Modern Women Gets OBSESSED with Men's Choice of Women
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how to deal with cheating in a relationship. We have a guest who had her husband cheat on her multiple times, and how she coped with it. We also have a woman who was cheated on multiple times by her husband, but stuck with him through it all.
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She provided me with enough evidence to prove that her,
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He just says every vagina, like, it's just a different vagina.
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And he's so pragmatic, so logical, so, like, we see the world...
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You're giving it away, it's right, you're giving it away.
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To be fair, when I met him, I was at war in Iraq,
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And then I think it was more the fact that we were both in the military,
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and so when you're both in the military, you have an understanding of being away.
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There was a lot of things that went into me ending up with my son's dad.
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One thing I just want to highlight, Pearl, you had a guest that was a Pakistani lady who had...
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And her father had an entire different family in Pakistan.
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That, to me, goes to the heart of the culture and sort of rooted, you know, values that certain people from different countries have.
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Here's a lady who's had a husband cheat on her a couple of times, I'm out.
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Here's another lady who had her husband have an entire different family in a different place.
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And that's the thing, like, Western women, we're not ride or dies.
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And especially, like, you didn't even emotionally cheat.
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Like, I don't think you could really expect monogamy.
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I don't think you can expect monogamy if you're not a virgin.
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Like, I think you deserve monogamy if you're a virgin, but if you're not, like,
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you're kind of cheating on your future husband.
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I think I deserve emotional stability, like, in the sense that it's the lies, the gaslighting,
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that, like, you know, as a woman, your intuition can pick up on certain things.
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And if you're being gaslit so many times and you're, like, hang on, am I going crazy?
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So for me, it's maybe if I even broke it down even deeper,
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was it the act of having sex with somebody that hurt me?
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Or was it all the lies and, like, the making me feel like I was crazy?
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Yeah, if you ask a question and they, like, there's just little things.
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Because there were so many times that it happened that it was, like,
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it wasn't the first, believe it, it wasn't the first time, so...
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What do you think you would have done if he just told you the truth from the start?
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Well, I've been in polyamorous relationships, so it's not like, like,
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after, as I've got older, I've understood the complexities of men
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and understood that sometimes if I'm not able to give my partner something
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that he potentially maybe can seek from somebody else,
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But if you take away my right of choice, like, choose, like,
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I get to choose whether I want to be, like, with, like, that person.
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And also, like, when it's polyamorous, it's very open,
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and you know who that person is, and the energies that are being brought into your home and stuff.
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After you had your son with him, what if he chose to say,
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look, I want this to be polyamorous now, how would you feel?
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It would have to be a discussion, I don't know, because...
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Yeah, but then that's not a discussion, that's just him telling me something.
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Maybe if, because polyamory works both ways, so maybe if I can...
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What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
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So maybe if I can have my emotional connection that he maybe wasn't giving me,
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all the deep conversations, maybe I can get that from somewhere else.
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Do you actually believe that, really, what you're saying to me?
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Do you believe that you would have actually given it a chance?
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Yeah, that was like, however many years ago, I'm a very different person today.
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The person you're talking to now is a very different person to who left when I was...
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Yeah, but back then, so say, you had your child together.
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So why did you have a son with him if you cheated?
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Yeah, why did you have a son with him if you cheated?
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Do you think that sex is to men what attention is to women?
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So I think they don't know how to be intimate on a...
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Do you think sex is to men what attention is to women?
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So would you argue that we cheat on men by having open Instagram accounts while in a relationship?
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I said, is sex to men what attention is to women?
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So could we argue that we cheat by having open Instagram accounts while in a relationship?
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So if you love attention, the dopamine rush that you get from all these likes and all this
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However, you're posting all these pictures and you're getting this dopamine rush and all
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these guys saying, oh my God, you're beautiful.
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Not like, I feel like you get stared at anyways everywhere that you go when you post on
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I mean, you're choosing to post on Instagram though.
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If you're not taking it beyond that, then I don't think it is cheating.
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You know, so that you can feel good and get attention.
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So you can, no, but if I forget about the attention, but you know.
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Well, then why don't you just take the picture on your camera roll and keep it there?
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No, because you feel, when you take a picture and you look at it, you feel, wow, like this
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would be good for my Instagram or I would post it.
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Because remember, the picture is to make you feel good.
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And what I'm not doing, I'm not trying to advocate for cheating.
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I just think we have to understand where the guys are coming from.
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We expect monogamy and we judge them for cheating, but yet we're not virgins.
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It's like, and then we're going to say, be faithful to me.
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So like, if it's a case of, you know what, I want to still do this open Instagram thing
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and you're in a relationship and he openly wants to go and have sex with other people.
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But the thing is, are most women ready for that conversation?
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I'm not on about getting back your, am I going to church and ask for it back?
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Because the thing is, I'm convinced that a lot of women like men that cheat, right?
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I'm actually convinced a lot of women like men that cheat.
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Because, because once they cheat, because I, okay.
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Because you, you, you, you openly choose men that you know are attractive to other women.
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You open, you, you, you, as a matter of fact, you negate all of the regular dudes.
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You negate the regular dudes and you go for the dudes that you know that all the other women want.
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But you feel special because you're like, I got him.
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However you feel, but you know that there, there are plenty of women that are going to be throwing their knickers and throwing their panties at this guy.
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And so you know that there is a potential for that guy to be in a situation where he's going to cheat because women find him attractive.
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So, so, so you don't choose men that are average looking, average earning and average height.
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You know that you choose men that are, you want to choose men that are above average in all of those categories.
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Guys, guys, would you date, would you, would you date a five, eight, slightly up?
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Would you date a five, eight, how much, what's the average salary here?
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I feel like no one's going to believe me, but I would.
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If someone approached me, I know you would have believed me.
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But if someone approached me and I felt like, you know, they've got a good vibe and they
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approached me in the right way and we got along, then that wouldn't automatically be a, nah.
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I'm hearing so much cap here that you should be wearing this.
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I've had friends that go for guys that are just like, not in that top percent.
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But I'm just giving an example that I've had friends and you're like, okay.
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This guy is just like, you know, she's gone for the below average guy.
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Women don't cheat, like cheat with average men.
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So if you ask girls, like you find this guy attractive.
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You know that there are men who are broke, homeless,
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We said one in three men in the last year have not had sex.
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Would you delete all social media if your partner asked?
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You need Instagram and Snapchat in a relationship?
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Isn't that where like people send each other like naked pictures to each other?
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I just want to throw this out there for the representative of the average guy.
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Although I learned a little bit more than that.
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One thing I do want to say that, yes, it is true that the 20% guys, which are pretty
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much these guys over here, uh, do get a lot of attention.
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I'm just, I'm just, I'm just, I'm just keeping it real.
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If you're out there, anyone out there who is 5'8", chubby and generally over the,
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If you're a, if you're a, if you're a, if you're a Charlie.
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When you say your mouth, are you talking about what comes out of it?
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You, you will have to have other assets, but there are people like myself.
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I found myself in my niche of, because there's a course of studies called the Pandora's box.
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And they did an assessment of women's psychologies and some women like the, the lover and those,
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And so depending on which camp you fall into, recognize where you are.
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And I've always been in the provider camp far more than the lover camp.
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No woman has looked at me and go, gotta have him.
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Uh, but they've been like, Oh, he makes a good husband.
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And so I can always swing that and, and, and, and, you know, be successful in my particular
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So there is hope and there is, but you gotta know, uh, you know, they said that for every,
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If you're fishing on Instagram and you're, you know, you're a five foot guy with, with 30,000 pounds as an average,
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and you're trying to pick up the, the, the hot Instagram models that may be out of your league.
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But yeah, find your fishing hole and you'll be very successful.
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I've had amazingly good looking women for my, I have punched way above my, I'm talking punched Mike Tyson level above my weight.
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And I even was shocked that this woman is having sex with me.
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I actually bottled it because I, I, I think this, there's a, there's a, there's a concept in PE, a pickup artistry called worthiness.
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I honestly, I was, I was, I was in a very different mind space.
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And I was like, you are unbelievably good looking for me.
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Banksy, um, and you can tell me if you don't want to answer this if it's online.
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Um, I mean, some things, but I mean, let's put it this way.
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If, if you're talking about the splits, it would be like 80, 20 me.
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She paid for like dinners occasionally because she was still the modern, although she was Iranian, she was still had enough of a modern British sort of values to say, look, I don't want you to pay for everything.
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So, but the thing is that's that if she didn't do that the first few times we went on a date, it would not be any further.
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So for me, it's like, I've got three date strategy.
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If she's not picking up a check or offering, more importantly, offering to pick up the second or third check.
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I know that this is going in a direction that I'm not going to.
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I just want to feel that this is, she's not just taking me for a ride.
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So it's like kind if you offer to like buy him dinner or something.
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I think it's masculine if you're like, I need to pay for everything.
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It's a good way of figuring out if someone's trying to use you.
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Because quite often what happens is, you know, you say there's a camp where women put men into the provider camp.
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And quite, I honestly think all women really want a lover.
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But depending on the situation they're in in their life, you know, they might need a provider.
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So I think a lot of men get used as providers, but she might be cheating with a lover.
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Or even if she's not cheating, she's wishing she was.
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And then she's treating the provider not very well.
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Well, women leave 70 to 80% of the time, 90% if she's college educated.
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And I think the, I don't want to misquote this, but I think the reasons that men file like tend to be along the lines of infidelity and abuse.
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Where women file, the number one reason is financial.
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Kevin Samuels did say that although something like 70, 80% of women file for divorce, if you're, if the man is earning below, I think I said $180,000, and if he's above $200,000, that drops to like 20%.
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If a man makes over a certain amount of money, yeah, I think it drops to 25%.
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Pearl, before we get to the second half of the show, we're going to read the super chats.
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And we can see what everybody thinks of what people have been saying.
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I'd like to say these are not my opinions, but they are the opinions of the chat.
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We're trying to hit a, I don't think we will, but you never know.
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We're trying to hit a million by New Year's, so you never know.
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A woman's job is to put you in a compromising position to find out if she is the best guy.
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EliteGamer876, no one wants us strong and independent.
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Most women hate cheating because they think they are special, that no man would dare cheat on her.
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If a woman is on Instagram and is in a relationship but posts sexy pics, like she's single, that's a form of cheating.
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You can have your past and your Instagram, but if we are together, then respect my sacrifice being with you.
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Cheating men is the hive mind short circuiting on itself.
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Can't put up with a cheating man, but 100% pre-selection certified.
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Bear, or Pearl, you'll be my number one bear bee.
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Either enjoy the life a successful man provides and accept that he has strayed or be self-righteous and live alone single forever.
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Vinny Valcone, the question is effing brilliant.
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Jonathan Farley, I went to Russia to get married when I met her.
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If you want to know what happened, search for my name, married to the Russian mob.
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There's a reason single mothers were scorned for all of human history except the last 30 years.
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Alex Oliveira, women, majority of the time, choose the man that is probably going to cheat on them.
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Plus, a submissive wife isn't the same thing as a slave.
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C. Dumbledore, it's all atone police if it's not flattering to women.
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But it's fine to say I don't want no scrubs when dissing men.
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C. Dumbledore, can you explain what feminine means?
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Nefarious, bro in the back with the cap is cold linked fax machine.
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He has real life example, adds a lot to the conversation.
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Numbers guy, going overseas without game only makes you a bigger mark than when you were at home.
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These women are in it for survival, not vanity and entitlement.
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C. Dumbledore, stepping in or out of a mindset is totally normal for women.
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Having one foot always out the door and an escape plan is just their NDA or their DNA.
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Duh truth, Filipina P went in on women bashing passports.
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Numbers guy, show idea, plain English only, no buzzwords.
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Numbers guy, Western culture is so pervasive that these passport bros need to become expat bros if they're serious about a lifelong partner.
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Numbers guy, zero, this is why Pierce can't get a good job.
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Let me refresh it real quick just to see if there's any more super chats.
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The L factor, there is no voice in the space for men who had to initiate divorce because of a bad wife.
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Chris, could you do a show titled Do Women, Do Modern Women Lack Empathy?
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No, but we've never done a show on like, you know, because they talk about 30% of men initiate divorce roughly.
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But, you know, a lot of them I don't think want to.
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It's just because like, you know, when one in four marriages are sexless, it's not like the wives are doing a great job.
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Like a lot of them I had one guy email me and he just basically because I get I get these stories all the time.
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But this is just one that came to mind where he's like, I make six figures.
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I love my wife, but I don't think I was her first choice because I have the kids and she stopped sleeping with me after like we had the kids.
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I want to stay married to her, but I don't know what to do.
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I don't want to cheat on her, but she's not sleeping with me.
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And every time I bring it up, she'll give me pity sex, which is like worse.
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Remember last week I said that men love idealistically and women love opportunistically.
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I think women love when the opportunity presents itself and which is why women have always got a man sniffing around their vagina somewhere because they're looking for the opportunity to get the better deal.
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Right, but listen, you see in regards to your man you were talking about, right?
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Hang on, you see in regards to your man you were talking about and you said he cheated a lot, right?
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But a man will have sex with a hole in the wall.
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Yeah, but they're saying they're not doing it because they're emotionally attached to the person that they're having sex with.
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Whereas a woman, if a woman's stepping out, it's different.
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If a woman cheats, then there is some kind of emotional attachment there.
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Whereas a lot of the time men cheat and they say it means nothing.
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But I think my ego, when I was younger, my ego couldn't deal with it.
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As I got older, removing my ego from the situation, I can objectively look at it and understand what you've just said.
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When I was like 18, 19, 20, I was like, no, you're not mine.
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No, a man could actually cheat on you and still love you.
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I heard that like some guys cheat and then treat their girlfriend better because they feel kind of bad.
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You should look at your side chick as an employee.
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And if someone, and then Andrew says, if a side girl says, I slept with your man, you should respond and say, I know.
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To Sara's point of men would have, I'll give you an example of men when it comes to sex.
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Well, not just corn, but one of my brother's friends was in the Navy.
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And there's an old Navy trick when men are out in the sea for a very long time.
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They pack a bunch of like liver, chicken liver, lamb liver into a jar and then have sex with the jar.
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So you've got to realize ladies, that is the point in which we're willing to go down to.
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But what I'm saying is that when a man cheats, you've got to realize that the person he's cheating with might as well be a jar of chicken.
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That is going to take us on to our second video.
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The second video is not, it's from Zoom to Thailand, so it's not, it shouldn't be.
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Let's play the second video, please, my friend.
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And today's question is, what do women think of men who leave their home countries to seek love in foreign lands?
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Well, apparently there's quite a war of words going on between a certain segment of Western women and men who pursue international relationships.
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It seems there's a lot of animosity against these guys with name calling and outrageous accusations.
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The conflict centers around a movement called the Passport Bros, who are typically black guys who have gotten fed up with the situation in the West and decided to look elsewhere for a happy life.
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Now, even though the Passport Bros are mostly African Americans, I think you'll recognize the same tactics being used to shame any guy who dares to dream of finding a better mate overseas.
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Passport Bros go to third world countries and purchase little girls and turn her into a breeding mare.
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Like, can you, I just see, I just see, I just see...
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It sounds like the guys just want to find greener pastures, and the women don't seem to like him very much anyway.
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Well, let's listen to how one woman describes the Passport Bros phenomenon.
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Apparently, there's a group of, you guessed it, black men who have grown weary of the, quote, control that black women have over them.
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So, they've decided to seek dominance elsewhere, and that's in the form of traveling to third world countries to seek a bride.
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