JustPearlyThings - October 07, 2023


How Women DESTROY The TOP 1% Of Men


Episode Stats

Length

1 hour and 3 minutes

Words per Minute

182.81378

Word Count

11,635

Sentence Count

3

Misogynist Sentences

31

Hate Speech Sentences

24


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.560 the only time i found out bang bang bang eight o'clock in the morning look outside the window
00:00:07.760 nine police car like nine police officers so seven police officers nine nine police officers
00:00:15.680 just barged into your house wow yeah and you're just like eating breakfast i just come down the
00:00:21.600 stairs i just come down the stairs i was like i'm coming i'm coming yeah i took my time i'm not going
00:00:27.120 anywhere walked out the police was there he had drugs in her handbag drugs in her handbag in court
00:00:36.640 i can't even make this up exactly and how did that allegation impact your life
00:00:46.800 the saying is when you had everything and now you have nothing what up guys welcome to the just
00:00:54.000 pearly things youtube channel and welcome to the sit down today i have a special guest riz khan welcome
00:01:00.400 to the show thank you very much um so this we're doing is a part of my documentary series um we're
00:01:06.640 doing a documentary on the court system um and just the issue of men getting custody of their children
00:01:13.120 and false accusations um so i brought you here today because you had a story to tell
00:01:18.480 you did i really appreciate it thank you very much yeah thank you for coming um so before we get
00:01:25.280 too much into your story can we talk a little bit about your background uh yes uh my name is riz
00:01:31.040 and i'm a northerner from the northeast not far from newcastle and i am an actor and a model that's
00:01:37.920 what i tend to do i don't class instagram as a job but i do instagram as well okay hey hey i'm on
00:01:44.480 this is a hard job this is uh it's tough to take the selfies all right ready with the gym it's good
00:01:51.920 pausing a full-time job in itself yes i've been doing that now full-time for the past few years
00:01:59.120 well i was until things started okay so um you and you worked for disney at one point uh yes so i've
00:02:06.960 been involved in quite a few quite a lot of projects for quite a different people yes okay so can you like
00:02:11.840 talk about a couple um so i've been involved as i said to do with the acting so i've did things for
00:02:16.960 like netflix and amazon and i'm doing something for marvel at the moment so we shot that but
00:02:23.200 obviously the strike's on at the moment so it's okay so your career was going really well before this
00:02:29.200 whole thing happened it yeah i mean netflix these are some big names netflix like marvel disney like
00:02:35.680 that's that sounds like incredible opportunities especially for someone who's kind of a late bloomer
00:02:41.760 so i've already decided to do this so i used to work in finance full-time okay and it was good
00:02:46.560 enough and that was glamorous and i kind of got offered an opportunity for the bbc to do a tv
00:02:54.240 show called taxi tales stereotype or what when i went with it uh and the irony is i don't drive
00:03:01.360 so were you were you a taxi driver okay so how old were you when you did that so how old were you when
00:03:22.800 you took the first role so i did that when i was 32 at the time okay and but then i kind of put
00:03:32.400 everything on a back burner uh because i met someone and she got pregnant pretty quick so as you kind of
00:03:41.520 do but i wouldn't now uh i kind of changed everything got a full-time job you know settled down
00:03:49.280 try to be the ideal partner and more importantly you know the good parent as it were okay and how
00:03:55.360 long were you with her uh i was with her for four years another day specifically okay so you're with
00:04:01.600 her at 32 to 36 basically and then what was going on with your career in that time you were just in
00:04:06.000 finance uh yeah so i used to work for telecoms and i flit about like i've never really had any
00:04:12.000 consistency i go where the money is okay go where the money is and then i got offered a job in finance
00:04:18.240 and uh said it was fantastic okay really good job so when did the acting stuff start that was after
00:04:24.160 so i got offered a job whilst i was with her and as i said but at the time i did it but as i said i
00:04:32.400 loved it but then i remember here we go again when you're in a partnership it's not kind of viable
00:04:39.120 but i wasn't being supported to be fair with you i wasn't being supported at all so i was like okay
00:04:43.600 i won't do it i just left it out um and how many kids was it one kid or just one okay and was it
00:04:50.320 planned or was it unexpected no this is where again i'm very honest to admit and very brash to say
00:04:57.440 second time like we had sex and she fell pregnant oh wow yeah so it's kind of this is where the
00:05:05.200 culture thing comes into part so i am muslim and i remember i had a conversation with my parents
00:05:12.880 and they were like look you need to do with islamic marriage so we sat down we had the adult
00:05:19.200 conversation she was all for it that was meant to be my happily ever after okay because what i'm trying
00:05:27.040 to what i'm trying to understand just for the viewers watching is i want them to understand how much
00:05:31.120 like time you put into like getting where you were yeah so i did it when i was at college and i pursued
00:05:37.280 it and i always had really positive feedback like this i can't sing even when i'm in the shower i need
00:05:43.600 to stop i i've got two left feet uh but the active thing it's something i could really get into it's one
00:05:52.160 it's one of the few things in life i was always passionate about and i always realized i smiled which is
00:05:58.960 something i don't usually do when i do something i'm like it's just a chore yeah and so as i said
00:06:06.000 like when i become a parent i kind of just left at it and it wasn't until afterwards
00:06:13.440 uh like i said after we broke up and then the director somebody got in touch with me was like
00:06:20.000 where have you been because i've been trying to hold of you i didn't really do social media because
00:06:24.960 i was settled so i didn't really want to do anything and uh he kind of he got me back into
00:06:32.160 it okay he was like you are actually good do you don't realize no because i'm not getting that from
00:06:37.440 her and so that was when you started doing like the disney the netflix the marvel yeah so so you guys
00:06:43.360 broke up then yeah so i uh again it was all happily ever after i woke up one day and uh received a
00:06:50.880 message to say she was having an affair oh wow yeah uh who is she having an affair with uh one of her
00:06:57.200 work colleagues um the the the girl in question was six months pregnant was her fiance wow so yeah
00:07:09.840 i've still got the messages i'll show you later on imagine reading that wow like especially when you've
00:07:15.040 got a beautiful house you've got your business you've got a child and she's having an affair with
00:07:20.960 someone at work yeah who he had another girl six months pregnant yeah second child wow okay so she's
00:07:28.160 having that affair and so then obviously you guys broke up yes uh obviously as usual people deny this
00:07:36.000 or the the the girl who sent me the messages she had screenshotted everything like even the snapchat
00:07:44.400 messages so obviously there was yeah it refused to get evidence and i was just yeah and again when
00:07:50.080 you're trying to confront like to confront something no i didn't do that oh she she denied yeah it's like
00:07:56.720 you can't even deny this you know what's interesting in the 1900s there's like um an article from a guy
00:08:05.840 who like would well i forgot what his job was but he was in court all the time and one of his observations
00:08:11.280 was about women was that like the men when they got caught they would kind of be like okay i did it
00:08:16.880 you know it'd be the punishment but the women like no matter how much evidence was against them
00:08:22.160 would still it's funny it's funny it's like it's not a new phenomenon like women just did not like no
00:08:27.120 matter what's in front of them i'm just denying until they die yeah yeah so he was like it's a really
00:08:35.040 strange phenomenon these women don't yeah okay so you had all this evidence she said no i didn't do
00:08:41.440 it you obviously believed the evidence um did she break up with you or you broke i'm guessing you broke
00:08:46.800 up yes uh obviously you know yeah well it's one of them ones because do you do the old there's a child
00:08:56.240 involved yeah and you know i i i would admit i know we sat down but i don't know i have this mentality of
00:09:06.400 somebody else has been there i i can't look at you that loving puppy eyes anymore yeah like you've
00:09:13.600 been tarnished as it were you know as backwards as that may sound i i couldn't i couldn't you know we
00:09:20.160 we again we slightly abacable because of our son uh but that's only lasts for so long it does
00:09:27.840 so were you okay seeing your son uh yes there was like this was things so we broke up in
00:09:35.120 so it was early to like late 2015 january 2016 and then the family court this is when
00:09:43.360 the big bad world started that was in about 2017 that's when that started to begin
00:09:50.160 okay 2017 yeah and what was um your first impression of family court so i actually
00:09:58.720 written this down because i like i actually wouldn't like remind this so this this is something i've
00:10:03.440 like some i've read so family court reminds me of the scene in wizard of us when the great horse is
00:10:09.200 blustering and bluffing and when they're in his magnificent castle his voice and indignation
00:10:13.440 is fundus and it's very frightening but in reality when little torto pulls the curtain back
00:10:20.160 it's a bluff that's what it was so when i first found out about it or family court was
00:10:26.880 oh i was panicking as soon as you google
00:10:33.600 there's nothing positive for fathers yeah nothing and this was years ago bearing in mind
00:10:39.200 nothing at all positive to give a father hope just the opposite what did you find
00:10:45.280 that was awful so again um you go into it and you kind of get pushed towards going for legal
00:10:54.480 representation and i spoke to a few solicitors at the time i'd like any legal representation they
00:11:01.600 sell you the dream look we'll do this we'll get x amount of dates you can get your son back don't
00:11:07.200 worry we support you what they mean to say is we only support you because there's money involved they
00:11:12.000 don't care about you why would they when i first went i just realized that this being a mouthpiece
00:11:20.640 that's all the work and i like to think obviously years have gone on and this is where it's kind of
00:11:27.120 i'll be in the family court has kind of helped me in acting wise with my confidence because just
00:11:31.840 speaking to a judge someone of position of authority and it's kind of helped me a lot and
00:11:37.280 i'm i now self-represent and i have for many years now and i've not seen a difference really no
00:11:45.840 it's i'm very fortunate that as i said there's a lot of groups as long as you get in the correct
00:11:50.720 network this is where social media does come in handy as soon as you put in single fathers there
00:11:56.240 is quite a lot of groups will come up so you always got to be careful because you will have the bad
00:12:02.800 single fathers with slate every single mother and put them all in the same category and you will have
00:12:09.120 the decent ones like your fight for justice your disqualified dads and the people who i work for
00:12:15.440 put kids first and they will actually say don't forget there's some good moms out there as well
00:12:19.680 yeah i know a few just before i get a shot here and so again it's seeking the correct advice not legally
00:12:27.680 and that's where you've kind of got to be careful and back everything up like you say so what so when
00:12:35.440 you went to family court um were did you in this time period did you have trouble accessing your son
00:12:41.840 yes um so here we go this is where the travels unfold over the years it's baffling
00:12:48.080 so um as you as you most likely already aware the legal aid mandate changed i believe it was in 2013
00:12:57.520 and obviously it rapidly increased women's aid helped to do this that basically as soon as you cry
00:13:05.520 violence or anything else sexually you get legal aid hence there was a spike i think it was two
00:13:12.880 percent or something along the lines of that when this happened yeah so when we actually went when
00:13:19.680 we were going to court as i said it kind of all got involved
00:13:25.360 yeah so what was like the first allegation first allegation is i was going to run away to pakistan with
00:13:33.040 my son wait say that again i was going to run away to pakistan with my son so my family are from pakistan
00:13:40.320 i myself i've only been there once just to clarify i am bored and friendly so you've only you've only
00:13:45.760 been to pakistan once yeah yeah i know sorry and she thought you were no no no no no no no but that
00:13:51.200 would be like because i'm american but that's like saying i'm gonna go to germany because i'm like
00:13:55.440 part you know oh yeah by all means it is my national anthem yeah british but yes uh this was not
00:14:02.320 once this was actually three times i got accused of this okay so and here we go a bit of a
00:14:08.960 this actually shocked me so the i asked the police officer the second time it was the same officer
00:14:16.240 and i again my son is helping his grandma my mother he's eating and the police come in i was like
00:14:22.480 did you want to help me pack the suitcase you know you can drop us off at the police station if you want
00:14:26.320 at the airport and he started laughing and i go why is this a big deal okay so he explained it
00:14:33.840 the reason being is pakistan is associated to kidnapping so it becomes a priority okay so they
00:14:43.120 it's associated with kidnapping why i don't know i don't know i didn't want to like you know ask too
00:14:50.160 much okay and he goes it's kind of a priority that's why we're here like is it okay so it could be a
00:14:54.960 murder there could be a stabbing that's fine but someone associated pakistan get there now okay so the
00:14:59.680 police came to you yeah and then took your son uh so his mother then turned up as well okay and again it
00:15:07.120 was the police probably the where the where time actually would say they were actually quite decent
00:15:12.240 they turned up and obviously she contacted her she was outside putting on the putting on the works
00:15:17.680 being too advertised and then the cops was like he's he's sat inside with his grandma eating so once
00:15:23.200 he's done he'll come out and then obviously i came outside i was like what are you doing but again this is
00:15:30.880 the start this is the start of the ploy okay uh then you know again we found it quite amusing and this
00:15:41.760 is when family court started to get involved and the next allegation was i used to beat him up oh okay
00:15:51.680 so again so she said you used to beat her up yeah and you never put a hand on her no i haven't and
00:16:00.560 again when you're in family court regardless if there's any evidence or not it's her word is
00:16:06.160 gospel yeah which is for i don't mean so irating and there's no evidence and the whole time we're
00:16:12.960 together was any phone logs police logs how tall are you i'm 510 okay and how how tall was she
00:16:21.440 taller than me okay so but five eleven five five eleven six but you're you stronger than her oh hell no
00:16:28.000 no i've only just been decent size now what back in the days no no okay i'll show you later what
00:16:33.760 the kind of picture okay really she was stronger than you she was bigger than me yeah okay not
00:16:38.560 bigger i said stronger i would probably say yes as well oh okay i was gonna say i i because i'm i'm
00:16:46.880 an athlete but i i even think that the average guy can beat the average woman up so i just imagine if
00:16:52.960 you were beating her there'd be some evidence but i guess not well this is it again because
00:16:58.960 you know without trying to go on it too much like as you can imagine someone who suffers domestic
00:17:04.640 abuse she was trying to say every single thing but again the picture goes to study police calls out
00:17:10.400 there's any pictures no videos and the and what so what the what would the court say they would just
00:17:15.600 take it as gospel so yes when we went to family court uh this is when it all appeared nothing
00:17:21.040 otherwise again let's remember the police haven't questioned me about any of this in the past so
00:17:26.480 again we were in family court and the judge you could just see him just claring and this is when i
00:17:32.400 started to start to self-represent and at first i was slightly intimidated and then i realized nah no
00:17:39.760 this is absolute yeah that's exactly what it is and then i kind of realized again it's the theme
00:17:46.720 and this is how to do it because it's the women's aid mandate start off with this you know start off
00:17:53.680 with the domestic violence start off with the sexual abuse start with whatever you want so the next so
00:18:00.000 she first accused you of running away to pakistan yeah now you'd only been there once then she accused
00:18:06.400 you of beating her up what was next so we finished went together anymore um and again i said i need to be
00:18:14.480 very careful the way i'm saying this because obviously it's still an ongoing court case uh so
00:18:18.240 it was after seven years this allegation that appeared okay seven years so let's bear in mind the
00:18:25.360 whole entire time you were going to family court not once was this ever mentioned and this is doc this
00:18:32.160 is evidence recorded to the court of law not once and the only time i found out bang bang bang
00:18:39.360 eight o'clock in the morning look outside the window nine police car like nine police officers three vans
00:18:47.680 and two cars for little old me i was like wow intimidation tactic i couldn't believe it i couldn't
00:18:56.480 i have never been involved with the law ever so you can imagine what i was like what on earth barge did
00:19:03.040 eventually and again surrounded me and i was like wow have you having a quiet morning i couldn't believe
00:19:10.640 it so seven police officers nine nine police officers just barged into your house wow yeah and
00:19:19.360 you're just like eating breakfast i just come down the stairs i just come down the stairs i was like i'm
00:19:24.240 coming i'm coming yeah i took my time i'm not going anywhere did they arrest you uh yes they arrested me
00:19:31.040 wow they arrested me and uh they said look you know then they said obviously the allegation of rape
00:19:38.240 and i was like i'm sorry what okay it's the first time i've ever been aware of it and so you can imagine
00:19:45.920 again as a man this is the most scariest thing ever to be accused of forget they want to go out in
00:19:52.800 pakistan forget they're beating someone up rip it's the most scariest thing as a man ever before that
00:20:02.000 and that's something that i've had to kind of live with to this day it's like what was her story
00:20:09.280 again so what did she said you raped you you raped her seven years ago yeah okay um so what was because
00:20:16.720 i'd imagine if someone's a rapist they wouldn't you wouldn't want to like why was she with you the
00:20:21.440 next seven years this is the conversation to be have and this is again you know when you when you
00:20:29.360 speak to other people and you look at things and you kind of like hang on a minute so i was getting
00:20:34.400 cut i was getting there told i was narcissistic and coerced and uh coerced yeah i was coercing
00:20:41.120 there quite a lot i was gaslighting her the whole yeah the women uh you know the women red flag
00:20:46.400 words uh which tends to be i never knew these words beforehand and that was just common you
00:20:52.160 think it's like from the women's shelters they like teach them that i believe so yeah because
00:20:56.320 i'm seeing it so much more the red flags term this wasn't a thing not long ago and now narcissistic
00:21:03.200 gaslighting coercive behavior huh but it's as i said it would be fantastic to get a record like
00:21:10.640 statistics from family courts to see how often this has happened right i would say it's probably
00:21:15.760 four or five cases in family court that's just my opinion so yes so let's bear in mind when i'm in a
00:21:21.600 relationship with someone and please correct me if i'm wrong uh she was going on holidays with her
00:21:25.600 friends and she was going on nights out with her friends i was at home sat after look after the child
00:21:32.400 she would do what she wants you tell me so was that the last allegation was it those three or was
00:21:42.320 there more that was the last one okay and that was for now well yeah yeah for now and when was that uh
00:21:49.520 so this was in march 2021 the last time i see my son and what what and how did that allegation impact
00:22:00.240 your life well the saying is when you had everything and now you have nothing
00:22:13.280 i was someone the most confident individual in the world i would go somewhere and i would try to take
00:22:19.120 over and my career as i said like i was doing some huge shows i got a modeling contract me at my old age
00:22:29.120 got a modeling contract i was like wow i couldn't believe i was in top of the world i got 50 50 shared
00:22:36.960 accommodation for my child which i fought for for myself nice house and i was like what the hell i am
00:22:45.760 living my dreams i couldn't believe even i couldn't believe it i remembered we were in london staying
00:22:51.600 and i was with my family and all of a sudden i got the contract through for the modeling contract and i
00:22:55.760 started crying and i was like you always hear the saying go pursue your dreams i did the acting and
00:23:02.640 then for some reason somebody thought i was handsome and look good in photos and i just thought it was
00:23:06.880 just my mom and i was like wow and then i guess i'll take it away from you my acting agency dropped me
00:23:18.160 my modeling agency dropped me i wouldn't even class with friends people stopped talking to me because
00:23:26.080 this made mainstream media which i still don't quite understand it's not like i'm someone of any
00:23:32.640 significance um the article got put on social media channels and it's always interesting to see uh
00:23:41.920 the keyboard warriors the little trolls and the majority of there was it was the fact that my
00:23:48.800 color of skin was getting brought into question deport him send him back to his country they're all the
00:23:55.280 same i'm thinking where am i going to go up do they know i'm born here well clearly they don't so
00:24:04.000 regardless you know the reference will always be the color of my skin or my surname being tan
00:24:11.440 no one now as soon as like i said soon as you google me that's it that's associating me and let's
00:24:17.680 remember there's no evidence it's he said she said there is nothing to refute the back these claims
00:24:25.680 up or anything at all in fact it's the opposite i have provided so much evidence i said i'll give you
00:24:31.920 a little snippet after and even it's like huh how was this even getting there right the reason being
00:24:38.960 it's because i'm a statistic because i'm a muslim that is 100 and i've asked a lot of people who've
00:24:45.520 been in the same boat and i've said to them again they've had my mobile phones free thoughts don't
00:24:51.680 ask and nothing together obviously you can't okay and obviously the biggest thing is why does this never
00:25:01.760 get mentioned in family court you would think again let's let's talk about the women's rights
00:25:07.040 you would think that would be the first thing that you would for because that's the worst and
00:25:11.600 sickest allegation you could imagine for anybody as soon as a judge hears that be like yeah you've
00:25:15.840 never seen your child again so you're okay with me getting 50 50 you're okay dropping the child off to
00:25:23.040 my house me collected from your house but apparently i've done all this to you
00:25:29.360 as a man you've got no chance you have no chance anymore and personally on a personal impact it it's
00:25:36.480 it's rude me completely it really has there hasn't been a day and this is where it gets morbid there
00:25:43.920 hasn't been a day that i haven't contemplated suicide there's like a million different ways i think
00:25:49.440 what if i jump in the train what if i jump out like jump in front of the bus i live by myself no one's
00:25:55.440 going to know my son was my world this was commonly known he was my everything he was the one who got
00:26:03.040 me into my acting we were on the way home once and it was valentine's and we picked him up from school
00:26:09.120 i call him baba baba how was school he goes all right dad like it's like my girlfriend's doing my
00:26:13.760 heading and i started laughing my mom goes tell who's come after and he goes what about you
00:26:19.040 and he goes let me guess you hated it was boring you couldn't wait to get home and that hit me
00:26:26.000 fathers are meant to be role models for children my eyes they're meant to be role models and my son's
00:26:31.760 looking at me like i'm a piece of crap and that kind of hit me and i couldn't believe it and hence
00:26:38.880 as i said eventually i decided you know what i get it i don't have anything to answer to i don't
00:26:44.320 i don't have to send someone a good morning i don't have you text anymore let's focus on me
00:26:48.880 and i did and i pursued my passion i did my dream and i was living it like and i can guarantee you
00:26:54.400 right now pal if i carried on this trajectory i was going and this could you could just look at my
00:26:58.160 credits i was doing i would have been something and whether i get that back or not after all this
00:27:05.520 rubbish who knows but yeah the most important thing for me is my son and especially when you're here
00:27:15.040 afterwards in court uh you're scared of daddy wow imagine even that i'm trying to get emotional yeah
00:27:24.400 imagine even that well let's bear in mind she's had two and a bit years to tell him
00:27:31.360 to you know to brainwash him yeah brainwashing she's had two and a bit years so again it goes
00:27:39.120 back to the family court when these social workers were involved and then you have kafkat which is
00:27:44.960 the court appointed social workers and the work hand in hand and this is where the culture thinker
00:27:52.640 was at the play so he's mixed race so when he's with me we try to again we ask him do you want to go to
00:27:59.760 the mosque i am not saying by all means i'm religious i do not pray five times a day at all
00:28:04.560 but that's something again later in life i would like to when my son's with me like you want to go
00:28:09.760 to the mosque yeah okay dad no dad i'm chilling okay pal that's on you but when it's eid like he
00:28:15.680 will go with us he loves it and i love him in his little shawai he looks so cute and it's amazing
00:28:20.080 the rare opportunity i do as well family photos etc and now that's something he lives for he strives for
00:28:27.440 he loves my mom's curries he loves it chapatis everyone does you know i mean so it's amusing
00:28:32.320 you'll sit there when it's quite amusing over the years i've seen him develop his spice even i can't
00:28:37.920 i'm a big wuss i have medium when i go to nando's and it's quite amusing to watch him grow as a child
00:28:43.520 and as a father and now again he adores me there's videos on my instagram and youtube and everything this
00:28:50.560 is again which is quite amusing considering the child so scared he's on my youtube and he's like jumping all
00:28:55.360 of me adores me you're like hey so now he's being told he doesn't like me they tried to change his
00:29:04.240 surname wow she's trying to remove me from the birth certificate so you went from being a very involved
00:29:11.680 father yeah to not being able to see your son for two years and being told that he's afraid of you yeah
00:29:18.240 he's afraid he doesn't call me dad anymore because people is uh when i have tried bringing up this with
00:29:27.600 the social services of the authorities and i said i'm also concerned because he's going to lose his
00:29:33.120 muslim heritage his identity i would like to think he's getting the best of both well she's not religious
00:29:38.000 by any means i'm not but i believe it's just a slight bit of stability from a child just the culture
00:29:44.240 just the mannerisms and everything it's fantastic the way watching him grow is amazing now it's not
00:29:49.840 he's having his like ham sandwiches and that he doesn't what he did he never wanted to beforehand it
00:29:53.520 was a school conversation had as well which we both attended by the way we both attended school
00:29:58.720 meetings together okay but again as i said now the social workers words were oh if you ever want to know
00:30:08.320 you know you and mommy could google it so prayers google a prayer google is that what religion is
00:30:14.880 now yeah it's google when he has his grandparents on the phone anytime beckon day my brothers my
00:30:20.640 sister-in-law's his dad because every time he used to go to sleep he used to do a little prayer
00:30:25.920 it's just something he used to do like we never forced him he did it how old is he now he is now 10.
00:30:32.480 so he's 10 so you the last time you saw me was eight yeah that's like a different kid he is and
00:30:40.080 i i i'm very honest like i i hate to say when people when he gets older he'll remember who you
00:30:45.040 are no you won't let's cut the he's not gonna know who i am because he's being brainwashed into
00:30:52.080 if you love mommy you're not you know you don't want to be seen mommy hurt do you
00:30:57.360 all these little niggles he's a child he's innocent yeah you know he's not mentally prepared
00:31:02.320 to understand so how did the media pick up this story because isn't family court sealed i thought
00:31:09.600 i i don't completely understand it yeah like so i got explained this a while ago and actually
00:31:16.400 laughed so let's bear in mind me and you we could walk right now we can go into
00:31:22.960 quite like the crown court we can watch a murder trial we can watch drug smugglers
00:31:28.880 right we can go and sit in the gallery but in family court nobody's allowed in
00:31:34.720 that is the best comparison i could ever say we could go watch someone get
00:31:38.400 murdered a serial killer but you can't go to family court so obviously family court happened
00:31:46.240 but then obviously then as i said i got arrested but then obviously it's got a criminal court now
00:31:50.560 we kind of got told uh that somebody had contacted the local media
00:31:58.160 and then as i said i just i still remember as i said i walked out the court and like she's like
00:32:03.280 hid behind the boulder the reporter and she like just pops out with the phone and i was like look if
00:32:08.240 you want me to pause for you i'll pause i've got nothing to hide i was actually trying to say
00:32:12.240 but as usual they keep they get the worst picture of the world out there and and then from that it
00:32:19.360 rolled a daily mail the sun the liverpool echo because the tv show specifically that they chose was
00:32:28.320 based there every baby you could imagine even hello and okay magazine like wow i would love to get the
00:32:34.960 royalties back from these guys um twitter apparently and i was like wow and again you can just imagine
00:32:45.600 the amount of bashing but again the significant thing and this is where the reality kicks in the
00:32:51.920 significant thing being that like i'm on unconditional bail hence i'm here hence i can go abroad anytime i want
00:33:00.880 so the media have portrayed me to be this sexual predator you know someone who goes around pounces
00:33:06.240 at everyone but i'm allowed to do whatever i want and i'm not allowed to see my son
00:33:14.320 and so there was like it sounds like all these articles written about you from family court which
00:33:20.720 no one else is even allowed to watch so they essentially can say anything were there anyone else
00:33:27.200 that came forward or is it just your wife uh no there was another individual as well my ex-partner
00:33:31.840 okay yeah so my ex-partner who i was with covert time we were together for five months
00:33:38.160 um i know when we had a discussion i said i said look i was very shallow i just went for the looks
00:33:43.600 i just went for the looks completely we got on doing social media and and we just kind of hit
00:33:50.320 it off she visited me and then from there for like five months together absolutely fantastic
00:33:58.160 then as i said uh she was she was ill we still don't know the reason why she's told a few different
00:34:05.920 stories which again is good for me uh and so we live like an hour away she was like this i'm not
00:34:14.240 well uh can you come look after the kids i've got to go to the hospital the ambulance is coming
00:34:18.320 and whoa again like any disaparty would do you would think yes okay let's forget that so i went down
00:34:24.720 and then i remained there for 13 days to look after her she went to the hospital she came back the next
00:34:30.080 day then she went back again and she stayed for 13 days i looked after the kids so they had three
00:34:35.600 children two girls and a boy but the youngest boy he was still a nappy as i'm like that not gonna
00:34:41.920 happen not doing that two girls they could look after themselves so it was always quite a bit of a
00:34:47.760 crazy scenario because she had three different fathers to the kids yeah no i didn't know this
00:34:53.280 until afterwards she kind of but i was kind of too involved how hot was she yeah was she that hot
00:35:00.400 three fathers wow yeah he's like yeah not now not now she's like the wicked witch in the general
00:35:10.800 okay but so this isn't this isn't the most credible witness this is a woman with three different baby
00:35:16.000 fathers like you know and someone who did only fans okay so she it's three different baby fathers and on
00:35:22.320 only fans yes and the media said this is a very credible witness yes and this is not the first time
00:35:28.560 she's accused someone okay so she's done this more than once yes she's not accusing this is not the
00:35:33.280 first person she's accused but again let's you know the only thing i want to say about this so
00:35:38.880 apparently so i had raped her beforehand okay before you guys dated well no before like i had to go and
00:35:45.680 look after her and the kids okay so i've raped her and she phones me a live an hour away a week after
00:35:51.040 we were still talking every single day on the phone video call but i was doing a few jobs because life was
00:35:55.760 amazing and so then she goes to hospital and i'm looking after her two girls so let's bet let's get
00:36:02.720 this let's get this correct yeah so i've raped you but then you're still okay for me to come and look
00:36:07.920 after your children right and you're in hospital and i'm visiting you regularly in hospital as well
00:36:13.200 well it doesn't make any sense and i'm bringing you shopping by the way as well yeah it makes like zero
00:36:18.320 sense um but the media doesn't ask any of these questions no so you basically you had two accusers
00:36:26.720 one was i don't remember if you said did you guys get married yeah so islamically yes yeah okay but
00:36:32.400 never legally no okay so you got you got legally married to the first woman or sorry you got islamically
00:36:38.800 married to the first woman not legally second woman you dated for a couple of months and they both hung
00:36:44.640 out with you after yeah wow um then again this is where again as you said the media don't see this
00:36:52.640 it's uh again they both coerce this because we actually they've actually both admitted to message
00:36:58.640 each other wow uh but again but what's kind of amusing is for the fact of in their interviews and
00:37:07.360 the transcripts like you can't imagine when i'm reading that i'm religiously reading it
00:37:12.000 they both get asked the question they'll be like oh my phone updated the messages are deleted
00:37:19.040 and the other one i deleted them i didn't see the point
00:37:24.000 whereas i i've got every single text message which by the way my none of my messages are classed as
00:37:29.680 evidence none of your messages why do they accept theirs as evidence and no but that's what i'm saying
00:37:35.120 there's no there's no mobile phone evidence in the case at all wow it is only just hearsay so it's all
00:37:41.280 just there's no actual evidence even though on the mobile phone the second girl her last text
00:37:46.480 message to me was watch i'm going to ruin your life wow and we also have messages of her messaging
00:37:54.160 other females why are you messaging my man for i'll fucking kill you so this is a mentally unstable
00:38:01.200 this is all in his evidence as well wow but again the fact that it's still going on we
00:38:06.800 the thing what my referee representation said is and i i was absolutely gobsmacked and i could not
00:38:17.440 believe it the fact that he turned around and said because you're muslim so what because you're muslim
00:38:25.200 they'll want to carry this on and you can imagine when i was like i'm just about to get questioned
00:38:30.800 he was like don't you dare keep your head all high who said that to you my solicitor oh your lawyer did
00:38:35.600 yeah at the time yeah i've heard so the story i've heard is um if you're from a more traditional
00:38:41.680 background um whether that be muslim i've also heard like nigerian i've also heard like there's a couple
00:38:48.240 like more traditional countries the women's shelters use that as like um a tactic like they tell the women
00:38:56.000 what to say basically so they'll have like a script for the muslim background they'll have a strip
00:39:02.000 script for like the it's like eastern europe africa muslim yeah so imagine as i say it's all one big
00:39:09.520 theme yeah if they could jump on it they will and only last week and the individual that you had a
00:39:19.040 while ago disqualified dancing messaged me and he goes uh riz like there's another father who's been
00:39:24.160 accused of yours and uh he's really not in a good place can you chat to him okay yeah why not because
00:39:30.160 i had nobody there for me yeah i've had to self-taught myself and even then do you know how worrying that
00:39:36.240 is writing that on google how do you deal with rape yeah because for for someone who's being accused of
00:39:44.000 this there is no support compared to the accuser right there's no support for anyone again there's only
00:39:51.680 so much you can put on a friend before they're like look pal i've got my own life to deal with
00:39:56.000 which is understandable so i spoke to the individual and he's from yeah he's from pakistan
00:40:04.240 and and when i spoke to him long story short he's i told him what to be aware of so they're going to
00:40:10.080 try to antagonize you they're going to try to put words into your mouth they're going to put the word
00:40:14.560 consensual in 50 different ways to you that's what they're going to do and again i remember when i said
00:40:20.560 when they said it to me i just sat there i went i don't know how many different ways you want me
00:40:24.400 to answer this i understand what consensual is but i was shocked they brought up the pakistan card
00:40:32.080 so we understand that you're from pakistan so i don't know if you're going to be if you've been
00:40:36.640 taught this educational if you don't yeah because they'll act like you've been like brainwashed or
00:40:41.280 something yeah so when he told me that i was like wow i couldn't believe it it opened up that's
00:40:48.560 something i said i got an insight all of a sudden so in pakistan you probably don't know and he's
00:40:53.360 like i do know what sex is and i do know what yes and no it is and i was like did they really
00:40:57.920 he was like like yes and i was like dude i don't believe it so basically before this whole thing
00:41:07.200 happened you were at like the the peak of your career you had a great relationship with your son
00:41:13.200 and now you go to your son being afraid of you um are you unemployed what's your yeah uh so at the
00:41:21.520 moment so i've gone from like so for example the crown i'm in season six so i've gone from being a
00:41:26.960 lead a second lead in that uh background from nothing i've gone from being the face of the camera
00:41:35.680 to someone i was like hidden away there has been and i've got to put my hands up there have been a few
00:41:41.040 people netflix being one of them who actually have given me the opportunity i sat down and had a
00:41:47.360 meeting with him now that was scary it's probably more scary than court i'm there and there's about
00:41:51.840 10 of them on that side and i showed him the legal documents and he looked at me and he went
00:41:56.400 there's no evidence it's like the head of the european i don't know what it was yeah and he goes he
00:42:02.160 looked he went mr cannes so there's no evidence because the protective force there's no tna nothing
00:42:08.880 it's just their word against your word i went yeah and he goes the fact that you brought this to us
00:42:14.320 was to show something because that is the thing i am not afraid to talk about this it's not because
00:42:20.080 it's something i have not done and i will continue to keep my head on high people you shouldn't you
00:42:24.960 should they want you to run and hide why should i want to hide when i haven't done something they want
00:42:30.480 me to not talk about this and be afraid but again it's the whole system is completely flawed as i said i
00:42:37.040 went from being on the highest of the high i was loving life i said i was getting the best jobs in
00:42:41.840 the world again i'm always in london absolutely enjoying it going around and we talk about this
00:42:47.440 i know you talk about the status figure all the time now imagine talking to a girl i'm an actor
00:42:51.920 i'm a model and showed you imdb and all the credits you're like wow but you're doing it with pride
00:42:57.840 not to kind of like show off but you're doing it with pride look at me i've gone from this to this
00:43:03.120 and now what do you do uh yeah nothing
00:43:08.720 yeah it's it's soul destroying and again it kind of goes back to like you know the kind of
00:43:14.800 suicide thing and it's kind of it worries me like the whole you know one in three children live without
00:43:19.680 a father and when you look at these statistics it's like every 22 minutes one male commits suicide
00:43:26.960 based on the fact that a divorced male is 2.5 to three times more likely to commit suicide than the
00:43:31.280 average male and i can safely say with my own personal experience i said i have gone from one of
00:43:37.520 the most outrageous individuals with a smile best of the room and i will have everyone in stitches
00:43:43.840 i've always become the sort of the party that's something i've loved and now i've kind of gone
00:43:50.240 from i don't want to leave my bed i don't want to leave my house my four walls i look at every single
00:43:56.560 day and i could stare i could just stare at something non-stop and it annoys me because again i went
00:44:04.720 through a phase because as you can imagine when this article come out i'm thinking my my windows are
00:44:09.680 gonna get puffed through it's gonna be graffiti in the water i'm gonna get i'm gonna get attacked
00:44:16.560 everything you can imagine is running through your head and then you do the thing well actually
00:44:21.840 you know i'm not allowed to see my son i've been accused of this i've got no life i don't understand
00:44:25.360 it now and the fact you have to think like that and it pisses me off when people say oh you know i'm
00:44:33.200 here for you but you're not you're not the one who's dealing with this you're at home happily ever
00:44:38.400 after with your children playing happy families i'm the one who was a happy person and i was in
00:44:45.280 a relationship and for some reason no idea to this day what happened i have no idea to this day and it
00:44:53.280 frustrates me and the fact that the system is totally rigged and it's against men again there's
00:45:00.080 no validation there's nothing plausible behind these claims the family court meant to remain neutral
00:45:06.160 i thought there was a saying you're meant to be innocent until proven guilty so a common pushback
00:45:11.120 i get is there's no law that specifically discriminates against men in family court
00:45:16.720 exactly there's nothing and that's why there's so much more and this is where i'm appreciative now
00:45:23.840 more and more men speaking out about it they're seeing the system and they're like and i myself have
00:45:29.920 told many people be careful there's a theme keep every single text message do not delete text messages
00:45:37.040 back up everything to the clouds and that's been my safe haven backed up everything to the clouds i've
00:45:42.640 got nothing to hide i said be careful even if you meet a girl even if you have a one night stand with a
00:45:46.720 girl back it up whereas now my mentality has changed i've got so scared if i was to meet a lady outside i'd be
00:45:53.520 like i want you to text me to say you're coming back to mine i want you to text me to say we're
00:45:58.400 going to have sex because that's how pet i do not trust a female anymore hell no you know i'd be
00:46:04.480 fantastic if there was like a from print recognition app or something you consent to sex yeah because
00:46:10.000 verbal clearly doesn't mean anything these days right well and it's almost ruined the relationship
00:46:16.160 between men and women because men are afraid yeah and it's by these ugly hags that no one was trying
00:46:22.720 to approach anyway these feminists that like put all this ideology into it but but but this is it
00:46:28.400 this is another thing that i've i've realized as well the women sit in the little groups the
00:46:33.760 and moan so one female will be saying look i broke up with him but i'm going to let him have x amount of
00:46:40.240 days with the kids why are you doing that for take him to court then you'll got more money out with him
00:46:46.160 so it becomes financially oriented unfortunately now we live in a society when a breakup happens
00:46:53.920 they don't they're more bothered about hurting the other party and not caring about the child involved
00:47:00.320 and that's where it's got messed up now you need to step back and you need to realize
00:47:05.920 you're putting the child in the in the middle of a road you have mother on one side and father on one
00:47:10.240 side and you're asking him or her to choose who do you love the most you should never do that
00:47:17.040 but women are women are doing this you should be able to say look whatever's happened between
00:47:23.360 us it's happened you're a dick i'm a dick it's happened let's do what's best for the child
00:47:28.640 but it's not anymore let's go for the call let's make up an allegation i'll get legal aid paid for
00:47:33.600 you have to pay and then you'll have to pay me x amount of money a month if you don't pay me you're not
00:47:38.960 seeing the child i i had um i i interviewed a divorce lawyer and he told me um that he doesn't
00:47:48.320 fear marriage but he fears children because he said when you have kids they're not yours
00:47:54.800 yeah i agree with that you agree with that yeah as i said i've gone from a child having my surname
00:47:59.920 there you go she's trying to remove him from me his name and for the best to forget and as a father as i said
00:48:05.440 when he become a parent again if you look at our parents i would wear their everything and now i've
00:48:11.840 gone from like eight years raising this kid chasing his nappies watching his first steps first cuddles
00:48:15.600 kisses words whatever and that's been taken away it's kind of like i wake up sometimes i'm like
00:48:23.040 do i have a child the only thing i get to see is a photo i'll go on social media and i might see his
00:48:29.600 pictures on one of his schools that's how i am a father these days how do you think it's naive for
00:48:36.560 men to get married and have children in 2023 i could safely say now this i know i know i was
00:48:43.520 watching one of your podcasts with someone a while ago and uh i believe it was fast for justice matt
00:48:47.840 o'connell and he said at least with a netflix contract you can get out of it with a marriage
00:48:52.720 you can't that's why i'm very grateful actually that i wasn't actually legally married i probably
00:48:57.680 wouldn't have got my trainers on my watch or nothing she would have taken off
00:49:02.160 i would love to sit here and say i would love nothing in the world to have my happily ever after
00:49:06.640 i think that's what every individual wants in life i will you know under the same world
00:49:12.560 but it's not going to happen now because there's too much there's too everybody thinks they could do
00:49:18.640 better now and now because they're getting there's so much going around now that they know they can do
00:49:24.640 better and as i said now statuses have got involved and they're like well actually this
00:49:28.960 guy could provide better for my child than his own dad can he can provide a better living for me and my
00:49:33.280 child whereas what are you going to do you can fly me out here then you can't even protect your kid
00:49:38.320 from like who the mother dates no too like you don't know what men are influencing him or her
00:49:44.480 so this was it so i got told i got phone call from the school this was a few years ago so the son's
00:49:50.560 mother has a new boyfriend they've got another child and again this is where as i said i have
00:49:55.360 a smile on my face because i know and this is where again the media don't see anything and
00:50:00.880 the boyfriend not once but twice has hit my son and the authorities have got involved
00:50:05.760 so hang on so i got accused of something and he's been accusing something which my son also said
00:50:12.480 and now imagine this i am sat in the hospital with him and they're trying to say did he do anything else
00:50:21.200 and obviously i didn't understand at first and then they went i went whoa it's how upsetting that
00:50:26.400 is that goes through your head and then four then you are thinking blue murder you are saying if that's
00:50:31.920 done that i will kill him nothing happened but he did hit him but the authority is oh we'll do it
00:50:38.080 we'll sit down with him and we'll do a little course and then he'll be allowed whereas me an allegation
00:50:44.960 which has nothing to do with my child then i got my child taken off me it's like hang on a minute
00:50:50.800 it's like you can't even protect your son no well the other one as well and this this is what this is
00:50:56.320 again as i said when i try explain this to people you can't even make this up and she also got fat so
00:51:05.680 when you go to court you have your hand back on you but they're only internal security guards they're
00:51:12.480 nothing really eventually we were in so i was in the room with the with the judge with my legal
00:51:19.680 representation at the time and she had hers and all of a sudden knock knock on the door security guard
00:51:25.280 and i think it was a code word the security guy told the judge there's like so-and-so on the phone
00:51:30.080 okay they walked out and the police was there you had drugs in her handbag drugs in her handbag
00:51:38.960 in court i can't even make this up exactly i still thought that she should have primary custody
00:51:45.440 and was a credible witness yeah it's it's it's insane i i used you and that's why that's why i
00:51:51.200 always say it's like okay there's nothing in the books maybe but it's like the way they treat men
00:51:56.080 and women is completely different in court it's like not even it's not even that's what i'm saying
00:52:00.880 it's not even like you know we talk about equality well yourself obviously quite a lot we talk about
00:52:07.120 but in family court i might as well be castrated you don't have like you think i could be the most
00:52:13.360 plausible father in the world the best father in the world which i like to think i am and again let's
00:52:18.080 remember i have never put the child in danger the child loves me he said it himself multiple times on
00:52:23.760 record but the female the resident parent she is allowed to do whatever she wants sleep with
00:52:29.520 whoever she wants introduce him to everyone wants emotional damage doesn't matter then
00:52:35.440 how much money have you spent are you on child support now uh so when i was going through family
00:52:41.520 court and this is why i stopped as well i had spent 39 000 pounds wow on legal base so that's like the
00:52:48.240 equivalent of like 60 65 in america yeah yeah i actually know that right used to do a stream of
00:52:52.960 that don't ask so that's like um i mean that's over a year's salary for most people average average
00:52:58.800 salary is like uh 45 50 so that's like a year's salary so as you can imagine the the the actual
00:53:05.840 form so you're going to put a form in to fight to see your own son like how on earth so i can turn up
00:53:10.240 to you and say okay my son back now so now i'll get the police call for harassment how does that happen
00:53:15.440 bear in mind both parents are on the birth certificate we always have to remember that
00:53:20.640 so therefore you have rights but do you have rights i don't think so i don't think i don't
00:53:25.920 think that even matters so what again let's remember every phone call as you know yourself every email
00:53:31.440 every text message and the fact that you go to court and they're like okay we'll have to come back we'll
00:53:36.560 go back again or we'll have to come back or we'll go again we'll have to come back or has to go to
00:53:40.480 social work because they need to do a report the report comes okay now we need to get our
00:53:47.120 court appointed social workers cafcas involved
00:53:53.760 i would say only the one time in 2019 when i got 50 50 the judge that we got ironically enough a female
00:54:00.880 judge absolutely fantastic she put her in a place i was wow i was so smile it was amazing
00:54:11.840 because she tried to play again the culture card because she did convert to islam
00:54:16.160 this was on her own doing she had talked to my parents about it no coercive yeah i did not know
00:54:21.600 this and again there was 14 people in the room when she actually said it because we just had a little
00:54:24.960 shing dig at my family's your sign nothing special nothing glamorous uh i think we got a takeaway
00:54:30.560 after that and i remembered i actually stopped and went are you sure about this i'm not asking you
00:54:37.360 is that means i've spoken to your parents well you didn't speak to me you wonder if she was yeah fine
00:54:43.040 and she also did call her surname as well i was like oh wow and that's what obviously in my head i was
00:54:48.720 like okay she's a keeper stupid me um yeah sorry no i don't no no it's worth it's worth laughing at
00:54:59.200 i agree now that's what i would do to someone now um so you spent 39 000 pounds um are you on
00:55:07.280 any alimony child support any of that i do pay child maintenance again from a child that i am not
00:55:12.000 allowed to see wow how much do you pay mine uh so it's in the region of about four to six hundred pounds
00:55:17.760 okay wow yeah that's a lot of money so that's like a grand a month us dollars and you don't
00:55:23.040 even get to see your kid no barely by two years now um what would you say to your son if you could
00:55:28.640 talk to him oh i wouldn't know um i wouldn't recognize his voice anymore i actually seen a picture
00:55:36.480 of him a while ago and i didn't actually know it was my son do you know how hard that was my mother
00:55:41.600 my brothers were like bris that's your son like really had a zoom in i felt so bad well what can
00:55:50.320 you say to someone who was being brainwashed to the max that he's actually saying i don't want to call
00:55:56.560 him dad i want to call him riz i would love nothing in the world to give him a huge cousin and a kiss
00:56:03.440 but he's gonna look at me and be who the is this guy because that's how he's being taught yeah like
00:56:09.120 where has he been so as much as i would love to say i love you you are my everything
00:56:14.960 but that's an alternate reality that's something you know that's something i dream of but i know it's
00:56:20.960 not going to happen until now and even then the fear factor of because i will get him back
00:56:26.160 because well who knows with this system but if i do and there you go again how do you become a father
00:56:33.360 again right this is what people don't realize because it's been in the system you sat down with
00:56:39.840 social workers he's doing work he's at school you've got her family saying things as well the you
00:56:47.600 partner said something how do you become a parent again two years is a lot in a kid's life you know
00:56:54.800 like two years is nothing to an adult but like and a kid's like you're completely different kid
00:56:59.520 and that's something i it scares me thinking about it yeah and i'm kind of like i don't know i would
00:57:07.840 want to cuddle him but i don't think you want to cuddle me because of what he's been taught i would
00:57:12.000 like to think if he sees me he'll run to me that's what he used to do and again the whole school everything
00:57:19.360 again in my case there's like 14 character witnesses i have some of the biggest of the biggest of the
00:57:23.280 people people i've slept with in the past as well and people who met who know the bond between me and my
00:57:27.920 son so again i said i'm not even phased about that you've just unfortunately it's a due process that
00:57:33.280 you have to endure but unfortunately this come moment in time they've decided to pick on me
00:57:40.480 so that's a very hard question to ask and you've got me thinking quite a lot now
00:57:45.280 honestly i wouldn't have a clue what changes would you like to see in the system
00:57:50.640 equality the man to be actually taken seriously i think this whole bs of so the resident parent the
00:58:03.920 work on seven days a week and if you have more than 50 percent you are by default a resident parent
00:58:10.000 so by default you get all the benefits and i don't think and then any
00:58:15.680 so the usual thing is every scumbag amazing dad gets every other weekend that's just me mommy wants
00:58:25.600 to go out and get drunk and find a new partner that's what it does to my eyes and a lot of us
00:58:29.760 say this as well so you've got to go out and enjoy yourself and i can look after the child oh fantastic
00:58:36.000 i think there needs to be more done i think there needs to be realized again exactly like criminal
00:58:41.040 court which is again as i said i am you know i have all my faith in the judicial system uh because
00:58:47.360 again there needs to be backed up by evidence i think from now on i don't think a mother's word
00:58:54.160 or a father's word for that case should be taken as gospel i think you should back this up with actual
00:59:00.800 evidence and not just what you're saying and what i'm saying evidence just actual hardcore evidence
00:59:08.800 that's not that should not be hard to get to get i punched you in the face i'm sure you're going
00:59:14.960 to take a photo yeah yeah well actually i don't know someone might hit themselves is are there any
00:59:24.960 ways that men can protect themselves stay away from women as i said a while ago um keep everything on
00:59:36.800 your phones keep everything on your phones i know there's always been that mentality of a player a guy
00:59:45.120 who goes and sleeps around but i think even then you now have to be very very careful with that because
00:59:52.880 being accused and becoming a victim has become a trend
00:59:56.720 i would always say support everything and i would say yes but do not ever take her word as gospel
01:00:07.040 get it in a text get her to email it while she's getting changed while she's getting stripped tell her
01:00:12.640 to text you yes we're going to have sex tonight and then i've also again the fear and i've heard this
01:00:17.840 from a lot of dads is even when they go home tell them to text you again because a victim would not text you
01:00:24.080 again would she just kind of like well no no she texted me when she was here she texted when she
01:00:28.560 got home and as i said just keep everything and that's what i rates me now do you think your success
01:00:35.840 had anything to do with it i've noticed a trend of women like tend to come out when the guy is very
01:00:42.160 like starting to become rich and successful i i i would say the way that i was going on my instagram
01:00:49.200 that was growing massively as i said i was becoming so i also work with my charity mental health
01:00:54.800 um and the jobs i was getting and especially the modeling my face was getting plastered all over the
01:01:00.320 place when you turned on your your channel one to five my my so imagine you being the next and you're
01:01:06.640 seeing my faces of commercials it's going to piss you off and i believe that i had a huge thing to do
01:01:13.120 with it he's doing good in life yeah and i i've kind of said this and i know it's going to sound
01:01:19.120 very egotistical they're not going to do any better than me they're not going to have a man who actually
01:01:24.880 looked after them the way that i did and i mean obviously physically protected them financially
01:01:28.880 looked after them etc there you go i took on your fear of the children wherever somebody like you
01:01:34.560 he just been selective out and has left the perch yeah and you don't slightly you clearly don't have
01:01:39.840 any intelligence because you're doing only fans yeah but so as i said i would say again and i've
01:01:48.160 seen this a lot of people who ask me for advice now because i've been accused of this have you kept
01:01:52.480 your text messages yeah back them up to the clouds because again people don't realize because if you do
01:01:57.120 get taken to the police to take your phones off you and i don't trust the police as well things might
01:02:02.240 go missing so again as i said the fact that the police are meant to find anything on a mobile phone
01:02:10.080 the fact that their text messages they can't find i find that conspicuous lately so i would say keep
01:02:15.680 everything back into the clouds dropbox google cloud whatever you want apple whatever back everything up
01:02:23.520 well thank you for coming in today um i'm sorry this happened to you i think i think it's really
01:02:30.880 unfortunate because it's like traditional men seem to be punished and it's like they always say
01:02:37.200 like guys have to do the right thing but i i don't see a way in 2023 that men can interact with women
01:02:44.160 without having a legal consequence yeah it's you're right it's scary oh there we go if i was to get
01:02:50.400 involved with someone she'll google me i think she'll want to go next to me
01:02:55.920 um can they support you in any way um so i have instagram uh results 1985 uh i also have a youtube
01:03:03.440 channel of the same name uh i do a lot of things on there and i talk i try to offer as much mental
01:03:09.360 health guidance to do with family court being a single parent and false allegations by all means
01:03:16.080 come along for the ride and if anyone wants any tips or hints how to protect yourself i will try to be
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