JustPearlyThings - July 28, 2023


Man BREAKS UP With Single Mother For This Reason

Topics
single mother homes problems societal issues
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

165.96

Word count

1,303

Sentence count

124

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

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Toxicity

11

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Hate speech

17

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Summary

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Single motherhood is a huge issue in our society. Single motherhood leads to a lot of problems, especially when it comes to raising a child with a single parent. I talk about single motherhood and why it s a problem.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Men dating single mothers comes with a bunch of problems. 0.61
00:00:05.280 As a sister, I would never want my brother to date a mother with a child. 1.00
00:00:11.280 I really think that once you have a kid, you've kind of made your bed.
00:00:14.980 You should lie in it.
00:00:16.160 If you get lucky and find a husband, that's great.
00:00:19.120 But you're kind of donezo.
00:00:21.040 Like, honestly, I really don't think you should make a child with a man and not marry him.
00:00:26.020 And I think you should never leave if you have a kid with someone.
00:00:30.000 But there is a single mother who recently was dumped because her child was so poorly behaved.
00:00:39.040 There is a clip going viral on Instagram of a man dumping a chick for her son.
00:00:46.100 So why is you breaking up with me?
00:00:47.280 Why?
00:00:47.900 Why?
00:00:49.500 Okay, so you're going to break up with me because of my son?
00:00:52.840 I was trying to teach him right from wrong.
00:00:56.060 Man, give me the gun, dog. 0.79
00:00:58.120 What you mean?
00:00:58.800 What you say?
00:01:00.000 I said.
00:01:01.260 So you're going to break up with me because of my child?
00:01:04.340 He's just a child. 1.00
00:01:06.180 He's bad, dog.
00:01:07.360 He just need a little guidance, man.
00:01:09.620 Like, don't.
00:01:10.700 That's a petty reason to break up with somebody.
00:01:12.540 I ain't going to lie.
00:01:13.400 How?
00:01:14.140 Oh, wow.
00:01:14.740 Over a 10-year-old?
00:01:16.580 Over a 10-year-old.
00:01:18.360 Over a 10-year-old.
00:01:20.160 Over a 10-year-old.
00:01:21.040 Okay?
00:01:22.720 No, he's bad.
00:01:23.860 Right?
00:01:24.340 Okay, but that's not no reason to break up with nobody.
00:01:26.520 I can't do it no more, man.
00:01:28.080 So you're going to throw all these years down the drain?
00:01:33.300 You know what the crazy thing about that clip is?
00:01:38.980 The kid is actively disrespecting the stepdad, and she's not doing anything.
00:01:44.560 He's swearing at him. 0.89
00:01:45.980 He's shooting him with a Nerf gun. 0.94
00:01:49.680 And the mother doesn't do anything. 1.00
00:01:52.360 But I bet if he disciplined the child, then World War III would break up.
00:01:58.720 And this is the thing.
00:01:59.840 If single mothers want to be married, they have to give the stepdad authority to discipline 1.00
00:02:06.080 their kid.
00:02:06.940 It's not a fair deal.
00:02:08.340 It's already an unfair deal coming into a marriage with another man's kid.
00:02:12.380 And it becomes even more unfair when now he doesn't even have the authority to discipline
00:02:18.900 the child.
00:02:19.660 This is why a lot of men will pass on single mothers, because they don't want to be disrespected
00:02:25.780 in their own house.
00:02:27.320 And at the end of the day, that child is not his.
00:02:30.260 And now he's dealing with another man's mess, another man's problem.
00:02:34.840 And maybe that's an insensitive way to talk about children, but I'm sorry.
00:02:38.920 That's how men see it.
00:02:41.820 And this is just a whole headache that a lot of guys don't want to sign up for or sign
00:02:47.340 up for without realizing what they're signing up for.
00:02:51.260 And what percent of single mothers would give full authority to the stepfather to discipline 0.99
00:02:57.080 their kid, would allow the stepfather to discipline their kid even when they disagree
00:03:02.340 with it?
00:03:03.140 And this is why we keep going back to responsibility.
00:03:06.400 The responsibility of having that child without the authority over it, it's not a fair deal
00:03:13.240 for men.
00:03:13.800 It's the same thing with women having the responsibility of looking after a woman, but 0.99
00:03:18.420 not any authority over her.
00:03:20.720 That it's not a fair deal.
00:03:23.700 And so my question is, can we really blame the men for not wanting to date single mothers?
00:03:28.940 Can we really blame the men for not wanting to date older women and all the problems that
00:03:34.760 come with it?
00:03:36.000 I personally think no.
00:03:37.860 And I think we should really warn younger women that if you get pregnant, you've really 1.00
00:03:42.420 made your bed and your chance of having a successful relationship after being a single
00:03:47.580 mother is low because one, men aren't going to want to date you. 1.00
00:03:51.780 And even if they do, it comes with these type of problems.
00:03:54.780 That's a more honest message than the simping and pandering that I see today that, oh, men 1.00
00:04:01.800 will still date single mothers.
00:04:03.220 You could still get remarried and all this stuff.
00:04:05.980 Yes, you can.
00:04:07.260 And it can happen.
00:04:08.700 But you're really shooting yourself in the foot.
00:04:11.420 And we need to stop putting single motherhood on a pedestal. 0.67
00:04:14.920 We need to stop putting these women on a pedestal that we should praise them. 0.99
00:04:18.840 When single mother homes contribute to every problem in society. 1.00
00:04:24.100 Emotional men are a problem.
00:04:26.940 It leads to homeless men. 0.99
00:04:28.400 It leads to men with mental disorders.
00:04:31.020 It leads to men that go to prison.
00:04:33.540 It leads to men that commit suicide.
00:04:36.420 Every problem that you can look at in society really is linked to single mother homes. 1.00
00:04:41.800 It is not linked to single father homes.
00:04:43.780 So the question is, one, why do women automatically get custody? 1.00
00:04:47.920 And two, why are we putting single motherhood on a pedestal like this is something that men
00:04:54.500 should sign up for when it is clear that these are the issues?
00:04:59.180 That kid was not well behaved.
00:05:01.160 And it's clear because he's had a decade of living with a mother that does not allow the stepfather
00:05:07.640 to discipline him and is not getting proper discipline at home.
00:05:11.880 Young boys need discipline from young men. 1.00
00:05:15.420 Women cannot do it the same way that men can. 1.00
00:05:18.400 That's why, honestly, guys, I think it's quite weird when you see female bosses like yelling 1.00
00:05:23.780 at young men.
00:05:24.940 It's like such a weird dynamic to me.
00:05:27.360 It's a weird dynamic to see like women having power over men. 1.00
00:05:33.400 I just think it's weird to look at.
00:05:36.160 And I think it's an improper authority structure.
00:05:40.320 But maybe I'm crazy.
00:05:42.920 Maybe I'm just sexist. 0.91
00:05:44.800 Maybe I'm just a misogynist.
00:05:46.940 I don't know.
00:05:47.560 I think I think it's actually meaner to tell women that the proper authority structures 0.99
00:05:55.700 that were equal to men and have an equal say.
00:05:58.180 I think that's mean because as women, we damn near believe anything.
00:06:02.080 You can really our minds are basically like kid minds and they can propagate us.
00:06:07.560 They can just make us really believe damn near anything.
00:06:10.800 So I think it's mean to tell women that we are equal to men because it messes up the authority
00:06:17.420 structure in the home.
00:06:18.740 It messes up the authority structure at work.
00:06:21.180 And it has us live in this delusional world where we think we're equal to men when we are
00:06:26.720 not.
00:06:27.000 We do not bring equal value to the family and we do not bring equal value to the society.
00:06:32.280 Because if we did, we could do it on our own.
00:06:34.800 If we were able to do that, if we brought equal value, then we could go off on our own,
00:06:42.660 be single mothers and raise good kids.
00:06:44.760 But that's not what happened.
00:06:46.040 If we brought equal value to society, then we would go off and make these matriarchal world 1.00
00:06:52.580 powers with all of our brain power because we're such geniuses.
00:06:58.280 But we're not.
00:06:59.900 And that's the thing.
00:07:01.200 Like they have just told us that we're queens for so long.
00:07:04.060 They've told us, they've even brainwashed us in the church telling us, oh, we need to
00:07:09.420 equally submit to our husband. 1.00
00:07:11.420 Guys, we have to start calling this shit out. 0.99
00:07:13.800 Anything that implies we're equal is evil and it is brainwashing and it is meant to break 0.99
00:07:20.740 down the family and break down society.
00:07:24.440 But guys, maybe I'm crazy.
00:07:26.780 Maybe I'm just talking these conspiracy theories, just acting wild. 0.98
00:07:32.400 You know, being this just crazy chick. 0.98
00:07:37.700 You know, maybe women should overpower men. 1.00
00:07:40.820 Maybe women are the queens and the prize. 1.00
00:07:43.940 Let me know in the comments what you guys think.
00:07:46.360 Like the video on your way out.
00:07:47.940 Subscribe to the channel and I'll talk to you next time.
00:07:50.400 Bye.
00:07:50.680 Bye.
00:07:50.940 Bye.