JustPearlyThings - Modern Women GOT SCHOOLED on Men's NATURE

00:00:00.000 it is black and white so so listen to this and this is why i say women love love the street so

00:00:03.680 much because because you have a man that's prepared to to marry you he's prepared to

00:00:08.320 literally take you on as his wife all the things you've been talking about for the last 10 years

00:00:11.920 you haven't had and the simple thing he says is you've got an ex that used to blow your back out

00:00:15.680 i don't want them around you no more like no no but this is how men think you want me to talk 0.96

00:00:19.520 about how this is how we think we think some okay this is how some men think but the types of men

00:00:24.880 you are attracted to think like that because if not you would have picked one of these guys in

00:00:28.080 your comments on your dms for years i've won it uh no that's desperate i would never see you're

00:00:33.280 doing it again this is you haven't given them a chance because these are the guys you do you don't

00:00:37.040 see you don't see these guys but the guys you do see are the ones that speak like this and think like

00:00:41.520 this i'm being honest with you and if you want to look at it look at it as this is new information

00:00:46.560 you've never heard before take it in as new information i am unless you're willing to go

00:00:51.280 for the guys which you'd never look at these are the guys which will let you have him as a friend

00:00:55.440 because they've been trying to try to take you out for years and they want to see you the types

00:00:58.880 of guys that meet you and they speak like me they would never allow him to be your friend they'll

00:01:03.200 just say look that's your boy you can if you see him that's cool but all of that stuff cuts off now

00:01:07.120 that i'm involved i think the bigger issue is that he might be cool with it he might not but the whole

00:01:11.920 point is that his girl won't listen to him facts that's the big problem right there as far as i'm 0.96

00:01:15.760 concerned you know he might be called he might meet the guy and say yeah you know i respect your

00:01:20.080 relationship but if he turns around and says i'm not comfortable with it and the girlfriend turns around and says

00:01:24.800 she's not going to listen to him she doesn't respect him and she doesn't value the relationship

00:01:28.720 enough you know that's that's the message the moment a girl says that to me bro i can't lie like

00:01:32.880 yeah she's single man yeah so what you are saying yeah basically that if your girl said that she had

00:01:37.600 a friend that is an ex but she would like to bring him around you though you would feel some type of

00:01:42.480 way because me personally if my girl that i'm seeing said that she has a friend and she doesn't

00:01:46.080 mind bringing me around him then it's like it proves to me that there's not really nothing to hide what it

00:01:51.840 proves yeah because that you're around me 24 like me i i like my girl to be around me 24 7 so if she 0.56

00:01:57.040 now then brings the like they're not there i'm not expecting them to be close because me and i don't

00:02:01.360 speak every single day and i'm phoning her 24 7 because that's how you are making it seem no but

00:02:05.840 you're fighting for it like you do that if this is just a thing where so for example if you guys were

00:02:10.000 friends and you might occasionally bump into each other and you know you know maybe a family barbecue or

00:02:15.920 we don't even have to have this conversation but the conversation you guys are giving me is the one

00:02:19.760 where you know what we know we played in the sandpit together we dated for this with our family still

00:02:25.040 close you know that's my i'm like hold on a second why don't you just get with him then and just fix

00:02:28.720 like i don't know what i'm here for that's really sad it's not sad it is because why can't it be a

00:02:34.800 thing where i respect his mom enough to call her auntie and go over for some jollof and and have a

00:02:39.760 good time with the family because i don't have my mom in the picture but you have a man who you're

00:02:44.080 supposed to be building that relationship and that's still fine i believe in him and i and i will

00:02:48.000 definitely go through that journey but to think i'm disrespecting my husband because i'm friends

00:02:53.840 with a man but i think though it's not that you're friends with a man the point is you're not listening

00:02:58.880 to him like again love to men is respect it's saying you know what i might not agree with this

00:03:03.600 but i respect your judgment so i'm gonna go with it i'm gonna do what you say but like men don't want

00:03:09.120 an argumentative woman and what you're doing is rather that you're not listening to me you keep trying 0.97

00:03:13.600 to say but but you're actually not listening to me men and women are fundamentally different we look

00:03:17.840 at cheating differently by the way you're acting and what you're saying to me we classify that as

00:03:22.640 cheating you don't know but you have to listen to it you don't have to i'm listening so i just don't

00:03:27.280 agree so it seems like i'm not listening no but you don't see not agreeing is that part where you're

00:03:31.760 going to kick back men are not going to change and the types of men that will allow you to do

00:03:36.080 this you do not check for you don't look at you see past they're invisible to you so the types of men

00:03:40.800 that will allow this to happen you do not check for so what i'm saying as a man and what this

00:03:45.120 other gentleman is saying as a man is that if you if i take it as my missus and i'm serious about you

00:03:50.640 and i want to introduce you to my family i want to marry you if you cannot do something like this

00:03:55.680 to go into the then it's fine but this is why i say modern women are for the streets and they want 1.00

00:04:00.240 to stay in the streets because when you've got a man that's all you want to show is that a bit of 0.99

00:04:04.080 commitment from you you're like no no no no no the rave is so important i'm going up my girls are so

00:04:08.560 important my men but that seems a little bit far-fetched because nobody said i'm going out

00:04:13.840 no matter what you said or i'm gonna go into this but it's when we asked you the question

00:04:18.560 when we we asked you if he said this what would you do yeah and you said no i would still do what

00:04:23.280 i'm gonna do okay no i that's that's not agreeable that's that's not feminine that's argumentative

00:04:28.240 okay and i like you i think i think you know what it is you you remind me of a lot of women that i've 1.00

00:04:34.320 met and i've dealt with and like you look the part so i'm saying i look the part what do you mean by

00:04:38.720 that what do you mean you're very you look very feminine okay yeah you look very feminine you're

00:04:42.720 you know i mean you're made well you're presented very well so you look very feminine and when you

00:04:46.720 talk you have a nice tone of voice but when we say certain things as soon as we say i get to see your

00:04:51.520 eyes start rolling back and you want to kick back with it but but what are you really kicking back for

00:04:57.520 i'm i'm do you know what i've never heard these point of views and it's good to be open about

00:05:02.400 these kind of conversations i do how old are your brothers they are 24. um they're twins

00:05:08.160 shout out the twin brothers so have you ever spoke to your brothers about relationships yeah

00:05:12.400 and what do they say they have their different twins we're sisters yeah they have um you guys are

00:05:20.400 sisters yeah oh there's a whole back story i was wondering i was like oh they must have been friends

00:05:28.960 for a while she's my sister i guess they have their own different views on relationships but

00:05:35.360 when you say what what do they think what do you mean by that like obviously you're the um okay so

00:05:41.520 you're there you're the oldest yeah older sister so obviously they're slightly um they're slightly junior

00:05:46.560 to you they're still quite young so a lot of the times is brothers would would speak to their sisters

00:05:53.200 but they're the young they're younger so obviously you're so you're older than my thing is this i

00:05:56.960 don't know obviously your relationship with your father like i don't know any of those types of stuff

00:06:01.440 but i tend to think that a lot of times girls have had friends that are men and they tell

00:06:05.760 and they speak to them at least one or two guys will be real and be like yo yeah this is what it is

00:06:09.680 like like so when you have a real guy that's real then he should be saying to you everything i'm saying

00:06:15.120 is it's not some it's not some fallacy it's not some idea that that i've just just just create

00:06:21.840 essentially create out my head a lot of men will lie as you said they're not going to care about

00:06:26.320 body count you know why because they're not going to be around long enough to care about it they're

00:06:29.440 going to run it up and give it to your husband he's the one that's going to care about it so when

00:06:33.040 mana when you're saying oh i've never heard this before it's because why would they say it men never

00:06:36.800 speak about how you women supposed to learn about it if you don't say it because okay more men need to tell the truth 0.66

00:06:44.720 that's that's really what it is and there should be a father in the home but a lot of like women 1.00

00:06:49.920 weren't raised by wives and they don't have a dad in the home so they have no one to teach them this 0.90

00:06:53.280 i was i'm not saying you i'm sorry sorry i don't know anyone's backstory here but i'm just saying

00:06:58.400 in general like your dads are supposed to teach you this stuff okay and your brothers i mean i don't

00:07:06.480 have all the same views as her so what so so your sisters um so what do you think um i i kind of

00:07:13.360 agree with what you're saying but only because i know the relationship like the friendship between

00:07:18.800 them i would understand why it would be hard for her to just like kick him to the side for a man who

00:07:24.720 possibly could be gone one day whereas he's probably never gonna leave her life and also just to say if

00:07:30.720 the guy did have a problem with me being in the situation i would be happy taking a step back

00:07:35.040 yeah but they're saying you're not no bro you're not the problem no it's not yours yeah i'll be

00:07:39.520 disrespectful yeah yeah like so yeah it's not you it just comes down to um comes down to the to the

00:07:46.240 woman's decision and the willingness to get like to put that aside for to make him happen i'll be

00:07:52.560 honest a lot of times men don't we don't even care oh sorry a lot of times men we don't even care we

00:07:58.000 just want to know you would do it we just ask you and then soon your first answer is the answer that

00:08:02.640 lets us know and when we start kicking back it's like it's like if you're going to wear something

00:08:07.840 out i love the fact that my girl's going to send me what she's wearing out i can pick oh do you think

00:08:13.120 and if i do you think this is too much too much skin and if i say that she's going to change it not 0.87

00:08:17.120 because not because i'm trying to stop off from wearing something no i'm just like oh maybe that

00:08:21.440 one's a little bit you know i'm trying to say yeah like you're giving a bit too much of what you

00:08:24.960 shouldn't be giving all right cool so i'm saying yeah um and men we like to be a part of the process

00:08:30.320 we're not stopping you we see you can go out but when you start going out too much or if you start

00:08:35.920 going out with single friends or potentially you go to places where you know maybe the vibe isn't

00:08:40.480 right or they've heard they could have been drama or things have happened in the past that's when we

00:08:44.000 get worried you know i'm trying to say to you but we're not trying to stop a woman from ever going

00:08:47.440 out but we'll get concerned when you start going out too much and you put yourself in situations

00:08:52.480 where men can start hitting up to you and then there's alcohol flowing and and you know whenever 0.98

00:08:57.760 people say i made a mistake or i was drunk that's never happened when someone wasn't drunk and they

00:09:01.840 didn't make a mistake so you have to take a lot of these scenarios out and we know women cheat as 1.00

00:09:06.720 much as men do so there has to be someone doing the cheating and if we talk about women having 1.00

00:09:12.160 women are the ones with the gateway gateway sorry the gatekeepers to sex then once you're adding 1.00

00:09:18.560 nightclub once you're adding out with a single whole friends once you're adding alcohol once you're

00:09:23.440 adding all these other factors and the fact that you can make a mistake we're human how about we just

00:09:28.800 try to just take away some of these factors that's all i'm saying respectfully as many of you know i was

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JustPearlyThings - April 18, 2023

Modern Women GOT SCHOOLED on Men's NATURE

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