JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


Men Don't Want Women With Too Much WEIGHT


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How much weight is too much weight to gain in a relationship that is disrespectful to you? Do you have any wiggle room per kid? How much weight should you gain in order to stay in shape in a healthy relationship?

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00:00:00.000 Oh, actually, I have a video that kind of, blessing, do video number two.
00:00:04.380 So, have you guys seen Kevin Samuels before?
00:00:06.640 R.I.P. The Godfather, man.
00:00:08.140 How you mean, man?
00:00:09.580 So, this was, he had a caller that called him to his show.
00:00:24.980 Your husband will come home tomorrow and say, I want a divorce. 0.99
00:00:27.860 And he serves your papers and you divorce inside in 90 days.
00:00:34.220 Would you keep those 60 pounds on?
00:00:38.780 No.
00:00:39.780 Why?
00:00:41.860 Well, because I got to get back out there, I guess. 0.99
00:00:44.300 Oh, damn. 0.99
00:00:45.540 So, basically, you're telling your husband is because the, the, the, the, the prize for you staying in this marriage is me having this additional 60 pounds. 1.00
00:00:55.700 But if you were to leave me, I'd lose it.
00:00:59.980 I'm working to get it off, though.
00:01:02.000 I am working to get it off.
00:01:04.060 I just, I made, I just gave it to you.
00:01:06.000 Plain and simple.
00:01:06.860 I let you resolve that.
00:01:07.980 So, I have a question for the men.
00:01:13.260 How much weight is too much weight to gain in a relationship that is disrespectful to you?
00:01:19.500 Do they, do they get any wiggle room per kid?
00:01:21.960 Yeah, yeah, let me know.
00:01:23.080 All right.
00:01:24.760 Yeah, you going for it today, ain't you?
00:01:26.480 All right, say nothing.
00:01:27.180 20 pounds plus, you putting on 20 pounds plus.
00:01:33.940 Wait, what's that in KG?
00:01:34.820 I can't even think in pounds.
00:01:36.080 What's it, what's that in KG?
00:01:37.220 That makes no sense to me.
00:01:37.920 I don't know.
00:01:38.300 That's about, I think in pounds, I don't know.
00:01:40.140 KG.
00:01:40.780 One and a half stone.
00:01:41.940 KG, that would be like.
00:01:43.440 Wow.
00:01:43.760 That three stone, if you put on three stone, that's a bit mad.
00:01:46.140 Yeah, three stone is mad.
00:01:48.200 Yeah.
00:01:48.920 Between three and five, like anything plus three.
00:01:51.180 Even if it's circumstantial, like the health or kids.
00:01:53.960 Yeah, like kids, et cetera.
00:01:55.400 Kids.
00:01:56.000 If it's to do, if it's to do kids, that is probably the one thing that you could give
00:02:02.480 the benefit of the day.
00:02:03.360 Bro, that's a stone and a half, bruv.
00:02:05.760 Because you know that's going to happen, but you would eventually expect that, you know,
00:02:09.900 you're going to put in some work to get that back to where it was.
00:02:12.880 Because you see loads of men age 40 plus with things like beer bellies.
00:02:17.780 What are they doing?
00:02:18.560 Girl, I was going to ask you next.
00:02:20.760 I asked the man for, I'm going to ask you guys the same way.
00:02:23.840 I get that, but women like men for different things.
00:02:28.940 But do you think it's more to do with?
00:02:30.800 Men are more visual, so that's why women will date anybody. 1.00
00:02:35.400 Women will get with any man. 1.00
00:02:36.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:37.440 They're not looking at you for, like, some women like the beer bit. 1.00
00:02:42.380 That's what they like.
00:02:43.680 They like bellies. 1.00
00:02:45.520 They like, you know, man boobs and all that kind of thing. 1.00
00:02:48.280 That's what they like. 0.98
00:02:49.700 Okay.
00:02:50.020 That's facts.
00:02:50.640 But do you think it's more to do with not so much the putting on weight, but if you feel like they're not taking care of themselves anymore?
00:02:58.080 That's right.
00:02:58.480 Like they become sloppy and they don't dress well.
00:03:01.480 But that's it.
00:03:02.100 It's the inactivity for me.
00:03:04.400 Would you pick a girl that gained no weight but dressed like a bum or a girl that, like, dressed really well but gained 50 pounds? 0.99
00:03:13.060 The one that dressed like a bum. 0.98
00:03:14.360 Yeah. 0.96
00:03:14.980 Yeah, that one.
00:03:15.520 That's what I really like.
00:03:16.360 Like, weight is the ultimate form of, like, letting go to men.
00:03:20.540 Right?
00:03:21.140 Would you say?
00:03:21.640 Yeah, from since you've been in school.
00:03:23.200 We all know it.
00:03:24.060 The girl that was fine and slim and active in school.
00:03:27.720 You walk past her when you're 29, 30.
00:03:30.960 You don't even recognize her.
00:03:32.240 Oh, it's you.
00:03:34.680 You know how many times I've done that?
00:03:36.180 From school, like, oh, how are you doing?
00:03:38.580 How's the kids?
00:03:39.340 And you don't want to say it, but you know what's going on.
00:03:41.740 Well, and the one thing is, if you look at women, like, back from, like, the 20s and 30s and you look at old pictures, they all bounce back after pregnancy.
00:03:49.060 Even in, like, the 1800s.
00:03:50.280 Oh, my God.
00:03:50.840 Those women had, like, three times the amount of kids we did, and they all look good. 1.00
00:03:56.100 Yep.
00:03:57.120 Main thing, it just shows, like, you just don't care, innit?
00:03:59.920 Like, if you put in the effort to get back in shape or stay in shape when you get into a relationship, it just shows that you're putting in effort and you care.
00:04:08.800 So, as a collective, collective, you guys said 20 pounds.
00:04:12.520 You said 20.
00:04:13.300 You'll give your girl 20.
00:04:15.040 She gives you some kids. 0.99
00:04:16.600 Yeah, like.
00:04:17.000 Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, okay.
00:04:18.660 No, he's like, ah, maybe not 20.
00:04:20.900 No, no, 20.
00:04:22.620 Once it starts going over 20, I'm going to be like, babe, come on.
00:04:26.800 It depends on how you look because some women put on weight, but, okay, it's falling in the right places. 1.00
00:04:33.460 But if it starts becoming, you're not in control of it.
00:04:38.280 If I can see that you're not in control of your weight gain, that's a problem.
00:04:42.520 Because if it's purposeful, if it's purposeful weight gain, there's a certain lifestyle that goes with that.
00:04:49.100 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:49.820 You can put on weight, like, do you know what I mean, in certain areas that will shape your body and make it look like, boom.
00:04:57.420 But if you're not in control, if I can see that that weight gain, although it looks good, you didn't know why you gained that weight, how you gained that weight, then I would be like, that would be a red flag for me.
00:05:10.460 So what did you give her, 30 pounds, 20 pounds? 0.99
00:05:13.820 How much?
00:05:14.780 Roughly.
00:05:15.280 You can give me a rough.
00:05:16.180 I need it in kg.
00:05:17.080 I would say 10 to 15 kg is nuts.
00:05:24.740 I'll do 15 kg.
00:05:26.000 I'm sure that's about 20 pounds.
00:05:27.460 Is that what I was thinking?
00:05:28.760 No, 33 pounds.
00:05:30.120 33 pounds, yes.
00:05:31.440 10 to 15 kg is nuts.
00:05:33.360 That's a lot.
00:05:34.800 But the thing is, you can put that on.
00:05:36.280 You can put that kind of weight on, but be in shape.
00:05:38.780 You know that, yeah?
00:05:39.760 But if I can see that that's not your lifestyle.
00:05:43.680 Yeah, but you could be in shape, but I've been bigger, and I was still in shape. 0.99
00:05:49.060 I was doing CrossFit and stuff, but I was eating like shit. 1.00
00:05:52.820 You can be doing the exercises, but if you're eating like shit, it doesn't matter. 1.00
00:05:57.060 But I think that's what I mean. 0.99
00:05:58.420 I think that's what it is.
00:05:59.780 I can see that you're not in control. 1.00
00:06:02.000 You're just eating like shit. 0.99
00:06:02.960 Although you're maybe a little bit active, you're not necessarily structuring your body, right? 1.00
00:06:07.080 Yeah, I guess what you're saying is if she's actively bodybuilding and putting on weight productively.
00:06:13.740 You can't put on 30 pounds of muscle.
00:06:16.120 Yeah, well, that's what I'm saying.
00:06:17.540 That's great.
00:06:18.420 That's a lot.
00:06:19.180 For a woman, that's a lot.
00:06:20.500 I'm not talking about that.
00:06:21.460 That's a lot.
00:06:22.060 That's what I said.
00:06:22.600 Once you start going past the 20 pounds mark, yo.
00:06:24.940 That's right.
00:06:25.300 Girls at college, we gained 10, 20 pounds. 0.99
00:06:27.560 They'd be like, it's muscle because I was an athlete.
00:06:29.440 But I'm like, bro, you did not gain, like, you know how hard it is to gain 20 pounds of muscle? 0.97
00:06:33.900 You'd be a freaking bodybuilder. 0.95
00:06:35.120 That's what I'm saying. 0.99
00:06:35.820 Like, once it gets hard to go that 20, it's like, yeah, you don't desire me.
00:06:41.660 You don't actually respect me.
00:06:43.640 Yeah, you're looking at it like, you don't rate me, do you?
00:06:47.160 Do you guys feel like that's a form of disrespect?
00:06:49.660 Absolutely.
00:06:50.380 Kind of, yeah.
00:06:51.200 So, you give her 20. 0.79
00:06:52.960 You're a little more generous.
00:06:54.360 You give her 30.
00:06:57.800 You're a little more generous.
00:07:00.380 All right, what about you?
00:07:01.000 One extra cake.
00:07:01.600 You know what?
00:07:01.940 I don't know if I could actually say a weight, but what I do feel is that if you ask your girlfriend
00:07:06.360 to stop putting on weight and she doesn't make no effort at all to change something,
00:07:11.640 then I feel like it's an issue.
00:07:13.840 So, we could say if that's a limit, I would say, what, at least 10 pounds.
00:07:19.700 Yeah, I know what he's saying about 50.
00:07:21.100 You can put on 10.
00:07:21.960 You can put on some crazy weight like that.
00:07:23.720 You can put on weight and still 10 pounds is crazy.
00:07:27.440 10 pounds?
00:07:28.100 That is crazy.
00:07:29.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:29.760 Yeah, 10.
00:07:30.160 Or kg.
00:07:30.840 He said 10, 15.
00:07:32.100 10 kg is 22 pounds, guys.
00:07:35.500 Bro, from the weight that she's already at, like, from the weight that you meet her,
00:07:40.660 like, that's what you're counting from.
00:07:42.280 Yeah, 10 pounds is a bit, innit?
00:07:43.820 10 kg, that's heavy, bro.
00:07:46.420 15 kg, all right, you're wildin'.
00:07:48.500 It's 20 kg.
00:07:49.540 Well, I just don't understand why it's like you have a man. 1.00
00:07:52.460 Why wouldn't you try to keep him, like, in the clip?
00:07:55.560 Like, you have a man.
00:07:56.260 Why don't you try to keep him?
00:07:57.600 Because they don't have no game.
00:07:58.940 I'm telling you, that's what it is.
00:08:00.220 Why are you, like, why are you only going to lose weight after you guys break up?
00:08:04.280 Because they realize once, as I said, it's like women have the same kind of thing. 0.91
00:08:08.620 Like, you know, like they say about men, like, the notches in our bed and whatever.
00:08:12.100 Women have their own thing, too. 1.00
00:08:14.520 Like, you lot are getting more sex than anybody in the world. 0.99
00:08:18.240 You are the ones who are the gatekeepers to sex. 0.99
00:08:21.240 So, when you realize that, it's like once you get a guy to only focus on you and only spend your time on you, you go sour.
00:08:30.200 Treat them mean.
00:08:30.940 Keep them keen.
00:08:31.640 I never made that up.
00:08:33.100 That didn't come from me.
00:08:34.340 That came from before I was born.
00:08:36.040 And it still works to this day.
00:08:37.520 Because every time I chase a girl down, or you try to do that extra, air, air.
00:08:44.900 Second I turn my back on her, and I'm at this restaurant with this ting.
00:08:50.000 I'm going bowling with this girl.
00:08:51.400 I'm watching Wakanda with this one, even though I told you I was going to watch it with you.
00:08:54.440 And you see that?
00:08:55.560 Oh, now my phone's ringing.
00:08:57.040 Oh, what are you doing?
00:08:57.760 What are you doing this weekend?
00:08:59.180 What are you doing tonight?
00:09:00.700 Oh, you want to know what I'm doing because you see me doing stuff.
00:09:02.960 But when I was paying you, mine, you don't want to hear me. 0.87
00:09:05.480 Oh, you want to Wakanda forever with someone else?
00:09:08.120 Yeah.
00:09:08.400 Oh, I thought you were going to watch that with me.
00:09:10.640 You wasn't available.
00:09:11.700 I'm sorry.
00:09:12.760 Wait, so, okay, let me get this.
00:09:14.200 I just want to understand the situation.
00:09:15.820 So, you're with the girl, and you're interested, and then she's curving you?
00:09:21.160 Yeah, so when I'm paying attention, she'll curve me.
00:09:23.580 She'll curve.
00:09:24.180 And then you say, you know what?
00:09:25.340 I'm going to move on.
00:09:26.520 You say, I'm on to bigger and better things.
00:09:28.960 Absolutely.
00:09:29.580 This girl over here is interested, so I'm going to go talk to her.
00:09:32.700 Absolutely.
00:09:33.060 And maybe she was a side chick that got promoted. 1.00
00:09:38.360 She came in through the right door.
00:09:40.520 She didn't come in through the side chick door. 1.00
00:09:42.100 She started learning your favorite meals.
00:09:44.080 There we go.
00:09:44.600 She started paying attention.
00:09:45.520 She started studying.
00:09:47.320 She became a Kung Fu student.
00:09:50.400 She started studying the art.
00:09:52.080 So, she comes in, and then you take that attention away.
00:09:55.480 Now, girl, one comes back and says, now I'm interested.
00:10:00.040 Now you're side chick. 1.00
00:10:00.940 Oh, now she's been demoted. 0.98
00:10:03.400 Now you demoted.
00:10:04.540 Oh.
00:10:05.180 That's cold.
00:10:05.900 And that's how the vicious cycle goes around.
00:10:07.660 That's cold.
00:10:08.460 So, in a way, the side chick could become the main.
00:10:12.040 Well, no, because the way she came into the door, the girl that I didn't meet, she was just a complete random.
00:10:17.020 Oh, it was random.
00:10:17.940 Yeah, it was just a complete random.
00:10:19.040 I don't know what level of status she was in with other relationships. 1.00
00:10:22.140 But if you come in in the side doorway, you're going to leave the side door.
00:10:27.200 Yeah?
00:10:27.760 But, see, I tried to offer the main thing entrance to the first thing, and she denied it. 0.69
00:10:33.640 Door closed forever.
00:10:34.860 Membership closed.
00:10:35.580 You're never going to get the main chick treatment ever again. 1.00
00:10:38.800 So, now by the time she comes back, the only door that's available for her is side chick. 1.00
00:10:42.460 And she's going to take it every time.
00:10:44.400 Oh, okay.
00:10:44.820 But, why didn't she take it to begin with?
00:10:46.740 Because she thought she was entitled, and she thought I wasn't the prize.
00:10:50.420 And so, she wasn't treating you like a king.
00:10:52.660 Absolutely.
00:10:53.080 So, you treated her like a peasant.
00:10:54.620 Absolutely.
00:10:56.840 I got it.
00:10:57.940 He's a big P right here. 1.00
00:10:59.980 Big P. 0.76
00:11:00.960 Side door peasant. 0.96
00:11:02.340 Absolutely.
00:11:03.040 Side door.
00:11:03.700 Okay.
00:11:04.240 The hatch.
00:11:05.180 Down the hatch.
00:11:05.740 Okay, okay.
00:11:06.520 So, you said roughly 20.
00:11:08.980 He's the most generous one here.
00:11:11.100 30 pounds to his girl.
00:11:13.020 What country are you from?
00:11:14.820 Nigeria, Jamaica.
00:11:16.180 Okay, that's why.
00:11:16.980 That's why he had an extra 10 pounds on there.
00:11:18.580 All right.
00:11:20.340 No, but no, hold on.
00:11:21.540 He made space for the country goat.
00:11:24.340 Hold on.
00:11:24.480 Let me just clarify.
00:11:29.600 That is the leeway.
00:11:32.840 But he needs to come back down.
00:11:35.540 That is the max.
00:11:37.460 That's the max.
00:11:38.440 How long does she have?
00:11:39.660 So, she's at almost 31 pounds. 1.00
00:11:42.840 How long she got to lose it? 0.99
00:11:47.200 If there's no reason other than you're eating and your lifestyle is shitty, then really, 0.92
00:11:52.240 you've got, immediately. 0.72
00:11:54.920 You need to, I know, yeah?
00:11:57.300 Because I've had a personal training past, yeah?
00:11:59.640 So, I know how long it takes.
00:12:01.660 It would take with, if you're really active and you wanted to get it done, yeah?
00:12:06.580 It would take you maybe three months, maybe to, maybe three months, four months of proper, like, regimented regime.
00:12:15.740 You see it?
00:12:16.720 You get me?
00:12:17.200 So, I would.
00:12:18.100 So, you got three months?
00:12:19.240 Yeah.
00:12:19.780 Three months, four months.
00:12:20.800 Just like what you get at a job, mate.
00:12:22.920 Three months, probation.
00:12:24.700 That's it.
00:12:25.220 You're backing your probation period.
00:12:26.820 Okay.
00:12:27.220 How much, how much for you?
00:12:29.040 I don't know about pounds, but, like, three, four stones.
00:12:33.680 Max.
00:12:34.260 What's the difference?
00:12:35.060 I don't know.
00:12:35.640 Three stones, heavy.
00:12:36.780 Three stones and pounds.
00:12:38.720 Probably about the same, to be honest.
00:12:40.660 Oh, no.
00:12:41.080 You're the most generous one here.
00:12:42.780 Yeah, three stones.
00:12:43.300 42 pounds.
00:12:44.160 Heavy, though.
00:12:45.660 That's my...
00:12:46.800 Hey, hey, hey.
00:12:48.600 Is your girlfriend watching this show?
00:12:50.220 Just as she... 0.99
00:12:51.360 Okay, now, same question for the woman.
00:12:55.540 Do you think it's disrespectful if your man lets himself go?
00:12:58.880 Yes.
00:12:59.560 Yes?
00:12:59.860 What do you think?
00:13:02.520 Depends on the circumstances.
00:13:05.660 Okay, elaborate.
00:13:07.400 He might be ill.
00:13:09.420 Okay, outside of extreme circumstances.
00:13:13.700 Well, if he's just been lazy and then, yeah.
00:13:18.320 I wouldn't say disrespectful, just give me the ick.
00:13:21.660 Okay.
00:13:22.360 I want to feel disrespected personally.
00:13:24.500 I just think, ugh.
00:13:26.160 So, what would give you the ick?
00:13:27.420 Is it a certain amount of weight?
00:13:29.520 No, I think it's the whole...
00:13:31.460 The laziness element.
00:13:33.000 The laziness element of it.
00:13:34.380 The sloth.
00:13:36.280 It goes back to lifestyle.
00:13:38.200 Yeah.
00:13:38.860 Whatever they're eating, like, they've stopped going to the gym,
00:13:41.600 they've stopped working out, they're eating lots of, like, takeaways.
00:13:45.540 That's obviously making them get fat. 0.93
00:13:48.440 That's gross. 0.96
00:13:49.620 That is gross.
00:13:50.880 It's like, it's the mindset.
00:13:53.420 Like, are you just not making an effort to do anything at all?
00:13:59.920 Like, I can understand if you're working really hard,
00:14:02.620 you don't have time, you're really tired, blah, blah, blah.
00:14:04.960 But if you're just at home all day, every day,
00:14:07.380 playing computer games, sitting around, then...
00:14:10.900 Depressed, like most men, yeah.
00:14:13.040 Hold on, let me ask a question.
00:14:14.820 I'm serious.
00:14:15.640 That's how most men experience life right now. 0.55
00:14:18.820 So, are you going to come and motivate him,
00:14:21.020 or are you going to find the other dude who's got what you like?
00:14:24.180 Yeah, how long does he have?
00:14:26.740 Three months.
00:14:27.840 Yeah. 0.50
00:14:28.820 It seems to be more socially acceptable for a man to be fat than it would a woman. 0.99
00:14:34.920 It's almost frowned upon, like, oh, my God, she's put on 30 pounds. 0.61
00:14:38.820 I mean, you would think women would be thinner than... 1.00
00:14:40.960 I mean, statistically, men are thinner than women. 0.98
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