JustPearlyThings - May 08, 2023


Modern Women Try To Shame Sneako


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

233.74835

Word Count

2,716

Sentence Count

24

Misogynist Sentences

7

Hate Speech Sentences

23


Summary

In this episode, we have our first guest on the pod, and it's not what you think! We talk about misogyny, racism, and how to stop being a victim in the modern world. We also get into a heated debate on whether or not the term "vibrating with misogyny" is a slur or a compliment.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Because the girl feels like she was discriminated because of her gender doesn't mean that she was and that's the big problem of
00:00:05.640 This generation is we don't know how to differentiate between what we're feeling and what's actually reality
00:00:10.020 Like I get that's what they're feeling, but right now I'm feeling like a dog. Am I a dog? No, exactly
00:00:15.480 So we have to learn to differentiate between what we're feeling and what's actually fat and what we need to do
00:00:19.560 That by calling people stupid or saying that they're acting like dickheads when they are like if someone says you're vibrating with
00:00:24.840 Misogyny that should be called stupid like respectfully like that. That was a stupid thing to say
00:00:29.440 It's an analogy. It's a figure of speech as well. Don't be so mean. What's the analogy?
00:00:33.580 The analogy is basically saying you're coming a bit aggressive. Your energy is coming a bit tense. I even felt it
00:00:37.980 So I reworded what she said. Tense and misogynistic
00:00:41.760 No, I know, but I reworded it for her. So it's not about to call someone stupid and you can help them
00:00:46.860 It wasn't a figure of speech. The accusation was real. And I stand on it
00:00:49.340 Yeah, and that's fine. She does stand on it. So you're trying to justify it. I tried to be a sister
00:00:52.780 And that's my point. Like we need to call that stupid when people say stupid things like that
00:00:56.920 And what do those accusations do? I mean, you know sneaker is a bit different because I mean his his industry is to get cancelled
00:01:02.580 but
00:01:02.900 In a way, but it's like for the average person that you label them that that could ruin their entire career
00:01:09.740 Yeah
00:01:10.040 It's a bit like it's a bit like using the term creepy, isn't it? And then it's sort of like if a woman calls a guy creepy
00:01:14.300 Just the fact that she said it is it's believed because she she says I felt that he was creepy
00:01:20.000 So it's like, oh, right
00:01:20.740 Okay, so therefore he was creepy because you're saying you felt like that
00:01:23.700 But where's the where's the sort of foundational truth of that statement, right?
00:01:27.640 And it's like saying vibrating with misogyny. Okay. Well, okay. It was tense, but we're in a debate, right?
00:01:32.920 So what's the misogynistic element of that? They were just having a debate
00:01:36.680 Because why is he looking at her as an op?
00:01:39.920 Just because she's a girl
00:01:41.280 If there was four guys sitting on the couch and they were making the same point
00:01:48.440 That's what a debate is
00:01:49.220 If we have different points of view, we are disagreeing
00:01:52.320 But you don't know me, so don't go against me because we could actually agree on things
00:01:56.240 That's the whole point
00:01:57.120 Yeah, but don't go against me gender-based
00:01:59.180 I don't like that. That's given misogyny
00:02:00.720 That was my...
00:02:02.000 That was the vibe
00:02:02.940 I don't know if it was off of gender. I'm sorry
00:02:05.400 It's just a debate
00:02:06.120 It was just different opinions
00:02:07.760 It has nothing to do with womanhood
00:02:10.080 It was what you said
00:02:10.940 That's why you get cancelled
00:02:11.920 Because your boundaries of aggressive tonality in the way you speak
00:02:18.680 You don't quite understand
00:02:20.020 That's not true
00:02:20.740 Maybe you understand, but you monetize off of it, which is a good thing
00:02:23.620 I got cancelled for talking about COVID in the election
00:02:25.420 It had nothing to do with vibrating misogyny
00:02:27.420 I don't know. You feel a little bit aggressive. I'm not going to lie
00:02:30.320 Someone said something along the lines of don't go against me
00:02:33.140 Isn't this a debate? Like for and against
00:02:35.220 Yeah, but when you immediately have to go against
00:02:37.720 Like, come on
00:02:38.520 That's the debate
00:02:39.700 You opened it up by saying I'm a black immigrant
00:02:42.140 I mean, look, you guys are victims until somebody calls you out
00:02:45.280 It's just, none of this makes any sense
00:02:47.360 You're going to go and say that I'm a victim
00:02:49.140 I'm black, so I have a hard time in life
00:02:50.740 And then somebody disagrees with you
00:02:51.940 And then you're even a victim more
00:02:53.060 Do you know why
00:02:53.700 We disagree in that I'm aggressive
00:02:55.120 And you're pointing at me and interrupting me
00:02:56.640 But I'm aggressive
00:02:57.200 I'm sorry, I was aggressive there still
00:02:59.300 You have been the whole time
00:03:00.460 But I'm aggressive
00:03:01.080 I don't say that you're vibrating with misandry
00:03:03.280 Yeah, exactly
00:03:04.580 My whole point of this argument is that
00:03:06.100 My whole point is that people now
00:03:08.120 And especially people my age, I'm 24
00:03:09.680 We have such a victim mindset
00:03:11.640 That makes us feel like we can navigate the world a certain way
00:03:14.860 And that everything is against us
00:03:16.180 And we don't do that because the world is against us
00:03:18.160 It's because it makes us feel better about our life path
00:03:20.300 And our decisions
00:03:20.860 And about our place in the world
00:03:22.500 That is the number one thing that will hold people back
00:03:24.780 I'm an immigrant
00:03:25.560 I'm black
00:03:26.280 You're misogynistic
00:03:27.560 You're racist
00:03:28.260 I'm fucked
00:03:28.980 Bradren, stop acting like that's a victimization
00:03:31.440 That's exactly what it is
00:03:32.560 He already said
00:03:33.340 I already explained to you why that is my superpower
00:03:36.040 I simply pointed out the fact that it is an extra obstacle that some people may not have
00:03:40.480 But for me it's a good thing
00:03:41.640 It makes me fit
00:03:42.260 Saying that you have an obstacle
00:03:43.280 It makes me spicy and prettier
00:03:44.540 That's why I like having also black jean in me
00:03:46.340 Believing that you have an obstacle is exactly what victimization is
00:03:50.160 I don't believe it, I know because I felt it
00:03:51.020 I've had to overcome it several times
00:03:52.740 Just because you haven't lived my life
00:03:54.440 Don't bloody discourage me from telling what I feel
00:03:57.440 Because that's what I've experienced
00:03:58.280 So wait, Sneaker, what you're trying to say is that we should disregard our traumatic experiences
00:04:02.580 That have brought, like, you know
00:04:06.100 Even if you were traumatized
00:04:07.420 If you had a terrible experience
00:04:08.440 Use the only for power for good things
00:04:09.540 Right, if the KKK was burning crosses
00:04:11.620 Like, what will hold you back more
00:04:13.440 Is still thinking about that you're traumatized
00:04:16.020 Is thinking that the world is against you
00:04:17.720 That will hold you back even more than anything else
00:04:19.820 That anyone's going to tell you
00:04:20.780 That any industry will say
00:04:22.040 That anything that I believe
00:04:23.360 How misogynistic and racist I am
00:04:25.380 You believing that you're traumatized
00:04:27.200 And navigating the world that way
00:04:28.320 Is going to hold you back more than anybody else
00:04:30.160 And that's the number one thing I would say
00:04:31.620 For anyone here watching this right now
00:04:33.640 Get rid of that mindset
00:04:34.800 Because that was programmed into you by the news
00:04:36.840 You're talking about mainstream media
00:04:37.920 Showing this one Afro dude
00:04:39.300 They do that so that we stay down
00:04:41.380 It's not because they actually care about racism
00:04:43.540 You think the news cares about this Afro guy?
00:04:45.700 No, they care about programming
00:04:47.240 George Floyd, you think that goes viral
00:04:48.920 Because they care about George Floyd?
00:04:51.060 No, it's to get everybody rioting
00:04:52.660 And to keep everybody confused
00:04:53.880 And to keep everybody outside
00:04:55.420 And to keep everybody distracted
00:04:56.900 And angry
00:04:57.140 A lot of people leveled up
00:04:58.280 Because of that
00:04:58.880 A lot of addressing these issues
00:05:00.780 Actually is quite empowering
00:05:02.160 Because you start to
00:05:02.920 What did BLM accomplish?
00:05:03.700 Let me tell you
00:05:04.140 Let me tell you
00:05:04.680 To some people
00:05:05.700 To some people
00:05:06.500 To some people
00:05:07.080 I lived in
00:05:07.580 I lived in Milwaukee
00:05:10.360 During like the BLM protests
00:05:11.840 There were some shops
00:05:12.760 That didn't open back up
00:05:14.180 Of course
00:05:14.660 Like there were
00:05:15.240 Let me tell you something
00:05:16.760 Right?
00:05:17.660 Things like BLM
00:05:18.620 Things like Wakanda
00:05:19.640 What it is
00:05:20.660 Why it's actually something
00:05:21.820 That is a good thing
00:05:23.200 To even talk about these things
00:05:24.360 And be gassed about the fact
00:05:25.720 That black people
00:05:26.460 Start to go to the forefront
00:05:27.540 Is because
00:05:28.040 Even though some people
00:05:29.540 May take it as victimization
00:05:30.720 There are people
00:05:31.260 That actually take it
00:05:32.100 To be an empowerment
00:05:33.380 There are people
00:05:34.120 That feel inspired
00:05:35.120 Exactly
00:05:36.040 But people still feel inspired
00:05:37.540 So let's talk about
00:05:38.240 They're lying to you
00:05:39.480 How do you know
00:05:40.900 If the outcome
00:05:41.560 Of something is good?
00:05:43.160 I know
00:05:43.520 Basically
00:05:44.080 I know
00:05:44.700 Because within my business
00:05:45.900 Wait wait
00:05:46.940 Basically within my business
00:05:48.200 I see the change
00:05:49.260 I see how many people
00:05:50.220 Are going up
00:05:50.700 So you would say
00:05:51.920 So you would say
00:05:52.680 It would be the results
00:05:53.620 Right?
00:05:54.080 Yeah the results
00:05:54.640 Of course
00:05:55.080 So it's good
00:05:55.600 The government
00:05:56.160 Started giving funds
00:05:57.200 Out for black people
00:05:57.980 To do things
00:05:58.580 A lot of people
00:05:59.040 To make money
00:05:59.520 It's a good thing
00:06:00.100 So if the results
00:06:00.900 Of those protests
00:06:02.080 Were that some shops
00:06:03.820 Did not open back up
00:06:05.140 And the whole business
00:06:06.140 Was a scam
00:06:06.880 How is that a good result?
00:06:08.120 Well it's the same way
00:06:09.560 That people go to war
00:06:10.640 People do a million things
00:06:11.720 With good comes bad
00:06:12.840 That's the whole point
00:06:13.920 No but I'm asking
00:06:14.140 Like what good came?
00:06:15.360 What good came of war?
00:06:16.140 What did BLM accomplish?
00:06:17.640 Oh BLM accomplished a lot
00:06:18.900 Within the creative industry
00:06:19.960 Here in the UK
00:06:20.660 A lot of black people
00:06:21.760 Start making money
00:06:22.460 Since BLM
00:06:23.120 Awareness
00:06:23.940 Awareness
00:06:24.820 Awareness of what?
00:06:25.500 Since BLM
00:06:26.060 A lot of people
00:06:26.720 Have still died
00:06:27.300 The same way George Floyd did
00:06:28.340 It didn't change
00:06:28.980 The main factor
00:06:29.500 Which was white cops
00:06:30.820 Killing black people
00:06:31.540 To this day
00:06:32.180 We still see it
00:06:32.940 White cops kill white people too
00:06:34.480 So what did BLM accomplish?
00:06:36.800 BLM in the UK
00:06:37.800 The government
00:06:38.360 Started giving funding
00:06:39.100 To black businesses
00:06:39.920 A lot more
00:06:40.580 They started putting
00:06:41.200 A lot of projects
00:06:41.920 To big up black people
00:06:43.060 And put them on
00:06:43.640 So it actually
00:06:44.100 Was a good thing
00:06:44.760 For the UK
00:06:45.460 I'm not gonna lie
00:06:46.440 A lot of people
00:06:47.340 Got really good opportunities
00:06:49.080 Because of that situation
00:06:50.320 Whatever the nature
00:06:52.020 Don't your cops
00:06:52.660 Don't your cops
00:06:52.680 Not have guns here?
00:06:54.000 No
00:06:54.300 Some of them
00:06:55.640 Some of them do
00:06:56.060 Some of them
00:06:56.600 So why was the UK
00:06:58.100 Even giving money
00:06:58.740 To black businesses
00:06:59.380 Here when this
00:06:59.840 Had nothing to do
00:07:00.500 With black people
00:07:00.920 So you got some money?
00:07:02.280 Like
00:07:02.460 Yeah
00:07:02.840 A lot of people
00:07:03.460 Made money
00:07:03.900 How was racism solved
00:07:05.420 At all?
00:07:05.580 Do you know
00:07:05.840 If it's not about
00:07:06.560 Racism being solved
00:07:07.360 That's what
00:07:07.720 Black Lives Matter is about
00:07:08.500 But what it did
00:07:10.340 It actually gave
00:07:11.260 Extra leeway
00:07:12.180 For people to now
00:07:13.020 Go and do more
00:07:13.880 It gave an encouragement
00:07:15.060 To say
00:07:15.560 Actually
00:07:16.040 Forget about being black
00:07:17.300 You know
00:07:17.500 This happened
00:07:17.880 But look
00:07:18.200 We're gonna help you
00:07:18.840 Go go go
00:07:19.320 Then take advantage
00:07:20.160 And you win
00:07:20.760 And you grow
00:07:21.300 It's a good thing
00:07:22.160 So when you talk about this
00:07:23.320 And you expose it
00:07:24.000 You allow other people
00:07:24.780 I have a question
00:07:26.000 Do you think
00:07:26.500 Throwing money
00:07:27.160 At a problem
00:07:27.720 Solves it?
00:07:28.400 Of course not
00:07:29.000 So like
00:07:29.880 Throw it at me
00:07:30.820 It will solve it
00:07:31.480 Are you a stripper?
00:07:33.560 Can I also make one point?
00:07:35.060 You said that
00:07:35.700 Black Lives Matter
00:07:36.900 Helped businesses
00:07:37.860 And black people
00:07:38.760 Build their brand
00:07:39.940 Or whatever
00:07:40.400 But I think we need
00:07:41.480 To also question
00:07:42.060 How long is that
00:07:42.700 Gonna last?
00:07:43.420 Because I feel like
00:07:43.860 This is just gonna last
00:07:44.720 For like the last
00:07:45.380 Two, five years
00:07:46.380 And after that
00:07:46.880 It's gonna go back
00:07:47.520 To use your program
00:07:48.220 It's already blown over
00:07:49.380 Yeah
00:07:49.620 Well
00:07:50.160 It's starting to withdraw
00:07:52.140 For the people
00:07:52.700 That got leg up
00:07:53.540 They got leg up
00:07:54.480 Even if it did solve
00:07:55.440 That problem
00:07:55.960 In a sense
00:07:56.400 Where they're supporting
00:07:56.940 Black businesses
00:07:57.700 It didn't solve
00:07:58.700 The main matter
00:07:59.320 At hand
00:07:59.640 Which was George Floyd's death
00:07:59.660 It put people
00:08:00.200 Representing on the youth
00:08:01.240 On TV
00:08:01.860 Like ZZ Mills
00:08:02.640 Is on channel 4 now
00:08:03.680 But that wasn't
00:08:04.180 The main
00:08:04.460 A sister is there
00:08:05.000 With another sister
00:08:05.680 Presenting prime time
00:08:06.980 The problem was
00:08:07.700 White cops killing black people
00:08:08.820 The problem wasn't
00:08:09.580 Not having black people
00:08:10.080 And her answer was
00:08:10.760 They put a black person
00:08:11.620 On TV
00:08:11.900 Yeah
00:08:12.000 That doesn't make sense
00:08:12.520 Power of representation
00:08:13.060 You inspire other people
00:08:14.420 To want to do the same
00:08:15.260 Because it didn't solve the problem
00:08:15.960 No
00:08:16.260 The problem doesn't get solved
00:08:17.760 Like this
00:08:18.340 ZZ Mills is on TV
00:08:20.420 Because she's talented
00:08:21.660 To insinuate
00:08:22.500 It's because of BLM
00:08:24.080 Pretty racist
00:08:24.540 Yeah
00:08:24.980 I'm not gonna lie
00:08:26.160 If you understand
00:08:27.560 The industry
00:08:28.120 You know I ain't lying
00:08:29.140 Come for me
00:08:29.920 If you want to
00:08:30.460 Wait so there we go
00:08:31.440 Hold on
00:08:31.880 One point girl
00:08:32.480 Who understands
00:08:32.760 The industry better than me
00:08:34.260 Come on
00:08:35.340 In London
00:08:36.060 Yes
00:08:36.600 I built the biggest podcast
00:08:38.060 In London
00:08:38.820 You built the biggest podcast
00:08:39.760 What do you know
00:08:40.520 About the London people
00:08:41.480 Them here
00:08:42.000 Not as much as I do
00:08:43.140 I've lived here
00:08:43.740 For longer than you
00:08:44.440 I've met hundreds
00:08:44.920 In the past year
00:08:45.660 You've met them
00:08:46.180 Do you know their history
00:08:47.140 You don't
00:08:47.760 So you can't actually
00:08:48.580 Tell me that you know
00:08:49.300 More about the
00:08:49.800 Come up with some people
00:08:50.900 Because I've seen them
00:08:51.620 Lizzie Mills is on TV
00:08:52.800 Because she's talented
00:08:53.660 I'll tell you why
00:08:54.740 She's on TV
00:08:55.380 I think she's talented
00:08:56.620 But guess why
00:08:57.340 She's on TV
00:08:58.020 And why she was given
00:08:58.640 Prime time
00:08:59.180 Because they want to
00:09:00.060 Now make inclusivity
00:09:01.420 And diversity
00:09:02.060 Something that's
00:09:02.700 The forefront of a lot
00:09:03.660 I have a question
00:09:04.880 There have been black
00:09:07.420 Presenters on TV
00:09:08.400 Since the 80s
00:09:09.360 Or 70s
00:09:10.000 But it also sounds
00:09:10.860 Like you're admitting
00:09:11.420 That there's an advantage
00:09:12.260 For being black
00:09:12.960 And it has nothing
00:09:13.540 To do with skill set
00:09:14.360 And diversity
00:09:14.960 And inclusion
00:09:15.420 So where's the mindset
00:09:16.520 That black people
00:09:17.160 Are oppressed
00:09:17.640 If you're getting a job
00:09:18.760 For representation
00:09:19.360 This is not what I said
00:09:20.920 I said
00:09:21.440 The fact that people
00:09:22.580 Are talking about
00:09:23.300 Certain situations
00:09:24.460 Is making other people
00:09:25.980 Give our community
00:09:27.220 More opportunities
00:09:28.080 Which then creates
00:09:28.860 More representation
00:09:29.520 More inspiration
00:09:30.420 The problem starts to get solved
00:09:31.920 Sounds like you're getting
00:09:32.460 Jobs over your skin color
00:09:33.540 But that's not solving the problem
00:09:34.320 No but it doesn't matter
00:09:35.480 Because the whole point is
00:09:36.840 At least I'm there
00:09:37.900 When flying a plane
00:09:38.700 It matters
00:09:39.200 Well
00:09:39.700 ZZ Mills is talented
00:09:41.200 That's why they picked her
00:09:42.020 They wouldn't just
00:09:42.500 Pick her
00:09:42.780 Why can't it be that
00:09:43.700 Because I feel like
00:09:44.280 They picked her over someone else
00:09:45.500 Yeah but I feel like
00:09:46.020 Saying it's because she's black
00:09:47.100 Takes away from her skill set
00:09:48.060 No it does
00:09:48.520 You're taking away from her
00:09:49.400 100%
00:09:49.940 Let me tell you
00:09:50.400 People
00:09:50.780 Cancel me if you want
00:09:52.940 But diversity
00:09:53.620 Inclusivity is now something
00:09:54.800 That every corporate company
00:09:55.960 Is talking about
00:09:56.900 They're raving about it
00:09:57.780 So take opportunity
00:09:58.560 Because it doesn't matter
00:10:00.220 What you do with the opportunity
00:10:01.380 Is up to you
00:10:02.140 But if you're smart
00:10:03.060 You take this opportunity
00:10:04.020 Because right now
00:10:05.220 You can make a lot of money
00:10:06.420 So are you oppressed or not
00:10:07.040 I'm not
00:10:07.700 Of course not
00:10:08.240 That's why I said
00:10:08.820 Me being black
00:10:09.420 Is actually a superpower
00:10:10.280 It depends actually
00:10:11.040 I'm not a victim
00:10:11.680 If you was gonna run
00:10:12.780 For a prime minister
00:10:13.920 That you would be faced
00:10:15.580 We usually soon
00:10:16.060 Like his prime minister
00:10:17.320 And he's brown isn't he
00:10:18.600 Yeah
00:10:19.100 Yeah nah
00:10:21.220 I mean
00:10:21.820 I don't agree with that
00:10:22.660 I mean
00:10:23.180 He didn't get elected
00:10:24.080 We do have a female
00:10:25.040 Black vice president
00:10:26.180 His representation
00:10:27.080 Right
00:10:27.520 We did Obama
00:10:28.320 I mean it is possible guys
00:10:29.740 It is possible
00:10:30.580 And if you look at like
00:10:31.900 The percentages of white people
00:10:33.360 Versus black people
00:10:34.140 Just the actual percentages
00:10:35.100 You know
00:10:36.040 Y'all do really really well
00:10:37.440 Y'all have a lot of millionaires
00:10:38.560 Like
00:10:38.880 We do
00:10:39.300 I tell you who I really admire
00:10:40.660 Who I really admire
00:10:41.640 Is Lil Wayne
00:10:42.880 He's one of my favorite people
00:10:44.240 Because when he asked about that
00:10:45.420 He doesn't live in that way
00:10:46.960 And he was so fucking successful
00:10:49.020 Not living that way
00:10:50.020 And just doing his thing
00:10:51.020 And I just
00:10:52.000 I know I've said it three
00:10:52.800 Four times
00:10:53.280 I just want every young person
00:10:55.120 Seeing this to hear it
00:10:56.240 You can do it bro
00:10:57.440 You really can
00:10:58.340 And don't live any other way
00:10:59.860 But you can
00:11:00.480 That's it
00:11:01.380 You can
00:11:01.940 As many of you know
00:11:02.940 I was just banned on TikTok
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