JustPearlyThings - Married Millionaire Says The Unthinkable

00:00:00.000 just wondering you have so many guys you mentor so i was just curious if you advise them the same way

00:00:04.160 i tell my guys this never marry from a weak position never commit from a weak position

00:00:07.440 what i mean from a weak position you know when you see red flags and you're like everybody's you

00:00:12.080 know everybody knows that you see the red flags and you choose to ignore them why because that's

00:00:15.680 the only option you have and like i tell guys in our company when they join they're in their early

00:00:19.360 20s i'm like don't like don't commit to the first girl you freaking kiss man because you're like 0.63

00:00:26.240 there's things you're not going to see like go and run the hose just straight up like go go through

00:00:30.080 the 304s run it run it run it run it so that sorry man that's that's a very different i expected you

00:00:36.160 to have more of a trap that's very opposite no no that is that is the optimal the op the optimal thing

00:00:42.480 that a man can do is make himself as highly attractive to women as possible as possible

00:00:48.480 to increase his pool and then pick the option that optimizes for him and then commit to that now some

00:00:54.240 people might say oh you should have three or four wives some people want that i don't want that like 1.00

00:00:57.360 i'm i'm happy what did you think about what he said earlier about guys liking um alpha women sometimes

00:01:04.080 like certain guys well i found myself very my mom is an alpha woman she's a high high income earner 1.00

00:01:09.680 um compared to my dad so she actually her career took off you know in computer science she's got a

00:01:14.240 master's computer science so when we moved to canada she was like the soviet engineer and her career took

00:01:18.960 off and my dad just remained a humble mechanic um and so i found myself at a young age attracted

00:01:24.160 to these women that were sort of like argumentative uh sometimes would cause a scene in public because 1.00

00:01:29.200 that's my mom um and and wanted control and i made a and again i i started finding myself attracted to

00:01:35.520 those women and i remember my first serious girlfriend for two years she never cooked a meal 1.00

00:01:40.400 she said i think it's beneath women to cook for men in the bin there it was and that wasn't the only 1.00

00:01:45.440 and that was the only that wasn't the only thing can i share something something that came in my mind

00:01:49.840 basically what you're saying is i get it because you know for example a lot of people dm me saying

00:01:58.160 they talk about my chest and that and i'm like is it because they've got a fat mom and they've been 0.99

00:02:04.720 like you know when they're breastfeeding so that's why they dm me talking about wanting to lick my nipples 0.99

00:02:09.920 and all that so i get it it comes from childhood and it comes from like little things like you know what i

00:02:15.520 mean it comes from certain feelings must come from childhood for them to have those things as adults

00:02:22.880 and i really believe people that have fat mothers also like fat people uh there's the study there

00:02:29.120 there's a study that's been shown that poor men prefer uh corpulent you know larger women and what's

00:02:34.400 interesting about that i'm like i wonder i'm like i wonder if it's because i i i wonder if it's because

00:02:39.280 that's just the pool that they have available to them you know and obviously if you grow up poor

00:02:42.880 there's more likelihood you will be poor like of course there is that like we know that wow um

00:02:48.240 yeah sorry you were gonna no i was gonna actually like in terms of obviously every man's different

00:02:52.560 yeah you see me i couldn't be of a girl for two years one year six months you can't cook no dinner

00:03:00.480 what's going on you're probably you're probably just naturally better with women than i was i wasn't

00:03:05.920 naturally good at it but but you know what i did no i'm just serious like if you worked where you

00:03:09.040 worked and you were getting some good for you man i'd like to know you got good ribs i don't have

00:03:13.440 i don't want to like maybe i arguing i'm being too no we're talking about being picky someone don't

00:03:18.880 care about cooking they'll teach the girl how to cook very much and my wife cooks all the time and 1.00

00:03:24.160 it's amazing and it's only steak at her house now that's the rule this month i've only i've only eaten

00:03:28.560 steak at home this month's the only thing anyways um i i was intentional about again i'll just share my

00:03:33.280 think this everybody's different i had a book uh a vision book i believed in actualization because

00:03:38.800 my mentor said you need to believe in it okay i said fine i don't believe in astrology but i'll try

00:03:42.720 this stuff whatever i had a book and one of the it was like a folder there was like you know goals in

00:03:48.320 different areas and one of the uh one of the dividers was about my ideal mate and i actually described

00:03:54.560 very vividly with pictures what my ideal mate would be to me that included not only looks of course looks 0.85

00:04:00.160 was there i was number one uh for me it also included you know background family really like

00:04:05.840 i got really detailed i had another mentor who was 39 he sold his company at 39 for 50 million bucks

00:04:10.400 and just look a guy put me on the board of his freaking company just i said dude i was like 24

00:04:16.160 like what are you doing he goes dimitri i want you to just sit there and listen we're not going to pay 0.82

00:04:21.040 you i just want you to sit and listen so you can be around these people and just see how they

00:04:24.320 talk see how they think and just learn from them and i learned a ton from that right

00:04:28.080 and and he was like girl's relationship with her father matters a lot i didn't know why i didn't

00:04:32.320 understand it but i said okay so i wrote down i want my future wife to have an amazing relationship

00:04:36.240 with her dad and respect her father this was the words he said respect her father so i i got really

00:04:40.320 really detailed right now as i got into like 24 25 26 my options opened up profusely like it was like

00:04:47.520 it was like good times at that time but then i was choosing from the women that made themselves 1.00

00:04:52.000 available to me and i and i didn't turn the sex down let's put it that way but in terms of like who i was

00:04:56.640 going to wife up i knew exactly what i wanted and that may be different from different people but i

00:05:00.160 really want to take a strategic position and i was willing to wait you know why i was willing to wait

00:05:04.240 because the sex was available you know i think i think if the guys aren't getting laid then they're

00:05:08.480 probably just gonna yes get married for the p that's a terrible decision yeah i got married for the

00:05:12.960 character and i i you know and that and that's been the intent yeah dimitri you've been sharing some

00:05:19.280 sort of special wisdom because i've actually really been enjoying this yeah yeah yeah it's

00:05:23.760 actually your wisdom to hear your experiences to to how it is for you also the fact that you've come

00:05:30.320 from a hardship background i must say i think you deserve a clap might as well give him a clap guys

00:05:35.680 yeah yeah can i touch you guys you guys know that you guys know that you guys know that statistically

00:05:41.200 if you're yeah i was going to say statistically if you're wearing a suit people just believe you

00:05:44.240 more as an expert so lg fashion house anyways dimitri you know what's interesting when you were

00:05:49.840 talking about um no tattoos no i don't know if you said piercings no piercings that was for my wife 0.99

00:05:56.640 no piercings no tattoos it's interesting because when i was growing up my mom would always say that

00:06:09.840 to me she'd be like you can't get a tattoo like you and i'd be like mom you're so judgmental why

00:06:15.760 would you say like you know and i would always be you know just arguing with my mom about it and she

00:06:20.160 would always tell me you can't get tattoos no piercing no this no that and um i made it to 18 right and i

00:06:26.160 went to germany for the summer and i i was thinking i was like maybe i will just to piss my mom you 0.59

00:06:30.720 know you're 18 right please don't get a swastika no no no so i'm joking i'm joking i didn't i didn't

00:06:36.720 end up doing it but it's like one of the things i'm so thankful for now is that like my mom just

00:06:42.080 like beat that into me like no heavy makeup no no tattoos no don't like stay in shape like all that

00:06:49.120 stuff like i'm just yeah and it's interesting you say that because what i noticed is like my brothers

00:06:54.480 like they won't even give a girl like a second look if they say she's got any tattoos that are

00:06:58.240 visible and it's interesting it's sad because sometimes like girls are so beautiful but it's

00:07:03.520 like they'll get like a sleeve or they'll get something i'm like why are you wasting that yeah

00:07:08.720 is there someone without tattoo or without piercing better than someone that has them like that's a

00:07:13.760 great question very good question does it make them greater than the one that doesn't have yeah

00:07:18.160 i know the answer and there's no tattoos no tattoos i love makeup i love that's just me i'm a girly

00:07:25.840 girl you know what i mean but it's true like my mom was always like no tattoos no no no very

00:07:31.200 judgmental i mean i was i was raised as a roman catholic yeah what is it what is it about

00:07:39.040 you want to hear something crazy i value purity

00:07:41.040 i just i i had to learn about myself like why do i feel that way and then i introspect i value

00:07:48.480 purity is number one and and and again i don't i know that some people listen to this or even here

00:07:53.280 are not going to agree with me that's okay i don't i don't make your decisions you make your

00:07:56.800 decisions i'm just telling you my own perspective like i value purity and i think it shows a lack of

00:08:01.200 impulse control uh what do you uh sorry what do you define as a purity just clean body yes partially

00:08:09.520 yeah like this it's symbolic right i understand it's not it's not physical it's metaphysical it's

00:08:13.280 symbolic okay yeah they're like and by the way i see you have tattoos i'm not like you're i'm sure that

00:08:17.520 like 99 of men would disagree with me on this so i'm probably not statistically correct here so just

00:08:23.360 know that you're more qualified in many men's eyes than less qualified because i'm sure other men

00:08:28.160 would see that as fun and uh and expressive and and maybe um no they don't whatever i don't know

00:08:34.320 i don't know but i don't even find it attractive it depends on the type of guy you're going for

00:08:39.680 guys that guys that from like um a corporate background like that's not what they go for

00:08:44.480 typically from a business you know what they say when when they say birds of a feather flock together

00:08:51.520 mm-hmm i think we need to always circle back around to that because if i date somebody completely

00:08:59.680 out of my character completely out of the people i vibrate on like this frequency of course i'm gonna

00:09:06.400 have to challenge myself i'm i'm going to want to get my tattoos lasered and stuff so if you want to get

00:09:13.040 into that um level of of people you know those those kind of people you want to be around millionaires and

00:09:20.960 you want to have a millionaire husband and all of those things it comes at a price yeah but do you

00:09:27.120 actually feel like just because like people don't have tattoos in person they can be more successful

00:09:32.240 than people not in relationships yeah my brother so i just you know i'm one of ten so i have i have

00:09:39.200 a family at ten five boys five girls and um out of my five brothers i think four make six figures so

00:09:45.120 four are in the top like five to ten percent of earners um and none of them date women with tattoos

00:09:50.720 like they refuse they won't do it um the oldest if i can ask how old is the oldest brother um he the

00:09:57.120 oldest brother is 33 he just got married and that's first kid we should we should clarify that we should

00:10:05.360 clarify that like just because a man will sleep with you and we all know this doesn't mean that he'll

00:10:09.120 commit to you like it doesn't

JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023

Married Millionaire Says The Unthinkable

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