JustPearlyThings - March 26, 2023


Man Gives These Women A Dose Of Reality

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Denelva
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

210.83

Word count

1,997

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

6

sentences flagged

Hate speech

4

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the age difference between a woman and a man when it comes to a woman's ability to date someone older than her, and why an 18 year old is better than a 30 year old.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 all right Denelva tell me why why is it now and then you go next why why is the problem for an
00:00:05.120 older man i think it's really down to the different stages of emotional maturity and growth when
00:00:11.360 you're 18 although yes you can be mature in this and that but you've not experienced the how many
00:00:17.040 extra 14 years extra of life that he has experienced he has that over you and i think that it's not
00:00:22.720 about manipulation it's just about the point the fact that there'll be a certain moment in both of
00:00:27.520 their lives where you're just going to realize we're not on the same level we're not in the same
00:00:32.560 frequency and that's really important that's what do you mean in the same because a lot of times we
00:00:36.400 use these words i don't even know what they mean this in the same frequency yeah the same frequency
00:00:39.920 meaning like okay when you're now 40 i'm just about to turn 30 in like five every five years i feel
00:00:47.520 like every five years i go through quite a lot of change you know you especially then with decades
00:00:51.600 you look back on your life and you think about so many things you reflect and your mind may change
00:00:55.120 that's why you can see the difference between a 20 year old woman and a 30 year old woman so i just
00:00:59.680 think it's a bit dangerous when you're kind of dealing with somebody that's so far away from where
00:01:04.000 you're at at your age so for example for me that's why i say i'll date somebody that is younger than me
00:01:08.240 by two years max and max five years older because i don't want it to be too far away do you think that
00:01:13.520 like limits your pool a little bit um i i think that at this point i'm more just looking for the right
00:01:20.320 person and from what i know about myself i feel like what i need is that limit okay um what do you
00:01:27.520 think um yeah i think an 18 year old obviously there's different kinds of 18 year olds but they've
00:01:35.280 got a lot of experiences to go through i think a 32 is a bit old i think like 28 29 is fine but
00:01:43.440 why would a and maybe you guys can answer you men why would a 32 year old want an 18 year old is it
00:01:51.680 just because she's more likely to be a virgin and is that the main reason why you would go for one
00:01:59.600 because i wouldn't like be like uh but i'd be a bit confused like why wouldn't you go for someone who's
00:02:05.920 maybe like mid-20s or like even 21 like what's the reason i don't know yeah i think i think it's wild
00:02:12.320 to be honest i wouldn't like legit so i can't can i can i just make a side note on this um not that i
00:02:18.480 agree with the fade to and and the 18 year old but i i feel like it comes down to the individual
00:02:25.120 i've come across 40 year olds 50 year olds that are in many cases less mature than 18 year olds
00:02:31.760 so and i think it goes both way irrespective of your gender um but what was your question just in
00:02:38.640 terms of i wanted to know what would be the reason for that would it just be because she's likely to 1.00
00:02:43.440 have less bodies and is that the main reason if i could jump on that cool um because like initially
00:02:50.560 what i do think of it 30 to an 18 year that is a pretty big like gap and i would like look at it a
00:02:55.680 type of way but i feel like if we come to a common agreement on what a guy is usually looking for
00:03:03.120 or what a girl is usually looking for they kind of meet each other where they need you know i mean
00:03:07.680 because i hope you guys can agree well but um you know men very i value beauty and i value youth
00:03:15.360 fertility so if i'm at the age of 32 sure i could go with someone 25 26 but i think like nowadays most
00:03:25.600 of those women already they're very like career driven they're very they have like this boss babe 1.00
00:03:31.760 mentality so i feel like they're going to be way more combative than the 18 year old because i feel
00:03:38.400 like if she comes into this um space she's going to value that i reach this point and then she's
00:03:47.920 going to be more agree agreeable with me because then like i can also like teach her i won't okay i
00:03:53.200 won't say teacher but you can guide her because someone that's older is more set in their ways exactly
00:03:57.600 yeah 100 so i just feel like this 18 year old maybe she has she's as mature as i mean i would say
00:04:03.440 it's the same thing like if you date an older guy and you try to change him you're mad
00:04:06.720 like why would you if you if i dated a 50 year old am i expecting him to change after 50 years of
00:04:13.440 living his life one way exactly that's all they know so it's like at the younger you go because
00:04:19.280 obviously most of the time an 18 year old is going to look um better than 26 28 year old so it's like
00:04:25.600 if i value that then and i see that they can agree to me what i want to do long term it's like why
00:04:32.560 why not choose that instead of okay so i have a question so you know we're talking about changing
00:04:37.040 people so in this scenario in in the scenarios i usually posed we're talking about the fact that
00:04:43.600 there's a need to change a woman because obviously he's older he's going to be setting his way so 1.00
00:04:48.640 the man is cool we always just have to assume that the man that is 30 is mature and doing his
00:04:52.640 ting all the time and he can take care of a 18 year old woman and moulder to be what he wants when 1.00
00:04:57.840 in fact he probably doesn't even know what he wants exactly so i think it's really quite dangerous to
00:05:02.080 play that game and if we were to twist to turn the the the story and make it you don't think it's good
00:05:07.120 to influence the person you're like you don't want a guy that you can follow yeah but i also want a guy
00:05:12.960 that can also follow me too because i'm not just going to be adapting to someone on my own so you want
00:05:18.000 to follow and then he follows yeah i want us to grow together yeah i want it to be like this but i think
00:05:23.120 it's a dangerous game playing with the idea we want to change people like you're dating someone because
00:05:27.120 you like them you're not dating them because you see potential and you want to manipulate them into the
00:05:31.120 person you want i think relationships compromise yeah yeah so i just think like i just think if you're
00:05:35.920 the person um i looked up political ideologies this is seems off topic but i have a point um when i
00:05:42.160 was younger because i was curious like what makes people change their minds and like what things
00:05:46.000 influence them and the number one thing that influences your political ideology over time is your partner
00:05:51.360 like you kind of rub off on the person you're with yeah and i agree the longer you're with
00:05:54.560 someone the more you become like them and you agree because you want to be familiar you want to be
00:05:58.800 the same to them but it's not necessarily a good thing but yeah but to answer my girl's question
00:06:03.600 that would be the reason why a guy would that's 32 is going to go for 18 year old so he can mold her 1.00
00:06:08.320 into the girl that he wants agreeable exactly yeah don't you think that people should like as they're
00:06:14.400 like so young they're 18 like don't you think they should find their own way in life like yeah like
00:06:19.280 dating a 32 year old might be helpful for them and like working out these life like problems and
00:06:23.520 stuff and like fight like they can guide them in their way but like i think trying to change someone
00:06:27.600 that's so young it's just like backwards like they need to find their own way in life they need to find 1.00
00:06:32.000 who they are and i don't think they should depend on somebody else to find that way in life i don't
00:06:35.680 think they should like like i don't know it's just like they're so young and impressionable like a
00:06:39.680 year ago they were 17 like and you wouldn't date a 17 year old so i don't know i just think back to
00:06:44.400 when i was 18 and i don't think i was that crazy different than the way i am now i don't know but
00:06:51.840 i just think like in general i mean 18 is a bit young for like i i don't know if i would push like
00:06:57.440 18 year olds to get married but um i don't know i just think like as women you kind of avoid a lot
00:07:05.200 of like heartbreak and trauma if you get married earlier like i have a friend that got married at like
00:07:09.600 21 22 she's probably the happiest like person i know how does she know uh 27 28 yeah or don't
00:07:17.680 or don't get married um um i i was just waiting patiently because obviously i'm listening to the
00:07:24.560 guys behind me there's a lot of things i think you can see from my face that are actually winding me up
00:07:28.800 and i thought am i going to take a break here or just be polite and sit quietly because you talked
00:07:33.680 about uh women i think the word used was combat combative combative yeah they were yeah that was 1.00
00:07:42.640 i was sitting here and that was what winding me up constantly the way that you and others were talking
00:07:48.800 about older women or you know could be vice versa and older men and i was just getting more and more
00:07:54.800 angry and i thought well just sit quietly and see what you've all got to say and we all have personal
00:07:58.880 opinions but it doesn't mean that just because you're with an older woman that um they are taking
00:08:07.200 advantage of you and you're just having fun how about consider that somebody a little bit older than
00:08:13.280 you might actually be interested in you it's not always for fun i mean you can ask that to me personally
00:08:19.200 if i'm in getting involved with someone i'm not interested in fun you know i've got personal views
00:08:26.000 self-respect i don't need to go around dropping my pants like all these other girls i don't need to 0.82
00:08:32.000 do all that so it doesn't matter who i date i'm interested in something proper i think the word
00:08:41.040 is proper something proper and not to play around so obviously i'm not going to date you so sorry yeah
00:08:47.120 i just i think that's just how guys view it like yeah and i don't mean any offense personally i just think
00:08:52.240 when guys typically if they date girls that are significantly older than them like long-term
00:08:56.800 guys look at family and they prefer to have kids of their own and i just think over a certain age
00:09:02.080 you're kind of out of the you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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