JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023


Modern Woman Have NO FEMININE Role Models


Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

185.79202

Word count

2,026

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

sentences flagged

Hate speech

3

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode we talk about what we look for in a man on social media profiles, what we do and what we don t look for and how we look at them. We also talk about our thoughts on the topic of sexual preferences and what turns us on and turn us off when it comes to online dating.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 so when you guys are looking at a social media profile I know some of you are in relationships
00:00:07.640 but just like think back to when you were single and you got you looked at a profile and you have
00:00:12.040 to decide whether you would respond or not what would you look at I look at the fashion and what
00:00:16.920 he's wearing okay so fashion yeah are you trying to see how tall he is is that a big thing for you
00:00:22.220 I mean everyone wants someone over six foot but I've been with guys that are smaller than that
00:00:26.680 so it doesn't really bother me too too much to be fair but yeah definitely fashion style what they
00:00:31.980 do okay pick up on personality okay um also guys if you want anyone to rate your instagrams put it
00:00:39.300 in the chat and we'll see what they think of it okay so fashion um you said you want to see what
00:00:47.800 he does yeah uh what else anything else is that like if he travels stuff like that and just traveling
00:00:53.460 well it just shows that he probably was spontaneous and that's an adventure
00:00:58.140 um okay go ahead I think for me um of course yeah we want to look we want to see what he looks like
00:01:09.160 so I just want to see if I like his face you know um his build I am looking at fashion I'm looking at
00:01:16.340 things that's like is he posing with his like with his top out like is he trying to show off the packs
00:01:21.820 like I'm trying to see if he's trying to flaunt all of that because I'm attracted to a dude that's
00:01:26.420 confident but I also don't want someone that's like cocky or that like likes to put that on display
00:01:32.140 so if you see like a shirtless picture is that a turn on or turn off it depends on like most of the
00:01:37.880 time it's a turn off but it also depends on like how he's posing like sometimes you can just see some
00:01:42.020 guys on their profile and they're like giving you the eyes like smiles and they're like doing the most
00:01:46.820 and I feel like that's low key a bit of a turn off for me okay um but yeah I'm looking at like
00:01:52.460 his friends if he's posted any pictures of his like mom if like like what he does um yeah I'm just kind
00:02:01.020 of looking at all of that I don't know if that makes sense but yeah and what about you
00:02:05.800 I think for me it's just like if they post their interest I don't it more depends on the message for
00:02:14.060 me rather than the profile because the profile is fake anyway like everyone's Instagram is just a
00:02:18.220 fake version of themselves so it it would catch my eye if they have something that they're really
00:02:23.300 passionate and interested in that they post about that might entice me more to reply but I think it
00:02:29.100 more depends on the message for me what type of message would be a good message to send you
00:02:33.960 if it can make me laugh or something funny something funny yeah or something that would make me think
00:02:39.620 like if they said something really interesting I don't know what you find funny or not funny
00:02:50.080 yeah exactly but that's kind of my point like it's it's it's Instagram like it's all a fake world
00:02:56.180 anyway so you might as well just give it a go and you know you never know go have that universal riz
00:03:00.500 what about you two um good first message to send you to be fair it depends whether they're good
00:03:09.000 looking or not if I reply like the message could just be hey and if he's good looking I'll entertain
00:03:13.320 it a little bit but if the conversation's just dead then it just spoils it yeah for me like in the past
00:03:20.500 I've had guys that will like talk about my body or anything like that and I don't want to feel like
00:03:25.980 I'm being sexually objectified in any way so if he comes in straight off the bat like oh like
00:03:30.960 and starts talking about my body I'm gonna ignore that I'm not gonna give that any energy
00:03:34.860 I'm not too fussy but just saying hey like how are you and just starting up a conversation
00:03:39.820 because I'm a human being so it's like respect me talk to me like I'm a human being I don't want
00:03:44.960 you to on Instagram you know I don't really post pictures that are like
00:03:50.860 sexually like provocative or anything like that too tough I can but like I try not to do that too
00:03:58.800 can we see it
00:03:59.840 yeah I want to see if we could can we look at your yeah yeah that's fine uh it's tashana talks so
00:04:13.420 t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a talks because I was kind of wanted to see I want to get the guys feedback and like what
00:04:19.880 they would think of you without meeting you okay um did you get that blessing okay um so you said
00:04:31.880 it just matters how good looking he is yeah first message for you as long as it's not sexual
00:04:37.300 yeah just like say hey like what's up that's fine did you have something you want to say
00:04:41.700 yeah I'm the same like if it's sexual I won't respond whatsoever yeah have you guys found that
00:04:48.240 that if you send like a sexual message first it's like a lower response rate no sorry can you
00:04:53.140 repeat yeah no no I think I think um repeat the i just add please oh yeah tashana talks uh t-a-s-h-a-u-n-a
00:05:01.940 uh t-a-l-k-s all one word
00:05:06.240 yeah but hey hi how are you doing never works
00:05:12.800 you get left unread most times you gotta just you gotta just start a conversation you know I
00:05:20.880 mean like people the great thing about instagram which is better I think than um text and grabbing
00:05:25.640 a number I remember four people used to be a bit annoyed if you know you go to talk to a girl and
00:05:30.760 she gives you like her socials yeah but the great thing about that is she posts on there every day
00:05:36.300 so there's something that you can kind of connect on at some point do you know I mean wait for that
00:05:40.340 moment where you can kind of connect on something and then just talk normally and I mean don't put
00:05:43.400 someone on a pedestal in the moment that you've done that yeah the game but were you guys saying
00:05:47.540 that if you send a sexual message you're more likely to get a response like a woodshot are you talking 0.99
00:05:51.580 about like a nude or like a no obviously don't go don't go don't go 10 out of 10 out of the gate
00:05:56.100 I meant like about her like complimenting her body or something like that I mean I think there's certain
00:06:02.860 there's certain profiles that that works with and there's certain profiles that I wouldn't yeah
00:06:06.660 because it's with from a guy's perspective not to be general for everyone but it's one of those
00:06:10.680 ones you could you guys said I mean if you listen why blah blah blah and if he looks like he treats
00:06:15.360 me nice more but guys is do you think she will respond yeah all right so I want to hear from the
00:06:24.000 guys oh yeah oh put me on blast god yeah so what are we what we're getting from here traveling traveling
00:06:31.620 okay so I'm not seeing too much like skin out yeah I haven't seen any football posing where the bat 1.00
00:06:45.120 yeah yeah so she's a respectable girl she's she's chilling um I don't really think this is a page
00:06:52.440 where she's like looking for mandem's attention yeah she's just kind of just enjoying life she's I
00:06:58.220 used to work around there cheers London bridging that okay little artsy vibe there as well yeah I
00:07:07.160 wouldn't get a message her because she could be a quick one type of message if I was to see this 1.00
00:07:13.100 Instagram yeah this is a honest individual who is showing you situations and I like that in her
00:07:19.280 life that first one that first one is like don't look at me but look at me with the whole jacket what's
00:07:32.420 your Instagram he's gonna pull it up it's Ashton Maria is there a difference
00:07:39.100 we have one girl on this show we did a show today called wife or cat lady where you yeah 0.64
00:07:51.180 yeah you come on the show and we had we had one percent men so all these men were verified millionaires
00:07:57.000 and they all had to um decide if the women coming in were wife wifey or cat ladies you know 1.00
00:08:03.000 and this one girl that came in it was like her boobs were like oh it was like a see-through like top on 1.00
00:08:10.140 Instagram yeah and I was trying to tell her I'm like I don't know if that's like what the the
00:08:14.280 millionaire maybe like the millionaire like ballers maybe that's a different group but like
00:08:18.820 I'm like I don't know about the millionaire like business man you know but yeah she didn't get it
00:08:25.060 yeah well she was very she was very beautiful oh see she didn't need to do that yeah no that's what
00:08:33.560 I was telling her because I was like I was like I probably would have put her top like 10 20 percent
00:08:37.320 of beauty she's so beautiful and I was just like why would you put that I was like that's like being
00:08:43.160 born 610 yeah and not playing basketball and bowling that's that's that's interesting she needs more
00:08:55.840 people around I just said tell her that she's attractive in the face yeah I told her she 1.00
00:08:59.720 could come back if she deleted three of these pictures on Instagram you should have gone percentage
00:09:09.660 rather than number three percent and she'd have to do she was very attached to the Instagram okay
00:09:16.740 she was a very nice girl but I was like you're very attached to the Insta you know she she's comparing 0.72
00:09:22.200 herself to whoever she idolizes on there so she might see someone who comes down to self-confidence no
00:09:27.780 but no one there might be a woman that she finds she might look at call you be thinking raw if I was if
00:09:31.740 I was like which if I was into girls I'm I'm under you know I mean so she kind of trust wants to mimic that
00:09:36.780 and she thinks that that is gonna get her what she needs in it do you know I mean do you find it
00:09:40.440 weird that like a lot of girls speaking again this is a very general statement but a lot of girls in 1.00
00:09:46.000 that kind of respect will look at idols and and mimic what they look like but a lot of guys will look
00:09:50.760 at their idols and mimic what they act like and do mmm that's facts right but we focus more on
00:09:55.980 respect and I think with women sometimes can be more of an attention visual because how many people 0.99
00:09:59.700 have Cardi B as their role model just and how many JLo yeah you see exactly rolling exactly 53
00:10:06.060 but then if you ask a guy who there who their role model is it's like summer old Jackson or something
00:10:13.080 I was trying to think of one good feminine role model in the media today yeah like that's a main 1.00
00:10:19.800 strap my I can't kind of Pearson is that JLo she's a role model for me she's a like she does like 0.99
00:10:28.960 YouTube videos okay but she's not like anywhere near as big as someone like Beyonce or Cardi B just 0.81
00:10:34.340 early thing as many of you know I was just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:10:44.160 on this platform if you want to help please consider sending a super thanks below every donation helps
00:10:51.720 and it helps make what we do possible