Modern Woman Doesn't Want to Submit
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what deal breakers are, how to deal with them, and how high is too high for a woman to be a deal breaker in a relationship. We also talk about how much money a woman should be willing to spend on a guy.
Transcript
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So, like, my question is, why will we submit to a boss?
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But we have to say, oh, well, what's in it for me when it's our husband?
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We shouldn't be at home thinking that this is work.
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I mean, it depends what you believe marriage is.
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Like, because you seem to have more of an egalitarian model of marriage,
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which is really common where it's, like, 50-50, we have an equal say.
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Like, I think that you should listen to the bad.
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Um, someone who's not Christian and someone who has a temper.
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Okay, what about, he's perfect, but, but, he's, he's barely been to church.
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Um, if they can't communicate, um, addiction, et cetera.
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Like, and also, I just might come across a bit lousy, but, high body count.
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I think a woman has got, like, excessive sexual past.
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It's kind of hard to, psychologically to, I mean, if she tells me.
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Do you think you can generally tell when a woman, woman has a high body count?
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I just want to, I want to, I want to pin you down.
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Well, it depends how, it depends how old she is.
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I feel like 25, you should have been in a serious range.
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You should have just stayed with someone for a while.
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Yeah, that's the most common answer I get from guys.
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I feel like the same way, like, all right, women will give me a number for income,
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I feel like when men say 10, they really mean 15.
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It's just I feel like women with high body count kind of like, because I'm a guy,
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and I'm thinking even me as a man, in fact, so many flashbacks got to deal with.
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How do you even, like, even if you find a person for you, like your soulmate,
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you still got to deal with all the sexual encounters you've actually been through,
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all the experiences, all the sobering, all the connection you've had with so many different people.
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You could be with them because you like them, but there's still so many things dragging you around.
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Okay, so if he was a loser or the best guy ever.
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I mean, I think I'd rather Drake, because to me, that's like, oh, shit.
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Yeah, I feel like, yeah, but if he's a loser, then I feel like.
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Yeah, I mean, better, I mean, yeah, better someone as, I feel like, okay, cool.
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Like, hey, you're short rather than some gal thinking you didn't have any self-value.
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The type of gal that's going to sleep with Drake is, like, I mean.
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She slept with three guys, and one of them is Drake.
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I mean, I think most guys will take three, though.
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They're like, all right, that's, like, damn near, that's damn near a virgin nowadays.
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Actually, I think it depends on what relationship she had with Drake, though.
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If she didn't date Drake, then she's cancelled excommunicado.
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There are some girls dating uncle, whatever, anyone can hit it.
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To me, it doesn't matter if she was Drake, stylist, or whatever she was.
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The point is, like, if she's a girl that has ever slept with a guy for money or clout or any of that crap,
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it doesn't matter if it's Drake or if it's, like, uncle down the road.
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Yeah, but what I'm saying is, if she is 30, well, let's say 25, and the body count is free,
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and one of them guys with Drake, personally, I would not trip about that.
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Yeah, I get what you're saying, but I'm saying...
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I'm saying if she was the type of girl that was, like, a groupie, bruv.
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But if she's a groupie, then I'm sure her body count would be higher,
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because Drake's not the only celebrity, so that means she does smash some of her celebrities as well.
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So I guess, to me, the body count is what I'm looking at.
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If it's free and Drake's in there, probably Drake probably saw their dreams.
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Am I the only person in the world who doesn't know who Drake is?
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Not everyone is in the life that everyone thinks that everyone's in.
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I don't really like people that are not really.
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Um, in terms of career, I'm not really bothered as long as you, like.
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Like, I would say all right then to correct what I'm saying then.
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Yeah, like someone who has literally no communication skills.
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Yeah, because if you can communicate then you can work problems out.
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So he's 300 pounds, 5'4", but he can communicate.
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Um, I, I'm just asking, like, what are your deal breakers?
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What's with the, okay, you guys just, you just changed abusive to aggressive.
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Um, I don't know, just so long as you can, like, feed yourself, clothe yourself, run a
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Like, oh no, I'm not really that hooked up in money.
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I'm not gonna really, like, date a guy because of what he's got, because I can look after
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But, but we all agree, there's, there's a number that's too low.
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Like, 12, like, 10 pounds an hour, are you dating?
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What if that's all the job that he can do and he gets 10 pounds an hour?
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At least he's trying, like, why not a man that's trying?
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Some guys, that's probably the only job that he can get.
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Oh, okay, if that's what you want to date, I'm just asking.
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I'm not saying that's a guy with a date, but what if there's guys out there, like, that
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But we're not, we're not talking about the exception, we're talking about the rule.
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So I'm asking, on average, how much does a guy...
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Unemployable is not really desirable, though, is it really?
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I'm not shaming anyone for wanting a man with a job.
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I'm not really bothered about what a guy earns.
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So unemployed, there's a homeless shelter down the street.
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I actually think women really don't care about money, like, in the way that a lot of men think.
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The reality is women just care about shiny things.
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So if a man is able to present that facade of, oh, I have shiny things, I can do this,
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And they really don't understand the concept of, okay, money here, and you need to use it
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Obviously, when it comes to them and buying their things, they understand money.
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But when it comes to men, it's all about the shiny things.
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I think women just want security, not the shiny things.
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Maybe the shiny things might symbolize that, okay, he has money,
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but what they want actually is someone who will give them security.
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I'm not talking about what they, I'm talking about what they actually respond to in real life.
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Look, a wise man once said, don't listen to what women say.
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So a woman can come and tell you, oh, yeah, I love this.
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What I'm saying is, in a nutshell, it's not the flashy things that you're attracted to.
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It's just the skew to the thing that the flashy things may bring.
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Because I've met some women who actually don't like guys who are flashy,
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No, but even, I would argue that even the guys that you claim are not flashy,
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they are still flashy in the ways women would respond to in terms of their status.
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I think the word shiny kind of took me over, but you just mean just credible.
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I mean, I'm a philosopher at the end of the day.
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Yeah, I get what you're saying, but I still feel like women are attracted to security.
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It's just like you said, it's just in a biological nature to draw to these things.
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All right, then, direct to the point, then, I would say, like, if you're going to have
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a household, at least 25K, because that's what it takes to run a house.
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My third deal breaker is not passing my interrogation process.
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Oh, that's what you, you, you had, you wanted to do an interrogation show, didn't you?
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I have my personal five questions that I ask to actually use in my own day and life.
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My five questions are, the first one is, do you drive?
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Do you drive, um, do you have any past traumas?
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And if so, and what are you doing to resolve them?
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Is this like a, is this a problem that we run into?
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Well, that's a trick question you see, because if they actually say they have a baby mother,
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If they don't respond to the question as my child's mother, then I understand what the dynamic
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So if he says he's a plumber, no other, he's one stream of income.
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And if he said three, then I know I have a bonus there.
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If he says one or two, then I just understand his work effort and where he would like to go.
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The last question that I normally ask is, what is a male's purpose in four words?
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And these questions, it sounds very military as I'm saying it, but I slide in the conversation.
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You think men want to be questioned about their past trauma?
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It's how they respond to the question, actually.
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Because I was raised by my grandparents and kind of a lot, like being raised by my mum,
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And actually, I will urge every guy out there to...
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You know, disruption with your parents, whether your father or mum, just deal with it.
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You just have to deal with it and love them and receive the love that it gives you.
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The way how he answered gave me a lot of information about him.
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And it also let me know that he actually did...
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He has a past trauma and he actually done something to resolve it.
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And the fact that he actually did something rather than sit down and feel safe for himself,
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So protect, provide, bear children, so reproduce, and to live his dreams.
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So whatever gift that God has given you, you have to make sure that you manifest that
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in life before you die, before you leave this planet.
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So whatever gift that he's got is to bring it into fruition.
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So if you can put that in one word, what would that one word be?
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Protect and provide is definitely the two words.
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Again, like I said, there isn't any wrong or right answers, but the four words that I'm
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looking for is protect, provide, hunt, and lead.
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You're actually not the first girl that's come on the show and said she wants a guy to
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But modern daily, obviously, we don't do hunting.
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We're living in, like you said, London, 21st century.
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So, a man's hunting now is going to Sainsbury's and buying the food or providing the money
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But obviously, you can't go and shoot a deer or whatever.
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So, you have to go to Sainsbury's and buy steak.
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These questions, would these be like a red flag or a green flag?
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But then if I'm not really on that kind of vibe...
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Because when it comes to relationships, the same way women expect men to be tactful about
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how they approach them, how they ask them certain questions, I expect a woman of intelligence
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You can't just be asking me direct questions as if we're like in an interrogation.
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Yeah, but she said she doesn't do it like how she said it.
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Yeah, those five questions last within a two-hour conversation.
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You won't even realise I'm asking you these questions for that purpose.
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But what I'm saying is if you deliver it exactly the way you delivered it, it's just
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And anyone would turn off and not even answer that, to be honest, of course.
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Well, to be supportive, I think, and encouraging, and kind, and respectful, and give men a lot
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of what they need, as long as it isn't insane and ridiculous.
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But I think I work as a dominatrix, and I think too often wives fail to do that, and
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men come to me for things that women should often be providing themselves.
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And I think one thing I've always heard from sex workers is a lot of times men seek out
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sex workers because their wives are not sleeping with them.
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Or just listening to them, actually, or just respecting them.
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I had a man recently pay me so he could cry in my arms because their son had just died,
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and his wife just wasn't providing any emotional support.
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Or they just really want their wives to wear stockings, and I don't think that's really
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Yeah, I don't sleep with men, so I'm not entirely confident on that.
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He doesn't think spanking's sexy at all, so he's fine.
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It's just you kind of live in your own little world.
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I'm not married, so does my opinion really count?
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I mean, the question is, does the average chick know the role of a wife?
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My mum, she cooks, she cleans, she loves, she supports, she fends for her kids, she goes with her instincts, womanly instincts.
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I don't know if everyone's got them, but she is amazing.
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And my dad is still there, still there supporting her, and she's still there supporting him.
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So what I've seen her do over all these years, because there was together, well, from before I was born, they're in their 50s now.
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Her just, even the business, they've opened up a business, they've got teamwork now.
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It's just, it's all about building, she's built with her partner and her partner, my dad, she's built him together.
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Yeah, like together, like they build each other.
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So you think your role in marriage is to be an equal, a teammate?
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Well, I just feel like they've still been right, they're happy, they've been going on.
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Obviously, I'm not going to go into my deep detail of my life and my family, but this is just my opinion.
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I'm not married, I've just seen what she's done.
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And as a wife, they're still happy, boy, still together, still riding it.
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To be the husband's helper, to love, respect, and to submit to him, like he is the leader.
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And to just nurture the home, make a home, make a house a home, yeah.
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Yeah, I would say to love and support, be respectful, and to listen.
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Yeah, I think that's pretty much, and yeah, be able to just give him what he won't be looking in other women for.
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I would say exactly what she said, actually, but that's kind of biblical.
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All the things that she said, the lady over there, I don't really know her name.
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Yeah, definitely, you know, to be a helper, to respect, you know, commit in terms of paying your role as a wife.
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Okay, so that would be to nurture, to reproduce.
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Two other elements, I'll say, to heal the sick and to feed the hunger.
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And to contribute towards the legacy that the man's trying to obtain or maintain.
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Should you obey your husband, point blank, period?
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You mean just say yes to everything they say, basically.
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Submit to the authority of someone or comply with.
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Should you obey your husband, point blank, period?
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She's like, I want to, I know the, I know the right answer, but I don't want to say it.
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I think there's certain things you should just completely agree with and other things
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There's certain things, yes, but you will say no to something.
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I would say, yes, you should obey, but only obey if he himself moves with God's principles.
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Then, yeah, you should obey, because I think, me personally, I obey God alone.
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So if he moves with God's principles, then, yeah, I think you should obey.
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I think it will lead you both into an unselfish way to be both in, then it should reap the benefits
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So, yeah, if he's got God's principles, then, yeah, you should obey.
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I agree with the last bit, what he just said, and I believe, yes, so long as it's not detrimental
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I would say if it's beneficial to both parties, yes.
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How do you determine what's beneficial to both parties?
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When your boss asks you to do something, do you say if it's beneficial to both parties?
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To a boss, it will be beneficial to do it, because if not, you'd be fired, then you have
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to look at the consequences of being fired, or having the consequences of you having a
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rocky relationship with your boss now saying that you don't want to comply.
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So why will women submit to a boss, but not their husband?
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Yeah, so my question is, why will we submit to a boss, but we have to say, oh, well, what's
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We shouldn't be at home thinking that this is work.
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I mean, it depends what you believe marriage is.
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Because you seem to have more of an egalitarian model of marriage, which is really common where
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Like, I think that you should listen to the men.
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No, but I just think you can look at what works in history.
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And it's literally like the egalitarian model has never worked.
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Let's look at, so basically, feminism, when did it start?
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And that's when you start seeing in the media that men are abusers.
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You start seeing these propaganda campaigns where it's like, we're 50-50.
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And so, it's like, the further, the more closer it's been to an egalitarian model, then the
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less from a submissive, like, authority structure, the more divorce rates have gone up, the less
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children we've had, the less relationships have formed.
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It was just really hard to get a divorce before, wasn't it?
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I mean, yeah, because I think today what we have, it's not marriage.
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You know, it's like basically being a relationship.
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Yeah, I don't think, I think once you're married, that's it.
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Yeah, unless it's, again, the whole abuse word, then I don't think there's anything, even
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I do feel like, if that's your husband, then that's who you've married.
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Yeah, I mean, women are the biggest cheaters in 2023.
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How many women we see have ass pictures on Instagram, being in happy, healthy relationships?
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What do you need to post a picture of your butt on Instagram for when you have a husband?
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What kind of butt, like, you know, just out here, just showing their nipples and underwear?
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What do you, I mean, yeah, outside, but like, what are you posting it online for?
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And also, let's talk about, let's talk about women.
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It's like, we're like, oh, cheating is the worst thing that could ever happen to us.
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Well, I mean, are you a virgin on your wedding day?
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So it's like, maybe we should get off our high horses.
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So then the women are like, oh, cheating is the worst thing ever.
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Like, when men are programmed to just screw random chicks.
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Look, look, I mean, I don't wish to be cheated on.
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I think that it's silly to throw away a marriage when you have children for your own personal
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feelings, because I think once you have a child, it's not about you anymore.
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You're going to ride because there's kids involved.
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What if it's consistently, the man don't respect you at all, and he's giving his good, fresh
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All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all I want, how did women, how did
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The highest, the best guy in the tribe, we'd pull up our skirts and be like, look, take
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So I think that sex is to men like attention is to women.
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And I think if we're going to go off this logic, we've never cheated, none of us have
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flirted with another guy in a relationship, none of us have posted a provocative picture.
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I just think like, maybe we should come with a little bit of humility, that it's not like
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the end of the world if he sleeps with another person and it can be worked through.
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What about all that loyalty that you've given that man, that love, that energy, and then
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they're just giving that good, good body to someone else?
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Did we know that on our wedding night, we were supposed to be virgins?
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It's not to say it's okay, but it's like, where is the humility?
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Yeah, but you've got to throw all that virgin talk in the bin right now.
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We need to get back to the fact that when you're married, are you saying it's all right
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to just completely keep getting consistently cheated on without you feeling affected by
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I wanted her to answer that because I'm not asking questions for no reason now.
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Wouldn't you feel a little bit upset like he's been doing?
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Sorry, I'm just going to finish what I'm saying because I was just saying something.
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I wanted to know, wouldn't you feel like that's a little bit, sorry.
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I'm going to, you idiot, look at, look at, it's not, it's not the valid point.
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I know, but he's allowed to do, it's not your show.
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I'm going to, I'm going to let him go and then you can go.
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You can laugh all you want, but here's the thing about it.
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The reality is a man that is going to be cheating on you consistently is one of two things.
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Either he has always been a cheat and you knew and you decided to get married to him, which
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So if he just started cheating out of the blue and he does it consistently, maybe you
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Because that's what we always ask when a woman cheats or what did the man do?
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Yeah, but I think a lot of times as women, we just think we're the hot shit.
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And I just think we could use a little bit of humility and understanding.
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Men are, men are, look at, if, what if men left us every time we sought attention from
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Because how did we, like, to me, those are the same.
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Seeking attention from another guy is the same as getting sex from another girl.
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It's something that is hard for anyone to really get over.
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Like, how often do women go out in provocative clothes in a relationship?
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How often do women go out to a club in a relationship?
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My whole point is, men are programmed to sleep with anything.
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And, you know, I just think it's about the kids.
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Regardless, even if you think that you're doing the best thing.
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But it's not something that every woman can accept.
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Wouldn't it be easier to just, this is how I think about it.
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It would be so much easier to just accept being here.
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Wouldn't it be easier to just accept it might happen?
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Because otherwise you're going to be at his phone, checking where he's doing.
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I feel like within the first year of a relationship, a man is tempted to cheat.
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Just to make sure that that girl is the girl that he wants to be with.
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But that's just my mentality of thinking of the relationship-wise.
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Sometimes, I always feel like it happens within the first year.
00:36:05.860
And if it happens after the first year, yeah, there's something wrong with the woman.
00:36:08.840
There's something wrong within the relationship.
00:36:12.080
I just think sometimes when like a hoe is there and willing.
00:36:22.640
I mean, I wouldn't say if a man cheats, then there's something wrong with a woman.
00:36:25.900
Sometimes men cheat because they're just depressed.
00:36:29.000
Yeah, I mean, some men cheat because they just don't feel, they don't see any value.
00:36:33.860
But then would you not class that as something, as the woman is not giving him?
00:36:37.400
Because why is your man depressed and you don't know your man is depressed and you can't help him for it?
00:36:40.680
Have you ever flirted with another guy in a relationship while you're in a relationship?
00:36:45.700
Well, from when you're saying that putting certain pictures up is basically cheating, then I would have to say yeah.
00:36:56.740
I would have to say yeah, because obviously if I'm seeking attention, then it means I'm not getting attention from my mom.
00:37:05.160
I wouldn't say it's a get back, but it's something that we crave as women.
00:37:11.140
If you're in a relationship, it's something that your man should be giving you anyway.
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And if he's not giving it to you, you're going to seek it elsewhere.
00:37:16.360
Do you think men should break up with women that do that?
00:37:23.160
Because I think if your woman cheats on you, to me, it's done.
00:37:27.160
But again, it depends on her definition of cheating.
00:37:31.180
If it's like sexual, if she has sex with another man.
00:37:42.320
I can work out a picture, but I can't work out having sex with another man.
00:37:52.260
It's always very weird because if you think about it, if your woman is doing something
00:37:57.480
that is affecting the relationship and you ask her to stop and she doesn't stop it immediately,
00:38:06.940
I think some people have been doing that since they were like 14.
00:38:10.700
It's not even like they're doing it for attention anymore.
00:38:18.480
Yeah, it's become something that they've been doing all their lives.
00:38:32.400
I think this is, yeah, this is, this is, no, no.
00:38:37.160
I think women like got into therapy to like control men.
00:38:44.320
Yeah, and I think the women will send the men to therapy to just confuse them.
00:38:49.880
I'm sure there's like maybe it helped you personally.
00:38:55.020
Well, I'm not, again, I'm not talking about you.
00:38:57.240
But I think in general, when I hear the word trauma, when I hear the word therapy, I'm like red flag.
00:39:07.280
I think women should, or men really shouldn't get like advice and like guidance from women.
00:39:12.620
But I mean, that's your wife or your girlfriend's job.
00:39:17.460
No, I think the women should be guided by the men.
00:39:20.980
I think like that goes back to the we're equal model.
00:39:28.380
I think like, because the thing is that what they would do, and this happens in a lot of Christian like churches as they infiltrated the churches in the early, the late 1800s, early 1900s, and basically like weaponized scripture and like rewrote scripture to like go towards a more egalitarian model.
00:39:46.060
That's why they'll be like submit to each other, all that bullshit.
00:39:49.800
But you know what, I went to Ghana, I was in Ghana holiday and actually found out the Ashanti tribe, actually the queen, like the king has to go to the queen for advice.
00:39:59.080
So they make sure that the queen is older than the king and actually they have to be related.
00:40:02.860
So in Ashanti tribe, your wife can't be your queen.
00:40:05.220
It has to be your older sister or your auntie, someone that you can actually take advice from.
00:40:11.300
Do you think tribes like that, like typically have stood the test of time across the world?
00:40:19.800
With their habitat and how their cultural maneuvers help them, I mean, they still, they're still functioning.
00:40:24.940
No, no, I'm saying like, like, do you think it's common for female-led societies to stand the test?
00:40:35.460
Like if, let's say another tribe came to invade, he, the king doesn't take advice from anyone but the queen.
00:40:41.820
But the queen is older than the king, so they've lived longer.
00:40:44.060
And I guess they have more, I don't know, what women have, special stuff that women may embody that men wouldn't be.
00:40:55.800
So if the king has like, if there's an invasion, the king doesn't consult his generals.
00:41:02.420
He does consult with generals, but to make certain moves, the only person that can, that he goes to in private is the queen.
00:41:11.480
I think he just goes to, in private, to go and sleep with her, bro.
00:41:18.300
You can't, your wife is no, your wife is no queen if you are a king in the Ashanti tribe.
00:41:31.740
I just, I just know typically tribes that get wisdom from women haven't stood the test of time.
00:41:42.600
But what I'm trying to say is we've seen women tear down kingdoms.
00:41:46.440
If they were not smart there, then they wouldn't be able to manipulate kings to kill each other.
00:41:50.080
If you go back to Asian days, you've got women actually finesse, maneuvering and literally ruling kingdoms.
00:42:00.040
I'm not going to kill each other over anything, bro.
00:42:03.960
Men will kill each other over, oh, I want this piece of land.
00:42:15.140
Men invade kingdoms just to go and steal iron, just to go and steal stone.
00:42:24.040
I get what you're saying, but what I'm saying is that, though, you can't say you can't seek advice from your wife.
00:42:29.960
I think if you trust her, that's why you picked her to be your wife, then you should be able to, in comfort, consult with her.
00:42:40.000
She said you shouldn't, she said you shouldn't get advice from your wife.
00:42:43.360
And I'm saying that, you picked her to be a wife for a reason.
00:42:45.540
So whatever that reason is, you should be able to go to her like, listen, I want to run the spy quickly.
00:42:50.660
I just think of a boss, like employee relationship.
00:42:55.840
But it's still like, is your boss really coming to you like that?
00:43:01.500
No, but your partner is not necessarily your employee, I don't think.
00:43:05.420
Well, when you say partner, that's an egalitarian model.
00:43:12.040
Because what does partner, like, what does that symbolize?
00:43:20.340
Look, I think that's a big, I think there's a difference between being even and being equal.
00:43:25.360
I think the men should be superior and the women are below them.
00:43:28.800
I mean, that could work, but they have to be, they have to be even.
00:43:42.020
They're all different sizes, but they're all equally respective.
00:43:46.260
Someone came and said, which finger would you want to lose?
00:43:58.520
I think relationships where you're keeping score just don't work.
00:44:09.580
Even a relationship would be, okay, for example, if I go outside and I hunt, you know, I go out there to hunt.
00:44:17.240
I expect my wife to have made something, cooked something.
00:44:30.280
Because, like, for example, I mean, in 1800, they got eight kids.
00:44:35.700
So isn't that, like, because isn't that the one thing we do?
00:44:44.320
I suppose some guys who don't really care about kids, you know?
00:44:46.740
But, like, there's some guys who really are also in some different vibe.
00:44:51.880
But I know some guys are like, nah, bro, it's not for me.
00:44:54.300
Well, I think when the government, you know, takes your kids from you and gives them to the woman, it's like a tough.
00:44:59.820
But I'm saying in general, wouldn't it just be, like, if we're going to go off of even, like, for example, the average man makes more than the average woman, but the average woman's fatter than the average man.
00:45:12.620
We're going to go, like, it starts with looks, right?
00:45:16.740
If you look at the severe obesity stats, it's like women are, like, double.
00:45:23.240
I'm just saying that, you know, respect can be evenly shared across, but you don't have to be equal.
00:45:27.640
Also, I think we've been going at the women, really, but the reality is, in truth, it's not just the women that have this issue.
00:45:36.740
Men today don't even know what they are meant to be doing in a marriage, and that's the fact.
00:45:41.500
The truth is, the reason why gender roles work is because when a woman is taking care of the kid, building the home, that should be her primary focus.
00:45:51.000
How can she do that and still be making decisions for the family?
00:45:56.300
The man is meant to protect, provide, and come with the decision-making.
00:46:05.480
I'm just making a general point on what is happening in society today.
00:46:08.580
So it's not just the women that have the problem.
00:46:10.600
Women, obviously, don't want to play their part to a large extent.
00:46:14.780
There are still very good women out there, but to a large extent, women are, like, trying to be men.
00:46:21.300
But it plays with the traditional part of it, where marriage is meant to be traditional, and most women these days are not traditional.
00:46:28.960
Yeah, but it's just interesting, because when we talk about, like, women making decisions, like, this wasn't even argued about 100 years ago.
00:46:37.420
The traditional part of it, marriage is meant to be traditional, but the majority of women these days are not traditional.
00:46:43.560
I'm going to read Super Chats for a second, and then I'm going to go to the next one.
00:46:47.660
Also, guys, I've been tweeting where you can submit questions for the panel on Twitter.
00:46:56.520
I say, I always put the title of the show, so make sure you follow my Twitter or Super Chats.
00:47:04.280
According to NOP 2017, of men who cheat, 56% are one-time cheaters, 28.5% cheat twice, and 15% are serial cheaters.
00:47:33.320
It is something where they may have cheated once, and then they build up something in
00:47:37.540
their mind that every time they go out, they're cheating, and therefore, they're serial cheaters.
00:47:46.220
I think that's why social media messes us up so much.
00:47:49.080
Like, I don't think we're meant to deal with that many problems.
00:47:52.120
Like, I think that's why we get, like, the abuse.
00:47:56.980
Yeah, because it's just, like, in our ear all the time.
00:47:59.360
Okay, Horace Davis, cheating means breaking rules to achieve a goal.
00:48:05.040
A woman's body changes for a man, where a man is the same or better with many sex partners.
00:48:14.700
C. Matherson, these women need to get used to sharing a man because, to be honest, most average men won't have anything to do with them.
00:48:25.760
They will listen to what they feel like, fight you when they don't, and undermine you for not leading the way they would.
00:48:39.600
Anyway, let me not even say what I was going to say.
00:49:00.100
Boundless Guardian, no real men are going to put their hand on women.
00:49:03.720
Full stop, there's no good reason for a man to hit a woman regardless of what she says or does.
00:49:08.720
Men and women are different, and we can't hold them until the same standard.
00:49:11.900
I would agree if, if I would actually 100% agree with that, if we admitted that men and women are not equal and men are superior.
00:49:22.780
But I think as long as the laws and society are treating us as equals, it's equal rights, equal lefts.
00:49:31.000
Lil Uzi, women will cry about men abusing women, but won't go to the police, but will go online and tell everybody else to make them handle it.
00:49:44.340
She's getting shot or destroying the man's life.
00:49:47.180
Matt Butcher, guys, go ahead and bust your ass to provide and see it go unappreciated.
00:49:51.700
The more you ask, the more you provide, the more they want.
00:49:57.660
Matt Butcher, guys, go ahead and bust your ass to, oh, you said the same thing twice.
00:50:03.160
Claire, interrogation questions are great until she gets mad.
00:50:06.900
Then your vulnerability will be thrown in your face and used to insult you.
00:50:12.020
Math time, 23.5% of divorces include a claim of abuse.
00:50:32.560
That includes the expanded definition and false claims.
00:50:37.160
Matherson, it's not, it is entirely not okay that most women are not virgins.
00:50:44.520
We are afraid of women, but we must protect ourselves from accusations.
00:50:48.500
When she is mad and our lives are destroyed, if they could be crushed by an accusation alone,
00:50:58.800
Matherson, Pearl, ask the women how much more they expect men to take in the age of promiscuity.
00:51:10.140
Kanye has to pay billionaire Kim Kardashian $200K a month in child support.
00:51:16.280
A woman's career is for herself and to remain independent.
00:51:19.460
Matt Butcher, thank you for putting male and female relationships back on track that the rest of nature follows intuitively.
00:51:31.640
Matherson, your personalities are not attractive.
00:51:40.080
Matherson, they expect us to be okay with an old, ran-through, overweight street woman.
00:51:49.540
Matherson, women expect traditional men like our grandfathers while giving us Lena the plug results.
00:51:57.060
Therese, kind modern women bring other men's kids.
00:52:04.060
My 21-year-old brings peace, sex, loyal—oh, I read that one yesterday.
00:52:14.220
That is the most important metric that YouTube uses to push out these streams.
00:52:19.240
Bro, Horace Davis, Pearl, your thought process is sexy.
00:52:28.120
JMD749, tell the guy in the baby blue hat that the thumb is king.
00:52:32.460
You cannot hide any tools and do anything without it.
00:53:03.300
You know, I make a very good living from a lot of men who do seem to really enjoy what
00:53:43.420
When do you notice a woman's looks start to fade?
00:54:10.300
There's some people that just, you know, like, don't crack.
00:54:28.780
So I'd just say, okay, so 25 for white women, 45 for black women.
00:54:52.160
When do you first notice a woman starts to age?
00:54:59.400
Remember, remember, just in general, the average chick.
00:55:02.060
Well, if you're a woman and you don't take care of your body and you don't eat good food
00:55:05.800
and you go through drinking and all kind of things, then you're not gonna look good.
00:55:09.380
But then you could be an older woman and you eat good food, you use good cream, you have no stress,
00:55:17.860
I've seen some women, and they're younger than probably, like, some of my peers or et cetera,
00:55:24.500
Like, sometimes I see 20-year-olds, yeah, and they look like they're 40, 50.
00:55:33.360
What age do women generally start to look older?
00:56:00.660
I have never confused a 45-year-old with a 25-year-old in my life.
00:56:05.160
But if you put a 25-year-old Caucasian against a 45-year-old black woman, more times so,
00:56:16.740
The problem with that logic is you're comparing...
00:56:24.200
The problem with that logic is you're comparing two different women.
00:56:27.500
That particular woman, does she look younger at 45 or when she herself was 25?
00:56:37.580
So that means there's a point where she starts to age.
00:56:41.100
It doesn't matter if relative to other women, it's different.