JustPearlyThings - June 30, 2023


Man SHUTS DOWN Woman With This Fact


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

191.78734

Word count

1,479

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Hate speech

2

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what men are looking for in a woman and what they want in a partner. We also discuss the importance of purity and what men look for from a woman. We discuss our own experiences with purity and how we have dealt with it in our own relationships.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 so tell me why did you say 120 K I just think that's like what like the from
00:00:10.380 being married and stuff like that that's where our financial position was so
00:00:14.100 that's kind of like my baseline mm-hmm you don't do you but I'm not assuming
00:00:19.380 that I'm not earning any money at this point and he's like I'm also working and
00:00:22.680 providing it like equal yeah but men don't care about your money it's like 1.00
00:00:26.540 nothing to them yeah but we're talking about my opinion on it not therapy no no
00:00:31.460 but I'm saying you just said that you would be working to and I'm saying to the
00:00:34.580 guy like they wouldn't care okay do you not do you not care I'm a little bit I
00:00:40.520 mean I've been quite fortunate to date girls that earn a decent amount of money 1.00
00:00:43.820 especially when I've been younger it is nice but it's not like I put it's not a
00:00:48.860 it's not a major deal I mean like I could happily date a girl that works at
00:00:52.820 McDonald's if she was a nice girl okay what do you guys think that men look
00:00:57.800 for so if you had to list like five things that men look for what would you
00:01:01.340 say god I've really been out the game for a while so I think I'm not the right
00:01:04.700 person to ask yeah you're in it now so what do you get this guy right you got to
00:01:13.460 know your target your mark like it's too soon it's too soon I'm working on me but
00:01:21.680 you didn't learn anything about like what your husband liked if you're married
00:01:24.440 that long not me anything how long were you married ten years to you you were
00:01:32.780 married you got for ten years you didn't learn anything about men clearly not
00:01:38.180 because he left so I don't know I don't have to answer that question okay what
00:01:44.500 do you think men want I think they want a woman that gives them space to be them 0.99
00:01:48.680 hmm I also think they want someone that like supports them I always believe I
00:01:55.100 think I come from quite a traditional and background in terms of like family
00:01:59.240 and like how things run I'd say and so I think a woman that allows him to be the
00:02:04.560 head but still can be the neck that holds him through whatever it is that you
00:02:08.820 both need to go through and I think someone that's his peace you know someone
00:02:13.440 that can bring some form of tranquility into his life when everything feels like
00:02:17.100 it's all over the place or to just actually just you know just be at peace
00:02:22.080 and not bring so much like problems or always moaning or plucking things that are
00:02:26.280 thinner to make something happen from past trauma or whatever it is I think
00:02:30.960 that's what men kind of look and again I'd say that looks or some sometimes it
00:02:35.880 could be body but I wouldn't say it is I think it depends on what stage they're at
00:02:39.840 in their life if they're willing to just like mess around and just want their
00:02:43.280 things I feel like that's what they focus on but I think when they're ready to
00:02:45.860 settle down it's just a woman that can ground them what do you think I feel like 1.00
00:02:51.560 I wouldn't be able to say like just five things like I feel like in my
00:02:56.860 relationship I know that like my boyfriend tells me that for him it's
00:03:01.920 important that I can give him space that he can grow into the person he needs to
00:03:06.540 be but as long as he knows that I'm gonna be there to wait for him to get to
00:03:10.600 that point then he feels secure in that you know I mean so I feel like men want
00:03:16.340 somebody who's gonna be there with them because for men they want to be able to
00:03:19.480 turn around and say yeah I went through ABCD but this woman stood by me the whole 0.99
00:03:24.580 time so that's why she gets to reap the benefits now so loyalty yeah loyalty is
00:03:29.140 really important for men like obviously everybody wants to be with a loyal
00:03:33.580 partner like men or women but for men it's really important like it's so so
00:03:38.100 important that they can have somebody who grows with them because they want to
00:03:41.860 build with their women they don't want to like just make the money and then get a 0.99
00:03:45.580 girl who's only come after the money you know I mean they want somebody who's
00:03:49.240 been there the whole time so that they feel like this person actually deserves now to
00:03:53.640 reap the benefits of what I've made because they've been there the whole
00:03:55.980 time anything else that you have other than loyalty the dog's loyal I think
00:04:05.700 I think how she carries herself as well like if you're somebody who's you know
00:04:11.640 you don't carry yourself well in public you have a bit of a reputation for
00:04:14.460 yourself it's gonna make the men look at you a bit sideways like do I really want
00:04:18.040 this person to be associated with me so like purity yeah period as well you want to
00:04:22.200 come from a good place you want to have good like morals and stuff like that so
00:04:26.940 it's not it's like if you know one day you end up having to meet their family
00:04:30.600 and stuff their family don't feel like they have anything to like pick at you
00:04:34.860 about like you've got good morals you come from a good place you know you've got
00:04:38.760 yourself together and they can see that as well then that's what they're looking
00:04:42.480 for okay what about you I'm definitely men want love 100% loyalty they want peace
00:04:51.780 they want you to be their piece so how can you give it because I always hear
00:04:55.620 women say that like I want to be his piece but I never hear any specifics it's
00:05:00.000 in terms of like you know leaves the house but work stress got stereotype stress
00:05:06.360 um and then you come home and then you're probably moaning about something
00:05:10.500 that he he didn't call you today like I bring peace to my partner and I'm not
00:05:16.200 just saying that but I I I know that because when he come home and we're
00:05:21.180 together there's this where he can just relax his shoulders basically and not
00:05:27.000 have to be this tough or or watch his back or kind of be like there's a lot of men
00:05:32.880 have to carry a lot basically so the fact that you can be a shoulder to lean on
00:05:36.600 listen to them support them it's almost kind of like therapy but not in that sort
00:05:42.840 of way men want their women to be therapists not therapists not in that way
00:05:46.200 but men want to have somebody that they can open up to as much as they feel like
00:05:49.920 they want to be tough they want to be they want to have their person and that and
00:05:54.540 their partner is that person we're not judged not feeling like they need to be
00:06:00.600 something that they have to be on the road in the house that sort of thing um and
00:06:05.920 men want love they want genuine wholehearted love um because you know it's
00:06:13.600 that sort of thing you can tell when a guy's in a good relationship how they act
00:06:18.140 and when they're in a bad relationship it affects their whole world around them as
00:06:22.040 much as they might be tough or not so that kind of deep genuine love is one of the
00:06:28.240 things that they're looking for because when guys are in the young age and they're
00:06:31.840 sleeping around they're not looking for those um um they're looking for family
00:06:38.480 orientated um a strong woman somebody like all those things that they're looking
00:06:42.900 for when they want to settle down
00:06:44.180 actually i have one question do you think women like men that are opening up to them
00:06:50.680 emotionally um i think so yeah funny enough um i know someone who she appreciates that
00:06:58.880 um because you get to know the real person when they open up um in terms of partner because
00:07:07.920 there's a lot of things that shape a man you know like family history um what they went
00:07:13.960 through childhood adulthood like there's a lot of things that shape them so when they open
00:07:18.740 up to a woman that's how they get the full picture of a man for example my mom always
00:07:24.000 said when i started dating a man can only act for so long so he might approach with this
00:07:29.620 tough exterior and then or he's chasing after something and then he can't act for that long
00:07:38.020 and then he kind of realize who that real person is
00:07:40.320 you