Modern Woman Got Reality Check
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about sex, sex education, sex before marriage and sex after marriage. We also talk about what it's like to be a single mum at a young age and what it means to be in a monogamous relationship.
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could go back in time would you wait until you were married to have sex yes
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yeah you would I don't know because I feel like every every relationship that
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I've been in I've learned something from so it's like if I said I'd go back and
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change it and not do it then I wouldn't learn I wouldn't have learned the things
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that I wouldn't moving forward so I don't know it's it's almost like saying
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and I'm just gonna eliminate experiences that I've had yeah but if they ended
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bad like what value does like sexual experience bring to you now like what
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what you know if you're gonna let's say you meet your husband tomorrow and you're
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going into a marriage and you could have just slept with him yeah or slept with
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him and all these other guys like don't you think it would be better to just
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sleep with him I understand what you're saying because obviously when you get
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married the love that you have for that person other people that you've been in
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relationship is definitely different because you're married and you're gonna
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build a life with them so I think when I get to that I'll probably be like oh do
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you know what I wish I would have waited yeah now I haven't I'm not trying to
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settle down I'm not in that time of my life so my perspective is going to be
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different what age would you like to settle down if I'm completely honest it's
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all about when my career is is if when I'm happy with where I am in my life if
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that makes sense because I wouldn't want to settle down not having achieved
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everything that I want to achieve on myself because I'm kind of quite selfish in
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that I want to be very successful do a lot have tons of businesses so I think
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say fight I blew up and I had all this success by the time I was 27 then cool
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I'll look for when I'm 27 but it depends on where I am financially and stuff
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like that to be honest what value does your career bring to a guy well music I
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want to inspire people and motivate people and I want to make a change I want to
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yeah but men don't care he's like oh I'm looking for a girl to inspire and
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motivate you know what I mean yeah yeah a hundred percent I think it's like you're
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young now you're pretty now and but you're gonna be less pretty and less
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young in ten years in five years so like why would you not look for that when
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you're younger I mean I look I look quite young now so maybe when I'm older I'll
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still look young I know but I just know what I want out of life yes I I do want a
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family for me that's very important I don't have any siblings and all my family
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members are very far spread out across the world so what for me I need that
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security so just just a stat for you guys did you know if you hit 30 and you and
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you're still single you drop to a less than 50 percent chance of you being able
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to have a kid meaning that if you're still single you're more likely to not
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have a kid than have one and so it's like knowing that you wouldn't want like
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because you know you're 24 now right yeah let's say you date a guy tomorrow and you
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date him for three years and it doesn't work out yeah it's like then no no now
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you're a bit older and you have to keep yeah I do think everything happens for a
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reason though if I'm completely honest like I could turn 30 and find my dream
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guy the next day do you know I mean and then build a relationship with you can
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you could but the odds aren't in your favor yeah and the number and that's what
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that's what I'm saying like I think a lot of times society tells us to go
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after a career first when it would be a lot easier if we if we were married
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because you could have the same experiences you could just have them with your
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husband very true but then what if he then wanted to have kids with you
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straightaway then you'd have to sacrifice that and you want to be a
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mother oh yeah I want like five kids 90% of your eggs are gone by 30 yeah so
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wait way too long you can't have five your geriatric you know when geriatric
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pregnancy starts any of you 34 what's geriatric you know the answer I was going
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for them so geriatric pregnancy is like high-risk pregnancy you know when that
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starts I'd probably say 30 30 plus I know it's 40 right no 28 it's 35 really so
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high-risk pregnancy starts at 35 and IVF it's actually most likely that it won't
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work out I'm IVF I'm IVF I'm an IVF baby my parents started trying to have a kid at
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34 I think but I think they had complications anyway yeah no and they're
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lucky that you you they're lucky but that's not the norm like the majority
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of IVF it doesn't work out yeah and there's complications as well so yeah
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but we can do stuff like freeze our eggs and stuff like that I know that again
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it's it's not 100% but but like you know but but even like the odds aren't if
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you're over it's like it's a less than 50% chance that you eat that that works out
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that you actually even conceive the kid so it's like they kind of lie to us because
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they tell them you they tell us we have all these options when we don't when half
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of your options are also gone by 30 so the number of options you have at 20 by
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the time you get to 30 half of them are gone don't you think it's a lot of
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pressure on a woman yeah it's actually quite sad like even this conversation is
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open my eyes you're being told some people are saying that women shouldn't
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have a career they should focus on their marriage and care about their husband
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and their children other people want to not have housewives and want their woman to
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have a career but then we have the pressure of not being able to have kids
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at a certain age there's just there's so much for women to kind of squeeze in
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well that's the thing you can't have everything but it's like what outcomes
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do you want like what I already yeah yeah what what outcomes would make you
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happy everyone has different priority right and so it's kind of a trade-off
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because you know women over the age of 45 that are still single and
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childless like they're on drugs they're on drugs at a higher rate than any other
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group and they're more depressed than any other group and they don't tell us that
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we're really on a time clock and and they don't really warn us about that and
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you just you can't have everything and so it's the question of like what outcome do
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you want personally for me I've had this conversation myself a fair few years ago
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actually and I want the fame and fortune and to have a career but I need a
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family right for my mental health so if I had a pill one of them was to have a
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family one of them to be famous I would have a family because that's what I need
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right right so why wouldn't you prioritize that now knowing knowing that
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the quality of guy you're gonna get is only gonna get worse like right now that
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you're the most attractive you're ever gonna be you know it'd be one thing if
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you were fat then you could lose weight and get up but you're in shape right
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because always give me this exception like because if you're fat you duh but
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but you know you're in good shape so it's like this is the highest quality guy
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you're ever gonna be able to get yeah and now it's only gonna get worse I hear
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that but for me to raise a family the way I want to raise it I want to have money
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that's not for me to go spoil my kids because I don't I think raisins kids
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spoil doesn't teach them anything but I would want them to not struggle the way
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that I've struggled could you marry a guy with money would I marry a guy of course yeah
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so why don't you just do that because you could you're pretty enough I mean
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thank you I could do but I wouldn't be fulfilled and I think in life it's all
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about fulfilling your own hopes and dreams and stuff like that so what is it
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like this dream this world doesn't sound real to me and this is come I come from
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like my dad's a top like 1% earner he's very very successful and like I grew up
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around successful people but yeah this this doesn't sound real where okay because
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where the mom has this successful career and the dad also has the
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successful career and they also have kids they also have five kids like
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something's got to give you literally can't do everything or you're paying a
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nanny to raise your kid I mean to be fair I'm not gonna lie if I had money and I
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was a businesswoman and I was busy I would have help if I could afford it I
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genuinely would have help and that's not me saying oh I can't be bothered to look
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after my children it is but I would be there for the important parts though say if I
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had it's not the same I do understand where you're coming from but that would
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be the sacrifice that I would take I would want my kids to see a working mom
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as well right but that's the problem that's the modern mindset it's about my
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career and me before the family and I think that's like what what is so broken
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down nowadays is that we all care about ourselves before the family and and to
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have a family that's successful you have to be selfless you know our
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grandmothers and our great-grandmothers didn't stay with their
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husbands by thinking about themselves yeah yeah I do because mothers put
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their child before ourselves when they have children when they don't have
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children obviously you should be thinking about that ahead of time I am
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doing by creating a career for myself to provide for the family that I wouldn't
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