JustPearlyThings - August 13, 2023


Modern Woman Gets Caught on Her Game


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

218.89194

Word Count

2,763

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

In this episode, I speak to my ex-boyfriend about all sorts of things and we talk about the things that have happened to him in the past and how he has dealt with them. We also talk about how men are looking for things they don t have in a woman and how to deal with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 so what do you what do you think of that does that change your perspective a little bit um
00:00:05.440 not really kind of not really no okay what does it not change i just still think that um
00:00:12.800 men are looking for things they don't have themselves they look they don't have the
00:00:16.960 minerals for the things that they want in the women so they just pick women based off looks
00:00:20.640 they don't know what they want anyway they think they know what they want but they haven't even got
00:00:24.160 the minerals anyway is it possible that women don't have what they want absolutely right absolutely
00:00:29.840 how would they pick it if the dating pool has like one out of every three women's had an abortion
00:00:34.080 one of every three women has an std um like 38 40 grew up without a dad so they don't have that model
00:00:41.040 like how would they where how would they know yeah how good women is yeah like they've never
00:00:46.480 like what percent of men have like even seen a true traditional woman i don't think yeah do you know any
00:00:51.760 women with like recipe books only only the high only celebrities nice nice too but only like the
00:00:58.880 upper class high celebrity profile people yeah and then these two now okay my whole
00:01:04.800 and my whole family and then when i go there they're like oh so modern you know everyone still
00:01:10.880 cooks the same meals and um but so i'm just curious like when you're hearing these stats like assuming i'm
00:01:17.520 telling you the truth you don't think like it puts more of the promiscuity on women because we're only
00:01:22.720 sleeping with 20 of men so like that means 80 of us are sleeping with 20 of men wow
00:01:31.440 hmm that's tech here like okay i'll give you an example how how tall was your last boyfriend
00:01:36.480 um six one okay what percent of men do you think are six one
00:01:40.000 maybe like it's not it's not six one thirty percent ten ten percent ten percent so you at a top did
00:01:51.280 he how much money did he make well he had he had his own houses and a business he sells cars okay
00:01:56.800 so roughly how much do you think he made i didn't i don't know that yeah i'm not one to
00:02:02.800 the man ain't telling you that yeah but he owned i know about his business and you know and so i
00:02:07.920 don't know the figures in london in essex on essex yeah okay so if he owned a house he probably
00:02:14.080 made at least like 60 70 i guess who knows he had a nice range okay so he's he's probably like
00:02:19.920 i'm guessing right i don't actually know you guys would know london prices more than me but he's
00:02:24.400 probably still top 20 of income probably because buying a house in in essex is cheap yeah okay so
00:02:30.480 top 20 so you had a guy top 10 height top 20 income was he attractive was he good looking yeah
00:02:36.880 he was yeah so in women so you know women we find 80 of men is ugly so if he if you find him
00:02:42.720 attractive that means he's top 20 right you should maybe call him because he's still saying no he's
00:02:47.280 been trying to hiler at me to be honest i don't have to block him he's not the one for me what is
00:02:54.080 what is the one so it seems like he has a good job he's attractive and tall it doesn't matter
00:02:58.800 his person no no no it's not i'm very smart trust me like he was wearing a mask when we first met
00:03:05.680 and then his true colors came out and i saw in certain behaviors that he was portraying what true
00:03:10.320 colors so like you know he was very aggressive sometimes and he i felt like his what do you
00:03:16.560 mean aggressive did he hit you no no he didn't hit me no okay so he didn't well he pushed me he shoved me
00:03:22.720 very hard and it was for a very pathetic reason and he's a liar you shove him at all no no i don't
00:03:28.640 like to be aggressive i don't believe in that no more i've grown up you know okay so he he shoved
00:03:32.960 you one time and then yeah and it was very and it was petty and he lied at the time as well and i
00:03:36.560 knew he was lying about picking up his kids when he wasn't going he he changed his story like i'm
00:03:41.600 very observant he lied about picking up his kids so i spent a couple days of him and he and i was
00:03:46.080 supposed to say the last day and he and then he all of a sudden he's got to go and pick up his kids but
00:03:49.600 he you're lying and so it's like you're making me feel like you don't want to see you don't
00:03:53.360 want to you don't want me to stay anymore so and then that happened then we broke up and now he
00:03:57.440 wants me back i know he wasn't because his story changed he told me something we planned something
00:04:03.040 from the get-go so i know so so i don't you don't have no physical evidence of that i do i do i do it's
00:04:09.520 very it's very technical but it's long you think i'm crazy if i go into it right now how did the
00:04:13.520 shoving happen like what what what led up to that because he wanted me to leave okay so you literally and
00:04:18.320 he tried to try to drag me okay wait so would you were you refusing to leave yeah because i was in my
00:04:24.160 feelings because i knew he was lying like come on i don't okay okay but you kind of you kind of frame
00:04:29.280 this yeah why do why do a lot of women they like they accuse a man of being like the bad guy the guy
00:04:36.080 that hurts them the guy that beats them but then the reason they like they made they caused the reason
00:04:40.800 because if you physically don't move in certain spaces no sorry it's the way it's the way you speak to
00:04:46.240 someone it's the way you conduct yourself in that situation but if you're in this has happened to
00:04:49.840 me before i've been esther you know you know um no there's a girl here and i asked her to leave
00:04:58.240 and she didn't like the way i asked her to leave right and then she starts yelling at me um and then
00:05:04.080 um well we didn't have security then but my security would have just picked her up and taken her out
00:05:08.800 but then it's like the way you're saying this it's like what i wouldn't have done that see the thing i
00:05:14.080 wouldn't have done that but when it's an emotional sexual connection you've got other
00:05:17.360 feelings like you feel rejection you feel like you're being violated it's just feels but it's
00:05:21.040 kind of different you're kind of so you're kind of making yourself so basically like you were kind
00:05:25.520 of overbearing because he you thought he did something and you had no proof he did it no i did because
00:05:31.280 he said what he changed his story but you've never said two things that contradicted yourself ever
00:05:36.800 i i have i just just happens when you talk you know it's very easy to to say the wrong thing if
00:05:43.440 you've been cross-examined because you know what when you say earlier on where man are analyzing women
00:05:48.480 and women are analyzing man he's looking at you like rah so you're going to argue against me picking
00:05:53.200 up my kids you and i knew he wasn't it don't you don't it don't matter whether you know he's not or it
00:05:57.600 is yeah in his head right you hold on i'm telling you something about my kids and you're arguing against my
00:06:03.280 kids to him the kids are the main priority even so does he have a right to privacy of course absolutely
00:06:11.120 i'm not a possessive person maybe there was something that he just didn't want you to know
00:06:14.400 maybe he was private with the mud like you know i mean like baby mama situations can be tricky like
00:06:19.840 sometimes guys don't want to get you in on all the drama but it's like you're going into it in bad
00:06:25.200 faith so you're assuming the worst when maybe it wasn't the worst but i also feel like it's just
00:06:29.520 the way you conduct yourself in a sensitive situation as well like i just feel like couldn't
00:06:34.000 we say that to you though because it's the way like you didn't listen when he said leave
00:06:37.920 so it's kind of like as women like we kind of have this double standard where we make him the
00:06:41.360 bad guy when it's like you kind of started it but then oh yeah i remember now that also the reason
00:06:45.760 was like i've stayed in the house by myself before and at this point he like he didn't want me to stay
00:06:49.680 so it's like if you love me why can't i stay here while you go and pick up your child do what you need
00:06:54.240 to do and i'll stay here tonight and you come back because that's because he's because that's
00:06:57.920 entitlement it's not your house like if i if i own this apartment if i if i want anyone to leave at
00:07:05.760 any time i have the right to do that like that wasn't the issue i honestly i didn't have an issue
00:07:11.680 with that it was just the way it happened and the things that he was saying and the way he was speaking
00:07:15.040 to me it's kind of like but this is like a lot of problems with women in relationships we want men to
00:07:19.200 emote like women but he's not a woman he's a man men don't speak like women do like they're much
00:07:24.160 more stern and so a lot of times like we think something's aggressive but men are just more
00:07:28.400 aggressive than women but you might want to call him but we're not aggressive he seems like a hard
00:07:32.400 man to replace can we just say that and say sorry and you said in the beginning that the men that like
00:07:37.360 you you don't want so that means the men you want don't want you wow i haven't met the one i think no
00:07:42.080 but that's like that's what any girl that's single it just means the men you want don't want you
00:07:46.000 and it's not meant to be offensive it's actually crazy because there's no one actually won
00:07:49.280 apart from there's okay but okay come on there's nobody in the world that you want i'm attracted
00:07:55.520 to like someone but he's but he's like a celebrity figure you're like sex appeal but there's no one
00:08:00.800 i actually want okay do you think you're on like the level of a celebrity yeah you're not on the level
00:08:06.880 celebrity celebrity is like top 10 20 of beauty like that yeah but remember i think i'm beautiful
00:08:21.280 i think i'm beautiful without the botox without without the money without all that money to do
00:08:25.920 myself up so i think i'm great this is like a cope i see women do like it's like you you think because
00:08:32.080 they have money they're beautiful when they got there money helped but if you look at margot robbie
00:08:37.120 before fame that girl was a 10. i don't know who that is but then you're doing selectiveness because
00:08:41.040 there's enough girl that go there and the money blows them up only i disagree not the girls that get
00:08:46.240 there for looks alone top 20 of beauty you can look at exceptions like that like kylie jenner she's not
00:08:54.160 she's not beautiful she wasn't beautiful before no she was cute but yeah i mean she wasn't that beautiful
00:08:59.200 she gets fixed but like i'm just saying in general guys like can we just talk in general instead of
00:09:04.320 exceptions most celebrities are top 20 of beauty in general like we could talk about there's some
00:09:10.000 exceptions like kylie jenner did her lips whatever but most most people in hollywood were the top 20
00:09:15.520 of beauty wherever they're from i still don't agree but yeah okay i feel you i feel you i don't know maybe
00:09:22.640 you should call him no definitely not he might oh i'm an apology i don't know no i have we had a
00:09:29.280 closure but he's not the one for me he's not my solution of the one i just feel like there's a
00:09:34.960 different there's a difference in behavior and the way you feel as well i can accept i'm not a
00:09:39.200 possessive person i can accept i really like my independence but i just know there's a certain way
00:09:44.320 that you will handle someone in those situations that just wasn't you know what it is though you know
00:09:50.320 what it is sorry i just know within myself sorry are you your only child no i've got brother and
00:09:53.920 sisters are you the youngest i'm in the middle oh yeah you know so grow no go on it's fine so growing
00:10:00.640 up did your did your mom have a partner do you have a step down no no yeah yeah like no but not
00:10:06.400 permanently so what in terms of looking up do you know how to look after amanda like oh being in no
00:10:12.400 because you're saying certain things that in a relationship it's like if you saw a relationship
00:10:17.840 with your mom and dad growing up then there's certain things you wouldn't do in a relationship
00:10:21.600 you know what i'm saying to keep them out listen every man every every man that's been my boyfriend
00:10:27.520 has returned and they say they haven't found better no it's definitely not sorry have you ever been
00:10:33.200 married you've proposed to you yeah you've been you've been engaged not like on on one mean i haven't
00:10:39.360 had that experience yet but i've had similar about you yes i've had similar but not like that it was
00:10:44.560 young so a promise ring basically kind of like okay okay okay it is what it's the same thing
00:10:51.040 it's rare for a man to do that promise rings don't count no that's because it's rare because that does
00:10:55.200 not do you think that men get go out and buy promise rooms it's just a lie but i'll be honest
00:11:04.560 really like you to be because he's not going to do that to everyone no no i'm not going to lie okay
00:11:08.400 okay okay it doesn't count you need a wedding date yeah hundreds a wedding date not not a
00:11:15.360 little ring but i was young anyway no okay so it wasn't a real it wasn't a real proposal no no no
00:11:21.760 okay so so the whole point is like you're counting things that don't count it doesn't count if they
00:11:26.400 don't want to marry you no i feel you well they do the intention is to you no no like men say things
00:11:30.960 when they mean it they do it like you can't you can't count it like i know what you mean but you know
00:11:37.120 happens you know i i've had guys say i want to marry you it doesn't count unless he goes by
00:11:41.360 100 this is 100 we can't like like i don't know why i was women we count things that don't count you
00:11:47.520 know it don't count so you've been proposed to you a couple times or no i don't count like
00:11:55.840 that's what i just said like yeah so no one's boot a ring and said no no no it doesn't it don't count
00:12:02.560 like it's like i've had a promise ring there's a promise ring a wedding ring no no i don't count
00:12:09.200 that but at the time we feel like it but did he say it was a promise ring or did he say it's an
00:12:12.720 engagement ring no he said it was a promise ring and then he said he was trying to he said it doesn't
00:12:19.520 count that's what i'm saying he was trying to get the property no i'm not gonna do it it doesn't count
00:12:25.360 um okay how so everyone went right how does a guy identify a good woman yeah mandem time okay