@JWALLER BREAKS DOWN Cheating To Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss how to present yourself to potential suitors, tattoos, piercings, and more. We also discuss the importance of being conscious of how you present yourself in order to be considered a potential suitor.
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Every single person that's gonna be like that. I don't remember if you said earlier
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Do you want to be married in the next couple years married in the next couple years?
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So wouldn't it make sense to present yourself like a wife? Yeah, of course. Okay, so like yes
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Can we take out the nose ring? I'll be so happy
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I think if you like it you like it. Yeah, I don't feel like that determines the type of person I am
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Because if any of you took just ten minutes out of your day to sit down. No, you're very sweet
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Yeah, but it's it's more the way I present myself. I agree
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I'm not saying anything against like the way I look the way I present myself. I completely agree the tattoos the piercings the crop top
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It does say something. Yeah, I'm just saying just doesn't know the reason I'm saying this is because I want you to win
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Yeah, like I want you to win in life. Yeah, and and it's like, you know as as nice as it is for for people to say
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Oh, wear what you want do like do what you want
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It's like it's not going to help you get the outcomes you seem to want
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It could to be honest, I've come across a lot of different people in my life
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I present myself in this way, but I get a lot of different reactions like
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It's all about how you are as a person like this is all about appearance
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No, but okay, but that's wrong appearance. That's wrong because men judge you on the way you look
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Yeah, men judge on appearance, but then when they actually take that extra step to see how you are
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No, but they're not going to take the extra step to see how you are because they already put you in a box
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And what they're going to think is this hey if I if I make her my wife if I if she's my girlfriend
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She's going to dress like oh, yeah, like this and this is going to represent
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I'm not saying anything against it like I agree men will think that if I just set away
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But like surely if a guy came to you and said like
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Like first glance and didn't give you the time of day just because of your tattoos and the crop top and the nose ring and whatever
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You're you're emotionally intelligent enough to the clock on to that and be like, okay, well, you're not the type of guy
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You couldn't put me in a box like that. I'll show you in the box
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I choose to put this on my skin. I'm not that type of like cool. Maybe you can think all sorts of crazy things
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Trust me. I get all sorts of crazy reactions of the type of tattoos. I've have with the types of just like the way I dress
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Do you do you judge men based on how they dress like if a guy is dressed like a homeless man as?
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So so I'm saying like you started shaming men for judging her and say well, that's no, no, no, not you
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You and you were saying that oh, well, that's not the type of man. I would want anyways
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But how do you know that because if you saw a guy that was homeless that looked homeless even even though he wasn't
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You might disqualify him based on everyone disqualifies everyone based on looks not not shaming men as such
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But i'm just saying like for her like I'd hope that she was emotionally intelligent enough to be like, okay
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I can equally put you in a box and move on in my life
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It's you're taking a defensive stance and I think it's more about kind of being conscious and aware of of things
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I think I think the difference is is like is unnecessary. You don't have to defend yourself spiritually
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I think you just have to be more conscious that like those high-level guys will notice the tattoos
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But I don't care personally, but some guys will
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You gotta just accept that like I would say maybe if I wanted to date like bill gates son or like, you know
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Unfortunately, because you're beautiful. He'll probably lie to you
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I don't really judge people really like I know people would a hundred percent think things of me just because just purely based on my tattoos
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Just on that fact alone, I never let that really play into my mind like I have a very realistic mindset
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Well, I would just say if you if you do want to be married or you do want a long-term relationship
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Then I would dress like someone that wants to be in one
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Yeah, but I don't want to get married right now
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I don't need anyone to like guide the way I dress right now
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But obviously if I'm married if I have a man, no, no, I'm not gonna be
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You said you wanted to get married in the next couple years a couple years a few years more likely few years than a couple
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Okay, okay, maybe we need to add into that one percent though
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Like if you want to get married to somebody from that one percent. No, it's not. No, I'm sorry. No, it's just
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um, no men across the board judge women with tattoos
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You know if we're gonna say a balance of probability like there's exceptions
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But if we're gonna talk about across the board the men you want like i'm i'm from a pretty well-off community
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Most people in our circles make six figures and I can tell you that they they absolutely judge you if you have tattoos
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They absolutely judge you if you have piercings and I didn't always like this when I was younger
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Why like I was so mad that she wouldn't let me like do this stuff and then the older I get the more I see that she's right
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And I just you know, I really you know if if I can encourage you in a different direction, that's probably what I'm gonna do
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It's not the be all and end all though. Not at all
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I think I think you could actually end up making it something that works for you
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You can a classy woman with tattoo does stir some intrigue that could be interesting
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So when I'm not we're not giving you like some kind of final judgment. Yeah, it's not a death sentence at all
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Everyone in this room hated my tattoos. I love them. They're great tattoos. They're lovely. They're beautiful. Yeah
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I personally don't have a thing against tattoo, but i'm not gonna lie if I saw someone with tattoos
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It doesn't scream take me out to dinner talk to me every night treat me like wifey
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It kind of screams like you've probably had two or three toxic relationships
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Like you know, yeah, I get what you're that's my first impression. It's not on the journey. Yeah, you know
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But for real girls, I would say look at I do agree with feminists on one thing in that you you go
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You women have a lot against you now more than ever and that you have the worst role models ever
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There's very few role models and I always get the impression when I speak to
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When I see the women others look look up to other women look up to I just like you're looking up to people who don't have what you want
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You're looking up to women who are coping with their bad decisions
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34 year olds 32 year olds who are still in the club who are trying to sell you on this
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Whole culture and accept yourself and spirituality and they're not they're missing out the little bit where it says I messed up
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I missed the boat. I had all these opportunities at uni. I had all these opportunities
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I messed up and i'm still in this club with 21 year olds trying to pretend that i've got it all
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I guarantee you these women if they found a decent guy
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So just just remember that not everyone wants the best for you and those who there's all all women
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Yeah, they will lie to your face straight straight up like devil doesn't break into empty houses
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They're gonna lie to you take your time. It's chill doesn't matter, you know, accept yourself, you know
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Trust me after uni the amount of high-quality guys you meet on the dating scene reduces significantly
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In uni you're in a pool of just young people who are quite focused and going towards somewhere when you come out
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You're on tinder right on tinder anyone could be on tinder anyone could be on hinge people are trying to mess around people broke
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It's long and under more time as many of you know
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I was just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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