Modern Women Define TOXIC MASCULINITY
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss toxic masculinity and what it means in the modern era and how it affects men and women. Is it toxic masculinity to want a nice and sweet girl? Is it toxically masculine to want someone with a big ego and a good sense of humor?
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is it simple what what is what is toxic masculinity
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is for i think this question is for women not for men i think it actually and the reason why i'm
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saying that is because actually that that word well those two words are actually what a lot of
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girls nowadays are actually perceiving themselves to be and i can say i'm guilty for that definitely
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what do you mean as in a lot of girls do say how they prefer to take charge and be that independent
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women have like what is it 5k 6k what did the city girl figures yeah figures yeah all of that and
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to be that i'm that girl you can't you can't tell me what i shouldn't and what i should wear type of
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thing i feel like a lot of girls nowadays are doing that so i feel like the whole traditional
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this more than this i feel like the modern times now is us women taking charge being in that mass
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and a lot of guys will say oh yeah that's so but it's like hmm i wonder why that it's because you
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guys something most of you men just want girls you can just control who's naive and you're just nice
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and sweet you can just take advantage of because it's easy for you and it's less work no do you
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know what i think you think it's you think it's toxically masculine to want a nice and sweet girl
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hang on a minute backtrack your word i did not have to say anything to do with toxic masculinity
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at all i was going off of what she said going off for what she said literally i was going off what
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she said and she was talking about toxic masculinity what i said what i said okay what i said has got
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nothing to do with toxic masculinity if you don't test my words as i'm talking about something else
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i think toxic masculinity is something that's been created by women that like okay we have feminists
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yeah but then we have the extreme feminists and i think the extreme feminists don't want equality
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between men and women they want to take over and i think toxic masculinity is like something that
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they're throwing at men who just have a really big ego thank you and they just do you know i mean you
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have a big ego it's toxic massive no they're egotistical and if they're not for you and you don't
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want to deal with them then don't deal with them but like yeah i definitely think it's a phrase
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created by women don't you think that men in general have egos yeah yeah 100% 100% we all have
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a ego why don't you say that men throughout history have been more successful if they have
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big egos yeah like the kings the emperors yes i mean yes and no yes i know i can agree with that
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so explain go ahead so obviously like you have to have a big ego to like be successful to an extent
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but then there's like being successful and then you're having the ego but you're also humble
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but then there's like really really like super like egotistical people and you're just like oh
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like you can't even you can't even like have a conversation with them because they just speak
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so highly of themselves almost almost as if they're like bigger than everyone else and this
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goes for men and women because there's women like this as well but yeah just people that think that
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they're so much better than everyone else but we're all human and we're all like on the same level
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i've just found that people seem to label things that are just like masculine traits as toxic
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yeah so a more masculine way of dealing with problems is to not talk about them we're a feminine
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like as women like we want to talk about our problems men in general don't and so they'll label
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things that are traditionally masculine as toxic masculinity when it's just how men are
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and i think it's kind of similar with like the ego like i just think men tend to have egos more than
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women i do know a couple guys that are not that don't act out of their ego that are really like
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they enjoy having deep conversations oh wow so attractive
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what guy my cousin my cousin he's no no he's very in tune with himself he's like an old soul
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i always tell him this i always big him up for that he advices me on everything and he's just
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amazing we love the dmc big up cozy um so i'm curious do you guys want to be married at all
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yeah yeah yes i mean i would like to be married but it's not something that i'm like super set on
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like i have to get married in this lifetime if it happens it happens but i don't think
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i don't think necessary i necessarily need like a piece of paper to prove like my relationship
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with someone i don't know but my parents weren't married so but they were together for 17 years
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um so you would be okay would you want a long-term relationship then instead of marriage
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um i wouldn't mind obviously if i was in a long-term relationship and i really loved the person and
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they proposed to me i would say yeah but i wouldn't mind whether we like had got married or not so
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do you want kids i do okay and you'd be okay with that in or out of marriage yeah i'd be fine with
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that okay um what about you do you want to know truthfully i've never actually fought
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about marriage like that but every time for what i have seen on social media it has given me like
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a put off like a fright yeah but as i said i've never fought about marriage but back when i was
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little marriage was a normal thing but now that i'm older marriage ain't a thing like that because
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divorce is more of a thing than marriage so that that is the reason why it's put me off but at the
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same time it's like hmm i do want to get married but as she just said a paper don't mean anything so
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it's like yeah i'm still thinking on that one and divorce fees are expensive you know it's expensive
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to divorce someone you know for a man so yeah i'm literally going off of what you said i believe
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that what i'm if we're meant to be we're meant to be no piece of paper should define yeah yeah yeah
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so it's like you guys as long as we have like an amazing connection marriage doesn't mean anything
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okay what about you do you want to be married you know what i always juggle this topic all the time
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sometimes i'm like yes like i love to be all like loved up but oh my days no no you know what i don't
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need a title i feel like we don't need marriage to obviously like um you know i mean say oh you're my
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husband i'm your wife like i feel like we don't it's like i say i want i think i go in with more of the
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concept that i want to be loved up and i always i always date and like relationship wise i'm a long
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term girl you know so i always that's always like my intention like i'm quite um loyal actually
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so yeah but i also think i love the whole but i do love the whole black um proposal if you see my
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viral proposal thing in mcdonald's that i was mad that was mad that was a prank by the way i'm not
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getting married but again because i do love the whole like proposal like aspect did you do a fake
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proposal i don't actually oh no we did it blew up massively okay not massively like literally had
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like 35 million views in like three days crazy oh wow i'll show you after yeah but basically um i do
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like the whole like the beautiful like proposal thing on like the rooftop balcony and like the flowers
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and i'll do like the wedding i think i'll make a really beautiful bride
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so so you you want the the proposal and the wedding but you're not too sure about marriage
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i'm not sure about the guy about the guy the guy is well what if you pick a good guy
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and if he wants that and it happens naturally yeah you know i mean like it's got you know it will
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happen naturally i don't believe it should it'll be forced and you can't plan these things
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and the day relationships is a tricky one it should happen naturally and like i said should flow
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you know so yeah what do you guys think that you need to bring to the table in order to be
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a long-term 20-year girlfriend or wife and is there a difference
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stability if you know you're stable within yourself mentally financially
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every lee then then i feel like that's all that matters and likewise for the man if he's stable
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enough to be in a relationship and to accommodate that financially mentally physically whatever way
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emotionally then that's that's what so do you mean when you say stability like financially stable yeah
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as a girl you should be fine as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized
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