JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023


Man Explains Why Men Age Like Wine


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

217.13757

Word count

1,724

Sentence count

160

Harmful content

Misogyny

12

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Hate speech

9

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the age difference between men and women in the dating world and why women are more attracted to younger men. We also discuss why women tend to cheat at a younger age and how to deal with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Who wants to compete for the same men that was fighting one in 15 years ago?
00:00:04.380 No, I'm the same kind, type of guy.
00:00:06.640 You're competing for the same 20% of guy, even though you think it's a new guy.
00:00:10.180 Guys, guys, let me help you speak.
00:00:11.520 Because, okay, I'm 25, right?
00:00:13.420 I could date a guy up to 45.
00:00:14.780 I'd be fine with it.
00:00:15.960 And so, like, even now, we're competing for the same guy.
00:00:20.060 And so that's what he's saying.
00:00:21.660 Yeah.
00:00:22.040 So you've got the advantage.
00:00:23.060 You're 25, I get it.
00:00:24.440 And just to clarify, I wasn't saying that, like, you know, women are less valuable with age. 0.91
00:00:28.700 It's just that, obviously, it becomes a bit harder for women because of age in the dating market.
00:00:33.100 Because, obviously, there are certain trends, right?
00:00:35.360 Men tend to prefer younger women.
00:00:37.260 There are certain elements of being younger that are advantageous in dating, like vitality and having a certain mindset that men can find refreshing at times.
00:00:43.520 It gets harder for women. 1.00
00:00:44.460 I think we all understand that, right?
00:00:45.920 But for men, you know, the older you get, the better you learn to engage with women.
00:00:51.040 You're better, you know, you don't say the goofy stuff you used to say when you were, like, 20.
00:00:54.360 No, the younger women are more susceptible to your bullshit. 1.00
00:00:57.620 I was going to say, I think, as you get older, you tend to not really, you can't do the bullshit.
00:01:02.940 And you can see it coming, like, straight at you.
00:01:05.220 Right, but this is where you go back to.
00:01:07.360 It's the same prize, lower value, higher price.
00:01:11.340 Yeah.
00:01:11.580 And that's the biggest complaint I hear from men with older women.
00:01:14.880 I'll tell you a story, actually.
00:01:16.200 This happened to me a few weeks ago.
00:01:18.760 There's two, but I'll tell you this one first.
00:01:20.140 So there was this girl I met in a club.
00:01:22.180 She was great.
00:01:22.680 She was in a similar scene as me.
00:01:24.600 And she looked very good this night.
00:01:26.160 I'm very direct with my interests.
00:01:27.540 I was like, damn, yeah, you're looking good, whatever, talking all that crap.
00:01:32.060 We're having a chat on the side.
00:01:33.560 And she's, you know, acting a little coy.
00:01:35.220 And she's like, I don't date in this scene.
00:01:38.620 I was like, all right, all right.
00:01:39.960 So, like, so, you know, you're kind of a dinner date kind of girl.
00:01:44.260 Cool, cool, cool.
00:01:45.620 I found out that girl's been with almost all of my boys, right?
00:01:49.180 So, so for me, for me, she, you know, she, she kind of.
00:01:52.980 You didn't continue?
00:01:54.060 You didn't take it?
00:01:54.540 Oh, no.
00:01:55.180 I did her, I did her Instagram.
00:01:56.480 I got her number.
00:01:57.000 I never spoke to her again.
00:01:58.260 And now she looks at me like I'm some kind of alien every time she sees me.
00:02:00.940 It's like, but that's, that's the kind of story of how it works sometimes.
00:02:04.420 Did it make you improve?
00:02:06.060 Absolutely.
00:02:06.660 Because you knew that you was at disadvantage when she told you that, right?
00:02:10.360 Yes.
00:02:10.820 I knew that there was something I didn't understand.
00:02:14.020 And then when, when, when my boys told me like, yeah, like she's, she's been with that
00:02:17.440 better, these man.
00:02:18.260 I was like, oh, okay.
00:02:19.240 I get it.
00:02:19.880 You just believed what your friends said.
00:02:21.880 Why would they lie?
00:02:23.000 Why wouldn't they lie?
00:02:25.100 Do you not think it's the same the other way around though?
00:02:27.560 Yeah.
00:02:27.800 So like if, if I meet a guy and I know that he's slept with everyone in this community,
00:02:32.260 all of my friends, like, do you really think I'm still going to be interested?
00:02:35.900 Most women are still attracted to him. 0.95
00:02:37.960 I mean, look at Drake.
00:02:38.760 Women are stealing his condoms. 0.99
00:02:40.520 That's because he's famous and people have this ludicrous kind of imagery of celebrities.
00:02:45.600 That's true.
00:02:46.520 That's true.
00:02:47.200 But in, in general, women pick men that other women want because it's a sign, it's a sign 1.00
00:02:53.200 of preselection.
00:02:53.740 Even other people's men.
00:02:54.480 And the reason, and I can give you an example.
00:02:56.400 Women say men are trash all the time and they lie and they cheat. 1.00
00:02:59.300 Well, who are they lying and cheating with?
00:03:01.680 I think that comes down to like going back to the age thing as well though.
00:03:05.660 Because maybe when you're younger, you think about that.
00:03:08.160 But when you get past a certain point, you're kind of looking for more stability and somebody
00:03:12.700 you can trust.
00:03:13.680 So I think that really changes.
00:03:14.900 Yeah.
00:03:15.000 Because, but that's, that's what happens though.
00:03:16.520 Women below the age of like 27 tend to date the bad boys, but, and then, and then they 0.53
00:03:21.500 get ran through by the bad boys and then ask for a nice guy to pick up the pieces.
00:03:24.620 Like why, why should I have to deal with your, your issues after you've just, you had the
00:03:29.680 chance when you was 21, the chance when you was 22, 23, 23, no, I want to go club.
00:03:33.400 I want to do this.
00:03:34.060 I want to go, please babes. 1.00
00:03:35.740 I want to wire for you.
00:03:36.420 No, no, no, no.
00:03:37.240 I ain't got time for you.
00:03:38.320 Do you know what?
00:03:38.860 On the count of three, everyone shout out their body count.
00:03:41.620 Five.
00:03:42.720 But do you get my point?
00:03:44.560 Do you get my point?
00:03:46.260 If, if it's, no, no, you're not ashamed of it because it's five.
00:03:48.960 If it was 55, you'd stay quiet.
00:03:52.200 Yeah.
00:03:52.820 No, you would stay quiet.
00:03:54.260 If I was 55, it wouldn't have, it wouldn't necessarily me staying quiet because we know
00:03:59.760 what the, um, what it's like, like it's not, it's not a bad thing necessarily for me to
00:04:04.920 be sleeping around.
00:04:05.760 Can I just say something that I've, um, myself, obviously I've had long-term relationships,
00:04:10.520 so I'm fine.
00:04:11.440 But what I will say is for the younger generation, it's very difficult to have a low
00:04:18.880 body count now because, and it's, it's because the older women, not even, you lot lie to 1.00
00:04:24.820 the younger women.
00:04:25.660 Why are you lying?
00:04:26.240 No, because you lot want them to be just like them.
00:04:27.860 Can I just say something?
00:04:28.800 Can I just, let me just say something.
00:04:30.420 Yeah, you got time.
00:04:31.600 Like you're saying dating and we're saying connections and we're giving out all this.
00:04:36.240 There's so many people, the social media has ruined dating.
00:04:40.300 It's like, there's so much variety.
00:04:42.600 There's so much what you should be expecting, what you shouldn't be expecting.
00:04:46.420 So it's so fickle.
00:04:48.240 Dating is so fickle now.
00:04:50.320 How, how are young girls expected to keep their body count down when there's, there's
00:04:56.800 no relationships now?
00:04:58.020 Like it's not like back in the day where you had a long-term like relationship, mostly
00:05:02.700 our age were the last of the long-term relationships.
00:05:06.040 I'm not going to lie.
00:05:06.740 Well, men have definitely dropped their standards for what they used to accept.
00:05:10.400 A girl used to be a hoe. 1.00
00:05:11.300 She slept with more than two people. 0.97
00:05:12.800 Now a guy prays for five.
00:05:14.120 Listen, and I've seen, I've seen guys, I've seen a lot of husband got wifed.
00:05:22.460 That's true.
00:05:23.440 But they're also the first divorced because I always say a woman sleeping around, it hurts 1.00
00:05:27.940 herself more than anyone else because it impacts her ability to pair bond. 0.97
00:05:31.320 And so women have a hard time staying when they've slept with too many people statistically 1.00
00:05:35.960 because yeah, because women that have slept with more than five men, their, their chance
00:05:41.200 of a happy marriage drops from at one 80% after 10 years, they're going to be in a happy marriage
00:05:45.640 to 30% after five partners, after 10 years.
00:05:49.360 So I can't sleep with any more guys or else I'm going to drop in a percentage.
00:05:53.440 That is, that's a nightmare.
00:05:54.620 Like what?
00:05:55.000 So I need to find my husband.
00:05:55.960 I'm celebrating.
00:05:57.480 It's more, it's more.
00:05:58.680 No more sex.
00:06:01.480 But that's what I'm saying is like there's reasons behind it.
00:06:05.660 Do you think, do you think that's going to work?
00:06:08.460 No more sex?
00:06:09.460 Yeah.
00:06:09.680 Do you like, that's what I mean when I say you making him wait and you making him wait.
00:06:13.560 And the guy just had it like that.
00:06:15.420 It's like now I'm, I'm on my, I'm on my.
00:06:17.960 No, I'm just going to have to go back to someone I've had sex with.
00:06:21.120 Yeah.
00:06:21.480 That's what I said.
00:06:21.940 That's what I asked you.
00:06:22.560 You should have married your partner. 0.97
00:06:24.500 Ooh.
00:06:25.080 Come on, man.
00:06:25.820 I explained that to you.
00:06:27.100 I know you explained it to me, but that's why at first I said you should have married
00:06:30.200 your partner.
00:06:30.640 Yeah, you did say that.
00:06:30.960 If you married your partner in year one, you would have divorced when your problems happened,
00:06:35.360 but you would have been married.
00:06:37.260 What's that?
00:06:37.840 That's just.
00:06:38.300 No, a man.
00:06:39.960 Listen, I grew up.
00:06:41.260 Yeah.
00:06:41.460 I grew up.
00:06:42.540 Let me, let me give you this.
00:06:43.560 I don't know if it's my cousin's fault.
00:06:44.820 I blame her.
00:06:45.960 I was a Protestant in Scotland.
00:06:47.540 It's Protestant Catholics.
00:06:48.780 My cousin was a Catholic.
00:06:50.380 I was a Protestant.
00:06:51.340 She got to make a communion and I didn't.
00:06:54.480 She religiously, I stayed at her house most days when my mom was working.
00:06:59.480 She used to dress me in a trouser suit and she dressed up in her communion dress and made 0.99
00:07:04.980 us play weddings, like in the living in front of everyone.
00:07:07.500 And it really daunted me that she always made me be the guy.
00:07:09.660 Like, it hurt me a lot.
00:07:11.840 So I just was like, I hate weddings.
00:07:14.420 I don't know if it's instilled.
00:07:15.820 I haven't ever had the wish to be married.
00:07:18.900 I don't dream of the white dress.
00:07:20.760 I don't dream of the commitment that is for the government to say you're married.
00:07:24.180 Like, I dream of real love.
00:07:26.780 Like, that's all I've ever done.
00:07:28.100 But marriage is a business.
00:07:30.420 It is a business.
00:07:31.220 You're right.
00:07:31.880 And when I left, I realized that I failed in that business transaction.
00:07:35.480 Yeah?
00:07:36.160 Because he held most of the money.
00:07:38.940 See, there you go.
00:07:39.640 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:07:46.740 this platform.
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