JustPearlyThings - July 27, 2023


Pearl Hits Modern Woman With This Reality


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

220.41109

Word Count

2,159

Sentence Count

167

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Were you doing it for ten? If I ate dessert every day for ten years, wouldn't it be hard to quit?
00:00:06.240 Very.
00:00:06.960 Yeah, and it's the same thing with that. So guys kind of look at, okay, how long did you do it for?
00:00:11.420 When did you do it? And how bad was it?
00:00:14.640 What's an acceptable age to stop kind of going out and being a spouse?
00:00:18.420 I mean, I wouldn't recommend, like, if you want to be a wife, if that's the outcome, I wouldn't recommend doing it at all.
00:00:23.720 But, you know, this youngest, you can't stop.
00:00:26.840 Especially like people who go to university where it's like you have more access and like there's no parental, that's when a lot of people do their experimenting and that's when they say like I went through my hose phase.
00:00:37.060 That's so true.
00:00:37.980 Do you know what I'm saying? That's when a lot of people have their like college experience where I was like, I had a pizza with this person with like just random shit because everyone's just horny because your hormones are like raging.
00:00:47.540 Everyone's just, you know what I mean?
00:00:49.080 Especially when you've just lost it, I feel like.
00:00:50.940 Because when I just lost my like, sorry if it's sensitive, but when I just lost my virginity, I just went crazy.
00:00:59.640 Like I've never felt this feeling before and I want to feel it again because it feels good.
00:01:04.460 You couldn't keep doing it with the same guy?
00:01:07.760 Why?
00:01:08.360 You know what?
00:01:09.080 I tried to, but then this guy, like he, obviously I found out that he was like playing and he just wanted me for the sexual pleasures.
00:01:17.780 You know, so I was like, you know what, I don't want you.
00:01:20.180 Well, the issue is you're going to, you're going to be, so if you're sleeping around casually, usually girls sleep out of their league.
00:01:29.000 Yeah.
00:01:29.400 So you don't really know what your league is until you look at the guys that are willing to date you.
00:01:33.940 Yeah, because you can, guys will sleep with anything, right?
00:01:37.220 I mean, have you ever been cheated on and you look at the girl who cheated on you?
00:01:40.400 I mean, it's just.
00:01:41.280 Not me personally.
00:01:42.060 But you've heard that, right?
00:01:43.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:44.340 That guys cheat with like, I can't believe her.
00:01:46.140 She's so ugly.
00:01:47.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:47.640 I feel like that's even worse because it's like, she's not even lame.
00:01:50.720 I would have understood if she was lame.
00:01:53.660 Yeah, because if you're a girl that's a five, six, seven, right?
00:01:57.220 And you're sleeping with an eight, nine or ten.
00:01:59.880 You're going to get the guy that you actually date and you're going to miss the guy from before.
00:02:03.940 And I'm sure you've seen that with maybe a friend or something where they're dating one guy, but they miss the old one.
00:02:08.560 And that's the problem you get when you've had more and more partners.
00:02:11.060 It's like, how is the guy that's going to take you seriously going to compare?
00:02:14.940 What about the phrase, try it before you buy?
00:02:17.660 Like, if you're even buying a product, you'll look up reviews, see how this one works.
00:02:21.720 Because especially as a woman, you need to kind of know what you like, I guess.
00:02:25.720 I didn't say like, wait until you're married.
00:02:28.160 But, you know, I think women kind of act dumb.
00:02:33.380 Like, they can't tell who's taking them seriously and who's not.
00:02:37.120 And when you really ask questions like, did he take you on a date?
00:02:40.580 Did he do this?
00:02:41.520 Did he do that?
00:02:42.520 And you really peel back the layers.
00:02:44.320 Yeah.
00:02:45.160 I don't know.
00:02:46.040 Sometimes in life, you're going to take L's, right?
00:02:49.460 And there's going to be guys that bamboozle you.
00:02:51.460 But the majority of guys, it's pretty easy to tell.
00:02:54.740 And most guys will tell you if you ask them.
00:02:56.840 It's true.
00:02:57.860 I mean, that's an inward thing though.
00:02:59.000 Because you've got a kind of like, I think certain women are afraid of being alone.
00:03:03.620 And that's why they kind of are like serial daters.
00:03:07.740 Like serial daters and they can't like be by themselves.
00:03:11.200 That's why I do think it's good for women to be single for like at least a year.
00:03:14.600 So you understand like the kind of peace it gives you.
00:03:17.000 Because otherwise, if all you know is relationships, of course you're going to stay in a bad relationship.
00:03:20.860 And especially now that people want romance so bad.
00:03:23.660 Do you think a man that's looking for a wife wants a girl that's at peace being alone?
00:03:30.240 I think, yeah.
00:03:31.020 Because he knows that she's like, she doesn't need to be out there all the time.
00:03:35.880 Like she can be her own person.
00:03:37.340 But they always say, but like, don't they say like, you'll find your perfect guy when you least expect it.
00:03:45.000 So if you're minding your business and you're not like, what is marriage?
00:03:49.100 I don't know.
00:03:49.880 I'm young.
00:03:50.640 I can't.
00:03:51.340 So two flesh.
00:03:52.200 I'm young.
00:03:53.320 There's some phrase.
00:03:54.640 It's like two flesh become one.
00:03:55.980 So it's like two become one.
00:03:57.480 Right.
00:03:58.160 And so if a guy's looking for a wife, why would he want a girl that's okay being alone when he wants to be with her forever?
00:04:04.440 Because you can be with somebody, but also being able to have peace and not be like dependent.
00:04:09.860 Like, oh, you're my husband.
00:04:10.600 I need to do everything with you.
00:04:11.560 This is like, this is why, this is why like women have no idea what men want.
00:04:15.360 They want a girl that's clingy.
00:04:17.240 The only time, the guys don't like girls that are clingy that they don't like.
00:04:21.040 But think about the last guy that's really chased you or been into you.
00:04:24.740 Do you think he would have cared if you were clingy?
00:04:26.800 No.
00:04:27.260 No, he would have liked it.
00:04:28.100 Because I'm literally experiencing like what you're saying right now.
00:04:31.220 So I'm like.
00:04:31.960 But you guys, everything.
00:04:32.760 It's actually true.
00:04:33.660 Everything you're saying is from like a feminine point of view because we don't like men that are clingy.
00:04:39.080 So you put out like you think that's what men want.
00:04:41.780 That's not true.
00:04:42.320 We'll never know because we're not men.
00:04:43.820 So I could never say it inside of you.
00:04:45.140 You could ask men.
00:04:46.420 I've asked my guy.
00:04:47.180 I have a lot of like really great guy friends and I've kind of asked them like.
00:04:49.980 Am I intimidating?
00:04:51.240 Like why do guys not want to date me?
00:04:52.660 And it's like.
00:04:54.560 It's just weird.
00:04:55.700 I would rather be at peace than just be in my face and just be like.
00:05:00.600 It's like oh.
00:05:01.500 It's just a lot.
00:05:02.100 What do the guys say when you say am I intimidating?
00:05:05.160 They say that I can come off intimidating due to my job.
00:05:08.100 And like I've had people think that I've been a bitch before just because I'm confident.
00:05:12.340 I'm kind of like quite direct.
00:05:13.360 Because usually like I will flirt with guys.
00:05:15.940 Or if they flirt with me because I haven't been like taken out in a long time.
00:05:18.420 I don't I can't read the signals properly.
00:05:20.600 So I think they're just being friendly back.
00:05:22.140 And then it's like oh you played that guy.
00:05:23.380 I'm like what?
00:05:24.500 I'm just being nice.
00:05:25.680 And so I think what they've said is I need to learn to like be a bit more submissive.
00:05:32.060 So to speak.
00:05:33.560 That's true.
00:05:34.460 I'm trying.
00:05:35.360 But I think once you've been hurt so many times it's hard to submit.
00:05:38.860 Because a lot of women submit and get hurt.
00:05:41.060 So it's like what's the point of doing that if this outcome is going to be the same.
00:05:44.700 Who are they submitting to?
00:05:46.840 Who are they picking to submit to?
00:05:49.180 Foo-foo guys.
00:05:50.680 I admit it.
00:05:51.520 I admit it.
00:05:51.940 Yeah.
00:05:52.200 And then whose fault is that?
00:05:53.460 Yeah.
00:05:53.780 I guess.
00:05:54.640 But what about like when you meet a guy and he's so nice at the start.
00:05:58.240 And you think like oh my god could this be the one?
00:06:00.000 And then you submit and then he's an arsehole afterwards.
00:06:02.600 Is that typical?
00:06:04.240 Yeah.
00:06:04.560 You think men switch up completely?
00:06:08.880 Well not completely but like enough because once the chase is over.
00:06:12.380 There are no warning signs.
00:06:13.880 Some men are really good.
00:06:16.220 Okay.
00:06:17.300 I think some of them are good because like you said they'll do anything and say anything.
00:06:20.980 And if you're not experienced enough in the dating world like you're just coming into it.
00:06:24.220 So say you're like 16 and some older guy is like yeah I'll take you out I'll buy you flowers.
00:06:28.820 And you'll begin oh my gosh oh my gosh.
00:06:30.840 And then he's just an arsehole afterwards.
00:06:32.220 You're like what happened?
00:06:33.320 And I feel like at that age at 16 we still think you're really shy.
00:06:36.560 Your brain hasn't even formed you.
00:06:37.640 Well and the question is how long did you wait to sleep with him?
00:06:41.440 And not you but like in general right?
00:06:44.080 Because it's like if you're sleeping with him right away.
00:06:47.620 What does that tell you?
00:06:48.980 Yeah.
00:06:50.120 Because women I feel like women sometimes use sex to kind of keep the man because they know that's what men want.
00:06:57.120 So it's not necessarily that you would like to but because you like him so much you're like I'll give you whatever you want.
00:07:02.260 This is what I can do to to make him stay.
00:07:04.400 And that's a natural submission.
00:07:05.580 That's yeah it's kind of upsetting.
00:07:07.300 You said what's your job again?
00:07:08.980 You're an influencer.
00:07:09.980 I wouldn't say influencer.
00:07:11.980 I'm a like presenter and I do content for me and other brands.
00:07:15.720 Yeah I think marketing yourself on the internet where you're flirting with other guys is going to.
00:07:20.700 I don't flirt with other guys.
00:07:21.440 No that's what you said before.
00:07:22.940 You said when you're doing interviews you're like flirting with guys.
00:07:25.400 Oh no not in my interviews.
00:07:26.440 Oh my god.
00:07:26.940 Oh my god.
00:07:27.440 Oh my god.
00:07:27.940 Oh my god.
00:07:28.440 No I'm like oh my god.
00:07:29.860 No I'm just like if I'm at an industry event.
00:07:33.100 Oh my gosh.
00:07:33.640 Oh okay okay.
00:07:36.180 Men and I'll say this as someone with a big following it doesn't help really.
00:07:39.560 No I don't think it helps at all.
00:07:40.920 It's actually kind of a negative like men prefer girls that aren't on social media.
00:07:44.440 No I get that and that's the thing that's that's why I've struggled a lot as well and
00:07:47.800 but it's hard because it's like you can try and date someone within the industry but then
00:07:51.880 it's like sometimes it can be a competition thing or like they want someone who's at home
00:07:55.800 but then if you're marrying someone who let's just say is like an accountant like a really could
00:07:59.560 work like a bank and has a really cool job but you're going to be like flying because
00:08:03.080 I fly out places and he's at home and I'm thinking oh it's kind of peak on him.
00:08:07.240 What what kind of guy do you want?
00:08:08.440 I don't know anymore I haven't met like do you know.
00:08:12.360 You're 21.
00:08:13.400 I'm 21 so I've not been out there long enough and I've been single for a really long time
00:08:18.120 but it's like just someone who can show me things that I can't show myself I would say
00:08:24.040 and someone who can like take control and even if I am working can still like have my back and
00:08:29.880 show me on and not be jealous of it.
00:08:32.440 Okay like oh so not jealous.
00:08:35.560 Yeah.
00:08:36.280 Please has your back.
00:08:37.240 Do you want to work?
00:08:37.960 Do you want to stay home?
00:08:38.840 What do you want to do?
00:08:39.480 I want to work as long as I can to like I've made I want to work to a point where I've made
00:08:44.360 my money and I'm known enough in the industry that I can still do jobs here and there but then
00:08:49.160 be able to just like just chill like when I hit like about like 30.
00:08:53.480 Just need to be able to chill so like work, work, work, work, work, chill out.
00:08:57.560 Okay um when do you want to have kids?
00:08:59.720 Not until I'm like late late late 20s but like 30s.
00:09:04.280 Okay so 30s when does when does geriatric pregnancy start?
00:09:08.600 I don't know what that means.
00:09:10.200 When when does it when does it become more increasingly high risk to have a child?
00:09:16.920 That's like later 30s.
00:09:18.920 Women be popping out babies at 40 like.
00:09:20.920 Do you know what they don't show you?
00:09:23.160 The the women that didn't pop out babies at 40 and that tried.
00:09:27.960 It's not you don't have I mean you're 21 so you have time.
00:09:31.400 Yeah.
00:09:31.800 But geriatric pregnancy starts at 35 and half your eggs are gone by 30.
00:09:36.680 Wow.
00:09:38.280 So you know you know people can have kids and do the career thing later.