JustPearlyThings - Man Describes The Reality Of Dating a Post Wall Woman

00:00:00.000 the oldest that you've dated beard gang uh 49 what was that like

00:00:05.680 interesting so i was like 21 at the time yeah it was a good experience does the woman feel

00:00:12.840 different at that age a lot different yeah how i don't know because i'm not that age yet so i don't

00:00:18.420 know i don't know if it was because i was young but i'd say it's just a level of assurance you

00:00:25.580 know i've kind of dated around that age and i would say they're just more interesting like

00:00:29.180 they have a lot more life experience and it's a different kind of relationship but they're

00:00:32.520 like your guider like your mentor more no for me it was more like cougar vibes she was just taking

00:00:40.180 advantage of a 21 year old yeah and what was your benefit in that just the reassurance you felt like

00:00:45.940 mummy mummy's here but she's a different type of mummy it was a bonus points isn't it it's just like 0.99

00:00:52.240 starting starting to go into a friendship at the time do you know what i mean

00:00:55.440 okay yeah so i've done go ahead oh yeah i've done that before as well like when i was in my early

00:01:01.640 20s i went out with a i was seeing a woman who was like mid 30s like maybe like my age now like 34 0.80

00:01:07.460 and um for me the benefit was she was so emotionally mature and she knew herself and there was like this

00:01:17.020 confidence in her and like i'm not i wouldn't say i'm the most i'm i find it difficult to deal with

00:01:26.220 just insecurities and the idea of making your insecurities something someone else has to wrestle

00:01:33.780 with and that's just a part of a relationship we all do it but i feel like with her she had

00:01:39.660 dealt with it wrestled with it and had coping mechanisms to like pull her through it and

00:01:46.360 there was so much i learned from her in that regard of like okay this is what it looks like 0.98

00:01:52.400 when you kind of take care of your own shit can i swear okay yeah when you take care of your own 0.98

00:01:58.600 shit and so it was kind of like um it was a really good experience in that regard for me i think for 0.99

00:02:03.520 her it was like one question why didn't that relationship work out like why did you end up 0.98

00:02:08.040 leaving oh because like the the i think like i i think for her it was there was a bit of a play

00:02:13.240 aspect to it like she didn't take me that seriously and to be fair i wasn't to be i wasn't

00:02:18.720 to be taken seriously at that age or time but um we vibed really well and she i think even just the

00:02:27.700 idea of what a woman can contribute to your life outside of her being beautiful and looking good like 1.00

00:02:34.680 just being stimulated mentally like by her and her life experiences like you said

00:02:40.280 like it kind of shaped what i look for dating going forward can i say something quickly

00:02:46.120 i'll let you go so basically as a woman grows older maybe past the age of like 26 27 0.84

00:02:56.080 they start to have a better mentality less insecurity less headaches a bit more maybe grounded and a bit

00:03:02.440 more self-sufficient when it comes to emotional stability and yet we're trying to say that it's

00:03:06.800 easier maybe perhaps or better for men to go for 19 year olds with women over 30 generally are just 0.65

00:03:11.980 way more calm yeah anyone over 30 is well i'm excited about 30 30 so i to answer your question

00:03:18.260 i actually don't think it's just a woman thing i think it's everyone i think as you develop and 0.96

00:03:23.080 you grow you become more sure of yourself so now i'm right for the picking type of thing yeah maybe

00:03:27.460 for some people i'm not saying everyone in their 20s is immature or not ready or whatever but i think

00:03:31.880 generally speaking in your 20s you're trying to figure it out in your 30s you know who you are

00:03:36.700 because you know yourself and you've learned to like yourself and you've learned what you're

00:03:40.220 struggling with yeah i think when you reach that age you just had so much experience and i'm just

00:03:44.560 saying like as for me i don't want to experience your experience so i wouldn't me personally i wouldn't

00:03:49.700 take anyone over that age seriously because you come with a lot of baggage and me personally if i'm

00:03:55.080 gonna take you seriously and if you're like 20 years plus more than me you you you have a lot of

00:04:00.900 experience that you're gonna compare me to so if i lack in one field you can be like

00:04:05.960 in the back of your mind you'll be like oh but when i was dating so and so he used to buy me all

00:04:10.480 these gifts i'm used to getting these so it's like i'm not really trying to go through all that

00:04:14.240 how old are you again i'm 20 yes you know when i was your age i used to feel guilty like if i was

00:04:20.300 dragging it on for too long because i'd feel like you know what i don't i can't see this long term

00:04:24.680 because of the age gap and i feel guilty like dragging it on because i feel like i'm wasting your time

00:04:29.280 do you guys feel like older women um okay i had a guy tell me once that if he dated a girl

00:04:35.000 under the age of 25 he didn't have to worry as much about that because she wasn't like dying for

00:04:40.880 for commitment but if she's over the age of 25 like they want to settle down like they want to lock 0.97

00:04:45.300 you down quicker would you say that's true no no same no no i'm asking the guys because they date

00:04:57.500 women so i mean to be fair i think i think when it comes to all the women right and i just think

00:05:02.900 from my experience like when i i like now i did long term seriously but obviously you know back in

00:05:08.940 a day your boy had a little sprinkle around the field but um one thing i i was i was i was sprouting

00:05:15.960 very early from 16 onwards but one thing i realized about um these uh all the women is that 1.00

00:05:22.060 it it's kind of they're more on the i i don't see it on the side where they take it serious because

00:05:27.860 once they see a younger guy they don't usually see me as a serious candidate as for a long term

00:05:32.440 relationship they just want some quick action and they just want to feel young again you know what i

00:05:37.740 mean so like i know when i used to get in those um situations the fact that since i was so young

00:05:44.080 and i guess the way how i'll compliment them make them feel make their body feel like there's a temple

00:05:48.800 they they they they live off of that stimulation because i'm i'm overly praising them in such a

00:05:55.100 sense so the fact that i made them feel younger they know that i'm not going to get this as a long

00:05:58.920 term relationship and i made that clear from the start but they just really enjoyed the fun they was

00:06:03.720 getting let me put it like that and i think the the common denominator of every story is that

00:06:07.700 you were young and in your 20s you're in your early 20s so i think that shows a level of manipulation

00:06:12.500 was maybe they're like they know that you're young and naive and you'll like latch on because it's

00:06:17.540 fun you know you think it's a manipulation but like they know you're young and you're like

00:06:26.420 like you're impressionable yeah you'll enjoy the validation of being with them almost like because

00:06:30.980 like no one said oh when i was in my like late like when i was in my uh like late 20s or early

00:06:35.860 30s i was with someone that was like 50 because because you know yourself better and you know that

00:06:40.020 that's not something you could maybe commit to so who who has manipulated him or her not like i not

00:06:45.780 manipulated but like at us your younger self you don't know yourself as well maybe so like you're kind

00:06:50.580 of like oh like this older person likes me like oh that's cool like i i think that might be slightly

00:06:55.380 different because i think i think when in the woman's perspective because she's the younger one

00:06:59.380 and she's didn't know all the guy maybe yeah maybe from my perspective i know that when i was in that

00:07:03.380 stage trust me i just know i wanted to release one yeah i didn't feel manipulated personally i have a

00:07:12.580 question for you guys is it wrong for what age do i want to do a 32 year old man to date an 18 year old

00:07:23.380 no nope no i judge him for it okay no all right if anyone said raise your hand if you think yes

00:07:30.260 all right i'm gonna raise my hand now i need a yes or no yes or no come on everyone grows up

00:07:34.420 different ages okay okay it depends what she looks like what depends what she looks like

00:07:41.620 she looks i don't know at 18 some of them look like they're 18 when they're 13.

00:07:45.220 but you kind of got to put it in context because you're like how old did you say he was he's 32 she's

00:07:54.580 18. all right at 32 when you sit down with an 18 year old what are you talking about like what is she

00:08:03.300 like no for real like generally what is she offering you like and i mean if she's okay i mean you're just

00:08:10.980 baby i feel yeah you're just talking about one dimension and i i look at you and i'm like all

00:08:16.180 right you as a man let's say you have stuff in common let's say like maybe maybe you're into the

00:08:20.900 same stuff maybe they're both gamers i don't know okay and that's that's what off the top of my head

00:08:26.580 i'm like it's not in of itself wrong but i do raise an eyebrow because i do wonder like like you

00:08:33.620 question the guy a little bit i question the guy a little bit like what do you like because all right

00:08:38.340 and he's seriously dating or is he just having fun like in your scenario uh let's say let's say

00:08:43.220 seriously dating okay so you've looked at this he's looking for a wife all right cool and so i'm here

00:08:48.420 and i'm like so in this 18 year old who is like a few years off from being a child you're like in you

00:08:55.060 i see a partner and someone i want to build and someone i want to model my potential daughters after

00:08:59.940 all of that really and i'm like bro like off an 18 year old you got it kind of depends though if

00:09:05.220 if she's like someone that's been like working out doing it like doing by herself independent

00:09:11.140 then you kind of because a lot of women mature a lot quicker as well you could be like you could 1.00

00:09:16.100 have an 18 year old that literally acts like a 25 year old you won't even know anything yeah

00:09:19.860 no so it depends on it like some 18 year olds are in uni yeah and they're basically kids yeah that's

00:09:24.900 what i'm thinking it's like you're right it kind of depends on that's why i struggle to put my hand

00:09:29.300 up yeah but it's like it's because sometimes you're like oh she's 18 and she's in uni and

00:09:36.100 she's only lived with her parents and she's coming out and you're visiting her dorm in uni that's a big

00:09:42.340 man maybe she's 18 she wants a family maybe she's 18 she wants to be a mother okay but that's still 1.00

00:09:49.300 the same dimension we're talking about looks and fertility that's it that's what you pick your 0.99

00:09:53.780 partner i got something in common i just struggled to with the idea that an 18 year old girl in uni

00:10:03.940 is stimulating your mind and spirit like and if she is i kind of i just think like when i was 18 versus

00:10:09.700 21 like how isn't that different like i'm just i'm just thinking like mentally i don't think i was

00:10:14.660 that different at 18 from 21. i don't think there is that much difference yeah but no one would really

00:10:19.460 bad an eye at 21. no i moved out when i was 18 and i was working so i was i was you know pretty

00:10:25.300 much a full-grown adult as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized

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JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023

Man Describes The Reality Of Dating a Post Wall Woman

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