JustPearlyThings - @JWALLER Calls Out This Modern Woman On Her BS

00:00:00.000 Why is it all about what we can offer?

00:00:02.000 Why is it always about what we can bring?

00:00:03.420 What's about our values?

00:00:04.680 Because when you're trying to sell a car,

00:00:08.260 if you're trying to get married, right?

00:00:09.840 Please, I'm not saying that women are cars. 1.00

00:00:11.360 It's just an analogy.

00:00:14.260 But if you're trying to sell a car,

00:00:15.900 you have to study the buyer

00:00:16.800 and figure out what the buyers want.

00:00:18.840 And that's what men want.

00:00:20.680 And that's how it all became like a competition

00:00:23.660 between men and women, between everyone.

00:00:26.040 Because like, oh, I need to show off

00:00:28.500 that I know how to do this

00:00:30.020 and I need to show off how I can do that, but better.

00:00:33.720 You don't think that if you're trying to get married,

00:00:36.340 you should demonstrate that you have wife skills? 1.00

00:00:38.660 Of course.

00:00:39.200 Yeah, but like who has them at the end of the day?

00:00:41.520 Not everyone.

00:00:42.200 Not many women in 2022, no. 1.00

00:00:44.260 But do you know what though?

00:00:45.400 Have you ever read the book,

00:00:46.900 Why Do Men Love Bitches? 1.00

00:00:48.580 Oh yeah. 0.79

00:00:48.980 That was written by a single author

00:00:50.660 that is still single.

00:00:51.640 No.

00:00:52.400 These books are such a red...

00:00:54.380 I'm messing with someone

00:00:56.560 and I saw that book in the house

00:00:57.680 and I just cut it off.

00:00:58.640 I was like, you are alone.

00:01:00.300 That book is on my bedside table.

00:01:02.760 That was my Bible a few years ago.

00:01:05.160 Right next to her astrology set.

00:01:08.040 You have been misled, my dear.

00:01:09.600 But you said you've never been in a relationship

00:01:11.420 so it doesn't work.

00:01:12.320 No, I've been in a relationship.

00:01:13.620 That was me.

00:01:14.320 I've been in a relationship.

00:01:14.780 I thought that was you.

00:01:15.540 No, it was pretty teeth.

00:01:16.820 No, sorry, that was you.

00:01:17.720 I've been in a relationship.

00:01:19.000 Sorry, sorry.

00:01:19.420 I've been in a relationship.

00:01:20.200 But like, nah, like if you're not showing me

00:01:22.860 how you can protect me

00:01:23.840 and how you can provide for me,

00:01:24.640 I'm not cooking you a meal.

00:01:25.700 Get lost.

00:01:26.800 On a takeaway.

00:01:27.960 But why would you be with that guy 0.99

00:01:30.960 in the first place?

00:01:32.900 Well, Fez, but...

00:01:34.620 But you know, like for example,

00:01:37.180 to one of my exes once,

00:01:39.120 and it was like a slightly recent relationship,

00:01:42.800 and I was like, you know,

00:01:45.200 I prepared like his favorite dishes

00:01:47.560 because I know how to cook

00:01:49.100 because unfortunately my grandmother

00:01:50.660 taught me how to do it.

00:01:52.140 How do you say unfortunately?

00:01:52.960 Because then like, yeah, no, I know

00:01:55.200 for my friends it's good,

00:01:56.700 but like for then someone else

00:01:58.080 who's not appreciating it,

00:01:59.380 like why is it going to be good?

00:02:00.720 But why are you picking guys

00:02:01.700 that don't appreciate it?

00:02:02.740 Because then I found out like later on

00:02:05.180 that he wasn't really appreciating it.

00:02:07.440 Like, and you know,

00:02:08.120 like I found out that he cheated on me

00:02:10.040 and like, because I got messages everywhere

00:02:11.960 of people telling me

00:02:13.240 because like, you know,

00:02:14.280 it seems like sometimes people

00:02:15.420 have to come to you

00:02:16.680 and tell you what they want.

00:02:17.800 And we're like,

00:02:18.360 people making mistakes.

00:02:19.340 Hold on, pause for a second.

00:02:19.900 How did he not appreciate it?

00:02:22.080 No, he did because like,

00:02:23.540 he was like, oh my God,

00:02:24.340 this is one of my favorite dishes

00:02:25.560 that you can make.

00:02:26.340 And I was like, all right.

00:02:27.500 So then tell me like,

00:02:29.080 what have you done today?

00:02:30.220 And he lied.

00:02:31.580 And I was like,

00:02:32.180 so why would you lie to me

00:02:33.880 when you asking me

00:02:35.700 to be honest to you?

00:02:36.800 And I'm like,

00:02:37.620 because you can't handle the truth.

00:02:39.360 I can, trust me.

00:02:40.800 I have,

00:02:41.340 I've been through so many things

00:02:42.820 and he thought in his head

00:02:45.000 that I wasn't enough,

00:02:46.900 strong enough

00:02:47.660 to handle that fear.

00:02:49.740 But you left him

00:02:50.360 because of that issue.

00:02:51.620 Yeah, because like,

00:02:52.380 so you weren't strong enough

00:02:53.160 to handle that issue.

00:02:54.060 No, it's because like,

00:02:54.820 I don't,

00:02:55.400 you know what,

00:02:55.920 like, yeah. 0.99

00:02:57.240 I call bullshit. 0.99

00:02:58.160 But why would she stay? 1.00

00:02:59.380 Women make up reasons 1.00

00:03:00.380 they leave men

00:03:01.040 when they just fall out

00:03:01.820 of love with them.

00:03:03.000 Yeah.

00:03:03.280 So if you're really in love

00:03:04.340 with them,

00:03:04.600 you wouldn't have left them.

00:03:05.940 And yeah,

00:03:06.660 but like, you know,

00:03:07.320 by the way,

00:03:07.800 cooking's overrated.

00:03:08.740 Men don't care about that anymore. 1.00

00:03:09.800 No, I'm not.

00:03:10.320 No, I'm going to tell you.

00:03:11.140 I have Uber Eats.

00:03:12.000 I do care,

00:03:13.200 but I'll tell you,

00:03:14.040 I don't think it's like,

00:03:15.620 people act like

00:03:16.160 it's like some special thing.

00:03:17.460 Yeah.

00:03:17.880 I think it's like a,

00:03:19.160 it's like a normal thing

00:03:20.200 that would endear you

00:03:20.900 to a man, right?

00:03:21.760 Yeah, but like for example,

00:03:22.940 if I cook you a meal,

00:03:24.380 you owe me a relationship now,

00:03:26.120 you owe me like,

00:03:26.680 no, for example,

00:03:28.220 that's like a nice thing

00:03:29.000 to do for someone, right?

00:03:30.100 No, but you know what they say,

00:03:31.060 I love you,

00:03:31.760 but I love myself more,

00:03:32.900 so that's why I leave.

00:03:33.980 Yeah.

00:03:34.580 And because,

00:03:35.160 you know,

00:03:36.560 and I admit,

00:03:38.540 and I admit,

00:03:39.080 I'm still in love with that man.

00:03:40.180 He's the love of my life,

00:03:41.740 but like...

00:03:42.280 But you left him.

00:03:43.360 Yeah, because I love myself,

00:03:44.860 no, because I love myself more.

00:03:46.800 Did he leave because he cheated?

00:03:48.940 Would you say,

00:03:49.580 would you say that's selfish?

00:03:51.160 If valuing him,

00:03:52.580 you know,

00:03:52.900 I have a question.

00:03:54.320 Wouldn't you say that's selfish

00:03:55.560 to love yourself more?

00:03:57.460 No, because like,

00:03:58.620 you need,

00:03:59.920 you know,

00:04:00.220 like everyone says,

00:04:01.160 like you need to love yourself

00:04:02.220 before you love someone else.

00:04:03.500 No, everyone doesn't say that,

00:04:04.640 women say that. 1.00

00:04:05.380 I've never heard a man say that.

00:04:07.460 I'm pointing RuPaul.

00:04:09.300 No, I'm saying,

00:04:09.920 I'm pointing RuPaul.

00:04:10.700 Single women say that, 1.00

00:04:12.820 that you need to love yourself

00:04:14.080 before a relationship,

00:04:15.080 but if you want to start a family,

00:04:16.100 what do you have to love more?

00:04:16.960 The family.

00:04:17.880 Your kids.

00:04:18.860 Yeah,

00:04:19.260 you're right,

00:04:19.860 the family,

00:04:20.340 the kids,

00:04:20.880 and so it's like,

00:04:21.420 if you're already demonstrating

00:04:22.860 before you're even with a guy,

00:04:24.420 that you need to love yourself

00:04:25.620 more than the relationship,

00:04:27.140 then it's like,

00:04:27.640 you don't think that's selfish?

00:04:28.860 Yeah,

00:04:28.980 because your kids are going to be forever.

00:04:30.200 You said you're in love with him.

00:04:31.500 Yeah,

00:04:31.800 but like,

00:04:32.200 you should call him.

00:04:33.220 On the show live.

00:04:35.300 I'm just trying to get around

00:04:36.460 the idea that you said

00:04:37.900 you loved this guy

00:04:39.560 and he didn't tell you something,

00:04:41.180 he was dishonest to you, 0.87

00:04:42.840 but you could handle the truth,

00:04:44.220 but you fell out over this issue,

00:04:46.060 even though you just admitted

00:04:46.760 you love him,

00:04:47.360 so you've just shown

00:04:48.800 that he should have lied to you initially.

00:04:50.220 Yeah,

00:04:50.240 but like,

00:04:50.520 if you admit something,

00:04:51.740 I can deal with that,

00:04:53.240 but if you're telling me,

00:04:54.580 no,

00:04:55.000 I've been doing this instead of that,

00:04:56.900 and then I know what you've done.

00:04:59.120 Surely now is when

00:05:00.020 you actually build the trust

00:05:00.900 by showing you can handle the truth,

00:05:02.140 right?

00:05:02.840 Saying,

00:05:03.200 hey,

00:05:03.280 you don't need to lie to me anymore,

00:05:04.340 we can,

00:05:04.860 this is where you get to negotiate

00:05:06.280 and compromise,

00:05:07.360 right?

00:05:09.140 I mean,

00:05:09.580 I don't lie.

00:05:10.600 If valuing yourself meant like,

00:05:14.380 no,

00:05:14.700 if valuing them

00:05:15.780 meant disrespecting yourself,

00:05:17.980 would you still carry on doing it?

00:05:19.700 Do you think that's what it is?

00:05:21.220 Because we live in a world

00:05:22.080 full of girls 1.00

00:05:22.560 that put their ass 1.00

00:05:23.240 and titties on the internet 1.00

00:05:24.000 every day. 0.96

00:05:24.940 I am the first one.

00:05:26.080 If I'm valuing them.

00:05:27.680 Yeah,

00:05:27.880 so what you're saying 1.00

00:05:28.440 is absolute bullshit. 1.00

00:05:29.240 You weren't in love with that man. 1.00

00:05:30.340 You value yourself, 1.00

00:05:31.120 you're a sex worker. 1.00

00:05:31.860 Let's call it straight. 1.00

00:05:32.740 No,

00:05:32.900 but like,

00:05:33.460 oh,

00:05:33.800 I value myself,

00:05:34.880 I leave you for cheating, 1.00

00:05:35.880 you're a sex worker. 1.00

00:05:36.580 And I will admit, 0.99

00:05:37.640 I stopped doing it

00:05:38.820 while I was with him

00:05:39.580 because he asked me to,

00:05:41.020 and I tried to,

00:05:42.160 but then I went back to it

00:05:43.320 because I can't get enough of it.

00:05:45.120 And I don't mean it

00:05:45.780 to disrespect you,

00:05:46.580 but when I,

00:05:47.600 you can't get enough of it?

00:05:48.920 Oh,

00:05:49.180 yeah,

00:05:49.320 no.

00:05:49.640 Of the work?

00:05:50.640 Yeah.

00:05:51.020 In a professional sense,

00:05:52.060 or like?

00:05:52.620 Yeah.

00:05:53.080 It's fulfilling,

00:05:53.900 literally?

00:05:54.640 Yeah.

00:05:56.440 Every hole.

00:05:57.700 You need to get back

00:05:58.260 with this guy.

00:05:59.480 That guy really changed.

00:06:01.880 But another strand of this though

00:06:03.800 is perhaps what Justin

00:06:06.040 often talks about,

00:06:06.880 which is that

00:06:07.640 if he was genuinely high value,

00:06:09.800 he would have been up front

00:06:10.500 with you at the beginning

00:06:11.120 because you're saying

00:06:11.680 that he lied about it

00:06:12.540 or he concealed it.

00:06:13.900 Whereas actually,

00:06:14.800 if he'd have said up front,

00:06:15.760 listen,

00:06:16.200 you know,

00:06:16.440 you're my main girl,

00:06:17.180 but guess what?

00:06:19.300 Yeah.

00:06:19.940 That would have been preferable.

00:06:21.420 From my point of view,

00:06:22.340 I will be,

00:06:22.920 I was like,

00:06:23.640 you know,

00:06:23.920 if you were telling me

00:06:24.920 from the beginning,

00:06:25.620 like,

00:06:25.880 oh,

00:06:26.060 look,

00:06:26.260 I want to do this.

00:06:27.420 Yeah.

00:06:27.880 But,

00:06:28.120 and not use my job against me,

00:06:30.540 I could have thought about it

00:06:32.180 because otherwise,

00:06:33.560 I mean,

00:06:34.180 like,

00:06:34.380 you know what?

00:06:35.100 Like,

00:06:35.240 we can be polyamorous.

00:06:36.500 Everyone is doing it.

00:06:37.600 Let's try.

00:06:39.260 I think maybe that's what

00:06:40.440 we need to start respecting

00:06:41.620 a little bit more

00:06:42.640 as opposed to loyalty.

00:06:44.700 It's just the honesty.

00:06:45.900 The honesty.

00:06:46.560 Yeah.

00:06:46.760 It's just,

00:06:47.400 you know,

00:06:47.640 I'm a man.

00:06:48.500 Yeah.

00:06:48.780 And I don't like to have

00:06:50.220 someone else to come and tell me,

00:06:51.440 look,

00:06:51.620 your man went with him.

00:06:52.520 But here's the truth though,

00:06:53.380 because if a man came to you

00:06:54.580 and you truly loved him

00:06:55.480 and he set you down,

00:06:56.940 got everything out the way

00:06:57.840 and you were knee to knee

00:06:58.580 and he looked you dead in the eyes

00:06:59.480 and said,

00:06:59.820 listen,

00:07:00.240 I really care about you.

00:07:02.080 Obviously,

00:07:02.440 I'm going to see other women. 0.99

00:07:03.300 There's no way

00:07:03.820 I'll ever have feelings for them.

00:07:04.860 I'm going to take care of you completely.

00:07:06.180 I want to be the man

00:07:06.880 that makes your dreams come true.

00:07:08.400 Let's go to the dark side of the moon.

00:07:10.080 I'm going to be the rock

00:07:10.980 that your emotional weight

00:07:11.880 is crashing into.

00:07:12.460 I am there for you.

00:07:13.240 I am in love with you.

00:07:14.140 Let's have kids. 1.00

00:07:15.040 I'm going to have sex with women 1.00

00:07:16.160 every now and then. 1.00

00:07:17.180 That girl's delusional. 1.00

00:07:18.300 She doesn't know.

00:07:19.680 And he tells you the truth 0.96

00:07:21.140 instead of being a coward. 0.79

00:07:22.400 See, 0.95

00:07:22.580 the problem is

00:07:23.520 you don't like a man 0.99

00:07:25.080 that's going to be a coward 1.00

00:07:26.020 and lie behind your back 1.00

00:07:27.160 because he's too much of a bitch 1.00

00:07:28.420 to tell you the truth. 1.00

00:07:29.480 You know the truth.

00:07:30.720 You know the truth from the jump

00:07:31.660 that every man wants to do it.

00:07:32.960 It's the respect of sitting you down

00:07:34.460 and telling you the truth.

00:07:35.760 Furthermore,

00:07:36.420 most often when a woman 0.99

00:07:37.660 truly,

00:07:38.260 truly loves a man,

00:07:39.300 she does not want to sleep

00:07:40.400 with other men

00:07:41.100 at all.

00:07:42.380 It's not this,

00:07:43.120 oh,

00:07:43.300 you get to do it,

00:07:43.900 I want to do it too

00:07:44.720 because she's so in love

00:07:45.540 with a man.

00:07:46.380 She just wants to be with a man.

00:07:48.640 So,

00:07:49.840 in that way,

00:07:51.140 I really respect what you said

00:07:52.500 because it is true

00:07:53.480 in a lot of women 1.00

00:07:54.480 when a man has the balls 0.98

00:07:56.180 to actually tell the truth 0.98

00:07:57.180 will in fact stay

00:07:58.620 because they know

00:07:59.320 they can go get with the next guy,

00:08:00.500 live a shittier life 0.59

00:08:01.380 and then get lied to 1.00

00:08:02.300 from a coward. 0.99

00:08:03.120 I think it comes from the idea

00:08:05.280 and this might be controversial

00:08:06.700 but it's the idea that,

00:08:08.800 you know,

00:08:10.000 this is,

00:08:10.900 life's not fair,

00:08:12.260 this is how it is.

00:08:13.480 A thousand percent.

00:08:14.000 Men are men, 0.96

00:08:15.220 I don't know,

00:08:16.080 that's just how I feel.

00:08:17.720 If you're going to be,

00:08:18.880 men are men,

00:08:19.840 that's how they're going to be.

00:08:20.640 So,

00:08:20.840 if you're man enough to say,

00:08:23.100 look,

00:08:23.580 this is the truth,

00:08:25.180 this is what you're going to have to deal with,

00:08:26.500 I love you

00:08:27.240 but this is what it is,

00:08:29.460 I would take that any day over.

00:08:31.680 Well,

00:08:31.840 the issue is it's a marketplace,

00:08:33.200 isn't it?

00:08:33.560 You know,

00:08:33.740 and it's very unromantic

00:08:34.740 and it sounds very crude to say it

00:08:36.400 but the reality is that

00:08:37.160 dating,

00:08:38.040 sex, 0.67

00:08:38.580 relationships,

00:08:39.020 it's a big marketplace out there,

00:08:40.420 right?

00:08:40.660 So,

00:08:41.060 the guy who is high value,

00:08:43.100 who has options,

00:08:44.160 is going to exercise those options

00:08:46.280 in most cases,

00:08:47.400 right?

00:08:47.620 Now,

00:08:47.840 every guy wants to,

00:08:49.380 would like to,

00:08:50.560 have multiple women,

00:08:51.820 not every guy is going to be capable

00:08:52.980 of achieving that.

00:08:53.700 So,

00:08:53.820 you're going to get some guys

00:08:54.520 who are sort of lower down

00:08:55.600 in the hierarchy,

00:08:56.360 right?

00:08:56.760 You could date them

00:08:58.000 or you could marry them

00:08:59.200 and they would probably be faithful. 0.52

00:09:00.340 Or you go to a trans girl. 0.82

00:09:01.940 Okay.

00:09:03.080 One thing I think people

00:09:04.360 keep on missing with this

00:09:05.300 is that maybe you're not really

00:09:06.440 even messing with

00:09:07.240 the high quality people.

00:09:08.680 Maybe it's just a lot of mediocre

00:09:09.780 but good looking people

00:09:10.840 who have convinced themselves

00:09:12.180 that they're worthy of

00:09:13.560 the ultimate commitment

00:09:14.540 and love and attention

00:09:15.320 from each other 0.65

00:09:15.920 when you're all as mediocre 0.57

00:09:17.400 as each other, 0.97

00:09:18.340 right?

00:09:18.580 So,

00:09:18.880 if you're dating athletes

00:09:19.620 and rappers

00:09:20.080 who are known

00:09:20.760 for being promiscuous,

00:09:21.820 they're not particularly men

00:09:22.680 of high stature

00:09:24.000 in terms of character

00:09:24.900 and you're in a short skirt

00:09:27.000 at an after party,

00:09:28.200 you're not particularly

00:09:28.960 wife material right then.

00:09:30.400 So,

00:09:31.220 why do we kind of

00:09:32.640 convince ourselves

00:09:33.380 that we don't need to

00:09:34.380 compromise

00:09:35.020 and work for what we want?

00:09:37.100 Because I think men understand

00:09:38.040 that you have to work

00:09:39.020 to get the woman,

00:09:40.720 like the one.

00:09:41.760 But I never hear women 1.00

00:09:43.180 talk about all the things

00:09:44.240 they need to do

00:09:44.880 to qualify for the man

00:09:46.300 they actually want.

00:09:47.560 It seems like

00:09:48.040 you don't want to compromise,

00:09:49.440 he must be faithful,

00:09:50.520 he must have this,

00:09:51.120 he must have that,

00:09:51.740 he must be loyal.

00:09:52.360 Or most of the time

00:09:53.200 they say it when you're

00:09:53.940 not around there.

00:09:55.700 Most of the time

00:09:56.540 they can say it

00:09:57.300 when a man is not

00:09:58.320 around there.

00:09:58.900 We don't have to

00:09:59.920 explicitly state to you

00:10:01.340 what we, you know,

00:10:02.200 that's something we do

00:10:02.840 in ourselves

00:10:03.380 and with our girls.

00:10:04.140 Okay, many of you know

00:10:05.000 I was just banned

00:10:06.240 on TikTok

00:10:07.140 and we are demonetized

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JustPearlyThings - May 19, 2023

@JWALLER Calls Out This Modern Woman On Her BS

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