JustPearlyThings - Men Get FINISHED For Seeking for Attention in the Dating Market

00:00:00.000 safe sex jerk off then you're not messing with nobody's mind you're not messing with

00:00:04.720 nobody's body there's no chance that any contraception is gonna fail and that you

00:00:09.280 can preserve yourself stop banging kings anti um anti you need to be more fussy you got the right

00:00:16.320 idea but i think i think from a man to man right i think you focus that energy imagine you're saving

00:00:21.680 that energy for like the one in it killer with it so but masturbation porn i think is not the

00:00:26.320 way because masturbation corn corn corn leads to leads to um oh but you're leaving me hanging i

00:00:31.920 was giving you spot right there it leads to other things and then it leads to that lack of discipline

00:00:36.000 but i would say focus that imagine you're saving that energy for the one in it and it makes you all

00:00:40.480 the more intense because when you meet that one you pull out all the stuff that's even better

00:00:46.720 i'm just gonna give you little devil's advocate here okay i don't think your generation really

00:00:51.280 understands this okay for for men like women like guys that sleep around and and treat like women

00:00:58.800 modern women don't like men that treat them like queens and the problem is like if if guys aren't

00:01:06.000 sleeping around they start to like think too highly of each girl and treat them too well and modern women

00:01:11.520 don't like that it's not like in your generation where like a girl's courted and like they respect it

00:01:17.200 and they're excited and then you can just court the nice girl and she she wants you like for them

00:01:21.920 it's like basically if they give a girl everything she wants then she doesn't like them and girls

00:01:28.080 don't like guys that don't sleep around like they only want guys that sleep around i can say to the

00:01:32.480 young man if that's the case and you've really got a child don't have no more and get old woman

00:01:38.560 i hate her but then you get there's some woman out there just just no i said get an older woman an

00:01:43.520 old mature woman like the woman that he said that he found one that's feminine she can't breathe you've

00:01:48.640 really got a son you don't want no more children concentrate on your one child have a happy

00:01:52.480 relationship with a woman that can't breathe problem solved but they're like youth though innit

00:02:06.160 so my my what i think is it's modern times call from modern solutions in it like that that free market

00:02:13.280 of people sleeping around with each other i think that's always existed i think it's always going

00:02:16.800 to exist um i think the fact that women value men who are more experienced i think is a sign of that

00:02:23.840 just the selection in this dating game has gotten a lot tougher i think that back in the day guys guys

00:02:28.960 would get with women just because they were in the right place in it we're born in the same village

00:02:31.920 she could be a victoria's secret model you could look like you know shrek and it's just like well

00:02:35.920 we were the same age i had a good job it worked our parents liked each other now you really have to work

00:02:40.400 you really have to be the guy in it and so i i would i would definitely kind of that's what i want

00:02:44.880 to add that like it's not all bad in it it's just another stat to kind of give you some perspective

00:02:50.480 women modern women find 80 percent of men as unattractive and so on dating apps which people

00:02:56.800 will argue that maybe people in dating apps aren't looking for something serious but that's the number

00:03:00.880 one way people meet women only swipe right five percent of the time up to 20 on the high end

00:03:06.960 in certain studies so women are all sleeping with the same guys so for guys that are in that

00:03:12.320 percentage it's like they just have an abundance of girls throwing themselves at them and then the

00:03:16.720 women will come back later and say men are trash but that's who i think we need to have a speed dating

00:03:22.800 thing me and you yeah i have we need to set up a speed dating or even a courting thing when we show

00:03:29.360 them how to do it properly and give them questions to us you know speed dating but we provide the questions

00:03:34.720 we look at look at you you're oh we're helping me open wife school right yes we turn modern women

00:03:40.320 into wives we need to try we need to do it we need to do it they don't want to be saved no they do i

00:03:44.960 think some do i think they don't want to be saved you know what right i think they do but i think they

00:03:49.200 do they want to they want to have their fun no but stop it alex don't say that like oh do you know

00:03:54.720 what the majority of women is that what you're saying is right i'm not saying that is wrong but why does it

00:03:59.680 always boil down to women okay no don't say no because you see what natan said i like you natan

00:04:06.240 by the way i appreciate girl but what made me feel like you're not scared you're more like scared to

00:04:11.680 be stuck in one because there's so many options out there because you keep dipping your cookie into

00:04:16.480 the jars in different jars of different sources thank you so but here's here so i think sorry the

00:04:22.240 reason why you don't want to commit i feel like the way you explained to me to one jar is because

00:04:27.120 you might oh because you saw the other jar you saw the other thing you're like you might be

00:04:31.280 earlier on you said too many options that's what you said earlier let me let me explain it to you so

00:04:37.280 women leave women divorce men 70 to 80 of the time i i would argue in relationships it's probably

00:04:43.120 similar men are leaving women are so to a guy's point of view he's going to commit to this girl

00:04:48.720 and what does he get he doesn't get purity anymore you know these these hoes you know he doesn't he

00:04:53.280 doesn't get youth anymore so he doesn't get either of those things a lot of times she already

00:04:56.640 has a kid so so he he's not fulfilling his mating strategy on top of that even if he does find a

00:05:02.080 good woman that maybe has the qualities he's looking for she was going to want him to marry her

00:05:07.040 right and what does he get out of that oh she can leave and take half and take my kids and she's paid

00:05:13.680 to take my kids away from me she she gets more money if she takes my children and so from the men's

00:05:19.760 point of view they're just kind of like eff it because like women aren't wives nowadays

00:05:26.320 and what do they get out of it men are logical they're logical people and so they're they're

00:05:31.440 thinking does the benefit outweigh the cost and like i just think as women we have to look at

00:05:36.960 ourselves and say the benefits we bring nowadays don't outweigh the cost for most men you know for

00:05:43.440 the for the sake of argument and finally it's about my turn to you know help the boys out i'll

00:05:48.240 tell you something boys do you know the best way for you to deal with a modern woman be stush stush

00:05:54.160 means be a bit more stuck up about yourself because actually girls don't like rejection and the moment

00:05:58.800 you reject one she wants you more because it's a challenge at that moment you've got the power if

00:06:02.880 you want her you want to maneuver and check what she's on and you want to get her in your in your books

00:06:07.440 but okay listen listen to this from the men's point of view so i have to play a bunch of games

00:06:12.880 with these women in order to get to them to commit to me why do it at all because because why is it

00:06:19.280 worth it yeah it's like what what is the benefit to the men like what genuinely who who in here has

00:06:25.200 a cookbook maybe maybe you i don't need a cookbook what i don't like are you asking if you can no no my

00:06:32.960 my point is none of us in here are can be considered traditional women and back then an average guy

00:06:39.600 could get a traditional woman and now what does he get he gets a boss a boss babe a girl that's been

00:06:45.360 ran through he gets an ex-ho he gets a born again virgin like what this is as as women this is what

00:06:51.040 what do we get we still get protection and provisioning are you sure and i mean okay okay

00:06:59.040 here's here's the thing the average salary could cover an apartment

00:07:03.120 and but the thing is like women we want this lifestyle that's not even realistic nowadays

00:07:08.240 like we want men that make more than we do and we want them to pay all of the bills but it's like

00:07:13.120 we work what we all have our nails done we have uh we get our hair dyed we have makeup we have all

00:07:17.920 of this stuff that costs money because we want this lifestyle and i've had girls come on my show

00:07:22.320 and i say would you would you date an average guy for companionship but you would have to go down

00:07:27.440 in lifestyle and they say no we're addicted to lifestyle i would i would add from a male perspective

00:07:34.400 what what i find and i i think that this is why most guys don't bother and this is you know why i you

00:07:39.440 know for me it's the biggest kind of consumer of my energy when it comes to dating in this whole game is

00:07:44.400 that everyone every all modern women want my time and attention in it when i go to a club there's 10 hot

00:07:50.400 girls who think i'm going to get their number talk to them for three months take them out until they

00:07:54.320 eventually decide to you know we can do this or that or whatever and it's it's just non-stop and

00:07:58.880 they all they all think they all think i have all the time in the world and that they're all so

00:08:02.560 special and interesting and that they all deserve the red carpet treatment and these women do nothing

00:08:06.560 for me they do absolutely nothing they can barely hold a conversation they can't start a conversation

00:08:10.720 they've got no date ideas they don't even know how to be feminine from they're saying they think

00:08:14.720 wearing a tight skirt is feminine you can stand around and guys will just throw themselves at you

00:08:20.560 which is which is kind of like that's that's why which is what they do and that's why when is the

00:08:25.520 last time a girl planned a day for you oh my god like like plans like a planned a whole day got you

00:08:30.960 a really a thoughtful gift that had nothing to do with her nothing she wanted i'm glad you asked that

00:08:35.600 question i don't remember the last time they don't do it but they talk about equality a lot

00:08:39.600 no but you're generalizing but you're generalizing a lot as well even even if it was just a hookup

00:08:43.920 that maybe liked you or got feelings or whatever did any of them like try to compete for you hell no

00:08:48.800 yeah because they're all they're all queens because it's an ego thing because girls won't put aside

00:08:53.520 their ego they all turn out they're all queens they're all boss bitches no she's got a point for

00:08:58.080 once i'll agree with her she does have a point girls do you know what stop being so annoying if you have

00:09:03.120 if you want to see the guy ask him can i see you if you want to go on a date with him and you invite him

00:09:07.600 make sure that you did the invitation be polite have manners and you're the one that is the host

00:09:11.440 therefore you to pattern the thing stop always waiting for the guy to make the first move i get

00:09:15.600 the impression no no no no no no no you can't turn around and say that the men want feminine women

00:09:24.800 and then you so how can a woman go up to a man and say i'm gonna take you out well i'll say i think

00:09:33.200 that you're an amazing guy you are sick i'm gonna shoot my shot so so devil devil's advocate here i

00:09:49.040 i'm not i wouldn't probably approach it like that but like back in the day didn't women drop the

00:09:52.800 handkerchief so they can pick a right right women drop the handkerchief but that's but that you see

00:10:00.400 the thing is right is that years ago you took the handkerchief and the man showed you was interested

00:10:05.280 you didn't drop your knickers and that's the difference dropping a handkerchief is totally different

00:10:13.040 from dropping your knickers so you used to walk along in the old days they used to drop a hat you know

00:10:19.360 you walk along and you drop a hanky just to see whether or not the man was interested

00:10:26.400 but now the women are dropping their knickers to see whether the man's interest no i don't think

00:10:29.920 that's an issue they're not dropping their knickers because most like a third of men are virgins

00:10:33.840 but they're dropping their knickers more than we drop hankies no my my my only point was that like when

00:10:39.280 is the last time as like as a woman like you've really showed effort to show a man that you appreciate

00:10:45.600 him and you're interested i know you do you do i'm saying like oh um go ahead god sorry no no um i

00:10:52.160 was gonna say so you know you guys are speaking about this what do you think of someone who's been

00:10:58.560 in a relationship in a long relationship like i'll give an example um i've been with my partner for

00:11:02.640 like a year and a half now and the other day i said to him we like to do date nights we like to keep

00:11:07.040 it spicy and we have a child right it's not his child but he he takes on the role brilliant love

00:11:12.880 that yeah uh and i said to him um monday night you're booked date night meet me at this hotel

00:11:19.840 i've booked the hotel i've filled it with balloons petals everything um and and i did that for him so

00:11:26.000 what what do you think of that like i'm treating him no but on the flip side you fight sometimes so

00:11:31.360 but you know something right that would work for you uh-huh and if it works for you that's great

00:11:35.920 i appreciate that but that wouldn't work for me so something totally different like for you

00:11:43.040 booking a hotel and that but i don't like hotels i'm fussy about my food i hate flowers okay so just

00:11:48.480 call it a date night but then you you pick whatever you want there's nothing wrong in that

00:11:52.640 yeah but the thing is is that sometimes don't even tell him surprise surprise him yeah surprise him

00:12:00.640 he doesn't need to be told no no he wasn't told he was just told he was given an address

00:12:05.920 but also give him an address and be there at six can i can i can i just say something interesting

00:12:10.720 that i've observed um because i've given this example a lot and whenever like women say the

00:12:15.920 thing that they did for their boyfriend or their husband or whatever it was it's always something

00:12:20.160 that like women would enjoy more than typically yeah i don't i don't know him maybe this was like

00:12:25.440 you know i'm sure he appreciated either way but it's just interesting like i think a lot of times we

00:12:30.480 look through our point of view and not theirs but you know what you just reminded me of something

00:12:34.400 it's pearl is so right when she said that because remember i said that that wouldn't work for me

00:12:39.520 but what actually worked for me was christmas i said you know well because we don't live together

00:12:47.760 because i'm my mom's caregiver so it's impossible because of the way i am because my mom's got

00:12:52.880 dementia and she's really sublime so i look after my mom so hence the two separate houses but i said

00:12:58.400 you're gonna spend christmas i had planned it so that i hate movies and he's a nerd he loves movies

00:13:06.720 the only we love alcohol and we love good food and it was christmas my birthday's this after christmas

00:13:14.800 and he had such a relaxing time i forgot my birthday and i only remembered my birthday my birthday was in

00:13:23.200 december and we only we didn't have christmas dinner we realized that i think new year was

00:13:29.440 like what happened to christmas dinner when i was still in the fridge you know because we ate and we

00:13:33.840 snacked and to him he loved that yeah but for me to go and do something that i mean i was sat down

00:13:40.400 there when i'm watching a movie marathon i hate movies but that is something that he enjoys because

00:13:45.840 the thing is that in relationships i always say that we always think about what we want but we never think

00:13:50.240 about what we can give can i can i say one thing i feel like um and this is my opinion i feel like

00:13:56.240 there's one part of it what all you women are forgetting right um when men are going out the

00:14:02.080 way to give you stuff or do some surprise for y'all the one for y'all keep forgetting there's one

00:14:07.280 important thing that we want that back too but we don't like to say i mean y'all always say the word

00:14:12.560 thanks or you won't give us a thing but we like it back you know what i'm saying like it's always us men

00:14:18.080 going out away to do stuff for the women again do you know what i mean but we don't we don't get

00:14:22.720 it back but if we get it back you don't give to receive that's what i'm saying i'm just saying

00:14:26.720 like like we love it like you see how we do some surprise we go we take you as we like it back

00:14:31.680 that's why i said i think the point they're trying to make um and i i agree with you i don't think

00:14:36.240 you should give so you should can receive but i think a lot of men just feel like women put in no

00:14:41.280 effort nowadays yes this is what it means 100 i think what it means is that the men put in too

00:14:47.600 much effort now probably probably because you know what right all the things that he's saying

00:14:54.640 everyone to say to my man oh yeah i want you to book a hotel he goes where you gonna go you're gonna

00:14:58.640 stay in it on your own because that is not my that's too much do you know what i mean i'm happy with

00:15:04.640 him if i come to his house and there is curry goat and rice and salad yeah i'm in heaven yeah

00:15:12.800 that's that's it for me i was gonna say i mean that's it for me the society there's a societal

00:15:17.680 narrative in there that men are constantly told that we're dispensable and our time and energy

00:15:21.680 doesn't mean anything so when i coach when i coach guys right because i do date coaching on the side now

00:15:26.160 it's the first step is always to help them to understand that like you have value bro like like guys

00:15:30.720 just have this idea that like oh let's pick up artistry so i'm going to read this book and learn these

00:15:34.560 patterns and do this and then when she does this i'm going to do this and i'm thinking bro you've

00:15:38.640 you forgot one thing self-respect you haven't even judged this person like these some of these guys

00:15:43.520 who are new to the dating game often go into clubs and they give their time and attention to people

00:15:47.440 based on looks and i'm standing there thinking i can tell this one's got a boyfriend this one's just

00:15:51.680 for attention this one's emotionally available actually likes the other guy at the back of the

00:15:54.880 room but it's talking to you because you got game but she's going to waste your time later

00:15:58.400 modern guys have been so brainwashed and told to be emotional and feminine and like your time doesn't

00:16:02.960 mean anything you should be you should be lucky to have any woman around you that they waste their

00:16:06.800 time and energy do you know the one thing that my guys do the one thing that i find that modern guys

00:16:12.720 do which no what modern guys don't do which my man does regular is tell me the truth whether i like

00:16:20.320 it or not thank you you can't do that in this game no no you can no no you can tell me the truth

00:16:25.680 whether i like it or not 100 i agree and i think that you need to and sometimes all right this is

00:16:30.560 all right i can't say that you don't care about my feelings but evil my man will tell me the truth

00:16:36.000 whether and it's not like i know everything what kind of truths everything anything everything listen

00:16:41.920 right you look fat you look fat look at your face you look like you got two bits of liver hanging down

00:16:46.880 if you did that now he'll be he'll be in jail for emotional abuse he'll be on some blog so so auntie i i

00:16:52.640 agree with you like i i think a lot of men are afraid to tell women the truth and i think more

00:16:57.200 women would respect it if they did but at the same but at the same time um modern women i i think on

00:17:04.160 some level like to be lied to and don't want the truth and they want to be sold a fairy tale because

00:17:08.160 we've been told our whole lives we're queens princesses and tens i realized that because i heard

00:17:12.320 everybody talking about this lizzo

00:17:14.160 and i saw lizzo for the first time last this week yeah she's a big uh big she's uh she's she's

00:17:24.560 and i just thought to myself when i heard always talk about lizzo and i just thought wow is that is

00:17:29.680 that is that her and i was just surprised that all the yeah but there are no but there are no standards

00:17:36.480 for women right so lizzo can can kind of have a physique that is not as in line with what we

00:17:44.800 generally consider fit healthy attractive and flaunt it in this like you know over over kind of zealous

00:17:50.320 way but men will be scrutinized for like leonardo dicaprio will be scrutinized for dating like

00:17:54.800 a 25 year old even though he's a grown man that's a grown woman yes i had no problem with

00:17:59.200 her uh her size if she wants to be fat that's her business i hope she stays healthy i but me

00:18:08.960 personally i'm skinny and i wouldn't wear what she's wearing but what but what i found out that totally

00:18:15.440 shocked me is that she can play the flute she's talented and she is extremely talented but when i

00:18:26.480 looked at this woman on there shaking her stuff and doing her thing yeah i didn't put the two together

00:18:34.080 and i thought to myself why didn't you lead with the fact that you can really play the flute really

00:18:40.720 good rather than at the shaking your stuff and everybody's following her shaking and she's leading

00:18:48.720 with that and she's leading the people away rather than how does she get to play the flute so good

00:18:54.960 she must have studied it or whatever but she's not out there promoting that for the young people

00:18:58.960 for the modern people to say do you know what i studied this i studied music this is what i'm doing

00:19:04.320 she's promoting all the things what i would see as negative when she's got so much positive to give

00:19:08.800 and that's how i did i couldn't understand that why people are following her that way i would respect

00:19:13.120 her more as she went out there and she like dressed professional as a proper it's not that's not that's

00:19:19.520 not what the modern woman has been programmed to do no forget the program it's just not cool can i say

00:19:24.240 something like trying to like even going sorry i'm going to make this point she i've heard stories

00:19:31.280 that like she will sleep with guys and then throw them out of a room as a power play like i've heard

00:19:35.840 she's deeply insecure in the way she she handles herself and to me that sounds like you're trying

00:19:40.960 to be a man in it you're trying to be like this alpha male who has his way but you're not a man you're

00:19:45.440 you're female that's the only time i saw her was playing the flute i've never seen anything from

00:19:49.280 her before except her playing the flute and i was impressed with her playing the flute but i thought

00:19:54.400 why are you playing the flute with a swing costume on uh juicy what are you gonna say

00:20:02.800 oh did you have something i do i was just gonna say like i think that people like liza will do things

00:20:08.800 like this because beauty standards especially for the woman reality yeah but no beauty standards like

00:20:15.200 for like what a woman wants to aspire to look like is actually based on the standards that men also

00:20:21.520 you know set because men like they've been liking since like maybe like 80s publicly publicly like

00:20:31.360 through music through like even culture through some some of the things that are being shown to us

00:20:35.760 right which means that now we got to a stage even like my friends whenever they meet a guy first thing

00:20:40.080 they do is check who they're following because that shows you like really most a lot of men promote

00:20:45.440 the culture so i know that obviously modern women have to take accountability but i think it goes both

00:20:50.480 ways and women like lizo are literally showing okay well i'm fine and i'm all of this but if this

00:20:55.680 is the beauty standards that i'm not going to let my body stop me i'm going to be wearing this the

00:21:00.160 same thing that every guy thinks it's not why is it the men promoting it no man's making her go out there

00:21:05.680 she's trying to set those standards and stupid people are following her and then they're going

00:21:08.960 to turn around and say oh it's self-love obesity is self-love all of a sudden and that's what she's

00:21:13.760 promoting but it's her man's not it's release it's release i don't think she's a beast i think she's

00:21:17.920 generally like just like wider frame no she's not wider frame unless she's a blast dinosaur i feel like

00:21:24.480 she looks like someone like she can't no matter what she does she would still have like a very wide

00:21:28.320 no she's a tone tone okay fair enough does she seem like she squats no she's she's trying come on

00:21:36.080 she's potentially um she's potentially clinically obese but she you can be obese and healthy yes

00:21:43.760 you can be a fit hobbies and you can also be a very unhealthy um skinny person so she's probably

00:21:50.320 she's probably metabolically she's metabolically fit because for her to play the flip like that

00:21:54.720 with those lungs dance jump up and down despite the size despite the size but then if you take

00:22:00.880 height and weight and do the calculation she's probably is it that ivy yeah i've got a hot take

00:22:07.280 i just i just genuinely don't believe you can be big for that long i'm not i'm not going to pretend

00:22:10.880 i'm a science through a nutrition like nothing but like i i genuinely don't believe you can be big

00:22:15.520 for that long and not have health issues that come eventually must be putting a lot of strain on her

00:22:19.760 heart eventually potentially yeah but she's better off than someone who's completely sedentary she's

00:22:26.560 mobile she's mobile does that make sense but then now it's yeah but anyways oh sorry i remember what

00:22:32.400 i wanted to say sorry the only thing i wanted to say is that why liz did not lead with um um the flute

00:22:39.360 and everything because education is not valid these days as well guys that's hard so you people know

00:22:44.320 it's not cool to go to uni i am juicy j i am a host and presenter for inner cover afrobeats events

00:22:49.840 but nobody knows i did my masters nobody knows i did undergrad nobody knows i'm a stem student and

00:22:54.800 i'm a bsc and i'm actually a geek no one knows that no one cares for that no one asks that was a fun

00:22:59.200 fact why didn't you say it you should have promoted because it's boring because it's boring who is it

00:23:05.120 boring for yeah and maybe that's the same thing lizo is saying exactly modern people think it's boring

00:23:11.920 i find that i find it really fascinating and that for me that's something you should lead with

00:23:16.880 that's true because lizo does that special that's special that is something that be careful makes

00:23:21.680 you not everybody that is something no no no exactly but at the same time as a black woman and you're

00:23:29.360 now what you're educated double educated you're you know this that you want to be among you scare

00:23:34.480 men away guys i want to get married no no no but that's what society no that's what society makes you

00:23:40.880 believe men aren't scared by that unless you act like you're better than them because of it

00:23:45.280 no but then you're a woman no man no an average guy can beat you up no man is intimidated by you

00:23:51.520 no not physically not physically but i have had people no people come to me and tell me they're

00:23:56.880 intimidated and i look at them and i'm like excuse me they're not the ones for you no no of course you

00:24:04.400 not you can't be intimidated of me you have to see me and love my energy what when women say this to you

00:24:10.880 that what does that typically mean it means like she's she's mad egotistical when they say like

00:24:18.000 men are intimidated might be this and that and it's men judge you by your body language and like

00:24:22.560 how feminine you are and so if if guys looking at you being like i'm intimidated because of like a

00:24:26.800 degree or something like that i've never met a guy who gave a flying anything no one ever no one cares

00:24:32.880 i think it's the type of people that say there are always people who behave in a way that creates that

00:24:37.760 image and then they say oh it's because i'm a woman because i'm this and that that's my experience

00:24:41.040 no okay but i'm saying to you that i don't wake up like this okay i came here even just be myself

00:24:46.240 not here as in here here to the uk in general even the way i speak because i speak with an italian

00:24:51.440 mentality they say it's rude it's too strong it's too forward you know a lot of people don't cannot

00:24:58.160 work with that you understand i'm not saying that i'm intimidating i'm saying i'm being told i'm

00:25:02.960 intimidating i don't think i am then navigate it navigate it if you understand enough that it's

00:25:09.840 like part of your italian habits habits from another language then surely you can just like

00:25:14.560 you know self-evaluate and be like all right i'll adjust there's a lot of italians there who managed

00:25:18.640 to not be seen as rude it's very difficult it's not it's not you see now it's adjusting yourself so i

00:25:24.080 have to be myself have self-love instead at the same time adjust myself like this is why this society is

00:25:28.320 going this is another fallacy right this is another fallacy i have to be myself i appreciate myself

00:25:33.280 i have self-care but at the same time i need to adjust myself i don't understand that's a fallacy

00:25:37.040 to not scare somebody that's a fallacy now when you're saying about the italian you i've got a

00:25:42.160 ghanaian friend and she's italian yeah and she's the most calmest no no no and i don't understand about

00:25:49.120 it don't make no difference i'm just talking about adjusting yourself as an italian yeah because

00:25:53.680 italian is who you are the culture and all of the the fieriness is something that can be toned down

00:26:00.880 so that's what i'm asking about what is it about your italian that they're finding intimidating sometimes

00:26:06.560 also original regional people from like the south or from rome and stuff sometimes a bit different but

00:26:11.920 it's just how the tone of voice comes out it's not really what i'm saying like if i if i speak i can

00:26:16.880 speak normally to me a lot of italian people sound passionate when they talk yeah yeah and people

00:26:22.080 will take that the wrong way as arrogant ignorant loud but i just think they're passionate yeah

00:26:28.560 exactly that's exactly that's exactly but but i think i think that's like a lack of femininity though

00:26:34.400 like i think like typically when when i hear girls say this and some some behavior that that they do

00:26:40.080 that's like a lack of femininity to men and that's what's putting them off well i've never heard that

00:26:44.480 before i'm absolutely no no no in the sense that i'll tell you myself even what she said like and

00:26:51.280 this is someone like i can be loud too i'm not i'm not above it but i'm i'm just saying like when when

00:26:56.560 she said like loud like the the traits that auntie just used that that's not that none of them are

00:27:01.200 feminine traits and so men don't typically like loud girls you know it was me i talked about my italian

00:27:09.680 friends been married for years she's gone in and she's italian and i've never heard her raise her

00:27:15.120 i've never heard her raise her tone of voice yeah she is just so humbling she is just so feminine

00:27:22.640 her and her husband i don't know they're just perfect together he looks at her like every time he sees

00:27:30.000 her i look at him they live together they've been together for years and they've got three beautiful

00:27:34.480 and he and he looks at her like as if it was the first day he met her when he looks at her he's in

00:27:40.480 it's like the love is in there and when i'll see her and she's only tiny and when i'll see her in

00:27:44.800 the little trainers and i say to her hey are you looking what's your husband saying because you're

00:27:48.160 losing a bit of weight you're looking a bit sexy she's 55 that was what i made the birthday cake for

00:27:53.120 and her and her husband even though they're both italian they're the most humblest most quietest most

00:28:02.320 undercover sexiest people thank you they know undercover sexy because you can just see that

00:28:08.640 they've got that sexy enough deep inside of them okay um i do want to add quickly though that that

00:28:13.680 fallacy that's a fallacy and i see this a lot in the black community where you know a lot of the time

00:28:20.080 black women and a lot of black community know the pain points in communication and there's always

00:28:25.360 a defensive kind of like oh it's self-editing it's you know if if i kind of calm myself down and

00:28:30.080 understand this then it's me not loving myself and there's all this pushback and you realize

00:28:34.720 feminine women don't really do that like feminine feminine women like watch they're calm they're very

00:28:39.360 careful with their tone you know they fit into every conversation and i think that's something as

00:28:43.280 a community we need to we need to promote that those kind of values like you can be a classy black

00:28:47.280 woman who's not loud who's kind of you know suave about how you engage yourself it's not it doesn't

00:28:51.840 mean you're not you don't love yourself you know if the modern women want to have some of that then

00:28:58.400 they should do what i do and mix with because i i find out that a lot of people who have negative

00:29:05.360 ideas about marriage it's because they have no positive role models of marriage and if they even

00:29:12.000 if they nowadays i've realized that modern people even if their parents are together and their parents

00:29:17.920 have like they're still married they're looking at their parents relationship as something negative

00:29:23.360 when it should be something you know they might think oh my dad tells my mom what to do or my mom

00:29:27.280 was just a housewife and they're seeing it as something negative where it's something positive

00:29:31.360 so me personally when i now even though i'm content with my man i still surround myself with happily married

00:29:40.320 feminine women and their husbands and their families because i sort of i'm like a sponge i just want to jump in

00:29:47.280 the middle and soak it all up yeah i tell young women that as well okay um i'm gonna it's getting

00:29:52.800 kind of late so i'm gonna um take a second to read super chats and then we're gonna do final thoughts

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00:30:15.760 gonna be able to stream in 8k at some point oh no okay it's just it's for reaction videos um i really

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00:30:27.760 though and i feel like yeah it's gonna be cool okay and we're just doing the ten dollars or more um i

00:30:33.040 also heard you guys that you want um the super chats to be put on the screen if they're less than

00:30:39.360 ten dollars and we're working on that hopefully we can get that implemented by what like next week maybe

00:30:44.480 yeah so um that is coming another thing that we also want to implement is the top um super chat of

00:30:51.280 the show we want to actually put like your super chat on the wall for the next show so we're not

00:30:57.440 going to start that this show but next show whatever um you guys top super chat we can like write it on

00:31:03.120 a piece of paper and put it behind me during the next show yeah you cool with that okay i talked to

00:31:08.480 copi about it i don't know okay um that's it super chat what happens when a large part of men get a

00:31:15.360 woman from abroad peace from de um the most humane thing to let modern women do is suffer alone until

00:31:22.400 they ask for help or become a statistic for a lifelong usage of antidepressants occasion the most basic

00:31:28.480 way to a man's heart is food and sex you do that you're like 90 of the way there it's literally that

00:31:33.280 easy nearly everything else is just a bonus blackest panther women have no idea how to be

00:31:38.640 romantic when a woman says she's romantic she's not talking about she's talking about what she has

00:31:43.280 done for her not what she does for her man women think men like date nights just give us some peace

00:31:48.720 and some ps5 um zero fallout the generation of ladies um and the laws that are pitiful auntie my

00:31:55.280 advice is to go overseas and to stay there um only when the economy stalls and infrastructure

00:32:01.680 collapses will western women realize men do a lot matt butcher incredible show guys some perfect

00:32:07.360 examples of what not to waste your time on become successful on your own and give a lady a chance

00:32:12.080 and she shows her as walk scorched urch urch next um doug mpa alex called lakers jersey feminine

00:32:19.840 yesterday and sound and be sounding like a blue-pilled simp today alex alex you gotta hold an l today

00:32:26.320 beta blue pill energy the whole show we see right through you right now um andrea drea most men won't

00:32:34.080 want a 304 as a girlfriend or a wife purity matters or at least a low body count preferably under five

00:32:39.680 that's why most older women don't find any serious relationships they'll end up with a cat

00:32:45.200 lawrence ask the woman in the blue if she's ever heard of mary k um let there something um if she

00:32:50.320 wants to give examples of an extreme oj didn't do it hearing her talk hate to say it fellows but we are

00:32:55.760 doomed lyrically inclined toxic masculinity definition is when females are masculine toxic femininity is when

00:33:03.600 males are feminine that what makes masculinity and femininity toxic is the fact that it goes against

00:33:09.840 the nature of the opposite sex gregory it's it's suspicious to me when a woman is quick to call

00:33:16.160 a man weak weak men know better to then to call another and stronger man weak and a real man who

00:33:22.560 is strong doesn't feel the need to call another man weak and sx i'm not excusing it but if a dude hits

00:33:28.800 you and you're able to hit back and he he didn't really hit you in other words when i hear stories

00:33:33.760 like that and she's not her i assume she was the one hitting john the baptist stay in your lane as a

00:33:38.560 woman john the baptist the lady in the blue doesn't want her man out to hit bat let me refresh this

00:33:43.280 just to make sure that there's no more also guys make sure you like the video that is the most

00:33:47.840 important metric that youtube uses to push out these streams so like the video um i want to say

00:33:52.800 we have 1700 likes which is a great improvement from last time we'll do a clap for that but let's try

00:33:58.560 to get to 2 000 likes before the show ends just so we can push this out in the algorithm um when you

00:34:04.080 guys like it it sends to youtube that it's higher engagement with the stream so even once the

00:34:08.240 stream is done it really helps push it out um blackest panther being feminine is not just about

00:34:13.200 appearance and attire also body language posture gait and walk mannerisms diet vocal tone volume how

00:34:19.520 much you speak words word choice lifestyle and most important your mentality um okay that's all of the

00:34:26.240 super chat so um go around give your final thoughts start here go around and then back row

00:34:31.840 oh you you don't want to start they can see you what they'll see you oh yeah start from start from

00:34:38.960 the end oh sorry okay you can you can start final thoughts yeah on yeah just the show anything you

00:34:45.360 want to speak your piece on now's the time any and you guys can plug your insta social media if you sell

00:34:50.000 something now's your time at tandy blues tick tock and instagram and based what i didn't get to say about the

00:34:58.000 abuse punch in if you're one of them guys that don't well if a woman hits when we were talking

00:35:06.160 about from a woman hits you and some guys are like i'll punch back and some are like oh don't to the

00:35:11.600 ones that say i don't just get your female bitches to do the job um i'm so happy today i didn't get as

00:35:24.880 much hate as i normally guess so that was good do follow me denalvo.ao my final thoughts are boys you

00:35:32.400 need to become more stush women since obviously now we also make money also do this sometimes treat

00:35:37.840 the boys a little bit more and take the first step there's nothing wrong

00:35:43.920 what's up guys it's growgcj you can find me at jc underscore gcj instagram tick no yeah tick tock

00:35:50.960 and that's it and last take i don't take all advice you see on social media because we don't

00:35:56.960 know where their sources come from that's all i got to say because this conversation was amazing

00:36:00.560 thank you very much to have us yeah thanks i would be back we can also do something with food i'd love

00:36:04.400 that yeah but really ensure you don't take advice for everyone on social media because they may not

00:36:08.400 have a protocol you don't know where they're reading the sources their facts and everything like

00:36:11.280 that that spreads misinformation wow yeah teach me teach me okra oh my god that's so easy actually to me

00:36:17.920 so so easy auntie what was the word that you were using earlier that it's good to be

00:36:26.560 no no no traditionalist okay so there's a difference between being traditional and traditionalist

00:36:33.440 yes which i 100 agree with so i would say that i am a traditionalist yes even though i am not pure

00:36:40.400 yes i like to keep my traditional values alive even though i haven't done for a few years but i have

00:36:46.720 snapped into the fact that i have to settle down so these traits i want to you know carry them

00:36:54.560 forward in in the relationship i am now bless you babe um so yes i 100 believe that and i believe

00:37:03.360 that you have to be if you are with the right person you will automatically fall into your feminine

00:37:09.680 feminine energy and he will fall into his masculine energy and then it will work but you will 100 be

00:37:16.800 as a woman you have to go through these frogs you have to go through the frogs that are going to

00:37:20.560 put you through hell the ones that are going to be toxic the ones that are probably going to hit you

00:37:24.960 even though they shouldn't until you get to the to this to this right amazing person um

00:37:30.800 um i have a lot to say but maybe another time um my name is loser rito kami and it's with a z

00:37:38.640 and that's on instagram and catch me that's the only platform i actually use

00:37:42.400 and it's been amazing to be on here and also i'm a salsa dancer and i don't know if any of the viewers

00:37:49.040 want to see pearl do some salsa i i i only have one dance move and it's the shimmy it's the show yeah

00:37:57.840 yeah it's like oh like that i'm open to learning more if anyone wants to see i did doing some

00:38:04.320 salsa i did i do send the messages over because it could be a lesson of wife school we all learn salsa

00:38:11.840 dancing actually i think that school would be good for a lot of people because it would teach the man to

00:38:16.000 lead and the woman to follow yes i just don't know i don't mind that but i just don't like

00:38:20.080 salsa dancing i know maybe not i like bathroom dancing no just dancing in general it could be

00:38:25.280 like no i try salsa dancing i i don't like it but you know in dancing in general is the man that

00:38:29.840 he's on but his own way it's closer than i know you're basically hanging on his leg i know well i've

00:38:34.080 seen my sister you're sitting on his leg i've got i've got people that do it but i and sarah's good at

00:38:38.720 that sarah yeah sarah garvey yeah we should get him and and pearl to do because sarah does got um

00:38:45.600 kazumba and of course he does yes he does kazumba so i think that we should get pearl and sarah right

00:38:52.400 to dance lessons but he's gonna hold you quite low on the waist i'm just telling you i'm not saying

00:38:56.480 they dance together i won't put pearl through that i would like to say this is my first time on the

00:39:07.200 show and i loved it like for me my favorite is when how auntie was kicking off i was like goddamn like if

00:39:12.960 y'all see this from the beginning see my facial i was like damn she might be my mother you know

00:39:16.800 i'm saying but all i would say yeah this this show was a vibe and also obviously if you want to know

00:39:22.080 why i win the world trust me just try to find me on social media then you understand the reason why

00:39:26.800 that's on mr underscore trust me spell it just like this correct it make sure you spell it right

00:39:32.320 underscore photographer then you see the reason why the carpet mr trust me god damn

00:39:41.600 um alexander uh my final thoughts on this are uh was it misandry uh toxic masculinity there's no

00:39:50.960 such thing i think it's just you know toxic traits i think um you know we all we all have a lot to learn

00:39:56.560 i think we you know we're in a period where we have to like renegotiate a lot of relationships

00:40:00.800 i'm not as much a traditionalist as a lot of people on this panel or maybe some of the viewers

00:40:05.360 maybe um but i am on a mission as a dating coach to to kind of support as many men in regaining that

00:40:13.200 kind of masculine prowess we used to have and i've definitely noticed a really strong decline

00:40:17.840 in men just not having the same values men being raised around women and having a lot of female

00:40:22.400 talking points and mannerisms and like that i have i have some of them as well and i probably still do

00:40:26.960 but i definitely believe in like trying to hold the people around me accountable and if i see people

00:40:31.840 being weak or not valuing themselves um you know i make a point to as a man to try a man to try and

00:40:37.840 lift each other up so hit me up on instagram um that that's one of my new things on the side and uh

00:40:43.200 hopefully you know we can all grow together and be better men matter i didn't lose it if the italians

00:40:50.960 could be passionate so can i until you're perfect i was passionate and all i want to say is

00:41:00.800 if somebody hits you hit them back now right baby if somebody knock that out knock that

00:41:08.640 out back if a woman slaps you a man if your hand is hit her give her i'm not saying i'm not saying beat

00:41:17.280 her if she gives you one slap give her one slap back you can even give her two turn ahead no a

00:41:23.840 slap for slap so every time she slaps you slap her back sorry your woman is abusing you

00:41:31.440 make sure you're in if you're in the uk there's cameras everywhere make sure that when she hits you

00:41:38.640 that it's on the camera let her hit you about three or four times and just hit her once but make sure that

00:41:43.600 it's on the camera or make sure that somebody's reporting it and women you don't need to be scared

00:41:50.000 of men but men i think you should be scared of women that's my final thought also um auntie's new

00:42:00.160 youtube channel is in the description so um she's already at a thousand subscribers we're trying to

00:42:06.640 get her monetized so if you guys want to go subscribe to that and then we're actually going to start having

00:42:12.160 lives where um auntie has her own show on the channel so can i just say something um on the

00:42:18.400 the first show that i done when i sat in for you even though you look really good as a black woman

00:42:22.800 um the interruptions i spoke to my granddaughter and i told her that i was on tv she's five years old

00:42:30.320 and she asked me how it was and i said that all the young people there kept on talking over each other

00:42:34.800 she said grandma they didn't even say excuse me so um i'm not putting up with it anymore from the

00:42:44.000 mouths of babes if my granddaughters were over talking me she'd get a warning and then she'd have

00:42:49.280 to leave and that's what i'm going to be doing because i'm not going to be disrespected by anyone

00:42:56.080 when i'm when i'm when i'm hosting my own show so if you come onto the show and you disrespect me

00:43:01.520 i'm going to ask you i'm going to give you a warning and i'm going to ask you to leave i'm

00:43:06.480 even thinking about getting the referee cards yellow cards and red cards too many yellow cards

00:43:11.440 and then you're out and that's what i intend to do because going back to the traditional if my

00:43:17.680 five-year-old granddaughter can see that over talking people is wrong and she's going to look

00:43:22.800 down on me for accepting it i'm not going to allow her to look down on me i'm not accepting it

00:43:27.600 from nobody i wouldn't accept it for anybody older than me and i'm definitely not going to expect

00:43:32.960 to accept it from youngsters so anybody that comes onto my show and expects to overtalk me

00:43:39.200 and you think i lost it don't mess with me i'm not going to put up with it i want to show you the door

00:43:46.720 tell them auntie respectfully i've learned that

00:43:49.840 um okay i'm gonna read the last couple of super chats before we close out the show guys like the

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00:45:06.320 want to grow on youtube i think that's where you get the most bang for your buck um okay just

00:45:11.600 something the girl in the blue needs to re-watch these videos she's constantly talking down to

00:45:16.240 people because of imaginary authority it's really baffling to watch her like this after pearl read

00:45:21.440 the description of a narcissist it's her terrell clark how are you a single mother and a traditionalist

00:45:27.040 haram um black as panther being feminine is not about appear okay i read this already okay guys um again

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JustPearlyThings - November 14, 2023

Men Get FINISHED For Seeking for Attention in the Dating Market

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