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00:00:00.000 and my husband can be supportive of that and i can still be a good mom and i can still be a good

00:00:05.500 this is what they mean like modern women live in delusion that's delusion you can't have everything 1.00

00:00:09.300 society just gaslights us everything comes at a cost no it doesn't my husband knows what i'm

00:00:16.480 gonna be like and he accepts it you know and he's happy with it so when does your child spend time

00:00:22.820 like away from you all the time look where i'm out now she's like all the time okay so when when

00:00:28.280 you said oh she's working like her choosing to work on her business yeah and those are times she's not

00:00:34.220 with her child yeah two days a week when she still sees her in the morning she still sees her night

00:00:38.540 she still sees how is that like what's the problem with that i don't like it i said i take accountability

00:00:44.160 for the fact that i'm a mom with my child your child's away from you all the time so i don't mean

00:00:48.580 a 24 7 but where do you get time to raise your child if you're always when i'm not working but

00:00:52.740 i'm accountable yeah i don't want to be here i want to be at home with my child but because i don't

00:00:58.120 have a partner at home i'm here because i'm doing whatever i'm doing with my work or whatever

00:01:02.100 and i'm here but if i had a choice which is what i said i would love the idea of spending seven days

00:01:08.540 a week every day of the week with my daughter because i don't get ever get bored of my child

00:01:13.120 and she never drives me insane

00:01:14.380 and you wouldn't have you wouldn't have any hobbies

00:01:19.320 wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait okay stop but that's what i'm saying

00:01:25.460 she she has a real mod or a real traditional mindset because she's she's actually talking 0.95

00:01:30.660 about putting the kid before the family and not her you didn't hear her talking about her

00:01:34.500 do you think i've been the kid before though spending 24 7 i would hate that i would hate 0.55

00:01:39.040 no but there's no idea to say that i should be with my daughter 24 7

00:01:42.920 no you're being ignorant to what i'm saying because i'm saying my daughter goes to classes

00:01:46.540 my daughter goes to classes my daughter interacts with other people

00:01:50.300 you said your choice would be okay okay let me let me just let me know what's better what's better

00:01:55.080 a stranger spends 10 hours a day with your kid or the mother spends 10 hours a day with your kid

00:01:59.140 i don't statistically mean like 10 hours a day with an adult you're spending 10 hours a day with people

00:02:03.500 your age people that you can relate to i'm just gonna i'm just gonna repeat the question

00:02:07.840 is what is better a mother spending 10 hours a day with her child or a stranger spending 10 hours a

00:02:14.680 day with the same child it's not gonna be a stranger because you're in school i think her

00:02:18.420 it is a stranger i think school i think school is good i don't think it's not black and white

00:02:24.320 i don't think school's good at all i think the system's failed like a long time ago her whole

00:02:28.920 point is that you're allowing a stranger to have more influence over your kid than you do and we

00:02:33.060 see it you see it constantly where these kids come out super left when they come from conservative

00:02:38.240 homes it depends on how much input you actually put into your child but what are you going to get

00:02:43.680 with four hours a day i think it all comes down to how you raise your children i really do and

00:02:49.340 they have their own mind and you know they're going to get exposed to the real world eventually

00:02:53.640 and it is down to them to make their own decision you don't want yourself as an ignorant

00:02:57.540 that's how my parents raised me and i think i turned out all right you turned out modern

00:03:01.340 and that if you're happy with that i respect that and i think if you want that in your life

00:03:05.440 what do you mean by modern you keep you keep saying modern as in like as pearl said you you

00:03:09.380 classed as the modern woman but i understand you're still saying you got traditional values and whatnot

00:03:13.560 but i i just that's why i'm happy to be a stay-at-home mom like how can you be a stay-at-home mom

00:03:19.900 if you want a career you can't have everything like it don't make no sense i'm happy to win the lottery

00:03:24.980 you can't have both well i mean i my career is like always going to be there that's the thing

00:03:31.540 even when i'm a mom i might take a small break off tv and stuff but i will be back that's a long

00:03:37.680 career that's her whole point though is that's you're a modern woman it doesn't but it doesn't 0.99

00:03:42.080 mean you're you're a bad woman it just means you're a modern and she doesn't like the modern mindset 1.00

00:03:46.400 okay fair enough i'm i have a question about what you said about children being able to

00:03:52.340 make up their own minds um all right i kind of disagree with that and the question that i want

00:03:59.280 to ask is if children can make up their own minds like pearl said there's kids that are coming from

00:04:04.820 conservative families and coming out of schools leftists if a kid can have their own mind what do

00:04:10.440 you think about a 13 year old boy your son for example coming home and saying mom i want to be a

00:04:15.300 girl i'm absolutely fine with it so you would let your 13 year old son go through a sexual transition

00:04:20.580 because if they have their own minds they can make their own consent and they don't need yours

00:04:24.480 if this is how they are feeling i don't know the the depths of this but like if he is feeling like

00:04:31.020 that or she is feeling like that then it's something that we're obviously going to sit down and talk

00:04:35.060 about and look into if they have their own minds they don't emphasize just like you're a modern woman

00:04:39.480 because you're still you're abiding by modern principles that are out today well i am modern then if

00:04:44.380 that's the case if my son came home from school one day and said to me look mom i'll be honest with you i

00:04:48.680 i think i'm gay i would take it on and i'd be open what if you're what if your son came home and said

00:04:54.260 i think i'm black well i mean obviously i would i mean obviously i'd have to sit him down and be like

00:05:02.720 so you don't think if you thought he was the opposite gender you might need to sit him down

00:05:07.180 and tell him that he's well that's what i said i mean i would listen to him sit him down and have a

00:05:11.720 conversation with him but this all comes down to the way that you raise your children but i'm saying

00:05:15.380 but you you said they have their own mind so why doesn't he make up his own decision why would

00:05:19.160 you have to sit him down what do you mean sorry because you said you said they have their own

00:05:23.840 mind yeah as in they can they're making their own decision but i can still have an input and i can

00:05:28.640 still talk with them about it so if he wanted to change his gender you'd let him no of course not i 0.99

00:05:35.320 would have a conversation with him i would find out like what is this about talk to me like what if

00:05:40.220 what if the teachers already had 10 conversations with him about this before you and they're telling

00:05:46.640 him that it's okay yeah how much influence are you really going to have and i've seen this i have

00:05:51.820 every younger sister it depends how young my child is that's yeah i think it's quite young they give

00:05:58.860 consent forms for this stuff like yeah they're gonna have lessons about that they give consent for you

00:06:02.700 can actually say you don't want your son in the room that's just illusionary because if my daughter

00:06:07.800 goes to class and all her friends are doing a certain lesson when they go in the playground

00:06:11.500 kids are just they're going to tell each other they'll do that regardless of the lesson no but

00:06:15.920 like for example my parents you know they were religious and i remember when i was younger

00:06:19.440 they got sent a letter about oh can we show kids sex ed videos or whatever my parents actually said no

00:06:25.180 we refuse there's just no way you're going to avoid it in the school system it's all about how you

00:06:29.780 how you actually raise your children and you don't agree with that but you don't you don't but you also

00:06:34.080 don't know what the teacher's intentions are i mean i i have a friend that was like sexually assaulted

00:06:39.260 by a teacher and that's the risk you're putting at your kid i sent my daughter to school and like

00:06:44.120 she did it two years and it didn't work and then when the covid thing coming the thing came in

00:06:49.520 and that you couldn't like drop your kid when you drop them at the gate and whatnot i just wasn't with

00:06:55.420 that i don't like the idea of somebody being more empowered than me with my child because that then

00:07:00.260 means they have more power over me and i'm supposed to be the mother it doesn't make sense

00:07:04.960 yeah but then where where does it sort of stop where do you sort of draw the line because i mean

00:07:08.940 i don't know a pilot's intentions for example i don't know his background he could be very very

00:07:13.900 he could be a psycho but i still get on an airplane i can i ask one question yeah where a lot of these

00:07:20.280 kids are going to sway like we leave them to social media so there's not really one kid that doesn't

00:07:25.900 have a phone yeah a tablet or whatever i limit my child to that you need to protect your children

00:07:31.160 you should protect your children you can't just be dropping your children off the classes and

00:07:34.900 people children get abused and also protect your child from the school environment is that i don't

00:07:40.300 i'm not with anything that the school system oh i absolutely would i mean i and do we even need

00:07:47.340 the school system in society now no we don't i feel like it's out of date there was college like

00:07:52.600 professors that have openly said things that discriminated against men when i was in college

00:07:56.800 openly and like there's no pushback but not everyone has the ability to homeschool their

00:08:02.060 children and i disagree because you're saying you're intelligent you can do that but not everyone

00:08:06.100 you don't really need to be that intelligent it's like i could probably educate my daughter to a

00:08:10.080 certain level but there's so much available to home really my brother's 15 years old he showed me

00:08:14.280 he's like gcse maths test and i was like what the hell and i have a degree yeah there's ways to do it

00:08:20.260 though you'd have to get a chew and then come to the house or whatever way you've got more control

00:08:24.900 and say and import and raising your child but traditional women would rather work hard at 1.00

00:08:28.720 their chill at their children than for themselves it makes sense yeah

00:08:32.520 so what if your child like one day said oh i don't want to be homeschooled would you like taking

00:08:38.920 i let my i never let my daughter stay out the house i just don't like her staying out i let her 0.96

00:08:43.160 stay at her cousins because i had a family emergency she stayed there three days

00:08:46.340 and she wanted to go to school so this is the effect of other children i believe and i said

00:08:50.760 yeah okay you really want to go to school within a couple of days she goes you know what i'm i don't

00:08:54.660 want to go to school she sees school as a prison because it looks like a prison so that's my

00:08:58.660 daughter's natural instinct of looking at school okay cool well that's interesting to be honest most

00:09:03.760 kids don't like school they don't my little brother hates school because all they're doing is being

00:09:08.280 prepared to go to work for eight hours a day what you were saying about like the amount of energy

00:09:12.340 um obviously like a stranger teacher whatever we want to call it is putting into the child

00:09:16.320 when i was in school there was always like one or two moments maybe like once every academic year

00:09:22.040 someone would call the teacher mum i don't think that's an accident i think that's just because

00:09:25.980 there's someone there's someone in front of them you know for however many hours a day like

00:09:31.300 it might be a silly point but i don't know

00:09:33.080 they're in front of you and they're technically your caregiver if you have a question you ask them

00:09:40.800 you ask them can i go to the toilet you talk to them in a way that you would a parent and then

00:09:44.620 like you get these kids oh put their hand up mum and then everyone laughs but it's like i don't

00:09:47.820 think that's an accident i think that's you know i feel like the schooling system i agree they will

00:09:52.180 they want you to see these teachers but then at the same time i still feel like some people going to

00:09:57.060 school from if they're from a certain different background is actually an escape for them so i feel 0.99

00:10:01.320 like although we can look at school in a negative way there could be people coming from abusive

00:10:05.120 backgrounds when they go to school they meet that teacher who's actually

00:10:08.220 that's just how society has programmed it for people like that's just how it goes

00:10:13.700 but why do we go to the extremes

00:10:16.500 we're not we're not we're not we're not talking about the exception we're talking about the rule

00:10:23.840 most people aren't being abused at home the majority of people do you think that's majority

00:10:29.080 the majority people aren't being abused by their parents no but i'm just saying there could be

00:10:34.340 people that coming from a household where it's not they're not they actually want to go to school

00:10:38.680 they want to go into that environment meet people be around people there's some people that school

00:10:42.900 for me i i hated school absolutely hated it didn't work for me but someone else might love it

00:10:47.900 and i feel like they should be able to have the option then they're destined for an average not

00:10:52.280 normal working day that's what they want right because some people some people's got to make the world go

00:10:56.820 around so maybe they're the people for the job if you're happy with that for your child then

00:11:00.880 to send my child to school to prepare for working life that's what school is then at the same time

00:11:05.740 i feel like that's where your family life and your parents come in because i went to school and i was

00:11:09.420 prepared for a working life but then my family background they taught me that was like okay i think

00:11:16.300 it prepares you for the real world as well isn't it like you can you can work with it's just routine

00:11:20.940 you can obviously you're around different cultures like i believe yeah like if we yeah but you can

00:11:28.840 travel with your family if you're homeschooled but if you ain't got the money let's be honest if you

00:11:33.320 ain't got the money the most you're going to travel to is like probably the park around the corner

00:11:36.960 no no no all the little swimming bars like i'm telling you like from the hood because i'm from

00:11:42.180 the hood so like where she where i can see sorry i don't know your name where she's coming from where 0.87

00:11:48.820 she's talking about working or whatever i don't know her background but i know she's talking like

00:11:53.760 that because obviously she wants to leave a foundation for her you forget the man or whatever 0.99

00:11:58.440 yeah but i will do that but i'm saying like what value so based on finances wait what value does

00:12:04.360 knowing the real world help to a kid a five-year-old it helps you like you're supposed to protect your kid

00:12:09.680 from the world definitely definitely but then you got prepared for the real world as well no one knows

00:12:15.380 when your time expectancy the best way to prepare your child is like morals and principles not based

00:12:21.440 on money because people have money and have no morals and principles so how can that operate it's just a

00:12:26.960 disaster waiting to happen or happening it's all i feel like modern society is all based on money and

00:12:33.440 finances like we're being pressurized to work so hard to come away from our children so our children

00:12:38.880 become the next disaster in society yeah and we'll tell them it's all about money i was just banned

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JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023

Modern women Proved this about themselves

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