JustPearlyThings - Modern Women and STD's： The HI-V and the Herp (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 Do we need men? 0.81

00:00:02.460 Most answered very quickly, no.

00:00:05.260 Because men are useless. 0.89

00:00:08.180 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:11.140 Most young men are single, most young women are not.

00:00:14.140 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:18.820 It's a different world now, like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:21.880 Nobody needs men! 1.00

00:00:23.100 The future is female. 1.00

00:00:24.680 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it. 0.99

00:00:32.660 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:35.960 You've kind of got the trad con versus red pill thing.

00:00:38.640 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:42.200 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:46.300 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:48.760 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:51.900 Now, many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married. 0.99

00:00:56.860 Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.

00:01:00.500 One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.

00:01:04.180 She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.

00:01:07.020 Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.

00:01:12.220 Gee, what could go wrong there?

00:01:14.360 74% or something of divorces are initiated by women. 0.53

00:01:17.820 Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children. 0.81

00:01:20.580 Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws. 0.73

00:01:23.500 I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:28.420 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:31.660 You need no evidence.

00:01:32.780 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for,

00:01:36.440 and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:39.820 I interview them on the other side.

00:01:41.420 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:44.820 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:46.860 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:49.040 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:01:50.640 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:52.540 We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women. 1.00

00:01:55.080 Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.

00:01:59.240 Family is the foundation of society.

00:02:00.960 Every problem in society comes from single mother homes. 1.00

00:02:04.080 A lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of happiness, endless happiness. 1.00

00:02:08.380 Feminism's biggest failure is it lies to women. 1.00

00:02:10.380 We tell women to date as many guys as possible.

00:02:12.180 We tell them to put off family into marriage. 0.99

00:02:13.680 You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.

00:02:16.740 You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.

00:02:21.140 Oh, freeze your eggs.

00:02:21.940 Have an abortion.

00:02:22.960 What?

00:02:23.360 You're evil.

00:02:24.220 I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.

00:02:28.040 Right.

00:02:28.280 Like, if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic,

00:02:32.140 naturally, the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.

00:02:34.900 It's self-sabotage.

00:02:35.820 That's the thing.

00:02:36.360 Like, women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy. 1.00

00:02:39.580 This is not about happiness.

00:02:41.080 The most important thing is the children, and the problem is we have a modern society

00:02:45.820 where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's

00:02:50.360 best for the kids.

00:02:52.440 This myth that we live in an age of male privilege, where's my male privilege?

00:02:56.140 They think, well, men have all the rights. 0.95

00:02:57.620 They have all the power.

00:02:58.900 Privilege, patriarchal system that we have.

00:03:01.160 Why doesn't our society care about men's rights? 0.99

00:03:03.780 I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.

00:03:07.020 Men are alone in this situation.

00:03:08.940 Men are homeless.

00:03:09.580 Men are thinking about eating guns.

00:03:11.700 I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide, and they didn't do anything wrong.

00:03:16.060 How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?

00:03:21.440 The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.

00:03:25.320 Women are helplessly dependent upon men. 0.99

00:03:27.640 The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, to alcohol, three times higher among

00:03:33.800 men than among women. 0.87

00:03:35.060 Culture is telling men, you are no good.

00:03:36.900 You've got to get your act together.

00:03:38.120 I think men have failed themselves.

00:03:39.780 What kind of a man are you?

00:03:41.060 What kind of a woman are you going to attract? 1.00

00:03:42.980 If men are in trouble, so are women. 0.66

00:03:45.640 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:49.200 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man. 1.00

00:03:51.560 500K.

00:03:52.260 500K.

00:03:52.920 300K.

00:03:53.200 300K.

00:03:53.660 200K.

00:03:54.080 Am I crazy?

00:03:54.800 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:03:57.000 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them. 1.00

00:04:00.600 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:04:04.520 Women. 0.81

00:04:04.880 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:08.140 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:10.400 I'm over it.

00:04:11.580 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:12.880 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:14.620 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:17.420 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:18.700 You simp for men. 0.99

00:04:19.300 No, I think you simp for women. 1.00

00:04:20.720 She's a provocateur. 1.00

00:04:21.700 She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.

00:04:24.140 It's already happening.

00:04:25.280 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:04:26.740 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want 0.99

00:04:30.360 a wife and women can't find a husband. 1.00

00:04:32.180 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:04:36.760 We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:04:40.600 Civilization will crumble.

00:04:42.380 The American story does not end well.

00:04:44.920 This is an existential crisis failing young men.

00:04:53.240 What is up, guys?

00:04:55.600 Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:04:58.120 I'm your host, Pearl.

00:04:59.060 And this show, I give my thoughts after interviewing a thousand women and the conclusions that I

00:05:04.640 came to.

00:05:05.300 But before we get started, I attempted to make a documentary called What's in it for

00:05:09.760 men.

00:05:09.980 The whole premise of the documentary is that society nags men's behavior. 0.79

00:05:15.600 They just nag. 1.00

00:05:16.460 They say, men, why are you dropping out of the workforce?

00:05:19.960 Men, why aren't you marrying these hoes? 1.00

00:05:23.020 Men, men, nag. 1.00

00:05:23.900 Now, why aren't you doing more jobs?

00:05:25.140 Why aren't you working hard or nag? 1.00

00:05:26.440 And I just kept asking the question, well, what do men get out of that?

00:05:32.100 What do they get out?

00:05:33.120 What does he get?

00:05:36.680 And anyways, I tried to, I really tried to put together this documentary, but I faced some

00:05:41.940 challenges.

00:05:42.820 And one being they demonetized me, kicked me off a million platforms.

00:05:47.520 So now I'm raising money.

00:05:48.980 I'm doing it the old fashioned way.

00:05:50.800 And it's pretty exciting because we just got to $32,000.

00:05:58.320 I'm going to log in in a second and I'll show you guys $32,000 for the GoFundMe.

00:06:06.360 Oh my gosh, it's going to verify.

00:06:08.100 You're just going to have to take my word.

00:06:09.920 I hate these two step.

00:06:11.520 I guess it's for the best, but all right.

00:06:15.200 So I wanted to get a beer before the show today.

00:06:18.300 I was really close, but I couldn't find one.

00:06:20.340 I don't drink much, mostly because I really want to get six pack abs.

00:06:24.720 I just think it'd be really cool.

00:06:26.720 But today I was like, I think I need a beer for this topic because today we're talking about

00:06:32.360 herpes and HIV.

00:06:35.880 It's pretty gross.

00:06:37.020 But I do think this is an important conversation that people aren't really having when it comes

00:06:42.240 to modern dating.

00:06:43.100 A lot of people have STDs out there a lot and odds are there's a woman that you know that 1.00

00:06:49.720 has an STD, probably a guy too.

00:06:52.500 If they're actively dating and in the sexual marketplace, a lot of people have had them.

00:06:59.220 So the stats I've seen said one out of three women have gotten an STD at some point, but a 0.76

00:07:06.320 lot of STDs are curable, right?

00:07:08.220 So, you know, like from there's like gonorrhea, chlamydia.

00:07:18.380 These ones are curable, but the ones that really mess up your life, I guess HIV kills you and

00:07:24.640 herpes is pretty bad too.

00:07:26.380 You can't get rid of that.

00:07:28.800 So yeah, get your beer, get your beer.

00:07:30.780 Let me know what beer you're having in the chat, fellas.

00:07:32.700 All right, so women have become sexually liberated and, you know, nothing good really has come 0.78

00:07:38.500 from it.

00:07:39.680 Modern women honestly believe that they can have sex like men. 0.99

00:07:44.580 Body counts are on the rise and promiscuity is at an all-time high.

00:07:48.940 What comes along with women sleeping around with a lot of men is sexually transmitted diseases. 1.00

00:07:54.680 Some of these STDs are curable and a lot are not, with the worst being HIV and herpes.

00:07:59.560 Men in 2025 have to protect themselves when sleeping with modern women. 0.99

00:08:05.700 And you know what?

00:08:06.040 I say the same to you, ladies.

00:08:07.520 There's a lot of chads out there that, look, they don't care.

00:08:11.120 I've interviewed some of these guys that have this stuff.

00:08:15.120 They just spread it.

00:08:16.300 They do not care.

00:08:17.460 The women don't care either. 1.00

00:08:18.660 And I'm going to tell you guys some stories.

00:08:19.960 Many of them, yeah, we could do a show on HPV a different day.

00:08:27.160 That's another common one.

00:08:28.580 That can give you guys, you fellas, cancer.

00:08:31.240 All right, so many of these women have diseases and either don't know, don't care, or it's 1.00

00:08:34.900 a combination of both.

00:08:36.540 And, you know, none of these scenarios are okay.

00:08:39.420 Imagine you caught something you could have get rid of from one of these women. 1.00

00:08:42.620 You know, that's what we're going to talk about in today's show, modern women, HIV, and 0.99

00:08:49.400 herpes.

00:08:50.160 As of 2022, there are 1.2 million people living with HIV.

00:08:55.800 It is estimated that 13% of people living with HIV don't know and haven't been tested.

00:09:02.480 Women make up 45% of new HIV infections.

00:09:06.380 Men have to be careful when they are sleeping with modern women. 1.00

00:09:09.100 You can get the high five and have it for life.

00:09:11.160 Now, I get a lot of, when we're talking about this topic, everyone will, you know, they'll

00:09:17.260 put in their two cents.

00:09:18.540 They'll say, what you should be able to tell when a woman has this stuff, I would be able 1.00

00:09:22.500 to tell.

00:09:22.980 And men's ego sometimes gets the best of them.

00:09:26.920 Women's too. 0.86

00:09:29.080 But I've interviewed personally, one, two digitally, two people personally, probably five people.

00:09:41.060 I've never actually interviewed someone with AIDS, but herpes, that one's more common.

00:09:47.020 And I'm telling you, you would not be able to guess.

00:09:49.520 I would never have guessed.

00:09:50.860 Um, okay, so we're going to talk about, oh, no.

00:09:58.680 And the thing was, when I interviewed these people, I'm going to, I'm going to do the two

00:10:02.300 digital ones I had.

00:10:04.680 There was two men, right?

00:10:06.960 And basically they both got diagnosed with herpes.

00:10:09.960 Now, one of the men decided to do the right thing, so to speak, and tell women before he 0.76

00:10:17.540 slept with them, that he had it.

00:10:19.280 And he said it killed his dating life.

00:10:21.660 It killed it.

00:10:23.200 It was never the same.

00:10:24.660 He hadn't had sex in years because it was just too stressful and whatever.

00:10:28.600 The other guy decided to, you guessed it, lie.

00:10:33.340 He said, you know what?

00:10:34.340 I'm just going to lie.

00:10:36.400 And he spreads it and he does not care.

00:10:38.540 And he admitted this to me.

00:10:39.480 He said, I do not care.

00:10:40.580 I just, whatever.

00:10:42.620 If they, they don't even ask.

00:10:44.100 If they don't care, I don't care.

00:10:47.220 And he spreads it around.

00:10:49.240 I'm telling you guys, these, um, and you could argue the guy that got it, he actually

00:10:54.100 got it from a marriage, one of them.

00:10:55.640 He was married to his wife and she brought home the gift that, you know, keeps on giving.

00:11:01.860 And, um, you wouldn't really guess.

00:11:05.040 I wouldn't, you wouldn't guess it would be these guys.

00:11:09.220 Now, um, even like talking about this stuff, I still feel, I know, like I do a show.

00:11:15.600 I chose the topic, but this even makes me feel uncomfortable talking about it.

00:11:20.980 That's why I was looking for a beer before this show is because I really want to

00:11:25.440 stress to you guys that it's not always the men or the women you think it is.

00:11:29.680 You cannot tell.

00:11:33.860 Uh, the one guy, he just looked like a standup middle-class white guy.

00:11:40.140 You would not guess.

00:11:41.400 The other guy I think was like Puerto Rican middle-class sales dude.

00:11:49.060 I mean, you could maybe say like, okay, you couldn't know.

00:11:55.760 I'm telling you.

00:11:57.080 So now this is a woman that has it and I'll talk about some of the other people I've interviewed.

00:12:02.940 No.

00:12:03.500 So, okay.

00:12:04.340 When I asked the guys where they got it, the guy who got it from marriage.

00:12:07.760 Yeah.

00:12:07.920 He was raw dog.

00:12:08.880 And obviously he thought this was his wife.

00:12:12.000 Um, he was raw dog in and then boom, got herpes.

00:12:16.220 Um, he said it was the third girl he ever slept with.

00:12:18.880 Isn't that an L?

00:12:20.060 Oh my God.

00:12:20.800 What an L.

00:12:22.020 He said it was his wife.

00:12:23.300 The third woman he ever slept with.

00:12:24.920 Um, now the other guy, the other guy, um, I interviewed, he also said it was like one

00:12:32.400 of the first people he ever slept with.

00:12:34.140 He said he wore a condom.

00:12:36.140 Now, I don't know.

00:12:37.500 Um, it says it reduces transmission.

00:12:40.140 Um, the P ways I've interviewed about STDs and these are guys that are just running through 0.93

00:12:45.000 hoes. 1.00

00:12:45.780 They seem to think, um, that that's impossible.

00:12:49.020 You can't get an STD with a condom, um, outside of like chlamydia.

00:12:53.300 I'm just telling you what the market's telling me guys.

00:12:57.940 Um, so the P ways are saying that guy was capping.

00:13:03.420 They said, do you know what?

00:13:04.380 You are not going to catch anything.

00:13:05.660 If you wear a condom, I've run through like a hundred hoes. 1.00

00:13:08.900 I've gotten nothing because I always strapped up.

00:13:14.120 I don't know.

00:13:15.000 I, I, you know, personally, I've never had a run in with this stuff.

00:13:22.080 Thank God.

00:13:23.300 Um, so I, I can't tell you, do you know what I mean?

00:13:26.380 But yeah, I know it's uncomfortable, but this is a big part of the dating market.

00:13:31.820 People are afraid of STDs.

00:13:33.420 Sex is coming before relationships these days.

00:13:36.260 People don't know, you know, that people want to know what their risks are when you're doing

00:13:40.900 this stuff.

00:13:42.980 Um, cause otherwise, you know, people are going to die alone if they're not fucking.

00:13:47.900 Um, unless you find like, uh, you know, some girl at the community college, maybe, but anyways.

00:13:56.000 I don't know who gave me HIV.

00:13:58.620 Yes.

00:13:59.060 But like, look at, does this woman look like she has HIV? 1.00

00:14:02.040 I personally, I wouldn't guess.

00:14:04.200 Okay.

00:14:08.100 Before I go on a date with a woman, I'm going to ask for a checkup for HIV. 0.72

00:14:12.160 Okay.

00:14:12.880 Let's, let's, let's run this through guys.

00:14:18.140 It's hard enough to get laid.

00:14:19.680 Now, maybe you have enough status to demand that, but most women aren't hot enough to demand 1.00

00:14:26.080 that from the men they're having sex with.

00:14:28.140 And most men aren't good enough.

00:14:30.680 No offense, fellas.

00:14:31.720 Most men, women aren't going to do all that for. 1.00

00:14:36.200 I do.

00:14:37.120 My privates look like a Rothko painting JK.

00:14:41.120 I don't know what that means.

00:14:42.740 All right.

00:14:44.320 So I was monogamously dating somebody just before I met my now husband for two, three months.

00:14:51.580 And about a month after getting serious with them, I got a really strange viral reaction.

00:15:00.180 Um, it was like mumps, pneumonia, rashes all over my body.

00:15:05.180 It lasted for about a month.

00:15:06.220 It was just very strange and no doctor could figure out what it was.

00:15:09.540 In hindsight, I now know that that was me being.

00:15:12.880 Okay.

00:15:13.620 An HIV test and her credit score.

00:15:16.140 Let me get this straight.

00:15:16.900 If you get a 22 year old baddie in front of you, do you really think that you, and I'm

00:15:24.320 not trying to be pick on you, or I'm really not trying to pick on you, but unless the guys

00:15:31.640 in the chat are some sort of celebrity or something, you're not going to have the, the status to

00:15:37.400 really do that.

00:15:38.240 The girl's just going to tell you to F off, you know? 0.96

00:15:41.500 Um, yeah, it's hard enough for men to get laid.

00:15:46.500 You're telling me that you haven't had sex in a month.

00:15:49.120 Most men haven't had sex in months.

00:15:50.800 And there's a 22 year old Latina baddie sitting in front of you. 1.00

00:15:53.600 And you said, you know what?

00:15:55.280 And she says, poppy, take me home.

00:15:57.880 And you're going to say, no, bitch. 1.00

00:16:00.580 I need an HIV test.

00:16:03.980 Come on.

00:16:04.920 I don't believe you.

00:16:06.340 Oh, I don't, I don't, I'm just being honest.

00:16:12.020 I'm just being honest here.

00:16:14.060 Infected with the HIV virus.

00:16:16.260 I won't settle.

00:16:17.240 I'm worth it.

00:16:17.920 Well, I don't want to say, look, I'm just being honest with what I would predict, how I

00:16:26.000 would predict that would go.

00:16:27.920 But you are more than welcome to try it.

00:16:32.440 I can ask why the PUA guy, because he works with a lot of men.

00:16:37.280 And as I was only dating that person at a time, and as I was only dating one person at a time,

00:16:43.740 I know who gave it to me just by default.

00:16:47.360 When I did find out that I have HIV, I did contact this person on social media to let them

00:16:53.900 know, hey, I think you gave me HIV, if you don't know already, you should probably get

00:16:58.640 tested.

00:17:00.580 The response I got was a bit surprising.

00:17:03.940 And it suggested that they already knew that they have HIV and didn't disclose this information

00:17:10.340 to me.

00:17:11.620 Luckily for me, as I went from dating this one person to meeting my husband, I haven't been

00:17:18.600 able to pass the virus around to anybody.

00:17:21.540 And for anyone wondering, my husband is negative, he doesn't have HIV, I did not pass it on to

00:17:27.680 him either.

00:17:29.420 But to answer the question, yes, I know who gave me HIV, and it's a bit shit.

00:17:38.320 What an L.

00:17:40.140 All right, let's see who's got it next.

00:17:42.620 How I...

00:17:43.540 Yeah.

00:17:44.780 Yeah.

00:17:44.960 You can't get on the Audacity.

00:17:50.760 Doug MPA, can you make a note?

00:17:52.320 We're making updates on the pages this week.

00:17:55.040 I'm signed in with the Pearl Daily page is all I can get.

00:17:58.540 What content are you not getting?

00:18:00.940 Tag Doug MPA in the chat.

00:18:02.440 He'll write it down.

00:18:03.140 I found out that I had HIV.

00:18:05.180 So at this point, I was already with my ex, the guy who...

00:18:08.100 Oh, you're saying, oh, he's still married to the girl that gave him herpes?

00:18:11.420 Well, what's he going to do now?

00:18:13.100 Do you know what I mean?

00:18:13.760 But no, he's not.

00:18:15.540 But you kind of understand if he was, what's he going to do?

00:18:18.500 Go back out there?

00:18:20.180 That did me for about five months.

00:18:21.800 The relationship was OD traumatic.

00:18:24.600 I knew he was like not faithful to me, but I never thought that he was like not using protection

00:18:30.160 with other women.

00:18:31.240 At least I made myself believe that.

00:18:32.780 At this point, I didn't have any more like symptoms.

00:18:36.020 Like I already went through the acute stage where I felt like I was literally going to...

00:18:39.320 However, a couple of symptoms persisted even after that, that were a little bit more subtle,

00:18:47.260 but just as alarming.

00:18:49.460 The first thing that freaked me out really was that I would have a continual yeast infection.

00:18:55.460 I know it's kind of gross, but it's the reality of HIV.

00:18:59.700 And the continual yeast infection is called thrush.

00:19:01.840 I'm not saying that everyone that has thrush has HIV, but thrush is part of the symptoms

00:19:06.480 of having HIV.

00:19:08.660 And you know, I'm from the hood or whatever.

00:19:10.480 So there's like a little hood doctor.

00:19:12.080 I didn't have insurance.

00:19:12.960 Oh, I didn't have insurance at that time.

00:19:15.400 And so like anytime I needed the yeast infection like medication, I would just go to the hood

00:19:22.640 doctor.

00:19:23.280 So something that I forgot to mention is that the acute stage is basically the stage where

00:19:27.700 you are most symptomatic.

00:19:28.860 Once you're done with that phase, you are no longer symptomatic in like very overt ways,

00:19:35.180 but you still have certain symptoms that are very subtle.

00:19:38.420 Like you have a lot of fatigue, thrush, like yeast infection, like discharge, the whole thing.

00:19:43.380 And the second thing that really freaked me out was the fact that it was literally painful

00:19:47.920 to have intercourse. 0.86

00:19:50.640 And so at this point, I was taking clindamycin about like once every two weeks.

00:19:55.520 So I was like, you know what?

00:19:56.460 I'm going to go to the doctor.

00:19:57.440 Even though I don't have insurance, I could go to the clinic and get tested and tell them

00:20:01.380 what's going on since it is down there.

00:20:03.160 The day before I went, I had this sinking feeling in my spirit, like in my gut.

00:20:08.760 I knew that I was going to get bad news.

00:20:11.020 So I show up to the clinic.

00:20:12.360 I get tested.

00:20:13.520 When you get tested, you know, you do the full panel.

00:20:16.180 You only get results for your HIV, like rapid results day of everything else you have to

00:20:20.640 wait.

00:20:21.420 Someone comes out and calls my number because they can't say your name.

00:20:24.220 They sit me down and they just break it to me like you tested positive for HIV.

00:20:29.680 My world literally shattered into a million pieces.

00:20:34.100 So that is how I found out that I was HIV positive.

00:20:38.040 Yeah, she took an L.

00:20:40.040 Yeah, Glactavius gave it to her.

00:20:43.500 You, you just don't know.

00:20:45.720 You never know who has it.

00:20:48.120 How I found out.

00:20:49.060 Oh, this is the same girl.

00:20:50.180 Now she's going to say how she found out.

00:20:52.000 Okay.

00:20:52.600 I was HIV positive part two.

00:20:54.620 A lot of people want to know if I confronted my ex after finding out he gave me.

00:20:58.060 Women lead in all STDs over men by double. 0.54

00:21:00.960 Yeah, I know.

00:21:01.600 But we know what's going on here.

00:21:04.080 Small group of men are banging a lot of the women.

00:21:06.560 So a few chads are spreading it around and the women are spreading it about. 1.00

00:21:09.900 And both, both parties are lying about it.

00:21:12.100 And the reason I want to talk about this is because I want to make two things clear.

00:21:17.460 You don't always know who it is.

00:21:20.200 And out of the people I've interviewed, I also, I know somebody that dated a girl and

00:21:26.360 he went on a date with her and she told him that she had the, the herp, you know, and

00:21:32.900 he ended it right.

00:21:34.620 And then do you know what she did after she proceeded to lie to men about it? 1.00

00:21:38.520 And now she's engaged in the guy has no idea.

00:21:40.660 I, you know, this is someone, this isn't someone I know, but this is a story I heard from somebody

00:21:50.720 that I know.

00:21:51.360 And my point in this is, you know, from a, we got to look at the incentives here.

00:22:01.820 Pragmatically, there's no reason for them to be honest.

00:22:05.660 Why on earth would they be honest?

00:22:07.540 If medical records are sealed, you have no way of proving it was them.

00:22:11.640 Um, and this is like the, I've interviewed some, not HIV, but herp. 0.93

00:22:16.500 I've interviewed people that have it and their thought processes.

00:22:19.840 They can't prove I gave it to them because most people don't get tested for every single

00:22:25.300 partner.

00:22:25.800 Like it's like once every two years or a year is the average.

00:22:30.980 Um, and if I tell them the truth, I stopped getting sex.

00:22:38.760 So I'm just going to lie.

00:22:44.040 Yeah.

00:22:47.540 I'm not saying it's the right thing to do.

00:22:49.340 It's obviously the wrong thing to do, but what would be the incentive to be honest?

00:22:55.080 Seriously, seriously, guys, what, why would they be honest?

00:22:58.800 You can't always see it with the herp stuff. 1.00

00:23:01.720 You can't like, they don't always have active outbreaks.

00:23:04.580 So sometimes there's no symptoms.

00:23:06.400 You can't tell.

00:23:07.020 Yeah.

00:23:08.320 Everyone's lying HIV.

00:23:10.080 And the answer is yes, but not in the way that you guys might expect man was like a

00:23:14.180 full-blown narcissist in my mind.

00:23:16.260 I'm how it was a mistake.

00:23:18.180 When you test positive at the clinic, they ask you for your list of partners.

00:23:21.760 I refuse to give them his information.

00:23:24.580 Mind you, I had gotten tested the day before I met him and I tested negative for everything.

00:23:28.860 They put me on birth control.

00:23:30.240 They put me on antiretrovirals and they take my blood and send it out to the lab.

00:23:34.160 Sometimes people do have false positives, meaning that they test positive for HIV, but they're

00:23:38.700 not actually HIV positive.

00:23:40.600 I knew I wasn't one of them, child.

00:23:42.080 Did y'all see the video of my acute stage symptoms?

00:23:44.540 It was not a joke.

00:23:46.420 So they tell me not to tell him anything until I get the confirmatory results, but I just

00:23:50.720 couldn't wait.

00:23:51.220 The entire ride to his crib, I was literally trembling.

00:23:54.300 I don't really remember a guy gave it to her or her girlfriend.

00:23:58.780 Yeah, I know.

00:23:59.600 I know.

00:24:00.200 And that's how a lot of these people feel.

00:24:02.400 And I'm not saying it's right, but a lot of these people feel like, okay, somebody lied

00:24:06.820 to me and now I have it.

00:24:09.440 So why do I care about the next person?

00:24:12.680 I'm on the edge of his bed and I look at him in the eyes and I'm like, tested positive

00:24:16.320 for HIV.

00:24:17.360 Why was this his face?

00:24:19.020 Okay.

00:24:20.440 No concern, no anger, no fear.

00:24:23.020 It's like, listen, I don't want to talk about this negativity, okay?

00:24:25.640 Whatever you got going on is what you got going on.

00:24:28.100 Don't bring that negativity to me.

00:24:30.260 Oh my gosh, this guy that gave her HIV told her not to bring that negativity to him when

00:24:35.720 he told her.

00:24:39.000 Oh, that's such a Chad move.

00:24:41.760 He gave you HIV and then gaslight you and said, don't bring that negativity to me when

00:24:46.980 you're pissed. 0.90

00:24:48.360 Like I mentioned in the last video, I knew he was unfaithful to me, but like, I never

00:24:52.040 really had proof.

00:24:53.460 And honestly, he was a master manipulator, so it didn't make a difference whether that

00:24:56.620 was proof or not, because I was not ready to leave him.

00:25:00.280 However, I did not catch HIV because he was cheating on me, child.

00:25:04.140 The reason that I brought that up is because in my mind, I was like, yeah, you know, he's

00:25:08.860 cheating on me, but he's not out there having unprotected...

00:25:12.020 He was probably cheating with a dude, to be honest.

00:25:16.120 That's how a lot of HIV gets into the dating pool. 1.00

00:25:19.260 By the way, guys, the best way to get something is anal. 0.97

00:25:23.720 Talk to a doctor about this, you know, as I was prepping for this show a while back.

00:25:29.160 And it's because there's like blood.

00:25:32.380 It's kind of gross.

00:25:33.520 I'm a little uncomfortable talking about this, but somebody's got to do it.

00:25:36.940 Somebody's got to do it.

00:25:40.080 The sex with women, because that would mean that he intentionally infected me.

00:25:45.620 So it's already like mid-September.

00:25:47.540 He begs me to come to his place and he's slapping his cologne, putting on his shoes.

00:25:51.100 And I'm like, oh, baby, where are we going?

00:25:52.900 And he was like, nah, you're staying here.

00:25:54.400 I'm going to go to a party at Hofstra University.

00:25:56.740 Mind you, this man was 37 years old at the time.

00:25:59.920 Doesn't come back until the next day at around like 2 or 3 p.m.

00:26:03.840 We argue, we make up, I stay the night again.

00:26:06.540 And then a few days later, both of us have separate trips.

00:26:09.660 Before my trip, my vagina starts feeling weird. 1.00

00:26:12.480 Like a yeast infection, but times 10.

00:26:15.220 So when I get back, I hit up my doctor.

00:26:17.760 She tells me to immediately come in so that I can get tested.

00:26:20.120 Mind you, my doctor cannot stand my eggs.

00:26:22.820 She has been begging me since August to report him.

00:26:27.200 Because he could reinfect me with a totally different strain of HIV.

00:26:30.460 Literally the next day, I get a call back.

00:26:32.140 Tells me that I tested positive for chlamydia.

00:26:34.560 And at that point, the blindfold is lifted.

00:26:37.320 And my heart is literally exposed and broken into a thousand pieces.

00:26:41.360 Not because he cheated on me.

00:26:43.760 But because at that moment, I realized that he intentionally infected me with HIV.

00:26:49.300 And if you don't know this, the number one STDs on college campuses is chlamydia.

00:26:53.420 I couldn't sit with that on my conscience.

00:26:55.440 So this all went down around the first week of October.

00:26:57.820 And he was actually going to Miami Carnival that weekend.

00:27:00.640 The hardest part of my HIV diagnosis was actually leaving the person that infected me.

00:27:05.820 After a few days, I finally had the courage to report him to the Department of Health.

00:27:09.980 But honestly, it didn't even matter because come to find out, that wasn't even his real name.

00:27:15.000 Yeah, I did a couple polls on Twitter.

00:27:30.680 I'm currently locked out of my Twitter right now, by the way.

00:27:33.820 I don't know how we're still able to stream from it.

00:27:36.240 But I fell for some Indian hackers. 1.00

00:27:39.340 They got me.

00:27:40.120 It was really stupid.

00:27:41.460 So don't buy the Bitcoin they're trying to sell.

00:27:43.820 Otherwise, I'd show you the polls I did.

00:27:46.440 But the consensus from people was that I remember I polled people on if they've had an STD, what was it?

00:27:53.320 It seems like chlamydia is the most common one.

00:27:55.580 That's from the field.

00:27:58.060 Even the PUA's I've interviewed said that's the one you might get even with a condom.

00:28:04.680 They all seem to be very...

00:28:07.580 But then again, it's like, are they going to tell me if they caught herpes?

00:28:14.900 I don't know.

00:28:16.040 I don't know if people are going to tell me that when I'm doing my research.

00:28:19.080 And that's why I need you guys to call in because you guys can call in anonymously and you can you could give me, you know, because here's the problem with the STD stats.

00:28:30.200 Remember, they always lie to make society always lies to make women feel better. 1.00

00:28:35.500 So if the data is saying women are whores, they might downplay it.

00:28:40.020 So all the stats I'm telling you, just assume it's worse.

00:28:42.800 I would really just, I would just assume it's worse than what we're reading.

00:28:55.500 Yeah, so, all right.

00:28:57.580 Each IV positive after noticing strange spots on my body and experiencing high fevers.

00:29:03.400 It all started after a night out with my friend.

00:29:06.460 I remember drinking a lot, way more than I should have.

00:29:09.480 Things got so out of hand that I completely lost control of what I was doing.

00:29:14.660 My friend tried to get me home safely, but we...

00:29:17.260 You said we're going to have to use the camera soon.

00:29:19.460 Okay, not this show.

00:29:22.780 This show is going to be pretty anonymous, all right?

00:29:26.680 We ended up arguing and she decided to leave. 0.57

00:29:29.980 I stayed at the party with some other friends and eventually met this guy.

00:29:34.260 He seemed fun and the...

00:29:35.920 Okay, so does this look like a guy that's going to give you HIV?

00:29:41.380 Do you know what I mean?

00:29:42.440 This is what I'm like...

00:29:43.700 Last thing I remember was dancing and having a great time.

00:29:49.220 The next morning, I woke up in his bed, confused and unable to...

00:29:53.960 Okay, so he smashed.

00:29:55.740 ...call most of the night.

00:29:57.180 I left before he woke up, brushing it off like it was no big deal.

00:30:01.940 I thought that night wouldn't have any consequences.

00:30:05.160 But a month later, I started losing a lot of weight.

00:30:09.060 I was constantly running a fever.

00:30:11.400 How terrible...

00:30:12.380 Oh, ew.

00:30:16.360 Ew.

00:30:17.760 And noticed strange spots appearing on my skin.

00:30:20.780 That's when panic set in, deep down.

00:30:23.560 I had a terrible...

00:30:25.180 If she had any thoughts, she may have contracted early on.

00:30:29.400 She could have done PEP. 1.00

00:30:31.660 Has to be within 24 hours, but no later than 72 hours.

00:30:36.780 Well, you should call in and talk about that.

00:30:38.320 I don't know about that drug.

00:30:39.900 So...

00:30:40.240 Terrible feeling about what might have happened that night.

00:30:43.160 I decided to go to the hospital.

00:30:45.720 And that's one.

00:30:47.000 Comment if you want to hear part two.

00:30:49.640 Pretty gross.

00:30:50.760 That's disgusting.

00:30:51.800 It'd be great to talk to someone with HIV because I don't know anybody with that.

00:30:55.540 All right.

00:31:00.540 We got another one.

00:31:04.540 Sunday, August 27th.

00:31:06.540 Also, this is...

00:31:10.080 Again, I'm getting a sick feeling in my stomach.

00:31:12.160 This is so gross.

00:31:14.140 Please like the video.

00:31:15.420 If you're not going to super chat me, guys,

00:31:18.440 hit the like.

00:31:20.040 But just as a thank you,

00:31:21.640 could you just say thank you, Pearl?

00:31:23.300 Thank you, Doug MPA,

00:31:26.200 for doing the research on this show,

00:31:28.820 even though this is nasty,

00:31:31.220 for talking about this topic publicly,

00:31:33.680 even though this is disgusting.

00:31:39.540 It's disgusting, but it's got to be done.

00:31:42.020 I cover the modern dating market,

00:31:44.280 and guys,

00:31:45.500 that's a big part of the modern dating market.

00:31:49.820 It's a big part.

00:31:51.980 This week,

00:31:53.300 I found out

00:31:54.800 that I have HIV.

00:31:57.380 I was diagnosed

00:31:58.160 on August

00:31:59.400 23rd.

00:32:03.500 I was diagnosed.

00:32:05.540 Today is

00:32:06.300 my attempt

00:32:08.260 at my first day out.

00:32:09.820 I'm going to the movies

00:32:10.740 with my friend.

00:32:14.100 $50.

00:32:15.360 Thank you, Thomas Conservative.

00:32:17.240 That's the kind of

00:32:17.980 viewership I'm talking about.

00:32:21.000 That's the kind of support

00:32:22.220 we love on this channel

00:32:23.700 because it's,

00:32:26.200 it's,

00:32:26.620 do you know what?

00:32:27.840 It's like now

00:32:29.000 I have a video of me

00:32:30.880 on the internet

00:32:31.380 talking about freaking herpes.

00:32:33.140 That's disgusting.

00:32:33.980 But I just felt

00:32:37.060 obligated,

00:32:37.740 especially as I started

00:32:38.820 doing these interviews.

00:32:40.360 I just wanted to stress

00:32:42.020 that it could,

00:32:42.580 it could happen

00:32:43.620 to any of you.

00:32:46.480 Because,

00:32:47.500 you know,

00:32:48.260 I'd interview these people

00:32:53.020 and I would be like,

00:32:53.740 wow,

00:32:54.040 you guys look like 0.73

00:32:54.860 just the person next door.

00:32:58.080 And it's,

00:32:58.820 I hate saying that

00:33:00.180 because everyone,

00:33:00.920 like they,

00:33:02.180 it sounds like

00:33:03.800 I'm justifying it.

00:33:05.000 I'm really not.

00:33:05.920 But it's,

00:33:07.060 like,

00:33:07.600 I'm getting grossed out.

00:33:09.260 The feeling in my stomach

00:33:10.480 is just,

00:33:11.420 ugh,

00:33:12.340 gross.

00:33:13.840 But,

00:33:14.280 you know,

00:33:14.720 I love it

00:33:15.280 when you guys appreciate

00:33:16.460 the sacrifices

00:33:17.520 I make for you.

00:33:18.500 Thank you,

00:33:18.940 Thomas Conservative.

00:33:20.720 Thank you.

00:33:22.240 Because who else

00:33:23.220 is covering this bullshit?

00:33:24.840 Who?

00:33:25.800 Who else is covering this?

00:33:27.900 Nobody.

00:33:28.520 Nobody wants to talk

00:33:29.520 about HIV

00:33:30.340 and herpes

00:33:31.100 but Pearl.

00:33:33.620 I had a really hard time.

00:33:36.460 It was really hard

00:33:37.680 to get ready.

00:33:40.260 I don't quite know

00:33:42.160 what I want to do

00:33:43.600 with my story.

00:33:44.760 I don't know

00:33:45.280 if I want to share it.

00:33:46.440 I don't know.

00:33:47.760 My mind is

00:33:48.700 a thousand places

00:33:50.080 at once.

00:33:52.180 Um,

00:33:53.340 but I wanted to document

00:33:54.820 this in case

00:33:55.600 one day I do

00:33:56.460 decide

00:33:57.320 to share it

00:33:58.540 so that this

00:33:59.500 part

00:34:00.420 of my journey

00:34:01.480 is seen.

00:34:02.700 I also just want

00:34:03.900 to document this

00:34:04.760 for my own self

00:34:05.720 to see

00:34:06.360 how far I come

00:34:08.580 because I know

00:34:10.120 I have a world

00:34:11.960 a life

00:34:13.520 of

00:34:14.120 trials and tribulations

00:34:17.660 and I know

00:34:18.720 that

00:34:19.040 this is important.

00:34:22.400 This part

00:34:23.380 of the story

00:34:24.460 is important

00:34:25.480 whatever I make it.

00:34:28.340 Um,

00:34:29.040 that's really all.

00:34:33.120 I never thought

00:34:34.100 I would be here.

00:34:34.820 I never thought

00:34:35.300 I would be talking

00:34:36.140 and recording myself

00:34:37.380 crying.

00:34:38.280 That's not who I am.

00:34:39.220 but I'm here.

00:34:42.220 I'm at

00:34:42.860 my lowest

00:34:43.900 point.

00:34:45.280 Well,

00:34:45.480 I've been lower

00:34:46.160 actually

00:34:46.900 which is surprising

00:34:48.380 but

00:34:48.980 I don't know

00:34:50.420 what could be lower

00:34:51.140 than getting HIV.

00:34:52.780 Do you know what?

00:34:53.240 Like,

00:34:53.540 okay,

00:34:54.060 and I thought about this

00:34:55.300 because I interviewed

00:34:56.420 a different guy.

00:34:57.180 Thank you,

00:34:57.700 Pearl.

00:34:58.300 Sam,

00:34:58.780 thank you.

00:34:59.920 I was interviewing,

00:35:01.080 I just,

00:35:01.560 I talked,

00:35:02.580 I talked too much.

00:35:03.440 I talked to a lot

00:35:04.060 of people.

00:35:04.560 Now,

00:35:05.540 I talked to this guy

00:35:06.320 who's like in his 50s

00:35:07.440 and he's dating,

00:35:08.160 right?

00:35:09.660 And he flat up told me,

00:35:11.780 you know,

00:35:12.300 and I was just asking him

00:35:13.320 about his dating life

00:35:14.380 because he's interviewed,

00:35:15.140 he dated these old broads, 1.00

00:35:17.040 right?

00:35:17.260 And he was telling me

00:35:17.740 about dating them

00:35:18.300 and I'm like,

00:35:18.620 aren't you afraid

00:35:19.100 you're going to like

00:35:19.620 catch something?

00:35:20.380 He's like,

00:35:20.720 frankly,

00:35:21.700 because he was like 60

00:35:22.740 at his age.

00:35:23.500 He's like,

00:35:23.920 at this point,

00:35:24.540 I don't care.

00:35:27.000 And I,

00:35:27.760 you know,

00:35:27.980 I do think there's like,

00:35:29.880 like if you catch

00:35:30.820 something at 20,

00:35:31.860 that's far more devastating

00:35:33.500 than catching something

00:35:35.060 at 40 or 50.

00:35:37.600 Like that's far more

00:35:39.420 devastating.

00:35:41.920 Far more.

00:35:44.600 I'm at a really big

00:35:47.060 crossroad in my life

00:35:48.140 and just here

00:35:50.840 and I'm thankful for that.

00:35:57.820 Yeah.

00:35:58.960 Again,

00:35:59.320 you know,

00:35:59.540 you'd think you're taking

00:36:00.420 home a Latina baddie

00:36:02.000 and now you have HIV.

00:36:06.280 All right.

00:36:06.680 So according to the CDC,

00:36:08.620 59% of women

00:36:10.040 between the ages

00:36:10.900 of 20 to 49

00:36:12.560 have genital herpes.

00:36:14.500 Let that sink in.

00:36:16.640 These women have the gift 1.00

00:36:17.900 that keeps on giving.

00:36:19.400 The luggage

00:36:20.040 you can never leave behind.

00:36:21.940 Now,

00:36:22.140 how do most of these women 1.00

00:36:23.380 have herpes?

00:36:24.400 From sleeping

00:36:25.280 with the same guys.

00:36:26.500 You have Chad,

00:36:27.860 Gloctavius that has it

00:36:29.400 and all the women 0.92

00:36:30.380 that sleep with him

00:36:31.200 raw and contract it.

00:36:33.280 Thanks,

00:36:33.660 Pearly Land,

00:36:34.420 Doug.

00:36:35.160 Condolences of actions.

00:36:39.740 Women would rather 1.00

00:36:40.620 catch an STD

00:36:41.600 than a day to five.

00:36:43.760 All right.

00:36:44.100 So here's another girl 0.93

00:36:45.020 that has herpes.

00:36:47.140 I mean,

00:36:47.440 again,

00:36:47.760 does this look like

00:36:48.820 a super slut? 1.00

00:36:49.620 I like to tell you guys

00:36:51.300 when I'm having a flare-up

00:36:52.540 just so that you see

00:36:53.780 what it's like.

00:36:55.240 That's not why

00:36:55.840 I'm in bed

00:36:56.260 with a blanket though.

00:36:57.460 I'm just comfy

00:36:58.400 and taking in

00:36:59.300 the golden hour.

00:37:00.580 Do you see this?

00:37:02.380 Okay,

00:37:02.680 so literally

00:37:03.380 what I'm feeling

00:37:04.340 is an hour.

00:37:06.000 You are the

00:37:06.600 Walter Cronk

00:37:08.400 kite

00:37:09.180 of herp derp

00:37:10.440 HIV yeast.

00:37:13.760 I don't know

00:37:14.500 what that means,

00:37:15.360 but I guess

00:37:16.360 thank you.

00:37:17.040 I'll let you know

00:37:18.660 like I am on

00:37:19.600 the antivirals daily.

00:37:21.320 Lately,

00:37:21.640 I have been since

00:37:22.380 before the summer

00:37:23.260 because I was just like

00:37:24.960 I don't want to deal,

00:37:26.380 you know?

00:37:27.500 All it is

00:37:28.460 is like

00:37:29.360 I'm itchy

00:37:30.280 in one little spot.

00:37:32.380 Is there anything

00:37:33.320 visible there?

00:37:34.440 Nope.

00:37:35.380 Now,

00:37:36.060 what the herpes

00:37:37.380 people told me

00:37:38.620 is when they

00:37:40.060 when you first

00:37:40.900 get infected with it,

00:37:42.020 I guess there's

00:37:42.540 a lot of flare-ups

00:37:43.600 and then over time

00:37:45.280 it becomes less

00:37:46.320 and less

00:37:46.920 and usually

00:37:47.960 it's one spot

00:37:49.160 that's infected

00:37:50.040 and the reason

00:37:50.660 it goes around condoms

00:37:52.180 and people get it

00:37:53.920 even though

00:37:54.280 there's no flare-up

00:37:55.480 is because

00:37:56.220 you're most likely

00:37:57.120 to spread it

00:37:58.100 right before

00:37:59.500 the flare-up comes

00:38:01.040 so they can't see it.

00:38:02.940 So if it's like

00:38:03.460 about to like

00:38:04.340 be a bliss

00:38:04.940 or whatever the

00:38:05.620 and they also

00:38:07.620 said that

00:38:08.340 it's very tough

00:38:09.120 to see the difference

00:38:10.200 between that

00:38:10.760 and like a skin tag

00:38:11.960 and it's so disgusting. 0.87

00:38:15.080 I don't even like

00:38:15.540 talking about this,

00:38:16.340 but

00:38:16.680 the other thing

00:38:18.980 I was told

00:38:19.560 is that over time

00:38:20.720 I guess

00:38:21.260 because

00:38:21.580 one of the dudes

00:38:22.840 that I interviewed

00:38:23.640 I'm hoping he sees this

00:38:25.000 I was going to message him

00:38:25.960 on Twitter

00:38:26.360 to call in

00:38:27.200 but I lost my Twitter

00:38:28.340 so this was just

00:38:29.220 like bad timing

00:38:30.180 but he said

00:38:32.120 that according to him

00:38:33.920 he doesn't take

00:38:35.620 the antivirals

00:38:36.760 now apparently

00:38:37.340 the antivirals

00:38:38.300 make it not spreadable

00:38:39.500 he does not take

00:38:40.700 the antivirals

00:38:41.700 and he just spreads

00:38:43.180 it and doesn't care

00:38:44.180 now according to him

00:38:46.040 out of like

00:38:46.580 a hundred girls

00:38:47.360 he's slept with

00:38:48.280 since

00:38:48.880 only like

00:38:50.500 two to five

00:38:51.720 said they got it

00:38:53.400 now this kind of

00:38:55.940 backs up the research

00:38:57.860 I've seen

00:38:58.600 where they can only

00:38:59.300 spread it

00:38:59.880 like 20% of the year

00:39:01.320 and even if you

00:39:04.180 hook up with someone

00:39:04.960 that has it

00:39:05.680 I think you're

00:39:06.300 more likely

00:39:07.200 to not get it

00:39:08.620 than get it

00:39:09.260 like they're not

00:39:09.800 going to spread it

00:39:10.400 every single time

00:39:11.420 and but I guess

00:39:13.960 the way it goes

00:39:14.640 around it's so

00:39:15.360 disgusting

00:39:15.880 I guess the way

00:39:17.600 but I'm trying to

00:39:18.240 be informative here

00:39:19.220 I guess the way

00:39:20.460 it goes around

00:39:21.180 the condom

00:39:21.960 is some people

00:39:22.960 get herpes

00:39:24.020 like higher

00:39:24.740 than you know

00:39:25.680 like higher

00:39:27.500 I'll just say

00:39:28.140 just for the sake

00:39:29.140 of being YouTube

00:39:29.940 higher up

00:39:31.420 I'll just say

00:39:33.840 it like that

00:39:34.640 I'm not a doctor

00:39:37.000 I'm not a medical

00:39:37.860 professional

00:39:38.500 this is just

00:39:39.760 based on the

00:39:40.600 research I've seen

00:39:41.980 so don't make

00:39:43.000 any medical

00:39:43.600 decisions based

00:39:44.600 on this show

00:39:45.440 I'm open

00:39:46.620 if there's someone

00:39:47.260 smarter than me

00:39:48.080 in the chat

00:39:48.620 you never know

00:39:49.300 we might have a

00:39:49.680 doctor in the chat

00:39:50.500 you let me know

00:39:51.820 much respect

00:39:53.060 Pearl

00:39:53.420 the real side

00:39:54.200 of things

00:39:54.580 is sometimes

00:39:55.160 what more needs

00:39:56.320 to be seen

00:39:56.940 are best to you

00:39:57.840 always

00:39:58.280 thank you

00:39:59.200 thank you

00:40:00.100 I'm like

00:40:00.680 getting kind of

00:40:02.340 grossed out

00:40:02.860 talking about this

00:40:03.940 okay

00:40:05.060 can there be

00:40:06.440 something visible

00:40:07.580 that comes

00:40:08.620 in a day or two

00:40:09.420 yeah

00:40:10.520 it'll probably

00:40:11.300 keep it

00:40:11.840 everyone's saying

00:40:12.720 it's gross

00:40:13.140 in the chat

00:40:13.680 but there's

00:40:14.200 850 people

00:40:15.420 in here

00:40:15.780 somebody has it

00:40:16.760 I don't know

00:40:17.580 who

00:40:17.880 I don't know

00:40:19.420 who

00:40:19.740 but somebody

00:40:20.320 put it in the chat

00:40:21.380 be brave

00:40:21.980 who's got it

00:40:23.020 and become

00:40:24.280 like a little

00:40:24.840 bump

00:40:25.160 and look at

00:40:25.720 if you guys

00:40:26.160 have had sex

00:40:27.000 with a hoe 1.00

00:40:27.480 unprotected

00:40:28.140 it could have

00:40:28.520 been you

00:40:28.900 it could have

00:40:29.920 if you

00:40:30.880 ladies 0.99

00:40:31.760 if you had

00:40:32.180 sex with a guy 0.95

00:40:32.880 unprotected

00:40:33.580 it could have

00:40:35.080 been you

00:40:35.500 it could be

00:40:35.880 anybody

00:40:36.320 truly

00:40:37.140 and then

00:40:38.700 eventually

00:40:39.160 if I left

00:40:39.960 it alone

00:40:41.120 and didn't

00:40:41.600 take an antiviral

00:40:42.500 or didn't

00:40:43.000 put an ointment

00:40:43.720 on it

00:40:44.200 it might

00:40:44.860 become a blister

00:40:45.660 and then it

00:40:46.260 would heal

00:40:46.680 and go away 0.66

00:40:47.360 does it hurt

00:40:48.520 no

00:40:49.200 do I feel

00:40:50.160 anything else

00:40:50.840 with it

00:40:51.240 no

00:40:51.860 I'll keep

00:40:52.640 you posted

00:40:53.240 yeah

00:40:54.540 that's kind

00:40:55.060 of what

00:40:55.300 I've

00:40:55.640 I've heard

00:40:56.300 the first

00:40:56.840 one hurts

00:40:57.400 a lot

00:40:57.780 that's the

00:40:58.920 main

00:40:59.100 they all

00:40:59.900 said

00:41:00.320 they all

00:41:00.760 what they

00:41:01.980 told me

00:41:02.540 was the

00:41:02.920 first one

00:41:03.500 is terrible

00:41:04.160 brutal

00:41:05.460 but then

00:41:06.760 after that

00:41:07.520 it's like

00:41:07.940 not so bad

00:41:08.900 and apparently

00:41:09.800 there's drugs

00:41:10.640 now

00:41:10.840 basically

00:41:11.460 any problem

00:41:12.180 that women 0.97

00:41:12.600 have technology

00:41:13.520 will solve

00:41:14.120 so I guess

00:41:14.780 there's drugs

00:41:16.120 that make it

00:41:16.680 not spread

00:41:17.540 allegedly

00:41:18.320 I

00:41:18.800 but I think

00:41:20.240 they have to

00:41:20.740 take the medication

00:41:21.620 the same time

00:41:22.400 every day

00:41:22.940 and women

00:41:23.440 you know

00:41:23.920 what I mean

00:41:24.360 and the other

00:41:26.140 issue

00:41:26.600 is

00:41:27.000 oh

00:41:35.980 I guess

00:41:36.580 they have to

00:41:36.960 take Medicaid

00:41:37.500 make sure

00:41:38.180 they're not

00:41:38.620 having an

00:41:39.060 outbreak

00:41:39.360 when the

00:41:39.700 girls give 0.93

00:41:40.180 birth

00:41:40.640 so the

00:41:40.920 kids

00:41:41.140 don't

00:41:41.400 get

00:41:41.580 get it

00:41:42.880 all right

00:41:45.380 let's see

00:41:45.700 this

00:41:45.960 this is a

00:41:46.380 dude or

00:41:46.680 a girl

00:41:47.020 nine years

00:41:48.500 ago

00:41:48.840 this month

00:41:49.920 I got

00:41:50.840 genital

00:41:51.220 herpes

00:41:51.620 I was 16

00:41:53.220 years old

00:41:53.940 and the

00:41:54.280 person that

00:41:54.760 gave me

00:41:55.180 herpes

00:41:55.520 was 20

00:41:56.200 and

00:41:58.000 I'll never

00:41:59.080 forget this

00:41:59.960 experience

00:42:00.760 oh my gosh

00:42:01.320 she got it

00:42:01.740 at 16

00:42:02.520 that's such

00:42:03.360 an L 0.91

00:42:03.860 I'm so grateful

00:42:09.200 for this

00:42:09.660 experience

00:42:10.140 because it

00:42:10.660 made me

00:42:11.000 to the

00:42:11.260 young lady

00:42:11.740 that I

00:42:12.100 am today

00:42:12.740 a lot

00:42:13.680 of people

00:42:14.160 have like

00:42:15.420 controversial

00:42:16.060 thoughts

00:42:16.600 about me

00:42:17.120 saying that

00:42:17.580 I'm grateful

00:42:18.000 for having

00:42:18.460 herpes

00:42:18.840 but let

00:42:19.840 me tell

00:42:20.120 you why

00:42:20.620 so when

00:42:22.700 I was

00:42:23.040 16

00:42:23.540 I was

00:42:24.720 already

00:42:25.000 having

00:42:25.300 a heart

00:42:25.700 at home

00:42:26.200 like I

00:42:26.660 worked

00:42:26.980 a lot

00:42:27.540 and I

00:42:29.020 involved

00:42:29.720 myself

00:42:30.180 with

00:42:30.360 older men

00:42:31.320 because my

00:42:31.820 mom told

00:42:32.360 me better

00:42:32.760 to be

00:42:33.280 an old

00:42:33.980 man's

00:42:34.320 sweetheart

00:42:34.700 than a

00:42:35.040 young

00:42:35.220 man's

00:42:35.640 fool

00:42:35.960 so that's

00:42:37.680 what I

00:42:37.900 did

00:42:39.220 unknowingly

00:42:40.520 this older

00:42:42.000 man was

00:42:43.100 in college

00:42:43.540 and he

00:42:43.820 had herpes

00:42:44.500 so I

00:42:45.460 was involved

00:42:45.980 with him

00:42:46.400 on like

00:42:46.800 a Monday

00:42:47.240 and by

00:42:48.420 Wednesday

00:42:49.180 I was

00:42:50.000 having

00:42:50.280 symptoms

00:42:50.860 I had

00:42:52.080 all these

00:42:52.660 sores

00:42:53.080 just pop

00:42:54.060 up like

00:42:54.600 each day

00:42:55.340 and they

00:42:55.880 would get

00:42:56.240 worse

00:42:56.600 and that's

00:42:57.100 what I've

00:42:57.680 that's what

00:42:58.520 I've heard

00:42:58.920 as well

00:42:59.520 is if

00:43:00.080 you get

00:43:00.540 it

00:43:00.800 they say

00:43:02.320 there's

00:43:02.640 no symptoms

00:43:03.620 but every

00:43:04.840 person I've

00:43:05.600 interviewed

00:43:05.980 said they

00:43:07.460 got symptoms

00:43:08.260 pretty fast

00:43:09.240 allegedly

00:43:12.680 from what I

00:43:13.420 read online

00:43:14.240 it said

00:43:15.000 you might

00:43:15.460 have it

00:43:15.880 and not

00:43:16.240 even

00:43:16.500 know

00:43:16.960 again

00:43:19.640 people

00:43:20.620 don't

00:43:20.940 really

00:43:21.160 want

00:43:21.340 to

00:43:21.460 talk

00:43:21.820 about

00:43:22.120 this

00:43:22.380 stuff

00:43:22.700 so

00:43:22.900 you

00:43:23.080 probably

00:43:23.440 are

00:43:23.620 going

00:43:23.740 to

00:43:23.820 learn

00:43:24.080 more

00:43:24.580 you

00:43:25.340 got

00:43:25.540 two

00:43:25.780 problems

00:43:26.640 gyno 0.95

00:43:27.140 centrism

00:43:27.840 right

00:43:28.060 people

00:43:28.460 they're

00:43:29.520 going to

00:43:29.740 hide

00:43:30.000 information

00:43:30.640 that makes

00:43:31.080 women 1.00

00:43:31.320 look bad

00:43:31.980 so that's

00:43:32.680 one way

00:43:33.180 we're not

00:43:33.520 really going

00:43:33.840 to get

00:43:34.020 the truth

00:43:34.420 about it

00:43:34.800 the other

00:43:35.200 issue

00:43:35.560 is that

00:43:36.080 people

00:43:37.580 are pretty

00:43:37.980 embarrassed

00:43:38.580 about this

00:43:39.180 stuff

00:43:39.400 they don't

00:43:39.660 really want

00:43:40.000 to talk

00:43:40.380 about it

00:43:40.900 so

00:43:41.320 like

00:43:42.480 they're

00:43:42.700 gonna

00:43:42.880 they lie

00:43:43.400 to their

00:43:43.640 part

00:43:43.900 like

00:43:44.140 you know

00:43:45.200 there was

00:43:46.080 a reddit

00:43:46.840 of a married

00:43:47.500 woman 0.99

00:43:47.920 that had

00:43:48.920 herpes

00:43:49.280 and never

00:43:49.660 told her

00:43:50.080 husband

00:43:50.540 the friend

00:43:52.660 I think

00:43:53.000 the friend

00:43:53.400 of the

00:43:53.960 guy I know

00:43:54.880 that dated

00:43:55.400 the girl

00:43:55.900 that went

00:43:56.740 on a date

00:43:57.200 with the girl

00:43:57.600 that had it

00:43:58.200 the girl

00:43:58.480 got engaged

00:43:59.240 and the guy

00:43:59.720 doesn't know

00:44:00.460 careful out

00:44:03.400 there

00:44:03.760 and worse

00:44:04.580 like

00:44:04.960 it started

00:44:05.740 with one

00:44:06.400 then it went

00:44:06.980 to three

00:44:07.440 then it went

00:44:07.900 to six

00:44:08.360 and then it

00:44:08.780 was like

00:44:09.100 a nine

00:44:09.600 from

00:44:10.060 my

00:44:10.560 you know

00:44:11.100 lady parts

00:44:11.720 to my

00:44:12.280 my butt

00:44:13.140 you know

00:44:13.740 and I was

00:44:15.260 in excruciating

00:44:16.520 pain

00:44:16.960 I'm like

00:44:17.540 man I don't

00:44:18.060 trust anybody

00:44:18.820 in this house

00:44:19.440 to tell them

00:44:19.900 what's going

00:44:20.260 on with me

00:44:20.820 and mind

00:44:21.940 y'all I worked

00:44:22.620 a lot

00:44:23.160 so I had

00:44:24.200 a like

00:44:24.700 overnight

00:44:25.200 type of job

00:44:26.060 yes when I was

00:44:26.980 16 it was like

00:44:27.820 an early morning

00:44:28.500 overnight

00:44:28.900 like I don't

00:44:29.620 know what

00:44:29.860 shit if you

00:44:30.180 call that

00:44:30.480 anyway

00:44:30.800 I ended up

00:44:32.240 telling the

00:44:33.360 lady that 0.96

00:44:34.040 I worked

00:44:34.640 with like

00:44:35.180 oh my god

00:44:35.880 like something

00:44:36.460 is wrong

00:44:36.960 with me

00:44:37.340 and you guys

00:44:38.300 gotta stop

00:44:38.880 crashing out

00:44:39.720 on these girls 0.57

00:44:40.340 that have

00:44:40.760 herpes

00:44:41.180 if they

00:44:41.740 tell you

00:44:42.400 I'm telling

00:44:44.180 you man

00:44:44.640 or woman

00:44:45.160 if they

00:44:45.540 tell you

00:44:46.100 you're lucky

00:44:46.840 because I'm

00:44:49.080 interviewing them

00:44:50.040 and I'm telling

00:44:51.100 you it's way

00:44:51.880 easier for them

00:44:52.800 to lie

00:44:53.380 my son

00:44:56.220 caught herpes

00:44:57.000 from his

00:44:57.460 girlfriend

00:44:57.880 okay if you

00:44:58.460 could call in

00:44:59.180 and tell us

00:44:59.760 about it

00:45:00.320 like his

00:45:01.460 symptoms

00:45:02.020 what he's

00:45:02.420 done dating

00:45:03.320 thus far

00:45:04.280 yeah

00:45:09.300 and if you

00:45:11.000 guys have

00:45:11.320 had experience

00:45:11.960 dating someone

00:45:12.880 or whatever

00:45:14.240 with it

00:45:15.240 please don't

00:45:16.620 come in

00:45:17.080 and crash 0.89

00:45:17.600 out about

00:45:18.060 women having 0.87

00:45:18.660 this stuff

00:45:19.300 and men

00:45:19.660 like

00:45:20.100 just call

00:45:21.260 in

00:45:21.400 I just

00:45:21.660 want the 0.55

00:45:22.000 experience

00:45:22.800 and she's

00:45:23.420 like just

00:45:23.840 try to push

00:45:24.360 through

00:45:24.720 like this

00:45:25.360 is truck

00:45:25.860 team

00:45:26.700 for JC

00:45:27.180 Penny's

00:45:27.580 they like

00:45:27.940 you can't

00:45:28.420 go home

00:45:28.800 you're gonna

00:45:29.040 have to

00:45:29.280 work

00:45:29.540 so I'm

00:45:30.380 like oh

00:45:30.800 my gosh

00:45:31.340 like I

00:45:31.600 have to

00:45:31.800 work

00:45:32.020 through

00:45:32.180 this

00:45:32.380 excruciating

00:45:32.980 pain

00:45:33.440 so finally

00:45:34.240 finally

00:45:36.340 it got

00:45:37.280 to its

00:45:37.600 wits ends

00:45:38.240 to where

00:45:38.680 I was at

00:45:39.100 home one

00:45:39.580 day

00:45:39.840 and

00:45:40.620 it was

00:45:42.360 so many

00:45:42.740 sores

00:45:43.100 down there

00:45:43.540 it hurts

00:45:44.020 to urinate

00:45:44.580 so

00:45:45.620 I was

00:45:47.540 holding my

00:45:48.120 urine

00:45:48.520 so long

00:45:49.540 that I was

00:45:50.220 standing in

00:45:50.640 the kitchen

00:45:51.000 with my

00:45:51.320 mom

00:45:51.640 and my

00:45:52.120 urine

00:45:52.380 just came

00:45:52.900 out of

00:45:53.160 my body

00:45:53.500 like my

00:45:53.980 water had

00:45:54.460 broke

00:45:54.760 and my

00:45:55.980 mom was

00:45:56.480 like what

00:45:57.380 is wrong

00:45:57.820 with you

00:45:58.180 what is wrong

00:45:58.780 with you

00:45:59.300 and I

00:46:00.060 just start

00:46:00.520 bawling

00:46:01.280 my mom

00:46:02.660 is and

00:46:03.420 was extra

00:46:04.060 mean

00:46:04.400 so I'm

00:46:05.720 like oh

00:46:06.140 no there's

00:46:06.820 just stories

00:46:07.340 everywhere down

00:46:08.180 there and

00:46:08.620 she's like you

00:46:09.180 done got

00:46:09.540 something

00:46:09.940 oh my gosh

00:46:11.140 she's mad 0.99

00:46:12.180 like this

00:46:13.780 was the 18th

00:46:15.000 I think of

00:46:15.580 July and

00:46:16.520 she took me

00:46:17.000 to the doctor

00:46:17.600 the 19th

00:46:18.540 of July and

00:46:19.240 that's her 0.84

00:46:19.600 birthday

00:46:20.000 um so

00:46:22.120 yeah I

00:46:22.400 found out I

00:46:22.780 had herpes

00:46:23.120 on my

00:46:23.400 mom's

00:46:23.700 birthday

00:46:24.020 the doctor

00:46:25.000 swabbed

00:46:25.460 the swab

00:46:25.900 she said

00:46:26.380 oh I'll

00:46:27.300 send it in

00:46:27.780 for testing

00:46:28.260 but this

00:46:28.860 is herpes

00:46:29.280 my mom

00:46:30.780 my mom

00:46:32.460 was so

00:46:32.880 mad at

00:46:33.220 me that

00:46:33.540 I think

00:46:33.940 she didn't

00:46:34.540 talk to

00:46:34.960 me for

00:46:35.380 seven

00:46:35.900 straight 0.70

00:46:36.320 days

00:46:36.820 like she

00:46:37.660 wouldn't

00:46:37.880 even look

00:46:38.300 at me

00:46:38.600 she continued

00:46:39.820 to be mad

00:46:40.640 for like

00:46:41.360 eternity

00:46:42.100 she's cool

00:46:43.600 now but

00:46:44.420 she was like

00:46:46.160 really really

00:46:46.680 mad at me

00:46:47.280 and I thought

00:46:48.480 I would never

00:46:49.080 make it to

00:46:49.920 see 18

00:46:50.560 and get up

00:46:51.260 out of that

00:46:51.640 house but

00:46:52.420 I went

00:46:53.020 through it

00:46:53.520 you know

00:46:53.760 what I'm

00:46:54.020 saying and

00:46:54.640 that's why

00:46:54.940 young kids

00:46:55.460 come to me

00:46:56.000 and they'd

00:46:56.240 be like

00:46:56.540 oh I'm

00:46:57.980 so scared

00:46:58.380 to tell

00:46:58.640 my parents

00:46:59.340 and I

00:47:00.820 get it

00:47:01.340 but you

00:47:02.040 have to

00:47:02.420 go to

00:47:02.640 the doctor

00:47:03.120 and get

00:47:03.600 the medicine

00:47:04.120 so that

00:47:04.760 you can

00:47:05.080 start to

00:47:05.520 suppress it

00:47:06.060 in your

00:47:06.320 body

00:47:06.640 I mean

00:47:07.840 it'll go

00:47:08.280 away on

00:47:08.640 its own

00:47:09.080 but it's

00:47:10.300 better to

00:47:10.720 just go

00:47:11.020 get that

00:47:11.380 medicine

00:47:11.780 all right

00:47:13.360 let's see

00:47:13.880 who's next

00:47:14.540 yeah someone

00:47:15.240 in the chat

00:47:15.740 said I grew

00:47:16.140 up in the

00:47:16.500 70s if

00:47:17.220 someone tells

00:47:17.780 you you're

00:47:18.140 lucky

00:47:18.520 I'm telling

00:47:20.040 you you guys

00:47:21.380 are lucky

00:47:21.820 if the girl 0.75

00:47:22.740 or the guy

00:47:23.260 told you

00:47:24.120 here is

00:47:24.740 I'm not

00:47:25.320 I'm I

00:47:26.060 personally

00:47:27.420 I know

00:47:29.040 there's a

00:47:29.760 person I

00:47:30.300 know that

00:47:31.480 did marry

00:47:32.880 another person

00:47:33.860 that had

00:47:34.400 to try to

00:47:34.860 be vague

00:47:35.380 so people

00:47:35.860 can't

00:47:36.480 and

00:47:38.680 there

00:47:39.300 the reasoning

00:47:40.100 was I'll

00:47:40.880 just say

00:47:41.240 there was an

00:47:41.680 exchange of

00:47:42.380 value

00:47:42.820 that this

00:47:43.280 person felt

00:47:44.000 like was

00:47:45.240 worth it

00:47:45.980 and with the

00:47:47.800 technology

00:47:48.540 they felt

00:47:49.100 like it

00:47:49.540 was

00:47:49.720 that would

00:47:51.420 personally

00:47:52.060 be a deal

00:47:52.820 breaker

00:47:53.180 no thank

00:47:54.600 you

00:47:55.060 but

00:47:56.120 and I

00:47:58.100 don't

00:47:58.360 I would

00:47:58.620 never shame

00:47:59.360 somebody

00:48:00.080 you know

00:48:01.600 for saying

00:48:02.140 that's a deal

00:48:02.800 breaker

00:48:03.260 but I just

00:48:04.000 we gotta

00:48:04.380 be honest

00:48:05.100 here

00:48:05.520 we gotta

00:48:06.720 like

00:48:07.240 you're very

00:48:08.080 lucky

00:48:08.500 if the

00:48:08.860 girl told

00:48:09.400 you

00:48:09.600 because

00:48:09.980 especially

00:48:10.620 as a

00:48:11.060 woman 0.99

00:48:11.360 being

00:48:11.820 honest

00:48:12.520 you guys

00:48:13.640 should have

00:48:13.940 said

00:48:14.100 thank you

00:48:14.700 so much

00:48:15.420 for telling

00:48:16.000 me

00:48:16.240 and left

00:48:16.700 yeah

00:48:17.060 this is what

00:48:18.040 I say

00:48:18.500 when I

00:48:18.880 disclose

00:48:19.180 that I

00:48:19.540 have

00:48:19.680 genital

00:48:20.000 herpes

00:48:20.340 to a

00:48:21.000 new

00:48:21.140 potential

00:48:21.520 partner

00:48:21.860 I'm

00:48:22.440 Adrienne

00:48:22.760 the

00:48:22.860 Yodi

00:48:23.020 nutritionist

00:48:23.620 and I've

00:48:24.060 lived with

00:48:24.340 genital

00:48:24.620 herpes

00:48:24.940 for over

00:48:25.420 20 years

00:48:26.060 so I

00:48:26.560 have a

00:48:26.960 lot

00:48:27.240 of

00:48:27.460 experience

00:48:27.860 with

00:48:28.120 disclosing

00:48:28.620 what I've

00:48:29.120 learned

00:48:29.300 over the

00:48:29.640 years

00:48:29.860 is it's

00:48:30.220 not

00:48:30.380 what

00:48:30.580 you

00:48:30.720 say

00:48:30.940 it's

00:48:31.220 how

00:48:31.380 you

00:48:31.580 say

00:48:31.780 it

00:48:31.960 before

00:48:32.280 we

00:48:32.460 get

00:48:32.600 sexy

00:48:32.980 I

00:48:33.240 want

00:48:33.380 to

00:48:33.480 have

00:48:33.740 a

00:48:33.920 sexual

00:48:34.200 health

00:48:34.460 conversation

00:48:35.000 just to

00:48:35.520 make

00:48:35.660 sure

00:48:35.860 that

00:48:36.080 we

00:48:36.260 are

00:48:36.520 on

00:48:36.760 the

00:48:36.880 same

00:48:37.040 page

00:48:37.360 with

00:48:37.560 where

00:48:37.740 we're

00:48:37.900 at

00:48:38.160 and

00:48:38.460 what

00:48:38.620 we're

00:48:38.760 good

00:48:38.900 with

00:48:39.180 it's

00:48:39.540 important

00:48:39.860 for me

00:48:40.140 to share

00:48:40.420 with you

00:48:40.720 that I

00:48:41.080 live with

00:48:41.500 genital

00:48:41.820 herpes

00:48:42.200 I've

00:48:42.520 had it

00:48:42.740 for a

00:48:42.960 long

00:48:43.160 time

00:48:43.460 I'm

00:48:43.700 doing

00:48:43.920 everything

00:48:44.260 that I

00:48:44.560 can

00:48:44.820 to

00:48:45.020 manage

00:48:45.300 and

00:48:45.480 prevent

00:48:45.840 it

00:48:46.060 I

00:48:46.240 rarely

00:48:46.520 get

00:48:46.780 outbreaks

00:48:47.120 anymore

00:48:47.500 and we

00:48:47.860 can

00:48:48.000 still

00:48:48.220 have

00:48:48.560 an

00:48:49.140 amazing

00:48:49.520 sexy

00:48:49.900 time

00:48:50.240 I

00:48:50.620 want

00:48:50.760 to

00:48:50.860 tell

00:48:51.020 you

00:48:51.140 about

00:48:51.380 it

00:48:51.540 before

00:48:51.800 we

00:48:52.000 get

00:48:52.160 sexy

00:48:52.500 so

00:48:52.780 that

00:48:52.900 you

00:48:53.000 don't

00:48:53.180 find

00:48:53.400 out

00:48:53.540 about

00:48:53.740 it

00:48:53.880 afterwards

00:48:54.320 I'd

00:48:54.740 love

00:48:54.860 to

00:48:55.000 know

00:48:55.160 when

00:48:55.320 the

00:48:55.420 last

00:48:55.620 time

00:48:55.820 was

00:48:56.000 you

00:48:56.120 were

00:48:56.240 tested

00:48:56.540 and

00:48:57.160 then

00:48:57.440 you

00:48:58.040 stop

00:48:58.360 talking

00:48:58.800 what

00:48:59.320 you're

00:48:59.480 doing

00:48:59.700 here

00:49:00.000 is

00:49:00.260 you're

00:49:00.420 giving

00:49:00.640 them

00:49:00.820 the

00:49:01.000 facts

00:49:01.400 you're

00:49:01.740 not

00:49:01.940 getting

00:49:02.240 emotional

00:49:02.800 about

00:49:03.220 it

00:49:03.380 or

00:49:03.500 you're

00:49:03.640 not

00:49:03.840 information

00:49:04.460 dumping

00:49:04.960 by

00:49:05.360 leaving

00:49:05.700 it

00:49:05.880 off

00:49:06.160 with

00:49:06.360 a

00:49:06.460 question

00:49:06.840 gives

00:49:07.200 them

00:49:07.400 an

00:49:07.500 opportunity

00:49:07.940 to

00:49:08.260 think

00:49:08.500 about

00:49:08.820 when

00:49:09.020 the

00:49:09.160 last

00:49:09.380 time

00:49:09.580 was

00:49:21.140 the

00:49:21.580 person

00:49:21.880 on

00:49:22.080 the

00:49:22.200 receiving

00:49:22.540 end

00:49:22.860 of

00:49:23.080 the

00:49:23.200 disclosure

00:49:23.640 it's

00:49:24.100 usually

00:49:24.360 the

00:49:24.580 first

00:49:24.800 time

00:49:25.080 that

00:49:25.280 they've

00:49:25.540 heard

00:49:25.760 about

00:49:25.980 something

00:49:26.240 like

00:49:26.480 this

00:49:26.780 or

00:49:27.060 they

00:49:27.280 don't

00:49:27.440 know

00:49:27.580 much

00:49:27.760 about

00:49:27.980 it

00:49:28.160 so

00:49:28.440 their

00:49:28.760 confidence

00:49:29.200 in

00:49:29.540 you

00:49:29.780 is

00:49:29.980 a

00:49:30.100 reflection

00:49:30.440 of

00:49:30.780 how

00:49:30.960 confident

00:49:31.400 you

00:49:31.640 are

00:49:31.880 in

00:49:32.080 yourself

00:49:32.500 this

00:49:32.920 is

00:49:33.040 why

00:49:33.160 learning

00:49:33.440 more

00:49:33.700 about

00:49:34.000 herpes

00:49:34.380 how

00:49:34.620 to

00:49:34.780 manage

00:49:35.000 and

00:49:35.160 prevent

00:49:35.400 your

00:49:35.600 outbreaks

00:49:36.060 and

00:49:36.280 prevent

00:49:36.660 transmission

00:49:37.220 to

00:49:37.440 your

00:49:37.560 partners

00:49:37.920 is

00:49:38.400 so

00:49:38.660 important

00:49:39.120 to

00:49:39.380 building

00:49:39.640 your

00:49:39.840 confidence

00:49:40.240 when

00:49:40.500 you

00:49:40.620 live

00:49:40.820 with

00:49:40.980 herpes

00:49:41.300 I

00:49:41.440 teach

00:49:41.600 you

00:49:41.740 all

00:49:42.060 about

00:49:42.320 that

00:49:42.580 in

00:49:42.700 my

00:49:42.840 healing

00:49:43.100 herpes

00:49:43.460 look

00:49:46.940 they

00:49:47.860 gotta

00:49:48.100 figure

00:49:48.440 I

00:49:48.820 actually

00:49:49.360 don't

00:49:49.760 think

00:49:50.020 what

00:49:50.380 this

00:49:51.000 woman's 0.82

00:49:51.440 doing

00:49:51.720 is

00:49:51.940 the

00:49:52.100 worst

00:49:52.360 thing

00:49:52.580 in

00:49:52.700 the

00:49:52.800 world

00:49:53.040 because

00:49:53.360 they

00:49:53.600 gotta

00:49:53.860 look

00:49:54.880 at

00:49:55.020 there's

00:49:55.280 half

00:49:55.620 of

00:49:55.840 women 1.00

00:49:56.240 and

00:49:56.480 like

00:49:56.760 10%

00:49:57.700 of

00:49:57.860 men

00:49:58.140 or

00:49:58.300 something

00:49:58.660 like

00:49:59.140 that

00:49:59.520 that

00:50:00.060 have

00:50:00.340 to

00:50:00.500 figure

00:50:00.740 out

00:50:00.920 how

00:50:01.000 to

00:50:01.140 date

00:50:01.360 with

00:50:01.560 this

00:50:01.800 thing

00:50:02.180 so

00:50:02.660 if

00:50:04.000 she's

00:50:04.320 teaching

00:50:04.700 them

00:50:04.880 how

00:50:05.020 to

00:50:05.160 tell

00:50:05.400 each

00:50:05.640 other

00:50:06.000 I

00:50:07.120 think

00:50:07.360 that's

00:50:07.600 a win

00:50:07.920 for

00:50:08.140 society

00:50:08.760 at least

00:50:09.100 they're

00:50:09.260 not

00:50:09.460 spreading

00:50:09.900 it

00:50:10.260 um

00:50:13.320 that's

00:50:20.540 so

00:50:20.740 gross

00:50:21.160 oh

00:50:21.620 my

00:50:21.800 god

00:50:22.140 all

00:50:22.800 right

00:50:23.040 so

00:50:23.380 what

00:50:23.580 do

00:50:23.640 we

00:50:23.740 got

00:50:23.960 next

00:50:24.440 we

00:50:24.640 got

00:50:24.820 this

00:50:25.140 woman 0.99

00:50:25.620 I

00:50:26.580 told

00:50:26.780 my

00:50:26.920 parents

00:50:27.140 yeah

00:50:29.260 see

00:50:29.660 she's

00:50:29.980 a

00:50:30.100 baddie

00:50:30.640 parents

00:50:31.260 and

00:50:32.120 they

00:50:32.340 took

00:50:32.580 it

00:50:32.840 really

00:50:33.960 well

00:50:34.240 but

00:50:34.400 I

00:50:34.500 did

00:50:34.620 feel

00:50:34.840 like

00:50:35.000 I

00:50:35.100 had

00:50:35.240 to

00:50:35.380 explain

00:50:35.880 you

00:50:36.360 know

00:50:36.600 why

00:50:37.500 I

00:50:37.620 hadn't

00:50:37.840 protected

00:50:38.240 myself

00:50:38.660 because

00:50:38.880 obviously

00:50:39.140 my

00:50:39.420 mom

00:50:39.960 would

00:50:40.120 ask

00:50:40.300 me

00:50:40.480 oh

00:50:40.720 didn't

00:50:40.940 you

00:50:41.060 use

00:50:41.220 a

00:50:41.340 condom

00:50:41.740 I

00:50:42.300 mean

00:50:42.480 I

00:50:42.620 didn't

00:50:42.820 use

00:50:42.980 a

00:50:43.100 condom

00:50:43.420 so

00:50:43.600 it's

00:50:43.740 definitely

00:50:44.020 it

00:50:44.280 must

00:50:44.700 be

00:50:44.860 from

00:50:45.020 that

00:50:45.260 but

00:50:45.600 you

00:50:45.840 can

00:50:46.040 also

00:50:46.280 get

00:50:46.520 it

00:50:46.660 from

00:50:46.940 not

00:50:47.560 protecting

00:50:48.000 yourself

00:50:48.400 so

00:50:48.820 there'll

00:50:49.200 always

00:50:49.420 be a

00:50:49.700 risk

00:50:49.920 of

00:50:50.080 getting

00:50:50.300 some

00:50:50.500 sort

00:50:50.700 of

00:50:50.820 STI

00:50:51.280 my

00:50:51.800 name

00:50:52.060 is

00:50:52.300 Emily

00:50:52.760 Bride

00:50:53.260 I

00:50:53.640 am

00:50:53.840 29

00:50:54.520 years

00:50:54.800 old

00:50:55.260 I

00:50:55.760 live

00:50:56.040 in

00:50:56.260 London

00:50:56.540 and

00:50:56.780 I

00:50:56.940 am

00:50:57.040 an

00:50:57.160 artist

00:50:57.420 producer

00:50:58.000 singer

00:50:58.480 song

00:50:58.660 writer

00:50:58.940 I

00:51:04.540 found out

00:51:05.120 that I

00:51:05.600 had

00:51:05.860 gender

00:51:06.160 herpes

00:51:06.580 because

00:51:07.000 I

00:51:08.000 had

00:51:08.200 this

00:51:08.420 itchy

00:51:08.720 feeling

00:51:09.300 and

00:51:09.880 it's

00:51:10.120 been

00:51:10.400 it

00:51:10.940 had

00:51:11.120 been

00:51:11.280 going

00:51:11.440 on

00:51:11.760 for

00:51:12.380 like

00:51:12.580 four

00:51:12.840 days

00:51:13.360 but

00:51:14.160 I

00:51:14.200 didn't

00:51:14.460 really

00:51:14.720 give

00:51:15.020 it

00:51:15.160 much

00:51:15.560 thought

00:51:16.440 until

00:51:17.560 it

00:51:17.800 was

00:51:18.040 when

00:51:18.760 I

00:51:18.880 was

00:51:19.160 itchy

00:51:19.520 or

00:51:19.740 touching

00:51:20.080 myself

00:51:20.440 it

00:51:20.680 actually

00:51:21.280 hurt

00:51:21.620 it

00:51:21.820 started

00:51:22.200 like

00:51:22.580 it

00:51:22.780 looked

00:51:23.100 like

00:51:23.400 milky

00:51:23.920 spots

00:51:24.460 they

00:51:24.740 turned

00:51:25.100 out

00:51:25.300 to

00:51:25.460 small

00:51:25.740 cuts

00:51:26.220 and

00:51:26.760 then

00:51:27.000 they

00:51:27.420 would

00:51:27.640 like

00:51:27.900 unfold

00:51:28.540 I've

00:51:29.940 heard

00:51:30.140 that's

00:51:30.460 the

00:51:30.620 biggest

00:51:30.860 difference

00:51:31.480 is

00:51:31.700 they

00:51:31.880 like

00:51:32.140 blister

00:51:32.700 open

00:51:33.760 and

00:51:33.960 that

00:51:34.240 was

00:51:34.420 where

00:51:34.620 I

00:51:34.740 couldn't

00:51:35.020 pee

00:51:35.240 so

00:51:35.900 that

00:51:36.080 was

00:51:36.300 where

00:51:36.520 it

00:51:36.640 was

00:51:36.760 very

00:51:37.220 smelly

00:51:38.540 and

00:51:39.240 uncomfortable

00:51:40.240 I

00:51:41.200 had to

00:51:41.460 then

00:51:41.740 google

00:51:42.320 what

00:51:42.840 I

00:51:43.040 saw

00:51:43.360 and

00:51:44.740 then

00:51:44.900 come

00:51:45.120 to

00:51:45.260 the

00:51:45.420 conclusion

00:51:45.840 that

00:51:46.100 I

00:51:46.240 might

00:51:46.420 have

00:51:46.720 general

00:51:47.080 herpes

00:51:47.480 I

00:51:48.220 didn't

00:51:48.440 wanted

00:51:48.640 to

00:51:51.620 so

00:51:52.380 I

00:51:54.280 felt

00:51:55.940 ashamed

00:51:56.560 felt

00:51:57.320 embarrassed

00:51:57.960 I

00:51:58.600 felt

00:51:59.160 disgusting

00:52:00.360 most of

00:52:01.120 all

00:52:01.420 I

00:52:01.860 started

00:52:02.120 thinking

00:52:02.420 about

00:52:02.820 how

00:52:03.400 I

00:52:04.180 couldn't

00:52:04.420 date

00:52:04.640 anymore

00:52:05.000 and

00:52:05.140 if

00:52:05.280 I

00:52:05.400 had

00:52:05.600 to

00:52:05.760 date

00:52:06.000 I

00:52:06.120 would

00:52:06.240 have

00:52:06.400 to

00:52:06.580 wait

00:52:06.960 having

00:52:07.700 sex

00:52:07.980 with

00:52:08.140 them

00:52:08.280 because

00:52:08.580 I

00:52:08.760 wouldn't

00:52:09.860 want

00:52:10.220 to

00:52:10.520 do

00:52:10.780 what

00:52:10.980 someone

00:52:11.320 might

00:52:11.600 have

00:52:11.760 done

00:52:12.000 to

00:52:12.440 me

00:52:12.720 not

00:52:13.100 telling

00:52:13.480 me

00:52:13.740 and

00:52:13.940 I

00:52:14.080 didn't

00:52:14.280 want

00:52:14.520 people

00:52:15.480 to

00:52:15.640 judge

00:52:15.880 me

00:52:16.320 because

00:52:17.520 I

00:52:18.000 was

00:52:18.340 judging

00:52:18.820 myself

00:52:19.320 and

00:52:19.560 that

00:52:19.720 was

00:52:19.820 the

00:52:19.980 worst

00:52:20.220 pain

00:52:20.600 you

00:52:20.780 can

00:52:21.620 it

00:52:21.920 was

00:52:22.120 horrible

00:52:22.920 mental

00:52:23.940 pain

00:52:24.440 I

00:52:25.140 have

00:52:25.320 to

00:52:25.440 deal

00:52:25.620 with

00:52:25.860 and

00:52:26.060 then

00:52:26.400 on top

00:52:27.140 of

00:52:27.260 that

00:52:27.480 started

00:52:28.100 the

00:52:28.300 physical

00:52:28.660 pain

00:52:28.960 I

00:52:29.100 have

00:52:29.400 heard

00:52:29.640 one

00:52:29.980 strategy

00:52:30.660 women 1.00

00:52:31.040 with

00:52:31.280 herpes

00:52:31.760 use

00:52:32.320 is

00:52:33.300 they

00:52:33.500 blow 0.77

00:52:33.880 the

00:52:34.100 guy

00:52:34.480 because

00:52:34.760 you

00:52:34.880 don't

00:52:35.000 have

00:52:35.300 I

00:52:36.880 think

00:52:37.360 you

00:52:37.540 don't

00:52:38.620 like

00:52:40.820 it

00:52:41.120 doesn't

00:52:41.420 they

00:52:41.540 don't

00:52:41.700 always

00:52:41.920 have

00:52:42.180 it

00:52:42.260 in

00:52:42.360 the

00:52:42.480 mouth

00:52:42.860 right

00:52:43.320 so

00:52:44.080 they

00:52:44.260 blow 0.77

00:52:44.620 the

00:52:44.820 guy

00:52:45.200 and

00:52:45.420 they

00:52:45.540 give

00:52:45.720 him

00:52:45.840 the

00:52:45.980 best

00:52:46.260 blow 0.77

00:52:46.540 job

00:52:46.880 of

00:52:47.100 his

00:52:47.220 life

00:52:47.620 and

00:52:49.280 then

00:52:49.480 they

00:52:51.620 or

00:52:52.500 I've

00:52:52.820 also

00:52:53.200 heard

00:52:53.680 that

00:52:54.460 women 1.00

00:52:54.760 will

00:52:55.020 have

00:52:55.380 sex

00:52:55.860 with

00:52:56.060 the

00:52:56.180 guy

00:52:56.460 and

00:52:56.640 then

00:52:56.840 tell

00:52:57.160 him

00:52:57.340 look

00:52:57.760 at

00:52:57.880 these

00:52:58.040 are

00:52:58.180 stories

00:52:58.640 I've

00:52:58.840 heard

00:52:59.220 communication

00:53:01.160 and developing

00:53:02.080 a relationship

00:53:02.780 is vital

00:53:03.340 and should

00:53:03.680 be the

00:53:03.920 goal

00:53:04.140 these

00:53:04.360 random

00:53:04.780 sexual

00:53:05.260 encounters

00:53:05.760 do

00:53:05.900 have

00:53:06.020 consequences

00:53:06.660 well

00:53:06.980 yeah

00:53:07.340 but

00:53:07.620 I'm

00:53:07.860 telling

00:53:08.160 you

00:53:08.380 half

00:53:08.680 the

00:53:08.820 people

00:53:09.140 I

00:53:09.500 interviewed

00:53:10.000 got it

00:53:10.480 from

00:53:10.660 either

00:53:10.880 a

00:53:11.080 girlfriend

00:53:11.400 or

00:53:11.720 a

00:53:11.860 wife

00:53:12.280 could

00:53:13.800 happen

00:53:14.200 to

00:53:14.400 anybody

00:53:14.920 it

00:53:18.060 could

00:53:18.240 happen

00:53:18.600 to

00:53:18.820 look

00:53:19.300 and

00:53:19.880 that's

00:53:20.320 you know

00:53:20.940 that's

00:53:21.280 when

00:53:21.400 you

00:53:21.520 get

00:53:21.700 some

00:53:21.940 humility

00:53:22.580 right

00:53:23.280 because

00:53:24.480 I

00:53:26.700 know

00:53:27.160 I

00:53:27.620 have

00:53:27.820 made

00:53:28.080 good

00:53:28.340 decisions

00:53:28.820 in my

00:53:29.280 life

00:53:29.720 but

00:53:30.340 when

00:53:30.520 I

00:53:30.700 meet

00:53:30.960 somebody

00:53:31.380 that

00:53:31.800 got

00:53:32.200 it

00:53:32.420 from

00:53:32.640 a

00:53:32.820 husband

00:53:33.220 or

00:53:33.520 a

00:53:33.720 wife

00:53:34.220 and

00:53:34.900 it

00:53:35.020 was

00:53:35.220 according

00:53:35.900 to

00:53:36.120 them

00:53:36.280 the

00:53:36.460 third

00:53:36.760 person

00:53:37.220 they

00:53:37.420 were

00:53:37.580 ever

00:53:37.820 with

00:53:38.380 you

00:53:41.640 know

00:53:41.840 it

00:53:42.240 humbles

00:53:42.700 you

00:53:42.860 a little

00:53:43.180 bit

00:53:43.400 because

00:53:43.560 you're

00:53:43.720 like

00:53:43.940 damn

00:53:44.300 that

00:53:44.500 happened

00:53:44.840 to

00:53:45.000 them

00:53:45.400 and

00:53:46.240 they

00:53:46.400 made

00:53:46.660 you

00:53:46.920 know

00:53:47.160 they

00:53:48.440 got

00:53:48.660 married

00:53:49.060 young

00:53:49.620 you

00:53:49.980 know

00:53:50.240 it's

00:53:52.940 I know

00:53:53.660 it's so

00:53:54.040 gross

00:53:54.260 but I'm

00:53:55.300 just being

00:53:55.680 real here

00:53:56.300 guys

00:53:56.660 I can't

00:53:57.300 I wish

00:53:58.120 I could

00:53:58.420 come back

00:53:59.020 to you

00:53:59.360 and say

00:53:59.740 when I

00:54:00.060 interviewed

00:54:00.400 these

00:54:00.660 people

00:54:01.080 they were

00:54:01.460 just

00:54:01.660 these

00:54:01.900 skanks 1.00

00:54:02.620 like

00:54:03.520 they

00:54:03.720 told

00:54:03.940 you would

00:54:04.300 totally

00:54:04.840 be able

00:54:05.220 to tell

00:54:05.620 they had

00:54:06.260 it

00:54:06.500 they were

00:54:06.820 just

00:54:07.040 whoring

00:54:07.440 about

00:54:07.840 but

00:54:08.260 and some

00:54:09.260 of them

00:54:09.580 were

00:54:09.920 right

00:54:10.380 I mean

00:54:10.720 some

00:54:11.060 were

00:54:11.280 kind

00:54:11.520 of

00:54:11.660 either

00:54:11.840 man

00:54:12.200 whores 1.00

00:54:12.580 or

00:54:12.780 female 0.86

00:54:13.140 whores 1.00

00:54:13.580 but

00:54:15.040 some

00:54:15.940 weren't

00:54:16.500 and I'm

00:54:17.000 just

00:54:17.280 you know

00:54:18.120 I'm just

00:54:18.520 being honest

00:54:19.280 here

00:54:19.600 me not

00:54:20.580 being able

00:54:21.140 to pee

00:54:21.600 as a

00:54:22.120 woman 0.99

00:54:22.460 first thing

00:54:24.520 you think

00:54:24.900 of is

00:54:25.200 like

00:54:25.520 you know

00:54:26.040 your appeal

00:54:26.840 how will

00:54:27.520 I now

00:54:27.780 come across

00:54:28.540 am I

00:54:29.700 sexy enough

00:54:30.440 will anyone

00:54:31.160 be with me

00:54:32.040 am I

00:54:32.720 good enough

00:54:33.320 and

00:54:33.900 I should

00:54:34.980 have done

00:54:35.280 this

00:54:35.640 it

00:54:35.940 opened

00:54:36.400 so many

00:54:37.260 new

00:54:37.880 questions

00:54:39.180 in my

00:54:40.040 life

00:54:40.400 in terms

00:54:40.880 of

00:54:41.180 all the

00:54:41.960 times

00:54:42.300 I have

00:54:42.660 not

00:54:43.000 protected

00:54:43.840 myself

00:54:44.380 and

00:54:44.800 why

00:54:45.160 is

00:54:45.380 that

00:54:45.660 and

00:54:45.860 then

00:54:46.100 digging

00:54:46.660 into

00:54:46.940 that

00:54:47.140 and

00:54:47.260 reflecting

00:54:47.640 on

00:54:47.940 that

00:54:48.220 and

00:54:48.420 then

00:54:48.660 the

00:54:49.260 whole

00:54:49.460 like

00:54:49.640 me

00:54:49.820 being

00:54:50.080 a

00:54:50.240 woman 0.99

00:54:50.480 like

00:54:50.780 why

00:54:51.040 is

00:54:51.200 it

00:54:51.300 that

00:54:51.400 I

00:54:51.440 feel

00:54:51.680 this

00:54:51.880 way

00:54:52.160 why

00:54:52.400 can't

00:54:52.740 I

00:54:52.820 just

00:54:53.040 talk to

00:54:53.720 my

00:54:53.860 friends

00:54:54.180 about

00:54:54.500 it

00:54:54.640 what am

00:54:54.940 I

00:54:55.060 ashamed

00:54:55.440 about

00:54:55.680 this

00:54:55.880 is

00:54:56.020 very

00:54:56.240 normal

00:54:56.700 yeah

00:54:56.920 and as

00:54:57.180 women 1.00

00:54:57.500 you know

00:54:58.020 when women 1.00

00:54:58.440 get it

00:54:58.780 they feel

00:54:59.180 even

00:54:59.400 more

00:54:59.720 lonely

00:55:00.240 because

00:55:01.120 you

00:55:01.740 tell

00:55:02.020 a woman 0.57

00:55:02.500 in the

00:55:02.800 friend

00:55:11.180 seven

00:55:11.820 months

00:55:12.120 now

00:55:12.440 and

00:55:13.040 I

00:55:13.180 told

00:55:13.420 him

00:55:13.580 about

00:55:13.800 the

00:55:14.000 whole

00:55:14.380 story

00:55:15.280 and

00:55:15.560 what

00:55:15.760 happened

00:55:16.260 and

00:55:16.460 what

00:55:16.620 went

00:55:17.020 down

00:55:17.400 and

00:55:18.180 he

00:55:18.300 just

00:55:18.440 gave

00:55:18.640 me

00:55:18.840 a

00:55:19.160 big

00:55:19.400 kiss

00:55:19.780 and

00:55:20.020 a

00:55:20.120 big

00:55:20.280 hug

00:55:20.680 he

00:55:21.000 made

00:55:21.300 me

00:55:21.560 even

00:55:21.940 more

00:55:22.180 confident

00:55:22.660 or

00:55:22.960 made

00:55:23.100 me

00:55:23.260 love

00:55:23.480 myself

00:55:23.920 I

00:55:24.300 do

00:55:24.480 see

00:55:24.740 myself

00:55:25.160 as

00:55:25.560 a

00:55:25.660 role

00:55:25.800 model

00:55:26.040 because

00:55:26.460 otherwise

00:55:27.020 I

00:55:27.220 wouldn't

00:55:27.620 why

00:55:28.120 women 1.00

00:55:28.620 take

00:55:28.940 owls

00:55:29.360 and

00:55:29.520 then

00:55:29.640 call

00:55:29.820 themselves

00:55:30.220 role

00:55:30.540 models

00:55:31.100 here

00:55:31.680 today

00:55:32.120 I

00:55:32.860 would

00:55:33.020 like

00:55:33.260 to

00:55:33.620 tell

00:55:35.020 everyone

00:55:35.440 out

00:55:35.700 there

00:55:36.120 and

00:55:36.380 the

00:55:36.940 world

00:55:37.300 to

00:55:38.400 spread

00:55:38.820 awareness

00:55:39.280 about

00:55:39.640 genital

00:55:39.900 herpes

00:55:40.260 but

00:55:40.580 to

00:55:41.080 tell

00:55:41.280 them

00:55:41.520 that

00:55:42.000 they

00:55:43.080 are

00:55:43.460 completely

00:55:44.760 normal

00:55:45.200 and

00:55:46.100 that

00:55:46.460 it

00:55:47.080 does

00:55:47.260 not

00:55:47.460 define

00:55:48.080 who

00:55:48.640 they

00:55:48.880 are

00:55:49.280 all

00:55:50.960 right

00:55:51.300 um

00:55:52.120 and

00:55:55.940 you

00:55:56.040 gotta

00:55:56.200 think

00:55:56.460 about

00:55:56.660 it

00:55:56.760 like

00:55:56.980 this

00:55:57.260 guys

00:55:57.540 have

00:55:57.720 you

00:55:57.840 been

00:55:58.020 on

00:55:58.220 three

00:55:58.480 dates

00:55:59.040 one

00:56:00.120 of

00:56:00.240 the

00:56:00.360 women 1.00

00:56:00.580 probably

00:56:01.100 had

00:56:01.440 it

00:56:01.700 okay

00:56:03.540 um

00:56:04.160 in

00:56:04.440 some

00:56:04.740 demographics

00:56:05.460 it's

00:56:05.840 higher

00:56:06.200 so

00:56:06.480 let's

00:56:06.800 say

00:56:06.980 you

00:56:07.120 only

00:56:07.320 date

00:56:07.600 like

00:56:07.840 Asian

00:56:08.220 and

00:56:08.380 white

00:56:08.640 women 1.00

00:56:08.960 because

00:56:09.240 half

00:56:10.020 of

00:56:10.180 black

00:56:10.540 women 1.00

00:56:10.820 have

00:56:11.160 herpes

00:56:11.600 so

00:56:11.920 if

00:56:12.060 you

00:56:12.160 go

00:56:12.320 that

00:56:12.580 route

00:56:12.880 you're

00:56:13.080 playing

00:56:13.340 with

00:56:13.520 fire

00:56:13.920 I'll

00:56:14.560 tell

00:56:14.760 you

00:56:14.940 what

00:56:15.320 the

00:56:16.700 the

00:56:17.560 white

00:56:17.880 women 1.00

00:56:18.200 it's

00:56:18.440 like

00:56:18.600 one

00:56:18.840 in

00:56:18.980 five

00:56:19.360 I

00:56:19.520 think

00:56:19.800 or

00:56:19.920 one

00:56:20.120 in

00:56:20.280 six

00:56:20.740 and

00:56:20.920 Asian

00:56:21.280 women 1.00

00:56:21.560 it's

00:56:21.760 one

00:56:21.960 in

00:56:22.100 eight

00:56:22.480 but

00:56:23.180 if

00:56:23.280 you

00:56:23.360 go

00:56:23.540 on

00:56:23.640 eight

00:56:35.840 that

00:56:36.300 because

00:56:36.980 I

00:56:37.160 haven't

00:56:37.660 interviewed

00:56:38.020 a girl

00:56:38.520 directly

00:56:39.120 about

00:56:39.520 it

00:56:39.680 but

00:56:39.820 I've

00:56:39.980 had

00:56:40.140 men

00:56:40.460 tell

00:56:40.680 me

00:56:40.860 stories

00:56:41.620 of

00:56:42.600 women 1.00

00:56:42.940 they've

00:56:43.260 dated

00:56:43.580 that

00:56:43.940 either

00:56:44.240 had

00:56:44.720 it

00:56:44.920 and

00:56:45.060 they

00:56:45.220 didn't

00:56:45.460 get

00:56:45.700 it

00:56:45.960 or

00:56:46.880 they

00:56:47.200 went

00:56:47.380 on

00:56:47.500 a

00:56:47.620 date

00:56:47.840 with

00:56:48.020 they

00:56:48.160 told

00:56:48.520 them

00:56:48.900 and

00:56:49.760 if

00:56:50.200 I'm

00:56:50.340 being

00:56:50.480 honest

00:56:50.800 the

00:56:51.220 stories

00:56:51.760 I've

00:56:52.020 gotten

00:56:52.260 back

00:56:52.760 one

00:56:53.200 white

00:56:53.560 girl 0.91

00:56:53.920 one

00:56:54.280 Indian

00:56:54.660 one

00:56:54.960 Jewish

00:56:55.300 one

00:56:55.720 black

00:56:56.240 so

00:56:57.360 it

00:56:57.880 was

00:56:58.080 pretty

00:56:58.520 it

00:57:00.120 was

00:57:00.260 pretty

00:57:00.560 around

00:57:01.120 you

00:57:01.680 know

00:57:01.960 so

00:57:03.120 all right

00:57:03.540 like this

00:57:04.080 girl has 0.84

00:57:04.760 it

00:57:04.920 would you

00:57:05.440 be able

00:57:05.780 to tell

00:57:06.340 I

00:57:07.900 wouldn't

00:57:08.500 oh

00:57:09.920 basically

00:57:10.260 I've been

00:57:10.620 dating this

00:57:10.960 guy

00:57:11.300 like we

00:57:11.820 finally

00:57:12.080 decided

00:57:12.460 to say

00:57:12.860 like

00:57:13.260 okay

00:57:13.580 we're

00:57:14.100 not

00:57:14.360 seeing

00:57:14.560 other

00:57:14.700 people

00:57:14.980 so

00:57:16.460 then I

00:57:16.620 was

00:57:16.700 like

00:57:16.840 cool

00:57:17.120 but I

00:57:17.900 hadn't

00:57:18.060 told him

00:57:18.280 about

00:57:18.420 the

00:57:18.500 herpes

00:57:18.720 yet

00:57:18.900 because

00:57:19.040 it only

00:57:19.200 had

00:57:19.360 been

00:57:19.460 like

00:57:19.620 a

00:57:19.760 month

00:57:20.280 I

00:57:20.520 think

00:57:20.820 of

00:57:21.440 seeing

00:57:21.680 this

00:57:21.880 dude

00:57:22.100 it

00:57:22.600 wasn't

00:57:22.880 that

00:57:23.220 soon

00:57:23.480 and I

00:57:24.420 don't

00:57:24.540 always

00:57:24.780 tell a guy

00:57:25.200 right away

00:57:25.680 sometimes I

00:57:26.120 wait to even

00:57:26.620 see what's

00:57:27.040 going to

00:57:27.220 happen

00:57:27.480 but anyway

00:57:27.920 so

00:57:28.260 I waited

00:57:29.120 a little

00:57:29.360 bit

00:57:29.520 just to

00:57:29.820 kind

00:57:29.940 of

00:57:30.020 see

00:57:30.140 where

00:57:30.280 things

00:57:30.420 were

00:57:30.520 going

00:57:30.720 I

00:57:32.080 had

00:57:32.280 got a

00:57:32.600 cold

00:57:32.800 sore

00:57:33.060 and I

00:57:33.380 was

00:57:33.480 like

00:57:33.600 fuck

00:57:33.880 and I

00:57:34.100 was

00:57:34.180 supposed to

00:57:34.360 hang out

00:57:34.600 with

00:57:34.720 him

00:57:34.900 so

00:57:35.060 I

00:57:35.180 literally

00:57:35.700 instead

00:57:36.060 of

00:57:36.180 telling

00:57:36.460 him

00:57:36.760 I

00:57:36.900 was

00:57:37.060 scared

00:57:37.400 so

00:57:37.660 I

00:57:38.020 broke

00:57:38.760 up

00:57:39.080 with

00:57:39.300 him

00:57:39.680 and

00:57:40.840 gave

00:57:40.980 him

00:57:41.100 no

00:57:41.240 explanation

00:57:41.780 and

00:57:42.160 he's

00:57:42.360 like

00:57:42.560 Alexis

00:57:43.040 what

00:57:43.520 the

00:57:43.680 fuck

00:57:44.000 and

00:57:44.220 I

00:57:44.320 was

00:57:44.440 like

00:57:44.600 okay

00:57:44.880 hear

00:57:45.100 me

00:57:45.240 out

00:57:45.480 I

00:57:45.720 was

00:57:45.860 like

00:57:46.240 I

00:57:46.480 kind

00:57:46.680 of

00:57:46.740 have

00:57:46.880 herpes

00:57:47.180 and

00:57:47.540 I

00:57:47.620 was

00:57:47.720 scared

00:57:47.880 to

00:57:48.000 tell

00:57:48.160 you

00:57:48.460 and

00:57:48.960 I

00:57:48.980 have

00:57:49.100 a

00:57:49.200 cold

00:57:49.380 sore

00:57:49.520 right

00:57:49.700 now

00:57:50.000 and he

00:57:50.720 was

00:57:50.860 like

00:57:51.080 really

00:57:51.820 that's

00:57:52.360 why

00:57:52.620 you're

00:57:52.760 breaking

00:57:52.940 up

00:57:53.060 with

00:57:53.180 me

00:57:53.340 he's

00:57:53.540 like

00:57:53.640 I

00:57:53.760 don't

00:57:53.880 care

00:57:54.200 like

00:57:54.560 I

00:57:55.320 don't

00:57:55.780 care

00:57:56.000 it doesn't

00:57:56.280 matter

00:57:56.460 at

00:57:56.600 all

00:57:56.880 he's

00:57:57.540 like

00:57:57.640 I

00:57:57.760 know

00:57:57.940 about

00:57:58.240 it

00:57:58.380 I

00:57:58.480 dated

00:57:58.660 a

00:57:58.800 girl 0.91

00:57:58.920 like

00:57:59.100 that

00:57:59.260 before

00:57:59.600 and

00:57:59.900 I

00:58:00.000 was

00:58:00.140 like

00:58:00.420 oh

00:58:00.740 cool

00:58:01.480 and

00:58:01.680 he's

00:58:01.800 like

00:58:01.960 so

00:58:02.120 can

00:58:02.280 you

00:58:02.360 still

00:58:26.460 guys

00:58:28.720 will

00:58:28.920 accept

00:58:29.320 it

00:58:29.540 for

00:58:29.700 the

00:58:29.940 you

00:58:30.520 think

00:58:30.760 you

00:58:30.880 guys

00:58:31.080 would

00:58:31.280 really

00:58:31.680 be

00:58:31.880 able

00:58:32.040 to

00:58:32.220 tell

00:58:32.560 come

00:58:33.280 on

00:58:33.600 all

00:58:38.140 right

00:58:38.340 so

00:58:38.620 I

00:58:38.900 did

00:58:39.160 I

00:58:39.360 asked

00:58:39.680 chat

00:58:40.000 GPT

00:58:40.760 how

00:58:41.360 likely

00:58:41.760 you

00:58:42.240 are

00:58:42.460 to

00:58:42.600 catch

00:58:42.940 it

00:58:43.100 using

00:58:43.420 a

00:58:43.620 condom

00:58:44.180 all

00:58:45.640 right

00:58:45.840 so

00:58:46.200 the

00:58:47.240 risk

00:58:47.620 factors

00:58:48.160 of

00:58:48.460 catching

00:58:48.800 HIV

00:58:49.380 or

00:58:49.640 herpes

00:58:50.040 through

00:58:50.360 oral

00:58:50.800 or

00:58:51.060 vaginal

00:58:51.660 sex

00:58:52.060 depend

00:58:52.340 on

00:58:52.860 several

00:58:53.260 factors

00:58:53.820 including

00:58:54.320 whether

00:58:54.640 protection

00:58:55.200 is

00:58:55.460 used

00:58:55.880 the

00:58:56.480 infected

00:58:56.980 partner's

00:58:57.580 viral

00:58:57.900 load

00:58:58.280 especially

00:58:58.700 for

00:58:59.000 HIV

00:58:59.480 and

00:59:00.280 whether

00:59:00.620 the

00:59:01.020 virus

00:59:01.400 is

00:59:01.600 actively

00:59:02.020 shedding

00:59:02.480 now

00:59:02.700 I

00:59:02.840 do

00:59:02.960 we

00:59:03.100 do

00:59:03.220 need

00:59:03.360 to

00:59:03.480 take

00:59:03.660 this

00:59:03.820 with

00:59:03.960 a

00:59:04.080 grain

00:59:04.260 of

00:59:04.400 salt

00:59:04.680 because

00:59:04.980 it

00:59:05.120 is

00:59:05.280 chat

00:59:05.560 GPT

00:59:06.120 but

00:59:08.560 this

00:59:08.860 is

00:59:09.080 what

00:59:09.320 it's

00:59:09.480 telling

00:59:09.700 me

00:59:09.940 I

00:59:10.980 would

00:59:11.180 have

00:59:11.280 used

00:59:11.580 Grock

00:59:12.060 but

00:59:12.220 I'm

00:59:12.420 locked

00:59:12.760 out

00:59:12.920 of

00:59:13.660 my

00:59:14.000 Twitter

00:59:14.340 here's

00:59:18.080 a

00:59:18.180 breakdown

00:59:18.460 of the

00:59:18.860 estimated

00:59:19.300 risk

00:59:19.860 per

00:59:20.500 exposure

00:59:21.240 for

00:59:21.620 oral

00:59:22.020 and

00:59:22.220 vaginal

00:59:22.640 sex

00:59:23.060 for

00:59:23.280 HIV

00:59:23.800 and

00:59:24.080 herpes

00:59:25.120 is

00:59:26.120 based on

00:59:26.720 CDC

00:59:27.120 data

00:59:27.620 and

00:59:28.120 peer-reviewed

00:59:29.120 studies

00:59:29.720 so if you have vaginal sex with a woman if you're a woman and you have sex with a guy that has it 0.71

00:59:34.240 it has HIV

00:59:38.800 it says one and one thousand two hundred and fifty

00:59:46.160 and if you're the guy putting it in a girl it's one in 2500 but it does increase if there's blood involved so if you're hooking up with a girl on her period doing backdoor stuff if you're just a big guy catch my drift there's blood or if you have other STIs oral sex it says extremely low the risk is not negligible

01:00:03.160 the risk is not negligible but not zero slightly higher if there's ejaculation sores or bleeding gums again condoms reduce the risk by 80 to 90 percent if a if the HIV plus partner is on ART and undefected

01:00:20.160 the risk is pretty low that's what I've heard I've heard that from medical professionals on shows too again we're in a gynocentric social order we're all sifting through this shit here everybody's selling something I don't know if you have a 0.94

01:00:40.160 herpes

01:01:01.900 all right ladies uhm if you have sex with a guy with herpes uhm you have a 1 in 10 chances of getting it if the partner has HSV 2 no condome and is shedding so if you have sex

01:01:08.980 with a guy that is has his viral shedding which happens 20% of the year there's a one in chance

01:01:16.560 10 chance you get it if he's like and there's no condom men it's a one in 20 to 30 if you're

01:01:24.820 banging a girl with herpes you got a one in 20 to 30 one in 20 to 30 times you'll get it

01:01:30.620 her hsv2 sheds more frequently than hsv1 hsv2 is genital herpes hsv1 is cold sores

01:01:39.320 oral sex is lower than vaginal but hsv1 can transmit to genitals and vice versa so if the

01:01:47.660 girl gets cold sores she can put that on your on your you know stuff if she's been you know 0.99

01:01:53.480 um and it's similar um for the male hsv1 is the main cause of genital herpes from oral sex

01:02:02.220 oh didn't know that okay condoms reduce herpes risk by 30 to 50 percent herpes can be transmitted even

01:02:11.420 when no symptoms are present daily anti antiviral meds can reduce transmission risk um significantly

01:02:18.920 i have heard that some guys will take that before a date to reduce the risk i don't know

01:02:24.900 if that works for someone that doesn't have it i'm not a medical professional maybe doug mpa can dig into

01:02:31.120 that um all right but basically the it's saying that um herpes it three to ten percent chance of

01:02:43.980 catching it if he's shedding and no condom it's i don't know why it's saying hiv is so low it's saying

01:02:51.140 you're very unlikely to get that i don't i don't know why um okay um it says risk reduction tips use

01:03:01.120 condoms or dental dams ask their partner if they've been tested avoid sex if there are any visible sores

01:03:06.560 or symptoms for hiv ask about art use and viral load for herpes ask about antivirals um all right

01:03:16.700 if you'd like i can calculate your estimated risk if you've had multiple encounters or break it down

01:03:22.280 by specific scenarios it for example if you're in a six month sexual relationship with one partner who

01:03:29.020 has hiv or herpes and you always use condoms your chance of getting infected depends on how often you

01:03:34.980 of sex whether your partner is taking treatment whether the virus is active or shedding for herpes

01:03:40.380 and how consistent your condom uses so let's assume uh vaginal sex is two to three times per week for 0.70

01:03:47.800 six months so you have about 60 acts of sex condoms are used every time and the partner is either hiv 0.96

01:03:54.740 positive or hsv um and you are hiv negative and hsv negative at the start um the receptive female

01:04:03.140 it says for hiv it's one in a hundred thousand and one in two hundred and fifty thousand um those are

01:04:10.740 the odds with 60 uh protected acts oh so it's for each one it's per act but if you do it 60 times

01:04:20.920 your odds are one in four thousand one hundred and sixty seven as a guy and one in six thousand six

01:04:27.440 hundred sixty seven as a girl john my ex-wife gave me chlamydia the only one i've ever been with

01:04:32.920 if we're divorced now yeah sometimes it's just an l it says if the hiv partner is on art and 0.79

01:04:39.680 undetectable the risk is near zero now the herpes risk over six months with condoms um so male to

01:04:47.980 female so if a man's having sex or male to man giving it to women four to five percent ladies so um if 1.00

01:04:58.460 you're just using a condom and no medication four to five percent are going to catch it women to men 1.00

01:05:04.100 um women giving it to men two to three percent are going to get it within six months um it actually

01:05:10.340 would be interesting to see how that extrapolates over like ten years in six months um the male risk is

01:05:17.260 1.5 percent and the female risk is 2.5 percent will get it if the hsv plus partner is on daily

01:05:27.400 antiviral medication the risk drops by 50 percent if the partner has hsv1 generally risk may be lower

01:05:34.960 due to less frequent shedding oral sex um adds additional but lower um hsv1 transmission risk

01:05:43.420 especially if the hsv plus partner gets cold stores um all right the summary is that for a man if

01:05:53.440 you're if you're banging a girl one in four thousand for h i hiv and one in 67 for herpes those are your

01:06:01.000 chances for a woman one in six that one thou one in one thousand six hundred sixty seven if the dude's 1.00

01:06:07.740 got hiv if you're banging for six months three times a week and the woman is one in 40. 0.99

01:06:15.900 um and it's a higher risk due to shedding antivirals help

01:06:22.260 uh to lower the risk have your partner get tested and treated um avoids having sex during herpes

01:06:27.960 outbreaks consider preep for hip hiv negative partners if you want to model um different sexual 0.94

01:06:37.320 activity levels let me know okay okay yeah now we're done all right so um now that we're talking

01:06:46.020 about this i want to know you guys's experience um do you have hiv or herpes call in it's all anonymous

01:06:54.060 so um we're just gonna have cameras off today um have you gone on a date and had somebody tell you

01:07:04.000 have you ever been getting to know someone they say i have hiv or herpes um and how long did it take

01:07:15.420 you to tell somebody and what did you do or for them to tell you and would hiv and herpes be a deal

01:07:23.940 breaker for me personally um that would just you know it's just one of those things that if you don't

01:07:31.400 got it you don't want it i get really tired of the herpes people with the cold sores saying everyone's

01:07:37.920 got cold sores because i'm like i've never had a cold sore in my life i don't even want that one

01:07:42.540 no thank you i'm good i am i am i am no thank you all right but let's let's go to doug mpa um thanks for

01:07:53.700 torturing yourself through this topic it's a tough one but i do think it's important so yeah you know

01:08:00.480 if half the if half the we got to think of the math here if half the population of women has it 1.00

01:08:05.720 if it's attractive women it might be even higher yeah yeah i'd say six is in above it's probably 80 1.00

01:08:12.380 80 gross um so this is this is a big part of dating nowadays so you know have you have you come

01:08:23.820 across it in the dating market what's been your experience yeah you know i actually i've there

01:08:30.820 was a time where i was trying to actively date b-dubs and uh one of them you know we were talking

01:08:36.900 for a little bit online we met online and you know two three weeks whatever and we went out on one

01:08:42.260 date and then i actually went on a work trip for my day job so we're talking when i get back to the

01:08:48.740 hotel we're talking whatever and it was to the point where the day before i was going to come back it's

01:08:53.140 like all right when i come back we're going to go on a date and we're going to smash right

01:08:55.820 but she's like yeah i just want you to know that um i may have herpes i said what's this you may

01:09:03.800 have herpes she's like well i took a test and it was it was inconclusive

01:09:07.380 i said wait what what do you mean inconclusive she's like oh yeah it was inconclusive yeah i never

01:09:17.280 talked to her again after that you're lucky she told you huh you're lucky she told you yeah i am

01:09:23.840 and then one of my friends went out with another b-dub and they were just about to get it on 0.73

01:09:30.960 and this girl was beautiful too and uh she had a little pamphlet that that um you know they were

01:09:40.860 on the couch and stuff and she pulled a pamphlet out of her purse it was like i have genital herpes

01:09:48.080 but it's not the worst thing in the world and blah blah so she created this whole pamphlet

01:09:53.520 and handed it to him and i expected him to be like read it and say okay yeah he was like

01:09:59.300 get the hell up out of my house i'm gonna have to watch my watch my couch cushion now get out of 0.99

01:10:07.760 here and then she tried to call him and say now that you've calmed down you know i hope you

01:10:14.040 she kept trying to call him and then after a couple days she's like i know you've calmed down

01:10:21.260 and i'm willing to give you a second chance she's like a second chance just disgusting but once again 1.00

01:10:27.240 at least she told him i get yeah i'm telling you interview when i was interviewing these people i

01:10:33.540 think i showed you a voice note one of them sent or maybe i don't remember if i did but like

01:10:38.260 the pit i got in my stomach i was like oh my god like i was like oh my god they do not care they

01:10:47.180 just spread it around yeah you're lucky because a lot like i i said the story earlier there was a

01:10:55.980 someone i know went on a date with someone with a girl and she told him but because it didn't work

01:11:02.540 out with him she never told the guy again and then she got married two years later because she just

01:11:09.980 started lying you know what i mean like she tried telling the truth it didn't get her what she wanted

01:11:14.380 so she said fuck it i'm gonna lie now she's married now so because i think that people with 0.97

01:11:21.580 stds should tell the person and because what's worse them lying because a lie of omission is still a lie

01:11:32.860 you know what i'm saying yeah but you could say should but it doesn't matter yeah like they're like

01:11:38.460 like like do you know what i mean that's like a wish list they're not going to because it doesn't

01:11:43.340 give them the outcomes they want it doesn't give the guys sex it doesn't give the girls relationships 0.64

01:11:48.540 and the way they view it is actually let me look how often do people get tested how often do people

01:11:56.220 get not often enough that's how stds um i'm gonna say on average let's see

01:12:09.020 uh it keeps telling me should i want to know how often people do well if i had to guess people get

01:12:14.460 tested like once every two years maybe on average i don't think that's enough but if i had to what

01:12:22.300 would you guess it is just anecdotally ask that again i'm sorry i had to block this king guy in the

01:12:27.980 chat because he is i made steve m a moderator he's legit he's a great moderator guys and if you come

01:12:36.620 at him come on now guys calm it down no caps no curse words because remember pearl's channel is a

01:12:45.340 red pill channel it just gotten re-monetized it's probably still on some watch lists somewhere so

01:12:50.940 youtube censors her chat based upon certain things so just follow the rules please i'm sorry go ahead pearl

01:12:57.180 how often because i keep googling this and it says how often people should get tested how often do

01:13:04.140 you think people do get tested like what's your just like being in the field experience if you have to

01:13:10.700 guess well because i know people that just don't don't even go to the doctor so i'd say maybe once

01:13:18.060 every two years that's what i that's i said the same thing for a guess so like a guy that's sexually

01:13:23.740 active how many girls is he running through a year would you say a guy actively dating like in the

01:13:29.340 dating market so a guy that's in the top 30 20 percent yeah i'd say he's smashing 15 15 women a year

01:13:40.380 okay at least how is who is he going to be mad at he he he tests positive after two years he's got 30

01:13:48.140 women he's going to call um and women let's let's say it's the same numbers i don't think it is it's

01:13:55.580 probably higher for women but let's say women it's 30 guys two years same thing uh so i think that

01:14:04.780 i think that he just can test positive i don't even think he's going to reach back out to anybody i

01:14:09.980 think that women are more likely to reach back out to the men than the men are to reach back out to the

01:14:14.700 women if they're dating right but that's my point is like the incentive for people to be honest isn't

01:14:21.100 there because by the time yeah by the time they get tested they can't prove who gave it and that's

01:14:27.020 exactly like one of the people i interviewed that's what he told me he said well they're sleeping with

01:14:31.900 multiple guys like the reasoning he said he said well the girls don't even ask they don't even ask to

01:14:37.500 put on a condom so if they don't care about their health why should i and and here's the thing uh

01:14:44.460 from what i've read men get more immediate symptoms than women do women can go years without getting

01:14:50.860 symptoms i don't i've never interviewed everyone i interviewed was a guy but one of them infected he's

01:15:01.340 had long-term people that he's infected and he said they got it pretty quick like he said they got

01:15:11.180 symptoms pretty quick when they got it that was what he said i know it makes you like feel sick but

01:15:17.660 they like i'm telling you they don't care should is like a waste of time they don't care yeah like

01:15:22.780 because like the way yeah the way the way they're gonna view it is like i'm you're killing my sex life 0.82

01:15:28.780 and i'm not gonna do it so yeah some people are out here man just doing damage right but when they

01:15:37.580 get the positive results after two years it's like who are they gonna call yeah nobody so there's no

01:15:44.540 accountability go ahead the way that the sex life was what did you think was gonna happen

01:15:51.100 well some of them die i'm telling you like a good amount of the guys got it from wives that i interviewed

01:15:57.180 i'd say half yeah i would imagine that because i honestly believe in marriages women cheat far more 1.00

01:16:04.780 than men yeah like two of the guys i would say were man whores two of them got it from one was a girlfriend 0.86

01:16:12.380 that he was with for a while one was a wife um my dolls and drugs are disease-free and they don't cheat

01:16:18.380 oh eric with the dog i mean he has a point there eric you are not helping me with the incel audience

01:16:26.220 allegations

01:16:31.020 okay guys all right make sure make sure to like the stream if you haven't already

01:16:36.220 is anyone in the chat or is anyone called in yeah yeah yeah okay i was like i wouldn't be shocked if

01:16:41.980 nobody wanted to call him for this yeah make sure to like the the stream if you haven't already

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01:16:56.460 subscribe button thank you to everyone in the youtube chat always good to see the regulars

01:17:01.020 and thanks for those in the audacity chat i actually had to boot fazelle from the audacity chat today

01:17:07.420 fazelle if you're listening you can't be acting up like that man you can come on tomorrow but you

01:17:14.780 can't be calling people names and f-bombs and be intentionally incendiary man you you've been a

01:17:20.700 long time supporter but you can't be rolling like that okay all right so we're gonna bring up the next

01:17:26.860 i'd i'm also might ask you guys how often you get tested just out of curiosity okay so i see some new

01:17:35.660 names so let's bring some new names in here uh akshay are you there uh hi there hi how are you good how

01:17:47.020 are you yeah i'm good thank you just saw the the thing and it just found it interesting so yeah all

01:17:53.020 right so my guys when it rains here my audio is kind of bad so i'm gonna have them mute me after i ask

01:18:01.500 the question just to make the audio a little better um can can you get can you hear doug i'm assuming

01:18:08.540 you can it you can bear oh you can barely hear it we can't hear on the zoom we can barely hear on

01:18:15.820 youtube oh okay then i might leave so okay well what's your um so what's your experience did you catch

01:18:23.020 an std or do you know someone that has one uh sorry i didn't catch one no i'm sorry i just tuned

01:18:31.580 into the show uh no all right buddy sorry oh did he not people just like walk in i can't i'm no yeah

01:18:43.180 guys don't don't call it i i said this earlier but call in if you have a story either you or someone you

01:18:49.820 know you know you know yeah christopher sorry yeah hey chris i can't good evening i'm making sure

01:19:01.740 you hear the youtube in the background so you have to turn the youtube off that's earlier but call in

01:19:06.460 if you have a story either you or someone you know you know yeah okay i don't have a story i have a

01:19:13.180 question chris you're listening to youtube you have to turn the youtube off here uh could you

01:19:20.380 yeah i know huh guys if i come into the 21st century guys come on now if i okay if i say

01:19:29.740 call in if you have a story and you come on and you say but i have a question

01:19:35.180 you know i love you guys but it's just i'm trying to run a show here okay so if nobody wants to call in

01:19:43.180 and tell me their std story i understand i really do um but yeah all right okay is someone else on

01:19:51.820 or no let's let's get in a good mood we're gonna admit probably our favorite guest i know on the show

01:20:00.460 we know he has some stuff to say about this dustin what's up yo

01:20:10.060 dude i'm not having an outbreak can i have my video on yeah oh my god all right

01:20:18.220 i'm just kidding i don't have anything i don't have anything it's all right i'm not contagious

01:20:22.060 so enlighten us was you know who has gotten the herped up the herp dirt or the high five

01:20:31.900 well okay who do i i knew i actually i worked with this girl who had it that's what you asked right 0.54

01:20:40.780 yeah but there was a girl named all right so wow almost let us slip but uh i remember

01:20:49.340 you know in the service industry they got this thing called an early out like if it's slow

01:20:53.660 so this this girl she goes on a date with this guy and she comes to work and she's like

01:21:01.580 really freaking out uh like a week later and it comes time for eo and we have guests at the bar

01:21:08.380 and she goes well shouldn't i get the eo because i just found out i have herpes and she said it so

01:21:13.420 loud and uh yeah it was wild and then um i actually when i was bartending at this casino

01:21:23.020 one of the guys i worked with and you're right you would never know that he had hiv but um he

01:21:31.100 he ended up telling me about it and uh like how he got it and he actually spread it to his wife but

01:21:38.380 he didn't know he had it for um a long time they went on a vacation like a year into their marriage

01:21:46.060 and uh he got really sick on the vacation and almost died and ended up spreading it to her

01:21:54.140 unbeknownst to her and uh it was like it was really sad it it's very sad when someone tells you they

01:21:59.980 have it uh obviously um but uh he seemed pretty at peace with it and he would tell me that with all

01:22:09.500 these new pills and stuff he just goes in raw dogs and chicks just like he did before so oh my god

01:22:18.300 i'm not saying it's right but uh well yeah you like yeah go ahead uh i was just thinking about

01:22:26.780 because i've always been real afraid of stds because i don't i don't it's not that i don't

01:22:30.780 i'm just too lazy i don't i don't want to be proactive about rubbers you know i'm just like

01:22:39.340 i just put it wherever it wants to go and uh like i just think about it do you know how the gender

01:22:47.900 pay gap how that figure is gotten it's kind of like how they get the std figure because you may

01:22:54.700 sure one in five people have an std but i've done shag 12 of my friends and i never got an std

01:23:01.500 i wouldn't get tested so i was like statistically that's not right you know but um yeah but you

01:23:07.980 don't it's also based on your immune system so you might have a strong immune system yeah i got that

01:23:14.060 i got that jewish blood in me i'm immune wait so um the guy that had it um did he 0.50

01:23:25.180 how did he get it did he tell you and was he just he was banging other girls while he was married

01:23:29.420 i'm guessing and did he ever spread it like did he ever have that problem where they called him and

01:23:34.460 said they got it go ahead so he got it because he was also doing drugs uh he was doing hard stuff um

01:23:43.340 because he had a lot of depression his brother committed suicide and started doing heroin and

01:23:51.420 he was doing that outside of seeing his wife and that's how he he contracted it and he spread it

01:23:58.060 to his wife he wasn't unfaithful and um that's one thing that because i did i met a uh like

01:24:07.500 i digged down this chick in new york city and after i talked to her for a bit she told me her best friend

01:24:12.940 had hiv and i got really afraid because i didn't use i didn't wrap it up so like i broke up i went

01:24:19.500 to her work like a week later i broke up with her and she's like why i said i think like i i said

01:24:25.420 something really rude but you know and um people don't when people have it they don't tell you this

01:24:31.580 crazy life they usually live before they contracted something that serious like herpes is another thing

01:24:38.300 you know you can get that that's that's something that's real scary but uh hiv i don't if people went

01:24:44.380 into their backstory you would be like wow no wonder you got it you know yeah i've never met anyone with

01:24:50.780 hiv i've met people with herpes but not hiv like not personally anyways um the people that you've met

01:24:59.180 with herpes were they sexually promiscuous or were they just like um um uh oh wait actually i do know

01:25:08.620 one girl that has it the girl just uh she dated a chad he had it um the she actually had only been with

01:25:16.940 like one maybe two guys like she was pretty young when she got it um the guy um he was promiscuous but

01:25:28.140 he got it pretty early on like maybe like he actually kind of reminds me of you a little bit

01:25:34.860 like his attitude he's a good guy yeah he's a yeah but like early on he got it um one guy was married

01:25:45.740 he got it from his wife he wasn't promiscuous so i don't know anyone with hiv though the the girl

01:25:53.260 though that got it did she lie going forward or did she because she was obviously really honest there

01:26:00.220 oh no she didn't she actually just started like she got it she said that stupid thing at work 1.00

01:26:08.860 she didn't work for a week she came back and then she started dating another bartender it was 1.00

01:26:13.980 there you go i was just about to ask because i'm telling you some guys and some girls they don't give

01:26:18.860 an f man they just dive right in with both feet anyway yeah but so the guy had the guy had to know

01:26:26.780 right oh he knew he knew but uh i i think that once you say oh i have this drug that stops my outbreak

01:26:41.020 so as long as you don't see it we don't gotta worry about it i think if a girl says something like that

01:26:47.420 a guy's gonna be like hey sign me up you know um would it be a deal breaker for you

01:26:59.260 well

01:27:05.500 i'm 34 so like

01:27:09.900 uh hey hiv for sure you know i'm not like

01:27:14.540 i'd make out with a chick that had hiv on new year's you know if she needed that like a kiss 1.00

01:27:20.460 and no one else would kiss her at night i'd give her a beer 0.99

01:27:24.380 um like it was herpes i would and she got she'd have to be bad but you know 34 and i gotta live with

01:27:33.660 it for just a little bit longer you know it might be worth it i'd have to

01:27:38.700 uh like margot robbie at 21 i would i'd even ask for and get herpes on that you know but 0.74

01:27:52.620 i'm probably not gonna do it i you know i'm i'm at the point because i'm in my 40s if i

01:27:58.940 because i was telling pro this if i met a girl because you know i like tall women so she was like 1.00

01:28:03.340 5'10 5'9 you know you know crossed a bunch of the boxes off and all she had was like

01:28:10.220 cold sores on her mouth or something i mean i could probably deal with that only because 1.00

01:28:15.260 one of my friends was married to her husband for like 15 years and he he got cold sores when he was

01:28:21.340 a kid and they were married for 15 years and she never got it so um but once again that would just

01:28:29.260 happen she'd have to be like you know a seven or above and have a lot of traditional values and 1.00

01:28:34.540 stuff like that but um yeah yeah the high five no way and then genital hsb herpes and the heck no

01:28:43.180 no way i don't even i don't even think i'd risk cold sores like those look painful

01:28:49.500 like i don't know i've never had i've never i don't really like canker sores you know the stuff

01:28:55.500 you get when you eat too much sugar oh and i'm like cold sore those look worse i'm like i don't

01:29:01.180 know if i'd risk that all right all right decimu we're gonna have to cut it a little short tonight

01:29:08.380 because we have a full range of callers but thanks for calling in we have a lot of callers yeah we do

01:29:13.740 have a good one guys all right see ya i was here talking to you buddy yeah okay i'm gonna try

01:29:21.020 christopher again be ready man christopher yeah good evening how's it going chris

01:29:33.340 yeah good okay thanks okay what you got for me you got did you get an std or do you know someone that has

01:29:41.740 one or um or or or are either other two that we talked about a deal breaker for you what do you got

01:29:50.620 okay so with on on the std front okay so i just i just did some reading on herpes and what it actually

01:30:04.540 does to like the like during pregnancy so it's it's like pretty severe right the the chances of like

01:30:20.220 the mother transferring the con the infection to the baby is not it's it's quite high

01:30:30.540 but it's not like 100 um kind of guaranteed that it would transfer that's the first thing

01:30:44.140 that i've got from the ai overview so um yeah obviously i'm not i'm not saying like it doesn't

01:30:54.380 it shouldn't it it shouldn't affect like people's choices but that's just what i'm reading okay what

01:31:01.420 about you personally me personally i do i have herpes i don't i don't think so no like i know i get cold

01:31:10.300 sores but like no i don't have like i went i went recently to an std clinic um about a month ago

01:31:21.580 and yeah i got like the whole kind of like um how often how often do you get tested

01:31:36.460 um maybe like

01:31:44.540 once a year probably okay

01:31:46.780 um is our have you ever been dating a woman and she said oh just so you know i've got the herp dirt 0.95

01:31:57.020 or i have hiv yeah yeah and yeah and that was the end of the uh relationship was it would you have

01:32:03.980 guessed like did she look like she might have had an std did she look really promiscuous or what 1.00

01:32:09.580 no she just no she just yeah she just had a cold sore and then i was like i just asked about it

01:32:19.740 and then i was like yeah okay well did she have genital herpes too or just the i don't know i don't

01:32:26.460 know i didn't go there oh you were like not you were you were the cold sore wasn't that but if you get

01:32:31.820 cold sores i think that means you have the first one so what is that is that yeah i'm like pretty

01:32:37.580 i'm not there's well there's yeah there's hs yeah there's hsv1 and hsv2 hsv2 is the bad one where

01:32:46.380 you get a it's it's a bunch of stuff yeah you don't want hsv2 hsv1 it's a sad part about it they

01:32:53.580 say like by the time you're 45 like 70 to 80 percent of people have like hsv have cold sores or something

01:33:01.420 like that oh my god right god in the west god willing i just i've never had one and they look

01:33:09.580 painful yeah so okay um okay what you said i'm a little confused because i'm looking at what i'm

01:33:23.020 reading on chat gpt is it says it's not that likely the kid will get herpes i don't i don't know i'm

01:33:31.740 not like i don't know like it's saying it's only if she's in an active infection

01:33:39.980 right and what and how often does that happen occur it's like 20 of the year but they can take drugs to

01:33:46.300 suppress it i don't know though i'm not a doctor this is the the problem is this topic it's like

01:33:55.660 people like they coddle women so much they don't really give us the information so it's all coddled

01:34:01.340 so i don't know go ahead and also women they 1.00

01:34:07.420 women are still seen as the the victims of this whole thing when there are women that are normally 1.00

01:34:12.620 spreading it or or come on guys like come on ladies if you're with a a gab in the starving 0.98

01:34:21.980 musician or a gloctavius come on man just just assume they have it and don't mess with the guy

01:34:27.260 you know what i'm saying but women do it anyway yeah yeah all right i mean really like yeah i mean if 1.00

01:34:36.220 if i was gonna like make the law then i would be like that should be a kind of

01:34:42.140 punishable offense because you can't medical records like yeah people people have yeah people

01:34:48.940 have the right to like keep medical records private because yeah okay so like confidentiality yeah right

01:34:56.780 and yeah but okay yeah i'm just i i agree with you but i'm just i'm just being honest about this

01:35:04.940 there are some states that the california has a thing where if you normally give someone hiv

01:35:09.580 you you could charge them with a crime so you you're starting to see more and more states like

01:35:14.380 that yeah well yeah no i think yeah that i mean yeah that that makes sense and like to be honest like

01:35:22.380 i just think that if like it's it's it's like i guess it's there's there's some kind of like

01:35:31.900 gray area or that that it's i guess the people have like the right to

01:35:40.300 privacy i guess but um i just don't i just don't i just don't think in like if you're gonna kind of

01:35:48.060 like think about like evolving the human race right and trying to make sure that like certain things don't

01:35:56.060 get it it just it does yeah i know it just it doesn't matter it doesn't like it doesn't matter

01:36:01.340 what you think because like women aren't gonna let it happen uh we're gonna go on to the next caller 0.96

01:36:06.860 but thanks for calling in okay okay all right cheers bye

01:36:12.140 i just sorry i just didn't want to go down the route of like it shouldn't be i mean you know

01:36:22.220 how it is it's like it doesn't matter bad luck are you there yes sir bad luck is that bad luck because

01:36:30.300 you got it yeah i have to you know at least try to make fun of it yeah okay um so how did you catch it

01:36:43.340 uh it's a bit of an unfortunate uh event but basically uh i was i was a virgin married this girl

01:36:53.660 girl she didn't say uh and then all of a sudden you know surprise surprise surprise surprise you you

01:37:02.700 got which one ah i so according to the tests i have both of them but uh i only had like blisters uh

01:37:12.460 like on the you know basically on the genitals wow so you got both from and so you were a virgin 0.85

01:37:21.420 until you got married yep wow and are you guys still married or no no and what have you done in

01:37:31.180 like your dating life now do you like tell the women or what do you uh i i kind of tried talking

01:37:39.820 to some other women after that and then like i remember uh dating one canadian girl in particular

01:37:48.060 and she was just like oh yeah i love you this and that and then when i told her she was basically

01:37:52.060 like gagging and she like she said it was like disgusting or whatever and i'm like okay cool you

01:37:57.500 know uh so were you guys hooking up at that point no no no and before anything happened i just let her 0.99

01:38:05.820 know and and she was you know she acted completely like disgusted by it so uh and then then she came 1.00

01:38:14.060 back around and then she was just like you know she was trying to be nice about it and i was just

01:38:17.660 like okay uh you know and it's just kind of like discourages you from tell talking to anybody and

01:38:22.700 telling anything to anybody that's basically what happens and have you tried like dating sites for

01:38:29.340 people that have it because that's something you've tried no not really okay is it something you want

01:38:36.460 to try or not like how long have you had it for uh probably i want to say since maybe like 2013 or

01:38:45.980 something like that and i'm just curious how much does it affect your life like the blisters how 0.97

01:38:52.140 often are they and like how bad would you say it is like the h like for both the symptoms um

01:38:59.100 um so but when i first got it it was kind of often um it was they're extremely painful and they take a

01:39:08.620 long time to heal so it's a very uncomfortable experience um and you know you just try to

01:39:16.620 basically get your best to keep it like clean and dry because you know that stuff like spreads basically

01:39:22.620 so you know um and then after that it's just like it just becomes way less often it's just less often

01:39:30.540 and less often to the point that now it's like i haven't had it in years yeah that's what i've heard

01:39:35.340 from the other guys i've interviewed too um do you think that like if you were to hook up with somebody

01:39:43.980 they would be able to tell you had it like do you think it's easy to identify like if you're in an outbreak

01:39:49.420 or like or not go ahead uh yeah i mean i guess if uh if if if there's a visible sign then yeah but

01:39:58.860 honestly no i couldn't tell you know if somebody's lying about it and they don't have anything visible

01:40:04.620 then it's like impossible to tell and what about your wife like you didn't notice any like blistering 0.98

01:40:10.620 when you guys were married and like how long were you married till you got it like how long were you

01:40:15.740 hooking up till you got it uh probably a year and a half or something like that maybe less

01:40:23.900 a year year and a half yeah and was she taking medication or no no not that she didn't say she

01:40:30.860 acted like she didn't know you know she was just lying through her teeth the entire time so 0.91

01:40:35.500 uh i never noticed anything she never said anything so you know sounds about right

01:40:43.020 so that's that's how it is and for hiv is it likely that you will die from that someday like

01:40:50.540 based on the technology now now people live with that stuff until old age i had an uncle that had it and

01:40:58.540 you know he just lived until all age basically died from something else he said he said that he has

01:41:05.580 both versions of of hsv herpes not not hiv oh i'm sorry i misheard you i thought yeah hiv and there's

01:41:14.780 two i was like damn damn it's a double homicide like so are you are you in um are you in the south are 0.84

01:41:25.980 you in like texas or new mexico or something like that no i'm in the south yes yeah so uh i was um

01:41:33.980 i lived in san antonio for for a couple of years and there's this lady that was on the news

01:41:40.700 and she got uh hiv sleeping with a random man wow and so she would go to and she was very attractive 0.62

01:41:50.300 too she'd go to the airport and like a a little black dress or like a little red dress and just 0.99

01:41:56.220 sit at at the high-end bar at the airport and then just get hit on by some guy that was traveling and

01:42:03.020 sleep with the guy raw and then just keep it going yeah and she'd do that every single weekend and she 0.92

01:42:09.500 she's been arrested multiple times for it but she just keeps doing it she's like yes someone gave it to

01:42:15.260 me so i'm gonna give it to as many people yes so she just she'll sit there at the bar at the airport 1.00

01:42:20.140 let guys pick her up take her home and then do it raw and there are some very twisted people out there 0.99

01:42:28.300 what did your wife do after was she able to get remarried again oh yeah yeah so she was basically 1.00

01:42:36.620 yeah it's just you know she was she was cheating on me uh that's why i left her 1.00

01:42:40.860 um and then she married the guy that she was cheating on me with and she had a kid with him 1.00

01:42:46.940 too oh yep and do you know anyone else who has it you said your uncle has it and i'm i'm just curious

01:42:57.260 if the people when you brought up like hivs that's what my uncle had okay i was just curious does he tell 1.00

01:43:05.100 people about it or does he lie honestly i don't know to be honest with you because

01:43:14.060 i mean he told me i remember he like the family knew but i don't know if like he told people he

01:43:20.700 dated i'm not really sure i was never like into like his business like that but you know fortunately

01:43:26.060 he passed away uh you know he's not around anymore so i couldn't tell you um and when's

01:43:34.220 the last time you had an outbreak you said it's been years oh yeah it's been years i don't even

01:43:38.780 remember when was the last time to be honest with you how many bad years do you have to endure before

01:43:44.140 it like gets to that you said in the beginning like in the beginning is it every other month like

01:43:48.620 how often do you get it shoot it's been a long time i'm trying to remember it was it was probably

01:43:56.060 like uh if i had to guess because i don't remember it's been so long it was probably like maybe like

01:44:03.740 every like two three months or something like that it was you know like i said it was very annoying and

01:44:08.860 then then it's just like it's just less like less frequent less frequent less frequent until then it

01:44:15.340 gets to like once or twice a year and then it's just like right now it's like i said it's been years

01:44:22.060 and would you say it killed your dating life like you basically had no dating life after 100 yeah it's

01:44:28.860 just you know like i said i try to be honest to you know like with the way that chick reacted it was just 0.90

01:44:33.980 like enough for me to like this you know i'm just way too uh embarrassed about it just put it that way

01:44:41.180 well there's a lot of girls with it nowadays you know yeah um all right um doug mp you got any other

01:44:51.100 questions for him well that's it really appreciate you sharing your story buddy thanks for calling in

01:44:56.780 yeah thanks for calling in all right yeah guys have a good one cool all right i'm gonna bring up

01:45:04.380 another name another new name and then we can go back to some of the ogs real fast

01:45:08.940 uh jamie hey what's up you guys hear me i can hear you um yeah i hear an echo is it playing

01:45:23.580 do you hear an echo doug mpa i do do you have youtube playing in the background uh yeah let me

01:45:29.980 turn it off quick all right how about now okay better yeah i used to work at a std clinic in the bay

01:45:38.540 area um yeah oh yeah i worked for like a year or two about two years um my experience is that it's

01:45:47.820 mostly a lot of gay men have hiv um in the world basically there's a lot of gay men in the bay area

01:45:55.660 to go with that um but the stories are crazy on how people would get them you'd hear all kinds of like

01:46:03.100 stories on some people would get and when it comes to h or hsv one and two um a lot of hsv one a lot of

01:46:12.940 hsv two i guess um the thing that i got was weird was that um a lot of the women that had hsv two 0.99

01:46:21.580 they would tell their partners or their future partners and a lot of the men were like that's fine

01:46:26.780 that's fine and they would tell me like so the guys were like i don't know if they're simping or

01:46:31.260 they're just desperate or the because the women that didn't tell me that a lot of them were really 0.99

01:46:35.820 hot really attractive and um from my experience also that when you have uh hsv two you can shed

01:46:45.980 which is you're shedding the virus like you could shed like a week or two before you actually

01:46:50.540 start feeling symptoms or showing symptoms so it's so the people that you think don't have it

01:46:57.020 may have it so it's hard to um tell if someone has it and a lot of the std testing in california

01:47:05.260 they don't test for hsv one or hsv two they'll do the other stuff the chlamydia the the hiv

01:47:11.100 the um i forget gonorrhea um all that but they won't really test for it and they say it's just so

01:47:17.020 damn prevalent in california with the hsv one and two and do you think the women that had have 1.00

01:47:24.140 it were they like would you say they were more attractive women um like just across the board go 1.00

01:47:31.260 ahead yeah in general in general it was really it was a really hot women um i have a question

01:47:39.900 this is doug mpa's question not pearl's question how many how many other women that came into your 0.99

01:47:49.260 clinic were black women um the one that was that came in a lot she was actually she had hiv really 1.00

01:47:57.100 cool lady though super cool lady um but it it was mostly the one that i saw i lived in or where i

01:48:06.780 worked at i'm not going to say where um it was mostly gay white men older men it wasn't really a

01:48:12.300 lot of young men um the young men that did come in they were it wasn't i can't say the worst they

01:48:19.500 were like the damn the horniest like it was just i remember a couple of a couple came in and then a 1.00

01:48:24.940 week later they're fighting with each other to get young men because one was cheating and they were both

01:48:30.300 one came in a week after that and he was looking green his hands were had pustules i think he had

01:48:35.180 gonorrhea for like a long time and he was just really in bad shape and he couldn't stop having

01:48:42.140 sex and then this other guy um i'm not going to say as an ethnicity or anything he was actually hiv

01:48:49.180 positive and hep c positive and he would come in and then a month later he'd come in and he had

01:48:54.620 chlamydia in his in his anus and in his throat and they tell him to stop having sex and he and then he 0.99

01:49:00.220 wouldn't he would just come in like three months later he'd be infected again it's just it just was

01:49:05.740 just nonsense and it was a young gay man and i felt bad for them but it's just it's like it's hard for

01:49:11.180 them to control i guess their sexual i don't know like they just couldn't keep their pants on i guess um

01:49:19.020 but the older men um they were just coming in for their regular schedule uh visits you know every six

01:49:25.660 months every it just depends how sick they were on their viral load or basically the viral load is

01:49:31.020 the amount of um hiv virus you have in your system and you check that like every i don't

01:49:36.540 depends on how bad you are how sick you are um the medication now is really really good um you can take

01:49:44.140 the medication to where your hiv your your viral load is so low where it's undetectable where you're

01:49:49.260 you're testing negative uh with hiv but you have to be i forget the name of it it's been a while

01:49:55.020 since i work how how often do they transmit it because i when i was looking on chat gpt it was

01:50:01.260 saying you're really not likely to get it if you hook up with someone that has it but that seems

01:50:07.820 that seems wrong but i'm like i don't know it's from what i remember and the studies is that um

01:50:15.500 like vaginal intercourse it's pretty difficult to get it's when you get into the the the blood the

01:50:20.380 blood on blood contact so anal sex is you have a lot of that blood on blood contact that's also when 0.85

01:50:26.300 you have hsv1 and 2 there's sores there right so if there's you have a higher chance of catching

01:50:33.420 something because you actually have a wound so something gets into that wound like disease like

01:50:38.940 hiv or something else so that's why they say you have you're at higher risk of getting hiv if you have

01:50:44.140 hsv1 and hsv2 and you're having sex so it's really like that blood on blood contact that's really

01:50:50.940 the thing about it um but yeah there's also like a tracking system in california once you

01:50:57.180 have hiv you're tracked for the rest of your life um through the through the state so if you're like

01:51:02.940 say you're homeless or you leave the state or you're in jail they have to like figure out where

01:51:07.820 you're at so they can keep you taking the medication to keep you below the hiv level the hiv

01:51:13.180 viral loads where you can give it to people so it's like um so if someone disappears they go to jail

01:51:19.020 we have to find them figure out who where they're at and have them keep taking the medication

01:51:23.340 and do most of them live like a normal life now oh yeah oh yeah oh yeah they're they're taking their

01:51:29.340 meds they have a normal life it used to be like in the 80s the medication was so bad it was really

01:51:36.220 tough on your on your liver and kidneys um but the medication you got it's gotten so good um that

01:51:43.980 you don't have to worry about that unless you're doing other drugs or you're an alcoholic or something

01:51:48.220 like that so i think for doug's question he was asking about um the herpes if like what percent were

01:51:53.660 b-dubs um it was low for more but i i we i the where i worked at was a low it was pretty predominantly

01:52:00.860 low um african-american community okay that makes sense i couldn't tell you yeah it is the

01:52:08.460 were you like right in san francisco like right there yeah yeah that's really expensive though so yeah

01:52:14.700 exactly exactly if i worked in oakland i'm pretty sure it'd be fully different stats yeah i would imagine

01:52:20.460 okay so for the um the would you say that most i don't know if you even like in your job did you

01:52:29.500 did you even have a chance to talk to them about how honest they were with the people they slept

01:52:33.740 with i'm just curious if you had any information on how like honest people are with it the the younger

01:52:41.420 let me add to their oh i'll add to her question not only first question but did you have any like

01:52:49.660 optional questionnaire questions with about the disclosure or how often they talk to their

01:52:55.980 their partners about what they have is there like anyway it's hard to say i didn't see a lot

01:53:02.380 of younger people there i was mostly the older older white men um but most of them they actually had

01:53:09.580 their own partners um when people did come in for random testing it was um you know they just want

01:53:16.460 to get their hiv test you know no questions asked that kind of thing i there was questions of how many

01:53:20.700 people i slept with i remember one guy he was a cop and he says he just he forgot how many people he

01:53:25.900 slept with he just wanted to get tested um other people would come in just to um hey i need my what was

01:53:33.740 it but my my warts burned off i need my warts taken care of like they actually had general warts and

01:53:39.500 get treated and okay i'm i'm gonna go about my business even though they were positive they're

01:53:43.820 probably hpv positive which is uh general warts which i think four of those types of general warts can

01:53:51.340 actually lead to um cancer um so it's it's for men it's really important if you if a woman has hpv

01:53:59.980 because they should you can you can get through a man can get throat cancer from hpv of those four

01:54:06.300 there's four variants there's like i don't even know there's like maybe 30 to 20 to 30 different

01:54:10.940 types of it's 16 18 the one you don't want right that's the no i forget there's at least maybe maybe

01:54:18.380 i forget how many are cancers but there's at least four or five that are cancerous um see if chat gpt says

01:54:25.500 what strands of hpv give men throat cancer um i'm curious what anecdotally and maybe because there

01:54:37.100 was a lot of gay guys but like what percent of women do you think have stds if you had to guess 0.99

01:54:44.780 based on your experience at the clinic a lot a lot um there's this other std that i keep forgetting it's

01:54:53.260 it's a oh there's this other one i forget um trichomonas that one like damn near 80 of the women 1.00

01:55:02.140 that came in for std checks had that um what is that um it's it's hard to explain uh i would just

01:55:10.300 don't look it up so it's it's they call it trick everybody calls it trick in in the clinic um

01:55:17.180 um we're talking about stuff that we didn't even know about yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah and it leaves

01:55:24.540 like like us like like a stinky smell on a on a woman's vajayjay basically is one of the symptoms 1.00

01:55:31.900 but yeah yeah there's there's tons of maniasis yeah it's a commonly sti caused by a parasite called

01:55:39.340 trichomonas yeah vaginalis is typically spread through sexual contact and is treatable with

01:55:48.460 antibiotics uh oh i'm looking at the pictures yeah it causes a foul smelling vaginal discharge 0.95

01:55:55.740 exactly that's the biggest symptom so you'll so yeah that big stink that's probably trick

01:56:01.500 so that's so that's a telltale sign hey i'm not going to go down on this lady girl 1.00

01:56:05.900 right because sometimes some guys are desperate like i hear stories oh yeah you know i i even

01:56:11.580 though it smelled i was still hitting it you know because you know it's better to have a jj we know

01:56:16.620 that type of you know mentality what percent of guys do you think get herpes if they get into a

01:56:22.140 relationship with a girl that has it i just i don't know i just know a lot of the women that i that did

01:56:29.500 come in with hs me they would tell me like the guys wouldn't care because they were she was so hot 1.00

01:56:35.580 and i'm like what the like what do you mean didn't didn't care like they didn't want to put on a condom

01:56:39.900 like no they just they didn't want to put on a condo no they were all right with it which which tri

01:56:45.420 which was i'm like oh my god guys are that desperate i know i'm sorry i know one guy that

01:56:51.020 didn't he said he hooked up with a girl that had it but to be fair he was like 57 50. i feel like at that

01:56:57.820 age they're like that's another thing like older people they don't they don't give an f about those 1.00

01:57:02.380 stds they're like i'm on i'm dying anyways i might i don't give a f no they like nursing homes 0.91

01:57:07.660 oh yeah i worked at a nursing home too and they're they're they're they're they're hooking up they're

01:57:12.780 hooking up big time big time um sorry hun yeah they're hooking up big time and it's at a nursing

01:57:21.260 home it's like well they're adults let them do you know unless they don't have the mental capacity

01:57:26.380 they're like well they can do what they want so it's that's another whole another where where

01:57:31.980 did the warts come like if a guy's hooking up with a girl is there like is it easily visible

01:57:38.220 like the warts are they big some are some aren't um some show up like on genitalia or on the side of the

01:57:44.060 legs um on the penis it's it's there's different types i guess um they they show differently on 0.76

01:57:53.100 different people too like different races it shows up on the skin differently it could be a big old 1.00

01:57:58.460 wart like on your hand but it could be small and little it could be a bunch of little ones around

01:58:02.860 the penis it's it's all kinds of it's it's yeah it's a huge variance i was ever seen you that one 0.83

01:58:08.940 uh instagram real pearl with it's this woman she's in a salon like a waxing salon and the wax lady's like 1.00

01:58:20.140 she's like that smell down there ma'am i i can't wax you she's like well i just got out of the gym 1.00

01:58:25.180 she's like that's not the gym you need to go to the doctor and she's like well i can't believe you're

01:58:31.180 not going to give me i'm going on vacation tomorrow and she's like ma'am i am not going to wax you 0.63

01:58:36.220 because you you you got a discharge down there and like it smells gross and she's like i can't

01:58:41.020 believe and she's trying to cuss the lady out and he's like i don't feel comfortable giving you a wax

01:58:45.500 you need to leave yeah um i was just i was just curious if you think that it's like easy to

01:58:52.220 identify if you're hooking up with somebody like if a guy's hooking up with a girl or vice versa if

01:58:57.340 there's any like i don't know best practices places to look so you don't catch anything just

01:59:02.940 using condoms until you when you feel comfortable to take it off get get the the std panel get the whole

01:59:09.980 hsv one and two and all that before you even think about having um oh that's my next question

01:59:17.580 yeah like do you do you think the guy that said he told me he got herpes from wearing even though

01:59:23.260 he had a condom and they hooked up once do you believe him or no yeah yeah you can shed on your

01:59:29.100 legs but it's it's possible he could have um my gosh he probably could have kissed her and she had it 1.00

01:59:38.460 on her face well he said it was the second one not the first um yeah the the the other thing too

01:59:45.980 is that i think you can get hsv2 on your face too i'm not sure yeah you can yeah so yeah they you

01:59:54.700 kiss someone that has a hsv2 on their face and then i think it can show up on on your on your vaginal

02:00:00.700 on your on your lower extremities i'm not sure on that um but you can yeah um but there has been

02:00:06.780 um i've read stuff where you can be shedding on your you can because you can have hsv2 on your

02:00:13.820 legs it doesn't necessarily have to be on your genitalia it can be next to your genitalia basically 0.77

02:00:18.300 or it can be on your arm it can we've we've seen people have sores on their arms and it was hsv1 or

02:00:25.660 hsv2 and if in in your experience what like what percent of people that you came in that got stds were

02:00:34.380 wearing a condom if you if you know if you don't it's okay but i was just curious i i couldn't tell

02:00:42.140 you but i'm pretty sure it's pretty low yeah it's pretty low um it says 16 is the most common cause

02:00:49.340 of hpv throat cancer in both men and women it's responsible for 90 of hpv cancers um hpv 18 is less

02:00:59.900 common but still classified as high risk and occasionally

02:01:10.780 i think to throat

02:01:11.500 cancer

02:01:26.860 other high risk types like 31 33 35 52 and 58 but these are much rarer forms of cancer but are

02:01:34.220 sometimes found i think 16 18 are the ones you don't want to get

02:01:37.500 that's rarity it could be it could be rare here but once you start going to thailand or

02:01:42.220 africa or you know then it change it totally changes um even with aids you can have a different

02:01:48.060 variance of hiv there's like there's like a rare type of hiv or a different type of hiv that the

02:01:53.980 medications can't treat in africa like though that aids variance or hiv is different from the one in the

02:02:00.380 u.s because it mutates it's it's like the hiv from the 80s is not the hiv from today you know it's one

02:02:07.180 one of my conspiracy theories yeah so you know the aspects of hiv that make it unlike any other virus

02:02:15.580 i think the reason why it's the most prevalent in south africa and lesotho and all this this is

02:02:22.540 i can't prove this this is just my i honestly think that the south africans came up with that to try to

02:02:27.420 get rid of the white south africans during apartheid came up with that to try to get rid of the black 0.99

02:02:34.380 population in south africa who knows who knows actually who knows i mean who was patient zero

02:02:41.260 wasn't it some gay guy who was um have you heard of patient zero it was yeah because wasn't it some

02:02:49.260 he was a gay stewardess yeah yeah from europe that did some sex tourism 1.00

02:03:09.020 in south africa and then brought it back yeah yeah uh what was the average age of the women coming in 1.00

02:03:15.900 with herpes oh the one 20s 20s 30s you know the oh yeah but a lot of the older women that would 1.00

02:03:26.940 come in um it was it was like it was totally normal to them because they've had it for years

02:03:32.940 that's that's the only thing i was like oh yeah it's part of my other medications i take you know valtrex

02:03:37.420 about cyclovir you know when it wouldn't ever get a flare up but they would just

02:03:46.140 you know you'd be like oh wow yeah i didn't know you had it you know that kind of thing um it was

02:04:08.220 just across the board but it's it's really just to say it's there's a lot of people that have um hsb and

02:04:14.780 hsb one and two in in california to say the least what percent of attractive people do you think have

02:04:22.140 herpes men and women i couldn't tell you okay i'm just curious i like to ask people that work in the

02:04:28.460 field so i i just yeah a lot of people because i think a lot of people have it um yeah i i can't

02:04:36.540 say like i would say at least two out of ten at least have it okay i put it that put it in that

02:04:44.300 context cool okay do you got anything else no this this has been great it's always good to hear

02:04:54.060 people that have been in the clinics and out

02:04:58.300 there you know seeing what's really going on so thank you for calling in we really appreciate it

02:05:15.180 no problem take care okay guys make sure to like the stream we really appreciate you being here

02:05:22.460 so i'm going to read the supers yeah really quick we're talking

02:05:36.460 about this because someone's got to nobody's you know it's like i haven't really heard any show

02:05:57.820 so like because i remember i was like do you remember when kevin samuels had that stream that

02:06:04.940 was like you have three dates to have sex uh-huh i'm like kevin i don't like want to catch anything

02:06:28.700 oh like all right we're talking about the soft fight i think that as women especially when they 1.00

02:06:34.060 smash past the wall uh they would if enough if they meet a guy that crossed off enough of their boxes

02:06:42.220 they would deal with anything short and maybe the high five yeah you know um okay avery i'm glad no one

02:06:48.780 wants to do me wisdom for the hsv take foods and herbs with um cumin um quercetin and reservatrol i'm so

02:07:00.780 sorry take lysine which blocks arginine which helps the violence virus replicate and

02:07:10.540 arginasi cancelled out the agitine don't ask me how i know this okay michael nasty topic but it's important to

02:07:18.220 spread the message thank you eric my dog okay eric you

02:07:31.100 you're not helping me with this incel audience allegations um spread knowledge not herpes yeah

02:07:51.660 look i just i just felt like this is a big fear of people in the mart like nobody wants to catch

02:07:57.500 anything

02:07:57.900 so we might as well talk about it agree um

02:08:13.180 okay although women i think we just want it we like we love playing with fire so i think if like we

02:08:18.540 might catch something it just makes it like i asked one of the guys who had it i'm like your exes that

02:08:24.860 were really into you do you think they'd hook up with you even if you told them you had it he's like

02:08:29.340 yup ah there you go i remember one of my friends uh who's a woman she's all everything that we talk about 0.99

02:08:39.980 she's in her mid 40s six figures was a single mom now her kids out of the house and uh she was on 1.00

02:08:47.340 facebook dating of all places and i'm just like what are you doing there and this really attractive

02:08:52.620 male nurse good looking dude hits her up on there and she's like they're talking and stuff he's like

02:08:57.900 hey i'm a travel nurse i'm at this hotel why don't you come there's a really nice restaurant in my hotel

02:09:04.460 why don't you come here friday night and then you can stay the night the night you know that night

02:09:09.660 in my hotel room and she's like i can't believe he he said that and does that really work of course it

02:09:14.780 works he wouldn't have tried it if it didn't he said because my friend she's you're saying

02:09:20.300 difficult where she's alone but she isn't no she tries to say that she's happy alone but we all know

02:09:25.500 she's not and it's like all you women there's good you're gonna break sometime you're gonna be like 0.96

02:09:33.020 okay i'm here watching scandal for the 10th time this guy hit me up on for a friday night what else

02:09:39.500 am i doing and i and this woman i don't know if who knows the last time she's actually been with a 0.54

02:09:46.060 man so and a lot of the women like you you're gonna break sometime so that guy probably sleeps with 1.00

02:09:51.820 a whole bunch of women just like you and that guy probably has something 1.00

02:09:55.020 so well anyway okay well let's bring up i'm going to bring up some of the regulars but i'm going to

02:10:09.180 give you a four minute limit because we still have

02:10:14.380 one two

02:10:14.940 two three four five six seven eight nine ten people in here so eric i'm bringing you up but you got

02:10:32.620 four minutes pal eric

02:10:35.500 eric

02:10:43.980 he always has his microphone messed up or maybe he's listening to the youtube and he's delayed

02:10:50.220 there he is what up eric you got herpes or not well not anymore what do you not anymore

02:10:58.860 yes you can't get rid of that what are you talking about well you know uh a moment ago well actually

02:11:10.620 after the past few minutes uh your youtube feed was totally robotting so i was i was i was fighting

02:11:19.340 that refreshing you know trying to get it to go back to normal um but i guess we're okay now are we

02:11:25.820 we're good so um okay well the sun's going down so there isn't a whole lot of lighting on my face

02:11:34.460 which is probably a good thing because i'm an old dard you know you got five minutes 0.68

02:11:41.340 but again we have like 11 more people on the line and we just crossed the two hours okay

02:11:56.780 well i'll be quick then um yeah back in uh 1982 and you know i'm talking ancient history here uh

02:12:06.300 uh there was a there was a girl who worked in a restaurant um uh you know right on the other

02:12:14.140 side of the pier uh where i lived uh i was an intern at the moat marine laboratory in sarasota and uh

02:12:27.260 you know

02:12:27.580 i i hooked up with her and uh about 10 days later uh i uh i had a sore on my noodle um i'm not sure what

02:12:49.260 you can say on facebook but yeah it was basically herpes and um you know you know that stuff would

02:12:58.860 erupt like every two or three months and then it just dropped out all together and uh you know i i

02:13:08.780 joined the military later and it never showed up again which i think was really strange i guess it's an

02:13:15.740 immune system thing um but uh you know the uh my um i ultimately you know i eventually got married

02:13:32.780 and i guess my my wife at the time was uh you know throwing the pussy at me almost every day 1.00

02:13:41.020 and it didn't occur to me that she was trying to get pregnant and uh you know she uh she wound up 0.93

02:13:51.580 getting a whole bunch of tests done and it turned out she couldn't get pregnant because during her 0.87

02:13:58.860 you know what do you call it her experimental phase she had apparently caught chlamydia

02:14:04.380 and it had completely destroyed her reproductive tract oh my gosh yeah so her her eggs weren't even 1.00

02:14:12.460 making it down her tubes far enough to get fertilized how long did she have chlamydia for 0.82

02:14:20.700 i'm not sure i mean you know i married her when she was 21 um i'm guessing she was probably

02:14:28.300 banging all the chads from like age 16 until then um you know because yeah she was a horny man no doubt 1.00

02:14:37.820 about it i mean you know she she loved getting it on wow so she was infertile by the time she got to 21. 0.98

02:14:45.180 she must have had because from what i understand how long does chlamydia take to make you infertile did

02:14:52.540 they not have drugs for it back then yeah i don't know i mean okay you know i never bothered to follow

02:14:59.980 up on it and okay you know well and that's not why i divorced her i mean ultimately after 14 years of

02:15:07.740 marriage i divorced her because she was so incredibly financially irresponsible you know but uh yeah you 1.00

02:15:16.700 know before uh even before i got exposed to herpes back in 1980 well too um one of the worst things that

02:15:29.180 ever happened to me in terms of like communicable diseases was uh there was a super athletic really

02:15:41.340 attractive redhead in my apartment complex okay um oh yeah yeah and uh we had a huge pool party there 1.00

02:15:50.860 were like 20 people or more there and um although i wasn't able to detect it at the time uh we wound up

02:16:03.740 going back to my apartment and uh you know i went down on her because you know back then i was a full

02:16:11.580 service guy and um i wound up getting a yeast infection in both my inner ears it was the most painful

02:16:21.900 thing oh my gosh life i felt like my head was gonna explode and um you know it was really funny because uh

02:16:32.060 i i i came back up here to the verde valley because i didn't have any medical insurance i didn't have

02:16:39.500 a doctor or anything my mom hooked me up with an appointment uh with a gynecologist up here in the

02:16:46.220 verde valley and uh so there i am in the waiting room with like you know eight women aged like 18 to 30

02:16:59.420 30 and the reception is like okay so why are you here and i'm like do i really have to say this out

02:17:07.340 loud and uh i was like uh i was like well my ears are about to explode because uh apparently i have an

02:17:15.900 infection in my inner ears and uh she's like how the fuck would you get a yeast infection in your inner 0.99

02:17:22.940 ears and i'm like honey do the math you know i'm a full service guy and last night was an amazing time

02:17:32.060 and now i'm paying for it you know i don't do it yeah well what was really funny is you know it's like

02:17:42.620 i got like smirky looks from the women in the waiting room like hey let us know when you're good 0.69

02:17:48.060 again because hey i'd like some of that action oh my god it says it says you can get infertile from

02:17:56.220 chlamydia in a year actually oh yeah so she didn't get yeah so she didn't get tested for two if you could

02:18:03.900 yeah well the thing is chlamydia is not destructive you know it's it's it's not a virus it's a it's a

02:18:10.380 protist it's a single-celled organism and you know like initially they're supposed to be like you know

02:18:18.860 signs like you know a discharge or whatever but if a woman blows that off it goes away and what it does 1.00

02:18:28.860 then is it climbs up the you know it propagates through the uterus goes up the fallopian tubes 0.97

02:18:36.380 and essentially the fallopian tubes become cords they're scar tissue they're close there's no way

02:18:43.580 an egg's getting down through there and uh yeah you know it's like uh so did she have the chlamydia 1.00

02:18:51.820 infection like was it active when she went and got to went to the doctor well from what her from what

02:19:00.300 my ex-mother-in-law told me uh she set up an appointment for her to for her daughter to go to 0.97

02:19:09.260 the doctor and instead of going to that appointment she packed up all her and drove out to

02:19:18.620 oklahoma to live with her dad so basically she went into denial and she just let that infection 0.99

02:19:27.340 propagate not knowing what it was going to do to her um 21 and infertile i met a girl that got infertile 0.75

02:19:35.260 from taking too many plan b's that was around the same age you remember her dug mpa on the show

02:19:41.020 yeah she had the green makeup on her eyes yeah that's so weird yeah she was nice though yeah

02:19:49.100 okay eric well well you know you can i don't think you can really judge people for the way microorganisms

02:19:56.300 have their way with them because they're invisible you never know when you're gonna pick something like

02:20:01.580 that up that's why you gotta get regularly tested though yeah well i mean the other thing is if you've

02:20:08.380 been diagnosed with you know something like that and you're still dating it's kind of kind of incumbent

02:20:16.780 on you to let your date know that you've got this or that medical history you know but uh

02:20:25.980 yeah it's uh it's a wacky world man i would imagine okay we're gonna move to the next caller

02:20:32.220 all right thanks thanks for calling in damn a yeast infection in his ears that's a while yikes

02:20:40.620 they will bring up damn he's really up there we're gonna bring up will

02:20:49.260 hey guys always good call hey will how you doing good how are you guys good what's up well you got

02:20:54.620 herpes or what no fortunately not um two quick points but before we get to that dude how do you get a

02:21:01.580 yeast infection in your ear you know we're just gonna move on we're gonna move on from now on

02:21:06.860 okay we're just gonna let that one go we're just gonna let it that's one of those where you don't

02:21:10.780 know what's worse the question having to be asked or the answer that you get so we're just gonna move

02:21:16.940 okay well i got two quick stories to support some earlier points okay um the first is about gay men

02:21:24.300 when i was in college i was in a fraternity and we had a chef who was uh like a 50 year old gay guy

02:21:30.700 and this was in san francisco by the way just to set the context of course it is so we're sloshed

02:21:36.860 one night and we're like my dude level with me how many men have you been with and he pauses for a

02:21:42.940 second he goes somewhere between three and five thousand and i was like what bro can you run the

02:21:50.780 math how does that work and he explained to us that every weekend saturday and sunday for a period of

02:21:57.500 like one or two decades he would go to a bath house and every night he would bang like three to

02:22:02.780 six guys and sure enough we ran the math and we're like yeah that's literally in the thousands

02:22:10.060 so i didn't say anything because trying to be polite but in my brain i'm like that's how aids happens

02:22:16.140 like that's where that comes from just saying and so and did he get it um i did not ask okay

02:22:26.780 yeah i know sometimes i'll hear stories from guys and i'm like there's no way you don't

02:22:31.980 have something i'm like girls too but it's like okay so um what about you know that's actually if

02:22:40.780 i ever had bonnie blue on that's what i'd want to ask her about but show me your test results i don't

02:22:46.380 believe you yeah that's the thing i'm not bonnie blue but the other one you know who i'm talking about

02:22:51.660 the hundred guys chick yeah i think she was raw dogging them wasn't she i don't think so they're

02:22:58.300 like i saw after footage and there was like a bunch of condoms on the floor oh thank god okay because

02:23:05.420 that that i mean you don't want to be like a human petri dish that's not cool i mean you're that way

02:23:10.380 either way yeah so um did you know anyone with herpes uh yeah i knew um my other cousin not cocaine

02:23:21.100 cousin but i have another cousin who's a stripper and she has herpes okay and how does she date does 1.00

02:23:27.020 she tell the people or no yeah she uses websites there's like special websites for herpes people 1.00

02:23:37.100 okay so she's actually honest about it oh good for her well sometimes i mean she's in her 40s but

02:23:42.860 she's still kind of working the strip economy and i don't think she tells those guys in her 40s 1.00

02:23:48.860 well she's asian right so she aged pretty well okay that'll do it that'll do 1.00

02:23:54.940 um do you know anyone else with an std or no or like have you ever dated girls and they told you

02:24:01.420 they had one actually quick story about that okay um so i was living in you know bay area and um i was

02:24:08.380 like early 30s um i'm six feet tall pretty good with women there is an absolute ocean of mid women out 1.00

02:24:15.740 there who are totally cool with you raw dogging them not saying i did it but like they would not

02:24:23.020 even bring up condoms a lot of them i was kind of flabbergasted

02:24:29.980 and did any of them catch anything from those decisions or

02:24:34.700 well i had i had a gal i was with her a few times and then she called me up and basically went nuts and

02:24:40.380 accused me of giving her herpes and i was confused as hell because i'd been pretty responsible and i

02:24:47.820 was pretty darn sure i didn't have it um but so for like three or four days you know i went i went and

02:24:53.660 i go get tested i paid a hundred bucks and it takes a few days to get the results for those three days

02:24:58.940 i'm sitting there i'm sweating and i'm like oh my god if i have herpes who the hell did i catch it i'm

02:25:04.380 trying to like do like the like the detective work in my brain of like what is the sketchiest chick i

02:25:09.340 banged how long ago is that which other chicks happened since then you know what i'm saying 1.00

02:25:14.140 and so for three days i was freaking out only to have this chick call me back and then be like oh 1.00

02:25:19.500 never mind it wasn't it wasn't herpes i'm like oh cool thanks appreciate it dang so you like had a

02:25:25.900 heart attack basically dude i was dying and i had like a couple serious girlfriends during that time

02:25:32.220 that i had like i'm like oh my god am i am i gonna have to go to like elizabeth and the other one

02:25:37.180 and tell her like hey by the way like you know how we broke up on bad terms well there's one more

02:25:42.140 thing you might want to know it's like no damn um okay so but on date how many like so you've never

02:25:54.300 had a girl though on a date say she had it no i mean it's possible that some of them might have had it

02:26:00.380 but um i happen to know that like transmission rates from women to men are super low like this

02:26:07.580 is the thing too like the whole kind of um all the a lot of the info we're getting about stds is

02:26:14.380 sort of obscured by this kind of cloud of political practice right um like the whole aids thing they

02:26:22.380 were trying to make it seem like oh anyone could get aids and it's like it's kind of it's kind of mostly

02:26:26.300 gay guys just you know and and same thing with stds like normal stuff like if you're a guy and and 0.72

02:26:35.180 you're mostly having sex with like middle to upper class women who are like white and asian you're 1.00

02:26:42.860 probably okay you know what i mean like you don't have to be too nuts about about watching out basically

02:26:48.700 yeah okay okay cool cool that's pretty much it doug mpa you got anything else for him

02:26:58.620 no thanks for calling me we'll always get here always good to hear from you thanks guys thanks

02:27:03.260 thanks for calling in it's like the rain is on and off here next up is joker right there

02:27:12.860 hello hey joker what's going on yeah yeah i've been hearing i'm sorry with my voice and um long

02:27:24.940 story but anyways um i'm a retired uh independent duty corbin in the navy uh i'm a healthcare provider

02:27:33.020 okay and uh i worked as i also as a physician assistant in the community there is wow

02:27:42.860 so much information out there and some of it is correct someone is not uh that has been stated

02:27:50.780 uh i mean like for example that if you are hooking up with uh you know upper class white females uh 1.00

02:28:00.940 you're probably okay no no no no i was thinking the same thing that is incorrect uh

02:28:07.900 uh you know it's i mean i can tell you stories of crap that i saw and i get a couple of people in

02:28:14.380 the on the chat that are i guess prior service and they can agree with this because they will know

02:28:20.140 how it goes especially if they're ever going on deployment or on a ship my goodness when they come home

02:28:26.780 the sd clinic clinic is just over books give it about a week and they're done uh most comments

02:28:38.780 as usually chlamydia uh chlamydia and gonorrhea sometimes herpes uh it's you know it depends if uh

02:28:50.220 um if because somebody can literally have herpes for a whole year i have no noticeable symptoms because

02:29:01.020 of the way uh it shows up for example you get source inside the vagina and you have no sex and no for no 1.00

02:29:13.820 contact you can literally have a you know an outbreak

02:29:20.620 and being aware of it because you know urine doesn't come straight so it doesn't get irritated

02:29:27.180 uh so it is possible now with chlamydia also there's there's two things usually if you have chlamydia

02:29:37.740 you have something called mycoplasma uh which is uh we we call it non-gonococcal urethritis

02:29:48.620 and sometimes they go hand to hand and

02:29:53.900 also on that one the symptoms are very similar and because you can go to a clinic

02:30:02.700 and it gets that is that uh tested for uh scds

02:30:11.420 and because you're not testing for uh micro plasma the mycoplasma it will not come because mycoplasma is

02:30:20.380 a virus versus the other one is not so and it's not something that you you check stat you know you

02:30:29.420 make it a standard that's why in the military when somebody pass positive with an scd we automatically

02:30:37.980 hit you with several antibiotics just to cover your bases also go ahead that's also on hiv

02:30:49.340 anybody it's not just gay guys that used to be the case how your region is you know got promulgated

02:30:55.660 nowadays it doesn't matter because you can have a what we call you know these guys that like to go

02:31:03.500 both ways yeah and go with a woman and give it to her now hiv nobody will ever die of hiv 0.84

02:31:14.780 problem is when hiv turns into aids because hiv is just the state of carrying the virus

02:31:23.420 aids is when it wakes up you can die as a matter of fact i have a personal story on that my brother

02:31:32.940 was gay didn't want to listen to my advice didn't want to at least take care you know because it was 0.99

02:31:39.740 all another misconception that h hiv is curable so therefore it doesn't matter no it's not curable

02:31:52.780 you can take medications that blocks the promulgation of the virus to get it to a point that it's

02:32:00.780 undetectable but if you stop taking that medication it comes back and in some you know in some countries

02:32:09.260 that treatment is so expensive that's why people die of aids a lot in africa that's unfortunately a sad

02:32:15.980 truth but my case my brother you know he wouldn't stop having unprotected sex and last year gave me a

02:32:26.060 call crying because he developed into aids and last night he called me that he wants to see me because

02:32:32.860 uh he's very sick because of it because ace what he does is shuts off your immune system so anything

02:32:43.020 including a bad cold could kill you how because how old is he and did you say he's gay yes he's 0.51

02:32:51.260 gay okay i believe you know i'm i'm i'm not you know i'm completely i'm not you know i don't approve 0.88

02:32:58.780 of it but you know he's my brother trying to give him advice i mean it doesn't matter i wasn't gonna be

02:33:04.860 able to uh how old is he talk him off of him he's 50 58. well so he actually made it pretty old without

02:33:13.020 getting it right yeah and he got a he's got a bad case of um hepatitis and because he has no immune

02:33:23.820 system it's become complicated and he's in the hospital so yeah you can die from it okay and so

02:33:33.100 you said you worked at an std clinic in the military no no no no right uh in the military you have

02:33:39.260 you have uh doctors uh physician assistants independent duty corpsmen nurses and then corpsmen

02:33:51.100 and you know in the in the navy we our training is above uh a nurse practitioner and we we're just below a

02:34:02.060 pa the reason we're not ps is because the way we developed is the military needed to send a provider

02:34:10.300 to the front lines but it is illegal to send somebody a provider to the front lines okay because you know

02:34:17.180 you cannot carry a rifle it goes against the geneva convention so the navy circumvented that by the

02:34:23.900 medical corpsmen right but yes by sending well a corpsman is no longer a non-combatant now you're

02:34:30.460 considered a combatant okay so yeah what they've done is the same a senior corpsman to medical school

02:34:37.980 did you then right before you graduate yeah it's okay for you i don't that's okay i don't need all

02:34:42.860 the details i just don't know but anyways uh you know i'm a healthcare provider yeah yeah so did you say

02:34:54.460 you got herpes uh and you didn't have symptoms for a year is that we no no no no herpes herpes you can

02:35:02.620 literally have it with for without it here i mean i had couples come in you know young couples angry at

02:35:09.660 each other because they uh they wanted to blame each other oh for giving up and yeah but the problem is

02:35:17.660 because it can literally you can go a whole year in some instances and not know it or sometimes

02:35:24.140 not even have an outbreak so what percent what in your experience out of 10 people that get herpes

02:35:30.940 how many have outbreaks right away and how many um it's prolonged like they don't get it right away

02:35:36.940 the ones that don't get it right away uh pretty pretty small percentage okay so the ones that get

02:35:44.860 it is anywhere within seven seven like a week to a month in my interviews that was pretty consistent

02:35:53.180 in what they said too so like most people i interviewed it was pretty yeah yeah and that's

02:35:58.540 unfortunately the fact in young couples like that i would have to counsel them say you know what 0.78

02:36:03.180 because of that i mean it's kind of because the the girl was that was her first boyfriend but the

02:36:13.420 boyfriend was really pissed because he thought he gave her and you know i thought i talked to her and

02:36:20.780 you know one-on-one and you know and she was really straightforward and he could have got it

02:36:27.500 from a girlfriend that probably she had many guys give it to him i haven't seen it for a year and then

02:36:34.380 give it to her and then boom she has an outbreak dang so in those cases you gotta kind of be a little

02:36:43.020 a little cautious because you don't want to put blame because it can happen unfortunately also here's

02:36:49.500 the thing ninety percent of the population has hsv one it used to be considered necessity in no longer

02:36:58.700 now you can have a really bad case of uh of one and go down on a woman and guess what and then it

02:37:07.660 goes because yeah because now you have those really bad open source which people think they're oh it's just

02:37:15.180 a cold sore you know such thing as a cold sore uh you know sometimes when people are gonna get

02:37:20.380 them they feel sick like they're about to get a cold and you know and then it comes up that's why

02:37:28.380 they call it a favorite places so if a guy if a guy or a girl are dating and they know they're gonna

02:37:37.420 be sexually active are there any ways to really prevent like other than like obviously wear a condom

02:37:44.860 but is there anything further people can do in your perspective all of them being honest and

02:37:52.540 yeah but people are gonna lie so let's not you know now if and if both wanna be uh very upfront

02:38:02.940 with somebody they can both have uh an std uh you know go to go get it tested but people aren't gonna

02:38:12.620 do that so like i'm just saying realistically people have to respect themselves though i mean i personally

02:38:19.500 if i don't know the person i won't i won't do it and if somebody that is questionable i'll stay

02:38:25.420 lucky yeah i understand but i'm saying pragmatically what's going on now is people are hooking up first

02:38:33.180 to third day right now yeah so i'm just i'm just asking if there's things they should look for when

02:38:39.820 they're hooking up or if they see a like a certain something they should stop yes okay if there's like if

02:38:45.180 there's you know showering after does that help like what what are your do you have any just working

02:38:51.100 in healthcare really not uh but what can help is uh you know if you are because i always say you know

02:39:02.860 what i'm sorry but if you can if you can't put it in your mouth you shouldn't you shouldn't put in

02:39:08.380 in your genitals and you know pretend like you're gonna go down and if there's a really funky smell 0.96

02:39:17.020 maybe you should not do it other than that uh because there there's uh

02:39:25.900 to you know like for example the trigon the trigomonas that can give you a really foul smell

02:39:32.300 really foul smell okay bacterial macchinosis can also give you a horrible smell uh but the the

02:39:41.420 one for trigomonas my god that i mean it's pretty foul okay horrible foul okay so oh and if you see a

02:39:53.420 like a white ish thick discharge you know you might want to you know you might want to kind of like

02:40:02.300 you know maybe put on a condom okay white thick discharge okay if it's uh that's how clear frothy

02:40:09.340 kind of like kind of like clear but he's got like bubbles in it you might want to put a condom okay okay

02:40:15.820 because that's usually what that's good best practices go ahead you know because that's usually

02:40:21.980 what uh trichomonas looks like and when you have uh trichomonas you could uh you could also have

02:40:32.140 chlamydia which you know is in a percentage of women have no symptoms yeah don't ask me why 1.00

02:40:42.540 uh the most when i've pulled chlamydia is the most common one i've gotten back that people have

02:40:49.900 gotten when i wouldn't pulled but yeah go ahead and chlamydia uh i would say no our chlamydia can also 0.86

02:41:01.260 oh i'm sorry but you have chlamydia you should always take uh the uh the michael um mycoplasma

02:41:09.660 uh uh infection because it's a virus because they tend to go hand to hand you know it's just it's

02:41:19.020 just the way it is but okay there's all the things that you have to worry about for example nobody's

02:41:25.900 talked to talked about something called molluscum contagiosum oh what and molluscum contagiosum okay

02:41:34.220 okay okay uh i i i i top it i top it in the chat it's called uh let me see molluscum you can just look

02:41:43.020 look for molluscum okay it's kind of like like like when you talk about like uh uh shellfish you

02:41:53.580 start kind of like some of them are molluscum or mollusk it's kind of molluscum contagiosum and those

02:42:00.060 are like this this little uh outbreaks they're like this pearly outbreak with this with a hollow

02:42:11.580 center i was like uh like you don't have to look at it and when you get it man you'll know it because

02:42:19.820 if you scratch it it bleeds a lot and wherever that blood goes new ones come out within a couple of

02:42:26.460 days so best thing is not to touch it go see a doctor if it gets really bad that is disgusting

02:42:35.500 you looked at it oh yeah oh yeah uh and i had it once and i tell you uh and there's no antibiotics

02:42:46.860 like that you can take this is a local topic of treatment that you got get it for the girlfriend that

02:42:52.700 uh that you know and i didn't see anything from her but i i guess she had a tiny little one and boom 0.91

02:43:01.660 there it goes but then once they go away they go away okay okay i mean well anything any questions you

02:43:09.420 guys want to ask i mean um i think we covered attractive people for some reason

02:43:15.740 and we talked to this in the clinic our theory is because what we saw was usually the the whenever

02:43:27.820 we had a very attractive woman coming in they have more than one form of std and the reason is 1.00

02:43:37.660 woman by its nature they tend to be a little more cautious on when it comes to sex 1.00

02:43:43.260 uh and you you usually see a very attractive woman with a medium to a very attractive man

02:43:55.340 and those men are the ones that are getting laid a lot and they unfortunately some of them tend to cheat

02:44:04.460 and what we saw in the navy is

02:44:06.060 the ship will go six months later they'll come in to port and then within a week we'll have the wives 1.00

02:44:15.580 and nala and a lot of them were very attractive the ones that had as it is because of the husbands 1.00

02:44:23.180 right a lot of them because i went to thailand did you see attractive people coming in more than like

02:44:30.620 medium people attractive people the i was just wondering because my thought process was if the

02:44:36.620 the hottest girls are banging the hottest guys and they probably have more stds that's what i was saying 1.00

02:44:41.100 yeah you know they usually have somebody is uh and it's usually because of the guy it's usually not

02:44:47.420 the woman which is i say usually doesn't exclude them but it's that's what you say what happens okay

02:44:54.060 uh let me see what what are the um facial decisions i mean i i i had uh i have cases in which

02:45:05.100 people will try to convince their wives that uh and wanted me to agree with that they got it from 0.87

02:45:12.220 sitting on a on a toilet like the old lifestyle and i've been like looking at me like

02:45:17.820 you gotta give him credit for trying though right yeah did you help him out did you help him out or

02:45:26.300 oh hell no hell no i mean okay here's a funny story okay had a marine came me um came to the clinic

02:45:38.940 he goes in and he's like doc you gotta help me you gotta help me i've never done this

02:45:44.700 but my wife went home for 30 days and i went to the club and you know i was too drunk blah blah blah okay

02:45:52.940 all right you give me a little bit of that but just whether it's true or not you're still going to

02:45:56.940 treat him and you and so and uh you know he got treated

02:46:04.060 taking care of two months later wife goes back home for another 30 days 0.99

02:46:09.020 he comes back for the same crap all right so now i'm like okay i have to consult this guy

02:46:17.580 like be stern with him that put rank on him all right he goes

02:46:22.940 he does it again in three more months jesus he comes saying that like my wife's gonna get i'm like

02:46:33.020 okay no problem i'll take care of you so

02:46:36.460 i add it to uh because you can uh uh some medications you know some of these things you

02:46:46.780 can treat them with uh we're just playing penicillin so i make sure i got the penicillin

02:46:53.660 the gel that thick thing that leaves you like a golf ball in your butt for like freaking three weeks 0.88

02:46:59.900 and then i found i instead of using the regular needle i adopted the biggest freaking needle i could

02:47:08.140 find like a freaking harpoon wow boom got him the guy turned ashy pale the guy was you know black the 0.80

02:47:19.180 i was man he almost turned eskimo like eskimo white guess what he never came back to the clinic

02:47:25.900 yeah because he didn't want to go through that again oh no no he he was scared he was scared

02:47:33.340 because i used a 14 gauge needle if you look at a 14 gauge deal okay i mean that's why you're using

02:47:41.260 trauma cases that you need you need a large bore uh interval you know fluids and you put it in the neck

02:47:48.940 they look like half the size of a pencil man i was i was aiming for moby dick on that one 0.86

02:47:55.900 oh yeah he just never came back after that okay but i mean uh we're getting close to wrapping up

02:48:04.780 the show because we're almost at the three hour mark but thank you for calling in joke we really

02:48:08.700 appreciate it thanks for all the knowledge it's always good to talk to medical providers on this

02:48:12.780 no problem yeah we're gonna do that same subject let me know yeah sure we do us we are gonna do more

02:48:19.580 shows on different stds so today's herpes and hiv but we hop we'll have more don't worry all right

02:48:27.420 nice sounds good all right have a good one bless you god bless you guys bye bye all these knowledgeable

02:48:33.100 people on here i know i love it when people in the clinics call in because they just they have the

02:48:38.620 uh they see so much more you know like they're gonna have you know i interviewed like uh maybe

02:48:46.540 five six people i have to think through it but you know they they see six people a day you know what

02:48:55.580 i mean at least well the clinic people yeah i mean they're gonna no no no it's more than that are you

02:49:02.300 crazy i said at least six people a day so just so you know in the um in the private sector at a

02:49:11.500 doctor's office no i know don't see 20 people a day yeah i know i know i was saying i was i was just

02:49:17.660 doing the comparison is like they get more thing in a day than i do cool it we're coming up on

02:49:27.340 two hours 45 minutes do you want to take more callers we have one two three three more people on the

02:49:35.260 line sure we can take another okay uh i've never seen

02:49:42.220 let's just try to um wrap them up like not like just do smaller or sorry michael's coming in

02:49:49.660 and michael is connecting his audio we're gonna do four minutes or less for all the remaining callers

02:50:00.300 what up michael you got herpes

02:50:04.460 his audio is connecting connecting audio what a way to start the call right i just feel like let's get

02:50:11.500 it right to it who's got it is it you or someone you know okay michael's audio is connecting going

02:50:20.060 once going twice going three times and back in the waiting room and let's see gary

02:50:32.780 coming in

02:50:35.980 gary are you there

02:50:37.020 hello hello hey gary how's it going

02:50:44.940 good your audio sound

02:50:50.140 can you hear me now no it's still kind of scratchy oh boy

02:50:57.580 not at all we're gonna have to we're gonna have to drop you and you figure it out all right

02:51:02.620 okay and last but not least we have our good friend brad

02:51:11.740 hey brad how you doing buddy hey nice to talk to you guys again how's it going brad do you got

02:51:17.180 the gift that keeps on giving or well as far as i know i'm herpes free but you know like so many

02:51:24.220 people out there have said they don't necessarily get disclosure so i was married faithfully on my end

02:51:30.700 for over 30 years and i didn't find out until we were a couple years into the marriage and we were

02:51:37.180 expecting our first child that uh when she went to the ob-gyn they put her on a high risk pregnancy 0.98

02:51:44.220 rating and what the heck is that all about well apparently they're under no need or no uh um push to

02:51:52.060 disclose even to a husband that there's you know potentially something uh an std or something going

02:51:59.500 on down there so apparently she had some one of the forms of hpv and it um was noticeable to the

02:52:07.420 to the doctors uh she had something called cervical dysplasia which i had no idea what that was about

02:52:13.820 and nobody was forthcoming as far as information as far as what that is but it's um the other viral

02:52:21.340 thing that's hpv as opposed to the um hsv one or two and it results in warts and sores and some

02:52:29.340 things like that which you know can make you susceptible to some of the other things so that

02:52:35.020 was one area okay um then the other thing was uh further along into the marriage around our 25th

02:52:41.100 anniversary she carried on a secret affair with a guy where she managed in spite of still having two 0.99

02:52:46.620 kids living at home to arrange to go grocery shopping and shopping in town and be gone for

02:52:51.260 four hours and hook up with a guy on the other end of town and was carrying on a secret affair that 0.89

02:52:56.540 none of us in the family had a clue about for almost two years and when she when i finally caught them

02:53:03.900 in the act um i i she you know she i said you know i just realized you you weren't using any protection

02:53:12.060 were you i mean this who knows what this this guy you're with i mean you just assume he's free and

02:53:17.020 clear but you know who knows what he's got do you need before we get back into bed ever again because

02:53:23.980 we were talking about reconciling um not that i wanted to simp but we had 25 years invested in

02:53:29.740 it and four kids behind us and you know i was willing to you know still give it a shot if if she was 1.00

02:53:35.900 so um yeah it never occurred to her it was like the light bulb went you could literally see the

02:53:42.540 light bulb light up over her head like in a cartoon it was like oh oh yeah okay oh yeah so she then went

02:53:49.020 in to the doctor to get tests run you know and up until that time it was like you know hands hands

02:53:54.940 and everything else off because who knows what i was subjected to so uh i may or did she come back

02:54:02.220 clean or no yeah she did come back clean which amazed me because one of the things that was kind

02:54:09.100 of like a side benefit if you can believe it of the uh aftermath of the affair was that you know

02:54:17.260 she still was not in a position financially yet if i'd kicked her to the curb to make it on her own 1.00

02:54:22.780 so she still had a vested interest in you know trying to make nice with me and so that you know i 1.00

02:54:28.380 would keep her uh keep a roof over her head and keep her supplied with the dailies so she also at 0.57

02:54:34.860 that point had nothing morally to lose because all the pretenses she'd been made making about being 0.98

02:54:39.260 such a good girl kind of went out the window so i inquired further into her past i knew she'd been

02:54:45.260 active in her teens and she admitted to me she never used contraception never used protection i don't

02:54:50.860 know how that girl went through all the years of high school and up until we got married uh without 0.99

02:54:56.220 catching something but apparently she did catch hpv fortunately doesn't seem like she got anything

02:55:01.580 worse than that well the um when they're younger they can fight it off easier so if she had a hoe 1.00

02:55:08.860 phase in like high school you're less likely to well there's i i think you're more likely to get it

02:55:15.580 because they have more stds like i think people use protection more when they get older but but the

02:55:23.100 the girls have stronger immune systems when they're younger if that makes sense so like if she was in 1.00

02:55:28.620 shape like sometimes they can just fight it off well you know going back you know i've mentioned before

02:55:35.180 i've been on uh on your talk line before uh going back into the 70s there was a lot of promiscuity going

02:55:41.420 on um and so you know there was a girl in my class that had to leave early because she was pregnant 0.98

02:55:46.940 and we did have people that the big thing back then was syphilis and gonorrhea which was absolutely

02:55:52.940 nasty and there were cases where people get tagged with that um so i'm not sure i mean i just you know

02:55:59.900 i just marveled at the fact that it wasn't we didn't wind up having to deal with anything worse but it

02:56:05.180 never occurred to her even as a husband you know of a wife that you know she could potentially by her

02:56:10.300 fooling around bring something home that i didn't ask for how um how old was she when she was pregnant 1.00

02:56:17.340 like how old was she when she got the hpv well let's see we got married um based on where the 0.99

02:56:22.940 months of our birth years fall she was uh 20 and i was 21. oh wow she had hpv that early that's i

02:56:32.060 heard you don't get because i spoke to a doctor about hpv and they said late mid to late 30s is

02:56:41.340 usually when women get that so if she had that at 21 she must have started early she ran through a 0.69

02:56:47.100 bunch of people i mean originally you know there was not a lot of disclosure and because i thought i

02:56:52.060 knew her off and on from the time we were in our preteens that i had a pretty good idea who she was

02:56:58.540 but i you know we went to two different high schools and so her group of people she circulated

02:57:04.380 with were not directly connected to mine and i didn't have a constant eye on her so i had no idea she

02:57:09.980 was very very promiscuous and i didn't find out until later a little bit more detail once we were

02:57:16.780 married and she felt like she didn't have anything to lose by giving me much more disclosure and

02:57:22.220 details and that it would actually maybe help her situation um because you know i could have kicked 0.97

02:57:29.260 her to the curb at that point and said hey look i'm going to divorce you on the grounds of 1.00

02:57:32.860 of uh unfaithfulness and then she wouldn't have a leg stand on and that she wasn't ready for that

02:57:38.220 so but i did have two friends when i was coming up in the 80s right after we got out of school

02:57:43.020 one was about 10 years older than me so he was in his early to mid 30s and he drove a limo for a

02:57:47.260 living and he got it went back in those days like your previous caller mentioned it didn't hang around

02:57:54.140 as uh hiv it went straight into full-blown aids and these guys they lost weight uh they you could

02:58:01.340 see physically how the body was like deteriorating from the inside out and then you know one day they

02:58:06.940 were no longer in the public eye and the other one was he was a fellow i went to high school with

02:58:11.900 he was a classmate uh his family and i were good friends i was close with his parents and his older

02:58:16.780 brother and they moved him out of the hospital during the end of his life into a hospital bed

02:58:22.300 downstairs in what used to be the family den and had like a miniature hospital room set up for him

02:58:27.500 there and he literally wasted away i mean his eyes clouded over like he had glaucoma his cheeks sunk in

02:58:33.260 in his were they both gay see that's the thing they were both buried oh now the younger one yeah 0.93

02:58:40.620 the younger one said his wife would was his wife went off in a storm because she said she tested

02:58:47.420 after he was diagnosed with it and she was tested with full-blown aids and so it was basically like

02:58:53.900 you've killed me and i don't blame her she wouldn't talk to him ever again so it in that circumstance the

02:59:00.620 claim was that you know he was the one that contracted it um we don't know in either case

02:59:07.420 because they were both supposedly publicly they were straight men with wives uh whether they were

02:59:12.940 on the down low uh by curious or having gay sex on the side uh or whether they contracted it from a 0.97

02:59:19.580 woman were they obviously like would you guess were they fruity or no no not really i mean they were

02:59:26.860 of course back in those days especially you know we had expressions like smear the queer and bag the

02:59:31.820 fag i mean if anybody even seemed like you gotta watch the language man you can't drop that f word 1.00

02:59:38.540 which one therefore oh the f i'm sorry about don't ever say that okay okay i get it i forget we're in

02:59:46.300 different times and it's just and the q word don't say that either the q word okay well so we had those two

02:59:53.180 uh inappropriate expressions back then um and i don't support the use of them and i know this

02:59:58.540 channel doesn't um but it just goes to show the hostility that was openly out there in those days

03:00:03.820 and people got beaten up even on the suspicion of something like that so any conversation you know

03:00:10.140 that might have revealed something along those lines was very very very guarded yeah okay cool well

03:00:16.380 thanks for calling in and telling us the stories i appreciate it absolutely you all have a good night and

03:00:21.420 thanks again yeah you too always good talking to you buddy i'm gonna read the super chats okay um

03:00:28.780 these people are at parties alone or hanging out with someone who knows nothing about their sex life

03:00:34.460 um percent of the population is a false statement if you see a hot woman who's promiscuous she 1.00

03:00:39.420 promiscuous she is that percent whether she's one out of 20 or one out of four all these people are

03:00:43.820 loners oh actually when you're talking about the bi guys i don't know if i told you this story before

03:00:49.340 um when i was single i was on um a dating app and i matched with a guy at my gym but i just on i just

03:00:58.540 unmatched him because i don't know i like looked closer at the profile and like him in person i just

03:01:03.500 changed my mind i was like no and anyways long story short i was working out at the gym and someone

03:01:09.580 in true i never talked to him like in person like we just matched on the app for a day unmatched that was

03:01:14.380 it and i'd never spoken to him in person but someone i knew introduced me to him a different

03:01:19.820 day and they're like oh and that's his boyfriend and i was like oh my god that's how women get aids 0.82

03:01:26.620 it's like oh my god yeah i never said yeah because i was like what the why are you on bumble

03:01:33.900 all right hi um so a condom doesn't cover the base of the twig or the berries which is the area

03:01:39.820 that gets the most friction and grinding so don't risk it uh well everyone's got to risk it to some

03:01:46.140 extent if you're going to be celibate forever you don't know that's the thing i know a lot of women 1.00

03:01:50.220 disqualified bisexual men as they should but a lot of guys who i wouldn't care if my girls buy i'm not 0.99

03:01:56.540 down for that either man no anyone that has that weird kind of sexuality confusion fluid crap no thanks

03:02:04.460 new um sorry avery i'm i'm glad no one wants to do me um wisdom king for hsv take oh wait i read that

03:02:14.140 already uh is there any more callers we have alex is the last caller okay is that the guy that had the

03:02:25.340 audio issues no that's gary you try bringing my back to alex uh we can but let's just keep it short okay

03:02:33.820 alex is coming up it says joining

03:02:38.860 it says joining okay we'll try to bring gary up while alex is joining all right gary i'm trying

03:02:45.740 you again your audio better be okay gary yeah am i better oh so much better what's up gary you got herpes

03:02:59.340 no no herpes for me i do have a story i got actually i got a confession okay

03:03:11.020 go ahead

03:03:11.420 someone hello someone killed yeah i'm kidding um what's the confession

03:03:21.980 well i'm like hearing i'm hearing the stream because you have youtube open in the background

03:03:27.580 somewhere okay i got it sorry about that so yeah basically i do not have herpes as far as i know

03:03:35.340 uh my confession though is that listening to this stream it did give me uh i did a lot of googling

03:03:41.100 while the stream was going on and like i am a bit concerned i'm probably gonna get myself tested this

03:03:46.860 week because apparently you could have herpes and be asymptomatic so i mean i've never had an outbreak

03:03:53.500 but i also like do not routinely get tested and i do routinely hook up and i actually wanted to

03:04:01.820 i guess i'm gonna snitch a little bit too because when i hear people talk about like their condom use and

03:04:07.660 that kind of stuff it makes me question if they're even getting laid because like i don't think people

03:04:13.660 are using condoms in my experience most people are not and in fact the last time i could even remember

03:04:19.900 myself suggesting using a condom like the the woman in question like she took it as an offense 0.68

03:04:26.460 and the time before that it was kind of the same deal that like me suggesting it or pulling it out was

03:04:33.340 kind of like i just brought into the conversation the idea of stds when really like especially if

03:04:39.740 you're going to sleep together after just a short period of time it's kind of like well you're vibing

03:04:44.860 and everything's good so we like each other it's almost awkward and and it's treated that way yeah

03:04:51.100 nobody's gonna that's why the guy was saying to get tested first i'm like nobody's gonna do that

03:04:55.660 like they're just not yeah and in fact so like i do have some sense of my cleanliness i guess because

03:05:03.340 like i've been in three long-term relationships i guess over the past decade and then each time

03:05:08.860 which is honestly laughable when we were getting more serious at all three times and i guess it

03:05:15.900 makes sense because if i intend to get serious with somebody i'm a little bit like i'm honest and i and we

03:05:20.940 talk about our past a bit i mean i don't ever think that i've gotten a full uh carfax on a girl

03:05:27.420 that's not something they really do but there typically is a conversation where we talk about

03:05:32.460 what exclusivity looks like and that kind of stuff and then all three of my last relationships they

03:05:37.740 asked me to get tested and then confession time again i did not get tested i literally just waited

03:05:43.260 for them to get tested and once they said they were good i was like yeah i'm good too because i mean

03:05:47.580 we'd already been sleeping together for like two to three months so i'd imagine i must not have

03:05:52.700 anything i would have given it to them so how often how often do you get tested i've never been

03:06:00.860 i got tested once in college and yeah not clear i don't get tested but to me it's like i like what

03:06:09.660 like the last guy the last medical guy he made me feel a little bit better because i definitely number

03:06:13.580 one i don't i've never gone down on a chick unless we were in a relationship again i know that's not like 0.66

03:06:19.820 a great barrier as far as protection goes but then i also do like a visual inspection like i i don't

03:06:26.220 i i don't really interact in any way if anything seems off visually and again have you ever gotten

03:06:33.020 there and changed your mind like you saw something or like yeah absolutely really what'd you see

03:06:41.020 i've seen something questionable on the thigh and like i actually when it when you talk about herpes so

03:06:45.660 i got two quick stories one actually was not a story but the one closest person to me that i

03:06:50.620 knew that had herpes i had a boss and we actually we ran like a logistics company it was his company

03:06:55.580 but it was a small company so we actually used to dispatch out of his house and like his his home

03:07:01.020 office and i like had been working in his office at one point when he was dealing with an outbreak

03:07:07.180 and he was kind of giving me the play-by-play as he was like treating himself and he was like

03:07:12.220 specifically it was very much uh centered on his thighs so that made me aware that oh i didn't even

03:07:18.620 know that i thought like genital herpes makes me think it's on your genitals right yeah his were not 0.64

03:07:23.980 on his junk it was on his thigh so at one point i i was getting with the chick and then yeah i saw 1.00

03:07:30.140 something questionable on her thigh and i just made an excuse and got out of there because i had actually

03:07:34.540 got like i said i didn't feel good which is true actually i was like i i actually think i'm gonna

03:07:43.100 throw up which i wasn't that sick but i i really felt like oh my god like i like i dodged a bullet

03:07:49.580 because i mean the thigh is almost scarier because how are you not going to come in contact with

03:07:54.300 somebody's thigh what was it like a blister i i never got close enough to to really be able to tell

03:08:00.620 but it did it just looked it looked um just red and agitated honestly it could have been it could

03:08:05.820 have been a bad bug bite but from as far as i was sitting i mean you weren't you weren't you

03:08:11.740 weren't testing it you were like no i'm not gonna find out today never talk to her again either and

03:08:18.460 and i have actually a story just from a couple of weeks ago i matched with a girl on a dating app and

03:08:23.820 we talked for like three four days set up a date and then literally as i was getting ready to

03:08:29.820 leave my house she she she messaged me and said hey by the way i have the herb is that a deal break

03:08:38.460 i honestly debated whether i was even going to message her back but i did i did let her know that

03:08:42.780 yeah absolutely it's a deal breaker but it really like since then i have not used the apps and i

03:08:47.980 probably will return at some point but um it's it it is it's scary out there i could only imagine i'm

03:08:55.580 like they say that men are less susceptible to this stuff and i could only imagine that at some

03:09:00.380 point i probably slept with somebody that has something and i've just been dodging bullets and

03:09:04.700 maybe not like i'm gonna get tested and i don't still don't know how i feel about the whole hooking

03:09:09.580 up thing but well how many how many women do you hook up with a year would you say 1.00

03:09:14.300 uh it's it obviously depends on the year not not a crazy amount like because i i honestly

03:09:23.420 so again confession time part of the reason i almost cannot use uh condoms is because

03:09:29.740 just like i guess the combination of hookup culture and corn like i can't get stimulated enough to even

03:09:37.180 finish when i don't have the condom on or sorry when i do have the condom on and then i i again that

03:09:43.980 actually and i think i i've talked to other guys that have this problem but i never hear it talked

03:09:48.300 about in red pill spaces is that if you if you use a condom and then you can't finish girls take offense 1.00

03:09:55.180 to that too they it's almost like you're inadvertently calling them ugly and and and it's like why can't

03:10:01.740 you finish and what's wrong with me and they literally will like start having kind of uh uh uh

03:10:08.700 existential crisis type of thing and and like all of a sudden now you have to like reassure them that

03:10:13.660 they're beautiful they're desirable and all this different stuff when it's like to me it's just

03:10:17.420 simpler to just take the condom off and honestly i really only hook up when i just feel like i've

03:10:23.260 kind of been dry for a while so going back to the original question last year actually i had a

03:10:28.700 girlfriend for half of the year and then when i was single i probably hooked up with like six or seven

03:10:34.060 chicks okay well it's not like you're like so that's in a year seven or eight um well that's not like

03:10:43.260 like i've heard worse so yeah no i'm not i'm not um i'm not chad or tyrone yeah and um but that that

03:10:51.580 that to me though it actually is more telling because well it's also how many times did you hook

03:10:56.540 up with them because like it we said earlier like if someone has something and you hook up with them

03:11:02.140 once you're not really that likely to get it right if it's and it's also it's also too when they got

03:11:09.500 infected because if they were just infected they're more likely to spread it but if the girl 1.00

03:11:14.860 caught it like five years ago it's not really that likely that she'll spread it um allegedly according

03:11:20.940 according to what i've read you know i'm not a doctor pearl you're making me feel better about

03:11:26.380 this which is not a good thing i'm just going to keep doing more risky stuff well i hope you're right

03:11:32.620 well i mean well i hope you know that if you do get it a lot of the guys just lie and keep having

03:11:42.540 sex and that was that was the last point and i'll finish here is that what i was thinking is that

03:11:49.980 like i have again as a guy we don't care about how attractive our friends are so i have friends that

03:11:55.500 are very successful with women much more successful than me and i have friends that are that they struggle

03:12:00.540 really bad so based on outcomes i'd imagine that i'm probably somewhere in the top 25 and again

03:12:07.580 that's just based on how women judge us superficially on an act like i i don't imagine i'm just better

03:12:13.500 than this many people but my results are probably in the top 25. i know guys that are probably in the

03:12:18.940 top five or maybe even yeah like let's say top five because it's hard to know who's in the top one

03:12:24.140 percent that's probably like athletes and rappers and stuff like that none of my friends are people and

03:12:29.100 do you know of any of them having std scares but i it's also tough because people don't not even

03:12:34.140 scares 100 percent that all my biggest player friends have basically all been burnt before

03:12:39.420 really every single one of them yeah and they've been lucky enough to not get herpes as far as i know

03:12:45.180 or they might not have told me uh but they've almost all gone chlamydia yeah that's the common one

03:12:51.340 yeah gonorrhea which i guess they don't necessarily get symptoms from yeah chlamydia gonorrhea no

03:12:58.460 symptoms for for most people but that but they get the trip they call it right those two aren't bad

03:13:05.260 is what i've heard is like you take an antibiotic and it's done it's not like herpes or hiv which kills

03:13:11.580 you so yeah exactly i mean that's yeah going back to the hiv thing too i've never it like i've never in

03:13:18.060 in like i guess 22 years of being sexually active i've never known of a straight person to have hiv i

03:13:23.900 haven't either oh i don't know anybody wait so your player friends though no i can second that too

03:13:28.860 i i've never met do you think your player do you think your player friend would tell you if they

03:13:33.740 got herpes i think they would yeah i think i think they'd be ashamed but i mean we tell each other

03:13:39.900 pretty much everything and like especially like some of them are even more like it's almost like they

03:13:45.020 they enjoy the the kind of grotesque conversation so i'd imagine they some of them would have told

03:13:51.020 me for sure i question if others would have also be as honest in that case do they do they wear

03:13:58.300 condoms the player friends no no no okay and again girls don't like it i mean and honestly i think my

03:14:05.820 my like the the player guys if you can get a if you get a girl to like you enough in a short period of

03:14:11.260 time then i think that you'd probably also get her to be okay with the condoms uh but that's kind of

03:14:17.500 why i referenced them in the first place because to me i know i'm not like that top five percent guy

03:14:22.140 so like i i i know that i'm actually risking messing up the whole encounter by trying to push the condom

03:14:28.620 because it's almost like a lot of times i can see the level of attraction that i have going on it's

03:14:33.500 almost like i've passed the barrier of yes they will sleep with me yeah but if i if i do something to

03:14:39.420 weird make this situation weird it could all go away so like no i know imagine asking for an std tab

03:14:45.260 like that is not gonna happen like come on oh you're offending them you're telling her she's dirty or 0.99

03:14:50.460 like something made you think they're not so i forgot one of the callers said that i'm like yeah good

03:14:57.340 luck like come on yeah i'm just gonna have like a a mini test kit by the bed a little consent form

03:15:05.340 right by the candle yeah i know but yeah i just wanted to mention that because it is always odd

03:15:13.180 to me that when the condom conversation comes up because again i don't imagine that all these guys

03:15:18.780 who are either like the red pill content producers or the people that you see interacting like in

03:15:24.620 call-in shows that they're all top one percent because i just don't think the average guy can whip

03:15:30.300 out a condom and not mess up the whole situation yeah um i don't know i don't sleep with women do i 1.00

03:15:37.420 get mpa do you have thoughts on that with women in condoms um they say there are major cities like atlanta 0.99

03:15:49.180 baltimore where the women will take offense if you try to whip out one 1.00

03:15:53.660 um in my opinion just just use them especially on the first couple of days man like you the first

03:16:03.340 especially if you're banging a girl on the first night you gotta have one man come on now well you

03:16:07.980 see the the problem is doug is like i said is that i typically only kind of dip my my foot back in the

03:16:13.580 dating pool when i'm like trying to like bust the slump or like like so it's like for me to just be

03:16:25.260 like adding in layers of protection it's also like i'm wasting more of my time just trying to like

03:16:31.740 like clear the pipes you know well you know you could get the gift that keeps on giving

03:16:39.340 no you're right you're right no this show honestly it's made me really consider

03:16:42.940 either just just taking the hit and and and putting in the extra time that it would take to

03:16:48.780 have condoms be a thing or or just like not care as much about hooking up because 0.77

03:16:55.740 it is uh it is a minefield out out there even like i lived in uh should we say what city where

03:17:02.540 we live in does it matter if you want yeah go ahead yeah so i i live in phoenix i was originally from

03:17:08.540 canada and uh i moved here when i was 21 so i was just old enough to go out and uh drink and go to

03:17:15.340 the bars and stuff like that and like uh the first couple of months that i lived here i i had like uh

03:17:21.180 picked up a chick for the first time and went back to her place and this this girl was like uh maybe just 1.00

03:17:27.900 slightly above average looking uh she if i think most people if they saw her they would probably assume

03:17:33.500 this is the kind of girl that is not promiscuous um she was uh long story short and then after we

03:17:41.820 hooked up like i kind of expressed her that like i'm surprised that things progressed as quickly as

03:17:47.420 they did and then she proceeded to tell me about one of her friends who she showed me as well who did

03:17:53.660 absolutely like she looked like a librarian she actually was a librarian she looked like the kind of

03:17:58.380 girl that you would probably have to date for months before she gave it up and this girl told me that 0.99

03:18:02.620 this girl not

JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2025

Modern Women and STD's： The HI-V and the Herp (Call-in Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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