JustPearlyThings - Modern Woman Claimed to be Ambitious

00:00:00.000 coming up next she's an eight but she's slept

00:00:04.640 what number do i want to do today she's slept with 15 guys what is she now 1.00

00:00:12.880 she's not an option got donezo donezo

00:00:23.440 zero zero zero zero he's an eight but he doesn't have a job

00:00:32.640 you're in the bin mate what you're in the bin oh gone

00:00:36.240 donezo what about what if they have ambition or goal he's applying for jobs

00:00:41.520 he just doesn't have one has he it depends on what is earth

00:00:45.120 what earth weapon he i mean he applied at mcdonald's you know what i mean

00:00:49.680 um yeah no i i feel like me as an individual i'm quite highly ambitious

00:00:57.040 and i just don't find it attractive in a gentleman

00:01:01.760 that if they don't if they just if they haven't got that sort of ambition and

00:01:05.120 that drive to get up and actually want to go and do and

00:01:08.640 yeah you're in the bin what's a bigger red flag if she doesn't get along with her 1.00

00:01:13.200 mom or her dad father for sure miss out one of the best 0.80

00:01:18.720 pieces of advice i ever received when i was about 22 from mentors he said

00:01:23.440 look at that woman's relationship with her father and it'll tell you how she 0.99

00:01:26.800 treats you we are going to be talking about

00:01:30.640 this week there was a tweet that erupted twitter

00:01:34.560 all right this tweet had all the women mad on the right 1.00

00:01:38.400 and the left it had the men mad and the tweet was um can you pull up the one

00:01:45.280 the original one i sent you the the mar the brad pratt

00:01:52.400 one so it had do you guys know who margot robbie is

00:01:56.400 yes okay so there was a tweet that said despite

00:02:00.240 years of complaining about unrealistic beauty standards the most talked about

00:02:04.800 movie of the year is of two insanely hot people

00:02:08.880 and it had a picture of barbie okay and margot robbie's the star and in

00:02:14.160 barbie so but someone quote tweeted that and said margot robbie

00:02:18.640 was cast in barbie explicitly because she wasn't pretty enough

00:02:23.840 to alienate a female audience and this erupted twitter 1.00

00:02:31.040 because they felt like they were just dogging on her looks

00:02:34.640 they felt like um and then there was a a bunch of people who basically were

00:02:40.400 calling margot robbie mid so my question to you is what would you

00:02:45.120 rate margot robbie one to ten we're going to show her picture in a second 1.00

00:02:49.680 can you pull it up king

00:02:57.120 margot robbie one to ten in this photo or just in general in general in general i'd give

00:03:04.000 her a 10 but probably in this photo god you can tell there's just like so

00:03:08.880 much post-production on it she doesn't actually look real but then

00:03:11.600 she's not trying to just can you can you just google her too and we

00:03:14.880 can just show some other pictures but like day to day i would say yeah

00:03:19.760 she's a good solid nine nine nine ten nine ten yeah i haven't seen her

00:03:24.160 before but from what i'm looking at she looks

00:03:28.240 okay um she's definitely someone the industry uses as like a beauty standard 1.00

00:03:33.040 yeah

00:03:39.920 i would say seven seven i'll give her like a 1.00

00:03:45.760 eight point two five eight point two what do you think yeah she's a ten ten eight 1.00

00:03:51.280 eight she's a strong nine nine yeah okay but my question is this why can men

00:03:58.080 not criticize a woman's looks without erupting the internet

00:04:02.960 we're going in order yeah anyone can just i would say because

00:04:13.120 women's looks are known to be a important factor and something that they can often be sensitive about 1.00

00:04:19.280 i think societally it's a little bit taboo to speak about and can come across offensive and you know as they say

00:04:27.680 misogynistic so but if we but if we like criticize a guy's looks nobody cares

00:04:32.720 like if i called leonardo dicaprio mid no one would care

00:04:36.560 that's true you know what i mean but he's the one dating all the models but nobody would care

00:04:40.640 yeah yeah yeah i think it's because men uh society knows men personally don't put as

00:04:46.080 much of as an emphasis on their own looks it's not as much of a factor um maybe in their confidence

00:04:51.520 you could say that it's a little bit easier to to make fun of them versus women it's like 1.00

00:04:59.520 be careful you don't want to hurt her feelings what do you guys think um me personally i feel like yeah

00:05:10.000 females females in general are emotional beings i think that's fair to say and i don't feel like 1.00

00:05:17.120 it's a man's place to even speak on um the looks or if they feel like a woman's like overly attractive 1.00

00:05:23.760 especially on social media i think that's it's a bit of a low blow um so yeah do women speak on if 1.00

00:05:31.760 men are attractive on social media absolutely so why does one gender get to do it and not the other 1.00

00:05:38.480 privilege yeah privilege definitely women privilege no but you're saying you but i'm asking you because 1.00

00:05:43.360 you said you don't think men should comment on women's looks but i'm saying if the women are doing it 0.99

00:05:48.160 why can't the men it's just it's taboo isn't it yeah yeah it's just like one of the it's like an

00:05:55.120 unspoken rule but it shouldn't be what's what one rule for one and another rule for another it

00:06:03.920 shouldn't be that way too like imagine have you ever heard like um short man syndrome yeah like

00:06:10.160 what if what if they had small tits syndrome we can't do that you know 0.69

00:06:15.040 what do you what do you think dimitri there's so much to unpack here i mean how how deep do we 0.95

00:06:20.720 want to dwell into this go go go deep oh man okay so this this is actually there's quite a lot of

00:06:25.840 interesting stuff here so um i was reading some studies i'm doing a book called the book of shame

00:06:29.360 where i'm literally putting together um 300 and sorry 403 no 304 304 um putting together 304 studies

00:06:38.800 that sort of outline the difference between virtue signaling and actual outcomes in society and one

00:06:43.760 thing of course we all already know is that what we say and what we think are not the same thing

00:06:48.400 one very basic example of that like i did a clip where it's like the most discriminated group when

00:06:52.880 you look at across any group for like controlled for race and looks and age and everything the most

00:06:57.360 discriminated group by far are short men and it's not close like short men have the highest suicide

00:07:02.160 rates short rate men have the highest um rates of of of drinking and binge drinking highest depression

00:07:08.000 uh lowest income etc etc etc and i'm not saying that like short man can't be successful i think

00:07:12.880 they can and should be it's more so that we just know the outcomes for short men are terrible short

00:07:17.200 men also are vastly underrepresented in the sexual marketplace like women are just not picking them 0.86

00:07:21.360 in fact when you look at like the searches right this is just numbers like you're looking on search

00:07:24.880 on um what is it the dating app everybody's using nowadays bumble whatever uh oh women filter out 1.00

00:07:32.320 yeah six under six foot tall to show up in less than 15 of searches so they don't even get they

00:07:36.480 don't even get looked at i was thinking about that i'm like i if i was a short guy i would just lie on

00:07:41.680 the dating apps i understand why they do it because i'm like women lie with the filters right 1.00

00:07:45.840 lie with the makeup so i'm like if i was a guy i would lie out make it even do it too right well

00:07:51.920 and so so the question is like okay so then why do we make it taboo so there's there's a few steps here

00:07:56.640 why it is so so um virtue signaling is actually like a very well-known mating tactic uh applied by

00:08:02.400 both men and women the way that men virtue signal is they become more altruistic around women they

00:08:06.400 perceive to be beautiful so when you have like a charity event men will give more money when a beautiful

00:08:10.160 woman's in the room it's been tested it's been shown many many times over women virtue signal 0.91

00:08:14.720 purity so women will drop hints that they're sexually pure despite the fact that they might 1.00

00:08:18.640 tell you on this podcast like oh it doesn't matter how many guys you sleep with but but when you

00:08:23.760 actually look at women's behavior and women's and and how they they express their behavior they always 0.97

00:08:27.840 express their behavior as being sexually cleaner than their actual behavior this is not conjecture

00:08:32.080 this is studied and this is true right so why not why not say about a woman blah blah blah well very

00:08:37.840 simply uh because a woman's value is implicitly determined by how attractive she is to potential

00:08:43.520 mates and the way that we know this there's a really cool study about this is they did a study

00:08:47.520 on how good are women and men at perceiving the beauty of other women so they gave really yes and

00:08:53.600 so and so what they found is men consistently pick the same women as being beautiful women are highly

00:08:58.560 cognizant and extremely good at identifying which women are beautiful to other men and the women that are

00:09:03.600 most beautiful to other men when they are in the room women become derogatory towards the most 1.00

00:09:08.400 beautiful women wow yes because they want to undermine and what they do is they undermine her 1.00

00:09:12.800 chastity and her purity she's like oh she's a slut she's this and that and the reason they're saying 1.00

00:09:16.800 it is because they want to relative so women compete relatively with each other as well and so they 1.00

00:09:20.960 undermine the sexual market value of other women in the room in order to elevate themselves she's hot 1.00

00:09:25.520 she must be a whore right exactly so that's what we'll do right and by the way you never see guys do this 1.00

00:09:29.840 right it's like oh that guy's a piece of crap like guys don't do that because it comes off as 0.99

00:09:32.880 inherently feminine so guys don't compete like that we compete physically much more direct now 0.99

00:09:36.720 here's what's interesting when men were asked to raid the attractiveness of other men men are

00:09:41.280 notoriously bad at at actualizing like which other men are attractive to women and it's very easy to

00:09:47.360 prove because like i can talk to anush or any of the guys here i can say look guys have you ever seen

00:09:51.200 a guy that consistently gets beautiful women and you're like how does he do that pete davidson right yeah 1.00

00:09:57.200 so we like what the hell so men are actually very bad at perceiving the attractiveness of other men to women 0.87

00:10:02.080 so we might we might think that guy's a loser but he's getting all the chicks like what's going on 0.97

00:10:05.680 right well because is it because men are more logical no so like but like women we pick based 0.93

00:10:11.280 off of emotions a lot of the time no it's no it's because well obviously that's true but also but but

00:10:16.400 it's more so to do the fact that men compete on status so it's like so but the question is like so

00:10:20.400 why can't we uh objectively say something about a woman and the answer is very clear and here it is

00:10:25.360 it's because we all know like we look at margot robbie we can play the game like and she's a 7.8 it's like dude

00:10:30.880 she's literally she played sharon tayden once upon a time in hollywood who was the standard of

00:10:34.560 beauty for like two generations she's literally like you might say she's not your type whatever 1.00

00:10:39.120 but objectively find a woman that's objectively more beautiful good luck you know you know what's

00:10:43.600 interesting though i've found on this show that when i ask men versus women women will rate her higher

00:10:49.520 than men do like i don't know why because i always thought she was like the epitome of beauty right but 0.99

00:10:54.720 every time i've like brought her up as like the number one like beauty status yeah do you have other do

00:10:58.720 you have other women on the couch women um when men say that are there women around them yeah the 1.00

00:11:03.520 men are virtually signaling no no but what they'll usually do is they'll bring up like the the most 0.81

00:11:07.600 common one i got is the what is that preacher's wife i think she just divorced him um i cannot remember

00:11:14.640 her name good yeah i get megan good a lot and i get um uh the russell wilson's wife now i get her a lot

00:11:24.400 i like yeah yeah i get those two more than margot robbie weirdly enough well look she might she 1.00

00:11:29.680 there's different levels whatever but like objectively speaking oh yeah yeah like like she's she's like

00:11:34.160 like you're not gonna oh i want better it's like okay so i wanted i wanted to read you some of the

00:11:39.840 responses um towards towards them because i just i wasn't even interested like obviously she's hot right 0.99

00:11:47.440 but i was more interested in how like viscerally everybody reacted because i was like if i said i don't

00:11:53.280 think leonardo dicaprio's that hot i don't think michael b jordan's that hot like whatever like sex

00:11:58.560 status of like the guy equivalent no one would really care but so i was thinking like i think

00:12:03.840 women reacted so viscerally to this because if men don't perceive her as attractive like what does 1.00

00:12:08.480 that make us that like the average chick you know what i mean so um there was like the guys would

00:12:16.560 come in and said i want everybody who says margot robbie isn't attractive enough to play barbie 0.88

00:12:21.360 to post photos of your wives and girlfriends i'm trying to see something exactly but but the thing

00:12:26.720 is like i i think the question more is like because people will attack the people instead of the

00:12:31.280 argument like is she mid or is she not mid and you could say objectively she's not but like what does

00:12:35.760 a person's like girlfriend have to do with it listen i'm sorry for taking up some space here but

00:12:40.400 let's get serious like if somebody approached me in front of my wife and said how hot is margot robbie i

00:12:44.800 would be incentivized to virtue signal big well you know there's a lot of dudes out there that can't pick

00:12:49.120 up an eight or nine which is just how it is and it's fine it's okay like we're working on ourselves

00:12:52.960 as men right and they virtue signal to say like well she's not even that hot it's like dude she's not

00:12:57.200 picking you like show show some damn respect and just like live up to where you are and and and just

00:13:02.960 say the truth you know unhinged take if you ever get it in your head that margot robbie isn't in the top 0.97

00:13:08.480 five percent of conventionally attractive women log off go for a walk outside so say hello to a normal 1.00

00:13:14.960 looking female return and correct yourself um and it was interesting i put i just i've been doing this

00:13:22.400 before the show i put it in um google just the picture of her now i wish i did one without makeup

00:13:30.400 but guess guess what her rating was can you guys see it don't look she can see it

00:13:35.520 um but one to ten what do you think because they had like you basically basically put the picture in

00:13:40.240 and then men rate her one to ten guess what i was like is she mid let's look guess guess what percent 1.00

00:13:47.520 attractiveness she's in the sin yeah like top ten top 20. yeah top ten i would say yeah top ten 1.00

00:13:56.800 percent so they are chatting but but i was more curious about the reaction so this led me today was

00:14:04.960 i was hoping as a class as a group we can find celebrities and examples

00:14:12.560 that we can rate people one to ten it should be interesting yeah so i i was thinking it'd be

00:14:18.160 interesting to see like what the men pick and what the women pick as like a 10 and each rating okay so

00:14:25.200 all right what's an example first thing that comes into your head head don't say margot robbie of a 10.

00:14:48.480 you're asking a lot everybody everybody okay

00:14:57.920 male or female female we'll do male next we'll do male next 0.99

00:15:04.560 jessica alba tens don't exist

00:15:09.440 jessica alba is it adriana lima lena the victoria's the victoria's secret model what's her name

00:15:15.600 adriana lima lena i'm not sure i think oh she's beautiful which one is um she's been she's been

00:15:24.240 uh yeah yeah she's been a victoria's secret model for years i'm not sure i think victoria

00:15:28.640 but i'm sure i'd say that that's certainly yeah yeah yeah i'll say lori harvey oh that's a good one

00:15:36.080 she's beautiful lori harvey

00:15:40.640 and king if you can during some of these can you pull up pictures of them on the screen

00:15:48.720 um who else are we speaking like purely aesthetic yeah just looks okay um

00:15:58.880 i can't even think no i feel like i've been putting the pressure

00:16:02.720 i'd have to agree with dimitri jessica alba is a good example jessica alba okay what about a five

00:16:10.640 oh

00:16:15.040 it'd be good if we could see some examples

00:16:18.800 um sarah jessica parker maybe oh that's a good one sarah

00:16:26.960 put sarah jessica parker on the screen and see if they think she's a a five 0.90

00:16:32.560 go go a few years back what would you what would you rate her one to ten

00:16:43.360 i've been listening or any justice

00:16:44.720 oh i hope she doesn't see this go back go back like 15 years go on

00:16:58.720 i remember i feel like in her heyday she was definitely she was on a five 0.96

00:17:11.760 no she was she was well above a five yeah yeah yeah 0.98

00:17:15.120 brah 0.98

00:17:15.440 she's a six at best i mean look this is relative right like you could say she's a sucks but like 1.00

00:17:23.840 you go on the street i've been i've been in london for two days right she would literally be the most 0.88

00:17:27.120 beautiful woman in london like today she'd be in the top two percent of the city like like it's just 0.98

00:17:31.600 what it is right all right we're gonna do all right raise your hand if you think she's a four

00:17:37.040 oh no no no no raise your hand if you think she's a five five five i would say five sorry what what 1.00

00:17:46.960 age are we ranking her at let's do put her put her at like i don't know 35. you don't want to put 1.00

00:17:52.960 her in her prime and see what i mean we could do prime i don't know here just pick a picture king 1.00

00:18:07.040 what would you put her at in the middle 0.98

00:18:21.440 seven six seven yeah okay so we'll do we'll do the middle pictures six six okay

00:18:37.040 what is she oh you want me to say yeah what do you rate her one can we pull up a picture of her 0.60

00:18:51.680 i gotta refresh

00:19:08.960 giving her a i feel like she's a solid eight i was gonna say seven and a half yeah 0.62

00:19:14.800 all right who thinks she's a seven raise your hand who thinks she's an eight eight okay let's go

00:19:23.680 ahead and throw megan fox there's a ton i was just thinking her yeah yeah

00:19:29.440 marco

00:19:37.680 demitri has all the references from 10 years ago

00:19:41.840 um okay okay lizzo

00:19:49.120 10. sorry on which scale lizzo lizzo's got to be on this half i think about 320 if last time i checked

00:19:58.720 lizzo one to ten zero zero three three all right who thinks who thinks she's a one lizzo

00:20:08.240 is that the lowest yeah one who thinks she's i'm gonna be respectful and give her like a solid two 1.00

00:20:16.720 all right who thinks she's a two or three at the least two or three three who thinks she's a three 1.00

00:20:23.520 maybe i'm not being too generous too generous that's a three then what's a one

00:20:27.680 one but again but again it but again it's preference it's preference it's not you know

00:20:32.480 what i'm more judge of personality yeah exactly what there was none of this when we were doing the hot

00:20:40.160 why does this switch when they're not hot no i i personally believe it's not the preference because

00:20:46.240 she's a fluffy female and i do believe that she's still beautiful but she's not my personal preference

00:20:51.760 yeah so i'm asking you what you would rate her i'm not asking the world yeah me personally i would

00:20:56.480 put it down as like a two three all right three all right all right who says two who says three

00:21:04.160 who says one all right okay i guess one i think it's the most i think the word the word you're

00:21:12.320 looking for is the word you're looking for is planet all right lizzo's one all right um what what would

00:21:24.240 rosie o'donald be similar to a one yeah rosie who's rosie o'donald yeah you want to show a picture

00:21:30.720 you don't want to go there oh yeah i remember julia i love it julia robert okay yeah

00:21:44.480 let's see if they gave me anyone in the chat sometimes they'll do that

00:21:50.400 all right guys if you have any girls in the chat you want everybody to rate um

00:21:55.280 someone put jody comer does anyone know who that is no they're just trolling their friend's mom

00:22:02.880 rosie o'donald one one is lizzo hotter than rosie i mean she's probably hotter like physically in terms 1.00

00:22:11.920 of like she just needs a lot of air conditioning in the room but all right rosie o'donnell oh what 1.00

00:22:17.440 about jenna collins oh that's a good one i've put up jenna collins

00:22:24.400 what would she be 0.96

00:22:40.560 what would she be 0.96

00:22:45.360 all right who thinks who thinks of four

00:22:47.760 the three yeah not knowing her a three a three see i would say lizzo ranked higher than her yeah

00:22:58.000 i love jemma i love i think she's brilliant but yeah i think it largely depends on how how much are

00:23:06.160 you weighing the the fat factor because if you're purely like it's how do scientific you want to get

00:23:12.000 well look at i'm asking i'm asking you it's not the what everyone else thinks it's what you think

00:23:18.000 like you would rate her one to ten i'd give her a three i'd give her a three 1.00

00:23:23.200 but i i personally if we're gonna give her a three i'm saying lizzo has to get a four

00:23:28.480 you think lizzo's more attractive yeah oh actually without the makeup oh wow she looks different

00:23:34.160 you see the black top

00:23:37.600 um okay i would say three for this chick i would have gave lizzo like a two um what do you think one 1.00

00:23:44.480 one to five this one yeah this i mean like she's a one but she kind of has that american pie milf 1.00

00:23:49.440 points so i'd give her two two all right what do you say one one yes it has to be a two two what do you

00:23:58.000 say probably one one one one what about what about you two two one all right what was her name again

00:24:09.440 gemma collins i just want to thank you pearl you know spending a lot of time around corporate we just

00:24:18.080 never get to do this at work look at it what about rihanna oh mine damn nine she i think she's like 1.00

00:24:32.960 eight to go to this is this is she we were in my oh okay we'll do we'll do maya first just because

00:24:42.640 she's on the screen okay um i give her a eight again i feel like she's a solid nine yeah i'd say

00:25:00.320 beyonce ten ten ten what are you kidding me see this one now is a bit again taboo i think i think

00:25:10.000 beyonce is an eight go go to like go to like go to like her and like austin powers three age like 0.94

00:25:16.080 when she's like prime beyonce has always been beautiful let's keep it real but i don't know if

00:25:24.000 she's a she's a ten i feel like she's what about dodgy cat wait we'll do her next but we'll do be okay

00:25:32.000 beyonce raise your hand if you think she's an eight we're going with current yeah current yeah eight eight 0.99

00:25:38.720 eight nine i'm like eight and a half yeah nine ten okay i think the average would be nine so

00:25:51.680 it's a nine doja cat

00:25:57.760 it's getting tricky

00:25:58.640 again it's an acquired taste i'm asking you what your taste is it's not other people she has too

00:26:10.880 many different faces to be honest with you i don't even know what onto even rate her on like she she's 0.66

00:26:15.760 she's a great creative but i i don't i don't even know okay yeah like there's not one face there that

00:26:23.440 i could say it's the same person like it's mad what do you guys think six to seven yep seven seven

00:26:31.120 which is dope yeah seven

00:26:36.560 we need a five what about scissor is that how you pronounce the name scissor yeah

00:26:42.240 yeah s said a what the real one or the plastic one she's in the five range i mean this is the real one

00:27:05.360 yeah let's see the plastic one the plastic one what about chloe kardashian 1.00

00:27:16.560 we'll do her next but this one this girl first scissor scissor the new scissor i would rate her 1.00

00:27:23.920 a nine hold on so she's done work yeah so that was her before with the curly hair 1.00

00:27:30.720 where the crest is on let's see her currently now

00:27:42.080 man why she go and do it it looks good okay this picture one to ten

00:27:49.280 i give her like i give her like a six i'm i'm at a seven seven yeah seven seven i'm a five five

00:28:00.960 what is seven seven this picture yeah seven seven probably like that five like she looks like 1.00

00:28:08.400 it's like i've seen a bit of a bad dream oh that sounds really horrible but uh yeah it's quite evil

00:28:14.800 i want to do a six it's like an average um okay chloe kardashian now or before

00:28:25.040 now now chloe kardashian now we have to bring our picture of her i'd say probably like seven seven seven

00:28:33.680 so we're gonna go six oh i don't know about that first one i don't know oh he's up he's oh yeah

00:28:45.120 are all of them her yeah what

00:28:47.440 i think she actually looks good now but i i can't get with the work man 0.99

00:29:06.000 i do six what would you guys do yeah we cannot find a five i'll give her a five what about dale

00:29:12.880 oh that's a good one adele adele with like her weight loss chloe kashian 1.00

00:29:25.840 adele

00:29:31.280 before or after after i'd say probably a good solid yeah she looks good oh what was give me the before 0.96

00:29:37.680 and the after what would you guys rate her rate her before she lost weight and after 0.97

00:29:41.520 um that's a good one three and eight three and eight three and eight

00:29:49.360 adele

00:29:52.480 i'll say five and eight five and eight but don't this picture yeah i'm saying i'm saying four and

00:29:59.600 eight four and eight yeah what would you say i'm saying three and eight i think i got

00:30:08.400 we're really we're really taking a dump on the body positivity movement here hey it's like we're

00:30:12.560 like well and it's actually this is very interesting because um we know inherently that like being

00:30:17.680 fit is more attractive period end of sentence right um i want to share a cool little stat that i i looked

00:30:23.680 up recently i thought it was pretty funny um do you guys think that being attractive helps you like

00:30:28.080 let's say you're at work right do you guys think being attractive helps you like earn more money

00:30:31.040 over your life over your lifetime absolutely yes then the numbers are staggering so uh more

00:30:36.560 attractive people earn on average it's uh about five thousand dollars a year than less attractive 0.76

00:30:42.400 people which is like 230 000 over the course of a career but if you were to take that money and

00:30:47.920 split them to like monthly payments whatever is like 411 a month something like that if you invest

00:30:52.720 that if you take the added income that people that are more attractive earn over less attractive

00:30:57.360 people if you just invest that in the stock market over the course of your career it works

00:31:00.640 out to 3.8 million dollars that attractive people make over unattractive people but that's not the

00:31:06.240 crazy stat here's pearl the crazy stat you might enjoy this because when i was reading those statistics

00:31:10.640 i was like oh women really get punished at work for not being like more attractive but actually 1.00

00:31:15.840 men get punished disproportionately men get punished way more for being unattractive

00:31:21.120 well women also have higher men have higher beauty standards than women do like this whole 1.00

00:31:26.080 like women have the highest beauty standards that we can't live up to men find like half of us 0.99

00:31:30.240 attractive it's like it's like stupid like i couldn't believe like the guy the girls like guys will 0.99

00:31:37.040 say they would like sleep down so much you know what i mean like it's crazy when you go down to like 0.98

00:31:41.600 how low they'll go but women it's like we only find like five to fifteen percent of men attractive 1.00

00:31:47.600 twenty percent on the correlation of 0.6 which is like unheard of in sociology but 0.6 correlation to a man's

00:31:53.520 status so for a man to be more attractive to women like so again when women rate men they don't agree

00:31:58.240 on who's more attractive without any context but once you put clothing on that man like you got a

00:32:02.400 guy in a suit you got a guy in a t-shirt they consistently go for the status right so women have 1.00

00:32:06.480 a very very strong correlation to being attractive to status so i'm curious from the guys if a girl is 0.84

00:32:14.400 an eight but she's got a kid what is she what is a kid minus how much invincible 0.98

00:32:26.640 she's an eight but she's got a kid what is she i literally had this dinner conversation with

00:32:30.960 one of my colleagues like just now he's like knowing what you know about your wife like everything

00:32:35.840 she's the same person looks the same acts the same exact person but you meet her when she has a kid

00:32:39.680 i'm like yeah i would not even know her name what about you guys she has a kid she's an eight with

00:32:45.600 a kid what is she i mean purely aesthetically i don't think it would take anything off no i'm saying

00:32:51.360 like in terms of like dating it's okay we don't gotta be pc you know harsh knock for sure maybe brother

00:33:00.720 you're 22 if you say anything but a zero we're gonna have a talk after the show i'm gonna i'm gonna

00:33:04.800 give you some old man wisdom i'll say uh four or five okay so minus four a kid all right we're

00:33:12.400 gonna have a talk if you were my kid i'd be like sun sit down what do you guys say minus what she's

00:33:18.400 got a kid for me it doesn't really make a difference minus zero yeah all right we'll average you're

00:33:24.640 minus minus everything zero points don't care zero points sorry we're gonna do you wanna okay do you

00:33:30.640 want to again i don't want i don't want to stack myself on here but like dude like so did you know

00:33:35.920 did you know that once a woman has a kid she carries that kid's dna forever and it doesn't just go into 0.88

00:33:40.480 the womb it goes straight to her heart there's actual science to show that that kid's dna which 0.76

00:33:44.480 means another man's dna is living inside that woman and now you're producing kids with a woman who's like 1.00

00:33:49.920 dna is like mixed with another dude that's is that even uh nah but it's life it's laughter yeah but you

00:33:57.520 can make choices yeah okay look we're older no no no no no no no no it's life you can get pregnant 0.99

00:34:05.280 like three days a month i am so tired of like oh it just happened it's just no no no no in as much as

00:34:12.720 i'm talking about like the choices of being with somebody that's got a child or not like i think it's

00:34:18.000 just not the preference at the end of the day um i'm an older man so i don't see so kid no kid they're

00:34:23.600 exactly the same to you yeah like if you're beautiful and like my intention with yourself

00:34:28.400 is the same we've got pure intentions and it is what it is no but i'm saying like you have two

00:34:32.160 girls they're exactly the same both equally hot one has a kid one doesn't you're picking which one 1.00

00:34:38.000 if if there's a choice between two then it should be the one without the child okay so it does subtract

00:34:43.200 something if it's a choice between two people yeah but that's what i'm saying like like you're saying

00:34:48.240 it wouldn't make a difference but it would you because you just admitted it would oh okay you know

00:34:55.360 okay don't lie no no no no i'm saying be honest come on like you know it makes a difference like i

00:35:02.560 said for myself it hasn't made too much of a difference like in in my past relationships but

00:35:08.000 maybe maybe maybe maybe moving forward if i had two females that i deemed to be eight one had a child 1.00

00:35:16.240 and one didn't i would go for the one that didn't have a child okay so minus one maybe maybe minus

00:35:22.000 one thank you honestly what about you two girls exactly the same one has a kid one doesn't 1.00

00:35:29.920 depends depends the person that treats you right and they know they treat you the same just one has

00:35:34.080 a kid one doesn't i'll go for another kid okay so so minus one minus one thank you thank you

00:35:41.120 i'm gonna do an average of three because you said infinity what's what like what's the intent

00:35:47.920 right like for example if you're a single guy and you're just hooking up whatever you might not

00:35:51.040 consider it right but like at some age you become a more serious man and you want to you know you

00:35:54.960 want to take the danger that you've built on yourself and turn it into like a sagacious commitment

00:35:59.440 and become a more virtuous man like there is age appropriate problems you have to solve right

00:36:03.600 and it's like you work really hard gents you know and and this guy here told me he's an entrepreneur

00:36:08.240 before it's like yeah you're gonna risk 50 of everything you've ever earned before and after

00:36:13.680 you're you're through with that relationship you're gonna risk it on somebody that gave her

00:36:17.440 genetics to somebody else at the beginning like that's a dangerous i didn't say i would risk it

00:36:21.040 ah well you didn't say you would marry her maybe right yeah so what at 22 maybe it doesn't make a

00:36:25.040 difference but as you get older and you start solving older men problems you look for a long-term

00:36:28.720 relationship somebody to raise your children yeah that's a that's a more difficult choice no it

00:36:33.120 definitely be a harsh knock for sure but i was speaking purely aesthetically yeah and your

00:36:38.640 perception of that okay okay high bot oh and only fans is minus what so what was that a girl she's an

00:36:47.360 eight but she's got an only fans what is she now oh wow for me it's not really a conversation

00:36:56.880 she's done yeah donzo donzo okay so negative ten yeah okay what about you negative ten as well

00:37:05.280 negative ten minus ten thousand dollars a month you're paying my lifestyle sugar mama all right 1.00

00:37:10.880 what about you say four minus all right so we'll do minus eight for only fans

00:37:17.520 all right she's an eight but she slept with two of your friends oh what is she you're coming with him now 1.00

00:37:38.480 as far as the rankings negative 100 they're putting in the chat yeah it's peak now oh it's donzo

00:37:44.800 i wouldn't say it's donzo because yeah sometimes it's good for the gangists 1.00

00:37:52.080 so she might be now like a five baby all right so minus three for two of your friends what about

00:37:57.520 you one minus one zero go away no chance no chance zero are you dude i'm not that's like that's mean to

00:38:05.040 my friends oh okay like that's like come on like like that's so scarce to think that a dude would pick

00:38:09.600 up like no all right so we got negative ten negative one i think you guys have a

00:38:14.720 very wide range here let me see we're gonna do negative oh what about you yeah mine's mine's zero

00:38:21.360 as well we're gonna do negative five for two friends

00:38:27.120 okay

00:38:31.120 she's an eight but she slept 0.99

00:38:37.200 what number do i want to do today she slept with 15 guys what is she now 1.00

00:38:43.040 oh wow she's not an option donzo donzo zero zero zero zero zero say

00:39:00.240 four or five purely aesthetically all right we're gonna do negative eight for 10 bodies or 15 bodies

00:39:13.040 are you noticing the trend are you noticing the trend what are you noticing the trend man just wants

00:39:20.640 to bust nuts he's 20 he's 22. being being generous perception wise yeah but he's 22 we can like we've

00:39:29.520 all been 22. yeah we've dipped in the pool you know we've scraped the bottom some barrels

00:39:33.920 all right let's ask the ladies all right he's an eight but he doesn't have a job 0.52

00:39:44.400 you're in the bin mate what you're in the bin oh gone gone donezo what about what if they have ambition

00:39:50.720 or goal he he's applying for jobs he just doesn't have one that has he it depends on what is earth

00:39:56.560 what earth weffy he i mean he applied at mcdonald's you know what i mean um yeah no i i feel like

00:40:05.920 me as an individual i'm quite highly ambitious and i just don't find it attractive in a gentleman

00:40:13.440 that if they don't if they just if they haven't got that sort of ambition and that drive to get up and

00:40:17.760 actually want to go and do and yeah you're in the bin okay negative 10 what about you if they have the

00:40:25.280 ambition and the goal and they're putting their mind towards something or they're trying to find

00:40:30.640 a job in a certain sector and i can see you're trying hard and you're going to interviews and

00:40:36.320 you know like that i'll give you seven so my just minus one yeah as long as he's as long as he's going to

00:40:49.040 some interviews yeah like i have to see you ambitious and going out every day how ambitious

00:40:55.040 like what does he have to be applying to um so if he's got his mind and his goal towards something

00:41:02.000 like this set job that he wants and he's doing his research he's continuously going on interviews

00:41:08.400 then that's different if you're just being a bum when you're staying at home and you're not trying to

00:41:13.200 look for work or not trying to focus on your career or try and elevate yourself then so negative

00:41:22.480 negative for that one yeah then negative 10. all right negative 10 no job okay he's an eight but

00:41:33.200 he has a kid depends on what the baby mom's saying really um

00:41:42.240 it's quite a hard question do you think that guys leave their baby mums

00:41:50.480 how do you mean like so do you think like the baby one would be completely out of their life

00:41:55.520 no and i would never expect them to be um do you feel like there's a chance to going back sorry no

00:42:02.320 well i don't know i'm single to be honest so i wouldn't know myself never been put in that

00:42:05.280 situation so i wouldn't know but like if their baby mom was a bit a bit crazy you know okay 1.00

00:42:14.000 probably okay let's do a good baby mom and a bad baby mom so he's got a kid with a good baby mom 0.94

00:42:19.360 negative what wouldn't bother me wouldn't bother you no okay bad baby mom you're done yeah

00:42:26.240 donezo minus ten minus ten okay he's an eight but but he's got a bit of a beer belly

00:42:35.840 is it a beer belly or money belly so you say money belly so i know exactly what you mean

00:42:49.680 are you eating my or are you drinking beer i know what you mean a beer belly minus ten minus ten

00:42:57.920 probably like minus eight yeah minus eight yeah for a beer belly do you know what i don't really

00:43:06.800 i'm not a big drinker and i yeah it's just the whole idea of just yeah oh it's because he's a drinker

00:43:13.680 yeah it's not the look no so no the look wouldn't probably about yeah six or an eight do tattoos add or

00:43:19.920 subtract for you add add add in the middle and neutral yeah what about you guys tattoos on a woman 0.99

00:43:30.400 add or subtract i love add add how much

00:43:38.080 hmm i'll say that i look for it i'm not supposed to be look for females with tattoos but it's definitely 0.94

00:43:43.840 add some pointers so maybe like a one or two points so if i got like a sleeve i'd get a point

00:43:48.160 yeah one add minus five to start and then that's the that's the minus starting point and then drops

00:43:57.520 from there depending on location and size what about you yeah subtract at least like two three two three

00:44:06.880 i think tattoos i don't like tattoos on a guy i prefer none but i don't really care that much

00:44:14.480 i feel like it doesn't really make a difference okay he's an eight but but but

00:44:25.200 he has a horrible relationship with his mom do you guys care yeah yeah why yeah why have you had

00:44:31.040 experience with a guy that like doesn't get along with his mom yeah once once yeah i didn't i i'm such

00:44:38.800 a family person and for me family is the most important thing and if someone doesn't get on

00:44:43.040 with their mom then there's obviously a reason behind that and for me that's like quite a big red 0.71

00:44:48.880 flag because yeah no i just wouldn't if they didn't get on with their mom i'd be like i don't know i just

00:44:55.600 i'm where i'm such a family person and i adore my family around me 24 7 like i've not got kids but

00:45:01.200 if i had a kid i know my kid could kill someone blue bloody murder and i'd turn a blind eye to it and

00:45:05.600 i'd still love them no matter what so if someone doesn't speak to their mom then that is a big

00:45:10.560 big red flag so you don't care too much about their family like relation at the same i agree oh you

00:45:17.040 agree what about you guys do you guys look at her family background me 110 definitely definitely what

00:45:23.120 do you look at in her family background dynamic is a big thing 0.90

00:45:28.240 like with mom dad like what are you both both parents and how the how the family functions

00:45:38.080 together what's a bigger red flag if she doesn't get along with her mom or her dad father for sure

00:45:47.920 what about you dimitri yeah of course so you know there's this there's this crazy thing right now

00:45:52.720 we're like you know the jonah hill text i'm sure you guys discussed it here it's like

00:45:55.760 he sets out some boundaries which are pretty right like they're not crazy boundaries it's like hey i 0.80

00:45:59.920 don't want you going out with your slutty friends like like because you've broken my trust people 1.00

00:46:03.840 like it's controlling and i kind of read that i was like okay i think a lot of women say that's 0.99

00:46:08.800 controlling because they just never had proper boundaries set in their life and like i'm a dad

00:46:12.480 i got four kids you know what a dad's role is in a in a child's life and a girl or boy's life is to

00:46:16.880 set boundaries like you know if you look at like when how kids go to bed if mom puts kids to bed

00:46:22.560 they tend to extend going to bed by like half an hour to an hour but when dad puts kids to bed

00:46:27.120 they go to bed right away dad's word is firmer kids oblige and test the dad they oblige more to

00:46:31.440 the dad they test the dad less so if she doesn't have a like a good relationship with her father

00:46:35.520 she's grown up without a dad there's no boundary set for her so she perceives boundaries as emotional

00:46:40.480 abuse but are boundaries necessary in relationships yeah especially explicit boundaries like we have to

00:46:45.840 understand what exactly works for us and what doesn't and that's okay so no one of the best pieces of

00:46:51.520 advice i ever received when i was about 22 from a mentor is he said look at that woman's relationship

00:46:57.280 with her father and it'll tell you how she treats you yeah you guys look at like how much makeup she

00:47:03.520 wears yes how much can that subtract or add to a girl make or break yeah like what is it what does it do 0.95

00:47:12.560 at least four points three to four subtraction yeah why because i mean it's a preference thing but also

00:47:22.160 it's you're almost dealing with a different person at that point like you can look like two completely

00:47:28.560 different people so it's just a little bit inauthentic in my opinion have you guys ever

00:47:33.600 gone on a date with a girl and you like woke up and she looked completely different

00:47:37.600 no no fortunately i think seeing seeing people with or without uh makeup can be night and day

00:47:45.360 difference yeah unrecognizable a lot of the time really yeah you're nodding really hard no i mean

00:47:51.280 look like women are going to wear makeup like that's just how it is and there should be a level that you 1.00

00:47:54.960 take care of yourself but obviously you know the trend right now and like every time i come to england

00:47:58.800 i see these weird puffer face like it's just fake eye they shave their i don't know what the hell's going on 0.60

00:48:03.040 i've drawn drawn on eyebrows well i don't know i like i it was crazy doing this show for so long

00:48:09.360 because girls would follow me after the show and a lot of times i'll follow people back but like

00:48:13.600 sometimes i wouldn't recognize them i'm like wait is that the girl that was on because they'll tag me

00:48:20.160 in their stories and i'm like oh my god i didn't even notice but then i was like this is why the guys

00:48:24.880 are complaining on the dating apps huh have you guys ever gone on like a date with a girl from a dating

00:48:30.400 app and she looked different no i've been on a date with a guy on a dating app and he looked hi was

00:48:36.320 it hi do you know what no he said he was like six foot three and he was about six foot three so

00:48:40.560 that i was quite pleased with but he didn't look nothing like his five sides like at all like there's

00:48:47.120 catfishing and then there's that like they were him but i don't know why i don't know what he done

00:48:52.160 but it was like from like 10 years ago he was a bit older as well he said to me he was 24 this is when

00:48:57.120 i was like 22. oh he lied about his age yeah he was about 35 36 and obviously they're each to their

00:49:02.880 own do you know what i mean everyone has their own preference and and whatever i completely understand

00:49:06.480 i completely respect that but i'll just do you know when you're just a bit shocked you're like what do

00:49:10.880 you god what am i gonna do here like i'm too nice to run away and then no i am oh i was i had to sit

00:49:17.440 there and withstand like the whole time for a drink after i'm like yeah i've got to go home i've got

00:49:22.080 work to my own three i've done that before where you're like oh i want to leave but you're like you

00:49:26.800 don't want to yeah you don't want to hurt someone's feelings like and it's like because i know i wouldn't

00:49:31.120 like someone to do it to me personally but and so i just couldn't do it to someone else and like that

00:49:34.560 look of like disheartened like just being someone just disheartened and they've been together for

00:49:38.480 eight years now what is the perfect age to date for you guys two years two years older two years older two

00:49:50.800 maybe a year younger two years older okay three years maybe four that's no more than that okay what

00:49:56.720 about you um yeah i'll say two years older okay to say plus minus two but i think uh issue with

00:50:09.120 my age range is a lot of people have a little bit maturity differences so yeah i'd say plus minus two

00:50:15.760 well i'm married for 10 years we're the same age we're both 40 yeah if you were to date again what

00:50:21.600 age would would you do um be careful dimitri no like that's actually that's fine like no like that's

00:50:28.400 actually a really interesting question there's some depth to it you know i'll tell you you could even

00:50:32.000 say if you had a friend dating at your age no no i would say i would say this like when i was when

00:50:35.600 i was let's say 25 26 and i was to be asked if i find 40 year old women attractive i would have said no 0.95

00:50:40.720 like it was just it'd be weird to think that way but i've noticed myself now like uh my like i still

00:50:46.560 find my wife very beautiful i like i do and if i didn't like we'd have a problem um and and i and i

00:50:52.720 think like for me like as i've gotten older i found like now i look at a 20 year old chick and i'm like

00:50:57.440 that just looks like a teenager to me it's like you know when you're in high school and you see a

00:51:00.640 college kid they look massive it becomes the opposite when you get older i just look at 20 i'm like are you

00:51:04.560 like 15 like i can't really tell that well anymore it's crazy um but i mean if i mean realistically as

00:51:10.960 a 40 year old man probably anything 24 let's say and up is pretty reasonable like chicks it's a lot 1.00

00:51:19.440 of it's like the chicks still go for it yeah they do so they're pretty wide range i mean look at

00:51:24.400 pacino he just had a kid with a 27 year old he's like 77 78 80 he's 80. i'm curious how how old would

00:51:31.600 you guys maybe he looked good would you date a 45 year old no no 40 no 35 no 30 oh shoot yeah you're

00:51:40.400 not 35 yeah like 32 probably 33 no come on like the most beautiful women in the world are like 1.00

00:51:47.920 look at anthony kitas from the from the red hot chili peppers he's like 60 and like i would i would have

00:51:53.200 a problem 40 year old schwarzenegger's girlfriend's like 38 or something he's 76 like like like but you

00:51:58.560 say no because you want a virtue signal but come on these guys aren't dating ugly 30 year olds they're

00:52:02.800 dating beautiful 30 year olds yeah but is it because of their status obviously it is obviously

00:52:07.520 it is i'm not saying why would it not be of course it is so if a man is high status enough you're going

00:52:11.840 to be like no i'm sorry like schwarzenegger like it's like no you're going to be like cool

00:52:18.080 but i do not think it depends on what someone or what depends on the individual wants

00:52:22.480 in the relationship probably yeah so but but again we're looking at high status very old men that

00:52:29.360 are like pushing 80 or are 80 and they still have seemingly have no problem getting 26 and 30 year old

00:52:35.840 women to want to be with them so like i'm just looking at the big data right but then like say 1.00

00:52:39.920 if you were to bring like a gold digger situation i know you're okay uh you know what um age men peak

00:52:45.680 on dating apps for plenty of fish probably around 42 would be my guess say late 30s 37. it's crazy i was

00:52:52.960 so surprised when i saw this yeah i was about 35 i'd say probably 40 45 50. really yeah i know guess what

00:53:02.560 age women peak 22 28 i was i'll bet it's older but it's actually nice i'll probably say the same

00:53:10.320 women 18 18 yeah 18 yeah yeah well they've done they've done smell tests for men and men will still 0.54

00:53:20.000 pick younger women just based on smell yeah wow but for the men the 50 year olds that are on there has

00:53:26.800 to be like a selected amount like has to be all silver foxes or a higher percentage because

00:53:33.120 you wouldn't assume there's that many average or below average 50 year olds on tinder you know

00:53:40.480 i mean there aren't most people on it was plenty of fish but i think like didn't you say 80 of

00:53:45.680 people on dating apps like don't get any swipe yeah 50 of people like if you get one match on like

00:53:50.800 tinder then you're in the top 50 percent you're like like half of men never get a match ever i think

00:53:56.320 i read this or i see this somewhere online and it's true like if you're most compatible you

00:54:02.320 will show up to more people whereas if you don't get swiped so you're not going to go you're not

00:54:06.240 getting women only swipe right five percent on the time so if you go on a date with a guy from a dating 0.85

00:54:11.920 app it's it's probable that he like basically he has a ton of options because if you got on the date

00:54:17.600 that means like he's part of the five percent that women are swiping on most likely it's scary isn't

00:54:22.880 it yeah yeah but that's why relationships are so up because i feel like that's the number one way

00:54:28.240 people are meeting under 30 nowadays that's the number one way yeah is dating apps so it's like all

00:54:33.600 the girls are going on the same dates with the same guys i mean haven't you seen those stories on like

00:54:37.920 tick tock where the girls are like oh my god we went on the date with the same guy 1.00

JustPearlyThings - July 17, 2023

Modern Woman Claimed to be Ambitious

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