JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Instagram Model Says The Weirdest Thing EVER!!!!

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Shanae Dating Goes
Her Delusional Arguments Got Flipped Against Her Divorced man DEBUNKS '＂NOT ALL WOMEN'

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Length

8 minutes

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214.69

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1,875

Sentence count

102

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Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

4

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15

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Summary

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In this episode, we are joined by Shanae, a 25-year-old Londoner who is ready to find a 'real' man. We discuss what it means to be a woman in the modern dating world, what she looks for in a man, and what she wants in a partner.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Hi guys, my name's Shanae. I'm 25 years old and I'm from London
00:00:07.280 So what made you what made you want to come today?
00:00:09.180 Um, I'm very much interested like that. We was just speaking briefly about you know
00:00:13.760 Dating and it's just hard to find men that are like that want to be men. Mm-hmm
00:00:19.100 They don't want to be the men role these days
00:00:20.720 They want to be the women and I'm so tired of that. So I'm ready to find a man and if he's wealthy 0.97
00:00:26.400 I got a question. What do you feel like you bring that's unique from other women? Um, I feel like I'm myself
00:00:33.280 Wherever I go like I mix with a lot of different who else can you be?
00:00:37.520 Exactly, but you know
00:00:38.720 I mean a lot of I meet a lot of women that like show themselves to be one person and then they go around 1.00
00:00:43.840 You're authentic. You're genuine. Exactly. I'm genuine. I'm very genuine. I'm open-minded
00:00:49.200 And I'm a lover girl at heart
00:00:51.760 Okay
00:00:52.880 You say you want to find a real man, uh, who's it who growing up for you was a real who's who's your male role model?
00:00:59.200 My male role model would be no one
00:01:02.640 What about your dad?
00:01:04.640 He's all right to a certain extent
00:01:06.720 So then can I can I can I ask then how do you judge a man then if you cannot name one that you really would admire?
00:01:13.040 Okay, so yeah, I don't really that's what i'm saying
00:01:14.960 So I think of myself as a free spirit. I don't really judge people. I judge you on how you treat me
00:01:20.400 So if you treat me in a that I feel i'm feel comfortable with you
00:01:26.480 And I can talk to you have deep conversations about silly things and really deep things
00:01:31.600 And we really get along and we click then that works for me
00:01:34.560 Well, that's a very low standard to find somebody to impregnate you if you're going to be a wife 1.00
00:01:37.760 So let's let's raise the bar a little bit. Well, let's say like I like him. We can talk about stuff
00:01:41.680 Oh, you know, but he's a brokie 1.00
00:01:43.200 It's like okay
00:01:43.840 But that's not a high enough standard for a wife because as a wife you're surrendering potentially your entire future economic 1.00
00:01:49.680 And and marketplace value by being pregnant and risking being a single mom. That's probably not the goal 0.93
00:01:55.200 I would never do that to myself. Well, okay
00:01:57.120 So again, uh, tell us tell us about like you kind of
00:02:00.320 You know, my dad is okay. It's like did you have a good relationship with him growing up at all?
00:02:03.680 Yes, I did. I had a great relationship with my dad. Um, I would say
00:02:07.600 he
00:02:09.440 He showed me that it's okay to be yourself be yourself 1000% you are perfect how you are
00:02:15.520 um, don't let any guy
00:02:18.320 Make you feel less than you are and if he does then that's not the guy for you
00:02:21.920 So why isn't he your mayor role model? Why isn't your dad? He's like that's my role model for a man
00:02:26.800 That's a very good question that I cannot answer
00:02:29.920 Can we try that because I don't have an answer for it
00:02:32.480 Was there some care? I mean if you you can stop it you can stop at any point you can stop at any point was there character issues?
00:02:37.920 like you just you wouldn't yes
00:02:39.920 There was there was so there was like, um, there's the good side and there's always the bad side to people
00:02:45.440 There's a light and a dark in the in a day
00:02:48.320 So I feel like maybe the dark side wasn't really for me. Um
00:02:52.800 I don't I'm I wasn't born in london. I was born in sheffield
00:02:56.720 So obviously he's still in sheffield. He's not with my mom. So I feel like
00:03:01.760 The kind of separation it made it feel like I had to reach out more as a daughter
00:03:07.440 Which I shouldn't have to do. I'm I am a daughter. Um, you're supposed to be my parent
00:03:12.080 So I just feel like I want a guy that just like
00:03:15.360 Goes the extra mile that just likes to make sure I'm okay
00:03:18.160 Like every now and then like I don't need you to be on me like, you know, like so hardcore
00:03:23.360 but
00:03:25.040 Just show a little bit appreciation that you care. But yeah, he's he's all right. He's all right. He's not bad dads
00:03:31.600 So then what do you think you probably have an idea of what guy you want?
00:03:35.200 Can you kind of talk about that a little bit like what is the guy that you would possibly consider committing to
00:03:41.760 Be like and then I have a follow-up question to that. Yeah, sure
00:03:44.800 So I like men that make keep me in my feminine energy 0.89
00:03:48.560 Like sometimes I feel like I meet men that just make me
00:03:53.520 Very like
00:03:54.480 I like women that keep me in my masculine 1.00
00:03:57.120 I like I personally like dogs that keep me in my masculine
00:04:00.240 I like to be the if I'm a dog I want to be the owner
00:04:03.440 Yeah, you know how that sounds to a guy though
00:04:05.280 It sounds like me saying you know what you need to make me like very masculine, you know, I'm a little gay every now and then 0.95
00:04:12.880 But if you're the right woman, I'm gonna freaking 1.00
00:04:15.280 I'm gonna blow your brains out. I'm gonna take care of you and by all means, but that's weird, isn't it? 0.67
00:04:20.880 Like would you date me if I was a little gay?
00:04:22.640 But then if you're the right woman, I would be very masculine like doesn't that sound weird to you
00:04:27.040 Like if i'm like, hey girl, because if i'm the one then i'm the one. Hey, you're the right woman 0.99
00:04:30.720 I would hate you rather than
00:04:34.000 So you believe okay, so for example for example like with the masculine and feminine energy like i'm like
00:04:39.680 For a guy if I was to date a guy and he would see me he'd be like, oh, where do you want to go?
00:04:43.440 Wait, what do you so you want to do like take a little bit of a charge like oh, so I know this place
00:04:50.800 This is a nice place that I like to go to i've heard about it. Would you like to come with me?
00:04:56.400 Wouldn't the feminine response to be like wherever you want, baby 1.00
00:05:00.160 You know exactly like that's what i'm saying
00:05:02.560 I think that like feminine women like let the guy lead even if like 1.00
00:05:06.400 I don't think there's like the truth like the most feminine examples that I know 1.00
00:05:10.240 They're not masculine with certain men. They're just feminine regardless
00:05:14.080 Yeah, that's what i'm saying that i'm a bit i'm a bit of a yeah, i'm a bit of an alien
00:05:17.840 Why did you split up with your ex?
00:05:20.240 Because uh, like I said, I just it just wasn't it wasn't
00:05:26.160 For me, it just wasn't the time. Did you break it off? Probably
00:05:30.720 I think it was a mutual agreement. Like I said, we built a friend. No, we built a friend who started the conversation
00:05:36.160 To break it off. Yeah, who started someone? I would i'll be honest. I'll say him
00:05:40.320 Okay, so he's and I respect him as a man
00:05:43.520 And I would never want to force someone to be with me who doesn't want to be with me. I'd rather us talk it out
00:05:48.560 And well, so why don't you just say he broke up with you?
00:05:51.680 Oh, he broke up with me
00:05:52.720 Oh, yeah
00:05:54.000 Girls do this. I don't know why we say too much 1.00
00:05:55.440 No, i'm not ashamed like i'm not ashamed. Do you know what I mean?
00:05:58.080 And that's fine because i'm not gonna want to
00:06:00.080 I would rather you say something to me than us be some in something that you're not feeling the same way
00:06:06.720 I'm feeling we need to both be on the same page. How long were you guys together?
00:06:10.240 Two years. Was it exclusive from both ends? Yes. Like you met his parents? Yes, of course. No, we was we was best friends
00:06:16.720 And why did he break up with you? I just feel like it was on his side
00:06:21.040 He needed to grow more and it just wasn't the right time and for me
00:06:25.440 As i will say now, I didn't see it then but now I feel like it was the correct decision. How old is he?
00:06:33.280 He's a year older than me. He's 26 gonna be 27 this year. And it was
00:06:38.560 How long it was ago? Two so we broke up last year. And is he still a dj slash actor? 0.88
00:06:44.800 Yeah
00:06:46.800 How can one man be two nothings? Exactly period 0.99
00:06:50.080 Can I ask them my follow-up question is sure okay, so say you meet this guy. Yeah, right
00:06:54.800 Then he has the money to provide for you. He's willing to do it
00:06:58.640 He's willing to commit he's willing to not cheat. Yeah
00:07:03.520 Why do you think he would pick you like what are some things that you would bring into his life
00:07:08.720 That would make him pick you because imagine like that guy is probably sought out by a lot of women 1.00
00:07:14.400 Because most women want the same thing, right? So then why would he pick you? 0.98
00:07:19.680 What do you think?
00:07:20.720 Um, I just think i'm really i'm really me and i'm me everywhere. I go
00:07:27.520 if we meet and we vibe like
00:07:30.160 I feel like you're you everywhere you go you guys have so much in common. This is crazy. Is that why you're so quiet?
00:07:35.200 Yeah, damn dude. What's your star sign? 1.00
00:07:38.000 But anyway, we won't get into that
00:07:39.680 But you know, I just think i'm me like i'm i'm really down to earth like I love long conversations
00:07:45.440 Like i'm i'm really a romantic, but you know like that guy that can provide for you
00:07:50.000 He probably works a bunch of hours
00:07:51.920 So he's probably not coming home thinking of having a long conversation with his wife
00:07:56.080 Of course not every of course not i'm not talking about everything
00:07:59.520 But the stuff you're listing just sounds like stuff that every single girl says on my show
00:08:03.920 To me it sounds super vague and it means nothing honestly
00:08:06.400 I think she's watching too many romantic comedies. I just yeah
00:08:10.240 It's annoying, right? Yeah, I just think for me like what skills do you have that a wife would have? 1.00
00:08:15.840 Oh, okay. I mean what the basics like cooking clean
00:08:19.600 I mean, I can watch the kids
00:08:21.600 I can how often do you watch children do is that something you do often?
00:08:25.680 Um, it's not something I do often, but I do have younger siblings and younger family members
00:08:30.720 So when's the last time you watched like a baby like a baby baby? Yeah
00:08:35.680 Gosh a while. Okay. Do you find babies annoying? No, okay. I love them. Like i'm such a softy like I love babies
00:08:42.000 They brighten my day