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00:00:00.000 how long is too long to stay in the talking stage

00:00:03.160 define talking stage so you're not an official relationship but you're like hooking up

00:00:08.920 and spending a lot of time together i think depends on the person

00:00:13.820 i wouldn't define it by time oh yeah that's all it's all personal like it's all relative

00:00:23.380 you guys are taking it at like what she said like yeah if you guys are communicating enough

00:00:29.500 like say i'm dating a guy like this is where the dating stage comes in if you're dating a dating

00:00:34.780 a guy or your partner i don't want to specify like a guy or girl specify thank you guys

00:00:41.640 specify like a guy or girl if you're dating your partner like a person a human being um i feel like

00:00:50.020 it just depends on your connection where you're at where you're at okay but there's okay but there's

00:00:54.140 always going to be a line right so we get we get to where you're at in your life all right like

00:00:59.360 what if you want in your life for example like long like long distance like us being here and

00:01:04.440 then being in america like maybe dating exclusively isn't what's working so it's like maybe you're

00:01:11.340 gonna talk for a while and then i don't know okay i feel like a year talking for me personally that

00:01:17.080 would be like no so a year what do you say how long is too long um i really think it depends on

00:01:24.640 the strength of the relationship but i will say speaking from my current relationship her and i

00:01:30.380 were actually talking for a long time like i would say like six months and i'm not that kind of person

00:01:34.420 typically i want to date like not right away but like maybe after a month or two like i feel like

00:01:39.620 all right what are we doing at this point but she was willing to be patient enough with me because

00:01:44.120 i was healing from whatever was going on in my past relationship and she was very patient

00:01:48.280 and when i was finally ready like she was like i want to get in a relationship you know i asked

00:01:53.340 her to be my girlfriend and things worked out just fine for us

00:01:56.380 we try our best we try our best we did here's the thing we did um break up recently but then got

00:02:06.900 back together we just had like a really really rough situation yeah she bro literally she saw

00:02:14.720 where she went wrong in this situation because like it was more so something i had a problem with

00:02:18.500 and she took responsibility gave me a long ass apology and she sent me a dozen roses and my favorite 0.68

00:02:25.700 chocolates and a card because she wants me to know like she's in it for me she wants to know that she

00:02:32.160 loves me um so knowing that she's so patient with me and understanding and i do the same for her like

00:02:37.660 that's a really healthy relationship and that doesn't typically happen like most people can't

00:02:42.620 communicate so you know so what if you did that for a year do you think you still would have kept

00:02:47.000 talking i think so yeah with her absolutely anybody else probably not probably not that's

00:02:52.320 problem because her and i were already in a long distance relationship back home she lives in

00:02:55.740 maryland and i'm in new jersey jess i want to hear what you have to say how long is too long

00:02:59.760 i think for talking and then i have a question for everybody what does talking mean though can i

00:03:07.880 can i ask i'm just to find it

00:03:09.700 like real yeah super fast i feel like a lot of these questions like me too we're all going into

00:03:16.940 like personal like whatever right like we need to look at it more like hypothetical or just like

00:03:21.660 like if you just met someone or like you start to like not thinking about like i think that it all

00:03:27.460 depends on the situation because i've known people who have met somebody and during the pandemic they

00:03:35.780 talked all the time and the talking stage was maybe like a few weeks and they started dating or a few

00:03:41.820 months and they started dating but i think it just depends on the situation and how much time you do

00:03:46.840 spend with that person to get to know them so so in this situation you're seeing them a couple times a

00:03:51.400 week you're sleeping there sleeping with them like let's say three three to four times a week

00:03:55.540 yeah yeah how how how long is too long in general i know there's specific instances like that's

00:04:04.840 always going to be but like in general i think that too long is

00:04:10.320 if i'm spending two three times a week with you you should know me by the end of like i would say

00:04:17.900 three four months six months to a year and it may be too long i agree i agree you apparently get to

00:04:26.080 know like the person fully who they are after three months so it only makes sense to get into a

00:04:30.760 relationship after three months yeah like you should not exceed that point and just yeah trying to get

00:04:34.940 to know each other because right you know me yeah you know i've been with you three days

00:04:39.360 right okay what about you what about you can i just say you know when you said oh like following

00:04:48.740 what you said um you get to know someone after two three months i think i i personally disagree with

00:04:56.000 that i think you get to know someone to an extent i feel like it's but isn't that what relationships

00:05:00.340 are for that's that's what you're talking about you know them to a certain point and then you get

00:05:04.540 in the relationship but i feel like don't you really want to get to know someone before you get

00:05:08.520 into that relationship do you before you're fully committing yourself to that it's not marriage it's

00:05:13.660 a relationship you can end tomorrow but that's society right i feel like what if i chose to really

00:05:19.660 connect with you and talk to you and date you for maybe a year hold on wait hold on

00:05:26.120 she's like i know your girls like to tussle but yeah say i hold it for a year but then maybe i 1.00

00:05:34.480 might find something about you about 11 months into it and i might be like whoa that's crazy

00:05:40.680 that's actually crazy you actually handled that like that say that's that ongoing stuff say

00:05:45.420 but then that you would communicate with them like exactly yo i didn't like the way you're not

00:05:50.980 going right but say there's still stuff that they're not showing you because i thought early on

00:05:54.900 but there's always it doesn't matter people are married to people they don't know there is

00:05:58.920 always going to be some fear of the unknown but like i do you want to live your life in fear of

00:06:03.480 like one thing like why would why would but why wouldn't you try why don't you like go into the

00:06:09.760 relationship and try it try to still at least control the narrative on your part like

00:06:13.660 no one no you can you can it's the conversation communicating i feel like i could really be with you

00:06:23.520 for 11 months but i think it's the same like don't don't get to that's my full opinion like it could

00:06:27.800 be like i could get into a relationship of two months and then find out something to you one week

00:06:31.380 after i get into that relationship with you i'm like oh no same for me but i think it works i don't

00:06:36.400 think there's a definitive answer i think gabby wanted to say something next do you still have it

00:06:40.280 oh you were you were just like putting i know i was i think she was

00:06:43.740 you just might not like that motherfucker if it's gonna take you that long to get into 0.98

00:06:51.080 that's just the way that i see it you just are not committed like you it's like you want to try

00:06:57.180 and force yourself to like them but at the end of the day if it's not there it's not there

00:07:00.980 but what if i do and i just know mentally but like then what what are you waiting for

00:07:05.360 someone better someone better you're already at that point in a relationship

00:07:08.820 what logically i think has everyone ever fought with that like with their brain instead of their

00:07:17.120 heart and their pussy clearly not we've all been in toxic relationships 0.99

00:07:21.700 okay okay okay um next super chat remember guys all donations are going towards more mics don't don't be

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00:07:43.820 okay guys guys guys guys they can't hear if we're talking guys guys guys guys guys um okay next

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JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023

Lesbian Share Experience with Partner

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