JustPearlyThings - April 12, 2023


Men are SHAMED for having STANDARDS


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

197.96089

Word Count

2,207

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

12

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 questions go around what are your personal standards yeah so what would you expect from
00:00:06.080 a woman and what would you guys expect from a man like minimum requirements to date them
00:00:10.220 well i'd say right now i can't expect much um but i'm you know in the process as i said i'm young
00:00:16.720 and uh i do plan on you know making six figures eventually i got the six foot down on lock and i
00:00:23.420 think i'm pretty cute so eventually i'll have the standards set in place but right now i'm focused
00:00:28.180 on my career but i do have you know anticipations for my standards such as um you know submission
00:00:35.360 like um and just peace of mind someone who can offer me peace of mind you know someone that's
00:00:42.640 not always in my ear like you did this wrong i don't want that you know like if i'm if i'm willing
00:00:48.400 to provide right um and be the breadwinner then um if she wants to work fine but obviously the
00:00:57.900 the common thing is that prefer she stays home yes but if she does want to work right everyone
00:01:06.820 says you need a you need the masculine trait to work right um especially in a career so
00:01:12.380 but like once she gets home she drops that masculinity at the door because i'm not i'm not
00:01:19.000 competing in my own household i gotta compete with other men out in the world they look at me
00:01:23.200 six foot tattoos beard and then they just like assume i'm top dog and then competition time i
00:01:29.940 don't know if that's more of a you thing so like because i'm a you but uh yeah it's certainly what
00:01:36.680 i'm experiencing right now so i definitely do not want to have that in the household that i'm paying
00:01:41.080 yeah i agree i think for me my woman must offer peace man because i know how much i work i know
00:01:53.240 how i don't know when i come home i want her that my household to be my my safe space to be you know
00:01:59.340 peaceful and relaxed and also i think the most number one thing is she's got to be she's got to
00:02:05.200 be feminine she has to be able to submit um she has to be family orientated because i don't have
00:02:10.920 kids yet but that's that's the main goal i want to have kids i want her to be a family-based person
00:02:16.120 um preach yeah is that how your girl is now yeah yeah yeah yeah she's like that one's the wedding
00:02:23.420 smile we're working on it so don't put me under pressure
00:02:27.460 so um i do want in my terms i do want a a man who respects me i want a masculine man so
00:02:39.260 exactly what you guys are saying a man who has great achievements he has a path he's ready to work on
00:02:47.080 himself to make himself better and he also respects me and someone that i will feel proud of and i would
00:02:54.500 want to nurture give him the love and support as you said as a woman and be his his number one fan
00:03:01.840 i want to be his home i want to be the person that he can come to me where everyone else he'll be a bit
00:03:07.380 on guard and he will feel comfortable to just drop it a little bit because i am his home so what what
00:03:14.180 does he have to have because you're kind of describing what you want to be for him but the question was
00:03:18.160 like what what does he have to be in order to get that so for me it's rather than the
00:03:24.140 do you have a height requirement no no he can be short at five foot i dated a man that was shorter
00:03:29.400 than me before for two years okay i'm not i will say this i'm not very normal but
00:03:34.400 for me i have learned the value of the true value of a person isn't their exterior it's it's their
00:03:43.480 insides it's their personalities it's whether they fit me so for example one of the things because i did a
00:03:48.720 personality test of jordan peterson's okay and one of the things he looks at is agreeableness
00:03:53.060 and one of my criterias i want for my man is i want him to be less agreeable than me
00:03:59.980 why because i am quite agreeable and i'm always worrying that maybe i might step on someone's toes
00:04:07.480 but someone who's less agreeable is not going to be as easily uh you know like offended so i like
00:04:13.680 that i don't have to feel you know like can i tell you are you going to get offended so for
00:04:19.220 example that's so you want to do so okay this is like kind of broad so i just i want to be a little
00:04:24.460 bit more specific so you want someone disagreeable what else so what some more disagreeable does he
00:04:29.940 have to have an income income requirement i would like him to be um from a skill set knowledge income
00:04:38.200 level equal to me okay which is roughly well i um i earn around three thousand a month so maybe
00:04:45.260 something like that okay um is there anything else so you want roughly like at your income or more
00:04:51.700 would you ever submit to a guy that makes less than you yes because it's not about the now people
00:04:59.000 are changing no no he's staying at that it's not build a man so he's no no no it's not i'm not saying
00:05:04.460 that i'm trying to build him that's it but this is the thing like just because a man may not be as
00:05:09.360 good now doesn't mean he isn't later it's about it's about realizing no but i'm saying like a lot
00:05:13.920 of times like girls we we try to build a man like we go to build a bear but but guys like like typically
00:05:20.960 no no no no but i'm saying i'm saying like when you said it's not about the now it's about the later
00:05:25.220 that's implying that you're you would want him to his income to increase but i'm saying like most
00:05:30.460 guys guys kind of are where they're at especially like you said you're 34 so if a guy's 35 like 35
00:05:37.960 like i'd imagine you want roughly your age or older so so for me that's the thing like so for me
00:05:44.820 i honestly all i'm gonna say is i've realized that the physical shell of things
00:05:52.180 they're not as important as peace and the the person that's inside does that come with age
00:06:00.020 though did you realize that 100 this is and this is the thing like this is something i've learned
00:06:05.420 this is something that i internalized i had to go i was single for i've been single still single for a
00:06:11.620 long time because guess what i needed to work on myself like if i'm broken and i'm not in the right
00:06:16.800 frame of mind i'm gonna end up damaging another person i don't want that if i'm not ready then i'm
00:06:21.620 gonna work on myself and to be honest like yes i'll be it's difficult to give you a figure but
00:06:28.140 the people with the six figures who are getting all these girls and driving lambos i don't want
00:06:33.160 them either is is monogamy a requirement for you for me yes okay do you feel like that's a fair deal
00:06:39.600 for a guy um because he's not getting you for your best years that depends on what the man wants
00:06:47.220 so i'm saying like long term like i'm and this is going for like me too none of us are virgins anymore
00:06:53.000 so i think like men value purity and youth right and they're not getting that anymore so do you
00:06:58.780 think it's a fair deal for men when they're not getting that to be monogamous to us to comprise
00:07:03.100 on their mating strategy when we don't fulfill theirs because we're not virgins anymore
00:07:06.740 because i feel like when you talk about something and saying that that's the only reason you have value
00:07:12.960 i think that's wrong it's not it's that it's not i'm not saying that's the only reason you have
00:07:17.340 value i'm talking about your value in the dating market and like like results are harsh the world's
00:07:22.480 harsh and like the truth is modern women are less pure than they've ever been and we're older than
00:07:27.960 we've ever been so i'm asking do you think that's a fair deal for men when they have to be more and
00:07:32.160 more less if a man is going to look at me and say that the only value i come i can bring to the
00:07:38.620 table is because of my no i didn't say the only value so i'm not saying that's the only value like
00:07:44.280 you seem like a smart girl i know you have more than just that but i'm saying in the dating market
00:07:47.940 like this is what it starts with and it's harsh but it's reality but we're sorry i'm just i'm but
00:07:54.260 you're saying we're going with age and we're going with well it's like men men value purity and youth
00:07:59.600 so they they like young virgins that's the that's the ideal just like our ideal is like rich men
00:08:05.540 right but i'm saying now in today's day and age like women have higher standards than ever but
00:08:10.820 bring less to the table than ever we're older we've slept with more people and we have less
00:08:15.660 loyalty because we're the ones leaving them so is it a fair deal yeah so i'm saying do you think
00:08:20.980 that's a fair deal for men i think it generally depends on the person i'm sorry i can't answer
00:08:26.760 that question okay go ahead what are your requirements for a guy uh that he's aware of the the traditional
00:08:34.420 gender roles okay and i have to like and i expect that and he expects that from me and reciprocity
00:08:40.180 and i think respect is and i can't i don't expect him just to respect me just like that because i'm a
00:08:44.420 woman i think he needs to get to know me and um the relationship has to be reciprocal and i i i'm 28
00:08:51.440 and i don't i actually want him to be polygynous really yeah what they're gonna they're gonna fall in
00:08:59.360 love with you in the chat the reason why and um i could speak so much about this they're calling you
00:09:07.640 an indian queen right now oh my god the reason why is because i'm the biggest introvert i know
00:09:15.680 i'm like i need my solitude and i i hate saying that because people are like oh god you know she's
00:09:21.880 so up there but i really like i get drained so me coming today i was like i really need to prepare
00:09:25.960 myself yeah um because i i get drained with interaction and i'm i if i love my husband
00:09:30.940 and i need to get over the fact that i don't need to be clinged on to him because that's unrealistic
00:09:34.960 um but if i love my husband i want him to be taken care of and and if i don't have to worry about that
00:09:40.680 yeah that's great wow and that's as simple as i can put it how are you how are you single
00:09:45.760 what's like no no no i'm not oh okay sorry guys sorry i forgot i thought you said you were
00:09:51.700 no but yeah i mean i know that there there is so much that could be said about polygyny yeah
00:09:56.680 hard eyes hard at indian synth indian woman i was like the chat's gonna love her oh no sorry i've
00:10:03.000 got i've got a question um are you in a polygynous relationship uh i'm with somebody who is open to
00:10:11.340 that and and and hey that's great for me would you want multiple wives or would you just want like
00:10:17.100 he could step out whenever he wants the thing is i i i would that he would they would have to be
00:10:22.260 wives okay because you know because then i'll because i would lose respect for him because then i'm
00:10:29.320 like then you know you guys are using each other and no so if we can actually marry them and you know
00:10:35.240 then like if there's children out there accidentally you know i want my children to have
00:10:38.660 you know honorable half siblings not like just some you know some straight child do you have to be the
00:10:44.800 main though do you have to be no i don't care if i'm two i just you know i'm so over it like
00:10:50.160 you know and and guess what it's very freeing yeah it's very freeing is that um are you are you from
00:10:56.280 india or like like is that is that common in india or no is that like no i don't know i haven't seen
00:11:01.800 it like well yeah actually yes it is it is okay but not as common but it does happen that answer
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