JustPearlyThings - Modern Women Gave EXCUSES For Marriage-less Relationships

00:00:00.000 protections that being married does for your wife as well and does for your family so i just think

00:00:04.140 ultimately um if someone loves you that much they're going to want to make the ultimate

00:00:08.400 sacrifice and commitment to you commit with marriage so let me let me with a 50 40 divorce

00:00:14.160 rate where she can leave take half and take your kids you don't you don't think that some men 1.00

00:00:19.120 want traditional outcomes but marriage just isn't on the table for them i believe marriage is on

00:00:24.760 table for everybody but it just some of it depends what you're willing to risk and a lot of these

00:00:29.540 men you had to put risk to get in the place that so to make it easier though to make it easier right

00:00:33.240 um i would like do like a little thought experiment right so you have a holiday destination

00:00:39.540 and it's your best holiday destination it's a place that you've always wanted to go

00:00:43.800 and you can get it you can go there all expenses paid right however when you get on a plane you

00:00:51.640 have a 50 chance of getting to the holiday destination are you going to get on a plane

00:00:56.180 yeah plane analogy aren't good for me i don't like planes anyway all right but

00:01:01.460 because it doesn't give you the outcome that makes sense to you right but are you going to get on a

00:01:05.900 plane if it's 50 50 chance to get to that your best destination that you've always thought about and

00:01:10.940 you've always cared about and you've always loved but you've got a 50 50 chance of getting there would

00:01:15.140 you get on a plane oh okay i'll give another one if there was uh you haven't answered that one yeah

00:01:19.620 bro no you know what it is because you're using a plane analogy and i just don't really like planes but

00:01:23.480 if if there's something that i really wanted that was 50 50 chance i was still going to go and get

00:01:27.560 and that's the type of man i am so the risk is worth it so i would not that's disingenuous you know

00:01:33.800 damn well you would not know because no because i'm not talking about a plane because you're talking 0.59

00:01:37.560 about uh you're talking about losing my life money's not losing yeah because but the thing is 0.99

00:01:41.720 no but the thing is with marriage you can marriage marriage can lead to a lot of men commit 0.91

00:01:47.320 a lot of men are committing suicide after being you know taken to the cleaners by women their 1.00

00:01:52.440 children being taken their house being taken their cars being taken and it's one thing when

00:01:55.960 you're a young guy but when you're you're 50 55 you're tired and she can she can leave you and

00:02:01.320 take all of your money yeah but you have to understand like you don't come from that that's not your

00:02:07.320 what you've seen growing up that's not what i've seen growing up yes i'm aware it happens but if

00:02:11.480 that's not what i've seen growing up then why would i be scared of it like for me this thing that you put

00:02:16.120 this thing you're saying i understand it and another because it's a different generation of women right 1.00

00:02:19.960 like we we remember like the women of that generation were wives yeah but i i i understand

00:02:25.640 that as well but i'm not going to say all the women out in this generation are not wives like 1.00

00:02:29.240 i think it makes it quite easy to find the wives when everyone is clearly not wise right so if you're

00:02:33.880 if you meet a woman you can tell the good women from not the women that's why they don't they don't 1.00

00:02:38.680 hang around for a lot they get snapped up so quickly because once you discover oh my god she's a good one

00:02:42.440 guys are literally doing the most there's some girls like like i said before another show that they don't have

00:02:46.680 to do anything men just do everything do you know why these aren't the women are arguing and beefing 1.00

00:02:51.160 you over this over the stupidest things they're literally good women and and there's not enough 1.00

00:02:55.800 of these women out there so when we spot them we wife them and we lock them down um and these are 1.00

00:03:01.080 types of women that get married not the type but good women still go astray so women are a roll of the 1.00

00:03:05.560 dice and this is we can say as women you know you know ladies ladies we can all think of one girl 1.00

00:03:10.840 that's an absolute hoe or used to be a hoe and she could hide it but yeah like girls girls are a roll of the 1.00

00:03:15.720 dice and i think men think they're a lot smarter than they are and that's that's what i'm saying

00:03:19.400 like why like i you don't think that some guys wouldn't be interested in marriage because of the

00:03:24.200 contract incentivizes women to make poor decisions yeah no i like from a legal perspective if i was a

00:03:29.880 guy i wouldn't do it i fully understand what people are saying i fully understand what you're saying

00:03:34.360 i fully understand what you're saying but at the same time that's what that's for me that's the union

00:03:40.520 i'm not gonna have no baby mother like that's not something that i would have like i would have a 0.86

00:03:43.720 woman that's my wife like you understand like like to me okay cool to have a baby mother all it 1.00

00:03:48.280 takes for you to do is have sex with someone and just and that's it and the child's gonna be the 0.92

00:03:51.880 thing is i don't disagree with you yeah but what i'm saying is that for me the reason why i'm asking

00:03:57.400 like is traditional relationships dead is because we're living in a different time okay and i think

00:04:03.000 adapting to the time may be what human beings need to do and i think sometimes we're trying to

00:04:08.760 hang on to the old ways and bring them into the new and we can clearly see in this society

00:04:15.720 it's a new time yeah it's a really new time yeah but so in the west i was gonna say look i live in

00:04:22.040 the west but i was growing up an african upbringing right so there's there's no reason why for all of

00:04:27.240 us to lose our mouths and lose our heads it becomes very dangerous when you get put into a society or

00:04:31.560 place and all of a sudden now you start getting new new um new ideas on how relationships should be this is

00:04:36.760 this is why people decide they can be a giraffe today and everyone's gonna say you can be a giraffe

00:04:40.840 like i like like i am i'm quite aware of where i am and what country i'm in and and there's even some

00:04:48.120 of the things i've said you get people saying oh my gosh you're so all of the things they'll try to

00:04:52.360 label you for having for man having a voice but i understand it so i'm not gonna start to change my

00:04:57.960 beliefs based upon where i am no i'm going to be the same person and i believe there's going to be

00:05:01.960 people because my my sisters were raised as wives for other people's sister for other people's

00:05:06.680 husbands so ultimately other people are raising their their daughters um and their sisters to be

00:05:12.600 husbands um to be wise for me so there's sorry i'm not i'm not saying wives don't exist i'm not saying

00:05:18.600 there's no wives in 2022 i'm saying legally as a man if i was a guy i would not want to sign that contract

00:05:26.520 and i don't think it's like does he love her enough does he not it's it's it's a contract that

00:05:31.160 you are paid to leave i think you can still do a ceremony with a ring in your church whatever

00:05:35.640 but legally why on earth would you do that as a guy like i i honestly if you really understand

00:05:41.000 the legality of it i honestly think it's not smart i think it's dumb i don't know if i was following

00:05:45.080 what you were saying right right because i don't know if i heard like contradiction right can i ask you

00:05:52.440 would you say that you're in a traditional relationship right now with your sweet one

00:05:56.440 um traditional no i'm not married so yeah i heard you say that but would you forget marriage

00:06:05.000 like a traditional relationship well well well she listens to me um she respects what i say my chest

00:06:12.440 see the reason why that hurt your chest is because you was with a man that didn't do anything for you

00:06:16.760 so that oh no my last man did a lot for me but that's that's not why it hurt my chest no but i'm

00:06:21.160 saying like see when a woman listens to you because you trust your leadership she understands that this

00:06:25.480 guy i'm with um he's not going to do me he's not going to steer me down the wrong path um he's a

00:06:29.720 he's a strong leader that's why she listens to me so not she doesn't listen to me because she hasn't

00:06:33.160 got a mind of course you can do whatever she wants i do not control any woman but when you're with a 1.00

00:06:37.480 right man you will actually fall into your feminine and let him lead and do certain things because 0.92

00:06:41.560 you trust in his leadership and a lot of times when women go my chest is because they haven't 0.99

00:06:46.040 experienced that oh it's because that's what you led with but i've heard what you've led with your

00:06:50.600 leadership no but what i mean is what what i'm trying to say is when i see even that you're the

00:06:54.680 shocking it that's not what girls do that you don't want to be with a guy that you trust his

00:06:58.120 leadership absolutely like that you would listen to no no absolutely okay absolutely yeah so what

00:07:03.960 why does it hurt your chest because it was what he led with no because what i'm saying that she

00:07:08.760 listens to me is that a problem no it's not no i'm just trying to understand it's like what is it

00:07:14.840 because to me that's ideal you don't think so it's ideal to have a guy okay let me explain go ahead

00:07:21.000 i want to be able to listen to someone right i have ears i'm going to listen but perhaps if what

00:07:28.600 you were to say is she can trust me or something like that or she let's see the problem she lets me

00:07:35.320 lead her it was just the phrase and the fact that that's what you led with in terms of right but that's

00:07:41.480 but that's what submission is right if you if you believe in submission that's trusting him even when

00:07:45.560 you don't want to yeah i think it's for me it was the um choice of words and the fact that it came

00:07:51.480 with that was that was the first that was what he but that's the thing about you know women like men 1.00

00:07:57.640 when men speak they just speak women hear things like oh my god you could have said it differently 0.89

00:08:02.040 yeah but we can't deny that there is there is meaning behind people's choice of words so so

00:08:07.160 that's that's it's just it is what it is what i get is yeah i'm really tired of women always telling 1.00

00:08:11.320 me how to speak like do you know how do you know how much control no no no no wait wait you literally

00:08:15.400 just did no i didn't you literally just did i didn't tell you how to speak i told you what what

00:08:19.400 would have been but i'm not telling you how to speak you go you go ahead speak no of course i want

00:08:24.040 to speak how i want to speak but you're already telling me the way i'm speaking is a problem in

00:08:27.560 it because you couldn't you couldn't you know you're right so it comes down to you not me i haven't said

00:08:32.840 i haven't said anything disrespectful i didn't say you have i know i'm talking about how i'm talking

00:08:37.160 it so i know so don't turn it into i'm telling you because that's not me don't do that to me

00:08:41.240 no no okay you literally just said you had a problem i know what i said but we're not going

00:08:46.040 to confuse what i said and make it no i'm telling you okay okay so let me just speak right this is

00:08:51.080 this is something that tends to happen with a lot of women right men speak direct i'm a very direct

00:08:55.240 speaker i will say what i need to say i said that um she listens to me all of a sudden you had

00:08:59.960 negative connotation with the word listen so she listened to me because she trusted my leadership

00:09:03.960 they shouldn't i shouldn't have to i know i understand the word listen yeah so you're just

00:09:08.440 misunderstood i already clarified can i can i can i finish because we'll just keep doing this yeah

00:09:13.080 thank you okay no i haven't misquoted you you said something so i need to follow up on what you said

00:09:18.040 because because what you're doing is what women always do to us men so we speak direct we're 1.00

00:09:22.440 articulate we say something then you want to say you should say it in a way like this we are not women

00:09:26.680 see the problem is the types of men that you are attracted to ultimately speak in a way where

00:09:32.040 or or act in a way where you may not like um but when i'm speaking i'm never speaking in a derogatory

00:09:38.280 way about women i'm never disrespecting women i'm just simply saying that if you trust in the man's

00:09:42.680 leadership an ultimate submission is a is showing is is love and when and when you love a man you're

00:09:47.560 not going to question certain things so if it shocks you to say oh um um she listens to me it just

00:09:53.480 says to me that ultimately the types of men that you've dealt with haven't spoken like this or when

00:09:57.080 they have your push back i appreciate your no no it's not you think you're a good listener i can

00:10:03.800 yeah yeah definitely i definitely think i'm a good listener and i crave someone that i can listen to

00:10:11.480 right like when we were speaking about the one that you know was what you called a bum i love that um 0.98

00:10:17.960 i couldn't listen to him he couldn't lead and i crave that because i want someone that i can feel

00:10:23.400 secure with and be like yeah you've got so then why why choose somebody who you can't do that with

00:10:29.480 because i don't see it at first i don't understand that you don't see that he didn't have a job um

00:10:34.200 no no no he had a job he's a creative so he he owns a if you meet him and walk into his office you'll

00:10:39.960 think wow this guy's got it together but that's not the case but then you were still supporting him

00:10:44.040 i was supporting him yeah so the job was the job wasn't making money no because it's like it's um

00:10:48.760 it was a facade for how long it's not a facade it's just you know there's there's a job one month

00:10:53.320 the next month nothing you might get a massive so he's like his contract yeah exactly how long

00:10:58.760 did you support him for uh six months and then and then you cut it off couldn't do it any longer

00:11:04.120 yeah that's not too long that's not that bad yeah some girls come on and they say like three years 1.00

00:11:11.480 there was a girl on her was like i i'd done a course on what is it um on music because he was a

00:11:17.000 rapper and i was going to be like his producer and i'm like yeah you like really invested in that

00:11:21.960 bomb do you know what i'm saying this ain't build a bomb that's a problem with now as well because of

00:11:29.960 course instagrams are like people's cvs and stuff and it's so easy to portray yourself one way and then

00:11:37.400 when you go to their house yeah but who do you think is more deceptive men or women on instagram i think

00:11:41.640 both oh come on i think women aesthetically and like lifestyle but guys with like you know money 0.98

00:11:49.160 girl you think i think 90 of guys have ass instagrams like they have like 500 followers with three 0.64

00:11:55.240 pictures most guys no but i don't even that though it's not even that you see men like i tend to find 0.93

00:12:00.920 that a lot of men they don't know how to take pictures so you might look at their instagram and be

00:12:05.080 like oh my god wow he's so not my type you see him in person and it's a whole different story i fall

00:12:12.120 in love with men's comments on instagram like if i if i see you think in a certain way and like i

00:12:17.400 don't even know what you look like you could just be a grace circle and i'll be like no you wouldn't

00:12:23.080 fall in love with mine when you hate me i can tell i can very much so when it comes to traditional

00:12:29.400 relationships right for the past year right i've thought about this a new relationship contract

00:12:36.680 and i'm saying pearl's already already and um i've said it a few times but i think

00:12:44.440 that men and women because of the times we're living in should have rolling contracts for

00:12:51.480 relationships meaning the two of you should sit down stipulate what you want in a relationship

00:12:57.720 and have a rolling contract however long you guys want it could be a year two years six months

00:13:02.760 whatever and then after that time you get to renew it but within that contract you guys both get to

00:13:08.440 stipulate exactly what you want out of the relationship what do you guys think of that bad idea

00:13:14.840 okay why because how now i'm drawing up contracts for my girl this is now that's the worst idea ever

00:13:21.400 you draw up contracts for for marriage yeah i know but in listen and that doesn't work so

00:13:27.720 it's only 50 50 50. so put if you're drawing a contract in a relationship in a boyfriend and

00:13:33.960 girlfriend scenario it's not that deep so basically everyone is single until you're married like

00:13:38.920 everyone's up for game the only way i know that you not to approach you if you've got a ring on your

00:13:42.440 finger so when someone says oh i've got a man it's just yeah but we're living in a time now

00:13:47.160 marriage doesn't matter people people are having whole affairs with them with them with their wedding

00:13:52.200 i don't know the reason why i'm coming up with it is because my thing is there has to be a solution

00:13:59.880 to the times that we're living in okay and so we can't keep trying to fit a square peg into a round

00:14:05.480 hole if it doesn't fit now i know everybody keeps talking about marriage marriage marriage marriage

00:14:10.120 marriage but when you look at the statistics it's not working so i'm the type of person who sees

00:14:15.080 something sees it's not working and offers a different a different perspective now it may not be the right

00:14:20.680 perspective but what everybody can see is that this thing is not working so if it isn't working

00:14:27.400 what's the new model so it's marriage without marriage it's marriage without yeah it could say

00:14:33.080 that it's marriage about marriage so then we should just do what we're doing already now because end of

00:14:37.160 the day they know it's a little bit more now well on the other side it advocates more for the men

00:14:43.640 that's that's basically what sarah is saying but then i want to i mean even nowadays you have one in

00:14:47.560 four marriages that are sexless so men get married thinking they're going to have sex and they don't 0.99

00:14:51.160 even have sex and she puts on a lot of weight after she gets the ring and then you know she leaves you 1.00

00:14:56.040 and takes half yeah and then within the contract you'd say you know you wouldn't be able to go and

00:15:00.680 gain a certain amount of weight you wouldn't be able to no one will sign in that why why not

00:15:05.720 i will why not because you have to have a certain amount of sex it's up to you because a lot like

00:15:12.280 pearl was saying a lot of men get into relationships a quarter of marriages are sexless

00:15:18.680 so why would i get into a into a relationship knowing i'm not going to get sex as a man well

00:15:23.480 that's one of the things that we love and it's interesting because i understand like what you're

00:15:27.000 saying because you know i i do in a way because i i do like i think marriage like it was a good thing

00:15:34.360 in my life right like for my parents were married most people i know were married but the thing is like

00:15:38.920 the more i learn about the contracts i'm like i could i i could see a guy being very devoted to

00:15:44.520 a girl being with her for 10 plus years and just no ring because it's a bad contract to sign so you're

00:15:49.240 willing to be a baby woman then no no no no but i think legally no no but that's what i'm saying i

00:15:54.200 don't need it legally i i think like not being having a part of the government that's fine no but if

00:15:59.400 you can you can get married in your church okay okay cool like me personally okay so if we get married

00:16:06.200 in the village and back home um it's going to be similar to what you're trying to say right

00:16:11.240 but you're still legally married to each other do you understand what i'm trying to say to you i

00:16:14.920 think what we're trying to do now is we're trying to create new definitions for what marriage is

00:16:18.920 supposed to be in what relationship if that's the case then just and then just do what you're doing

00:16:22.680 you don't have to actually have a contract i think they're just trying to find a solution for a

00:16:26.760 bad deal right now the contract is a bad deal for men so just be single and just do your thing 0.98

00:16:32.120 that's what a lot of guys are doing yeah but that's cool yeah that's what that's what i'm

00:16:35.000 saying i'm saying so a lot of guys are doing that but marriage nowadays like if we're honest with

00:16:39.880 ourselves if we're actually honest with the site in which we live in marriage is a joke and when i say

00:16:44.920 that it's a joke do you know why because marriage is a tv show love is blind 90 day fiance married at

00:16:52.920 first sight marriage has become entertainment it's not there's no sanctity in it anymore so when

00:17:00.280 the same women that are sitting down to watch married at first sight and love is blind and 1.00

00:17:04.520 90 day fiance the same woman saying oh yeah i want to get married you're literally watching marriage

00:17:08.680 as a tv show it's not there's no sanctity to it anymore and so that people can literally say okay

00:17:14.760 i've got 90 days to get a visa to marry this woman that's not marriage yeah but so i don't think i like

00:17:20.760 yeah that's marriage is a joke so so if we're gonna say marriage is a joke based upon 90 day fiance like

00:17:26.200 nah man you need to stop watching no it's based off of the numbers it's based off of one

00:17:29.320 in four marriages are sexless one in four the average length of a first marriage is seven years

00:17:34.440 and it gets smaller and smaller based on how many marriages there are it's based on the fact that

00:17:38.600 the men are paid women are paid to leave and take half and take your children that's why it's a joke 1.00

00:17:43.960 it's not it's not based off of a tv show yeah so i hear what you guys are saying i hear what you're

00:17:48.520 saying but um nah seriously think about it because it doesn't feel nice to you that's the thing it

00:17:55.480 doesn't feel good it doesn't feel nice and i understand where you are because i was there at

00:17:59.240 one point too no i could listen i haven't gotten to my age and i had any kids because i don't because

00:18:03.720 i can't come on like i've gotten here because i don't want to have a baby moms and i could easily

00:18:09.160 have like my friends have baby moms but i've seen what it's done most of these kids that are growing up

00:18:12.760 doing the madness on the on the road now they they're coming from single parent homes that are 1.00

00:18:16.920 i agree you know what i'm trying to say so even this thing of you're talking about if it's not

00:18:21.320 marriage it's not gone it's going to be the same thing that we're seeing right now so when we're

00:18:24.520 trying to go out now and saying you know what actually let's not get married let's write a

00:18:27.320 contract why are you going to keep to the contract it's because because the contract is more um

00:18:32.680 it's more individual whereas a marriage a contract is more broad like we said men when it comes to

00:18:37.400 marriage they get the short end of the stick if the marriage breaks down like i said i said 50 50 before

00:18:42.840 you didn't like the um the airplane analogy but that's what it is like marriage let's do a train

00:18:48.360 would a train make it better yeah it's not a train is a plane is an automobile because everything that

00:18:53.160 you're every every analogy that you give towards marriage includes death and and we're not gonna

00:18:57.560 it's not that because it is death for a lot of guys commit suicide because think about think about

00:19:02.600 put yourself in those guys shoes you work for 20 30 years you're still young you lost everything

00:19:07.480 tomorrow you could still build it back yeah but i'm not right right but i'm saying this guy's 55

00:19:13.240 his wife leaves him if he has children that are still under the age of 18 she takes the kids

00:19:19.080 he and she is paid to take them and give him less time and then he has to start from scratch at 55.

00:19:25.720 yeah yeah he took an hour yeah for women though let's remember that women do have like a hard time in 1.00

00:19:32.200 in divorces sometimes it's not i know i know you know girl how how how you've built the man up to

00:19:40.680 what he has girl yeah you know you know i hate it when girls take what you know no no why don't we 1.00

00:19:47.560 take credit for men's success if your guy was successful he was going to do it with or without 0.51

00:19:51.800 you we didn't build anyone we didn't build anyone up my dad is a top one percent earner i grew up around

00:19:57.480 these top one percent five percent men i promise to god they love their wives their wives are there for

00:20:02.520 them but they would have been rich with or without them all right so if you built this man right yeah

00:20:07.800 if you're building this man stop using that term i'm just using it i'm not saying that i build but

00:20:13.000 so if you if you built this man and you're saying this man is only successful because you built him

00:20:19.240 yeah and and and and imagine no i don't like that that's not what i all right but let's just say

00:20:23.320 that that let's just say that's the prevailing psychology of certain women right why is it now 1.00

00:20:28.600 if women feel that they've invested into a man and built him up why are they the ones that 80 percent 1.00

00:20:34.040 of the time that are filing for divorce because if i if i if i invested in something and built something

00:20:38.760 up 90 percent if they're college educated why leave it i can't talk because every every relationship's

00:20:46.120 different i don't know what's going on in the particular i mean in those numbers in those

00:20:49.480 statistics i don't know what happened so i can't really i can't really do you know what i mean

00:20:53.400 but i know that yeah i just wanted to just remember we're not it's not just oh the man's depressed and

00:20:59.080 you know lost everything there's a lot of women that end up in the gutter after after divorce 1.00

00:21:04.680 and men that leave their wives as well not just women that up and take everything well even if

00:21:08.760 even if they do leave they're legally protected men aren't so even even if a guy does you know

00:21:14.040 they trade you for the younger model or whatever but you're protected legally it needs to be changed

00:21:18.440 i agree on that yeah so would you say that in today's society men are more traditional or women

00:21:25.400 are more traditional men men oh okay yeah at least they try to be they want you know why do you think

00:21:32.360 that is so because music no music no a lot of the time it's it's it's with so within with all the

00:21:40.600 more the new age feminism and yeah some of the music some of the cult some of the things popular

00:21:45.000 culture that they follow um women don't feel as if in actual fact there seems to be negative

00:21:49.480 connotation attached to tradition being traditional so even when i said she listens to me all of a

00:21:54.120 sudden that created a feeling of something in the chest of until we explained it but it still created

00:21:59.080 something submission it seems to be some nasty words soon as you say oh she will submit women hate that 0.86

00:22:03.960 word because submission for them it means that they can't leave the house they can't do anything they

00:22:09.080 can't have any friends they can't wear away i'm not saying for you i'm saying majority women no i 1.00

00:22:12.760 just saw your face but i'm just just just making it clear but women don't like the word submission 1.00

00:22:18.280 but for us men we it's not a negative word you understand it just means that you trust our

00:22:22.280 leadership so so yeah yeah i want more more men to be made of stuff that we can trust your leadership

00:22:30.600 because i think a lot of men in this society are leading from a very weird place and i get it like

00:22:36.440 it's difficult when you say weird what do you mean like i just feel like they're just they're just so um

00:22:44.360 cautious and whatnot and they don't trust that you know if they meet a good woman and that she is just

00:22:49.960 she does she does mean well she doesn't have bad intentions and whatnot they have this like elephant 0.97

00:22:55.720 in their brain kind of thing that doesn't allow them to sorry yeah go on yeah finish um

00:23:03.960 what was it that you asked me what did i mean by yeah what would that you said they're weird men are

00:23:07.640 like weird no quote quote me what i said so you said they would have this elephant in their brain

00:23:14.120 in their brain before that i said this weird oh i think they don't trust good women 1.00

00:23:18.200 they don't trust that's what your point yeah like it's it's difficult for them to to be to allow

00:23:24.200 them in there's always like this bar this kind of barrier of distrust you want to hear an interesting

00:23:30.200 stat yeah i'd love to um did you know that under 30 one in three men are sexless they haven't or they're

00:23:38.920 either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year so under men under 30 one in three are either virgins or

00:23:45.320 haven't had sex in the past year where when were everywhere everywhere in the west did they ask you

00:23:54.040 a lot of times like when girls will say um like something like those guys need to be like they

00:24:00.440 don't want to let us in like kind of kind of a similar like it's the tough guy he doesn't want

00:24:04.520 to let a good woman in blah like you know i don't want to sorry not disrespect i've just done a lot of 0.86

00:24:08.760 these shows they're talking about the 20 of men that women want but most guys are they're down they 0.57

00:24:14.280 haven't had sex in a year one of the three i'm not talking about sex i mean like no they're they're

00:24:18.360 down to commit i promise to god you can if there's a guy if you haven't had sex in a year and a girl 0.59

00:24:25.080 you're you're ready to wife her yeah because you want that feeling you want to feel that feeling again

00:24:29.400 so i think that like be that being said some guys they'll settle for less just to get that feeling

00:24:34.280 yeah yeah yeah like you gotta remember like a lot of guys will just settle for what they can get so

00:24:38.760 it seems sometimes for you women that are pretty as well it's quite hard for you to understand that

00:24:43.640 men don't get sex because you're thinking about the top 20 of guys that you're thinking about but

00:24:47.880 when you next time walk into a shop and the tescos or you go into um into footlocker jd sports

00:24:54.520 whatever it is just look at those guys that are stacking the shelves look at those guys the guys

00:24:58.040 you never see those are these are the guys that are not getting any players yeah no no no because um

00:25:04.120 these are the guys that are not that are not getting any any attention so for me it it really

00:25:09.320 just comes down to woman's choice because it's just the guys you choose you're you're missing all 0.99

00:25:14.600 of the good all of the all of the guys which are not on your radar potentially could be guys that

00:25:18.920 could work for you but you keep looking at these 20 of guys and these are the guys if you looked in

00:25:23.400 your friends if you looked in your dms it's not just you it's everyone it's it's literally everyone

00:25:28.440 because if you're single right that means the guys that you want don't want you otherwise you'd be with

00:25:32.680 someone i can be with someone every day no you could be with someone but you don't women yeah 1.00

00:25:37.560 but the thing is you don't want them which that's the point like anyone that's single it's the guys

00:25:42.200 you want don't want you anyone yeah you know otherwise you'd be with someone yeah but what's wrong with

00:25:48.280 all the guys that what's wrong with the 80 of guys though those other guys what's wrong with them

00:25:53.160 what do you mean like the guys you don't see what's wrong with them they don't have swag no i love no swag i

00:25:58.600 love a lazy eye the buck teeth like my type is not my type is not the ballers out there like if you 1.00

00:26:05.080 see my type you might give me a give me an example can i can i see someone on instagram you don't have

00:26:11.400 to we don't have to put them on the screen i just want to see if i actually like my ex yeah show me

00:26:15.480 show me one show me one we won't put them on the screen or anything well uh what type of oh hey we got

00:26:21.800 somebody new we got a new face all right all right bring your mic closer to you um hang on let me help

00:26:29.560 you out one sec let's let me do it let me do let me show you i had a whole folder why have you still

00:26:39.480 got folders of your ex because i made him a um photo album of all of our time together for his for

00:26:45.480 valentine's last year so to print out all the photos i had to make a folder i've probably did so

00:26:51.560 he didn't delete it i think i have because i can't find it oh no i didn't wow wow what do you guys

00:26:59.480 okay actually question for the girls do you guys keep pictures of your ex no i need to clear out my

00:27:03.640 whole okay so she does you can't say no you can't say no i got a better one no no i'll give him an ask yes

00:27:09.960 oh wait she's muted i think

00:27:14.200 can you talk yeah yeah okay yeah that's good yeah yeah i do do that but i've started deleting them now

00:27:18.680 though because it's that little jump or that fright that you get when you see it it's just not

00:27:22.920 fun is it no i definitely delete the pictures because it's so toxic like why are you reminding

00:27:29.400 yourself yeah of the person that is no longer in your life yeah i think it's more snapchat memories

00:27:35.160 it's not like i have an album with them like from valentine's day like i do a scrub after i'm like i can't

00:27:42.680 it's snapchat memories that's the problem that's it you might just look at his picture one day and be

00:27:48.360 like oh my god i wonder who he's with right now what he's doing i'll be honest pearl yeah as a man

00:27:52.280 yeah when you get with a girl this and this is i'm going to put this out to all the guys out there

00:27:56.040 when you get with a girl you have to be ready to understand that it's probably at least five to ten 0.51

00:27:59.960 maybe even more that i've got pictures and videos of your girl in their phone

00:28:02.440 like like so if you think about all yeah we're getting the uh the evidence yeah sorry if you

00:28:10.440 think about all the girls that send pictures that girl he is not ugly sorry let me see let me see let

00:28:15.800 me see because this is what girls do is girls no but that's because girls only find five to twenty 0.99

00:28:21.960 percent of men attractive women women women find 80 he's not ugly i give him like i give him five six

00:28:28.280 that's what i give him let me look let me look let me look let's not oh you're capping man you're

00:28:31.720 capping you're capping you're capping yeah yeah he gets you man he gets girls he gets girls he gets 0.96

00:28:35.320 girls you don't think five six yeah like he's cute yeah that's a good potty that's a really nice potty 0.93

00:28:40.920 see that's capping she made me think you're dating urkel yeah yeah yeah i thought you were the first 1.00

00:28:49.560 people to say that to me that's not a bad dude no but i'll tell you why because it's probably like women 1.00

00:28:53.800 more so or guys that are trying to sleep with you so like if the guy's trying to sleep with you he'd be like ah

00:28:57.960 now he ain't and girls find eighty percent of men unattractive eighty percent that's so interesting

00:29:03.560 men find 55 roughly percent of women attractive you don't why would why is that interesting to you

00:29:09.720 you don't think that girls like guys that other girls like you know girls like guys that other girls like

00:29:17.320 yeah they guys like girls girls like guys that other girls like yeah because because you want 1.00

00:29:23.720 because it's a competition um i don't know because i don't i don't think i'd go for the girls that

00:29:30.520 the guys that other girls like there's a certain thing that i like about a man so so the thing that

00:29:39.240 you don't think most girls will if they know they can keep him like like if a girl could that's let's 1.00

00:29:45.160 this is an extreme example but drake how many girls are lined up to date drake nobody's thinking oh he

00:29:50.120 has too many girls around him yeah i guess yeah and but if girl and most girls if they thought they

00:29:55.720 could keep him and retain him they would hook up with drake yeah i know for sure yeah but the thing

00:30:00.600 is like a lot of girls know you'll be one of many yeah but most don't care they're okay with that 1.00

00:30:09.160 women that have a man of that state of drake status or whatever status it is they don't mind being

00:30:14.520 one of many because they because they know the deal because they know that other girls like him

00:30:19.400 yeah but that yeah that's part of his craft that's being an artist like that's the kind of hat you

00:30:23.080 have to put on your audience or your fans will like you but your one person is so if you so if we

00:30:28.680 if we now bring it to the quote unquote real world it happens here too so when women in the average woman 1.00

00:30:35.480 is looking at men she's looking for that top 20 guy when we ask women what type of man do you like 0.84

00:30:45.000 what does he need to have what does he need to have what does he have to look like women tend to 1.00

00:30:50.360 choose men in the top 20 so if if 80 of women or majority of women are choosing that top 20 of men

00:31:00.040 how many options that can change isn't it because what makes them the top 20 is a collection of things

00:31:07.400 right and those things can change those things are attractive to women oh okay so so they're 1.00

00:31:13.240 attractive to women so is that why the ratio is breaking down then because they're going for the 1.00

00:31:17.080 20 and then stuff changes because i i don't know because i'm just saying if those top 20 of men

00:31:23.640 have 80 of women to choose from so you girls are all going for numbers you girls are all going for 0.82

00:31:28.840 20 of men so if if if if 100 of women are going for 20 of men who has the options here so you women 0.99

00:31:35.720 yeah no i get exactly what you're saying but so you could easily pick so the thing about women is you 1.00

00:31:40.680 you go you women are not honest you don't pick the men that women other women don't find attractive 0.87

00:31:45.000 and you don't pick the men that other women don't want so there's loads of men when you think

00:31:48.440 about how many guys are out there you could easily pick one of these guys and they would worship your

00:31:52.760 feet they would be so happy yes that's what i want no but you don't you don't but you don't pick them

00:31:58.040 no you don't no you don't you don't because if you did right now you'd be married listen you'd be

00:32:02.440 married i just called off an engagement right oh whoa whoa whoa revelations yeah yeah yeah that's

00:32:08.120 what i'm saying don't get confused like my the the nice guy the sweet guy the guy that looks after his

00:32:13.480 mom the guy that doesn't have a lot of money you called it off i want to love you hang on you say

00:32:18.440 actually i have a question was it always that way so you said you're the nice guy the sweet guy

00:32:23.000 has it always been that way no the guy that i told you that he kissed another girl he was like

00:32:26.920 the cool guy like super super tall like yeah got all the swag when when would you say that switched

00:32:32.920 where you were looking for when did you start looking for the nice guy uh well sorry that's

00:32:38.680 difficult that guy that i just explained he came about because he saved me from a very bad guy who was

00:32:44.120 a fugly wuggly oh yeah so my type has like always been like i i don't know i'm attracted to like

00:32:52.600 uh the the not the not um uh typically or stereotypically beautiful men he was cute the

00:33:00.040 one you just showed me so when when you say you called off an engagement yeah so he was going to

00:33:04.680 engage he was going to propose one day like people let it slip and then i kept on hinting like i don't

00:33:08.920 think it's the right time it's not the right time it's not the right time yeah okay and then he

00:33:12.680 didn't like the rings there the ring still sitting in hatton gardens like after a while like i just

00:33:19.080 realized that it wasn't gonna work so why because there's just too much going on right yeah too too

00:33:25.800 much going on was he was he a good guy he wasn't a good guy so then why would you accept the ring then

00:33:33.000 it doesn't make any sense i didn't accept i know but i'm saying i called it off at the point of us

00:33:37.320 going to like look at rings i thought it would work and then the realization kicked in so i didn't

00:33:42.120 allow myself to what what you sound like to me is you sound like you've dated bad boys you've been

00:33:47.000 attracted to bad boys not not not the ones that would take you down the aisle and at some point

00:33:51.080 you realize actually i need to change what i'm doing yeah that's what i just said okay so so but

00:33:56.200 initially you're given so this is what women do right you spend the you spend your 20s to the point 1.00

00:34:01.720 when you're in your 30s chasing the wrong types of men then once you get to your 30s you realize

00:34:05.080 actually i shouldn't be doing this right and you've you've been chasing off chad and tyrone

00:34:10.120 and then your options start to diminish and at 30 you're like okay what the hell have i done but

00:34:13.960 in reality there would be men you're pretty woman there'd be men that would have taken you up that 0.90

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JustPearlyThings - October 26, 2023

Modern Women Gave EXCUSES For Marriage-less Relationships

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