Married Millionaire Says The Unthinkable
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Summary
In this episode, we are joined by a very good friend of mine, who has been a mentor to me for a number of years. He is also the CEO of a company that helps men find their ideal mate. In this episode we discuss what it means to be a good mate, how to find your ideal mate, and what to look for in a partner.
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just wondering you have so many guys you mentor so i was just curious if you advise them the same way
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i tell my guys this never marry from a weak position never commit from a weak position
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what i mean from a weak position you know when you see red flags and you're like everybody's you
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know everybody knows that you see the red flags and you choose to ignore them why because that's
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the only option you have and like i tell guys in our company when they join they're in their early
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20s i'm like don't like don't commit to the first girl you freaking kiss man because you're like
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there's things you're not going to see like go and run the hose just straight up like go go through
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the 304s run it run it run it run it so that sorry man that's that's a very different i expected you
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to have more of a trap that's very opposite no no that is that is the optimal the op the optimal thing
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that a man can do is make himself as highly attractive to women as possible as possible
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to increase his pool and then pick the option that optimizes for him and then commit to that now some
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people might say oh you should have three or four wives some people want that i don't want that like
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i'm i'm happy what did you think about what he said earlier about guys liking um alpha women sometimes
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like certain guys well i found myself very my mom is an alpha woman she's a high high income earner
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um compared to my dad so she actually her career took off you know in computer science she's got a
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master's computer science so when we moved to canada she was like the soviet engineer and her career took
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off and my dad just remained a humble mechanic um and so i found myself at a young age attracted
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to these women that were sort of like argumentative uh sometimes would cause a scene in public because
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that's my mom um and and wanted control and i made a and again i i started finding myself attracted to
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those women and i remember my first serious girlfriend for two years she never cooked a meal
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she said i think it's beneath women to cook for men in the bin there it was and that wasn't the only
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and that was the only that wasn't the only thing can i share something something that came in my mind
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basically what you're saying is i get it because you know for example a lot of people dm me saying
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they talk about my chest and that and i'm like is it because they've got a fat mom and they've been
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like you know when they're breastfeeding so that's why they dm me talking about wanting to lick my nipples
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and all that so i get it it comes from childhood and it comes from like little things like you know what i
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mean it comes from certain feelings must come from childhood for them to have those things as adults
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and i really believe people that have fat mothers also like fat people uh there's the study there
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there's a study that's been shown that poor men prefer uh corpulent you know larger women and what's
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interesting about that i'm like i wonder i'm like i wonder if it's because i i i wonder if it's because
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that's just the pool that they have available to them you know and obviously if you grow up poor
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there's more likelihood you will be poor like of course there is that like we know that wow um
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yeah sorry you were gonna no i was gonna actually like in terms of obviously every man's different
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yeah you see me i couldn't be of a girl for two years one year six months you can't cook no dinner
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what's going on you're probably you're probably just naturally better with women than i was i wasn't
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naturally good at it but but you know what i did no i'm just serious like if you worked where you
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worked and you were getting some good for you man i'd like to know you got good ribs i don't have
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i don't want to like maybe i arguing i'm being too no we're talking about being picky someone don't
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care about cooking they'll teach the girl how to cook very much and my wife cooks all the time and
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it's amazing and it's only steak at her house now that's the rule this month i've only i've only eaten
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steak at home this month's the only thing anyways um i i was intentional about again i'll just share my
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think this everybody's different i had a book uh a vision book i believed in actualization because
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my mentor said you need to believe in it okay i said fine i don't believe in astrology but i'll try
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this stuff whatever i had a book and one of the it was like a folder there was like you know goals in
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different areas and one of the uh one of the dividers was about my ideal mate and i actually described
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very vividly with pictures what my ideal mate would be to me that included not only looks of course looks
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was there i was number one uh for me it also included you know background family really like
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i got really detailed i had another mentor who was 39 he sold his company at 39 for 50 million bucks
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and just look a guy put me on the board of his freaking company just i said dude i was like 24
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like what are you doing he goes dimitri i want you to just sit there and listen we're not going to pay
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you i just want you to sit and listen so you can be around these people and just see how they
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talk see how they think and just learn from them and i learned a ton from that right
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and and he was like girl's relationship with her father matters a lot i didn't know why i didn't
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understand it but i said okay so i wrote down i want my future wife to have an amazing relationship
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with her dad and respect her father this was the words he said respect her father so i i got really
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really detailed right now as i got into like 24 25 26 my options opened up profusely like it was like
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it was like good times at that time but then i was choosing from the women that made themselves
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available to me and i and i didn't turn the sex down let's put it that way but in terms of like who i was
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going to wife up i knew exactly what i wanted and that may be different from different people but i
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really want to take a strategic position and i was willing to wait you know why i was willing to wait
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because the sex was available you know i think i think if the guys aren't getting laid then they're
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probably just gonna yes get married for the p that's a terrible decision yeah i got married for the
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character and i i you know and that and that's been the intent yeah dimitri you've been sharing some
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sort of special wisdom because i've actually really been enjoying this yeah yeah yeah it's
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actually your wisdom to hear your experiences to to how it is for you also the fact that you've come
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from a hardship background i must say i think you deserve a clap might as well give him a clap guys
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yeah yeah can i touch you guys you guys know that you guys know that you guys know that statistically
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if you're yeah i was going to say statistically if you're wearing a suit people just believe you
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more as an expert so lg fashion house anyways dimitri you know what's interesting when you were
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talking about um no tattoos no i don't know if you said piercings no piercings that was for my wife
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no piercings no tattoos it's interesting because when i was growing up my mom would always say that
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to me she'd be like you can't get a tattoo like you and i'd be like mom you're so judgmental why
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would you say like you know and i would always be you know just arguing with my mom about it and she
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would always tell me you can't get tattoos no piercing no this no that and um i made it to 18 right and i
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went to germany for the summer and i i was thinking i was like maybe i will just to piss my mom you
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know you're 18 right please don't get a swastika no no no so i'm joking i'm joking i didn't i didn't
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end up doing it but it's like one of the things i'm so thankful for now is that like my mom just
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like beat that into me like no heavy makeup no no tattoos no don't like stay in shape like all that
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stuff like i'm just yeah and it's interesting you say that because what i noticed is like my brothers
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like they won't even give a girl like a second look if they say she's got any tattoos that are
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visible and it's interesting it's sad because sometimes like girls are so beautiful but it's
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like they'll get like a sleeve or they'll get something i'm like why are you wasting that yeah
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is there someone without tattoo or without piercing better than someone that has them like that's a
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great question very good question does it make them greater than the one that doesn't have yeah
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i know the answer and there's no tattoos no tattoos i love makeup i love that's just me i'm a girly
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girl you know what i mean but it's true like my mom was always like no tattoos no no no very
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judgmental i mean i was i was raised as a roman catholic yeah what is it what is it about
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you want to hear something crazy i value purity
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i just i i had to learn about myself like why do i feel that way and then i introspect i value
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purity is number one and and and again i don't i know that some people listen to this or even here
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are not going to agree with me that's okay i don't i don't make your decisions you make your
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decisions i'm just telling you my own perspective like i value purity and i think it shows a lack of
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impulse control uh what do you uh sorry what do you define as a purity just clean body yes partially
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yeah like this it's symbolic right i understand it's not it's not physical it's metaphysical it's
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symbolic okay yeah they're like and by the way i see you have tattoos i'm not like you're i'm sure that
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like 99 of men would disagree with me on this so i'm probably not statistically correct here so just
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know that you're more qualified in many men's eyes than less qualified because i'm sure other men
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would see that as fun and uh and expressive and and maybe um no they don't whatever i don't know
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i don't know but i don't even find it attractive it depends on the type of guy you're going for
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guys that guys that from like um a corporate background like that's not what they go for
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typically from a business you know what they say when when they say birds of a feather flock together
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mm-hmm i think we need to always circle back around to that because if i date somebody completely
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out of my character completely out of the people i vibrate on like this frequency of course i'm gonna
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have to challenge myself i'm i'm going to want to get my tattoos lasered and stuff so if you want to get
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into that um level of of people you know those those kind of people you want to be around millionaires and
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you want to have a millionaire husband and all of those things it comes at a price yeah but do you
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actually feel like just because like people don't have tattoos in person they can be more successful
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than people not in relationships yeah my brother so i just you know i'm one of ten so i have i have
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a family at ten five boys five girls and um out of my five brothers i think four make six figures so
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four are in the top like five to ten percent of earners um and none of them date women with tattoos
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like they refuse they won't do it um the oldest if i can ask how old is the oldest brother um he the
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oldest brother is 33 he just got married and that's first kid we should we should clarify that we should
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clarify that like just because a man will sleep with you and we all know this doesn't mean that he'll