JustPearlyThings - March 30, 2023


Man Claims That Marriage Contracts Should Exist


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14 minutes

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2,219

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1

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10

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6

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Marriage is a bad contract for both men and women. In the modern dating landscape, how do we move forward in the future? How do we get to a better contract for men and what are modern solutions?

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00:00:00.000 in 1970 the average age of first marriage was 23 for men and 20 for women now it is 28 and 29
00:00:09.460 the average length of a relationship before engagement is two to five years and the average
00:00:17.400 wedding costs $20,000 so I looked this up and it's about 12k on the low end and 30k on the high end
00:00:26.080 so on one hand from the women I hear if a man loves you then he'll marry you immediately 0.94
00:00:34.840 or he'll know right away however that doesn't really match up with what I'm seeing because
00:00:41.180 the average the average time it takes for someone to get engaged is two to five years
00:00:46.840 okay so now we've also talked about on this channel how
00:01:01.900 prevalent single motherhood is but on the other hand we also see that marriage is a bad contract
00:01:10.420 that men don't want to sign so the problem is that these conflict each other right if we don't
00:01:16.320 get married then we have single mothers and we have more baby mamas however I also see the case for men
00:01:23.080 walking away from relationships and not wanting to get married because it is a bad contract for men
00:01:28.240 that women are paid to leave the average length of marriage is seven to eight years so and I'm pretty
00:01:37.840 sure I've seen a couple things that say that they file about two years before so it seems like the
00:01:42.240 average length that they date before they're they're married actually is around is similar to when they
00:01:48.660 actually get married so on one hand we say that's a bad contract but we also say it doesn't count unless
00:01:55.060 you have a ring so this has me drawing the question of how do we move forward in the future so I've written
00:02:03.460 down a couple modern solutions for men and modern solutions for women that I've observed this is
00:02:09.100 not me telling you what to do this is just what I've seen that people are doing today so I want you
00:02:14.380 guys in the comment section and to call in and tell me which what you see as the future moving forward
00:02:20.200 this is what I have come up with and if I if I've missed anything feel free to put that into so
00:02:26.620 modern solutions for men you live together no legal marriage but you have a ceremony
00:02:34.240 with your friends and family but you don't sign the government contract you could do marriage with
00:02:40.340 a prenup no prenup but date the girl for a certain amount of time and then get married so in order to
00:02:48.220 offset how risky marriage is maybe you date her for a longer period of time so that seems to be what men
00:02:53.500 are doing now they date the girl for like two to five years and then get married you could be a
00:02:59.740 bachelor forever spin plates I don't know a ton about domestic partnerships but that seems to be
00:03:05.800 an option too and you could just have a long-term relationship and not live with her modern solutions for
00:03:13.360 women demand marriage in the one to two years demand marriage from men within one to two years and cut 1.00
00:03:20.340 ties if you don't get it date someone for two to five years and hopes that they will give you
00:03:25.020 marriage live with someone with no marriage stay in a long-term relationship with no marriage sign a
00:03:35.300 prenup and get married so this is what I've come up with let me know in the modern dating landscape men
00:03:44.160 what do you want to do moving forward and women as well call in you have the call-in link in the chat 1.00
00:03:50.460 okay so the numbers on screen what do they do they call it and then you can put it on the line
00:03:55.620 okay so actually I don't have the chat pulled up on my left but let me look
00:04:00.600 they have to turn oh turn notifications off yeah make sure you turn my producer saying to make sure you
00:04:12.060 turn off your notifications when you call in but that's pretty much my question guys because it's
00:04:17.820 like on one hand we have the women we don't want women to waste their 20s on men that don't want 1.00
00:04:22.500 them right I mean that's what they always say they always say if a man knows he wants to marry you to
00:04:28.320 get married that he's going to do it within the first year that's what Kevin Samuels would say
00:04:32.300 however at on the other hand it's a bad contract for men so it's kind of like where do we go moving
00:04:39.780 forward what do you guys want to do moving forward so you have someone on the line
00:04:44.400 hello hello hi how are you good how about yourself I'm good I'm good what do you think the solution is
00:04:57.240 moving forward to modern day dating honestly I think it all has to do with both women and men both
00:05:04.360 growing in virtue I don't think anyone is like virtuous enough to be married nowadays either men
00:05:10.300 or women and I think the idea of marriage has been so skewed now thanks to how modern society is 0.99
00:05:16.900 working but going back to like how it used to be I think is the only really way to reinstitute marriage
00:05:22.480 as a real thing okay so you think um do you think that's probable moving forward that people are
00:05:32.760 going to go back to traditionalism I think there's like a pendulum swinging in society so right now
00:05:39.300 we're swinging so far away from traditionalism that eventually it's going to have to swing back because
00:05:44.360 I think everyone's starting to realize this is not working people are unhappier than ever
00:05:49.900 um I think suicide rates have been higher than ever before and I hope everyone wakes up soon
00:05:56.680 and realizes this isn't working we need to go back okay thank you appreciate you calling in thank you
00:06:02.960 bye bye so what do you guys think return to traditionalism is that the solution going forward
00:06:09.720 I'm I just turned 26 um I don't have all the answers so let me know what you guys think
00:06:17.400 let me I can't see the live chat for some reason on my laptop I don't know why but let me
00:06:25.980 yeah you can do another caller
00:06:30.300 I haven't done a live show in so long hello
00:06:34.700 hello how are you I'm good
00:06:42.460 okay next caller um I'm trying to see the live chat blessing I can't see it on my laptop
00:07:08.140 um hello hey pearl it's Doug MPA how's it going Doug how are you I'm fantastic this one's a layup it is
00:07:19.060 the very first option you said for men you have to live together and have everything like a marriage
00:07:26.260 but without a legal state contract I think there needs to be a generation or two of people that just
00:07:32.260 don't do legal marriages that's the only way it's going to change do you think what do you think
00:07:39.660 about single motherhood do you think that would encourage like more single mothers well so 0.99
00:07:45.600 the only power men have nowadays is to be able to walk away and so getting married removes that power
00:07:56.040 away from you so you have to be able to keep that power the only way to to do that is to not get
00:08:02.320 married so I don't think it will decrease single motherhood because um women women are going to walk 1.00
00:08:09.440 away anyway like women walk away most of the time it's just more men will walk away if there's less
00:08:16.700 um you know if it isn't as bad if the consequences aren't as bad to do so okay okay thank you for
00:08:26.820 calling in Doug appreciate you always good talking to you have a good one have a good one bye-bye
00:08:31.540 also guys I wanted to for the woman that said return to traditionalism this is just an interesting
00:08:37.240 stat that people get that get married before the age of 24 are actually 39 percent more likely to get
00:08:43.420 divorced so it seems like there's some downside to getting married younger um I'm not I don't
00:08:53.360 really have an opinion on it it's just you know what the numbers say there's a new one okay
00:08:58.820 hello hello yeah so can I yeah hi you're live on the air yeah okay
00:09:12.220 make sure guys make sure that you're one second one second make sure your laptop's off so I can
00:09:18.220 hear myself in your background like I think you still have a playing oh there you go go ahead
00:09:23.140 what do you think the solution is to modern dating moving forward is marriage outdated
00:09:28.860 okay so um thanks I was I was looking uh to speak to pearly I really like your show
00:09:38.900 yeah this is pearl
00:09:41.980 oh okay um so what do you think the solution is moving forward to modern dating do you think marriage
00:09:51.140 is outdated so I I think that women today have changed so much so that there's no going back 1.00
00:10:00.500 and women are paid for leaving marriages women are motivated are incentivized to leave marriages and I've seen my friends
00:10:09.620 crying today for example today my colleague is crying because his girlfriend just left he told him
00:10:18.120 sorry I don't love you anymore I'm not in love with you but I I I love somebody else so she just fell in love with
00:10:26.740 another colleague and he's crying and crying so for me I think that the things are so fucked up today that 0.93
00:10:34.980 the only solution for men just be a bachelor and spin plate that's all that's all it's bad but the the market is
00:10:44.740 already bad there's nothing we can do about it women have changed so much that there's just nothing I've seen my 1.00
00:10:52.740 friends crying their girlfriend leaving them for absolutely no reason just because they find another
00:11:00.580 man and for me uh I mean I quit the dating market because uh I was destroyed by two women I my heart was in
00:11:10.740 pieces and I've seen my friends that are still trying to date that have been ruined ah sorry I I think that
00:11:18.980 that's game over marriage is an obsolete social construct and men should protect themselves either 0.99
00:11:26.020 you stay alone or you you you spin plate that's all thank you okay thank you for calling in
00:11:34.100 so we got what one vote for spinning plates can you keep track of these blessings I'm just curious
00:11:41.060 what the demo so it's one person said go back to traditionalism one person said spin plates and what
00:11:47.540 did doug say doug said he said walk away and living with them without without the contract can you keep
00:11:54.580 track of how many each person says is that okay you try okay okay no worries no worries it's okay um
00:12:04.420 guys keep track of it in the chat keep track in the chat okay call in the next person
00:12:08.660 okay um it's interesting what's the number so guys if you want to call in
00:12:21.700 oh yeah you can answer
00:12:25.220 hi this is pearl you're live on the air
00:12:28.980 hi good night um my my two cents i think mine should be an 18 year contract
00:12:35.460 a eight year contract why is it 18 years is because it's 18 years to raise a kid
00:12:44.340 oh yeah oh that's an interesting idea hello hi can you hear me yeah yeah you're hearing me yeah yeah
00:12:52.260 so you think it should be an 18 year contract
00:12:56.980 yes please okay what are your thoughts um that's an interesting idea i'd do you think that women are 1.00
00:13:04.340 entitled to anything in that 18 year contract and men like how would that work would it just be divide
00:13:10.260 the assets you had coming in would it be similar to a marriage contract how would you set it up
00:13:17.060 you list what you got coming in and basically split it in half when the event is over or you could
00:13:24.420 just do a renewal and go for another 18 years and go for another 18 years okay and 18 year contract what
00:13:36.020 you have coming what if um the man makes a lot of money or the woman makes a lot of money is either 1.00
00:13:41.540 entitled to the other's money that they made during the contract would it be similar to how marriage is
00:13:46.740 set up today or what would be different uh i didn't think that far ahead but off the top of my head i
00:13:55.700 would say
00:14:01.300 you
00:14:04.180 well if you're going to pay a child support you've got a set amount that the government does kind of take
00:14:10.020 for child support right so you're kind of based off of that plug down the calculator for 18 years and
00:14:20.980 the lesser of the two will get it okay okay that's an interesting idea 18 year contracts
00:14:28.340 okay thank you for calling in appreciate you okay yeah bye-bye as many of you know i was just
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