JustPearlyThings - Men And Women NEED To UNDERSTAND This About Marriage

00:00:00.000 yeah i think we talked about the stressful situations uh in that communication section

00:00:04.160 knowing how you handle that but i do agree i mean we talked about this yesterday i'm not

00:00:09.200 necessarily a believer that that big beautiful blended family is always the best thing i know it

00:00:15.600 can work but it's extremely hard so i'm not doing that but i do agree if you do have children or if

00:00:21.520 there's any other thing that you're attached to what is the relationship with the other parent

00:00:27.040 because even if they're just you know happily um going along things change when when you get

00:00:35.360 married we talked about that yesterday and someone may say you know well i don't want that person

00:00:40.320 around my kids you just kind of know what you're walking into so that's why i kind of you know be

00:00:44.960 aware yeah so you talked about earlier the types of marriages that's what so you said executive

00:00:53.280 marriage or political political marriage right and and for me that's just the type of marriage you

00:00:58.400 know we had a certain president and i'm not saying anything politically but if you have a president

00:01:04.800 a senator a governor maybe this is someone that was selected for them to help soften their masculine

00:01:11.520 image but they may go their separate marriage um is it you know a marriage for papers you know maybe 1.00

00:01:17.440 it's like um an immigration situation that you all agree this is what we're going to do 0.90

00:01:21.840 uh it could be a military marriage where you know you want somebody to be um you know yours when you

00:01:29.040 come back home but they're going to have to live i don't know 11 12 months alone um i think when we

00:01:35.280 say marriage we have an um an understanding of what it means to us but we have to make sure that the

00:01:42.320 person we're marrying wants that same type of marriage because if he wants to just be like is my

00:01:46.640 dinner ready and then you go your way and i go my way and you really want somebody to bond with and

00:01:51.440 laugh with you guys are thinking about marriage completely differently and none is better than

00:01:56.480 others but you just got to make sure that the type of wife or husband that you want to be matches with 0.98

00:02:01.440 the type of marriage that you want to have um is there anything so traditional marriage military

00:02:07.280 marriage papers marriage political marriage um kevin samuels would always talk about like an executive

00:02:12.320 wife so like what's an executive marriage um so the executive wife you know i see a little bit of that in

00:02:18.960 me so that is usually uh maybe a second marriage or when someone's older and there aren't going to be

00:02:23.760 children involved right so you are basically um marrying maybe a one percent or a type of man or a

00:02:31.680 high value man that needs you to be a support system to him uh be the feminine asset to support his brand 1.00

00:02:40.480 make sure you can conduct yourself in any circumstance uh we used to hear on kevin's show a lot of times well

00:02:46.000 i can get together when well no he kind of needs you to be on all the time because you never know

00:02:51.440 when someone's going to call you and say hey we're doing this thing so the executive marriage is really

00:02:57.200 um not the like soccer mom which i love that there was a time for that but second time around for me it

00:03:03.360 would be more of a support system to a high value man and then we got to put modern marriage in here too 1.00

00:03:11.440 yeah that one i'm not too well versed in but i know there's different types of marriages and there 1.00

00:03:17.680 are you know millennials and other people who get married and maybe the 50 50 can work the only thing 0.98

00:03:23.360 i would say about that circling back to what we said 20 years from now if you're working 40 hours and

00:03:28.720 he's working 40 hours and maybe you all choose not to have children and you just use your disposable

00:03:33.760 income to travel and all that i would still say as a woman you're going to want to slow it down and 1.00

00:03:42.160 to a man the way he looks at it is wait a minute you're flipping the script on me you said we were

00:03:47.120 going to ride this out we're going to go 40 years hard in the paint i'm still going you know saddle up

00:03:51.520 let's go and you're kind of like oh man 6 a.m again do we have to do it and it's hard to see that

00:03:58.000 far ahead when you're in your 20s but you know with communication uh you can make it work if you don't

00:04:02.960 want to have children you need to say that don't lead anybody down that path if that's not what you

00:04:07.120 want yeah but gosh that is such a great point with the i never thought about the like later in life

00:04:15.360 like women aren't going to want to work as much yeah so even if it's 50 50 now it doesn't mean it'll 0.99

00:04:20.480 be 50 50 forever exactly what do you think um what do you think about do you think women should be 0.89

00:04:29.120 entitled to money after marriage entitled no um like what do you think about child support um alimony

00:04:36.880 like what's your what's your opinion on that stuff so i have to tread lightly here because i know there

00:04:41.280 are a lot of people that you know this is their situation and and i understand believe me so alimony is

00:04:47.680 just money to um make sure that a woman is not destitute i think it has turned into you know i hit the

00:04:55.760 lottery so let's talk about alimony and i am a believer you know in prenup so this is something

00:05:00.880 that you have to talk about but if a woman the way i believe and i'm no attorney but i believe that

00:05:06.720 if it was a woman that was a stay-at-home mom she gave up her career dedicated herself to the family 0.97

00:05:12.960 she's been out of the workforce for 20 years and for whatever reason the marriage ends if she's not 0.99

00:05:19.120 able to get right back into it for a period of time um i hate alimony because that's kind of

00:05:26.720 enforced but i understand why it's there i would hope that you know not all divorces have to be

00:05:32.000 horrible and if you have the type of relationship where you were a good woman you know to this man

00:05:37.680 i would think he would want to make sure the mother of his children is not destitute so i think most men

00:05:44.240 it's just like when the girls start to get crazy oh my goodness yeah like i think a lot i got girls 1.00

00:05:49.440 would get a lot well i don't they probably wouldn't get a lot more because of the legal structure but

00:05:54.960 i think like i think of um my grandparents on um one side were separated and it was funny because

00:06:01.120 they were separated but they just like still acted like they were married absolutely absolutely i mean

00:06:06.240 it's doable my ex-husband and i a lot of the boys teachers didn't even know that we were divorced we

00:06:12.480 would show up at the events together parent-teacher conference i'm putting stuff on his calendar like

00:06:17.040 it doesn't have to be bad if you know that okay the marriage isn't working but you still are you know

00:06:23.360 good people to each other i just think most if it's reasonable i think that most men would want to make

00:06:30.000 sure that you're okay but that means that okay you know what maybe i need to go back to school and get

00:06:34.400 a certificate maybe it's going to take me 18 months or i'm going to start working part-time and then get

00:06:38.880 my way back up like you have to come with something you can't just sit back and say take care of me

00:06:44.080 until you know forever that that's just me i know a lot of people have strong opinions about that but

00:06:49.680 i'm a boy mom so i i see things differently now i'm very passionate about that so after observing me

00:06:55.440 for a couple days what what do i need to improve on the most oh are you sure you want to am i going to

00:07:01.600 get banned no you won't okay i i can take it okay well i have to start we'll do the compliment

00:07:07.840 sandwich like i said yesterday and i mean it you really really are driven to get things right

00:07:13.280 and i think that's great you are a little scattered uh sometimes when i watch your streams it's a little

00:07:18.640 bit all over the place and i've had to work on that communication i've gotten feedback that i shout when

00:07:23.840 i talk so i've had to really work on making sure that my you've got such a soft voice so that's untaught

00:07:30.240 that is a huge compliment because i used to be a little bit all over the place too so like we said

00:07:35.520 in the beginning you can get better um i really wish your attire was ah i knew i knew this was

00:07:44.160 coming pearl i knew this was coming and you know melanie's helping me this week on the fashion episode

00:07:49.040 thank you melanie get here when you can melanie's coming okay and just because i've had to work on

00:07:55.280 that too i understand especially as uh either moms or i know you're an athlete sometimes we just want

00:08:00.640 to dress for comfort and i got that feedback too that i would just wear kind of what was comfortable

00:08:06.160 and baggy and it just didn't represent me well and especially as you know since i have whale

00:08:11.040 tendencies i got to make sure that i represent myself well i used to think oh it's so much work

00:08:16.800 i got to do all that it's not i did work with a stylist i had to hire someone to help me understand my

00:08:22.880 body type and what works well and kind of put like a capsule wardrobe in place that you kind of make a

00:08:28.160 uniform for yourself these things will work on me and it's kind of rinse and repeat so getting there

00:08:33.440 was a little hard but you can definitely do it so um communication a little bit more direct um

00:08:41.520 the attire uh because we're talking about getting pearl ready for a husband right yeah no i the clothes

00:08:48.160 i know i need to get better okay it's like i get so overwhelmed sometimes you do a lot this is a lot

00:08:54.160 because i'll be like getting ready and i'm just like i can't get anything that looks good and then

00:08:59.520 i then i just give up because i get so frustrated absolutely because i'll spend like 10 minutes and

00:09:03.840 i'll hate everything and i'm like yeah that's one of the exercises we had to do it was hard she made me 0.69

00:09:09.040 take everything out of my closet and she said try it on so i had to put everything on make sure it fit

00:09:14.160 make sure i still liked it and i had to be able to wear it with like three other different things like

00:09:19.040 make outfits from it and if it didn't meet that category we got rid of it so it really thin some

00:09:24.000 things down so yeah i understand on that um let's see after a couple days um those will probably be my

00:09:34.800 only two have you asked your your audience what they think you should improve on yeah what should i

00:09:39.920 oh i do have one more thing i already i think i know go ahead go well okay two more things uh yesterday

00:09:46.080 when i was pushing you to get the plates ready because the kids had uh um friends over and

00:09:51.600 everybody was hungry and uh you know i was like come on pearl in mom mode the family's hungry and

00:09:57.680 they're looking at you do you remember what you said okay okay well let's get a little differently

00:10:07.920 i'm sorry your future husband could be watching you're right okay i do care about the kids you

00:10:13.120 do care i do i do love the kids okay i just thought it was funny it was kind of funny so you do uh

00:10:20.480 language is one thing you you do kind of drop the f-bombs and you know a few other choice words but i

00:10:27.520 should have known when i arrived yesterday and you know it's me and then all i hear is pearl saying are

00:10:32.240 the strippers here yet and i was like wait a minute what did i get myself into as many of you

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JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023

Men And Women NEED To UNDERSTAND This About Marriage

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