JustPearlyThings - August 11, 2023


Modern Woman Claimed to be on CELEBRITY LEVEL of Beauty


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Length

49 minutes

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214.8472

Word Count

10,550

Sentence Count

11

Misogynist Sentences

98

Hate Speech Sentences

45


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 coming up next do you think you're on like the level of a celebrity yeah
00:00:04.000 celebrity's like top 10 20 percent of beauty like that yeah but remember i think i'm beautiful i
00:00:20.560 think i'm beautiful without the botox without without the money without all that money to
00:00:24.960 do myself up so i think i'm great this is like a cope i see women do like it's like you you think
00:00:30.720 because they have money they're beautiful when they got there money helped but if you look at
00:00:35.580 margot robbie before fame that girl was a 10. today um we're gonna talk about where have all the good
00:00:41.480 women gone so one thing i always hear is where have all the good men gone right in society um however
00:00:48.140 i just started looking up some stats okay one in three women have an std one in three women have
00:00:53.000 had an abortion 38 of kids are born into single parent homes the average age of first child is
00:00:57.660 26 which is before the average age of first marriage which is 30 um 45 of marriages end in divorce the
00:01:04.100 average number of partners for a woman is between four and eight and when women get below above five
00:01:09.540 partners their chance of a happy marriage goes from 80 to 20 depends on the study plus or minus 10
00:01:15.040 percent um and if men get pick the wrong woman they can be financially ruined and their kids can be
00:01:21.640 taken from them and on top of that 70 of women um 60 70 of women are overweight in the u.s
00:01:28.760 um so um the question is how does a guy identify a good woman and what percent of women do you think
00:01:36.320 are good women really good question how does a guy identify a good woman i think mostly it's looks but
00:01:42.940 that's not how they do it but i think it's about it it's about a vibe actually it's about an energy and
00:01:48.520 it's about respect if a woman you know can really show this man that she respects him okay but in
00:01:55.240 the beginning that's challenging because you know you're on a first date i think the first indication
00:01:59.320 is usually looks what was the second question pearl what percent of women do you think are good women
00:02:03.960 oh in this day and age yes i think women are so confused it's really hard to say i would say
00:02:11.320 good woman what do you mean by that what i mean by that i think a good woman is probably less than 10
00:02:15.560 percent these days okay i think a good woman is a healed woman so i feel like the reason why there's
00:02:21.960 not much good women out there is because no one really knows how to heal and recover from their
00:02:26.840 past relationships and traumas and so they bring those good women not be like broken to begin with
00:02:32.440 yeah 100 yeah yeah yeah and so i feel like they found ways to heal and they've like taken time out to
00:02:38.920 isolate themselves and i feel like maybe then they will be able to move forward and find the right
00:02:43.640 partner for the right reasons and i feel like um why the percentage may be so low is because no one's
00:02:50.040 really willing to do the hard dark shadow work what do you mean shadow because whenever i hear like
00:02:56.200 this stuff no no offense like the shadow work the healing i always hear like nothing yeah like never
00:03:01.720 like real concrete steps of like so if you're a woman you're trying to improve what do you what do you do
00:03:06.600 so you're trying to select your ego you know the dark side of you the side that you don't show
00:03:11.880 anyone but it can come out so you are trying to like kind of tame that and work on your insecurities
00:03:17.240 and all the things that you don't want people to see okay and so you can how do you how do you work
00:03:22.120 on them so i mean for me personally i write down i journal stuff so i write things down my fears or
00:03:28.520 things i don't like about myself or that i want to change or that i feel i'm um expression maybe in
00:03:34.280 the wrong way and so i try and like find ways to fix that and just you know work so how are you like
00:03:39.480 how do you know like if i want to lose weight you go to a personal trainer and they say like good
00:03:43.480 bad like how do you hold yourself accountable oh doing doing research finding a routine making sure
00:03:49.320 that you're consistently keeping up with things and maintaining that process yeah this just kind
00:03:55.560 of sounds like nothing to me yeah okay i'm just i'm sorry it's real no no no but like when i whenever
00:04:02.040 i hear girls like talk about this it just sounds like okay i write in my journal um i and i google
00:04:09.640 things online and i try to be better but there's no like accountability like anyone keeping you in
00:04:14.760 check to like show that you are getting better i think most people um don't have anyone to keep them
00:04:20.280 in check when there's a will there's a way if you really want to change then you will make sure that
00:04:24.360 you get that done like so so so if you're talking to a guy and he says like okay you you said i was
00:04:30.520 broken before i'm healed now like what steps would you show him that i am now healed um you're able
00:04:35.560 to be more compassionate and less judgmental and more open and vulnerable okay so how could you prove
00:04:41.720 that you are just by being just by being that i mean i feel like time will tell okay you know okay
00:04:49.240 because like i was just thinking like if you want to concrete steps it's like married mentors maybe a
00:04:54.360 male therapist like that sort of thing i just never hear whenever i hear women's self-improvement it's
00:04:59.400 always like be more confident write in a journal and google things no fact like respectfully so i
00:05:04.200 just i just don't understand but you know what's crazy i've tried personally i've tried therapy and
00:05:08.600 i and the first time i tried it i walked out in an anger and rage that i was like human and the second
00:05:14.040 time i told her look it's not gonna work i don't think you can fix my problems you know i agree with
00:05:18.200 you i've been the therapist before and i just thought therapy was like stupid for the most part and now
00:05:22.680 i'm in school for psychology and i see the women that are therapists and they're nuts i would not go to
00:05:27.240 therapy yeah i feel like they don't care they're just getting paid to do what they need to do they
00:05:31.160 don't give a so yeah yeah but but i do think there are some male therapists that are helpful i just
00:05:36.200 think it's mostly like male um what do you think about that um i've never had a male therapist and
00:05:42.360 i wouldn't go to a male therapist because i need to i need to connect with a woman that's like do you
00:05:46.440 know i mean like women no that's broken like me not necessarily but i feel like women connect easier
00:05:52.360 that no i think i think women look to comfort and men look to solve problems and that's why i
00:05:56.120 don't think therapy works when they're women most of the time there's exceptions because like men
00:06:00.120 like women are just going to comfort you they're going to tell you what you want to hear where men
00:06:03.320 will tell you how to fix it but the problem is like women we never want to fix it like actually
00:06:08.040 fix it it's interesting yeah it's true i had a male therapist actually or the i had a therapist for
00:06:14.520 eight years i'm not in therapy anymore but the first four years it was a it was a woman and the last four
00:06:20.680 years a man and i'm not in therapy anymore and i'm like i'm good now but that's because it was a man
00:06:25.560 not a woman because when i was with a woman they would just sit there and soak in all my issues and
00:06:29.720 all the problems and there was never a solve or a solution no one was trying to help me and then
00:06:34.360 trauma what's your like and they call everything trauma everything you know everything abuse or
00:06:38.840 trauma i'm like what the what do you mean i don't believe in trauma i don't believe in trauma either
00:06:44.120 it's a bunch of bs it's just so that psychologists can make money off yeah well i do i do believe in like
00:06:50.040 war trauma like from war what do you mean like i think if a guy goes to war and sees some like
00:06:55.160 sees things that's real trauma but the way we use it today my ex-boyfriend cheated on me
00:07:02.440 it's just everything's everything but can i say something don't you think there's something called
00:07:07.080 unhealed baggage that we be carrying with us because we haven't overcome how we felt in the last
00:07:11.320 relationship i think you should just get over it okay yeah yeah i think that we should quit whining
00:07:18.120 our great grandmothers had to deal with it like they used to have plagues and getting cheated on
00:07:23.480 like this is just the example i'm using but most of modern day problems are really nothing compared
00:07:28.440 to like 100 200 years ago you could get the plague and like die you know that'd be traumatic being afraid
00:07:36.520 you know and you're right you know what because i feel like personally i've been through so much i
00:07:39.640 haven't had real therapy and i'm i'm strong i'm i'm still going you know what i mean i don't really it's
00:07:43.720 not affecting me maybe it is in a way but it's not in intervening in my life yeah strong strongly
00:07:50.920 the reveling in the story is what a lot of the women therapists were using penelope's my daughter
00:07:55.080 and they were um you know really listening to your story and and and giving a lot of emphasis to it
00:08:00.760 like you were really overweight and the therapists were like no no don't don't talk about it don't
00:08:05.400 don't don't try to help her lose weight and i'm like what do you mean like we've got to fix this
00:08:09.320 problem like what's the plan it was so frustrating oh so they wouldn't try to solve like how big were
00:08:15.240 you i was 300 pounds shut up i was 300 pounds you look great can we get us how did how did your life
00:08:24.360 change from going from 300 pounds to i don't know what you are now but clearly not so i lost 130 pounds
00:08:29.560 actually wow and you're tall too yes what are you six two no five nine and a half oh so you look you
00:08:35.480 look tall as heck okay um but basically i was you know i think part of the problem was because i was
00:08:41.640 in therapy for so long and i nobody told me in therapy that there was anything wrong with me and
00:08:46.360 i had depression i had anxiety i had suicidal thoughts and i was not i didn't have a good relationship
00:08:50.840 with my father at the time and nobody was saying oh you need to lose the weight your life will be better
00:08:55.880 if you just do that nobody they tried to give me medication they tried to give me pills they tried
00:09:00.040 to put me in more therapy and it wasn't until one day i looked in the mirror and i'm like i don't
00:09:04.360 want to be like this anymore i don't want to feel like this anymore and to be honest the body
00:09:08.680 positivity movement crushed my soul and told me oh you should be you know you're beautiful no matter
00:09:14.760 what size you are you're beautiful no matter you know how much you weigh you're beautiful no matter
00:09:19.000 what you eat you can eat anything you want and you're gorgeous go girl and i and i thought it was okay
00:09:23.800 wow i thought it was good because no one said anything and i could be sitting here if 300 pounds
00:09:29.000 or enough i didn't make the decision to say penelope you need to get your butt off the couch and work
00:09:33.240 out fix your diet fix your mental health fix everything and now i'm perfectly fine no meds just
00:09:39.960 naturally all natural what do you do you think that contributes to 70 of women being overweight in the
00:09:46.280 u.s completely i completely think that yeah go ahead no i just think that i think that the fact that
00:09:52.680 people are obese and that they make all these excuses for oh i'm obese because of this i'm
00:09:56.360 obese because you can lose weight no matter what anyone can lose weight it's just about finding the
00:10:00.680 right way to do it and what do you think of the women that say we need like representation and magazines
00:10:07.160 we need fat chicks on the cover victoria's secret fashion show it repulses me so it repulses
00:10:13.880 me to see that because you've been there it does because i've been there and not only that but you are
00:10:18.280 showing thousands and millions of women in the world that it is one okay to be unhealthy two
00:10:23.800 okay to be slowly killing yourself and three okay to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls
00:10:30.840 out i was a plus size model like in the 90s you were a plus size model in the 90s yeah is there anything
00:10:38.520 wrong with a little plus size girl yeah because what about the people that actually what about the people
00:10:43.560 that actually can't lose weight physically they will never wait that's not a thing but but what
00:10:47.560 about people that actually but they mentally can't so that for the rest of their life they're going to
00:10:50.760 be that same size they need some they need some empowerment because otherwise they could you know
00:10:54.840 commit suicide or something do you go to a do you go to a basketball game and look to see like an nba
00:11:00.760 game or what do you guys have it's football right football here you go to a football game here and
00:11:05.000 you try to see average football players average like below average football players play football
00:11:10.600 here when you go to a professional game do we see them no do you do you go there to see that oh
00:11:15.800 well no so then why on the cover of magazines which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty do we have
00:11:20.200 below average women on it right like why like why is that why do we need that i feel ashamed i don't
00:11:27.640 like it i don't want to see it i think you're right about the fact that they're doing it too because
00:11:32.040 you know if you want to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up they don't want
00:11:35.320 people to come out of a bce right so they're going to make it look like it's okay
00:11:40.200 they don't want you to so so why wouldn't we have healthy people on the mat in front of mag i'm
00:11:43.880 not saying like because they don't want that yeah yeah but you you said we need that earlier
00:11:47.640 no but i was saying that for the people that don't that actually fit i think in my head i'm thinking
00:11:52.360 for the people that actually because a person that actually cannot overcome obesity and for the rest of
00:11:57.960 their life to the age of 60 70 they're still going to be overweight those people are probably feeling
00:12:02.760 yes like they're they're feeling okay they're you know they're empowered would you rather be empowered
00:12:07.880 then commit suicide because people think oh look at you you're fat but when you're eat when you're
00:12:12.520 overeating you're slowly committing suicide my mother did it wow she died wow like her cause of death
00:12:19.640 was severe obesity and then when my daughter started gaining the weight i was freaking out
00:12:23.960 right and so that's why we're on a mission yeah but don't you think there's a certain level though
00:12:28.280 obviously there's obesity and there's because i feel like the modeling world has always
00:12:32.520 promoted unhealthy unhealthiness if that makes sense even the slim women slimming women was like
00:12:38.200 six and like very small do you know what i'm saying that would they look like they weren't
00:12:42.040 eating i don't think so if you look at i always hear that but i like i look at marilyn monroe she was
00:12:46.440 healthy yeah but they're talking about one person there's a lot of a lot of women in the modeling
00:12:50.280 world was very slim and they wouldn't eat or they wouldn't do something just to fit in the
00:12:54.200 certain category do you get what i'm saying i mean there was some but i just maybe for like
00:12:58.040 an early 2000s but i think if you look at the last like 100 years i think most women on the covers
00:13:03.800 were just objectively beautiful what's the average weight you would say uh let's see i don't know off
00:13:09.720 the top of my head as a ford model the the girls who were in straight size modeling they were size
00:13:14.440 four and that's because the samples are made in a size four and so is your four different from uk
00:13:20.200 four oh yeah it is a bit yeah like more like a two i think it'd be more like a two two hair the
00:13:25.960 average the average woman she's gone she's okay the average woman is five four i'm in america and
00:13:32.360 i can do uk in a second yeah five four 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds oh what's that in stone please
00:13:44.120 average stones i don't actually know
00:13:52.360 but that's overweight i would say that that average that she just quoted would be over
00:13:55.560 12 stone 12 12.14 okay because i would think that average is between eight to 12. i think if
00:14:01.880 you're in a good in shape 12 there's good in shape 12 women anything above that then we're talking
00:14:08.440 obesity you know what i'm saying i mean it's bmi yeah to be honest sorry uh to be honest it depends i
00:14:15.240 think like around 10 years ago it used to be way different i think now they kind of raised it you know
00:14:24.040 yeah yeah i think i 10 years ago i went i don't know why it was like 65 kilos i don't know what
00:14:29.400 that is sorry in in stones it must be like 165 in um in america 2.2 to 1. yeah and they would already
00:14:38.920 say oh you should try to lose weight you know for your height whatever now if you look at that they're
00:14:44.440 like yeah you're perfect you can be a model yeah so it really changed in the last decade i would say
00:14:50.440 really it did so it was about around 10 years ago was there plus size models is that a new thing
00:14:55.480 i'll be honest not really we're definitely we're on america's next top model i mean it wasn't that
00:15:00.520 as common though but i definitely i i used to watch tyra banks anyone yeah yeah anyone there yeah but they
00:15:07.800 weren't like this they weren't like the the like super yeah yeah like you see today they're just kind
00:15:13.240 of like they're like 10s you know big boned uh 10's all right 10's not big no 10's not big at all
00:15:22.840 like this one i'm saying for the modeling world that's about big yeah but again it's like when
00:15:26.120 you go to an nba game i want to see good basketball players like it's supposed to be the epitome of
00:15:31.080 beauty yeah but like now we're rewarding average look like i don't want to see average chicks like
00:15:35.800 faces on the cover of magazine i don't want to see average bodies i hear that but if she's like if she's a
00:15:40.840 good i'm not saying plus plus but she's a good size 12 with good curves and that man don't want
00:15:45.480 to see that we don't really want to just see slim girls all the time i'll be honest i believe that
00:15:49.320 i believe that some men like that i really do it's typically a lot of us to be honest it's typically
00:15:54.120 broke men because if you look at rich men yeah yeah if you look at like it's so cap like i'm just i don't
00:15:59.560 like liars no offense but it's like like when you see rich men what do they have on their arms but the only
00:16:06.760 reason why they have slim women is because the slim women are in the higher echelons of places where
00:16:12.440 the other women no not in beauty no let's not talk about beauty only i'm talking about venues certain
00:16:17.560 venues certain places that they get to go to certain women can't get to go there okay you get what i'm
00:16:22.600 saying leonardo dicaprio if he wanted a big chick he couldn't find one no he can find one but i'm
00:16:28.360 saying in certain the plate the venue the events no the events he goes to it's from instagram come
00:16:34.360 on like they can get any chick they want yeah they can but but do you think leonardo just
00:16:40.440 got in in bear girls dms just hollering girls in the dms i think if he wants i think he'll i think
00:16:45.720 he'll pick like he hollered at that one chick uh the hadid who's that oh yeah yeah gg haddie
00:16:52.760 gg the model yeah i don't know what i say it's like if you look at the richest most successful
00:16:58.760 men they they typically have slim women i'm saying if you're looking at the richest parts of events and
00:17:03.800 venues mayfair whatever and in america manhattan whatever if you go to the upper echelons of
00:17:09.880 places they've got to be you know what i'm saying do you really think that the only reason they're with
00:17:14.600 slim beautiful women is because of the events they go no but i'm saying because of the environment that
00:17:19.960 they're in okay i think that was because that was that is society's ideal of a beautiful woman
00:17:25.160 that's why and so i feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there
00:17:29.800 wasn't a selection of variety of different sizes why why is it that all around the world they like
00:17:34.760 young beautiful slim women everywhere even in different societies with completely different
00:17:40.600 cultures please please do not bring up this one fringent tribe in africa everyone brings up but
00:17:47.000 it's like they're it's such a small percentage of the world well africa there's something no
00:17:52.760 no the tribe they bring up some tribe in africa assist that that likes the fat women but it's a very
00:17:58.040 very i've done this conversation but if you think i hear that but if you think about it's the motherland
00:18:03.960 and it caught it caught no i'm not being but i'm all right me coming out you know deep down you
00:18:10.040 know that men like slim women in general i'm gonna be honest i don't think they do i'm gonna be honest i
00:18:15.080 don't i don't like and i'm gonna say this coming from being a black man okay if i'm talking about
00:18:21.320 being a black man and from a black perspective of i feel like majority of us man like thicker women
00:18:27.560 okay well and and and even jordan but you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be
00:18:33.720 around higher women that i've got certain women i'm from a one percent family my dad my dad my dad is a
00:18:39.880 top one percent earner i grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood i'm telling you they do not put fat
00:18:44.200 chicks on their arms in high class in high class society and celebrities want people with the
00:18:49.560 option to not have a fat chick on their arm do not all right but what even like i was having a
00:18:54.200 conversation the other day with with a woman and she was a slim woman she's from america as well
00:18:58.760 so american um i think like atlanta or emma and she said when she was slim she was only getting
00:19:04.360 approached by white men okay she put she put on a lot of weight no not a lot of weight but she's
00:19:08.840 ticked got body whatever blah blah blah now she's getting approached by a lot of black men
00:19:13.800 which is what do you get what i'm saying but i'm saying if you if you look at it on on the
00:19:17.640 democrats thing which which was successful black men that we know are dating are we only going to
00:19:22.600 talk about successful men yeah because those are the men with options broke men don't have as many
00:19:25.960 options as rich men they do not have as many options as rich men so if you look at the men with
00:19:30.760 the most options to look okay so if we want to see what women want we got to look at the women with the
00:19:34.600 most option who do the most beautiful the youngest most fertile women pick if we want to look at men
00:19:39.960 what do men like we have to look at the men with the most options because it's not really fair to
00:19:43.400 say oh i like fat chicks if i make you know ten dollars an hour at taco bell right like you can't
00:19:49.000 you don't get no i get that but obviously if you're going if you're talking about celebrities
00:19:55.800 celebrities are guided no i didn't but i didn't just say celebrities i'm from i'm my dad is in like he's
00:20:02.520 a top one percent earner i grew up with 10 siblings in a 10 bedroom mansion in a community where many
00:20:07.640 people made that amount of money yeah so so i've been around a successful wealthy man and they don't
00:20:13.480 put fat chicks sometimes they they do get fat later but they don't appreciate that you know what i mean
00:20:18.520 so yeah but i hear what you're saying what i'm saying the reason these men obviously gonna go for
00:20:24.120 similar because they're around that's what you being in the top one percent and being in in this
00:20:27.960 neighborhood okay it allows you to see different things you get like i've interviewed hundreds of
00:20:32.520 no but if you do have obviously if you do have money a lot of people with money are fit are in
00:20:36.920 the gym they do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things you get what i'm
00:20:40.360 saying no they have less time guaranteed you think they have less time people absolutely have less
00:20:45.560 time totally no i don't know yeah no no i could tell you a hundred percent but also i think the reason
00:20:51.000 that a lot of women and are slimmer and why do you think more successful men want women who are
00:20:56.600 slimmer it's because it's healthier for them like their risk for getting you know diseases at an
00:21:02.280 older age their risk for having pregnancy risks are much lower if they're not overweight yeah of
00:21:07.080 course so why would a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them if they're going to die at 50
00:21:12.840 if they're going to die at 70 if they're going to have their children's going to have be at risk for
00:21:16.040 birth risk i mean i would never want that and i don't think i don't think men want that like when
00:21:20.360 men are looking for wives they're not looking for children like women who are going to have risks
00:21:26.280 and we even saw how for you how your bad habit passed on to her and that's like if you have a
00:21:32.120 bad habit yourself you will pass it on to your kids and then it's another problem that your kid
00:21:35.800 like because i had the same my mom used to feed me like pop tarts and stuff when i was a kid and i and
00:21:39.880 my mom was pretty big and then she ended up like losing all the weight um and she told me like she
00:21:44.760 literally did it for my dad um and um yeah i have a sugar addiction to this day you know what i mean so
00:21:51.000 it's like bad habits pass from like the parents to the kids exactly and sugar is more addictive than
00:21:55.240 cocaine yeah it's crazy yeah i do miss pop tarts they make healthy pop tarts but they're really
00:22:01.400 not healthy they're still junk food no i don't i don't like that i like the cinnamon ones i went
00:22:06.760 in the complete opposite direction like total neurosis i got my bachelor's and master's degree in
00:22:11.080 nutrition i helped thousands of people lose weight regain their health and it was almost like her
00:22:15.800 rebellion so her choice to gain autonomy through overeating and ill health was almost you know well it was just
00:22:24.200 so so crazy for me because i was so healthy i thought you said you were overweight as a kid i was
00:22:29.880 but as an adult so you were super what were you doing my whole life until i was like 15 i was like
00:22:36.040 rebelling against her i was like i'm gonna eat all the junk food so i'd go to my friend's house and i'd
00:22:40.360 stuff my face with pizza and then their moms would call her and be like oh my gosh is your daughter okay
00:22:45.400 she's eating like a box of pizza and like my whole box of goldfish wow and i would just do that and then i
00:22:50.840 come home and i would never like her cooking even though she's the best cook i know but like i
00:22:55.080 wouldn't i just rebelled my whole life yeah it was terrible uh james says there's a difference between
00:23:00.600 fit and thick men want fit women um puffy i'm in las vegas and i see plenty of women from africa i am
00:23:07.160 black this is cap we like thin women and then i think there was one more i'm just gonna do really
00:23:12.840 quick uh lady in the red is telling the truth i've lost 67 pounds my life is better off these plus
00:23:18.120 size influencers are lying to people example lizzo yeah what do you think of lizzo so i actually
00:23:23.240 recently did a video on this um i sub it a podcast but basically lizzo is portraying something that is
00:23:29.480 terrible for young women and then you have thousands of young women saying oh my gosh lizzo's so beautiful
00:23:35.000 everyone should be like lizzo and then you have all the fat people looking at lizzo feeding off of her
00:23:40.040 positivity her body positivity and why does she lead with it too like because it's her brand
00:23:45.960 like to make people sick yeah nobody would talk when adele was overweight nobody really spoke about
00:23:50.840 her weight because she didn't lead with no you know they did speak about it when she lost the weight
00:23:54.840 they were like oh we can't believe you lost the weight we hate you now like we don't like you like
00:23:58.760 you did this for for social media and it's like what yeah what about doing this to save her life why
00:24:03.080 aren't more people supporting right women losing weight that's what real body positivity because we know the
00:24:08.680 whole world is lazy the majority of people so that it fits well also the food industry benefits the food
00:24:14.360 industry and the medical industry to have more overweight people because then you have more
00:24:17.880 surgeries then you have more medications being handed out then you have more depression anxiety
00:24:21.720 suicide i mean the divorce rates you know it's right it's insane right no i mean honestly like
00:24:27.800 one time i was at work and these guys were like like clowning on women over 200 pounds or like i would
00:24:33.160 never date but they didn't know i was because i like i don't look like i didn't look like i was over 200
00:24:38.680 and literally i ended up like losing a bunch of weight because i was so embarrassed and i and then
00:24:44.200 it was the best thing that ever happened to me i ran a marathon because i was like i'm done i'm done
00:24:47.800 with this it's like the quickest way to lose weight run a marathon yeah or and i got addicted to exercise
00:24:52.920 too like i remember being in that place i went to the doctor's office actually and that's when i started i
00:24:57.720 they were like your triglycerides are up your your risk heart disease type 2 diabetes and you know if you
00:25:03.160 don't start now you are gonna die very like slowly but soon and i was terrified i was like what just
00:25:10.200 from being fat i was how long did they say you had i'm just curious no they weren't like you're gonna
00:25:20.040 die tomorrow but they were like curious like how long do 300 pound people live i don't know do you know
00:25:25.480 i don't know the stats on that actually no but they they definitely have a higher risk of cardiovascular
00:25:30.040 disease which is a number one killer they have a higher risk of cancer they definitely will develop
00:25:35.160 diabetes type 2 and other diseases that are 100 preventable there was that influencer that just
00:25:39.560 like dropped dead the other day because she was obese and like she would literally always be eating and
00:25:43.720 doing mukbangs then she died i'm not surprised why do you think she died everyone you know and then they
00:25:50.040 say like when obese people go to the doctor and they say to lose weight that they're like not listening to
00:25:55.000 them but i'm like well i mean i'm not a doctor but you might want to like watch for you but even
00:26:01.560 doctors are lying to people now saying oh it's okay to eat like cheeseburgers they can't weigh you
00:26:06.120 they can't weigh you either even that and it's like you guys why are you lying to these people who actually
00:26:10.680 some people who actually want to be helped are being lied to yeah oh just do the keto diet oh just do
00:26:15.240 the paleo diet it'll be fine that's not a long-term solution that's not a lifestyle right doctors
00:26:19.880 aren't really even trained in nutrition they don't know how to help and the business model isn't set
00:26:25.000 up for them to support their their their patients so it's the whole model is flawed and we really need
00:26:31.400 to get smart and get responsible and to be clear about what we're putting in our thoughts in our minds
00:26:37.400 and in our in our mouths they said as an african woman zimbabwean we are curvy there's a big difference
00:26:44.520 between being curvy and overweight you can be thin and curvy um and just big big uh and then there is
00:26:52.360 another one that was from interracial marriages or relationships uh for black men community we value
00:26:58.600 bigger women because they make for better sex partners uh the marriage is different requirements
00:27:05.080 for it than sex my thin women or my thin woman felt like she was too pretty to uh fulfill my sexual
00:27:12.040 requirements um okay so how did you say how does a man identify a good woman i would say that a man
00:27:19.880 identifies a good woman if she's one healthy and fit that's important okay especially for childbearing
00:27:25.800 and i'd say number two if she has traditional values if she believes in being submissive if she believes in
00:27:31.960 being feminine she she she she loves that question we're gonna get to the men okay
00:27:38.920 yeah yeah don't worry it was just whoever's sitting you know um and then i think if she wants to cook
00:27:46.760 if she's okay cleaning she wants she's a homemaker she would love to you know have children and take
00:27:51.080 care of them and be a housewife um i think that's beautiful and so that's what i think identifies a good
00:27:56.280 woman okay um what about you well identifying as a good woman nowadays is a bit difficult however i would
00:28:05.160 emphasize on the values and uh the morals of the woman um primarily her ability to be a good wife
00:28:14.600 her ability to raise good children and even her thoughts and the things she has in mind because
00:28:20.040 she's going to be molding the next generation and uh so how does he know well it can because you know
00:28:26.600 women lie like we can just say things like i'm but you know if you have a deep conversation with a
00:28:32.360 person she can still lie but no but to an extent but believe me throughout time you can identify okay
00:28:40.600 so how much how much time
00:28:44.920 if it's um i would say i would give it like three months but it can okay so three months of constant um
00:28:53.640 constant uh meeting okay so you think in three months he can see if she has traditional values yes
00:28:59.400 okay she would i mean just so healthy so he can look she healthy and fit cool yeah um is she how
00:29:06.280 can he test if she's submissive he can ask something and see the reaction so ask her to do something and
00:29:13.160 see what she does for example you can tell i mean as if a man tells to a woman can you uh please make
00:29:17.960 me a coffee or a meal and she say hell no i'm not doing this to you i mean that's all right three months
00:29:23.160 ask her to make him a coffee okay okay uh what what else can he do how does he uh does he like what
00:29:39.960 else what else does he do i mean well uh because i was here just find a good woman so i'm just trying
00:29:46.680 to get from the women how do the men just find a good woman yeah it's his ability to identify
00:29:53.080 what he values in in a woman okay i mean that's gonna be subjective to an extent yeah so i'm
00:29:59.320 asking like what what makes someone a good woman and how does he identify that i think what you
00:30:04.360 were saying as well men do test women i've been tested by men like with certain things how does
00:30:08.840 you test it so like oh can you cook for me can you make me food or like on the spot though ask to
00:30:14.120 cook on the side it really happens you know it's a good test it really happens for real and then he
00:30:21.800 will know if do you know how to cook can you cook properly do you know what i mean even your
00:30:26.360 presentation that's how you deliver the food dropping the gravy on the side of the food so i'm just i
00:30:31.080 want to get it step by step further i'm going to let the men talk i'm just curious how it's going
00:30:35.400 to align with what you guys say from the women and the men um okay so first he's got to see her for
00:30:40.520 three months ask her to make him a coffee and ask to cook oh i disagree with all of that i think that
00:30:48.840 honestly if it's a high value man most of the time he's gonna know without all of that honestly most
00:30:56.440 of the men nowadays how does he know um there is this i don't know if it's the right word but there
00:31:03.400 is this aura there is this sense when you sit with a woman who you know is going to be respectful
00:31:10.280 to you or not i honestly feel that you think that average men just know this because you're
00:31:15.480 talking about high value yeah that's like five percent of i know but but average men nowadays look
00:31:21.000 at high value men's content more and more and more okay and try to see so you think i think you think
00:31:28.200 i'm just curious you think men just know they don't just know but they should get to a point
00:31:34.840 to just know so they they have to so how does he get to that point that he just knows
00:31:40.440 well slowly slowly slowly we're getting to a point where i think they need to go to certain parts of
00:31:45.640 the world to know and certain parts of the world they will just know that 90 of the women will not be
00:31:52.440 like that and okay so he has to travel slowly we're getting he needs to travel somewhere else
00:31:58.360 and then experience those women and then compare exactly exactly okay but for for a guy that doesn't
00:32:03.800 travel like he stays in the west because most remember most guys don't make a ton of money like
00:32:07.960 i think half of uh u.s men don't have passports yeah so so most men aren't traveling like that so for
00:32:14.360 a guy that's not traveling how does he know a good woman versus bad woman i would say if you if the first
00:32:20.680 conversation with her is like oh so where are we going to dinner are we having drinks this is not
00:32:26.360 a right way to to meet i think when you meet a girl you should take her for coffee and that's it
00:32:32.520 even if you like her so much that you take on a coffee date and see what she's like and see if she's
00:32:41.080 i don't know if she wants to continue the date and get you to buy her dinner and can a man know a good
00:32:46.520 woman from a bad woman without experiencing a lot of women no not really okay so so so in order to
00:32:54.680 identify he he asked uh what he i would suggest that in in his 20s he dates as many women as he can
00:33:02.440 that's what that's what okay okay so so how many women should he date as much as you can yeah as much
00:33:10.920 as you can yeah i'm not saying sleep with all of them date as many women as possible to tell the
00:33:20.440 difference i read because again remember i just want to remind everybody the stats one out of three
00:33:25.400 women has an std one out of three women has had an abortion 38 of women or of kids are born into single
00:33:32.520 parent homes meeting 38 of the next generation has never seen a functioning marriage um average
00:33:40.360 child first child is before the average age of first marriage so the first kid 26 first marriage
00:33:46.360 30 half of marriages will end in divorce average number of partners for a woman is between four
00:33:52.120 and eight um and that's self-reported so you know take that with a grain of salt but women um have a 20
00:33:59.320 chance of being in a happy marriage if they have slept with more than five people so um yeah and if men
00:34:06.600 get divorced they can be financially ruined and their kids can be taken from them um 70 of women
00:34:11.720 are overweight so basically there's a lot riding on them picking the right woman so i'm trying to give
00:34:15.800 them a foolproof plan that makes sense there's a book that i read called sex at dawn and in this book
00:34:22.920 they were making a case basically for a polyamory and polyamorous relationships which i don't resonate
00:34:29.160 with personally but i was trying to convince myself because everyone else seems to think that's a good idea
00:34:33.080 except for me so i thought well i gotta read this book but at the end of the book they had a very
00:34:36.600 interesting fact about the olfactory um sense right your nose like actually we sniff each other out
00:34:43.080 a woman can tell if a man will complement her differences genetically i've heard that yeah and then
00:34:50.280 but a woman actually can't if she's taking birth control oh it's disabled but a man can actually sniff her
00:34:57.480 out he can genetically identify through his olfactory you know sense through his nose whether or not
00:35:03.560 she'll complement his genetic weaknesses so how does he know what does he have to smell for i don't know
00:35:11.240 but apparently it's like a deep very primal thing about so maybe traction maybe make sure she's not on
00:35:16.360 birth control yes right for example not on birth control i think that works both ways i wonder what
00:35:23.160 percent hold on i want to i just want to look up because i'm curious what percent of women are on
00:35:29.560 birth control also who here is on birth control raise your hand no one not anymore i mean clearly one
00:35:35.800 out of three are having abortions i'm like it can't be that high uh the majority uh oh 90 percent of
00:35:43.720 women have used contraceptives throughout their reproductive years um and have used more than one in
00:35:49.960 their lifetime 76 wow okay we just have a good room i guess i'm gonna add that to my stats okay um
00:35:58.760 sorry can i just add one more thing that came to my mind um ask her about the family you know sometimes
00:36:04.680 i do understand that not all of the parents can stay together of course there are special situations
00:36:11.800 but just see how she talks about her family what is her relationship like with her family and her
00:36:18.040 her dad too you know so no i don't believe in that you know so if a girl even if a girl is not in on
00:36:24.680 good terms with her dad but she disrespects him by talking trash to a guy that's not a girl that you
00:36:30.840 should marry honestly and if i don't think you can disagree with this because there's no but even if
00:36:38.440 you haven't got a great relationship with your or he's your father's absent it doesn't mean that the
00:36:43.320 woman is going to be a wreck it's not necessarily i'm not saying that i'm saying she shouldn't trash
00:36:48.840 him well yeah but why why do we have the phrase daddy issues if it doesn't mean anything but some
00:36:54.360 most people will not okay a lot of people that have daddy issues and we don't know who they are i'm one
00:36:59.080 of them but i'm not a disrespectful person to men like i'm not well yeah we're not talking about you
00:37:03.560 but in general like it's your dad no matter what like i think if you've never if you've never seen a
00:37:08.520 healthy relationship how would you know how to do it exactly like if i've never seen anyone ride a
00:37:13.080 bike how would i learn to ride a bike i feel like it's common sense i feel like it's like morality
00:37:19.160 if it was common then why do half of relationships end in divorce and why is the older generation known
00:37:24.040 for being so unhappy in their marriages because men pick women based off the off the surface they
00:37:29.000 don't actually get uh get to find a deeper meaning so why women swipe right on dating apps which is the
00:37:34.120 most superficial only five percent of the time and men swipe right 50 of the time who's more
00:37:38.440 superficial men or women women but most women are hoes for real no for real no that's incorrect
00:37:47.000 one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year i feel like a little
00:37:49.720 women sleep around one out of one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past
00:37:53.720 year wow i think a lot of women sleep around so yeah a lot of women do sleep around i i i do think that
00:38:00.440 so you're saying we're the same yeah so it's like 20 of men are all the girls essentially in their
00:38:05.560 20s and then when women hit 30 they'll expand it like basically like women typically go for looks
00:38:10.600 in their 20s um women pick like when women this is the first time in history where women have been
00:38:15.080 um the sexual selectors so like historically think about it you had to get along with the dude or you
00:38:20.200 die like they would they would pick you you wouldn't pick them uh but now this is the first time where
00:38:25.160 women have been 100 in control of reproduction because we have birth control we're in control of
00:38:29.400 abortion so we are 100 in control of who's born and it's funny because the more freedom women get
00:38:34.360 the more we screw the same people in our prime which is like 22 to 24. um they surveyed men
00:38:39.320 between like 20 and 80 and they said when do you find women most attractive it's like roughly 22 to
00:38:43.800 24 all all the ages think that so when women have the most choice it's interesting because we pick
00:38:48.840 non-monogamy and we and we tend to go for looks and women react out of emotion yeah solely out of emotion
00:38:56.760 a lot of the time which is why you see so many women sleeping with so many men and making decisions on
00:39:02.520 the spot that aren't responsible like abortion yeah so majority of women are going for men that's
00:39:07.960 not monogamous then why they fight for a man to be monogamous i mean i think they want him to be but
00:39:13.400 so they want to change the man basically they see a man they want to say they're going for the top 20
00:39:19.080 or whatever which they know is they can tell that he gets a lot of girls or whatever yeah so they want
00:39:24.120 to try and lock down that one man so you don't yeah okay i mean i think that's like every girl's you know
00:39:29.800 the dream it has a you know what cinderella was sitting at home and the prince like came and
00:39:34.920 picked her out of all the princesses exactly they want to say i was the one who changed him they've
00:39:39.880 been selling us this dream forever exactly exactly um so what do you what do you think of that does
00:39:47.160 that change your perspective a little bit um not really kind of not really no okay what does it not
00:39:54.200 change i just still think that um men are looking for things they don't have themselves they look
00:40:02.120 they don't have the minerals for the things that they want in the women so they just pick
00:40:05.240 women based off looks they don't know what they want anyway like they think they don't know what
00:40:08.760 they want but they haven't even got the minerals anyway is it possible that women don't have what they
00:40:12.600 want absolutely right so how would they pick it if the dating pool has like one out of every three
00:40:18.520 women's had an abortion one of every three women has an std um like 38 40 grew up without a dad so
00:40:25.800 they don't have that model like how would they wear how would they know yeah how good women is yeah
00:40:31.160 like they've never like what percent of men have like even seen a true traditional woman i don't think
00:40:36.040 yeah do you know any women with like recipe books only only the high only celebrities nice nice too but only
00:40:43.960 like the upper class high celebrity profile people yeah and then these two now okay my whole and my
00:40:50.760 whole family and then when i go there they're like oh so modern you know everyone still cooks the same
00:40:57.320 meals and um but so i'm just curious like what when you're hearing these stats like assuming i'm telling
00:41:03.400 you the truth you don't think like it puts more of the promiscuity on women because we're only sleeping
00:41:08.680 with 20 of men so like that means 80 of us are sleeping with 20 of men wow
00:41:17.000 hmm that's attacking like okay i'll give you an example how tall was your last boyfriend
00:41:22.120 um six one okay what percent of men do you think are six one
00:41:28.360 maybe like it's not it's not six one thirty percent ten ten percent ten percent so you at a top did he how
00:41:37.080 much money did he make well he had he had his own houses and the business he sells cars okay
00:41:42.360 so roughly how much do you think he made i didn't i don't know that yeah i'm not one to
00:41:48.360 i'm not telling you that yeah but he owned i know about his business and that you know and
00:41:53.480 i don't know the figures in london in essex on essex yeah okay so if he owned a house he probably
00:41:59.720 made at least like 60 70 i guess who knows he had a nice range okay so he's he's probably like i'm
00:42:05.720 guessing right i don't actually know you guys would know london prices more than me but he's
00:42:10.040 probably still top 20 of income probably because buying a house in essex is cheap yeah okay so top
00:42:16.360 20 so you had a guy top 10 height top 20 income was he attractive was he good looking yeah he was yeah
00:42:23.160 so in women so you know women we find 80 of men is ugly so if he if you find him attractive that means
00:42:29.080 he's top 20 right you should maybe call him because he's still saying no he's been trying
00:42:33.240 to honor at me to be honest i'd have to block him he's not the one for me what is what is the one so
00:42:40.760 it seems like he has a good job he's attractive and tall it doesn't matter his person no no no it's
00:42:47.160 not i'm very smart trust me like he was wearing a mask when we first met and then his true colors
00:42:52.280 came out and i saw in certain behaviors that he was portraying what true colors so like you know he
00:42:57.640 was very aggressive sometimes and he i felt like his what do you mean aggressive did he hit you
00:43:04.520 no no he didn't hit me no okay so he didn't well he pushed me he shoved me very hard and it was for
00:43:09.400 a very pathetic reason and he's a liar did you shove him at all no no i don't like to be aggressive i
00:43:15.000 don't believe in that no more i've grown up you know okay so he he shoved you one time and yeah and
00:43:19.720 it was very and it was petty and he lied at the time as well and i knew he was lying about picking
00:43:23.800 up his kids when he wasn't going he he changed his story like i'm very observant he lied about
00:43:28.600 picking up his kids so i spent a couple days of him and he and i was supposed to say the last day
00:43:32.600 and he and then he all of a sudden he's got to go and pick up his kids but you're lying and so it's
00:43:36.760 like you're making me feel like you don't want to see you don't want to you don't want me to stay
00:43:39.960 anymore so and then that happened then we broke up and now he wants me back i know he wasn't because
00:43:46.200 his story changed he told me something we planned something from the get-go so i know so so you don't
00:43:51.000 you don't have no physical evidence of that i do i do i do it's very it's very technical but it's
00:43:56.840 long you think i'm crazy if i go into it right now how did the shoving happen like what what what led
00:44:01.080 up to that because he wanted me to leave okay so you literally and he tried to try to drag me for
00:44:06.040 okay wait so would you were you refusing to leave yeah because i was in my feelings because i knew he was
00:44:11.320 lying like come on i don't okay okay but you kind of you kind of frame this yeah you kind of
00:44:16.040 embarrassed though why do why do a lot of women they like they accuse a man of being like the bad
00:44:21.160 guy the guy that hurts them the guy that beats them but then the reason they like they made they
00:44:25.640 caused the reason because if you physically don't move in certain spaces no sorry it's the way it's
00:44:31.000 the way you speak to someone it's the way you conduct yourself in that situation but if you're in this
00:44:34.840 has happened to me before i've been esther you know you know um no there's a girl here and i
00:44:42.600 asked her to leave and she didn't like the way i asked her to leave right and then she starts yelling
00:44:47.560 at me um and then um well we didn't have security then but my security would have just picked her up
00:44:53.080 and taken her out but then it's like the way you're saying this it's like i wouldn't have done that see
00:44:59.160 the thing i wouldn't have done that but when it's an emotional sexual connection you've got other
00:45:02.920 feelings like you feel rejection you feel like you're being violated it's just but it's kind of
00:45:06.840 different you're kind of so you're kind of making yourself so basically like you were kind of overbearing
00:45:12.280 because he you thought he did something and you had no proof he did it no i did because he said what
00:45:17.480 he changed his story and but you've never said two things that contradicted yourself ever i i have
00:45:23.720 i just just happens when you talk it's very easy to to say the wrong thing if you've been
00:45:29.640 cross-examined because you know what when you say earlier on where man are analyzing women and
00:45:34.200 women are analyzing man he's looking at you like rah so you're going to argue against me picking up my
00:45:39.000 kids you and i knew he wasn't i don't you don't it don't matter whether you know he's not all easier
00:45:43.800 in his head right you hold on i'm telling you something about my kids and you're arguing against
00:45:48.680 my kids to him but the kids are the main priority even so does he have a right to privacy of course
00:45:56.760 i'm not a possessive person maybe there was something that he just didn't want you to know
00:45:59.960 maybe he was private with the mud like you know i mean like baby mama situations can be tricky like
00:46:05.400 sometimes guys don't want to get you in on all the drama but it's like you're going into it in bad
00:46:10.760 faith so you're assuming the worst when maybe it wasn't the worst but i also feel like it's just the
00:46:15.240 way you conduct yourself in a sensitive situation as well like i just feel like couldn't we say that
00:46:20.040 to you though because it's the way like you didn't listen when he said leave so it's kind
00:46:24.120 of like as women like we kind of have this double standard where we make him the bad guy when it's
00:46:27.800 like you kind of started it but then oh yeah i remember now that also the reason was like i've
00:46:32.040 stayed in the house by myself before and at this point he's like he didn't want me to stay so it's
00:46:35.640 like if you love me why can't i stay here while you go and pick up your child do what you need to do
00:46:40.120 and i'll stay here tonight and you come back because that's because he's because that's
00:46:46.360 like if i if i own this apartment if i if i want anyone to leave at any time i have the right to do
00:46:53.080 that like that wasn't the issue i honestly i didn't have an issue with that it was just the way it
00:46:58.280 happened and the things that he was saying and the way he was speaking to me it's kind of like but this
00:47:01.800 is like a lot of problems with women in relationships we want men to emote like women but he's not a
00:47:06.840 woman he's a man men don't speak like women do like they're much more stern and so a lot of times
00:47:11.800 like we think something's aggressive but men are just more aggressive than women maybe you might
00:47:15.960 want to call him he seems like a hard man to replace can we just say that and say sorry and you said in
00:47:21.320 the beginning that the men that like you you don't want so that means the men you want don't want you
00:47:26.200 wow i haven't met the one i think no but that's like that's what any girl that's single it just means
00:47:29.960 the men you want don't want you and it's not meant to be offensive it's actually crazy because there's
00:47:33.960 no one i actually want apart from there's okay but okay come on there's nobody in the world that
00:47:39.960 you would want i'm attracted to like someone but he's but he's like a celebrity figure you're like
00:47:45.240 sex appeal but there's no one i actually want okay do you think you're on like the level of a celebrity
00:47:50.040 yeah you're not on the level of celebrity i think i i think i am i think i am i think i am
00:47:57.480 i think i'm no you're you're a pretty i think i'm an amazing person if i'm being honest
00:48:02.200 celebrities like top 10 20 of beauty like that yeah but remember i think i'm beautiful i think
00:48:07.240 i'm beautiful without the botox without without the money without all that money to do myself up
00:48:12.120 so i think i'm great this is like a cope i see women do like it's like you you think because they
00:48:17.880 have money they're beautiful when they got there money helped but if you look at margot robbie before
00:48:23.080 fame that girl was a 10. i don't know who that is but then you're doing selectiveness because
00:48:26.680 there's enough girl that go there and the money glows them up only i disagree not the girls that get
00:48:31.880 there for looks alone top 20 of beauty you can look at exceptions like that like kylie jenner she's
00:48:39.320 not she's not beautiful she wasn't beautiful before no she was cute but yeah i mean she wasn't that
00:48:44.440 beautiful she gets fixed up but like i'm just saying in general guys like can we just talk in general
00:48:49.560 instead of exceptions most celebrities are top 20 of beauty in general and like we could talk about
00:48:55.160 there's some exceptions like kylie jenner did her lips whatever but most most people in hollywood
00:49:00.120 were the top 20 of beauty wherever they're from