Modern Woman Tries to Corner @RealTroyFrancis
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Summary
In this episode, I'm joined by my good friend and dating coach, James, to talk about what he looks for in a woman and why he's single. We discuss what he's looking for, what his standards are, what he does and what he doesn't look for and how he's managed to find the right woman.
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uh what do you look for um i look for someone who can match me in terms of um like for example
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i drive i want a man that drives i live alone i want a man who lives alone i work i want a man
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what that works um and then on top of that he needs to be at least like five foot ten
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yeah and yeah that's it and when it comes down to money i don't really have a figure
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on that the same as um like uh 40 40 40 000 i'm okay with that like i've noticed in london the
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girls aren't as picky about money well except her but i get a lot more 40 50 thousands like here than
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i do when like i was doing podcasts in miami like here i don't know why it's a lot lower here
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because i think the percentage there's not that many men like you said that are making too many
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it's not a higher percentage i don't know what the difference is i could look it up maybe but
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it's it's similar in the u.s it's still only five ten percent of men that make over six figures
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i mean well i i think if women weren't picky then like we wouldn't be single
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because there's always a guy there's always a guy that wants to date you yeah yeah miami does seem
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to be particularly like money focused though not that london isn't in certain pockets but there's
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also a lot of more regular people in london who maybe they're you know they're not as bothered
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what do you look for troy what do i look for are you are you picky it's strict well no
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it's kind of an open it's extremely open it's it's an open door policy basically um i mean look
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as a guy i mean what do i look for obviously i look for somebody that i'm attracted to you know
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somebody who i think is aesthetically nice you know um but equally it's about is she pleasant you
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know is she cool to hang around with i think that's really what it comes down to it's like you said
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before i'm not i'm not bothered about what she makes i'm not bothered about her job i'm not bothered
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about really any of those things but is she somebody that i can chill with and she's just
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going to be pleasant and it's not going to be you know hard work basically it's a pretty low bar
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really but that's that's kind of what it is you know i mean but but there has got to be that initial
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attraction to be fair um so yeah i would say that really you know i don't think guys have a huge
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shopping list of things that they're looking for really right so can i ask why you're single then
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if your standards are not that high just haven't met the right woman yet
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then if your if your standards are low but you're single that means you're somewhat picky
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i am no i am somewhat picky and um i was no of course i'm somewhat picky because no i was joking
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before i'm somewhat picky because like i mean look i'm i'm at an age now i mean when i was in my 20s
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you know running around like a lunatic and you know whatever these days i i'm slightly less
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motivated by that you know what i mean so if i get to spend time with somebody they've got to have
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certain you know they've got to have a certain quality about them you know and that and for me
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the most important thing really is pleasantness and also do we vibe you know that's that's important
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as well it's not like she has to be super intellectual or she has to know about certain
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things that i'm interested in but if we vibe do we have a good chemistry you know that's that's the
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important thing that's what i'm looking for um but i'm single for for other reasons i mean i was in
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a relationship for a couple of years um i came out of that a couple of years ago i just haven't really
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wanted to really get serious with anybody do you know what i mean and also the nature of my job i'm
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traveling quite a lot and stuff like that so you know it's a number of reasons really what are what
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are some turn-offs for you well a friend of mine um james tusk uh who's a who's also a dating coach
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uh he's got a youtube channel he was telling me about this uh he went on a date with an american
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woman in uh it was in uh tulum i think in mexico and he went on a date with this american woman she
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was like from new york bit of a ball breaker you know whatever and they played the question game so he's got
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this like thing where say right i'm gonna ask you a question you'd be completely honest answer the
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question then you get to ask me a question and you get to know each other like that so he's doing this
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question game with the girl her first question was what did you make last year so he was just like in
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the bar and and he was just like all right isn't that rude yeah no completely no completely but so he
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was like well all right this date's over and then he just walked out and left her to it really yeah so
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that would be a massive turnoff for me that kind of ball breakery sort of very and it's very
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transactional as well isn't it do you know what i mean like really really transact even if that is a
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obviously yeah you know you want to have a certain life maybe in the back of your mind but to come out
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with it like that i mean that so that that sort of behavior it's almost like entitlement
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absolutely she feels entitled to your money yeah completely and and look i mean i'm sure british women
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would do that as well this is an american woman from one of the big cities it's just that whole
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thing it's not very feminine and it's it's not very attractive you know what are some other
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masculine things that you see women do often oh geez um i mean i think it's not even so much
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masculine things it's sort of like turning up late it's being disrespectful it's like being on their
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phone during the day you know anything like that it's just like look this is this is game over do you
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know what i mean like there's got to be an element of sort of give and take in that well you're laughing
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is that what you do no like on the date i'm sorry i'm on tinder sorry um yes just just general sort
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of bad behavior and i'm not saying like oh you know she's she's got to you know live up to this
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strict code or something but it's a bit like come on you know um and just being difficult as well not
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allowing the thing to flow easily because we're both here we're both trying to communicate see if we
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can get on whatever so just you know just just just be chill you know um what do you guys look for
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um i feel like i look for someone who um will provide me with emotional support um someone
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who's supportive someone who does work i mean i don't want to be someone who hasn't got a job and
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has no money you know um yeah someone who's just respectful has money um you don't have to be the
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richest guy in the world for me personally as long as you've got some sort of income coming in that can
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support himself and me once in a while you know it doesn't have to be a thing where he's taking care of
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me because you know i do make my own money but it's just always good to have a man that who has
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his own money and he can take care of the both of you as well so yeah that's what i look for and
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someone who's not shorter than me yeah how tall are you i'm five foot five five five so five six is
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good no at least five seven yeah five seven yeah okay good um i'm not gonna say what i look for
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because i already have a boyfriend oh what made your boyfriend different you could say that
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right he ticks all the boxes you know he's ambitious he's intellectual he's successful
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he looks after me um you can tell she's happy she's got like
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what's he first what i want i get um he just makes me feel special and that's what i think a man's
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supposed to make you do i don't feel like you should settle i feel like everybody has someone
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out there for them um and that's what i believe because i found mine so i think everyone else
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you think you think everyone has someone out there for them absolutely i feel like you know
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absolutely i definitely i gotta say this i feel like a lot of people would say my list is very
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very very very picky but i found mine he's got fear in so i can't go wrong i gotta i gotta say that
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how can everyone have someone out there for them when there's more women than men
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um some of them are incarcerated right now so you got y'all gotta wait
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no no don't do that even even if you just look at the population there's 55 women 45 men what are
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the five percent of women what are we doing i feel like some women then choose to just settle for
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anything some women don't want men yeah some women don't want men and um when you take out the
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percentage that don't want men and don't wanna but then there's there's also guys that don't want
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girls right yeah so you gotta there's it's on both ends you know yeah i feel like it just depends
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um but i definitely feel like this if if you're on here and you're on this earth there's definitely
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someone for you and i don't feel like anyone should sell definitely not i don't agree with that
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yours is to come so what what if what if you think you deserve someone that's six five makes
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250 000 a year um yeah let me tell you how my god works my god works your god my god
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he might not give you 250 but he might give you 200 and baby you're gonna settle if that's what you want
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like there's different attributes when it comes to people you might not be higher yeah but he might
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not be you might want like 250 in regards to money and he might have the best personality so you know
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it's gonna accommodate the 50k less than what he initially owes but what you initially wanted
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you know so it works so then you do have to settle in some way don't you think yeah but it just
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depends on how it just depends how much you settle yeah how much yeah yeah i don't agree in selling
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less no it's not too much yeah why don't why don't women always talk about we can't settle instead of
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maybe we should bring more no i bring to the table that's why i can have such i'm not talking about you
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i'm just talking about women in general like because i always hear like and again i do these panels
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so much so we always like i always hear that we can't settle but we never talk about like bringing
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more to the table for men no so like getting in better shape you know learning how to cook
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learning how to clean like offer i do all of that that's why i feel like i'm allowed no but
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me personally that's why i feel like i'm allowed to have such high requirements because i play my
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part why do you play yours why do you think women in general don't talk about self-improvement other
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than surgeries mostly i feel like some women are entitled um i feel like again the woman's gonna hold
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home and they will kids so they feel like they have the i can look or i can be a particular way
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and you just adjust to that but i feel like that's what that's how society has created women
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society has created that yes as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized
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