JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


Modern Woman CAN'T SUBMIT to a Man


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In this episode, we talk about the dangers of waiting until marriage to have kids and how to choose a Christian husband. We also talk about what it means to be a Christian in the 21st century and why it s important to have a Christian partner.

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00:00:00.000 i'm just thinking you're 29 if you're in a relationship like do you want kids yes um do
00:00:07.720 you don't have any kids no so you know if you're single by 30 your chance of having a child drops
00:00:12.380 below 50 so you're actually more likely you to not have a kid than have one and by 34 your chance of
00:00:18.260 having like any kids at all like geriatric pregnancy working is like nothing it's like 0.53
00:00:23.660 wow yeah it's pretty scary so it's like i know the god i serve though i said i know the god i serve
00:00:30.300 i'm just thinking because i'm assuming you're picky right uh define like picky like i think i have my
00:00:39.500 standards i don't think i ask for anything too crazy i just want a guy that's like serious about
00:00:43.700 me has pure intentions for me and will be loyal well i'm just thinking because you've been dating
00:00:48.440 since what 18 yeah 20 yeah right 20 okay so like i'm just thinking of nine years if none of the
00:00:54.700 guys that approached you you like enough to marry like you're probably picky oh right
00:00:59.860 this is just me like usually that women that are single over the age of like 25 it's not an insult 1.00
00:01:06.840 you know no no no i think to be honest i'm a christian and i think that that makes things a
00:01:11.780 bit harder for me because there's certain things that i'm like that i want to do to please god
00:01:18.320 there's some some views that i have that are more like biblical than like the world and i think that
00:01:23.640 now i used to date guys that were non-christians but the things that i was passionate about the
00:01:27.720 values that i had they didn't share those same values and i want to be with someone that shares
00:01:31.920 those same values as me and has the same world view as me so now that's kind of narrowed the ball
00:01:36.340 is it just him being a christian no i mean he has to be a christian of course but there's just
00:01:40.980 certain things that like i've realized are my deal breakers like what are you one of the waiting
00:01:46.180 till marriage type i mean yeah i'm not i'm not perfect but that's definitely a desire it's a
00:01:51.720 desire to want to wait until marriage okay but you're i'm assuming 29 you're probably not a virgin
00:01:56.500 i'm not a virgin no one's waiting for i mean i mean yeah that's the type of world that we're living in
00:02:03.560 it's definitely a desire i'm not saying it won't happen but it's a desire and i would like to
00:02:07.820 stick to that because i guess in my head i'm like okay so if you're 29 you know that by now now you
00:02:13.280 know at least that if you're single by next year you're most likely not going to have a kid
00:02:16.860 and that by 34 your chance of having a kid is basically nothing like biologically so i'm just
00:02:23.520 thinking if you get into a relationship with a guy that you like which i'm assuming it's very hard
00:02:27.520 to find a guy that meets all your criteria because i mean me too it's not you're not not just you
00:02:32.500 because i'm thinking like if you get to that point it's kind of like your last chance in a way
00:02:38.580 and then you and then you leave it over what a message it's like i would think in the grand
00:02:43.320 scheme of things it would be more important to have a family to you especially you know they say
00:02:47.740 like be fruitful and multiply in the bible yeah but i think for me it's also very important to be in
00:02:53.040 a situation that is healthy and i would rather be single than be in a relationship where i'm not
00:02:57.860 valued or where i'm being disrespected or where the dude is emotionally or sexually cheating yeah
00:03:03.300 sometimes i just think the church like leaves women single and i think it's really sad because i think
00:03:07.880 sometimes they tell women like we have to have these crazy high standards yeah yeah i think that
00:03:12.440 the church needs to do a message you know that's not that crazy i think the church does need to do a
00:03:17.700 better job with teaching young christians like how to date like i go to an amazing church and it's
00:03:23.020 i'm learning now like through i go to the tab london and my pastor is is amazing and he just recently
00:03:29.940 done a sermon on dating and like how to date you know you know for marriage with the intention of
00:03:35.880 marriage and it was very healthy and very informative would would you submit to your
00:03:39.900 husband for everything
00:03:41.000 but the thing is like with me choosing a husband i'm going to choose somebody that i respect i'm going
00:03:50.680 to choose somebody that loves god and for me submission is about if he submitted submitting
00:03:56.100 to christ i'm low-key submitting to christ if i'm submitting to my husband so then why did you say no
00:04:01.320 but it's like to me submitting i think i need to learn about that more i'm definitely my own woman
00:04:07.480 but i think it depends in like in what degree like in what situation do you follow the bible
00:04:13.060 i try well no it just it confuses me when like don't they become one in the bible they say the
00:04:20.340 same you have to submit in the bible it's biblical so it confuses me it just confuses me like when you
00:04:26.900 say you want a christian man but you don't want to live in a christian way so like why would a man 0.97
00:04:31.300 that's super christian want to be with you if you don't want to live in a christian way which is
00:04:35.440 biblical but what do you mean by not living in a christian way so so in the bible says you have to
00:04:39.940 submit to your husband and when i asked you you said no yeah but then and but this is what i'm saying
00:04:44.180 i think in certain situations i think and how can i word this in certain situations of course
00:04:49.920 if the decision that my husband is making makes sense and that's fine yeah i don't really know
00:04:56.400 how to just to explain the thoughts that i'm having right now you want you want to submit when you feel
00:05:02.040 like it yes but then the bible also the thing is the bible does instruct women with like how to act
00:05:11.740 in marriage but then the bible also instructs men with how to treat their wives as well and so
00:05:16.760 like the bible says to women like respect your husbands and husbands love your wives 0.87
00:05:21.300 and so i feel like yeah but how are we supposed to get a christian guy if we can't start with what
00:05:26.080 we have to do yeah thanks you know like yeah i'm just i'm just you know because you want to start
00:05:31.980 a family that's what you said so i'm just wondering how this should work out go ahead is it an issue of
00:05:36.420 knowing so you said about the whole decision thing um which logically makes sense so like if he's saying
00:05:41.860 something and you don't i'm just guessing right if he says something and you don't know why is your
00:05:47.000 point you want to know why and if it makes sense to you then you agree and that's your version of
00:05:51.300 submitting yeah i think and that's the thing my thing is i think that a marriage there's going to be a
00:05:57.340 lot of like complexities and like a lot of different situations that we're going to face in marriage
00:06:01.260 it's going to be a learning curve it's going to be like a journey and i think that also with
00:06:07.080 whatever the bible does say the bible also teaches about like sanctification and about like a journey
00:06:13.440 of becoming more like christ so i'm not saying that i'm perfect but i'm saying hopefully me and
00:06:18.460 my husband will get to a point where you know we're on the same page and i think yeah you don't believe
00:06:24.640 like going with the flow no now no but don't say no because going with the flow could be the best
00:06:30.600 thing the reason why i say going with the flow you could be dating you could be on tinder whatever and
00:06:35.140 someone could say what are you looking for right and i could say for me as a 33 year old i want a
00:06:40.260 child i want a child but i don't have a if god blesses me with a child i get blessed with a child
00:06:45.000 i'm not religious in any way shape or form but i believe in in an almighty my thing right now when i
00:06:51.960 meet a girl or a guy and they say like what you're looking for i just say look like my portfolio would say
00:06:57.100 like i want kids soon blah blah blah but i'll just say look i'm just here going for the flow but i'm
00:07:01.720 looking for a a serious individual and i would elaborate on that situation but like when i say
00:07:08.360 i'm going with the flow doesn't mean i want to marry you or date you i just want to chill with you and
00:07:12.960 see where things go so there is no expectations on either side you know what i mean yeah it's just
00:07:18.080 about getting to know the person getting to know the person but i feel like if you're with the whole
00:07:21.480 christian thing um hats off to you um i feel like for guys it can be a bit intimidating and we don't
00:07:29.820 know where to start and we're like oh you know what i mean but if you feel like glenn others
00:07:34.640 just super chat says there's no exception to submission in the bible where it says to only
00:07:38.720 submit to your husband when you want to it says for everything because you gotta choose a man that
00:07:44.060 you trust to lead right and then you gotta listen to you gotta you gotta submit to it's as simple as
00:07:48.320 that i have sometimes you can ask like at the end of the day if you really are submitting to your
00:07:53.860 husband you're trusting that they know what they're doing they're handling things so any decision
00:07:58.180 they make you shouldn't even be questioning it anyway because you should trust them enough to
00:08:01.720 know that they've already thought that through so you don't have to so by asking questions you're
00:08:06.440 kind of creating problems for him for having to explain it all through to you and then also you're
00:08:10.540 potentially causing another problem by them putting up a barrier if you don't agree with something that
00:08:14.120 he's done like to me i would rather leave him with it he says we're doing something fine i trust him
00:08:19.300 enough that he knows what he's doing and he's doing that for our best interest look at team sports yeah
00:08:23.320 let's say imagine alex ferguson's your manager and then he's like cool this player's gonna
00:08:28.060 win us the champions league and we're like actually and you've got this one brother that's
00:08:31.720 always always like nah i'm the manager yeah i'm here to do a job trust i'm gonna lead and we'll go
00:08:37.660 if you find a man that keeps leading you into the into the darkness then that's not the man for you i
00:08:42.380 guess isn't it but you gotta you gotta be on that journey and actually accept that call i've chosen this
00:08:47.240 person i just thought of a question do you think it it is unbiblical if women don't have children 1.00
00:08:52.940 because the lord because the lord the god says to be fruitful and multiply right and right now women
00:09:00.520 are 100 in control of who's born so like sex and reproduction because we're the only ones that can 0.94
00:09:05.480 have a choice in abortion um and the the way the laws are set up like we're 100 in control so
00:09:11.420 is it unbiblical if women don't have kids a woman should be in full control it's her body and what she 1.00
00:09:18.780 wants to no i'm not i'm not asking i'm not asking like okay um i can gossip and i'm in full control
00:09:24.660 if i want to gossip or not but it's unbiblical of me to gossip i think anyways i think if a woman 1.00
00:09:29.640 i think if a woman can have kids she should have kids that's just my opinion yeah so i'm just yeah 0.99
00:09:35.660 it says to be fruit from multiplayer so yeah you're right and also for people who are believers
00:09:39.740 christians it is still their responsibility to go and preach the word and and do what you need to do
00:09:44.300 see this is this is where i come because i was gonna i was gonna come to your point of work because
00:09:47.440 i'm also a christian right so i i believe in a lot of the same passages i mean i don't think i don't
00:09:51.180 think unbiblical is a word i'm sorry guys i don't know i don't know it's fine it was a good word it 1.00
00:09:56.360 we're push word though like not so for the first because i have two things for the first thing was
00:10:02.180 to your point about submission now as a as a fellow christian when we say submit to god does that
00:10:08.100 mean like what does that mean because then we have to think about the words that we're using because
00:10:12.160 we use those words in christianity already right when we say we need to submit to jesus we submit
00:10:16.600 submit to god submit to the word of christ right that same submission and the understanding of what
00:10:22.340 it means to submit to christ in that same vein obviously it's not the same because the person
00:10:26.340 you're submitted to isn't jesus i'm not trying to equate them but it's this very similar vein of like
00:10:30.720 you wouldn't like like you like you said you wouldn't question what's coming next if you were
00:10:35.780 100 submissive now understanding who to be submissive to is very very difficult
00:10:41.920 because there are a lot of snakes in the grass there's a lot of people who show one thing show
00:10:45.380 one hand and actually are another like like we were saying before but the actual act of to say i
00:10:50.900 would only submit in a certain in a certain situation which is not what you said but it's
00:10:54.960 like what it sounds like i don't think it's that difficult to be honest what you mean like i don't
00:11:01.980 think it's like we kind of like as women like we act like there's so many men that are cheating
00:11:07.920 and doing all this stuff but most men can't do that yeah it's true like i think there's a lot
00:11:11.820 of average guys like as women we can date that wouldn't actually like i don't think it's that
00:11:17.040 crazy it's not but what i'm saying is in a sense of like i'm taking it back to the biblical sense of
00:11:24.760 submission and the submission that god has told us to do to his people and for for him and his son
00:11:31.580 jesus right so we understand as christians what submission is but when it comes to submission
00:11:38.360 using submission to man it becomes like different to jesus and i think it's just been a breakdown in
00:11:44.920 trust but yeah in the day in the day in the day right now that's what i'm saying yeah you know i
00:11:49.140 mean so like women don't really trust families you know glenn says no it's not unbiblical because
00:11:56.580 there are women who are born that don't have the ability to have kids okay um would you have an 1.00
00:12:02.880 issue submitting to your boss for you someone asked me um yes there has been times with past managers
00:12:13.600 where i think that they're not always making the right decision okay and so but i think that i do
00:12:20.360 believe in just creating that space that respectful safe environment where i can voice my opinions they
00:12:27.180 can voice theirs and then we can just have that conversation because i think that even if you're
00:12:31.160 my boss it doesn't mean that like you can't take on good advice or like do things in a different way
00:12:37.400 so i think i think i can submit but i believe in being vocal do you know how tiring that is as a
00:12:43.860 boss though oh my gosh if i told my editor edit the video this way and every single time i gave him
00:12:52.500 something he's telling me the way he wants to do it do you know how annoying that is no i mean it's
00:12:58.160 not it's not a case where you get nothing done it's not a case where every five seconds i've got a
00:13:03.900 problem but there's just been a couple of situations in the past i believe in being vocal
00:13:07.800 i believe in being vocal i believe in creating that safe space to have a conversation with the
00:13:12.380 person once they've got all of the information then they can make their decision um a way glenn says
00:13:19.040 a way to look at submission is like this i will always respect and submit to the president even if
00:13:23.300 i don't like him i am submitting to the position that he holds uh danny said this is for get pearl the
00:13:29.300 summer ac funds yo yeah we do need summer we need ac in here oh shit does that make sense to you 0.57
00:13:35.900 that what he said yeah that's very powerful yeah um no i i don't think you're like i think a lot of
00:13:41.480 times in the church they don't really talk about submission it's odd like not not in the true sense
00:13:46.100 they do in the sense of like submitting to a higher being and it's been to like the will of god and the
00:13:52.220 will of the bible itself but like interpersonal submission not too much they mention it it gets
00:13:58.720 mentioned but it doesn't get like delved into in like great detail outside of like god man submit
00:14:06.060 to him and that one gets fleshed out more than man to man if that makes sense i think i think there's
00:14:14.400 a lot of selective politicking with when it comes to religion so 100 and i think everyone's out here
00:14:20.440 they're they're beating they're enjoying life they're drinking they're doing the thing and then
00:14:25.300 it's traditional in a sense when you need to do this so listen amen i'll say when it suits you
00:14:30.000 when it suits you and all people that selected outreach wait wait what blessing no i'm just going
00:14:34.900 to add a point and say that they don't mention it because the majority of uh churchgoers are now women 0.60
00:14:39.620 and they're catering to women so if they're pre-submission you're not going to get much of an audience
00:14:45.120 it's really damn legal the church has been very feminized wow i mean why do you think they have
00:14:53.760 like gay flags in the church now no yeah that is correct but you know what i mean that's not biblical
00:15:00.780 i don't think and i don't think men are really pushing that that's what i mean no no no no no no
00:15:05.820 but is that to do with remember it's got to do with fitting in like the whole lgbtq plus i can't remember the
00:15:13.240 whole name um it's like a it's like a common thing now it's like it's a big thing now so it's
00:15:18.780 like it would like businesses will now push it and say we support this because it brings like
00:15:24.540 publicity and sales or whatever whether you do or whatever i know me and i know many people that
00:15:30.240 are gay or whatever many of us don't give a damn i didn't even know we had flags in the church you know
00:15:37.480 what pride two of my man them friends said are and they asked me my opinion on something i said
00:15:41.560 bro i didn't even you lot are telling me more about the community than me i said i didn't even
00:15:45.220 know i said okay big up lgbtq plus plus
00:15:49.100 blessing can you play one of the videos i was gonna get the reaction as many of you know i was just
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