JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023


Modern Woman Gets A Reality Check


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12 minutes

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2,665

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274

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24

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In this episode, we discuss the differences between men and women in society and in society in general. We also talk about the difference between women and men in the military and society, and how men are better leaders than women.

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00:00:00.000 And I think, I honestly think like women have subtle misandry that we just don't see every day. 1.00
00:00:05.140 And I, you know, I'm not even going to say I've never said anything like anything like that.
00:00:08.160 You know, like we hear like men are trash, men are the problem. 1.00
00:00:10.820 But if a guy goes on social media and says women are whores, they're looked down upon.
00:00:15.460 Even if that's more true, when you think about it, because women 100 years ago, only 15% admitted to having premarital sex.
00:00:24.140 Yeah, to now where what percent of women are virgins on their wedding night. 1.00
00:00:28.220 So if you look at the difference in women, like women are, that's kind of just a fact in general. 0.94
00:00:32.180 Right.
00:00:32.900 But men are shamed for saying that.
00:00:34.960 But women can say men are trash, men are the problem, men are this, men are that.
00:00:38.840 Yeah.
00:00:39.080 Short end is sick again.
00:00:40.060 When you can't, you can't, it's just society.
00:00:42.520 And then men can't really, you're getting bashed left, right and center.
00:00:45.460 Yeah.
00:00:47.140 It's true though. 0.96
00:00:47.980 Women do run a lot of, you know, the society and the setup. 1.00
00:00:52.660 But maybe that is the right thing.
00:00:55.100 Maybe that is the best way.
00:00:56.080 I don't know.
00:00:56.620 We never know, innit?
00:00:57.380 Do you think that is men meant to have power over women?
00:00:59.140 I don't think it's the best way.
00:00:59.960 I don't think it's the best way.
00:01:00.100 I think men meant to have power over women. 0.98
00:01:01.480 I don't think it's the best way.
00:01:01.900 Why would you say that?
00:01:02.540 I just feel like, I don't know, like, I think that's, in my head, that's how it's been planted.
00:01:07.780 Years ago, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:08.620 Yeah, yeah, years ago, yeah.
00:01:09.660 You know why?
00:01:10.420 Because it's natural.
00:01:12.180 Again, what's happened from my viewpoint in society, things are veered away from just naturalness,
00:01:19.340 you know what I'm saying?
00:01:19.700 And just in general, people veered away from nature.
00:01:23.240 Nature teaches a lot of people, like, how things are.
00:01:26.360 And just naturally, men are leaders.
00:01:28.600 Naturally, men are stronger than women. 1.00
00:01:29.660 I think equal, but different.
00:01:32.420 But in life, nothing's equal.
00:01:34.920 I don't think it's going to be equal, though.
00:01:36.100 No one's equal in life.
00:01:37.900 Nothing's actually equal.
00:01:38.940 And again, it's accepting that.
00:01:40.600 It's accepting that.
00:01:42.000 I really disagree.
00:01:43.020 I do think men and women are completely equal.
00:01:45.060 It's just there's different qualities.
00:01:46.740 But men are naturally more leader.
00:01:48.400 How would you say they're equal?
00:01:49.160 Different qualities.
00:01:50.460 But equal is equal.
00:01:52.280 Equals 50-50.
00:01:53.040 So how would you say equal?
00:01:54.120 But what do you mean by equal?
00:01:55.160 Equal in what?
00:01:55.680 In running society?
00:01:56.740 Equal just in, like, respect for each other and, like, what we bring, what we all bring to the table.
00:02:03.380 It's just different.
00:02:04.020 So I would disagree when it comes to running society.
00:02:06.900 So in a society, we need men more, like, I'm not talking about, like, women need to raise the family, right? 1.00
00:02:12.800 But you also need men.
00:02:14.080 So we, like, because we've seen what happens when fathers aren't in the home.
00:02:16.400 So men and women are equally, I think, needed in the family.
00:02:19.800 But when it comes to running a society, most of the jobs that run the infrastructure of society, so, like, the policemen, the power lines, the, like, all the things, women's jobs could go away tomorrow, society would still run. 1.00
00:02:32.620 Because, you know, what women are construction workers? 1.00
00:02:35.300 If women are in construction, they're, like, in management or some bullshit job that we don't really need. 1.00
00:02:40.420 Let's just be honest.
00:02:41.460 Like, where men are the ones doing the hard, like, the hard jobs, the street sweepers, the sewage, like, all the stuff that, like, if went out tomorrow, society would not run.
00:02:52.840 Yeah.
00:02:53.380 I think about, even in the army, think about when shit is a fan, like, you're not going to send a woman on the front line to go fight for your country.
00:02:59.360 A man's going to be on the front line fighting, defending for his country.
00:03:02.120 Do you know what I'm saying, dude?
00:03:03.240 So, yeah.
00:03:03.640 That's the thing, like, there's nothing wrong with accepting that men and women are not equal.
00:03:10.260 And that's just it.
00:03:11.560 I would say more not the same, but they're equal.
00:03:14.440 But not the same is the same.
00:03:16.000 It's the same.
00:03:16.520 Equal and not the same.
00:03:17.800 So, I mean, equal as in, like, they're both, like, equally as worthy and, like, have equally important parts, but they're just different?
00:03:23.640 Well, I mean.
00:03:24.780 I see what you're saying.
00:03:25.280 But I guess important in what?
00:03:28.100 Yeah, that's what I'm saying, because what Pearlie just said, that example is a good example.
00:03:32.160 Like, if women, I never thought of that before, but it's a very good example.
00:03:37.280 So, they're not really equal in that respect there.
00:03:40.900 I mean, and I don't know where you could say that they are equal.
00:03:43.720 But it'd be a good question to ask.
00:03:45.720 I would say equal but different.
00:03:47.360 Like, obviously.
00:03:48.260 Different's different and equal's equal.
00:03:50.100 But I would say definitely equal.
00:03:51.980 I mean, I would.
00:03:52.740 But how?
00:03:53.160 I mean, women bring men in, women bring people into the world. 0.98
00:03:57.460 Like, we give birth to girls.
00:03:58.060 Men don't do that. 0.99
00:03:58.960 So, we're not equal in that respect.
00:04:00.320 Because men can't bring. 1.00
00:04:00.960 But when it comes to reproduction, you need.
00:04:03.120 I think we mean the same thing.
00:04:05.040 But we're getting a bit confused.
00:04:06.520 But I think the difference is, like, in running a family, like, in having a kid, like, women give birth, yes, but men have to impregnate her. 0.82
00:04:13.980 And when you think about it, like, women can only give birth to, like, one kid at a time. 0.97
00:04:18.420 Or men can impregnate, like, multiple women at a time.
00:04:20.700 So, when you think about it, like, in society, no.
00:04:24.560 No, I'm not going to die on that hill.
00:04:25.960 Never mind.
00:04:26.740 But you see, when it comes to, like, the way society runs, like, women need men more than men need women. 0.99
00:04:34.500 We need more of you talking.
00:04:36.500 100%.
00:04:36.860 100%.
00:04:36.940 We don't hear that enough.
00:04:39.380 Yeah.
00:04:39.760 Not in the UK.
00:04:40.440 Not in the UK.
00:04:41.540 You get me?
00:04:41.940 No, but the question is why.
00:04:43.500 Like, why don't we hear that enough?
00:04:44.840 And the thing is, like, I genuinely think society's been brainwashed to, like, think that we don't need men.
00:04:50.320 Like, why do we even have IVF?
00:04:51.760 Why is that even an option?
00:04:53.380 Like, why are women going to, like, to volunteer to be a single mother? 1.00
00:04:58.680 Yeah.
00:04:59.040 That's meant.
00:04:59.940 Think about it.
00:05:00.280 They're paying to be a single mother if they don't find a guy in time. 1.00
00:05:03.060 That's true.
00:05:03.480 Yeah.
00:05:03.720 But can't IVF be for medical reasons?
00:05:07.240 Yeah, no, it can.
00:05:08.880 But even, is that the greatest idea?
00:05:11.360 Exactly.
00:05:11.980 Yeah, probably not.
00:05:12.580 And it fails most of the time.
00:05:14.960 That's the other thing is, like, again, we don't really talk about the real numbers when it comes to fertility.
00:05:19.780 Like, 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
00:05:22.000 So if you don't have a kid by 30, like, you have a leftist than, if you're not in a relationship, you have a less than 50% chance of having a kid.
00:05:27.340 So you're more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:05:29.520 But we tell women, oh, wait, wait, wait, you're fine. 0.99
00:05:32.440 When it's, like, really, I mean, you're on crunch time.
00:05:35.940 And that's right.
00:05:36.700 The IVF and stuff, and it goes back to this thing I was saying, it's not actually natural.
00:05:41.740 Yeah, yeah, it's not.
00:05:43.580 Naturally, if, let's just say, a woman couldn't have a child, that's natural. 1.00
00:05:48.400 That's actually how it happened and what it was.
00:05:50.460 That's actually natural.
00:05:51.620 And you just have to live with it.
00:05:53.320 Again, it's not going to be the nicest scenario.
00:05:54.820 But then again, maybe you've got your nephews or your nieces and stuff like that.
00:05:57.860 So you can still be, like they say, it takes a village to grow a child.
00:06:01.800 So you still put your input in and you understand, but it just so happens that naturally it wasn't, yeah, for you.
00:06:08.340 That's serious, though.
00:06:10.980 Very hard.
00:06:13.160 Again, these things seem harsh, but they're not really.
00:06:17.180 Again, when you just look at it, it's natural.
00:06:18.600 It's life.
00:06:19.000 It's true.
00:06:20.160 It is what it is.
00:06:21.080 But again, when you understand that and accept it.
00:06:23.860 It's just sad, isn't it?
00:06:25.680 That's emotional.
00:06:26.780 No.
00:06:27.060 It's not really even sad.
00:06:28.340 I don't think it's sad.
00:06:29.400 No, it ain't.
00:06:30.900 But you know what?
00:06:31.460 Why is it sad?
00:06:32.420 If anything, we live in a more free society than ever as women.
00:06:35.620 No, I get you, though.
00:06:38.500 Yeah, it is.
00:06:41.660 Let me just save the situation.
00:06:43.940 I get you 100%.
00:06:45.880 That is sad.
00:06:46.420 You're cool.
00:06:46.960 You understand?
00:06:47.540 I agree with you.
00:06:47.620 If you're a woman and you want to have children.
00:06:49.520 Like I said, like I said, it's perception.
00:06:52.100 Yeah?
00:06:52.460 It's because you've got your nieces, you've got your nephews.
00:06:55.080 You've still got children.
00:06:56.780 Yeah.
00:06:57.220 You know what I mean?
00:06:57.680 I grew up a lot with my aunt.
00:06:59.800 You understand?
00:07:00.680 And it's actually weird.
00:07:02.000 I'm not even forwarding, but like free the aunts.
00:07:05.520 I've grown up with, they haven't got children.
00:07:07.700 But I'm like their child.
00:07:08.820 It's like I've almost got four months.
00:07:10.960 You know what I mean?
00:07:11.140 Because they are like.
00:07:12.040 Okay.
00:07:12.580 Yeah.
00:07:12.900 But we're going to have an unprecedented amount of men and women that wanted children that 0.99
00:07:20.140 will not have them.
00:07:21.160 They're predicting 50%.
00:07:22.460 Like 50% of women that hit 30 are single and childless.
00:07:25.640 Remember, geriatric pregnancy starts at 35.
00:07:27.500 I wonder if adoption will go up.
00:07:29.160 What?
00:07:29.440 Because of that adoption and or like bringing in from other countries as well will go up.
00:07:33.040 Um, I, prob, maybe, probably.
00:07:37.560 But again, you know, I've been on both sides of adoption where like my mom gave up a kid
00:07:42.200 for adoption with my dad because my mom and dad got pregnant when my mom was a teenager.
00:07:46.000 She was like young.
00:07:47.060 And so they gave that kid up and then we also adopted three teenagers.
00:07:50.240 Oh, wow.
00:07:50.500 Yeah.
00:07:50.680 Yeah.
00:07:50.840 But that's, it's not good for a kid.
00:07:52.580 Like there's a lot of problems that come with it.
00:07:54.620 Like even if you get them young, remember like most kids develop by the age of three.
00:07:59.200 So it's, it's, and, and the thing is if you don't, cause the issue with adoption, it's
00:08:04.120 actually not hard to get a kid adopted.
00:08:05.880 Like they always talk about these kids in the foster care system.
00:08:08.440 The issue is the mother's weight or the mothers are on drugs or something. 1.00
00:08:11.960 So they take the kids away later and the kids are too messed up.
00:08:15.460 So, and like, who wants like a four year old that's been with a crackhead for four years?
00:08:19.520 Yeah.
00:08:19.660 Natural.
00:08:20.400 Yeah.
00:08:20.660 Same kind of thing.
00:08:22.140 Yeah.
00:08:22.500 Same kind of thing.
00:08:23.420 It's not, when you chase things back, that's how I always go through life.
00:08:27.720 Just thinking natural.
00:08:28.780 What would be the natural way to go around this?
00:08:30.880 What is a natural, how is this done?
00:08:32.660 And then if you kind of stick to that kind of line, you don't go too far along.
00:08:36.540 But it's interesting.
00:08:37.400 Cause like, again, this unprecedented like level, this unprecedented number of people that
00:08:42.520 want children that will not have them is happening because women are in control of reproduction. 1.00
00:08:47.360 I didn't know about the age, um, like when you're 30, you got eggs.
00:08:52.780 I didn't know that.
00:08:53.380 And I actually wanted to wait until I was 30 to have kids.
00:08:56.840 But now that I know this, like you're saying people can't have kids because they find out
00:09:01.320 too late.
00:09:01.780 I literally wouldn't have known if you didn't tell me.
00:09:03.820 Yeah.
00:09:03.980 And the, and the thing is the, um, the women that do IVF, like it mostly fails. 1.00
00:09:08.940 Yeah.
00:09:09.140 That's the other thing they don't say.
00:09:10.040 The majority of women do it, that do it fail. 1.00
00:09:12.080 Yeah.
00:09:12.180 The chances are really bad.
00:09:13.580 Yeah.
00:09:14.100 The good thing is when now you're thinking about this, you have to tell your partner,
00:09:18.280 you know what I'm saying?
00:09:18.960 Including, because again, this is where a lot of the, it goes wrong because women are 1.00
00:09:22.420 in control of this.
00:09:23.400 Now you think, oh, well, I want to have a baby.
00:09:25.280 But, you know what I'm saying?
00:09:25.980 And this is where a lot of mix-ups happen in relationships.
00:09:30.000 Now you want to do it earlier.
00:09:30.980 Yeah.
00:09:31.540 Women want to have the kids. 1.00
00:09:32.780 Man doesn't necessarily want to have the kid.
00:09:34.560 They've had sex, you know what I'm saying? 0.98
00:09:36.440 Without a condom or whatever.
00:09:38.140 She's got pregnant. 1.00
00:09:39.300 He's got no choice in saying whether he, even if, again, it goes both ways.
00:09:43.620 Let's just say he didn't want a child.
00:09:45.640 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:45.880 He can't, there's nothing he can do, basically.
00:09:48.320 And let's just say he does want the child and the woman doesn't want the child. 0.97
00:09:50.660 Again, there's nothing he can do.
00:09:51.680 So again, you get the short end of the stick.
00:09:53.660 It's shabby.
00:09:54.320 So this is where communication is going to be a really big part.
00:09:58.940 But like you said, life ain't fair.
00:10:00.220 Exactly.
00:10:00.560 You said, didn't it?
00:10:01.060 Life ain't fair.
00:10:02.280 I'm going to what you said.
00:10:03.300 No, exactly.
00:10:03.960 Now we're getting to the crux of it.
00:10:06.800 Life isn't fair.
00:10:07.560 So that's why you have to be in control of your emotions.
00:10:09.260 Because if a woman now has a baby for you and it's life not fair, 1.00
00:10:13.200 now what you're going to do?
00:10:14.140 You're going to jump up a bridge.
00:10:14.960 You're going to start crying.
00:10:15.960 You're going to, what are you going to do?
00:10:17.100 You have to hold it.
00:10:18.140 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:18.440 And control your emotions and do what the right thing's going to be.
00:10:21.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:21.820 But you know the screw to what control emotions,
00:10:25.160 that's that top person of men we have to do that.
00:10:27.880 A lot of men can't.
00:10:28.320 That's a bit harsh.
00:10:29.720 Sorry to cut you, brother.
00:10:31.060 When he says control your emotions, yeah,
00:10:33.500 I try to work it out like what he's saying here.
00:10:35.800 Because it's not easy for people who are going through a bad time in life or,
00:10:41.180 do you know what I mean?
00:10:41.620 They're laughing with the greatest.
00:10:43.160 Do you know what I mean?
00:10:43.520 I'm not one of them.
00:10:44.300 I'm cool.
00:10:44.820 But I've seen a lot of people go through hard times and I get messages here and there
00:10:49.200 and whatever.
00:10:49.460 And they can't control their emotions.
00:10:51.620 Do you understand?
00:10:52.440 And the can't's a bad word.
00:10:54.260 Yeah, and they can if they really wanted to.
00:10:56.480 Yeah, and they can.
00:10:56.940 But when you're in a dark hole, bro, explain to me how you do canceling.
00:11:01.600 No.
00:11:02.220 Right.
00:11:03.160 The main thing is fundamentals.
00:11:06.060 Fundamentals, you've got to love yourself.
00:11:07.740 You have to really love yourself.
00:11:09.400 You're a spiritual guy, I can tell.
00:11:10.880 Just from how you're speaking, you are a deeper person.
00:11:14.100 I'm trying to follow the natural root of life.
00:11:16.960 And again, you have to be in tune and in alignment with yourself.
00:11:20.420 Exactly.
00:11:21.100 And you know yourself, just the way you're speaking.
00:11:23.080 But guys, think about this.
00:11:24.200 Think about how soft we are as a society.
00:11:26.100 We live in the most free society ever, the most safe society ever,
00:11:30.240 and yet we have more mental health issues than ever.
00:11:33.360 Think about it.
00:11:33.840 Our ancestors, 10% of them died from murder.
00:11:37.100 Everyone was getting killed.
00:11:38.580 And now it's like they're coming to us and saying,
00:11:40.700 this is what you guys are whining about?
00:11:42.440 There's no wars.
00:11:43.860 There's no, like, but it's crazy because we never put this into perspective
00:11:48.480 because we're just brainwashed.
00:11:49.700 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:11:52.120 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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