JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Define TOXIC MASCULINITY

00:00:00.000 is it simple what what is what is toxic masculinity

00:00:04.560 i think toxic masculinity

00:00:11.600 is for i think this question is for women not for men i think it actually and the reason why i'm

00:00:20.580 saying that is because actually that that word well those two words are actually what a lot of

00:00:28.180 girls nowadays are actually perceiving themselves to be and i can say i'm guilty for that definitely 1.00

00:00:33.580 what do you mean as in a lot of girls do say how they prefer to take charge and be that independent 1.00

00:00:42.040 women have like what is it 5k 6k what did the city girl figures yeah figures yeah all of that and 1.00

00:00:49.920 to be that i'm that girl you can't you can't tell me what i shouldn't and what i should wear type of

00:00:56.460 thing i feel like a lot of girls nowadays are doing that so i feel like the whole traditional

00:01:01.840 this more than this i feel like the modern times now is us women taking charge being in that mass

00:01:09.660 and a lot of guys will say oh yeah that's so but it's like hmm i wonder why that it's because you

00:01:17.260 guys something most of you men just want girls you can just control who's naive and you're just nice

00:01:21.600 and sweet you can just take advantage of because it's easy for you and it's less work no do you

00:01:25.600 know what i think you think it's you think it's toxically masculine to want a nice and sweet girl

00:01:30.560 hang on a minute backtrack your word i did not have to say anything to do with toxic masculinity 0.97

00:01:36.960 at all i was going off of what she said going off for what she said literally i was going off what

00:01:42.000 she said and she was talking about toxic masculinity what i said what i said okay what i said has got

00:01:48.780 nothing to do with toxic masculinity if you don't test my words as i'm talking about something else

00:01:53.140 i think toxic masculinity is something that's been created by women that like okay we have feminists 1.00

00:02:03.820 yeah but then we have the extreme feminists and i think the extreme feminists don't want equality 1.00

00:02:08.720 between men and women they want to take over and i think toxic masculinity is like something that

00:02:13.700 they're throwing at men who just have a really big ego thank you and they just do you know i mean you

00:02:18.100 have a big ego it's toxic massive no they're egotistical and if they're not for you and you don't

00:02:22.740 want to deal with them then don't deal with them but like yeah i definitely think it's a phrase

00:02:26.280 created by women don't you think that men in general have egos yeah yeah 100% 100% we all have

00:02:32.420 a ego why don't you say that men throughout history have been more successful if they have

00:02:36.060 big egos yeah like the kings the emperors yes i mean yes and no yes i know i can agree with that

00:02:43.700 so explain go ahead so obviously like you have to have a big ego to like be successful to an extent

00:02:49.440 but then there's like being successful and then you're having the ego but you're also humble

00:02:54.560 but then there's like really really like super like egotistical people and you're just like oh

00:03:01.160 like you can't even you can't even like have a conversation with them because they just speak

00:03:05.860 so highly of themselves almost almost as if they're like bigger than everyone else and this

00:03:10.040 goes for men and women because there's women like this as well but yeah just people that think that 1.00

00:03:13.780 they're so much better than everyone else but we're all human and we're all like on the same level

00:03:17.620 i've just found that people seem to label things that are just like masculine traits as toxic

00:03:22.980 yeah so a more masculine way of dealing with problems is to not talk about them we're a feminine 0.92

00:03:29.300 like as women like we want to talk about our problems men in general don't and so they'll label

00:03:33.920 things that are traditionally masculine as toxic masculinity when it's just how men are

00:03:39.300 and i think it's kind of similar with like the ego like i just think men tend to have egos more than

00:03:44.160 women i do know a couple guys that are not that don't act out of their ego that are really like

00:03:50.520 they enjoy having deep conversations oh wow so attractive

00:03:54.340 what guy my cousin my cousin he's no no he's very in tune with himself he's like an old soul

00:04:04.900 i always tell him this i always big him up for that he advices me on everything and he's just

00:04:09.060 amazing we love the dmc big up cozy um so i'm curious do you guys want to be married at all

00:04:19.780 yeah yeah yes i mean i would like to be married but it's not something that i'm like super set on

00:04:25.120 like i have to get married in this lifetime if it happens it happens but i don't think

00:04:29.500 i don't think necessary i necessarily need like a piece of paper to prove like my relationship

00:04:35.440 with someone i don't know but my parents weren't married so but they were together for 17 years

00:04:40.100 um so you would be okay would you want a long-term relationship then instead of marriage

00:04:45.240 um i wouldn't mind obviously if i was in a long-term relationship and i really loved the person and

00:04:49.440 they proposed to me i would say yeah but i wouldn't mind whether we like had got married or not so

00:04:55.560 do you want kids i do okay and you'd be okay with that in or out of marriage yeah i'd be fine with

00:05:01.580 that okay um what about you do you want to know truthfully i've never actually fought

00:05:05.420 about marriage like that but every time for what i have seen on social media it has given me like

00:05:11.260 a put off like a fright yeah but as i said i've never fought about marriage but back when i was

00:05:18.340 little marriage was a normal thing but now that i'm older marriage ain't a thing like that because

00:05:22.460 divorce is more of a thing than marriage so that that is the reason why it's put me off but at the

00:05:26.540 same time it's like hmm i do want to get married but as she just said a paper don't mean anything so

00:05:33.380 it's like yeah i'm still thinking on that one and divorce fees are expensive you know it's expensive

00:05:38.220 to divorce someone you know for a man so yeah i'm literally going off of what you said i believe

00:05:47.940 that what i'm if we're meant to be we're meant to be no piece of paper should define yeah yeah yeah

00:05:53.220 so it's like you guys as long as we have like an amazing connection marriage doesn't mean anything

00:05:58.060 okay what about you do you want to be married you know what i always juggle this topic all the time

00:06:03.040 sometimes i'm like yes like i love to be all like loved up but oh my days no no you know what i don't

00:06:10.880 need a title i feel like we don't need marriage to obviously like um you know i mean say oh you're my

00:06:16.800 husband i'm your wife like i feel like we don't it's like i say i want i think i go in with more of the

00:06:21.540 concept that i want to be loved up and i always i always date and like relationship wise i'm a long

00:06:26.880 term girl you know so i always that's always like my intention like i'm quite um loyal actually

00:06:34.040 so yeah but i also think i love the whole but i do love the whole black um proposal if you see my

00:06:41.620 viral proposal thing in mcdonald's that i was mad that was mad that was a prank by the way i'm not

00:06:47.600 getting married but again because i do love the whole like proposal like aspect did you do a fake

00:06:52.180 proposal i don't actually oh no we did it blew up massively okay not massively like literally had

00:06:58.160 like 35 million views in like three days crazy oh wow i'll show you after yeah but basically um i do

00:07:03.840 like the whole like the beautiful like proposal thing on like the rooftop balcony and like the flowers

00:07:09.520 and i'll do like the wedding i think i'll make a really beautiful bride

00:07:11.960 so so you you want the the proposal and the wedding but you're not too sure about marriage

00:07:18.700 i'm not sure about the guy about the guy the guy is well what if you pick a good guy

00:07:23.440 and if he wants that and it happens naturally yeah you know i mean like it's got you know it will

00:07:30.180 happen naturally i don't believe it should it'll be forced and you can't plan these things

00:07:33.360 and the day relationships is a tricky one it should happen naturally and like i said should flow

00:07:37.160 you know so yeah what do you guys think that you need to bring to the table in order to be

00:07:43.020 a long-term 20-year girlfriend or wife and is there a difference

00:07:47.760 um i think

00:07:51.160 stability if you know you're stable within yourself mentally financially

00:08:01.060 every lee then then i feel like that's all that matters and likewise for the man if he's stable

00:08:08.900 enough to be in a relationship and to accommodate that financially mentally physically whatever way

00:08:13.840 emotionally then that's that's what so do you mean when you say stability like financially stable yeah

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JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023

Modern Women Define TOXIC MASCULINITY

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