JustPearlyThings - November 26, 2023


Modern Women Gets OBSESSED with Men's Choice of Women

Topics
posting on Instagram average salary women and cheating in relationships
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
C. Dumbledore Pearl Kevin Samuels Snapchat Jonathan Farley Vinny Valcone Alex Oliveira Passport Bros Sunita Soto Mike Tyson Bear Betos Bear Hamas Best Buy Al May Banksy Pierce Andrew Birkin Mm-mm Jenny and 5 more
She Gets Destroyed for DEFENDING Women with Everything Types Of Women To Avoid In Miami

Episode Stats


Length

30 minutes

Words per minute

192.39

Word count

5,888

Sentence count

756

Harmful content

Misogyny

63

sentences flagged

Toxicity

54

sentences flagged

Hate speech

38

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode, we talk about cheating in relationships and how to deal with cheating in a relationship. We have a guest who had her husband cheat on her multiple times, and how she coped with it. We also have a woman who was cheated on multiple times by her husband, but stuck with him through it all.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Topics generated with Qwen2.5-3B-Instruct.
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 Anyway, I won't go too deep into it, but...
00:00:02.100 And what did he say about it?
00:00:04.400 He tries to deny it, obviously.
00:00:06.500 But we've been together...
00:00:08.000 And so you took her word over his?
00:00:10.600 She provided me with enough evidence to prove that her,
00:00:16.560 you know, truth to it.
00:00:18.060 And then eventually he was sending flowers.
00:00:20.560 Did you ask him why he cheated? 0.99
00:00:23.060 He just says every vagina, like, it's just a different vagina. 1.00
00:00:26.160 That was his response. 0.99
00:00:27.800 Do you believe him?
00:00:29.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, 100%.
00:00:30.800 You don't think it was actually emotional?
00:00:32.700 Not for... No.
00:00:34.000 I think with...
00:00:35.700 He's, like, so opposite to me.
00:00:38.000 He's, like, the opposite.
00:00:39.000 And he's so pragmatic, so logical, so, like, we see the world...
00:00:43.240 Isn't that what attracted you to him?
00:00:44.940 No, he's really funny.
00:00:47.460 No, I'm joking. He's really tall as well.
00:00:49.360 No, I'm joking. I was eight, I was eight.
00:00:51.560 You're giving it away, it's right, you're giving it away.
00:00:54.000 No, actually, to be fair, no, I actually...
00:00:56.300 It's the top 20.
00:00:57.300 To be fair, when I met him, I was at war in Iraq, 0.97
00:01:02.900 and it was fucking 50 degrees. 0.94
00:01:05.700 And then I think it was more the fact that we were both in the military, 0.98
00:01:08.940 and so when you're both in the military, you have an understanding of being away.
00:01:12.340 There was a lot of things that went into me ending up with my son's dad.
00:01:16.840 One thing I just want to highlight, Pearl, you had a guest that was a Pakistani lady who had... 1.00
00:01:22.480 And her father had an entire different family in Pakistan.
00:01:26.680 That, to me, goes to the heart of the culture and sort of rooted, you know, values that certain people from different countries have.
00:01:35.800 Here's a lady who's had a husband cheat on her a couple of times, I'm out. 1.00
00:01:40.800 Here's another lady who had her husband have an entire different family in a different place. 1.00
00:01:46.840 Did she know about it, though?
00:01:47.440 And still stuck with the relationship.
00:01:48.440 She didn't know about it.
00:01:49.640 And that's the thing, like, Western women, we're not ride or dies. 1.00
00:01:54.060 It's, like, one problem and we're out.
00:01:56.400 And especially, like, you didn't even emotionally cheat.
00:01:59.860 How do we expect...
00:02:01.060 Like, I don't think you could really expect monogamy.
00:02:02.900 I don't think he's not an emotional person.
00:02:04.300 I don't think you can expect monogamy if you're not a virgin.
00:02:06.900 Like, I think you deserve monogamy if you're a virgin, but if you're not, like,
00:02:10.100 you're kind of cheating on your future husband. 1.00
00:02:12.120 I think I deserve emotional stability, like, in the sense that it's the lies, the gaslighting,
00:02:18.820 that, like, you know, as a woman, your intuition can pick up on certain things.
00:02:22.320 And if you're being gaslit so many times and you're, like, hang on, am I going crazy?
00:02:26.620 Is it, like, is...
00:02:27.620 So for me, it's maybe if I even broke it down even deeper,
00:02:31.060 was it the act of having sex with somebody that hurt me? 0.63
00:02:33.960 Or was it all the lies and, like, the making me feel like I was crazy? 0.55
00:02:38.360 What lies was it?
00:02:40.180 Was it, like, you asking where he was?
00:02:42.980 Was it texts?
00:02:44.280 Yeah, if you ask a question and they, like, there's just little things.
00:02:48.120 Because there were so many times that it happened that it was, like,
00:02:50.780 it wasn't the first, believe it, it wasn't the first time, so...
00:02:53.480 What do you think you would have done if he just told you the truth from the start?
00:02:57.080 Would you have stuck around still?
00:02:58.080 Or do you think you still would have left?
00:02:59.480 Well, I've been in polyamorous relationships, so it's not like, like,
00:03:02.520 after, as I've got older, I've understood the complexities of men
00:03:05.620 and understood that sometimes if I'm not able to give my partner something
00:03:09.640 that he potentially maybe can seek from somebody else,
00:03:12.440 maybe I'm open to that.
00:03:13.840 I'm open to the conversation.
00:03:15.580 But if you take away my right of choice, like, choose, like,
00:03:19.880 I get to choose whether I want to be, like, with, like, that person.
00:03:24.180 And also, like, when it's polyamorous, it's very open,
00:03:26.920 and you know who that person is, and the energies that are being brought into your home and stuff.
00:03:31.420 After you had your son with him, what if he chose to say,
00:03:33.940 look, I want this to be polyamorous now, how would you feel?
00:03:36.440 It would have to be a discussion, I don't know, because...
00:03:39.340 Well, he's saying, I'm doing this, regardless.
00:03:41.480 Yeah, but then that's not a discussion, that's just him telling me something.
00:03:44.880 So you would have been out, basically?
00:03:46.780 No, I'd have the discussion.
00:03:48.380 I don't know how I would have felt in that.
00:03:50.280 Maybe if, because polyamory works both ways, so maybe if I can...
00:03:53.920 What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
00:03:56.120 So maybe if I can have my emotional connection that he maybe wasn't giving me,
00:04:00.340 all the deep conversations, maybe I can get that from somewhere else.
00:04:03.440 Do you actually believe that, really, what you're saying to me?
00:04:06.380 Do I believe in what?
00:04:07.880 Do you believe that you would have actually given it a chance?
00:04:10.180 100%, I wouldn't say, I would just say no.
00:04:12.380 Because, I mean, you did leave.
00:04:13.380 Yeah, that was like, however many years ago, I'm a very different person today.
00:04:16.580 The person you're talking to now is a very different person to who left when I was...
00:04:21.120 Yeah, but back then, so say, you had your child together.
00:04:23.920 Oh, no, I would have left.
00:04:25.020 Yeah.
00:04:25.620 I would have left.
00:04:26.520 So you said it was the lies, but...
00:04:29.940 No, because we...
00:04:31.540 Yeah, but he'd already lied at that point.
00:04:32.940 You're talking about...
00:04:34.280 Was he cheating before you had your child?
00:04:36.280 Listen, I said that.
00:04:37.880 Before you had your child, he was cheating.
00:04:38.980 I said that many times.
00:04:39.780 Do you think that sex is...
00:04:41.280 So why did you have a...
00:04:41.980 So why did you...
00:04:42.980 Do you think that...
00:04:43.580 So why did you have a son with him if you cheated?
00:04:44.980 Yeah, why did you have a son with him if you cheated? 0.73
00:04:45.780 Do you think that sex is to men what attention is to women? 0.60
00:04:51.520 I think men seek intimacy through sex. 0.98
00:04:54.920 So I think they don't know how to be intimate on a...
00:04:57.640 Like, in a different way.
00:04:59.040 Yes or no.
00:04:59.540 Yes or no.
00:05:00.140 Sorry, say that again.
00:05:02.140 Do you think sex is to men what attention is to women?
00:05:04.580 Yeah.
00:05:05.080 Yeah?
00:05:05.480 Yeah.
00:05:05.980 Yeah.
00:05:06.580 Yeah?
00:05:06.980 Yeah.
00:05:07.680 Okay.
00:05:08.280 So would you argue that we cheat on men by having open Instagram accounts while in a relationship?
00:05:13.180 Wait.
00:05:14.180 She's like, wait, what was the question?
00:05:17.480 I said, is sex to men what attention is to women?
00:05:21.420 You all said yes.
00:05:22.420 Please don't change it now.
00:05:23.420 Yeah.
00:05:24.340 So could we argue that we cheat by having open Instagram accounts while in a relationship?
00:05:31.540 No.
00:05:32.540 Posting first try.
00:05:34.040 Oh, no.
00:05:34.840 Having the men, like pictures.
00:05:37.780 No, because we just agree.
00:05:39.980 Understand the analogy.
00:05:41.100 They're the same.
00:05:42.000 They're the same.
00:05:42.600 Right?
00:05:43.200 Please don't go back.
00:05:44.000 Attention.
00:05:44.500 So women love attention. 1.00
00:05:49.160 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:49.780 And men love sex. 1.00
00:05:50.760 And men love sex. 1.00
00:05:51.320 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:51.720 Right?
00:05:52.160 So if you love attention, the dopamine rush that you get from all these likes and all this
00:05:58.020 stuff, right?
00:06:00.520 And imagine you've got a man.
00:06:02.180 Yeah.
00:06:02.620 Right?
00:06:03.240 However, you're posting all these pictures and you're getting this dopamine rush and all
00:06:06.220 these guys saying, oh my God, you're beautiful.
00:06:08.120 Oh my God, you're amazing.
00:06:09.980 Thank you.
00:06:10.640 Do you think that's the same as cheating?
00:06:12.640 No.
00:06:14.640 Emotionally, I do think so, yes.
00:06:15.920 I think everywhere you go, men look anyways.
00:06:18.720 Not like, I feel like you get stared at anyways everywhere that you go when you post on
00:06:25.200 Instagram.
00:06:26.080 So I don't think it's like cheating.
00:06:28.640 I just think it's the thing.
00:06:29.480 I mean, you're choosing to post on Instagram though.
00:06:31.200 Yeah, but how is that cheat though?
00:06:32.860 I mean, you're posting Instagram pictures.
00:06:34.340 If you're not taking it beyond that, then I don't think it is cheating.
00:06:38.180 Why are you posting on Instagram?
00:06:39.300 For what reason?
00:06:40.400 For yourself.
00:06:41.240 You know, so that you can feel good and get attention.
00:06:43.400 So you can, no, but if I forget about the attention, but you know.
00:06:45.620 Well, then why don't you just take the picture on your camera roll and keep it there?
00:06:48.200 And keep it, yeah.
00:06:48.620 No, because you feel, when you take a picture and you look at it, you feel, wow, like this
00:06:54.240 would be good for my Instagram or I would post it.
00:06:56.240 Yeah, but why?
00:06:56.740 So, okay.
00:06:58.120 So you put it on your Instagram.
00:06:59.360 Yeah.
00:06:59.860 So what would be the difference?
00:07:01.120 Because remember, the picture is to make you feel good.
00:07:03.500 Yeah.
00:07:04.500 So what would make you feel good on Instagram?
00:07:06.880 The likes, the comments.
00:07:07.880 Okay.
00:07:08.880 The attention.
00:07:09.880 Yeah.
00:07:10.880 Okay.
00:07:11.880 So we're back.
00:07:12.880 Right.
00:07:13.880 And what I'm not doing, I'm not trying to advocate for cheating.
00:07:16.260 I don't think it's okay.
00:07:17.260 I just think we have to understand where the guys are coming from.
00:07:20.260 We expect monogamy and we judge them for cheating, but yet we're not virgins.
00:07:25.260 Yet we have open Instagram accounts.
00:07:27.260 Yeah.
00:07:28.260 Yet we come in with a child.
00:07:29.260 It's like, and then we're going to say, be faithful to me.
00:07:31.260 And they're like, what?
00:07:32.260 But I think it should just be a discussion.
00:07:34.260 So like, if it's a case of, you know what, I want to still do this open Instagram thing
00:07:42.260 and you're in a relationship and he openly wants to go and have sex with other people.
00:07:46.260 It's the, have the conversation. 0.67
00:07:48.260 Yeah.
00:07:49.260 Like have that conversation.
00:07:50.260 Yeah.
00:07:51.260 But the thing is, hang on.
00:07:52.260 But the thing is, are most women ready for that conversation? 0.93
00:07:55.260 Mm-mm.
00:07:56.260 Hell no. 0.99
00:07:57.260 And plus you can't get back your virginity. 0.96
00:07:59.260 No, no.
00:08:00.260 I'm not on about getting back your, am I going to church and ask for it back?
00:08:04.260 Because the thing is, I'm convinced that a lot of women like men that cheat, right?
00:08:09.260 I'm actually convinced a lot of women like men that cheat.
00:08:11.260 Why?
00:08:12.260 Yeah.
00:08:13.260 Because, because once they cheat, because I, okay.
00:08:16.260 What?
00:08:17.260 Because you, you, you, you openly choose men that you know are attractive to other women.
00:08:23.260 You open, you, you, you, as a matter of fact, you negate all of the regular dudes.
00:08:28.260 You're like, uh, it's lame.
00:08:30.260 He's regular.
00:08:31.260 I don't like him.
00:08:32.260 Yes, you do.
00:08:33.260 Yes, you do.
00:08:34.260 You negate the regular dudes and you go for the dudes that you know that all the other women want. 1.00
00:08:42.260 But you feel special because you're like, I got him.
00:08:45.260 I got him.
00:08:46.260 Hang on, but hang on, but hang on.
00:08:48.260 However you feel, but you know that there, there are plenty of women that are going to be throwing their knickers and throwing their panties at this guy. 1.00
00:08:54.260 Right?
00:08:55.260 And so you know that there is a potential for that guy to be in a situation where he's going to cheat because women find him attractive.
00:09:04.260 So, so, so you don't choose men that are average looking, average earning and average height.
00:09:11.260 You know that you choose men that are, you want to choose men that are above average in all of those categories.
00:09:17.260 My son's dad was earning the same as me.
00:09:19.260 Okay, okay.
00:09:20.260 Let's, okay.
00:09:21.260 Guys, guys, would you date, would you, would you date a five, eight, slightly up?
00:09:24.260 Six, three.
00:09:25.260 Okay, okay.
00:09:26.260 Guys, would you date, wait, wait.
00:09:27.260 Would you date a five, eight, how much, what's the average salary here?
00:09:31.260 35,000?
00:09:32.260 35, 35, okay.
00:09:33.260 Okay.
00:09:34.260 Five, eight, $35,000, slightly overweight.
00:09:37.260 35 pounds, 35,000 pounds.
00:09:38.260 Oh, sorry.
00:09:39.260 Pounds.
00:09:40.260 35,000 pounds, slightly overweight guy.
00:09:42.260 I have, yeah.
00:09:43.260 Banksy.
00:09:44.260 Would you date Banksy back then?
00:09:46.260 No.
00:09:47.260 Would you date him?
00:09:48.260 Okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:09:49.260 So I have a question.
00:09:50.260 You said you have.
00:09:51.260 Why are you with him?
00:09:53.260 It depends what average is.
00:09:55.260 Okay.
00:09:56.260 35,000 pounds.
00:09:57.260 But I don't ask people.
00:09:58.260 I don't ask people what they earn.
00:09:59.260 Okay.
00:10:00.260 But you can roughly know based on his job.
00:10:02.260 Okay.
00:10:03.260 Based on his lifestyle.
00:10:04.260 You can make assumptions.
00:10:05.260 I have.
00:10:06.260 I have dated somebody.
00:10:07.260 Slightly overweight?
00:10:08.260 No, he went to the gym a lot.
00:10:10.260 Because I worked in the gym at the time.
00:10:11.260 Okay.
00:10:12.260 So there.
00:10:13.260 He wasn't average.
00:10:14.260 Above average.
00:10:15.260 Okay.
00:10:16.260 No?
00:10:17.260 She already said no.
00:10:18.260 Maybe.
00:10:19.260 No, no.
00:10:20.260 I feel like no one's going to believe me, but I would.
00:10:25.260 Because depending on how he treats me.
00:10:26.260 Is that your man right now?
00:10:28.260 Sure.
00:10:29.260 Does your man fit that aesthetic right now?
00:10:30.260 No.
00:10:31.260 Describe your man right now.
00:10:32.260 I'm not.
00:10:33.260 I would not.
00:10:34.260 I would not shut that down.
00:10:35.260 We don't believe you.
00:10:36.260 If someone approached me, I know you would have believed me.
00:10:37.260 We don't believe you.
00:10:38.260 But if someone approached me and I felt like, you know, they've got a good vibe and they
00:10:42.260 approached me in the right way and we got along, then that wouldn't automatically be a, nah.
00:10:46.260 I'm hearing so much cap here that you should be wearing this.
00:10:49.260 And I've had friends.
00:10:50.260 I've had friends that go for guys that are just like, not in that top percent.
00:10:55.260 We're talking about your friends.
00:10:56.260 We're talking about you.
00:10:57.260 We're talking about you.
00:10:58.260 You're talking about me.
00:10:59.260 But I'm just giving an example that I've had friends and you're like, okay.
00:11:03.260 This guy is just like, you know, she's gone for the below average guy.
00:11:07.260 Is she still with him?
00:11:08.260 What not?
00:11:09.260 And he cheated.
00:11:10.260 And everyone was like.
00:11:11.260 But then he's not average.
00:11:12.260 Something about him is above average.
00:11:14.260 Women don't cheat, like cheat with average men. 1.00
00:11:17.260 You might have charm or charisma or something.
00:11:19.260 Yeah.
00:11:20.260 It might be funny.
00:11:21.260 Wait, wait.
00:11:22.260 Women find 80% of men unattractive. 1.00
00:11:24.260 So if you ask girls, like you find this guy attractive.
00:11:27.260 They did this thousands of times.
00:11:29.260 They took data from dating apps.
00:11:30.260 Women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00
00:11:32.260 So if he can cheat.
00:11:33.260 Men swipe when? 0.96
00:11:34.260 You know how hard it is for guys to get sex? 0.52
00:11:36.260 Is it 43% that men swipe? 0.90
00:11:38.260 Yeah.
00:11:39.260 Roughly 45%.
00:11:40.260 Yeah.
00:11:41.260 And you women know, right? 1.00
00:11:42.260 You women know. 1.00
00:11:43.260 You women. 1.00
00:11:44.260 You know that there are men who are broke, homeless, 1.00
00:11:48.260 slinging dick. 1.00
00:11:50.260 And still cheat. 1.00
00:11:51.260 But they're broken homeless. 1.00
00:11:52.260 And they're slinging dick. 1.00
00:11:53.260 Because there's something about them. 1.00
00:11:55.260 Because they fit an aesthetic.
00:11:57.260 Right?
00:11:58.260 But there are guys who are stable.
00:12:00.260 Yeah?
00:12:01.260 They've got an average wage.
00:12:03.260 Who ain't getting no play.
00:12:05.260 We said one in three men in the last year have not had sex.
00:12:08.260 That's crazy.
00:12:09.260 I have a question.
00:12:10.260 Just show of hands.
00:12:11.260 Would you delete all social media if your partner asked?
00:12:15.260 Yeah.
00:12:16.260 Yes or yes is raise your hand.
00:12:17.260 I actually knew it was going to be that.
00:12:18.260 I knew it.
00:12:19.260 I knew it was going to be that.
00:12:20.260 That was so obvious.
00:12:21.260 But when I was 18. 1.00
00:12:22.260 Are you crazy? 0.97
00:12:23.260 When I was 18. 0.96
00:12:24.260 When I was 18.
00:12:25.260 When I was 18.
00:12:26.260 When I was 18.
00:12:27.260 When I was 18.
00:12:28.260 When I was 18.
00:12:29.260 When I was 18.
00:12:30.260 When I was 18.
00:12:31.260 When I was 18.
00:12:32.260 When I was 18.
00:12:33.260 I was like.
00:12:34.260 Yeah.
00:12:35.260 I mean, yeah.
00:12:36.260 You know what?
00:12:37.260 Because I just.
00:12:38.260 Yeah.
00:12:39.260 I just want to throw this in as.
00:12:40.260 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:12:41.260 You need Instagram and Snapchat in a relationship?
00:12:42.260 Snapchat.
00:12:43.260 Yeah.
00:12:44.260 Snapchat.
00:12:45.260 Isn't that where like people send each other like naked pictures to each other?
00:12:46.260 No.
00:12:47.260 Isn't that what Snapchat is?
00:12:48.260 No.
00:12:49.260 She's like.
00:12:50.260 No.
00:12:51.260 I don't have that.
00:12:52.260 I can't believe people still use Snapchat.
00:12:53.260 People do it to cheat.
00:12:54.260 It's a young person.
00:12:55.260 My daughter has Snapchat.
00:12:56.260 Yeah.
00:12:57.260 It's a young person for that.
00:12:58.260 I just want to throw this out there for the representative of the average guy.
00:12:59.260 Although I learned a little bit more than that.
00:13:00.260 I would.
00:13:01.260 You would date it.
00:13:02.260 I would.
00:13:03.260 You would date it.
00:13:04.260 I would.
00:13:05.260 You would date it.
00:13:06.260 I would.
00:13:07.260 I would date it.
00:13:08.260 But.
00:13:09.260 Uh oh.
00:13:10.260 I love connection.
00:13:11.260 One thing I do want to say that, yes, it is true that the 20% guys, which are pretty 0.79
00:13:25.120 much these guys over here, uh, do get a lot of attention. 0.96
00:13:28.260 No, no, no, no, but it sucks. 0.97
00:13:30.260 Stop it. 0.59
00:13:31.260 I'm just, I'm just, I'm just, I'm just keeping it real.
00:13:35.260 Uh, but it is not a lost cause.
00:13:38.260 If you're out there, anyone out there who is 5'8", chubby and generally over the,
00:13:43.260 over the hill.
00:13:44.260 No.
00:13:45.260 If you're a, if you're a, if you're a, if you're a Charlie.
00:13:47.260 If anybody wants.
00:13:48.260 Hold on.
00:13:49.260 Hold on.
00:13:50.260 Hold on.
00:13:51.260 Hold on.
00:13:52.260 I see what he's doing.
00:13:53.260 He's playing a charm card.
00:13:54.260 Let him speak.
00:13:55.260 Let him speak.
00:13:56.260 Let him speak.
00:13:57.260 Let him speak.
00:13:58.260 Let him speak.
00:13:59.260 Let him speak.
00:14:00.260 Your mouth can play a big part.
00:14:01.260 It's everything.
00:14:02.260 Hang on.
00:14:03.260 When you say your mouth, are you talking about what comes out of it?
00:14:04.260 Yes.
00:14:05.260 Yes.
00:14:06.260 It's what you can say.
00:14:07.260 I mean, don't get me wrong.
00:14:08.260 You can never talk a 10 into, into a bedroom. 0.60
00:14:11.260 You, you will have to have other assets, but there are people like myself.
00:14:15.260 I found myself in my niche of, because there's a course of studies called the Pandora's box.
00:14:20.260 And they did an assessment of women's psychologies and some women like the, the lover and those,
00:14:26.260 uh, who go for the provider.
00:14:28.260 And so depending on which camp you fall into, recognize where you are.
00:14:31.260 And I've always been in the provider camp far more than the lover camp.
00:14:34.260 No woman has looked at me and go, gotta have him.
00:14:37.260 Uh, but they've been like, Oh, he makes a good husband.
00:14:40.260 He'll probably make a good, uh, father.
00:14:42.260 Right.
00:14:43.260 And so I can always swing that and, and, and, and, you know, be successful in my particular
00:14:48.260 turf.
00:14:49.260 So there is hope and there is, but you gotta know, uh, you know, they said that for every,
00:14:54.260 um, fisherman, there's a fishing hole.
00:14:56.260 Find your fishing hole and fish in your pond.
00:15:00.260 You'll be successful all the time.
00:15:02.260 If you're fishing on Instagram and you're, you know, you're a five foot guy with, with 30,000 pounds as an average,
00:15:08.260 and you're trying to pick up the, the, the hot Instagram models that may be out of your league.
00:15:13.260 Just go to the pub.
00:15:14.260 But yeah, find your fishing hole and you'll be very successful.
00:15:17.260 I've had amazingly good looking women for my, I have punched way above my, I'm talking punched Mike Tyson level above my weight. 1.00
00:15:25.260 And I even was shocked that this woman is having sex with me. 1.00
00:15:29.260 And I'm like, you need to start like a school. 0.98
00:15:34.260 But was she your wife though?
00:15:36.260 Did she end up your wife though?
00:15:38.260 Um, she, we were working towards that.
00:15:40.260 I'll be honest.
00:15:41.260 I actually bottled it.
00:15:42.260 I actually bottled it because I, I, I think this, there's a, there's a, there's a concept in PE, a pickup artistry called worthiness.
00:15:49.260 And I felt I wasn't worthy of this woman.
00:15:52.260 I honestly, I was, I was, I was in a very different mind space.
00:15:56.260 And do you think she felt that as well?
00:15:58.260 She felt that as well.
00:15:59.260 She wanted to get married.
00:16:00.260 She wanted us to move in.
00:16:01.260 And I was like, you are unbelievably good looking for me.
00:16:06.260 Banksy, um, and you can tell me if you don't want to answer this if it's online.
00:16:10.260 Um, cause she looks at you as a provider. 0.96
00:16:13.260 Absolutely.
00:16:14.260 Uh, were you paying for everything?
00:16:17.260 Um, I mean, some things, but I mean, let's put it this way.
00:16:21.260 If, if you're talking about the splits, it would be like 80, 20 me.
00:16:24.260 I would, I would book things.
00:16:26.260 She paid for like dinners occasionally because she was still the modern, although she was Iranian, she was still had enough of a modern British sort of values to say, look, I don't want you to pay for everything. 0.98
00:16:35.260 Yeah.
00:16:36.260 I'll pay for this one.
00:16:37.260 Yeah.
00:16:38.260 So, but the thing is that's that if she didn't do that the first few times we went on a date, it would not be any further.
00:16:44.260 Okay.
00:16:45.260 So for me, it's like, I've got three date strategy.
00:16:48.260 If she's not picking up a check or offering, more importantly, offering to pick up the second or third check.
00:16:54.260 I know that this is going in a direction that I'm not going to.
00:16:57.260 Good man.
00:16:58.260 But isn't that in her masculine energy though?
00:17:00.260 No.
00:17:01.260 That's just a question.
00:17:03.260 It's just a question.
00:17:04.260 It's just an actual question.
00:17:05.260 It's a reciprocity sort of process.
00:17:07.260 I just want to feel that this is, she's not just taking me for a ride.
00:17:10.260 I'm not just some pay pig.
00:17:12.260 Femininity is being kind. 1.00
00:17:15.260 Yeah.
00:17:16.260 So it's like kind if you offer to like buy him dinner or something.
00:17:19.260 I think it's masculine if you're like, I need to pay for everything. 1.00
00:17:22.260 No.
00:17:23.260 But if you're like, baby, let me get it.
00:17:24.260 Yeah.
00:17:25.260 With his back card.
00:17:26.260 It's a good way of figuring out if someone's trying to use you.
00:17:34.260 Because quite often what happens is, you know, you say there's a camp where women put men into the provider camp. 0.88
00:17:41.260 Or they put them into the lover camp.
00:17:44.260 And quite, I honestly think all women really want a lover.
00:17:49.260 But depending on the situation they're in in their life, you know, they might need a provider.
00:17:54.260 So I think a lot of men get used as providers, but she might be cheating with a lover. 1.00
00:17:59.260 That's the exact fact.
00:18:00.260 Or even if she's not cheating, she's wishing she was.
00:18:03.260 And then she's treating the provider not very well.
00:18:07.260 Yeah.
00:18:08.260 You know, and eventually divorces him. 0.96
00:18:10.260 Like what's the snout on divorce?
00:18:12.260 Well, women leave 70 to 80% of the time, 90% if she's college educated. 0.99
00:18:17.260 And I think the, I don't want to misquote this, but I think the reasons that men file like tend to be along the lines of infidelity and abuse.
00:18:24.260 Where women file, the number one reason is financial. 1.00
00:18:27.260 I know.
00:18:28.260 Well, there you have it folks.
00:18:29.260 That's crazy.
00:18:30.260 Yeah?
00:18:31.260 Yeah.
00:18:32.260 Kevin Samuels did say that although something like 70, 80% of women file for divorce, if you're, if the man is earning below, I think I said $180,000, and if he's above $200,000, that drops to like 20%.
00:18:47.260 Yeah.
00:18:48.260 Yes.
00:18:49.260 That's true.
00:18:50.260 If a man makes over a certain amount of money, yeah, I think it drops to 25%.
00:18:54.260 Yeah.
00:18:55.260 Pearl, before we get to the second half of the show, we're going to read the super chats.
00:18:59.260 It's super chat time.
00:19:00.260 And we can see what everybody thinks of what people have been saying.
00:19:04.260 Let's read the super chats.
00:19:05.260 Okay.
00:19:06.260 I'd like to say these are not my opinions, but they are the opinions of the chat.
00:19:09.260 That's right.
00:19:10.260 Also, guys, like the video, subscribe to the channel.
00:19:14.260 We are very close to 750,000 subscribers.
00:19:18.260 We're trying to hit a, I don't think we will, but you never know.
00:19:22.260 You know, shoot high.
00:19:23.260 We're trying to hit a million by New Year's, so you never know.
00:19:26.260 Okay.
00:19:27.260 Q-dub. 1.00
00:19:28.260 A woman's job is to put you in a compromising position to find out if she is the best guy. 1.00
00:19:36.260 Don't cry.
00:19:37.260 If you do so, it's only for emergency.
00:19:40.260 Only, wait, is this from yesterday?
00:19:44.260 Can modern women be met? 1.00
00:19:45.260 Hold on.
00:19:46.260 I think I got to refresh this.
00:19:47.260 That sounds familiar.
00:19:48.260 Yeah.
00:19:49.260 I was like, I think I read this one.
00:19:50.260 I think I'll watch it this morning.
00:19:51.260 Hold on.
00:19:52.260 Hold on.
00:19:53.260 Hold on.
00:19:54.260 I didn't refresh the page, guys.
00:19:55.260 I'm sorry.
00:19:56.260 Okay.
00:19:57.260 EliteGamer876, no one wants us strong and independent.
00:20:00.260 We want feminine and confident.
00:20:02.260 Ninety, a frito pie.
00:20:04.260 Most women hate cheating because they think they are special, that no man would dare cheat on her. 1.00
00:20:10.260 Women don't look for love. 1.00
00:20:11.260 They look for the perfect picture.
00:20:13.260 If a woman is on Instagram and is in a relationship but posts sexy pics, like she's single, that's a form of cheating. 0.98
00:20:20.260 Ninety, frito pie.
00:20:21.260 Most men want women to be grateful.
00:20:23.260 That's it.
00:20:24.260 You can have your past and your Instagram, but if we are together, then respect my sacrifice being with you.
00:20:32.260 Auntie Jenny, I read your question earlier.
00:20:35.260 First guy's hero.
00:20:36.260 Cheating men is the hive mind short circuiting on itself.
00:20:39.260 Can't put up with a cheating man, but 100% pre-selection certified.
00:20:43.260 I'm the naughty bear.
00:20:44.260 Bear, or Pearl, you'll be my number one bear bee. 0.97
00:20:48.260 We'll take a vacation.
00:20:49.260 You choose.
00:20:50.260 Bear Betos, Bear Hamas, or Bear Hamas. 0.76
00:20:54.260 Okay.
00:20:56.260 Elite Gamer876, make a decision, ladies.
00:21:01.260 Either enjoy the life a successful man provides and accept that he has strayed or be self-righteous and live alone single forever.
00:21:08.260 Vinny Valcone, the question is effing brilliant.
00:21:12.260 Jonathan Farley, I went to Russia to get married when I met her.
00:21:16.260 I was 43 and she was only 20.
00:21:17.260 If you want to know what happened, search for my name, married to the Russian mob. 0.99
00:21:22.260 C. Dumbledore, me, me, me, me, me.
00:21:25.260 There's a reason single mothers were scorned for all of human history except the last 30 years. 1.00
00:21:29.260 Alex Oliveira, women, majority of the time, choose the man that is probably going to cheat on them. 1.00
00:21:34.260 Plus, a submissive wife isn't the same thing as a slave. 1.00
00:21:37.260 Shout out from Brazil, Pearl. 0.99
00:21:40.260 Ali M., thoughts on having a few wives.
00:21:43.260 I'm down for it.
00:21:44.260 Look at me and Jess are sister wives. 1.00
00:21:46.260 Sister wives. 0.73
00:21:47.260 Two for one deal.
00:21:48.260 Two for one special.
00:21:49.260 Two for one special, we're on sale.
00:21:51.260 C. Dumbledore, it's all atone police if it's not flattering to women.
00:21:56.260 But it's fine to say I don't want no scrubs when dissing men.
00:22:00.260 This woman's son is absolutely doomed. 0.65
00:22:03.260 D-Mac, these tattoos bring zero sex appeal. 0.76
00:22:08.260 C. Dumbledore, can you explain what feminine means?
00:22:12.260 Your Honor, the men rust our case.
00:22:14.260 Four generations of women lost to history. 1.00
00:22:16.260 Nefarious, bro in the back with the cap is cold linked fax machine.
00:22:21.260 He has real life example, adds a lot to the conversation.
00:22:25.260 Numbers guy, going overseas without game only makes you a bigger mark than when you were at home.
00:22:29.260 These women are in it for survival, not vanity and entitlement. 1.00
00:22:33.260 C. Dumbledore, stepping in or out of a mindset is totally normal for women. 1.00
00:22:37.260 Being a chameleon is a survival skill.
00:22:39.260 Having one foot always out the door and an escape plan is just their NDA or their DNA.
00:22:46.260 Duh truth, Filipina P went in on women bashing passports. 1.00
00:22:52.260 Numbers guy, show idea, plain English only, no buzzwords.
00:22:56.260 Numbers guy, Western culture is so pervasive that these passport bros need to become expat bros if they're serious about a lifelong partner. 0.97
00:23:06.260 Joe Pio, Sarah messed up, round two, let's go.
00:23:09.260 Like the video.
00:23:10.260 Numbers guy, zero, this is why Pierce can't get a good job.
00:23:13.260 Let me refresh it real quick just to see if there's any more super chats.
00:23:19.260 Guys, make sure you subscribe.
00:23:21.260 We're really close to $750K.
00:23:23.260 Really close.
00:23:24.260 The L, yeah, so close I thought we hit it.
00:23:26.260 The L factor, there is no voice in the space for men who had to initiate divorce because of a bad wife. 0.56
00:23:33.260 90 free toe pie.
00:23:35.260 Please look up Sunita Soto.
00:23:37.260 She burned her boyfriend's house. 0.84
00:23:39.260 Chris, could you do a show titled Do Women, Do Modern Women Lack Empathy?
00:23:45.260 Oh, that'd be a good show.
00:23:46.260 Maybe.
00:23:47.260 DM me, remind me.
00:23:48.260 We've done divorce last week.
00:23:49.260 We were talking about we don't do divorce.
00:23:51.260 We've done divorce last week, right?
00:23:53.260 No, but we've never done a show on like, you know, because they talk about 30% of men initiate divorce roughly.
00:24:00.260 Right.
00:24:01.260 But, you know, a lot of them I don't think want to.
00:24:04.260 It's just because like, you know, when one in four marriages are sexless, it's not like the wives are doing a great job. 0.94
00:24:13.260 Like a lot of them I had one guy email me and he just basically because I get I get these stories all the time.
00:24:19.260 But this is just one that came to mind where he's like, I make six figures.
00:24:23.260 I love my wife, but I don't think I was her first choice because I have the kids and she stopped sleeping with me after like we had the kids. 1.00
00:24:31.260 She's a good wife. 1.00
00:24:32.260 I want to stay married to her, but I don't know what to do.
00:24:34.260 Like these girls flirt with me all the time. 1.00
00:24:36.260 They hit on me all the time.
00:24:37.260 I don't want to cheat on her, but she's not sleeping with me. 0.98
00:24:40.260 And every time I bring it up, she'll give me pity sex, which is like worse. 0.91
00:24:44.260 Remember last week I said that men love idealistically and women love opportunistically. 0.67
00:24:52.260 Yeah, you know, and I totally believe that. 0.98
00:24:54.260 I think women love when the opportunity presents itself and which is why women have always got a man sniffing around their vagina somewhere because they're looking for the opportunity to get the better deal. 1.00
00:25:09.260 Listen, men, no, but you remember, okay. 0.99
00:25:14.260 Right, but listen, you see in regards to your man you were talking about, right?
00:25:19.260 Just in general.
00:25:20.260 Hang on, you see in regards to your man you were talking about and you said he cheated a lot, right?
00:25:24.260 Or he cheated a couple of times.
00:25:25.260 He wasn't trying to leave you, was he?
00:25:27.260 No, he still wanted to get back with me.
00:25:29.260 And that's the point.
00:25:30.260 When women step out, they're stepping out. 1.00
00:25:33.260 They're going.
00:25:34.260 They're going to leave.
00:25:36.260 Especially if he'll have them.
00:25:39.260 If the guy will actually.
00:25:40.260 If the guy will have them. 0.99
00:25:41.260 But a man will have sex with a hole in the wall. 1.00
00:25:43.260 Like a man will have sex. 1.00
00:25:46.260 It doesn't matter. 0.98
00:25:47.260 Visually.
00:25:48.260 Yeah, but they're saying they're not doing it because they're emotionally attached to the person that they're having sex with.
00:25:53.260 Whereas a woman, if a woman's stepping out, it's different. 1.00
00:25:55.260 She's looking for a better opportunity. 0.87
00:25:57.260 Yeah.
00:25:58.260 I agree with you on that.
00:25:59.260 It's usually on an emotional level.
00:26:00.260 If a woman cheats, then there is some kind of emotional attachment there.
00:26:03.260 100%.
00:26:04.260 Whereas a lot of the time men cheat and they say it means nothing.
00:26:07.260 It's a hole.
00:26:08.260 It's a hole.
00:26:09.260 It's a hole.
00:26:10.260 It's a hole.
00:26:11.260 She meant nothing to me.
00:26:12.260 Do you believe that though?
00:26:13.260 Do you believe that?
00:26:14.260 That's why it's more insidious actually.
00:26:15.260 But I think my ego, when I was younger, my ego couldn't deal with it.
00:26:18.260 As I got older, removing my ego from the situation, I can objectively look at it and understand what you've just said.
00:26:28.260 When I was like 18, 19, 20, I was like, no, you're not mine.
00:26:31.260 I was very claiming.
00:26:32.260 You cheated on me because you didn't love me.
00:26:33.260 No, a man could actually cheat on you and still love you.
00:26:35.260 Because of my emotions.
00:26:36.260 Because my emotions were in it.
00:26:38.260 I heard that like some guys cheat and then treat their girlfriend better because they feel kind of bad.
00:26:43.260 In that case, you should thank the side chick. 0.99
00:26:47.260 Thank you.
00:26:48.260 No, that's what Kevin Samuels said.
00:26:49.260 You should look at your side chick as an employee. 0.90
00:26:52.260 And if someone, and then Andrew says, if a side girl says, I slept with your man, you should respond and say, I know.
00:26:59.260 I know.
00:27:00.260 He just bought me a Birkin.
00:27:02.260 You know what I'm saying?
00:27:03.260 He's doing a good job.
00:27:04.260 Yeah, thank you.
00:27:05.260 Actually, that kind of hurt.
00:27:06.260 I got Moby though.
00:27:07.260 See?
00:27:08.260 There you go.
00:27:09.260 I sold it.
00:27:10.260 To Sara's point of men would have, I'll give you an example of men when it comes to sex. 0.95
00:27:16.260 Because you worked in corn, right?
00:27:17.260 Well, not just corn, but one of my brother's friends was in the Navy.
00:27:22.260 And there's an old Navy trick when men are out in the sea for a very long time. 0.82
00:27:26.260 They pack a bunch of like liver, chicken liver, lamb liver into a jar and then have sex with the jar. 1.00
00:27:33.260 So you've got to realize ladies, that is the point in which we're willing to go down to. 0.94
00:27:37.260 Chicken liver.
00:27:38.260 But what I'm saying is that when a man cheats, you've got to realize that the person he's cheating with might as well be a jar of chicken.
00:27:55.260 That's wild.
00:27:56.260 That's not, that's as bad as that.
00:27:58.260 That is going to take us on to our second video.
00:28:00.260 Where's the second video from?
00:28:01.260 The second video is not, it's from Zoom to Thailand, so it's not, it shouldn't be.
00:28:10.260 Okay.
00:28:11.260 Okay.
00:28:12.260 I think that should be fine.
00:28:13.260 Yeah, that should be fine.
00:28:14.260 Blessing.
00:28:15.260 Let's play the second video, please, my friend.
00:28:17.260 Ladies and gents, have a look at this. 0.99
00:28:18.260 I've seen this.
00:28:19.260 Oh, hang on.
00:28:20.260 I think I've seen it as well.
00:28:21.260 Oh, those girls are like, I'll steal you, man. 1.00
00:28:25.260 Be here.
00:28:26.260 And today's question is, what do women think of men who leave their home countries to seek love in foreign lands?
00:28:33.260 Well, apparently there's quite a war of words going on between a certain segment of Western women and men who pursue international relationships.
00:28:42.260 It seems there's a lot of animosity against these guys with name calling and outrageous accusations.
00:28:48.260 The conflict centers around a movement called the Passport Bros, who are typically black guys who have gotten fed up with the situation in the West and decided to look elsewhere for a happy life.
00:29:00.260 Now, even though the Passport Bros are mostly African Americans, I think you'll recognize the same tactics being used to shame any guy who dares to dream of finding a better mate overseas. 0.99
00:29:12.260 So, what are these women saying about the man? 0.99
00:29:15.260 Passport Bros go to third world countries and purchase little girls and turn her into a breeding mare. 0.87
00:29:23.260 They're little girls. 0.99
00:29:25.260 You're sick. 0.97
00:29:26.260 Hey! 0.99
00:29:27.260 Who are you calling a little girl from us?
00:29:29.260 Hi!
00:29:30.260 Majestic creature.
00:29:31.260 Oh, oh, oh.
00:29:36.260 Wow.
00:29:37.260 Like, can you, I just see, I just see, I just see...
00:29:42.260 Hang on, let's go, let's keep going.
00:29:43.260 Let's keep going.
00:29:44.260 Yeah, keep going, keep going.
00:29:45.260 Oh, I thought it was over.
00:29:46.260 Go ahead.
00:29:47.260 It sounds like the guys just want to find greener pastures, and the women don't seem to like him very much anyway.
00:29:52.260 So, what's the problem?
00:29:53.260 Well, let's listen to how one woman describes the Passport Bros phenomenon.
00:29:59.260 Black women, are you ready? 1.00
00:30:01.260 Apparently, there's a group of, you guessed it, black men who have grown weary of the, quote, control that black women have over them. 1.00
00:30:09.260 So, they've decided to seek dominance elsewhere, and that's in the form of traveling to third world countries to seek a bride. 0.94
00:30:17.260 What's at play here is that these...
00:30:20.260 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
00:30:28.260 If you want to help, please consider sending a super thanks below.
00:30:32.260 Every donation helps, and it helps make what we do possible.