JustPearlyThings - March 15, 2023


Man Talks about his 7 Baby Mamas


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

184.37845

Word Count

1,724

Sentence Count

137

Misogynist Sentences

20

Hate Speech Sentences

12


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine to talk about his experience being a single father to 7 kids. We talk about what it's like to be a single dad, how it's hard being a father, and what he's learned from his experience.


Transcript

00:00:00.960 Do they ever try to reach out to you?
00:00:02.600 Like, have any of the kids ever tried to reach out to you?
00:00:05.920 I'm not.
00:00:07.500 My mind's set in stone.
00:00:08.640 But I guess a few days ago, one of my baby mamas
00:00:13.280 had reached out to me.
00:00:15.120 I plan to bring on one of these shows,
00:00:18.320 but I don't think she want to be on camera.
00:00:20.080 But she would, like, speak in Colleen or something like that.
00:00:22.800 But she was one of the baby mamas that kind of understand
00:00:26.880 how I think in the sense of we both was being irresponsible,
00:00:30.720 right?
00:00:31.260 So she knew the consequences as well as I did after,
00:00:36.520 you know what I'm saying, she found out she was pregnant.
00:00:39.400 And I was like, yeah, I'm not ready to be a father.
00:00:41.260 And she was like, OK, I understand.
00:00:43.340 I'm not trying to push fatherhood on you.
00:00:45.360 But if you ever decided you want to be a father, I'm here.
00:00:48.660 But she didn't want to abort the baby.
00:00:50.640 Everybody thinking is just like, it's a lot of different
00:00:53.800 scenarios that I could get into.
00:00:56.520 But I'll just give you a few.
00:00:58.560 So it wasn't just like all these women are just
00:01:02.220 trying to force me to be a father.
00:01:03.800 Some women just want kids, you know what I'm saying,
00:01:05.820 and don't believe in abortion.
00:01:07.700 I can understand that.
00:01:08.600 But she hit me up the other day.
00:01:13.200 And she said, yeah, I can kind of come defend you if I can.
00:01:17.080 But she's not trying to be on camera or anything,
00:01:19.400 because she is in a relationship right now.
00:01:22.740 How many of them are actively searching for you, would you
00:01:26.540 say, or trying to get child support off of you?
00:01:28.440 I have.
00:01:29.440 That's the only one that I see in my DMs.
00:01:33.720 I ain't get no emails or nothing like that.
00:01:35.360 But I probably, my DMs is crazy.
00:01:40.060 So that's probably the only one I see.
00:01:42.020 I know one, the married woman, she not looking for me at all.
00:01:46.300 So I guess the other five, I haven't seen nothing from it
00:01:52.020 or heard nothing from it.
00:01:53.740 I just meant like, are any of, I know you mentioned they
00:01:57.240 don't know your full name, so they can't get child support
00:01:59.600 from you.
00:01:59.900 But I just meant, are any of them trying to get it,
00:02:03.080 like actively, like trying to find you, showing up?
00:02:05.080 Have you ever had them show up at your work,
00:02:06.940 like somewhere that they knew you would be?
00:02:10.220 Anything like that?
00:02:12.720 Nah, impossible.
00:02:15.420 What do you mean, impossible?
00:02:18.020 It's impossible.
00:02:20.760 I make good money, though.
00:02:21.680 It's impossible.
00:02:23.560 I don't do nothing legal, but I make good money.
00:02:25.400 Oh, OK.
00:02:26.120 But it's impossible.
00:02:27.300 Yeah.
00:02:27.960 OK, and why, why do you feel like it's more
00:02:30.660 on the women than you?
00:02:33.500 Oh, shit, they don't want to carry the babies.
00:02:35.700 Nine months, I don't carry kids.
00:02:37.640 I could be irresponsible.
00:02:40.840 I could be, it's a difference between being
00:02:43.700 ignorantly irresponsible and consciously
00:02:46.540 irresponsible.
00:02:47.880 I could be irresponsible.
00:02:53.760 Seven baby mothers, huh?
00:02:55.280 That's just so crazy to me.
00:02:57.920 I know, I know, I know, it's a guy that,
00:03:00.220 I wouldn't say his name, he, uh, he got 15.
00:03:03.800 You know, you know someone with 15?
00:03:06.600 Mm-hmm.
00:03:07.260 Because it's just to me, I just like,
00:03:09.200 how do you, how does that happen that many times?
00:03:11.300 Like, I don't understand one.
00:03:13.460 You know, I'll give you two, but seven?
00:03:15.840 Seven?
00:03:16.400 Like, how do you get seven baby mothers?
00:03:18.140 Man, that's crazy.
00:03:21.000 I didn't want seven baby mothers.
00:03:22.280 They, they kept the kids.
00:03:23.640 Yeah.
00:03:24.740 Yeah.
00:03:25.340 Yeah, but like, you didn't know that after the first,
00:03:27.240 second, third time?
00:03:30.140 It was over, it was over a point of, of, of,
00:03:33.220 shit, 17 to 27, shit, a decade.
00:03:36.720 This is, oh, 17 to 27.
00:03:39.860 So it's like, one a year.
00:03:42.060 Well, you say 17.
00:03:42.960 It's like, well, it's like every other year.
00:03:44.400 I say about six years, because the last one was four.
00:03:46.360 So, over a span of six years, it's like that, yeah.
00:03:50.040 Wow.
00:03:52.640 Wow, that's crazy.
00:03:54.880 Um, man's, man is, um, did you learn anything from it?
00:04:01.920 Like, do you, are you more responsible now, at least?
00:04:04.180 Do you feel like the women learned?
00:04:05.520 Like, did they learn a lesson in it?
00:04:09.820 I mean, I don't, I don't keep up with them.
00:04:12.380 So, shit, hopefully they learned a lesson.
00:04:14.920 I mean, but, you know, stuff, if I repeated it,
00:04:18.760 after the first, the first time, I don't know,
00:04:22.000 you don't know, I don't, I don't know their experience.
00:04:23.660 It's possible that they learned.
00:04:24.940 No, for sure I learned though.
00:04:26.400 My last, my last pregnancy scare was, uh,
00:04:30.400 shit, October of 2022.
00:04:33.380 And, uh, but this, this, I actually liked this female
00:04:37.340 until she said a particular thing.
00:04:38.920 Uh, I asked her, uh, after seven, eight weeks,
00:04:42.020 because I believe, I don't care if you're married,
00:04:43.800 I don't care, like, if you've been knowing somebody
00:04:46.260 for a long time, I believe you should,
00:04:47.920 you should get a DNA test on your kids, right?
00:04:50.300 So, this is the one that I was actually, like,
00:04:53.060 looking to keep, you feel me?
00:04:54.860 And, uh, I asked her, I was like, oh, you know, seven, eight
00:04:56.960 weeks, I'm, uh, I want to, uh, get a DNA test, you know,
00:05:00.500 because you can do it in the womb, I heard that.
00:05:01.940 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:02.740 Technology, thank God.
00:05:03.860 So, uh, she was like, oh, that's embarrassing.
00:05:06.880 And I wouldn't do that.
00:05:09.500 I'd rather be a single mother.
00:05:10.880 And I never talked to her again.
00:05:12.980 Then take a plan B, she'd rather be a single mother?
00:05:17.980 Nah, at this point, she was already, like, um,
00:05:22.900 she had to be, like, uh, four to five weeks.
00:05:25.920 Oh, wow.
00:05:26.900 Yeah, and she was like, uh, instead of taking a DNA test,
00:05:31.900 because that's embarrassing to her,
00:05:33.900 she'd rather be a single mother.
00:05:35.900 That only let me know, shit, that could be for somebody else.
00:05:38.580 Why would I waste my money to try to find out who this kid fuck?
00:05:40.920 Mm-hmm.
00:05:42.920 Wow.
00:05:45.920 Um...
00:05:49.920 I'm sorry.
00:05:51.920 Um...
00:05:55.920 I just, I just can't...
00:05:58.920 It's actually wild to me that...
00:06:00.920 Kate says it.
00:06:01.920 Yeah, it's just...
00:06:02.920 This is just such a different world.
00:06:03.920 I don't know a single person with, like,
00:06:05.920 even two baby mothers that weren't from, like, wives.
00:06:09.940 You know?
00:06:10.940 So it's like, it's just crazy to me that one person can have seven,
00:06:13.940 you know someone with 15.
00:06:15.940 Look, they take trips to Jamaica to find men like me.
00:06:21.940 Um...
00:06:31.940 Why do you think modern women are so irresponsible with their bodies?
00:06:37.960 Because they have a system that would back their ass to fuck up,
00:06:43.960 child support, got different type of welfarers,
00:06:46.940 different type of government assistance that favors single mothers.
00:06:49.940 Mm-hmm.
00:06:51.940 So if they are irresponsible,
00:06:52.940 they know there's a system that's going to back their ass up.
00:06:55.940 Mm-hmm.
00:06:56.940 Do you think that they would've...
00:06:58.940 Those women would've acted differently if they didn't have those systems?
00:07:02.960 Oh, yeah.
00:07:04.960 I think more women would be asking men to marry them
00:07:07.960 before they even try to even bear a child,
00:07:09.960 which it should be like that.
00:07:11.960 Mm-hmm.
00:07:12.960 I really think and prefer women to, you know what I'm saying,
00:07:15.960 kind of take in consideration the type of dude that you might meet
00:07:18.960 because you might meet me.
00:07:19.960 And if I don't want you like that and I don't like you like that
00:07:22.960 and I accidentally get you pregnant,
00:07:24.960 I don't want a kid with you.
00:07:26.980 So I think women should be more conscious about who the men,
00:07:30.980 which man they're sleeping with
00:07:32.980 and hold some type of moral standards,
00:07:35.980 at least have a dude commit to you, you know what I'm saying?
00:07:37.980 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:38.980 If you don't believe in marriage,
00:07:39.980 at least have a dude, you know what I'm saying,
00:07:41.980 buy you a motherfucking house or something,
00:07:43.980 you know what I'm saying?
00:07:44.980 So you could have some type of stability
00:07:45.980 to raise a motherfucking child.
00:07:46.980 Mm-hmm.
00:07:47.980 So I really believe we should get back to this...
00:07:51.000 Mm-hmm.
00:07:52.000 ...to this, uh, uh, uh, uh,
00:07:54.000 marry before you carry type of shit.
00:07:56.000 Mm-hmm.
00:07:57.000 It sounds hypocritical, but it's in the name.
00:07:58.000 Yeah, I was gonna say, isn't that hard to say
00:08:00.000 when it's like you're contributing in a way?
00:08:03.000 Yeah.
00:08:05.000 It is hard to say, but shit, somebody got to learn someday.
00:08:07.980 And the message got to get out there,
00:08:09.980 even if it's from a hypocrite.
00:08:10.980 Yeah.
00:08:11.980 Yeah.
00:08:12.980 But you got to think about the things in the past.
00:08:13.980 Didn't they say it's better to,
00:08:15.980 it's better to, uh, to raise a child in a two-parent home, right?
00:08:20.000 Yeah.
00:08:21.000 Do you ever feel bad?
00:08:22.000 I think...
00:08:23.000 Do you ever feel bad?
00:08:24.000 Not bad at all.
00:08:25.000 Not even a little bit?
00:08:26.000 Like, do you think you'd ever want to meet any of your kids?
00:08:28.000 Like, a little bit.
00:08:29.000 Would you ever want to meet your kids, like,
00:08:31.000 when they're older?
00:08:32.000 Nah, not really.
00:08:35.000 But it can happen.
00:08:36.000 I'm not against it.
00:08:37.000 But like, I don't have a desire for kids that don't supposed to be here.
00:08:42.000 What?
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