@JWALLER Loses His Cool With This Modern Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss toxic masculinity and what it means to be a woman in modern day modern day relationships. We discuss what toxic masculinity means to us, how toxic masculinity affects us, and how to deal with toxic masculinity.
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out of curiosity what do you what do you think that men want me personally
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i think men want an outlet an emotional outlet when they come home you know and when they've
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had a shitty day and whatever i think they want an emotional outlet i think they want
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someone that they can like it's it's difficult you need to burn that book burn that book on
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your bedside i need you five things five things that i think that you think that no i'm gonna
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have you do it and then i'm gonna have alex do it so i'm gonna pick two yeah so an emotional
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outlet what else emotional outlet loving i think they want a mother you want a mother
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i do i will go as far and say say stability i think they do want stability i i know they do
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silly things but i do deep down believe they want stability somewhere what's what's one skill
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that a girl would have to have or like trait watching it for a man yeah for a man that
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like what would he value don't say ironing do you know what today's is i'm just gonna say it
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being be his mother be his mother that's what men want just get rid of this book listen
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okay this is the most delusional shit i've ever heard in my life you are describing a child
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i think she's describing a child i think there's also the undertone of disrespect to say to a man
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that you're going to be his mother i think it's that where you see like the modern feminism that
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ego come in yeah that like you you look at she's definitely because if you want to play the mother
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then you must on some level look at him as your son right which is disrespectful to do you date
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men that are children no but you just said they don't want to know but i think i think i think she's
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dated italians i think i think that a lot of men do have some really deep rooted issues that stem
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from the family environment and where they've grown up and who's been around and if they've had a father
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figure if they've had a mother figure i think a lot of issues that they deal with in their present
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modern day relationships does stem from that is that the type of men you've dated no i'm not saying
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that but i'm just saying i'm asking you from seeing my girls and how i've seen other people's and other
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people's relationships so what about the men you've dated so they don't have those issues
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so i'm asking about you in my past yeah but that's something that i've recognized like my mom
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um she's a lawyer and she deals a lot with like narcissistic relationships and stuff so i've
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learned how to kind of navigate through that so why do you why do you think you attract those men
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do you know what i'll tell you why i attract those men because i'm a fixer that's what type of person
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i am i like to fix people and you've got that motherly you've got that motherly yorkshire accent as
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well i'll be all right all right all right all right have a have a have a don't put something
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like don't worry about it so so it's it's there's nothing of it's it's just that you're a fixer i
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just think i'm a fix i naturally like to tend to people and tend to people's emotions and i like to
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know that you're all all right and that's just naturally who i am if i can't fix you but if you
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keep giving me problems i'll try and fix and fix and fix and fix and fix and fix and if i can't fix
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can i have an example of a problem um let me think let me think i just you kept saying fix and
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fix i thought there was like this would be easy well the first problem is coming home and crying
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to you in the first fucking place what the hell are you gonna do about it right not crying like
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that but i mean emotional outlet a man's job is to be the mountain that a woman's emotional waves
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crash into if he needs you to be strong enough to go to work the next day you need to find a new
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man or find a man in general but then that bleeds into toxic masculinity don't it does it
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a man has emotions himself oh yeah okay yeah cool so how about he keeps them to himself and maybe
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talks to his colleagues at work about fixing the problem not coming home like a little bitch to his
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wife if he can't make her feel safe truly feel safe you think him coming home and telling you
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about his problems at work is going to come to me and tell me safe and protected you're going to
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feel safe and protected i see what he's supposed to be the fucking hero he's supposed to have charge
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of the situation coming home and crying to you like a little bitch is going to do nothing but
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dry your pussy up i'm telling you right now you're wrong crying not crying yeah crying so to his
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mother i think a man has to be comfortable enough to be able to tell me if he's not comfortable
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enjoy your cats i'm not saying no i'm not saying that you don't i'm not saying that you don't tell
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me but i'm just saying that i want you to know that you can talk to me exactly but it's a double
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it's like a double-edged sword because you also said that you're mothering him and that you keep
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having to fix these problems so why would he bring the problems to you because you're the
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man should never bring his problems no but i'm saying based on your that's what you said you said
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you kept having to fix the problem and fix and fix and fix no i'm saying like within me like
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if i can't feel like you don't have a problem and maybe that is the man i attract i don't know
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but like i i that's who i naturally am i'm a fixer like if i can see a problem i'll just try and try
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and chip away at it chip away until i get to the root of it and then it's sorted see i i personally
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i interpret what you say with like such an undertone of disrespect because to fix someone you must think
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that they are broken on some level and to to think of yourself as their mother you must think of them
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as a son i i feel like i hear a lot of undertones of like i don't really rate this guy and he's kind
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of my project when i look at him as like something that i kind of add new bits onto a garage workshop
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and then i think women a lot a lot of the time use that as a defense mechanism because when they
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break up they say oh he had all these issues you know he couldn't do anything he was always crying
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xyz i think if you're going to support someone you have to respect them and if you respect them you
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wouldn't you wouldn't say i think an old school woman wouldn't say oh i'm always fixing my
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husband's issues yeah i mean he cries to me at night i'm definitely his like mother figure you
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would never say that because you'd respect him as a man completely if you were such a high value man
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then you wouldn't even have to have those problems to fix exactly everyone has problems everyone's
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how they fix of course but then you saying that you can't come home and like if you came back to
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your girl and saying oh babe this happened this happened you're automatically a bitch like
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everybody has problems yeah but i was saying that based on what you said because you said that you
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kept having to fix these problems that's what you said no that's what so so i'm saying based on that
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why would a guy bring you his problems if you you you said yourself you don't like that you keep being a
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fixer no i'm not saying that i don't like being a fixer i'm just saying that's who i naturally i'm like
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that's the energy i vibrate is i'm just a fixer like but that's not even like in relationships
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that's like every part of my life that's my friendship like if if i'm having an argument
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with one of my girls and her kind of vibe is like okay i need to step back and shut myself out of
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this i don't work like that i'm like come on bro we need to try this we need to fix this i'm gonna i'm
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gonna give you some advice real quick and i hope you don't take this disrespectfully i think
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you should burn whatever that book why men love bitches but burn that on a bonfire and read a book
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about divine feminine etc because i think you have a naturally strong feminine energy but what's
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going to happen is you're going to get used up you're going to go to the club and give all this
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feminine energies to guys who go to the club every day and run through girls and after you finish
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using that up you're going to convince yourself that men are trash men ain't shit and that you need
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to change and you're going to adapt more and more toxic behaviors until at 28 none of no trace of
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the woman the woman right here who says she's a fixer exists because you've been used up and
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disrespected for about five six years so i would say work on your strengths and develop that feminine
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energy for sure but like i would say don't put yourself in situations yeah but like a man a man
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will never cry to you about his problems he's gonna go to someone else because like trust me i had so
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many men's then that they were crying in my shower and i was like all right what i what am i doing now
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real men don't cry in prostitute showers either
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no seriously no they don't they fucking don't bro like they don't okay
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you know them because like everyone comes from trauma everyone has trauma i've got trauma she has
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trauma she has trauma she has trauma probably he has trauma and you have but a man but a man has a
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responsibility i don't claim no i want to say i don't claim trauma i'm so sick of hearing about
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this trauma i don't have trauma trauma supposed to be coming back from war that's what trauma is
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supposed to be it's supposed to be i had a real traumatic situation not my ex-boyfriend cheated on
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me not my parents weren't around enough and i have some attachment style that nobody gives a shit
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about because nobody cares about your problems like it's just i'm so tired of hearing about this
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trauma so how do you call it then because like people call it problems i mean problems but it's
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not trauma like issues they used to they used to use the word trauma when men came back from war
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yeah for pts and now women have claimed the word and use it for freaking everything do you agree with
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that term mental health is that something no i think there are exceptions but i think in 2023 the
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majority of people that claim mental health do not have mental health oh that i agree with today
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in today's day and age a lot of people do claim it i think that everybody everybody's depressed
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everybody's anxious everyone's this and i feel like it's just all on the internet they believe
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everything they read it's like a trend if a lot of people if a lot of people turned off their phone
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lived in the real world went outside spoke to people they would be a lot of happy
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these girls are on tiktok and they fake dopamine and yeah and then they convince themselves that
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they are depressed anxious and feminists yeah feminists too
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i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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