thing but i i don't see a way in 2023 that men can interact with women
01:02:44.160 without having a legal consequence yeah it's you're right it's scary oh there we go if i was to get
01:02:50.400 involved with someone she'll google me i think she'll want to go next to me
01:02:55.920 um can they support you in any way um so i have instagram uh results 1985 uh i also have a youtube
01:03:03.440 channel of the same name uh i do a lot of things on there and i talk i try to offer as much mental
01:03:09.360 health guidance to do with family court being a single parent and false allegations by all means
01:03:16.080 come along for the ride and if anyone wants any tips or hints how to protect yourself i will try to be
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