JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Are DELUSIONAL About LIZZO

00:00:00.640 um i have another clip for us to react to so pull up click clip number three

00:00:07.920 all right blessing what oh move the bottle yeah okay

00:00:18.720 okay oh this is what i was talking about earlier it started from the beginning if you don't mind

00:00:22.480 blessing i think like women are just fat today which is nice which women like which most women 0.99

00:00:34.880 like to be fat rather than slim now do you think they like i don't think they like oh yeah yeah 0.97

00:00:39.680 we like the big thick thighs yeah but that's not they like they like okay a big butt with a small 1.00

00:00:44.160 waist that's not yeah you can't have a big butt a small waist without surgery but this one here 1.00

00:00:49.520 she's got a great shape she's she's got a big butt small waist naturally is is it depends on your 1.00

00:00:55.280 state you wouldn't say she's fat though so no not fat but i mean most women like to be bigger now 1.00

00:01:03.360 nowadays rather than deem skinny maybe they pretend they're happy because there's body positivity

00:01:08.720 i'm happy big girl's life you mean as big as lisa or yeah she's happy she's happy okay

00:01:15.920 okay let me let me ask you let me let me she's making money one to ten what do you rank lizzo one 1.00

00:01:21.280 to ten ten ten ah based on no based on money based on how much personality okay okay no okay look one

00:01:29.600 at a time she's so confident she's so confident do you really think she's cries on instagram live oh i

00:01:36.480 don't know that much about her i just know i see her and she's mad surprised do you genuinely okay do you

00:01:41.760 genuinely think she's happy at like 300 pounds how could one be happy does she not look happy 0.55

00:01:47.200 or no i think she looks i don't know i don't know her personally so i but from what i can see i feel

00:01:54.320 like she's looks wise what do you what do you rank her social media is very deceptive okay okay so

00:02:00.960 so one to ten you would trade your body with hers

00:02:21.360 let me finish let me finish you said she had a good figure yeah do you she would be offended if you 1.00

00:02:25.920 said you said she looks like lizzo would would you be offended if i said you look fat like lizzo

00:02:34.000 but do you think that's just what is that's like she has a good figure because she's skinny 1.00

00:02:38.640 who's skinny who's really i think women trying to be nice i would prefer lizzo than a really skinny 1.00

00:02:43.120 skinny one yeah but you're kind of extreme again no it's the same thing you said really skinny okay 0.88

00:02:47.440 no i would i would take no i would take no butt no boobs really and then over lizzo yes yes if she 1.00

00:02:56.000 really wanted to she couldn't you know and still no i think if she wanted to she'd do it she had

00:03:00.960 those she was on tiktok like on the treadmill oh i don't go on tiktok i don't have tiktok i don't

00:03:05.360 you see a whole different side of lizzo i don't have a question part though you gave her a 10 what

00:03:11.600 what's your metric because she's confident with it so anybody anybody that's confident i think

00:03:17.280 yeah women raised with feeling not logic it comes with with how you feel that's what i can see i was

00:03:25.680 big and i liked it but i was big small what made you like it because i was different and i don't go

00:03:31.920 gym i i hate gym i hate anything healthy i eat everything not healthy but i liked it then and i like

00:03:38.880 it now i and i'm very confident do you not do you not think there's universal standards of beauty

00:03:45.040 so when everyone walks into the room where everyone can kind of what okay when when everyone walks into

00:03:50.800 the room you don't think everyone has a general wait blessing can you finish the sentence and then

00:03:58.480 and then you can pause it perception of who's more beautiful and less beautiful

00:04:02.880 so i meant like for her response too sorry i don't know these days no i'm not i'm not talking

00:04:12.000 about these days in general well yeah and okay even even even take us in the room you don't think most

00:04:19.120 of us like they could say who's more beautiful and less beautiful oh yeah and i'm not i'm not trying

00:04:22.960 to put us against each other i'm not saying to be rated but like i'm saying like you don't think in

00:04:27.200 general you know who the pretty friend in your friend group is yeah i think what she's doing okay

00:04:35.200 why is it so hard for women to admit that lizzo is not a 10 and why don't we see the same body

00:04:41.840 positivity for men it's all about the woman's empowerment like women want to feel so empowered

00:04:52.720 through i guess years under under the patriarchy that anything goes there is women can do no 1.00

00:04:59.840 wrong in anyone's eyes you can be fat you can be whole you can do this you can slap up slap up a guy 0.97

00:05:04.880 it don't matter as long as you're a woman everything you do gets a lie so now you just delude yourselves 1.00

00:05:11.520 you just lie to each other at your own detriment because to say someone like lizzo is attractive and

00:05:16.400 healthy and homegirl said myself like i don't like gym i don't like to do anything healthy that's

00:05:21.920 someone to run away from straight away but again to say that you might be misogynistic or blah blah blah

00:05:27.840 like anything a woman does nowadays yeah we like even when talking about uh guys and relationships 1.00

00:05:34.960 it's always i feel like it's filled with excuses oh no he does like you it's just he does

00:05:41.920 like you but he's no he just don't like you you just need to be straight up about certain things

00:05:48.160 um it's a bit harsh telling your friends i'll uh you're overweight nah that's that's actually a lot

00:05:53.760 easier than saying um you're ugly but i think yeah definitely you can change your weight you can't 0.96

00:06:00.640 change your if your face looks like like looks like you got smashed in with a baseball bat 0.96

00:06:04.720 what do you think tiana i don't know i feel like like you said like it's easier to judge once like

00:06:15.840 to judge yourself and to judge someone else because then you're kind of like you're projecting what you

00:06:21.200 view as beauty onto somebody else which isn't really important i don't know i feel like it's a very

00:06:27.040 uncomfortable place to sit in but you don't think there's subjective standards of beauty no i do believe

00:06:32.400 in them okay i do think that like a lot of models are really tall they're very thin it depends where

00:06:40.160 you are but like the certain metrics that we can use or even if we take like modeling out of it like

00:06:44.640 there's certain girls that men find more attractive because it's not always necessarily the models you

00:06:50.240 know what i mean like there's just some girls that are like more attractive yeah i think we know i feel 0.99

00:06:55.360 like there's an unspoken rule like i do think like we know who the pretty friend is yeah but then why

00:07:00.720 the girls try and take out the the general view and try and make it based on the individual because 1.00

00:07:06.880 you'll be like for me or this that when generally speaking you know whether someone's attractive or

00:07:10.960 not so why do you feel like why do women take out the the more objective view and try to make it 1.00

00:07:16.320 subjective as possible i think maybe i'm just gonna go for what i i think very it's a very feminine to be

00:07:23.120 um empathetic and maybe compassionate and being a hundred percent direct and honest and

00:07:31.280 like straight slaying down the facts is a very masculine trait so i'm not going to go to these

00:07:35.600 two girls and tell them that they look a certain way i'm not going to rate them objectively from my

00:07:40.640 perspective because i just like to what end what does that bring either one of us here you asked the

00:07:45.040 someone asked you a question though so why would you lie i'm not gonna lie but i just feel like okay

00:07:58.400 if you say that it's very masculine to just uh just you know give a very just a fact yeah and

00:08:05.120 then say it's feminine to be empathetic you can you can you know kindly say to somebody the truth 0.79

00:08:11.120 i've done it so many times i think there's a friend's ugly no i'm talking about like there's

00:08:16.000 been true if their character is ugly if they are they're not we're not asking about character look

00:08:21.120 straight at your face i know but okay if we're talking about weight i did have a friend who's 0.82

00:08:25.360 having difficulty putting up having a child and i told her it's because you're fat and i'm her closest

00:08:31.360 friend and she took it and she but because of i i'm not just some stranger like saying yeah you're 0.97

00:08:37.600 fine you go girl and stuff i apologize but um i i told her no it's because you're fat and you have 1.00

00:08:44.160 to take responsibility i as a friend i'm not going to sit here like i have my own life and my time i'm 0.89

00:08:49.200 giving it to you if you're going to sit there telling me the whole the same circular argument

00:08:53.600 that's actually disrespectful to me like if you're if you really genuinely want to get pregnant

00:08:58.160 sort your diet out and now guess what she's doing great that's it so she's better looking now would 0.99

00:09:04.400 you say now that she's lost the weight the objective was to get pregnant and her weight 1.00

00:09:09.120 was a massive thing but it was i mean that that's actually that's the way that her weight loss has 1.00

00:09:14.880 helped her and the bonus is that she's actually attractive so the goal wasn't to get attractive 0.99

00:09:19.840 the goal was to get healthy and you know by a result she became attractive because she is healthy

00:09:26.240 does that make sense yeah and i told her i'm a friend i would consider myself quite feminine 0.95

00:09:30.800 and a woman and i told her you're fat you're ugly and i think it's the human thing i get i 0.97

00:09:35.440 i think we get too caught up with masculine energy feminine energy what's human to do is to look out 0.99

00:09:40.880 for somebody i think um women are kind of more socialized to kind of beat around the bush you 1.00

00:09:46.080 know i mean like to be coy um it's kind of rewarded when women are like oh look they're not as like oh i 1.00

00:09:51.760 want this this and this i think women are rewarded in romantic relationships and friendships and 0.93

00:09:56.560 relationships with people in society so so if you know that why would you still purposely like or

00:10:01.120 willingly do it willingly so you just said that um women are kind of socialized to behave a certain 1.00

00:10:07.360 type of way and you know that way you're socialized is negative in terms of creating a better outcome

00:10:12.400 for all but yet you still sat here and still went i think i i still do this because obviously that's what

00:10:19.680 i'm used to i find it extremely uncomfortable to go to someone and call them fat or call them ugly

00:10:24.640 even if they asked you so if i said am i fat and i was visibly fat you'd find it uncomfortable to be

00:10:29.200 honest with me and be like you know i would find that really uncomfortable for me i feel like the

00:10:33.520 say the words outside out loud like i can think certain things in my mind but to directly say to

00:10:38.400 someone straight up like i think you're ugly especially if it's in negative terms it would be

00:10:42.160 very difficult for me so we're friends yeah so if i said if i said if i gained let's say if i gained 50 pounds 0.85

00:10:48.960 yeah and i said did i get fat this is different because you would you because you're pearl yeah

00:10:56.960 pearl can handle anything she wants you to be so direct but had german au pairs growing up 1.00

00:11:03.920 to german nannies so i know she can handle it so okay people don't understand what german nannies german nannies

00:11:10.800 but so i feel like it also you have to have um a bit of tact and i feel like you need to gauge the

00:11:18.880 person as well let's let's let's role play okay oh look i'm beluga i'm beluga okay okay okay okay

00:11:27.360 set the scene

00:11:28.000 i just got rejected for the 10th time in a row um and he said it was because i'm too thick did i

00:11:42.160 did i get fat i know i ate one or two brownies okay or ten but am i am i fat what's your bmi i don't

00:11:51.120 know i haven't i haven't i don't weight myself do you have scales at home no okay i have scales i avoid them

00:11:58.000 like the plague no it just gives me anxiety i can't get up the scale okay interesting what do

00:12:04.880 you think your bmi is i don't know i just i don't even know how bmi works i just i think it's like a

00:12:11.120 scale that's like not real so i feel like they just make that up you know doctors to be mean okay do you

00:12:17.360 think you're overweight i mean i question it a little bit but that's why i came to you to get the truth

00:12:27.280 okay you see how this is really hard for me you see how like i went to every other option

00:12:34.320 or beating around the bush yeah i was doing so well i came with a bmi like she could have got

00:12:38.880 on the scales we could have worked out together okay let me let me let me try it with eddie let me try

00:12:44.480 you're like all right all right all right so so this is you know i'm at you know i'm just like

00:12:49.600 shaking all over the place yeah yeah eddie it's been a minute since i've seen you how are you doing

00:12:55.280 i'm good are you telling me what i'm good how are you i'm good i'm good um anyways i i i was walking

00:13:03.760 here and someone called me a whale a whale yeah yeah did i did i get fat i ain't gonna lie when i

00:13:09.360 did see you you was looking a bit more chunky than last time i seen you still but looks all right the 0.71

00:13:14.880 cheeks are grown oh okay okay so just chunky i'm not i'm not fat no i ain't gonna lie you put a mad

00:13:19.600 weight in it like drop a few drop a little something something in you oh but mad weight what does that 0.91

00:13:25.280 mean am i am i fat you're fat he kind of beat around the bush too i kind of like the way you 0.97

00:13:33.200 said it though it's playful like you was very playful with it you was just like you're fat and 0.99

00:13:38.320 ugly yeah that's pretty crazy no okay everybody scroll back and then quote unquote she said fat and 0.98

00:13:46.240 ugly i feel like no i think i think me me not you i don't know no i i didn't you can find out 0.99

00:13:52.240 have a look wait wait hold on hold on if i said she's fat and ugly i said she became attractive 1.00

00:13:58.000 because she's because she's healthy that means she would have stayed ugly no but you said like 0.86

00:14:03.120 um i think you said like you quoted yourself he's like no you said you think you have to say i know

00:14:07.920 i know oh okay look back okay can we bet some money or something

00:14:14.320 but now i'm playful with it i guess i guess i respect you actually oh thank you because

00:14:20.320 it's good to have a friend like you that will call it straight even if it hurts you you're the

00:14:26.080 most respected friend i i have to say the thing is that there needs to be context okay so this she

00:14:31.040 tells me this over and over again and i try to you know in a polite way and if like um the thing is

00:14:37.920 and like i said i am not my existence isn't to just pacify you you know and if you're saying that oh

00:14:44.000 you know i have this issue and my weight is this and everything and i was like you know what i have 0.97

00:14:47.200 to cut this crap you are fat and her radical acceptance is the most powerful thing that's 0.98

00:14:52.960 when change actually ensued she got healthy and she had a baby that was the objective 1.00

00:14:58.480 so so much uh problems were avoided with me just being honest with her and if she's an adult

00:15:05.200 she's going to take that and not just suddenly forget who i am i'm a good friend 100 agree with

00:15:10.320 you i think there's a way of like doing it with tact so you can be playful about it but

00:15:13.600 if you're honest and real with person it won't affect your relationship i wasn't mean i was like

00:15:17.360 you're fat you're fat that's it i feel like if you're honest with someone and factual with the

00:15:21.280 person a relationship cannot be destroyed i feel like if someone's real with you and tells you 0.99

00:15:26.480 something straight if it was a real friendship i don't think would affect it is why you don't do it

00:15:31.440 for fear of losing that relationship with the person the the reason i don't do it is that i find

00:15:35.360 it extremely uncomfortable i don't think i'm i'm not used to doing it i don't practice it

00:15:41.040 i don't know i don't know would you like people to be honest with you maybe not no oh you like

00:15:45.680 people to lie to you mandem's sliding them deals and sell dreams no because i all believe those

00:15:52.000 dreams oh yeah and i don't see a problem with that like think about it hypothetically let's say if i

00:15:57.040 think that um i'm like really crazy amazing like really really beautiful and someone's selling me

00:16:04.320 dreams and i believe the dreams he sells me happily ever after in my delusion oh so why pop the bubble

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JustPearlyThings - June 10, 2023

Modern Women Are DELUSIONAL About LIZZO

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