JustPearlyThings - July 27, 2023


Pearl Hits Modern Woman With This Reality

Topics
college experience
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Modern Women Don't Understand The Concept Of MARRIAGE Modern Man Claimed to be FAITHFUL

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

220.41

Word count

2,159

Sentence count

215

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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Toxicity

17

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about cheating, being single, and why it's good to be single. We also talk about the importance of being single and how to deal with being single in the dating world. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode and we hope you find some value in it!

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Were you doing it for ten? If I ate dessert every day for ten years, wouldn't it be hard to quit?
00:00:06.240 Very.
00:00:06.960 Yeah, and it's the same thing with that. So guys kind of look at, okay, how long did you do it for?
00:00:11.420 When did you do it? And how bad was it?
00:00:14.640 What's an acceptable age to stop kind of going out and being a spouse?
00:00:18.420 I mean, I wouldn't recommend, like, if you want to be a wife, if that's the outcome, I wouldn't recommend doing it at all. 0.99
00:00:23.720 But, you know, this youngest, you can't stop.
00:00:26.840 Especially like people who go to university where it's like you have more access and like there's no parental, that's when a lot of people do their experimenting and that's when they say like I went through my hose phase.
00:00:37.060 That's so true.
00:00:37.980 Do you know what I'm saying? That's when a lot of people have their like college experience where I was like, I had a pizza with this person with like just random shit because everyone's just horny because your hormones are like raging. 0.99
00:00:47.540 Everyone's just, you know what I mean? 0.98
00:00:49.080 Especially when you've just lost it, I feel like.
00:00:50.940 Because when I just lost my like, sorry if it's sensitive, but when I just lost my virginity, I just went crazy.
00:00:59.640 Like I've never felt this feeling before and I want to feel it again because it feels good.
00:01:04.460 You couldn't keep doing it with the same guy?
00:01:07.760 Why?
00:01:08.360 You know what?
00:01:09.080 I tried to, but then this guy, like he, obviously I found out that he was like playing and he just wanted me for the sexual pleasures.
00:01:17.780 You know, so I was like, you know what, I don't want you.
00:01:20.180 Well, the issue is you're going to, you're going to be, so if you're sleeping around casually, usually girls sleep out of their league. 1.00
00:01:29.000 Yeah.
00:01:29.400 So you don't really know what your league is until you look at the guys that are willing to date you.
00:01:33.940 Yeah, because you can, guys will sleep with anything, right?
00:01:37.220 I mean, have you ever been cheated on and you look at the girl who cheated on you? 0.63
00:01:40.400 I mean, it's just.
00:01:41.280 Not me personally.
00:01:42.060 But you've heard that, right?
00:01:43.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:44.340 That guys cheat with like, I can't believe her. 1.00
00:01:46.140 She's so ugly. 1.00
00:01:47.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 0.99
00:01:47.640 I feel like that's even worse because it's like, she's not even lame.
00:01:50.720 I would have understood if she was lame. 0.99
00:01:53.660 Yeah, because if you're a girl that's a five, six, seven, right?
00:01:57.220 And you're sleeping with an eight, nine or ten.
00:01:59.880 You're going to get the guy that you actually date and you're going to miss the guy from before.
00:02:03.940 And I'm sure you've seen that with maybe a friend or something where they're dating one guy, but they miss the old one.
00:02:08.560 And that's the problem you get when you've had more and more partners.
00:02:11.060 It's like, how is the guy that's going to take you seriously going to compare?
00:02:14.940 What about the phrase, try it before you buy?
00:02:17.660 Like, if you're even buying a product, you'll look up reviews, see how this one works.
00:02:21.720 Because especially as a woman, you need to kind of know what you like, I guess. 1.00
00:02:25.720 I didn't say like, wait until you're married. 1.00
00:02:28.160 But, you know, I think women kind of act dumb. 1.00
00:02:33.380 Like, they can't tell who's taking them seriously and who's not. 0.99
00:02:37.120 And when you really ask questions like, did he take you on a date?
00:02:40.580 Did he do this?
00:02:41.520 Did he do that?
00:02:42.520 And you really peel back the layers.
00:02:44.320 Yeah.
00:02:45.160 I don't know.
00:02:46.040 Sometimes in life, you're going to take L's, right?
00:02:49.460 And there's going to be guys that bamboozle you.
00:02:51.460 But the majority of guys, it's pretty easy to tell.
00:02:54.740 And most guys will tell you if you ask them.
00:02:56.840 It's true.
00:02:57.860 I mean, that's an inward thing though.
00:02:59.000 Because you've got a kind of like, I think certain women are afraid of being alone.
00:03:03.620 And that's why they kind of are like serial daters.
00:03:07.740 Like serial daters and they can't like be by themselves.
00:03:11.200 That's why I do think it's good for women to be single for like at least a year. 1.00
00:03:14.600 So you understand like the kind of peace it gives you.
00:03:17.000 Because otherwise, if all you know is relationships, of course you're going to stay in a bad relationship.
00:03:20.860 And especially now that people want romance so bad.
00:03:23.660 Do you think a man that's looking for a wife wants a girl that's at peace being alone?
00:03:30.240 I think, yeah.
00:03:31.020 Because he knows that she's like, she doesn't need to be out there all the time.
00:03:35.880 Like she can be her own person.
00:03:37.340 But they always say, but like, don't they say like, you'll find your perfect guy when you least expect it.
00:03:45.000 So if you're minding your business and you're not like, what is marriage?
00:03:49.100 I don't know.
00:03:49.880 I'm young.
00:03:50.640 I can't.
00:03:51.340 So two flesh.
00:03:52.200 I'm young.
00:03:53.320 There's some phrase.
00:03:54.640 It's like two flesh become one.
00:03:55.980 So it's like two become one.
00:03:57.480 Right.
00:03:58.160 And so if a guy's looking for a wife, why would he want a girl that's okay being alone when he wants to be with her forever?
00:04:04.440 Because you can be with somebody, but also being able to have peace and not be like dependent.
00:04:09.860 Like, oh, you're my husband.
00:04:10.600 I need to do everything with you.
00:04:11.560 This is like, this is why, this is why like women have no idea what men want. 1.00
00:04:15.360 They want a girl that's clingy. 1.00
00:04:17.240 The only time, the guys don't like girls that are clingy that they don't like.
00:04:21.040 But think about the last guy that's really chased you or been into you.
00:04:24.740 Do you think he would have cared if you were clingy?
00:04:26.800 No.
00:04:27.260 No, he would have liked it.
00:04:28.100 Because I'm literally experiencing like what you're saying right now.
00:04:31.220 So I'm like.
00:04:31.960 But you guys, everything.
00:04:32.760 It's actually true.
00:04:33.660 Everything you're saying is from like a feminine point of view because we don't like men that are clingy.
00:04:39.080 So you put out like you think that's what men want. 1.00
00:04:41.780 That's not true.
00:04:42.320 We'll never know because we're not men.
00:04:43.820 So I could never say it inside of you.
00:04:45.140 You could ask men.
00:04:46.420 I've asked my guy.
00:04:47.180 I have a lot of like really great guy friends and I've kind of asked them like.
00:04:49.980 Am I intimidating?
00:04:51.240 Like why do guys not want to date me?
00:04:52.660 And it's like.
00:04:54.560 It's just weird.
00:04:55.700 I would rather be at peace than just be in my face and just be like.
00:05:00.600 It's like oh.
00:05:01.500 It's just a lot.
00:05:02.100 What do the guys say when you say am I intimidating?
00:05:05.160 They say that I can come off intimidating due to my job. 0.69
00:05:08.100 And like I've had people think that I've been a bitch before just because I'm confident. 0.55
00:05:12.340 I'm kind of like quite direct. 0.80
00:05:13.360 Because usually like I will flirt with guys.
00:05:15.940 Or if they flirt with me because I haven't been like taken out in a long time.
00:05:18.420 I don't I can't read the signals properly.
00:05:20.600 So I think they're just being friendly back.
00:05:22.140 And then it's like oh you played that guy.
00:05:23.380 I'm like what?
00:05:24.500 I'm just being nice.
00:05:25.680 And so I think what they've said is I need to learn to like be a bit more submissive.
00:05:32.060 So to speak.
00:05:33.560 That's true.
00:05:34.460 I'm trying.
00:05:35.360 But I think once you've been hurt so many times it's hard to submit.
00:05:38.860 Because a lot of women submit and get hurt. 1.00
00:05:41.060 So it's like what's the point of doing that if this outcome is going to be the same.
00:05:44.700 Who are they submitting to?
00:05:46.840 Who are they picking to submit to?
00:05:49.180 Foo-foo guys. 1.00
00:05:50.680 I admit it.
00:05:51.520 I admit it.
00:05:51.940 Yeah.
00:05:52.200 And then whose fault is that?
00:05:53.460 Yeah.
00:05:53.780 I guess.
00:05:54.640 But what about like when you meet a guy and he's so nice at the start.
00:05:58.240 And you think like oh my god could this be the one? 0.98
00:06:00.000 And then you submit and then he's an arsehole afterwards. 0.98
00:06:02.600 Is that typical? 0.99
00:06:04.240 Yeah.
00:06:04.560 You think men switch up completely?
00:06:08.880 Well not completely but like enough because once the chase is over.
00:06:12.380 There are no warning signs.
00:06:13.880 Some men are really good.
00:06:16.220 Okay.
00:06:17.300 I think some of them are good because like you said they'll do anything and say anything.
00:06:20.980 And if you're not experienced enough in the dating world like you're just coming into it.
00:06:24.220 So say you're like 16 and some older guy is like yeah I'll take you out I'll buy you flowers.
00:06:28.820 And you'll begin oh my gosh oh my gosh. 0.99
00:06:30.840 And then he's just an arsehole afterwards. 0.99
00:06:32.220 You're like what happened? 0.98
00:06:33.320 And I feel like at that age at 16 we still think you're really shy.
00:06:36.560 Your brain hasn't even formed you.
00:06:37.640 Well and the question is how long did you wait to sleep with him?
00:06:41.440 And not you but like in general right?
00:06:44.080 Because it's like if you're sleeping with him right away.
00:06:47.620 What does that tell you?
00:06:48.980 Yeah.
00:06:50.120 Because women I feel like women sometimes use sex to kind of keep the man because they know that's what men want. 1.00
00:06:57.120 So it's not necessarily that you would like to but because you like him so much you're like I'll give you whatever you want.
00:07:02.260 This is what I can do to to make him stay.
00:07:04.400 And that's a natural submission.
00:07:05.580 That's yeah it's kind of upsetting.
00:07:07.300 You said what's your job again?
00:07:08.980 You're an influencer.
00:07:09.980 I wouldn't say influencer.
00:07:11.980 I'm a like presenter and I do content for me and other brands.
00:07:15.720 Yeah I think marketing yourself on the internet where you're flirting with other guys is going to.
00:07:20.700 I don't flirt with other guys.
00:07:21.440 No that's what you said before.
00:07:22.940 You said when you're doing interviews you're like flirting with guys.
00:07:25.400 Oh no not in my interviews.
00:07:26.440 Oh my god.
00:07:26.940 Oh my god.
00:07:27.440 Oh my god.
00:07:27.940 Oh my god.
00:07:28.440 No I'm like oh my god.
00:07:29.860 No I'm just like if I'm at an industry event.
00:07:33.100 Oh my gosh.
00:07:33.640 Oh okay okay.
00:07:36.180 Men and I'll say this as someone with a big following it doesn't help really.
00:07:39.560 No I don't think it helps at all.
00:07:40.920 It's actually kind of a negative like men prefer girls that aren't on social media.
00:07:44.440 No I get that and that's the thing that's that's why I've struggled a lot as well and
00:07:47.800 but it's hard because it's like you can try and date someone within the industry but then
00:07:51.880 it's like sometimes it can be a competition thing or like they want someone who's at home
00:07:55.800 but then if you're marrying someone who let's just say is like an accountant like a really could
00:07:59.560 work like a bank and has a really cool job but you're going to be like flying because
00:08:03.080 I fly out places and he's at home and I'm thinking oh it's kind of peak on him.
00:08:07.240 What what kind of guy do you want? 0.77
00:08:08.440 I don't know anymore I haven't met like do you know.
00:08:12.360 You're 21.
00:08:13.400 I'm 21 so I've not been out there long enough and I've been single for a really long time
00:08:18.120 but it's like just someone who can show me things that I can't show myself I would say
00:08:24.040 and someone who can like take control and even if I am working can still like have my back and
00:08:29.880 show me on and not be jealous of it.
00:08:32.440 Okay like oh so not jealous.
00:08:35.560 Yeah.
00:08:36.280 Please has your back.
00:08:37.240 Do you want to work?
00:08:37.960 Do you want to stay home?
00:08:38.840 What do you want to do?
00:08:39.480 I want to work as long as I can to like I've made I want to work to a point where I've made
00:08:44.360 my money and I'm known enough in the industry that I can still do jobs here and there but then
00:08:49.160 be able to just like just chill like when I hit like about like 30.
00:08:53.480 Just need to be able to chill so like work, work, work, work, work, chill out.
00:08:57.560 Okay um when do you want to have kids?
00:08:59.720 Not until I'm like late late late 20s but like 30s.
00:09:04.280 Okay so 30s when does when does geriatric pregnancy start? 0.93
00:09:08.600 I don't know what that means.
00:09:10.200 When when does it when does it become more increasingly high risk to have a child?
00:09:16.920 That's like later 30s.
00:09:18.920 Women be popping out babies at 40 like. 1.00
00:09:20.920 Do you know what they don't show you?
00:09:23.160 The the women that didn't pop out babies at 40 and that tried. 1.00
00:09:27.960 It's not you don't have I mean you're 21 so you have time.
00:09:31.400 Yeah.
00:09:31.800 But geriatric pregnancy starts at 35 and half your eggs are gone by 30.
00:09:36.680 Wow.
00:09:38.280 So you know you know people can have kids and do the career thing later.