JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023


Most Modern Women Have Been CHEATED ON


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

211.25548

Word Count

2,943

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 today today's topic is we are talking about cheating so I wanted to go
00:00:08.120 around have you ever been cheated on and how did you find out yeah I've been
00:00:14.560 cheated on I've had two boyfriends and they've both cheated on me I think the
00:00:20.320 first time I found out was through my friend she found some messages and sent
00:00:25.980 them to me and the second time a video of my boyfriend actually got put on
00:00:30.900 YouTube of him on FaceTime to another girl doing not so good things
00:00:37.980 how did you like how was he filmed like who filmed it it was like someone's
00:00:44.520 screen recorded the FaceTime call and I got a message on Instagram and this
00:00:49.560 woman basically said like if you don't give me money I'm gonna post it I was
00:00:53.740 like go ahead post it I said if he's cheating on me why I'm not gonna help
00:00:57.040 him yeah is he famous why did they put him on YouTube I think she just wanted like
00:01:04.080 attention but it got taken down anyway so yeah what was he doing on there well you
00:01:12.340 know you know when you go on FaceTime sometimes like guys go on FaceTime to a
00:01:15.340 girl and though you know he was having phone sex with this girl oh what is he a
00:01:22.420 grower or a shower he said he was a grower but now that's a lie
00:01:27.640 so yeah I've been cheated on before once to my knowledge and basically it was a long
00:01:42.760 time ago but I found out two years later because I started dating without knowing
00:01:48.400 again one of his friends and then his friend told me oh by the way three years
00:01:52.080 ago what what a waste yeah it's crazy obviously by that time I didn't care about what's the point
00:02:06.060 maybe yeah maybe you thought it would make him look better or something yeah probably I mean
00:02:10.020 it did to be fair would you girls respect a man that does that no way I mean I won't even respect a
00:02:16.680 girl doing that do you get what I mean like I've come to you as a woman not not even that like if
00:02:20.640 me if I if my friend cheated on a guy and then he was then dating me I wouldn't be talking about her
00:02:27.180 especially at the time if I didn't tell him why am I telling him after yeah you wouldn't really be
00:02:31.560 dating him anyway I wouldn't date him but just say even if it was yeah even if by coincidence I didn't
00:02:36.300 know that was her man and he was to come in my life I wouldn't then because if I didn't tell him
00:02:41.040 then why would I tell him now do you get my name no point fetching up the past yeah I kind of wish
00:02:45.120 he didn't because I just got hurt for no reason basically but it is what it is charge it did you
00:02:51.480 break up with him immediately um but I wasn't I wasn't with him anyway oh like I found out three
00:02:58.260 years later so I wasn't even with him it's such a weird one so yeah I guess it was good that you
00:03:03.480 found out later yeah I mean it's less heartbreaking in that sense but it still hurts like oh okay then
00:03:09.540 you just don't really need to know yeah like I just I'd rather have not known that's the truth
00:03:13.700 I was fine but it is what it is
00:03:16.780 that's crazy um yes I have been cheated on before I just had that instinct to be honest I just went
00:03:27.200 through his phone and literally just went on his phone and I saw everything I needed to see
00:03:32.460 when you seek you shall find in it yeah that's what a guy told me a guy told me if you look at any
00:03:37.380 time you'll always find something you have an issue with I don't think you will no but I just
00:03:40.840 got handed the phone and it was right in front of me it was right in front of me oh damn so it's
00:03:45.540 like I just I was like oh what did you what did you find um a lot of messages okay he was like
00:03:51.880 what are you doing for Valentine's Day um I'm going to take care so you're going with that bitch over there
00:03:57.220 okay have fun that was literally how it was did you dump him right away um or did you did you stay
00:04:03.680 with him for a little bit for how long um it's always the way it was for four more months and
00:04:11.860 then did he cheat again or no then you just got really toxic from there to when it's just the trust
00:04:17.720 was lost and I was just like that's always the way um if you went through his phone and you didn't find
00:04:23.400 anything would you have told him you went through his phone the thing is so he just kind of like
00:04:27.900 gave me his phone and it was like on open yeah that makes sense like all the messages were right
00:04:32.820 in front of me that was God that was God so it's like I don't know maybe I would have told him I
00:04:39.460 went through his phone okay like if yeah yeah okay go ahead oh gosh my story is a bit long I don't
00:04:46.700 know how much time I've got are you can you can if it's interesting go ahead yeah it's okay so basically
00:04:52.520 his cheating was never confirmed he's always denied it even though I've got substantial evidence to
00:04:59.240 say that he's cheated on me he will still deny it um he so at uni there was three of us or four of us
00:05:08.400 that were friends there was three guys and then me um and then when I broke up with my partner at the
00:05:13.420 time I was only about 19 or something um I started dating him he was like a friend that obviously I'd
00:05:19.020 known him for about two years like homey hopper yeah yeah yeah because me I like I like to be
00:05:24.960 connected to your mind you get what I mean and and he was he was like the friend didn't work out so
00:05:29.420 you're like oh there's his friend and then no no no no no so he was my friend you're so we were
00:05:34.420 all mutual friends he like made it out of the he made out of the friend zone oh but but he was friends
00:05:39.160 with your ex too no no he was all so we were just a uni friends we were just a bunch of friends
00:05:43.520 and then so yes when I became single they all approached me and I chose him oh okay okay okay
00:05:49.120 yeah but then you're there was there was no connection with that yeah it was just I was single
00:05:53.460 for the first time and it was just like okay cool um so I was dating him we were together for about
00:05:59.260 I'll say two years and in between that I found a few things but he will always deny it cool
00:06:04.600 I then moved into a property with one of our mutual friends girlfriends so one of the girl guys
00:06:10.420 from the circle his girlfriend and me and her lived together they then moved in with us because
00:06:17.000 they were meant to get their own property but it was just like we might as well just like all live
00:06:20.280 in one place so it was like cool everyone used to come to our house it was like the uni little
00:06:23.960 hot spot my friend that was dating the girl he went away so he went to his country and he was there for
00:06:31.180 some time and I started noticing a different behavior in her like her her pajamas started getting
00:06:36.080 shorter they started going out at the same time or they'll start try stay in at the same time and I
00:06:41.160 thought this is getting a bit awkward like anyway she they then disappeared one day at the same time
00:06:48.400 she said she's going to see her mom he said he's going to see his mom and we had a group chat they're
00:06:52.600 not responding on anything you know at the same time so I thought is it me or like is this too much
00:06:57.360 of a coincidence anyway um when I when I asked him well I said to him there's definitely someone
00:07:04.320 she's cheating with because she's you know dressing up a bit more she came home that night and she was
00:07:09.220 talking about like you know she was talking about some crazy stuff so I was messaging him like oh I
00:07:13.720 think I know like she's definitely cheating but I think I know who he was like yeah try find out
00:07:17.580 I was like okay so obviously you know then the next day he disappeared for the whole night she
00:07:22.980 disappeared for the whole night so I thought nothing of it cool I went back to the flat alone
00:07:26.640 um the week later we had all our uni friends come around and one of her dopey friends came
00:07:33.520 and she didn't know how to use just eat so she's taking her laptop now to go and just eat as she's
00:07:39.060 gone on to put the postcode in she obviously doesn't know how to use the laptop so I said okay let me try
00:07:43.280 use it I've gone to click on the postcode and it says cr0 and I'm thinking she doesn't have no
00:07:48.500 friends in Croydon like who the hell where's she going in Croydon so I've now
00:07:52.020 memorized the postcode and I'm not going to him like yo yo give me your phone I think I know who
00:07:56.840 she's cheating with and he was like yeah yeah yeah try it try it like see what you know so I've now
00:08:01.120 gone and put in the postcode and oh sorry before I get there basically when he came back from his
00:08:07.740 night away we had a massive argument he left the house I went through his pocket and I saw a receipt
00:08:12.500 for Hallmark Hotel right so obviously he came back he explained that he was at his mom's but he needed
00:08:18.340 um some time away from her so he just booked a hotel for himself I said why didn't tell me anyway
00:08:23.160 yeah cool long story short he needed some time alone so as I've now gone to put the postcode
00:08:27.480 on his phone the pin drops at Hallmark Hotel oh wow oh so they were together well this is it so
00:08:35.600 straight away in the whole group of friends I've now confronted her and I said how the hell do you know
00:08:39.320 Hallmark Hotel and because he's such a good prolific liar he goes I made her order me food
00:08:46.200 I said sorry and then he's now told me that he's got her to order food because he couldn't trust anyone
00:08:52.720 else to order food because everyone else would have told me he's at the hotel
00:08:56.060 so long story short yeah I found out he was cheating with my flatmate
00:09:00.080 and did you break up with him no because he convinced me that it was that it wasn't did he
00:09:06.880 really like come on no he can when I say when I say you wanted to be convinced no no I why I say he
00:09:13.500 convinced me I called my friend straight away and I said listen your girlfriend's a cheat blah blah
00:09:17.080 this is what's happened he then spoke to her apparently she showed proof that they were
00:09:22.100 they called for the food or whatever so he then convinced me that his girlfriend wasn't cheating
00:09:27.880 on him she he then made me feel bad that I'm even making such a big allegation I still said yeah I'm
00:09:33.140 still moving out I'm not gonna lie like I gave him my notice um so yeah he convinced me that they
00:09:39.040 didn't do a thing so how long did you stay with him after that a good two more years two more years
00:09:44.640 and are you are you the most interesting part all right um what made you switch like from being
00:09:50.800 convinced to not convinced I was never not I was never fully not convinced okay so yeah so I still
00:09:56.220 had my doubts you said he convinced you yeah he tried convincing me so obviously I still stayed there
00:10:01.020 so okay this is where I'm a little confused you were you were convinced or you were not I was still
00:10:07.240 like I was I thought you maybe found more evidence later no I found more evidence later oh okay I
00:10:11.860 definitely found more evidence so I know that he definitely did but he still would deny it okay
00:10:15.460 okay yeah yeah what was the interesting so what was interesting is um so a couple of years later
00:10:21.280 now university has happened and we've all graduated you know she was a bitch on graduation cool um we've
00:10:27.220 all me and my friend we broke up because he felt like we I broke up the friendship cool um then a couple
00:10:33.040 of years later I was at home we like we were living together and then I was going through I was on
00:10:39.180 laptop and we used to download you know like we had limelight or whatever then so you download shows
00:10:43.340 and as I was going on um a show to watch the profile a folder came up and it said please insert
00:10:49.180 usb and her name was a show that we used to watch so I won't say the show because obviously it will
00:10:54.220 disclose who she is but it was she had so I thought it's the show that he was watching right
00:10:58.440 it was on his recently viewed so I've gone to click it and it says oh please insert the usb
00:11:02.840 so he used to always have usb on his keys so I've now inserted the first one and it wasn't showing
00:11:07.940 so I inserted the second one and it came up with a folder and it had all her pictures
00:11:12.480 so I've now gone onto my computer to go see what like what's on what else is on there and there
00:11:19.200 was no folders like no files and I was like this is so confusing and I was I'm not tech savvy like I
00:11:23.960 don't do technology so I've had to now go on google find how to unhide folders I've gone to unhide folders
00:11:30.500 and there was about 60 folders of girls pictures that he must have been chatting to over the time
00:11:35.940 and he was saving them wow wait so he just had a file of the wank bank in it
00:11:42.180 oh were they like naked explicit yeah whatever like whatever folders he had like so so when
00:11:48.860 so when was that that was that was the end of our relationship okay that then it actually ended yeah
00:11:53.620 okay yeah then I found out that he was actually then cheating on me with his ex
00:11:57.840 oh so that's what how many how many girls total a lot I I still would have he'll still deny but
00:12:04.860 what did you what with the weights so so you found you found a picture like a whole folder of naked
00:12:13.720 girls multiple pictures not even just naked the some might have been just oh okay innocent ones
00:12:18.600 but it was a part of his collection he said and he said that this is nothing yeah he told me that he
00:12:24.640 she only like the girl the flatmate only sent him pictures because he was giving her advice on what
00:12:30.320 to wear I was like what you got like what do you mean you're advising her but yeah there was it was
00:12:35.480 obviously you know um he tried lying as much as he could okay and then that was the end of the
00:12:40.320 relationship yeah then yeah okay um I can't I can't even compete was there wait wait actually was
00:12:46.800 there anything we missed in the story okay so basically I just felt sorry I just felt like you
00:12:52.480 had more to say so basically his girl his ex at the time I used to see messages from a girl called
00:12:59.700 s coming up and I had doubts it was his ex right and he was like no no no it's not anyway when I found
00:13:05.260 that them pictures he then said you know what I can't do this anymore like I'm done you're always
00:13:09.360 doubting me I said yeah because there's reasons cool then obviously he broke up with me then the next day
00:13:14.920 I had taken the number s's number and I called it the next day and I said oh hey so and so is you
00:13:21.660 know who with you and I heard him start laughing in the background oh dear and he had a very specific
00:13:27.300 laugh so it confirmed that he was with her but obviously she denied it she was like why would I
00:13:31.840 be with him but yeah so so you kind of had like red flags like all four years would you say
00:13:36.940 pretty much yeah pretty much yeah as many of you know I was just banned on tiktok and we are
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