Men And Women NEED To UNDERSTAND This About Marriage
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good wife and mother, the types of marriages that are out there, and the benefits and challenges of being a good mother. We also discuss the benefits of child support and alimony.
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yeah i think we talked about the stressful situations uh in that communication section
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knowing how you handle that but i do agree i mean we talked about this yesterday i'm not
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necessarily a believer that that big beautiful blended family is always the best thing i know it
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can work but it's extremely hard so i'm not doing that but i do agree if you do have children or if
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there's any other thing that you're attached to what is the relationship with the other parent
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because even if they're just you know happily um going along things change when when you get
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married we talked about that yesterday and someone may say you know well i don't want that person
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around my kids you just kind of know what you're walking into so that's why i kind of you know be
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aware yeah so you talked about earlier the types of marriages that's what so you said executive
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marriage or political political marriage right and and for me that's just the type of marriage you
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know we had a certain president and i'm not saying anything politically but if you have a president
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a senator a governor maybe this is someone that was selected for them to help soften their masculine
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image but they may go their separate marriage um is it you know a marriage for papers you know maybe
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it's like um an immigration situation that you all agree this is what we're going to do
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uh it could be a military marriage where you know you want somebody to be um you know yours when you
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come back home but they're going to have to live i don't know 11 12 months alone um i think when we
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say marriage we have an um an understanding of what it means to us but we have to make sure that the
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person we're marrying wants that same type of marriage because if he wants to just be like is my
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dinner ready and then you go your way and i go my way and you really want somebody to bond with and
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laugh with you guys are thinking about marriage completely differently and none is better than
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others but you just got to make sure that the type of wife or husband that you want to be matches with
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the type of marriage that you want to have um is there anything so traditional marriage military
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marriage papers marriage political marriage um kevin samuels would always talk about like an executive
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wife so like what's an executive marriage um so the executive wife you know i see a little bit of that in
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me so that is usually uh maybe a second marriage or when someone's older and there aren't going to be
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children involved right so you are basically um marrying maybe a one percent or a type of man or a
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high value man that needs you to be a support system to him uh be the feminine asset to support his brand
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make sure you can conduct yourself in any circumstance uh we used to hear on kevin's show a lot of times well
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i can get together when well no he kind of needs you to be on all the time because you never know
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when someone's going to call you and say hey we're doing this thing so the executive marriage is really
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um not the like soccer mom which i love that there was a time for that but second time around for me it
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would be more of a support system to a high value man and then we got to put modern marriage in here too
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yeah that one i'm not too well versed in but i know there's different types of marriages and there
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are you know millennials and other people who get married and maybe the 50 50 can work the only thing
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i would say about that circling back to what we said 20 years from now if you're working 40 hours and
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he's working 40 hours and maybe you all choose not to have children and you just use your disposable
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income to travel and all that i would still say as a woman you're going to want to slow it down and
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to a man the way he looks at it is wait a minute you're flipping the script on me you said we were
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going to ride this out we're going to go 40 years hard in the paint i'm still going you know saddle up
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let's go and you're kind of like oh man 6 a.m again do we have to do it and it's hard to see that
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far ahead when you're in your 20s but you know with communication uh you can make it work if you don't
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want to have children you need to say that don't lead anybody down that path if that's not what you
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want yeah but gosh that is such a great point with the i never thought about the like later in life
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like women aren't going to want to work as much yeah so even if it's 50 50 now it doesn't mean it'll
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be 50 50 forever exactly what do you think um what do you think about do you think women should be
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entitled to money after marriage entitled no um like what do you think about child support um alimony
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like what's your what's your opinion on that stuff so i have to tread lightly here because i know there
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are a lot of people that you know this is their situation and and i understand believe me so alimony is
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just money to um make sure that a woman is not destitute i think it has turned into you know i hit the
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lottery so let's talk about alimony and i am a believer you know in prenup so this is something
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that you have to talk about but if a woman the way i believe and i'm no attorney but i believe that
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if it was a woman that was a stay-at-home mom she gave up her career dedicated herself to the family
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she's been out of the workforce for 20 years and for whatever reason the marriage ends if she's not
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able to get right back into it for a period of time um i hate alimony because that's kind of
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enforced but i understand why it's there i would hope that you know not all divorces have to be
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horrible and if you have the type of relationship where you were a good woman you know to this man
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i would think he would want to make sure the mother of his children is not destitute so i think most men
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it's just like when the girls start to get crazy oh my goodness yeah like i think a lot i got girls
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would get a lot well i don't they probably wouldn't get a lot more because of the legal structure but
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i think like i think of um my grandparents on um one side were separated and it was funny because
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they were separated but they just like still acted like they were married absolutely absolutely i mean
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it's doable my ex-husband and i a lot of the boys teachers didn't even know that we were divorced we
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would show up at the events together parent-teacher conference i'm putting stuff on his calendar like
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it doesn't have to be bad if you know that okay the marriage isn't working but you still are you know
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good people to each other i just think most if it's reasonable i think that most men would want to make
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sure that you're okay but that means that okay you know what maybe i need to go back to school and get
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a certificate maybe it's going to take me 18 months or i'm going to start working part-time and then get
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my way back up like you have to come with something you can't just sit back and say take care of me
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until you know forever that that's just me i know a lot of people have strong opinions about that but
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i'm a boy mom so i i see things differently now i'm very passionate about that so after observing me
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for a couple days what what do i need to improve on the most oh are you sure you want to am i going to
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get banned no you won't okay i i can take it okay well i have to start we'll do the compliment
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sandwich like i said yesterday and i mean it you really really are driven to get things right
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and i think that's great you are a little scattered uh sometimes when i watch your streams it's a little
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bit all over the place and i've had to work on that communication i've gotten feedback that i shout when
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i talk so i've had to really work on making sure that my you've got such a soft voice so that's untaught
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that is a huge compliment because i used to be a little bit all over the place too so like we said
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in the beginning you can get better um i really wish your attire was ah i knew i knew this was
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coming pearl i knew this was coming and you know melanie's helping me this week on the fashion episode
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thank you melanie get here when you can melanie's coming okay and just because i've had to work on
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that too i understand especially as uh either moms or i know you're an athlete sometimes we just want
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to dress for comfort and i got that feedback too that i would just wear kind of what was comfortable
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and baggy and it just didn't represent me well and especially as you know since i have whale
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tendencies i got to make sure that i represent myself well i used to think oh it's so much work
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i got to do all that it's not i did work with a stylist i had to hire someone to help me understand my
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body type and what works well and kind of put like a capsule wardrobe in place that you kind of make a
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uniform for yourself these things will work on me and it's kind of rinse and repeat so getting there
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was a little hard but you can definitely do it so um communication a little bit more direct um
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the attire uh because we're talking about getting pearl ready for a husband right yeah no i the clothes
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i know i need to get better okay it's like i get so overwhelmed sometimes you do a lot this is a lot
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because i'll be like getting ready and i'm just like i can't get anything that looks good and then
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i then i just give up because i get so frustrated absolutely because i'll spend like 10 minutes and
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i'll hate everything and i'm like yeah that's one of the exercises we had to do it was hard she made me
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take everything out of my closet and she said try it on so i had to put everything on make sure it fit
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make sure i still liked it and i had to be able to wear it with like three other different things like
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make outfits from it and if it didn't meet that category we got rid of it so it really thin some
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things down so yeah i understand on that um let's see after a couple days um those will probably be my
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only two have you asked your your audience what they think you should improve on yeah what should i
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oh i do have one more thing i already i think i know go ahead go well okay two more things uh yesterday
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when i was pushing you to get the plates ready because the kids had uh um friends over and
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everybody was hungry and uh you know i was like come on pearl in mom mode the family's hungry and
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they're looking at you do you remember what you said okay okay well let's get a little differently
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i'm sorry your future husband could be watching you're right okay i do care about the kids you
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do care i do i do love the kids okay i just thought it was funny it was kind of funny so you do uh
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language is one thing you you do kind of drop the f-bombs and you know a few other choice words but i
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should have known when i arrived yesterday and you know it's me and then all i hear is pearl saying are
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the strippers here yet and i was like wait a minute what did i get myself into as many of you
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know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if
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