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Summary
How long is too long to stay in the "talking stage" of a relationship? How long should you wait to get into a relationship if you have been dating for a while and you start talking to your significant other? How much time should you spend in the talking stage?
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how long is too long to stay in the talking stage
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define talking stage so you're not an official relationship but you're like hooking up
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and spending a lot of time together i think depends on the person
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i wouldn't define it by time oh yeah that's all it's all personal like it's all relative
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you guys are taking it at like what she said like yeah if you guys are communicating enough
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like say i'm dating a guy like this is where the dating stage comes in if you're dating a dating
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a guy or your partner i don't want to specify like a guy or girl specify thank you guys
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specify like a guy or girl if you're dating your partner like a person a human being um i feel like
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it just depends on your connection where you're at where you're at okay but there's okay but there's
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always going to be a line right so we get we get to where you're at in your life all right like
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what if you want in your life for example like long like long distance like us being here and
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then being in america like maybe dating exclusively isn't what's working so it's like maybe you're
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gonna talk for a while and then i don't know okay i feel like a year talking for me personally that
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would be like no so a year what do you say how long is too long um i really think it depends on
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the strength of the relationship but i will say speaking from my current relationship her and i
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were actually talking for a long time like i would say like six months and i'm not that kind of person
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typically i want to date like not right away but like maybe after a month or two like i feel like
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all right what are we doing at this point but she was willing to be patient enough with me because
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i was healing from whatever was going on in my past relationship and she was very patient
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and when i was finally ready like she was like i want to get in a relationship you know i asked
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her to be my girlfriend and things worked out just fine for us
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we try our best we try our best we did here's the thing we did um break up recently but then got
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back together we just had like a really really rough situation yeah she bro literally she saw
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where she went wrong in this situation because like it was more so something i had a problem with
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and she took responsibility gave me a long ass apology and she sent me a dozen roses and my favorite
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chocolates and a card because she wants me to know like she's in it for me she wants to know that she
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loves me um so knowing that she's so patient with me and understanding and i do the same for her like
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that's a really healthy relationship and that doesn't typically happen like most people can't
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communicate so you know so what if you did that for a year do you think you still would have kept
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talking i think so yeah with her absolutely anybody else probably not probably not that's
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problem because her and i were already in a long distance relationship back home she lives in
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maryland and i'm in new jersey jess i want to hear what you have to say how long is too long
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i think for talking and then i have a question for everybody what does talking mean though can i
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like real yeah super fast i feel like a lot of these questions like me too we're all going into
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like personal like whatever right like we need to look at it more like hypothetical or just like
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like if you just met someone or like you start to like not thinking about like i think that it all
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depends on the situation because i've known people who have met somebody and during the pandemic they
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talked all the time and the talking stage was maybe like a few weeks and they started dating or a few
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months and they started dating but i think it just depends on the situation and how much time you do
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spend with that person to get to know them so so in this situation you're seeing them a couple times a
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week you're sleeping there sleeping with them like let's say three three to four times a week
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yeah yeah how how how long is too long in general i know there's specific instances like that's
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always going to be but like in general i think that too long is
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if i'm spending two three times a week with you you should know me by the end of like i would say
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three four months six months to a year and it may be too long i agree i agree you apparently get to
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know like the person fully who they are after three months so it only makes sense to get into a
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relationship after three months yeah like you should not exceed that point and just yeah trying to get
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to know each other because right you know me yeah you know i've been with you three days
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right okay what about you what about you can i just say you know when you said oh like following
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what you said um you get to know someone after two three months i think i i personally disagree with
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that i think you get to know someone to an extent i feel like it's but isn't that what relationships
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are for that's that's what you're talking about you know them to a certain point and then you get
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in the relationship but i feel like don't you really want to get to know someone before you get
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into that relationship do you before you're fully committing yourself to that it's not marriage it's
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a relationship you can end tomorrow but that's society right i feel like what if i chose to really
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connect with you and talk to you and date you for maybe a year hold on wait hold on
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she's like i know your girls like to tussle but yeah say i hold it for a year but then maybe i
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might find something about you about 11 months into it and i might be like whoa that's crazy
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that's actually crazy you actually handled that like that say that's that ongoing stuff say
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but then that you would communicate with them like exactly yo i didn't like the way you're not
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going right but say there's still stuff that they're not showing you because i thought early on
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but there's always it doesn't matter people are married to people they don't know there is
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always going to be some fear of the unknown but like i do you want to live your life in fear of
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like one thing like why would why would but why wouldn't you try why don't you like go into the
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relationship and try it try to still at least control the narrative on your part like
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no one no you can you can it's the conversation communicating i feel like i could really be with you
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for 11 months but i think it's the same like don't don't get to that's my full opinion like it could
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be like i could get into a relationship of two months and then find out something to you one week
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after i get into that relationship with you i'm like oh no same for me but i think it works i don't
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think there's a definitive answer i think gabby wanted to say something next do you still have it
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oh you were you were just like putting i know i was i think she was
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you just might not like that motherfucker if it's gonna take you that long to get into
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that's just the way that i see it you just are not committed like you it's like you want to try
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and force yourself to like them but at the end of the day if it's not there it's not there
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but what if i do and i just know mentally but like then what what are you waiting for
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someone better someone better you're already at that point in a relationship
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what logically i think has everyone ever fought with that like with their brain instead of their
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heart and their pussy clearly not we've all been in toxic relationships
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