Men NEED BULLYING
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss accountability in the dating world, red flags, and red flags in relationships, and why women should be held accountable for the things they do and the things that they don t do. We also discuss why men should be accountable for what they do, and what they should do about it.
Transcript
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say something to the effect of women should be held accountable and should hold themselves
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accountable all the guys are like dimitri spitting the facts who brought the facts right the moment i
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say that men need to hold themselves accountable you're a simp you're this you're that it's like
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no man like like a little bullying guys is not a bad thing because it helps you be better
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like and you owe it to yourself to make promises to yourself that you keep and follow through on
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so yes women should be more accountable obviously but as men we should be accountable too
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yeah i i think though it's because the world will show men the truth where women will say lizzo's at
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10 not you guys yeah but but but listen but but again i'm sorry if i'm taking air like you can cut
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me off but like even yesterday like the you you asked me a question like should you know would
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your daughter marry a bus driver i'm like hell no my daughter's not going to marry a bus driver it's
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not going to happen like as her dad i work way too damn hard i live in a too nice neighborhood i sent
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her to a freaking top like she goes to an elementary school that has the word college in it like when
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you're doing that like i'm putting her you know i'm putting her in classrooms with like kids of
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ambassadors and and kids of the guy that runs the stock market in our country is like that those
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kind of kids right i'm doing it so she doesn't marry a bus driver and so the men go and they're
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like oh you don't like middle class working men that run society i'm like no that's not what i'm
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saying i'm saying is i don't want my daughter to marry a career bus driver because that is not the
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problem that a 50 year old man should be solving on how to drive the bus from point a to point b
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by the time you're 50 you should be running the damn organization and taking care of other
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employees and growing in your career that's the point yes there's nothing wrong with electricians
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when you're 26 27 years old but if you're doing the same thing at 59 that you were 27 you're solving
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the wrong problems right so that's where the accountability argument comes in is that there
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there's a a problem that you solve but it has to be age appropriate what do you think red flag
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first date um a woman that's like um always talking about her ex does that happen before
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on a first date when you get to know them and they talk about their ex about if the ex is in
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their life or not if i have a kid or and they're talking about their ex and saying how they how they
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broke up and things like that yeah well you ghost or or will you send them a text and be like stop
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talking about the ex goodbye forever i feel like for men it's not even ghosting though because if
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you don't reach out they're not even gonna you know i mean it's not like ghosting it's like you're
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just kind of choosing to end the dialogue really yeah women will never reach out rare it's rare
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they have to be bold oh yeah do you know guys sorry about this but real quick do you know what
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happens when you don't go so you probably experience this when you're like hey listen you're really cool
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but i see that you have some feelings and you're trying to escalate the relationship i just want to let
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you know that this is not going to be a serious relationship for me and you have to deal with it
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she just gets more attracted to you and then she just like it's like what are you doing i literally
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just told you who i am why have you found that to be true too if you guys like put a girl in the
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the friends with benefits though and she wants you more yes yes and if you find that if you try to
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yeah what do you guys have to say about that why do we do that
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do you guys do you guys find that you guys want guys you can't have it's that it's interesting
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because that why why don't you want me that i want that why don't you want to know why you want
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to know why they don't want you yeah because yeah what if they said like you're annoying
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what can i say would you would you would you then stop chasing
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uh me personally i was i'll ask them why how no no what i'm saying they say you're annoying then
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what it's the end of the conversation i'll stop but i just want to know why do you think i'm annoying
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i dig too deep that's why uh what made oh i have a question for you you're engaged right
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what made your fiance different than guys you dated in the past um he doesn't he doesn't go out
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we're we're two completely different people so he doesn't go out but i go out a lot
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as in raven clubbing yeah wow and that then dynamics are crazy yeah i like i'm so i'm a sociable
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person i've always been at that i like to socialize um as i said i'm a girl's girl so yeah i i'm out a lot
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yes he doesn't like that so i try to minimize it but um i just don't think i could be with someone
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that is also outside as well like you have a lot of double standards yeah that's crazy that's crazy
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it wouldn't work i know that it wouldn't work it would be a very why wouldn't you want him to go
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out um i just i just feel like any guys that i kind of meet outside or in a party environment
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like just looking at them and how they carry themselves and how they're moving how they're
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approaching to females what they're doing just doesn't appeal to me okay can i ask a question
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so how do you move when you're out you may no no oh yeah was that like so so what if it's to
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meet somebody that's reserved yeah move the same way that you do out in a club wouldn't it be the
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exact same yeah okay so um if i met somebody that's out at the back you know keep themselves to
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themselves then yeah i could i would think about it like i would i would it would be an option to
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speak like i would oh yeah i would talk to you or i would get to try and get to know you but my
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preference is okay i like a guy that's so what would you do if your current boyfriend says he wants you
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to stop going out and i'm asking that because if he's watching i'm giving him ideas
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like we have a lot that's we don't argue a lot but most of the arguments are about you know
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you're going out too much but when you met me i was going out too much yes i understand that in
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relationships you should change certain things you know like if your partner doesn't agree on
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certain things you should work and work around it and compromise which i have and i've actually
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don't go out as much as i used to i would say i go out probably
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a lot you i was yeah how would you how would you feel if your boyfriend went out
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to a party where every single girl he met wanted to sleep with him
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then that yeah that would that's crazy that would hurt me but i remember earlier when we said men will
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it's true yeah i can't say anything about that but yeah he um yeah he he doesn't go out um he
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doesn't his phone barely rings like he goes to work he's an electrician so he goes to work he comes
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home we have a daughter together as well and he's a good man he sounds very safe yeah he's like i have
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i've never had any problems like his phone doesn't even have a password like it's not what do you
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think the role of a wife is um a role of a wife um i would say to look after the household
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and obviously to raise the children in the right way and to cater to your man like to cater to him
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make sure his um work clothes are washed make sure his he's got hot meal on his um on the table when
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he comes home from work but i wouldn't say that sorry that is what i think yeah i yeah i don't do that