JustPearlyThings - March 14, 2023


Modern Women Want HONESTY But Can't Handle The TRUTH


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9 minutes

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2,027

Sentence count

1

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Misogyny

5

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5

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In this episode, we discuss honesty in a relationship and how important it is to be 100% honest with your partner. We discuss the importance of honesty and why we should all strive to be honest in our relationships.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 yeah go ahead go ahead i've already answered i said i have everything i want yeah she says
00:00:06.780 i'm sorry i'm sorry it's okay i want the truth because i seem to find myself in the position
00:00:14.560 where i'm always seem to be the side bit side bitch all the time and i think that's just what 1.00
00:00:21.980 annoys me like you think you give us side chick vibes yeah like i just don't seem to find someone
00:00:27.760 that just wants but do you know he's in a relationship when you meet him no otherwise
00:00:31.580 i wouldn't go there oh okay that's different yeah i just get put in a position where i find out like
00:00:37.200 months in one case two years um that they've been in a relationship so i just want the truth because
00:00:45.400 it doesn't hurt me like you could turn around and say oh this is not serious
00:00:48.700 and i'd be like that it is what it is i want to have my fun but if why do you think they put you
00:00:55.100 in that box i think because i don't necessarily come i don't come across like i want to have
00:01:03.320 something serious okay so as much as i do i'm like in between because i've had bad experiences before
00:01:10.140 which has made me feel like i don't want no one to live with me i don't want this i don't want that
00:01:15.540 but then it comes to i do feel lonely and i would want that intimacy and that love from the right person
00:01:21.720 do you think that that's in a way making the mistakes of the men of the future pay for the
00:01:27.100 mistakes of your past it's kind of like when it's kind of like when a guy is is always going through
00:01:32.940 your phone because some girl cheated on him in a way you see i always say this rule i won't go
00:01:38.620 through your phone don't go through my phone if you see something that's gonna hurt you don't you
00:01:42.440 think that before you move on to one relationship like get rid of the baggage heal from one before you
00:01:47.320 go don't take one relationship into the other can i say i've i've clocked that we've all been
00:01:53.020 saying honesty but i feel like personally if you yearn for like honesty in a relationship it's kind
00:01:58.060 of like it kind of sucks because like if you're going into a relationship being like i just want
00:02:01.320 honesty i need you to be honest with me i need you to be honest with me it's kind of like do you need
00:02:05.580 to beg for that but also at the end of the day i don't know about you guys but personally for
00:02:11.200 someone that's been honest with me i have felt hurt before and it's kind of like also that
00:02:15.340 honesty doesn't i feel like there's certain things that you don't have to say
00:02:18.980 that's certain things that you don't have to say but if you say it's going to cause some type of
00:02:26.020 some type of you know and and also can i say guys that are always honest they're normally always
00:02:33.080 honest about the past relationships and i feel like if you if you if you've established that you
00:02:38.200 guys are going to be a hundred percent about everything you've done you're going to feel some
00:02:42.060 type of way regardless of whether that involved you or not so they've been doing stuff before
00:02:46.100 they even knew you but you'd feel the type of way because they're with you right now so it's kind
00:02:49.660 of like certain stuff you don't have to say and it's not me being secretive if there's certain
00:02:53.060 stuff that we can talk about we can talk about that's going to progress a relationship but if
00:02:56.200 it's about oh like yeah i used to do like this with her and like yeah like this and that i think
00:03:01.400 it's kind of like i think you're right i don't think women want honesty by and large because then they 1.00
00:03:05.720 wouldn't keep dating liars yeah do you get you'd sit here and be like yeah i want you to be a
00:03:09.500 hundred percent honest with me but if you're honest with me i'm gonna start crying it's even
00:03:12.500 cheaters i would rather just cry and be mad and then just get over it my first reaction i always
00:03:18.600 say tell me the honest truth let the first reaction go over their head because that's it soaking in
00:03:23.080 but does the honesty progress your relationship is it positive to your relationship though yes because
00:03:27.260 they know that there's no point in lying to me i'm not the one you want to lie to
00:03:31.180 why did you say honesty when i asked when you i asked you what you were looking for
00:03:35.900 because to me that implies that maybe you haven't always gotten that no i haven't um the past
00:03:41.380 relationships well like as you're a pretty girl you have a million options there's many men that
00:03:46.560 will be honest with you but it's like you pick the liar no they i don't know i just feel like they
00:03:51.160 as you said make my funny flop so it's like the liars the lies make you want them but then you're
00:03:58.460 attracted to the lie good for you good for you so i do want the truth it'd be nice so then what
00:04:05.860 incentive do men have to be honest with us if the liars get laid i just prefer like if you just
00:04:11.260 turn around and said yeah you're seen talking to like two three other girls and i'm just an option 0.95
00:04:15.840 at the moment if they told you that then they then you wouldn't sleep with them that kind of links
00:04:20.200 back to what i said earlier um a lot of time and this has been mentioned on fresh and fit another
00:04:25.180 podcast um women want honesty honesty but as the saying goes they can't really handle the truth 1.00
00:04:31.380 because when you are honest they immediately leave which you know i understand but what incentive is
00:04:38.600 there for men to be honest because they'll lose the resources they put into you you know whether
00:04:43.220 it's taking on dates life advice everything because men help us with a lot of things when we're with them
00:04:47.300 um but then you just leave because they're with other people which is most likely the thing that
00:04:52.740 they're not being honest about um so as you said what incentive do they have to be honest when
00:04:56.960 they could lose the whole thing they've put work into you must be crazy do not tell me something
00:05:01.040 that you know i'm gonna be like yeah i'm gonna leave you for it's kind of like what people are
00:05:06.060 selfish i mean do you do you go into relationships telling men your body count
00:05:09.840 well it depends if we're gonna be 100 ever asked i've never been asked because never i don't know
00:05:15.940 because i feel like any guy that you talk to these they will ask you your body count
00:05:19.820 really not really not anymore maybe like maybe young people not anymore
00:05:24.340 she's right it's a young person it's like the younger the younger the guy is
00:05:30.860 maybe it's because yeah but i'm just saying if we're gonna be 100 honest
00:05:34.920 yeah no because i feel like a lot of especially right like a lot of girls are with guys where 0.99
00:05:40.620 they know if they said their body count it would end their relationship
00:05:42.960 so so so like there's there's in a way we're not always honest with them either
00:05:47.580 because i was gonna say like if you're going into a relationship nowadays especially like my
00:05:51.300 friends everybody that i'm surrounded by right now as a 19 year old they will 100 ask you your
00:05:56.680 body count 100 it's one of the first thing that comes up what's your name what school do you go
00:06:00.680 what's if you're a color what's your body count it's definitely the age thing maybe it's the age
00:06:04.500 thing but in this like in this day and age right now that i'm in right now they will ask you with
00:06:09.440 no shame because it's kind of like that's the question will you answer 100 i'll be straight up with
00:06:14.560 i'll say this many or this many i've never had anybody ask me that older men just don't see
00:06:20.800 the point in asking yeah maybe they just feel like you're gonna lie anyway you're right but
00:06:24.980 the last time i ever got asked that question i think i was 16 years old that's a good nine years
00:06:30.280 ago really because i lied i did get asked once all the time right now and i did give my honest
00:06:39.400 answer i think with men as well um obviously you know you can't look at a woman and be like oh yeah
00:06:45.580 her body count is this but you can get an inkling of whether it's higher or lower and sometimes that
00:06:50.060 is enough to suffice them as to whether they get in a relationship or just have sex with you or
00:06:55.080 whatever it may be i think how you portray yourself is sometimes enough for them to decide
00:07:00.260 would it put you off of this if their body count was like higher than yours no i'd prefer that if
00:07:05.680 my partner's body count was higher than mine no of course not you know i think men value
00:07:11.780 inexperience whereas women value experience so my partner's body count is of course higher than mine 1.00
00:07:17.200 and if it wasn't i'd be like well where the hell am i with you if no one else wants you
00:07:20.700 but didn't the young lady on the end say i don't see i don't think that i don't agree with that but
00:07:25.300 i just expect you don't agree with men you don't agree with what that um you think it's because the
00:07:30.700 experience i don't think you don't think women value experience no no i do think they value experience
00:07:35.380 but i don't think i'd be saying oh your body count is less than mine so i don't like that because
00:07:40.600 other women don't like you okay i mean i don't think it's a conscious thing but i mean yeah i don't i
00:07:46.160 don't sit there and think to myself well these women didn't you've got a lower body count 1.00
00:07:50.440 therefore these women didn't like you so why am i it's just you know a silent tick in your head
00:07:55.400 where it's you know it's like evolution i mean one of guys will tell me getting verified is the
00:08:02.460 first way to get women yeah because it's a sign of pre-selection that's so superficial there isn't
00:08:08.320 it i mean we can't really change it yeah it's like it's like telling the world not to be the world and
00:08:13.680 all in all history like women have gone for men that other women have selected so it's like you can say
00:08:18.880 it's superficial but that's that's always what's happened yeah like look at um you know genghis khan
00:08:23.680 or the world's conquerors if women didn't like men that weren't if women did not like men that were
00:08:28.720 experienced why do these men that she have harems of women and would just naturally gravitate to 0.98
00:08:32.960 17 women reproduced for one man every one man 8 000 years ago my my ex has this saying that girls can get 0.85
00:08:39.840 who they want and guys get what they want no girls get what they want guys get like if a guy can only
00:08:46.800 get a girl if the girl wants them he can't just go out and get the girl girls can get who they want
00:08:51.440 and guys can get who they can can i say um sleep as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we
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