JustPearlyThings - August 07, 2023


Modern Share Experience of Worst Break Up


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Length

8 minutes

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200.91194

Word count

1,645

Sentence count

176

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Misogyny

5

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Hate speech

3

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In this episode, we talk about how to deal with a breakup and how to get over a bad breakup. We also discuss how to move on after a breakup, what to look out for and what to do if your ex has moved on.

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00:00:00.000 Have any of you ever looked at an ex's Instagram or Facebook
00:00:04.120 to see how they're doing after a breakup?
00:00:06.920 All the time.
00:00:08.760 Has anyone ever done that?
00:00:10.840 Anyone?
00:00:12.460 Two?
00:00:13.180 Okay, so the majority.
00:00:14.700 What are you?
00:00:15.900 I shouldn't put my hand up, really,
00:00:17.140 because nobody I've been at have done Facebook.
00:00:19.180 Why are you half open?
00:00:21.520 Huh?
00:00:22.160 I was like, why are you half raising your hand?
00:00:23.600 Because I don't know if I should say too much.
00:00:25.440 I'm joking.
00:00:26.120 I'm joking.
00:00:26.680 Anyway, that's much it.
00:00:27.540 I'm joking, I promise.
00:00:28.440 I'm joking, I promise.
00:00:30.920 But, yeah, I haven't.
00:00:32.780 Do you guys get mad if the girl you feel like is prettier than you
00:00:36.280 or better looking?
00:00:37.320 Not just happy.
00:00:38.800 You're happy for them?
00:00:39.860 Good for you.
00:00:40.780 I feel like for me personally, it depends on how soon after the breakup.
00:00:45.860 So how soon would piss you off versus how soon would make you happy for them?
00:00:52.100 After she's moved on.
00:00:53.240 Yeah.
00:00:55.100 If I haven't moved on, you can't.
00:00:56.600 No, that's true.
00:00:58.440 Or you can, just not someone better looking than me.
00:01:02.780 Does it depend on the ex too?
00:01:05.360 Like how much you liked the ex, whether you're happy for them or mad?
00:01:08.540 No.
00:01:09.540 No, just happy to move on.
00:01:11.920 So I kind of look at life as lessons.
00:01:14.380 So for me not to be with someone, I mean, it's taken me a while to get here, to be fair, but it's my stance now.
00:01:20.340 It wasn't previously, possibly, maybe before, but I think everyone, there's a reason behind everything and a why.
00:01:28.260 And I think if we're not meant to be together, then we're not meant to be together, be happy.
00:01:33.720 Good luck to the next person.
00:01:35.720 It's taken me a long while to get here, but yeah, I just think, yeah.
00:01:44.420 I don't think that at all.
00:01:46.980 I think if it's a bad breakup, you think, you're seeing with somebody else, you think, yeah, I'm glad she's got you.
00:01:52.000 I ain't got you.
00:01:54.160 I was going to say the same.
00:01:55.460 You're someone else's problem now.
00:01:55.920 I was going to say the same.
00:01:57.320 It works both ways.
00:01:58.460 But then if it was a good breakup, you know, you just think to yourself, I've got you there.
00:02:04.480 You deserve her.
00:02:05.480 Because she ain't going to be as good as me, but well done.
00:02:08.800 Because women are bitches and they're always going to say things like that anyway. 1.00
00:02:10.940 You're not going to say you're going to be happy for someone, you just put out with them, come on.
00:02:13.860 But is a bad breakup better than a good one?
00:02:16.680 I don't know.
00:02:17.520 Is it bad?
00:02:17.960 What do you mean it's a bad breakup?
00:02:19.280 If I was to break up with someone, there's either two ways I can break up.
00:02:23.080 One, we have the most craziest fight and I say, fuck you, and I leave.
00:02:27.540 Or it could be, right, we're going to sit down and talk.
00:02:29.740 We're going to figure this out, why it didn't work out.
00:02:31.580 By the end of the day, I just don't want to be with you.
00:02:33.440 And it's on both parties, it's the same.
00:02:35.600 What's going to help me?
00:02:36.820 In which circumstance am I going to be like, yeah, you know what?
00:02:39.340 If you moved on to another girl, I'll be like, yeah, good for you. 1.00
00:02:42.120 Do you get it?
00:02:42.760 Because either way, if we end up in a fight and you left, I'll be like, good for you.
00:02:47.540 So which would you prefer?
00:02:48.800 The bad breakup or the amicable one?
00:02:52.440 I think I prefer amicable.
00:02:53.880 Okay.
00:02:54.340 Sit down and talk.
00:02:56.580 That's what I'd prefer anyway.
00:02:58.680 Sometimes if it's a bad breakup, it's just like, it makes you get over it faster.
00:03:02.780 You think so?
00:03:03.480 That's why I'd prefer the bad ones because it's just like done and out of the way.
00:03:06.900 I mean, it's like, you don't because you don't want to deal with the drama of it.
00:03:10.460 But at the same time, then you're just over it.
00:03:13.460 You've got things to say.
00:03:14.880 I don't know what's a bad breakup.
00:03:16.400 What entails a bad breakup?
00:03:17.560 It sounds all crazy.
00:03:18.860 Can I hear what everybody's, what's your worst breakup ever been like?
00:03:22.980 Because it sounds like you started doing something.
00:03:25.560 It's crazy.
00:03:26.400 My ex broke into my flat after I ended it.
00:03:29.120 I think two months after I ended it, he broke into my flat and hid in my wardrobe.
00:03:33.060 Oh my God.
00:03:34.040 Wow.
00:03:34.680 Stop waiting.
00:03:35.700 Wow.
00:03:36.540 That is not my level.
00:03:37.880 All right.
00:03:38.340 So wait.
00:03:39.220 Okay.
00:03:39.660 Okay.
00:03:39.920 Is this the end?
00:03:40.800 She spoke.
00:03:41.840 Oh, she. 0.99
00:03:42.260 You're looking over there.
00:03:43.500 I'm watching you.
00:03:44.080 No, I'm watching you.
00:03:45.340 Yeah, I'm watching you.
00:03:46.220 Okay, wait.
00:03:46.700 So, so, okay.
00:03:48.540 What?
00:03:49.060 Who broke up with you?
00:03:50.300 I, so it was quite bad.
00:03:53.120 I ended it with him, but he had nowhere to go.
00:03:55.860 And I said, oh, I will support you.
00:03:57.520 So you lived to get, was he a bum? 1.00
00:03:59.680 Was he living with you?
00:04:00.740 Yeah, I was paying the rent.
00:04:02.960 Okay, okay.
00:04:03.760 So.
00:04:04.660 I should have just put clown on forehead. 0.99
00:04:06.280 Was he hot?
00:04:07.960 How tall was he?
00:04:09.440 A bit taller.
00:04:10.820 How tall?
00:04:11.640 Just a couple of inches.
00:04:12.160 You don't say that, Pearl.
00:04:13.380 You say, was he good in bed?
00:04:15.820 I was better in bed.
00:04:17.980 I was better in bed.
00:04:19.260 No wonder he broke in.
00:04:22.640 Okay, okay.
00:04:23.580 So you break up with him, then what happened?
00:04:25.380 Um, so I supported him through the breakup, obviously, so he could get his own place.
00:04:31.180 Because I knew if I kicked him out, he'd turn back up on my doorstep.
00:04:35.160 Don't want that.
00:04:36.060 So he moved out.
00:04:38.080 Everything was fine.
00:04:38.860 I was even praying to God, like, please just let this go nicely.
00:04:42.920 He left.
00:04:44.560 About two, a month later, I'm hearing my name outside my house.
00:04:47.780 I'm thinking, what the hell, calling my family?
00:04:50.780 Everyone's saying, are you sure you're not having a mental breakdown?
00:04:52.800 They actually believed I was losing my mind.
00:04:57.460 And then on my birthday, which was like a month after that, he'd broke into my house.
00:05:02.600 He was hiding in my wardrobe.
00:05:04.840 And, um, yeah, it just went, like, he didn't come out, but I could smell him in my house.
00:05:11.260 How long was he there before?
00:05:13.020 I don't know.
00:05:13.760 No, seriously, because he was outside.
00:05:15.980 And I run up the night.
00:05:16.980 I took my heels off and run up four flights of stairs.
00:05:19.200 And then I've gone in, shut the door behind me, and everyone's trying to get in.
00:05:23.640 And I was just like, when I find you, it's over.
00:05:27.920 I could just smell him in my flat, and I couldn't find him.
00:05:30.460 And then I left, and he broke out afterwards.
00:05:36.040 Oh, my gosh.
00:05:36.800 I've heard of a woman breaking into a man's house. 1.00
00:05:40.340 Where?
00:05:40.920 I've heard of a woman breaking into a man's, but it's the first time I've heard of a man 0.85
00:05:44.380 breaking into a woman.
00:05:44.920 Auntie, what are you doing if someone stands out of your house like that, and comes inside
00:05:48.060 into your wardrobe?
00:05:48.540 You're inside your mind.
00:05:52.960 That's the law.
00:05:54.160 That's the law, isn't it?
00:05:55.240 My property, you're inside.
00:05:56.960 I never invited you.
00:05:58.400 You know, I'm not leaving.
00:05:59.740 You have to get past me.
00:06:01.980 Are we fighting them?
00:06:03.560 I'm not fighting.
00:06:04.380 I'm defending myself, because I'm at the door.
00:06:06.140 There's a difference.
00:06:07.140 Okay.
00:06:07.940 Legally.
00:06:09.180 That's what I mean.
00:06:09.880 I know what I'm saying.
00:06:10.740 I know what I'm saying.
00:06:12.800 What else?
00:06:13.560 Who else?
00:06:14.240 Anyone?
00:06:14.720 Yeah, crazy.
00:06:15.700 Worst breakup.
00:06:16.720 Is it worst breakup, or is it worse the person, if the person is bad?
00:06:21.120 Yeah, the worst breakup I want to hear.
00:06:22.680 Yeah.
00:06:24.140 I want to hear that people's friends.
00:06:25.340 Are there nice breakups?
00:06:26.460 Are there ever nice breakups?
00:06:27.580 Has anyone had a nice breakup?
00:06:28.680 I've had a nice breakup.
00:06:29.860 Have you?
00:06:30.600 Yeah, most of them have been nice.
00:06:31.780 Yes, there is.
00:06:32.680 There is such a nice breakup, guys.
00:06:35.380 So tell me about the one that wasn't nice.
00:06:38.220 What happened?
00:06:40.600 Do I really want to go into that?
00:06:44.460 Just move over it.
00:06:45.920 Yeah, so way back in my past.
00:06:50.020 I'm not going to go to my recent.
00:06:51.860 Way back in my past, I had someone that was a bit obsessive, actually.
00:06:57.540 He left.
00:06:58.740 He finished the relationship.
00:06:59.920 And then he thought he could go away for the weekend, mess around a bit and come back.
00:07:06.840 And I'd had enough.
00:07:07.620 And I said, no.
00:07:09.060 And then he was finding me in the streets on his hands and knees, crying, begging.
00:07:16.440 You know, yeah, it's a bit messy.
00:07:18.960 And he would try and break in, but he didn't ever succeed.
00:07:21.620 Wait, he was trying to break in?
00:07:22.740 Yeah, he put a ladder up to the window and also there was a lot.
00:07:25.760 Is this a common thing?
00:07:26.820 There was a lot.
00:07:28.520 Yeah, he didn't get in, but it was weird.
00:07:32.720 No, no, no.
00:07:33.480 I'm not involved in this one.
00:07:35.260 Yeah.
00:07:35.580 So he put a ladder onto your door and tried to, or up to your window.
00:07:40.780 No, no, up to the second, yeah.
00:07:42.360 And then tried to get in.
00:07:44.380 Tried to get in, yeah.
00:07:45.440 Did you call the cops?
00:07:47.740 Did I call it?
00:07:48.380 Do you know it was a long time?
00:07:49.180 No, I don't think I did.
00:07:50.020 I think I just got out of the way of the window.
00:07:52.400 He couldn't get in.
00:07:53.180 So what was he going to do?
00:07:54.180 It was just stupid.
00:07:55.000 It was just such a stupid thing to do.
00:07:56.580 Okay, you go up a ladder.
00:07:57.600 Go back down again.
00:07:58.540 See ya.
00:07:59.000 Yeah.
00:07:59.420 All right.
00:08:00.600 Have fun.
00:08:00.980 Wow, I can't believe there's two people in here.
00:08:03.640 Yeah, he didn't succeed though, and he didn't hide in a wardrobe.
00:08:07.480 I mean, he did do some weird things over the years, but I'm not going to go into stuff.