JustPearlyThings - May 19, 2023


@JWALLER DEBUNKS Mental Health


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Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

192.57594

Word count

1,942

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Hate speech

13

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss why a man is a fixer and why a woman needs to stop being one. We also discuss the importance of a healthy relationship with a man and why women need to stop blaming men for their problems.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 mother figure you would never say that because you respect him as a man
00:00:03.000 completely if you were such a high-value man then you wouldn't even have to have
00:00:06.900 those problems to fix exactly everyone has problems but then you saying that
00:00:13.140 you can't come home and like if you came back to your girl and saying you're
00:00:18.660 automatically a bitch like yeah but I was saying that based on what you said 1.00
00:00:23.860 because you said that you kept having to fix these problems that's what you said
00:00:28.400 no that's what the so so I'm saying based on that why would a guy bring you
00:00:32.220 his problems if you you you said yourself you don't like that you keep
00:00:36.000 being a fixer no I'm not saying that I don't like being a fixer I'm just saying
00:00:40.640 that's who I naturally am like that's the energy I vibrate is I'm just a fixer
00:00:47.240 like but that's not even like in relationships that's like every part of
00:00:51.920 my life that's my friendship like if if I'm having an argument with one of my
00:00:56.300 girls and her kind of vibe is like okay I need to step back and shut myself out 0.60
00:01:01.640 of this I don't work like that I'm like come on bro we need to try this we need
00:01:05.780 to fix this I'm gonna like I'm gonna give you some advice real quick and I hope you
00:01:09.560 don't take this disrespectfully I think you should burn whatever that book out
00:01:13.280 why men love bitches but burn that on a bonfire and read a book about divine 1.00
00:01:18.180 feminine etc because I think you have a naturally strong feminine energy but what's
00:01:22.240 gonna happen is you're gonna get used up you're gonna go to the club and give all
00:01:25.180 these feminine energies to guys who go to the club every day and run through 0.83
00:01:28.060 girls and after you finish using that up you're going to convince yourself that
00:01:32.420 men are trash many shit and that you need to change and you're gonna adapt more 0.88
00:01:36.020 more toxic behaviors until at 28 none of no trace of the woman the woman right 1.00
00:01:41.780 here who says she's a fixer exists because you've been used up and
00:01:44.620 disrespected for about five six years so I would say work on your strengths and
00:01:48.160 develop that feminine energy for sure but like I would say don't put yourself in 1.00
00:01:53.200 situations where you're going to be surrounded by men like that
00:01:55.400 yeah but like a man will never cry to you about his problems he's gonna go to
00:01:57.820 someone else because like trust me I had so many men's then that they were crying in
00:02:01.660 my shower and I was like all right what I what am I doing now real men don't cry
00:02:05.560 and prostitute showers either you know them because like everyone comes from 1.00
00:02:20.500 trauma everyone has trauma I've got trauma she has trauma she has trauma she has
00:02:25.160 trauma probably he has trauma and you have but a man but a man has a
00:02:29.180 responsibility I don't claim no I want to say I don't claim trauma I'm so sick of
00:02:33.200 hearing about this trauma I don't know trauma trauma supposed to be coming back
00:02:36.920 from war so that's a trauma supposed to be it's supposed to be I had a real
00:02:41.400 traumatic situation not my ex-boyfriend cheated on me not my parents weren't
00:02:47.720 around enough and I have some attachment style that nobody gives a shit about
00:02:51.200 because nobody cares about your problems like it's just I'm so tired of
00:02:55.060 hearing about this trauma because like people call it problems I mean
00:03:00.220 problems but it's not trauma issues they used to they used to use the word
00:03:04.000 trauma when men came back from war yeah for PTSD and now women have claimed the 0.76
00:03:08.740 words and use it for freaking everything do you agree with that term mental
00:03:15.280 health is that something no I think there are exceptions but I think in 2023 the
00:03:22.000 majority of people that claim mental health do not have mental health
00:03:25.000 that I agree with today in today's day and age a lot of people do claim it I think
00:03:30.160 that everybody everybody's depressed everybody's anxious everyone's this and I
00:03:33.700 feel like it's just all on the internet they believe everything they read it's like a trend
00:03:37.960 if a lot of people turned off their phone lived in the real world went outside spoke to people they
00:03:46.540 would be a lot happier these girls are on tik-tok can they make it dopamine and 1.00
00:03:51.700 yeah and then they convince themselves that they are depressed anxious and feminist yeah it's not 0.98
00:03:59.740 mental health is low IQ it's low IQ because they're too stupid to realize that they're getting lied to
00:04:05.380 nobody here pearls dead on if you put your phone down and had a real life and how
00:04:10.120 real things going for you mental health will go out the window wait so are you
00:04:12.760 relating mad about mental health IQ I think a lot of the people that buy into
00:04:17.680 bullshit like people that buy into the bullshit and they get told that they have a 0.69
00:04:25.540 health problem when really they're just fat and have a shit life if they turn their 0.84
00:04:29.180 life around their mental health problems would likely go away no I mean bad like 0.99
00:04:32.540 someone so say someone says like yeah I'm dealing with depression if someone
00:04:37.460 came along and said that would you relate that then to low IQ no I think you're
00:04:42.020 saying no I think falling for it and believing yeah of course you're not
00:04:48.800 putting a bad mental health state and a low IQ I would call that person probably
00:04:53.600 lazy right because they're depressed because they have a shit life victimhood has 0.70
00:04:59.540 become like the you know the currency the currency of the realm I knew someone that
00:05:04.460 was super depressed but he was like 300 pounds I'm like what do you expect
00:05:08.420 you can't see your dick I'd be a depressed too yeah I'd go cry in her shower if I 1.00
00:05:13.280 couldn't see all of that to the side imagine like you're rich you've got like good money good
00:05:20.740 friends good family yeah in the side like keep going you're just happy you portray
00:05:25.660 your happiness you're absolutely happy but just within yourself you're sad like
00:05:29.920 would you believe that's mental health no oh no no I would lack of character
00:05:35.080 building exercises you've been you've been defeated by your comfort I would
00:05:38.920 challenge you that I think that's what happens a lot of people think oh if you
00:05:42.140 just give men things that they should be happy it's about feeling happy within
00:05:46.620 yourself like okay let me I get what you're saying though I'm gonna land I think I think
00:05:50.780 people miss the fact that a lot of mental health and mental fortitude and self-esteem
00:05:55.160 comes from challenges it comes from overcoming so when you take that away from people especially
00:05:59.240 you see this in affluent kids when you take that away from people what do you have
00:06:02.060 literally a kid with money yeah and no purpose yeah no purpose no goal so I agree with him
00:06:06.900 on IQ I wouldn't even describe it as low IQ because I think it's how we're raising people
00:06:10.620 now I think was I grew up in a village in Nigeria so I come I come from a place
00:06:14.620 where like silence was my base in London growing up here you don't have silence you
00:06:18.580 have a phone from age eight from age eight you're you're completely exposed to this
00:06:22.940 internet with polarizing views and xyz it's how do you expect a young person to
00:06:27.340 navigate that and actually form coherent rational opinions itself is different from
00:06:31.400 the rest of the world well victimhood's at an all-time high victimhood's at an all-time
00:06:35.680 high and labeling things is also an all-time high because everybody was everybody
00:06:39.680 wants to go on tik-tok and have that have their tik-tok and talk about right I've got this I've got that I've got this
00:06:44.560 thing and you know you need to have a label it's like right what's the next
00:06:47.560 thing yeah so I think there's an almost like a competition for it now yeah and
00:06:50.980 I'll tell you what I'd add to what they both said I challenge you to do this go
00:06:54.220 find a man that makes a bunch of money yeah he's in jam up shape got great style
00:06:59.520 great life great friends travels and ask him if he's fucking sad find one but do you 0.94
00:07:07.240 know when I think happiness and joy is like two complete different things I feel
00:07:11.060 that happiness is like a fleeting a fleeting feeling that you will feel when
00:07:15.660 you're doing all these things but you know you have true joy when obstacles can
00:07:19.800 come your way and you don't travel no more you're maybe not having sex with all 0.80
00:07:24.620 these people but you still feel this peace within you and that's the difference
00:07:28.100 between that joy and happiness so yeah I think generally we need to I don't know I
00:07:33.660 think especially in today's day and age we need to walk a bit more in our
00:07:37.340 ignorance we have a problem doing that with accepting that you know what
00:07:41.120 especially at my a lot of people are walking in their ignorance to be bliss
00:07:47.880 if you really want to learn and could say that about it yeah yeah says the woman with a high value
00:07:56.420 fulfillment and happiness are completely two different things I think fulfillment and
00:08:04.500 happiness yeah yeah I mean happiness is a temporary mental state right fulfillment is a
00:08:08.560 bit more stable I want to I want to get through the rest of the panel because I
00:08:13.440 think the original question was was the girl should the girl have stayed oh yes so I
00:08:19.740 want to get you to I think you guys both said leave did you say leave no I will
00:08:24.720 stay for like I'm using we've I've been treated with honestly like I'm honest to
00:08:30.940 you you honest to me okay like let's do something else you'll say okay me no she's
00:08:37.020 she's next on you um to be honest I feel like because he for example the footballer
00:08:45.300 situation um if you're gonna go into a marriage you shouldn't be having to cheat
00:08:51.840 so then it's I would leave because I'm expecting a man to even even if he's the 1.00
00:08:56.900 he's the footballer what if he told you up front if he told me up front like I'm
00:09:02.580 cheating yeah you cheated on me and that's not what I wanted from you is it 1.00
00:09:08.280 cheating if he tells you yeah cheating is that she is cheating is the deceit
00:09:13.920 bullshit cheating is the deceit you're still cheating like regardless of what
00:09:20.820 you've done or whether you're going to do it whatever it is if you have those
00:09:24.240 thoughts you're not happy with me so well every man see everybody's got those
00:09:28.080 thoughts I would bet every dollar in my bank account that neither one of you
00:09:31.620 would leave Drake you're both that's just like degrading myself because why am I
00:09:39.300 letting a man cheat on me yeah why are you flexing on all your girlfriends going
00:09:43.120 and living in a mansion as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock and we
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