Pearl Hits Modern Woman With This Reality
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating, being single, and why it's good to be single. We also talk about the importance of being single and how to deal with being single in the dating world. We hope you enjoy listening to this episode and we hope you find some value in it!
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Were you doing it for ten? If I ate dessert every day for ten years, wouldn't it be hard to quit?
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Yeah, and it's the same thing with that. So guys kind of look at, okay, how long did you do it for?
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What's an acceptable age to stop kind of going out and being a spouse?
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I mean, I wouldn't recommend, like, if you want to be a wife, if that's the outcome, I wouldn't recommend doing it at all.
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Especially like people who go to university where it's like you have more access and like there's no parental, that's when a lot of people do their experimenting and that's when they say like I went through my hose phase.
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Do you know what I'm saying? That's when a lot of people have their like college experience where I was like, I had a pizza with this person with like just random shit because everyone's just horny because your hormones are like raging.
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Especially when you've just lost it, I feel like.
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Because when I just lost my like, sorry if it's sensitive, but when I just lost my virginity, I just went crazy.
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Like I've never felt this feeling before and I want to feel it again because it feels good.
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I tried to, but then this guy, like he, obviously I found out that he was like playing and he just wanted me for the sexual pleasures.
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You know, so I was like, you know what, I don't want you.
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Well, the issue is you're going to, you're going to be, so if you're sleeping around casually, usually girls sleep out of their league.
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So you don't really know what your league is until you look at the guys that are willing to date you.
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Yeah, because you can, guys will sleep with anything, right?
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I mean, have you ever been cheated on and you look at the girl who cheated on you?
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That guys cheat with like, I can't believe her.
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I feel like that's even worse because it's like, she's not even lame.
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Yeah, because if you're a girl that's a five, six, seven, right?
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And you're sleeping with an eight, nine or ten.
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You're going to get the guy that you actually date and you're going to miss the guy from before.
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And I'm sure you've seen that with maybe a friend or something where they're dating one guy, but they miss the old one.
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And that's the problem you get when you've had more and more partners.
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It's like, how is the guy that's going to take you seriously going to compare?
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Like, if you're even buying a product, you'll look up reviews, see how this one works.
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Because especially as a woman, you need to kind of know what you like, I guess.
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Like, they can't tell who's taking them seriously and who's not.
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And when you really ask questions like, did he take you on a date?
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Sometimes in life, you're going to take L's, right?
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And there's going to be guys that bamboozle you.
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But the majority of guys, it's pretty easy to tell.
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Because you've got a kind of like, I think certain women are afraid of being alone.
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And that's why they kind of are like serial daters.
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Like serial daters and they can't like be by themselves.
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That's why I do think it's good for women to be single for like at least a year.
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So you understand like the kind of peace it gives you.
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Because otherwise, if all you know is relationships, of course you're going to stay in a bad relationship.
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And especially now that people want romance so bad.
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Do you think a man that's looking for a wife wants a girl that's at peace being alone?
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Because he knows that she's like, she doesn't need to be out there all the time.
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But they always say, but like, don't they say like, you'll find your perfect guy when you least expect it.
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So if you're minding your business and you're not like, what is marriage?
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And so if a guy's looking for a wife, why would he want a girl that's okay being alone when he wants to be with her forever?
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Because you can be with somebody, but also being able to have peace and not be like dependent.
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This is like, this is why, this is why like women have no idea what men want.
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The only time, the guys don't like girls that are clingy that they don't like.
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But think about the last guy that's really chased you or been into you.
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Do you think he would have cared if you were clingy?
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Because I'm literally experiencing like what you're saying right now.
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Everything you're saying is from like a feminine point of view because we don't like men that are clingy.
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So you put out like you think that's what men want.
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I have a lot of like really great guy friends and I've kind of asked them like.
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I would rather be at peace than just be in my face and just be like.
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What do the guys say when you say am I intimidating?
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They say that I can come off intimidating due to my job.
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And like I've had people think that I've been a bitch before just because I'm confident.
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Or if they flirt with me because I haven't been like taken out in a long time.
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And so I think what they've said is I need to learn to like be a bit more submissive.
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But I think once you've been hurt so many times it's hard to submit.
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So it's like what's the point of doing that if this outcome is going to be the same.
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But what about like when you meet a guy and he's so nice at the start.
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And you think like oh my god could this be the one?
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And then you submit and then he's an arsehole afterwards.
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Well not completely but like enough because once the chase is over.
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I think some of them are good because like you said they'll do anything and say anything.
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And if you're not experienced enough in the dating world like you're just coming into it.
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So say you're like 16 and some older guy is like yeah I'll take you out I'll buy you flowers.
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And I feel like at that age at 16 we still think you're really shy.
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Well and the question is how long did you wait to sleep with him?
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Because it's like if you're sleeping with him right away.
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Because women I feel like women sometimes use sex to kind of keep the man because they know that's what men want.
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So it's not necessarily that you would like to but because you like him so much you're like I'll give you whatever you want.
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I'm a like presenter and I do content for me and other brands.
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Yeah I think marketing yourself on the internet where you're flirting with other guys is going to.
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You said when you're doing interviews you're like flirting with guys.
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Men and I'll say this as someone with a big following it doesn't help really.
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It's actually kind of a negative like men prefer girls that aren't on social media.
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No I get that and that's the thing that's that's why I've struggled a lot as well and
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but it's hard because it's like you can try and date someone within the industry but then
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it's like sometimes it can be a competition thing or like they want someone who's at home
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but then if you're marrying someone who let's just say is like an accountant like a really could
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work like a bank and has a really cool job but you're going to be like flying because
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I fly out places and he's at home and I'm thinking oh it's kind of peak on him.
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I don't know anymore I haven't met like do you know.
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I'm 21 so I've not been out there long enough and I've been single for a really long time
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but it's like just someone who can show me things that I can't show myself I would say
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and someone who can like take control and even if I am working can still like have my back and
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I want to work as long as I can to like I've made I want to work to a point where I've made
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my money and I'm known enough in the industry that I can still do jobs here and there but then
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be able to just like just chill like when I hit like about like 30.
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Just need to be able to chill so like work, work, work, work, work, chill out.
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Not until I'm like late late late 20s but like 30s.
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Okay so 30s when does when does geriatric pregnancy start?
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When when does it when does it become more increasingly high risk to have a child?
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The the women that didn't pop out babies at 40 and that tried.
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It's not you don't have I mean you're 21 so you have time.
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But geriatric pregnancy starts at 35 and half your eggs are gone by 30.
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So you know you know people can have kids and do the career thing later.