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00:00:00.000 How long can a girl not sleep with her husband before she's deemed a bad wife? 1.00

00:00:06.720 Wow.

00:00:08.840 Depends.

00:00:09.720 What is normal to have, how...

00:00:12.140 No, no, no, I'm just saying in general.

00:00:14.160 How long?

00:00:14.600 Three months, I'd say.

00:00:15.580 Three months is bad wife. 1.00

00:00:17.920 Three months is a long time to not have sex.

00:00:19.000 What if there's still a show involved? 0.65

00:00:20.540 No, but three months is a long time to not have sex.

00:00:22.080 There's still some sort of exhibition amongst partners, but it's not full intercourse,

00:00:28.060 and you just show for each other.

00:00:30.820 A show?

00:00:31.800 Wow.

00:00:33.360 Like this show?

00:00:34.180 Just being naked or what? 1.00

00:00:35.820 It could be naked, it could be masturbate. 1.00

00:00:37.900 Okay, we're just talking about sex. 1.00

00:00:41.580 I'm not...

00:00:42.720 I'd say that three months in an active relationship is probably quite a long time to go without.

00:00:48.820 Okay.

00:00:49.120 Without a valid reason, like a baby or something.

00:00:51.860 Okay, and so then he can cheat?

00:00:54.500 No.

00:00:54.920 No, he has to have a conversation, but I'm not an expert on it, so...

00:00:57.360 You don't have to be an expert, it's just opinions.

00:00:59.540 Well, I haven't had that experience.

00:01:00.640 It's just an opinion show, you know?

00:01:02.020 I can't speak from experience, so then I feel a bit funny about saying...

00:01:05.800 Okay, okay, that's all right.

00:01:07.380 What about you?

00:01:10.660 Can a guy cheat if his wife won't sleep with him? 1.00

00:01:14.260 I don't think anybody should cheat.

00:01:16.160 Male or female, wife or husband, if they can't sleep with each other. 0.93

00:01:21.120 Whether it's from physical deformity or whatever it is.

00:01:24.780 Okay.

00:01:25.040 Communicate it, and if not, then just split.

00:01:27.420 How long can a woman not sleep with her husband until she's a bad wife? 1.00

00:01:32.220 Eternity.

00:01:33.960 Forever?

00:01:34.580 Eternity.

00:01:36.840 So she's a good wife still if she doesn't sleep with him for a year? 1.00

00:01:45.100 Other way around.

00:01:47.140 She's a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with him for a year. 1.00

00:01:49.660 Okay, so if it's a month, is she a bad wife? 1.00

00:01:53.980 No.

00:01:54.420 Well, no.

00:01:55.340 She feels a certain type of way.

00:01:56.680 She's on her period.

00:01:57.500 Maybe it could be many things.

00:01:58.560 Okay, so one month, three months, is she a bad wife? 1.00

00:02:00.640 Six months, ten months, a year.

00:02:02.140 But at least communicate.

00:02:03.100 Tell me why.

00:02:04.460 Okay, and then she says, I don't want to.

00:02:08.400 Tell me why you don't want to.

00:02:09.500 Exactly, again, why?

00:02:10.220 There has to be some sort of reason.

00:02:11.920 Even if you tell me, okay, I don't feel it, it's a reason.

00:02:16.280 But if you tell me, I don't know, that's literally not a reason.

00:02:20.240 Is sex a duty in marriage? 0.86

00:02:22.320 It's a duty amongst animal instinct, but it's not an obligation.

00:02:28.720 Okay.

00:02:29.180 If that makes any sense.

00:02:29.860 What is marriage?

00:02:33.120 A marriage is... 0.52

00:02:34.420 Love.

00:02:35.400 No, a marriage is...

00:02:37.240 A contract of commitment and love.

00:02:38.980 It's two people coming together and saying, okay, we agree to respect each other and come

00:02:46.280 to the same vows and say, okay, if we agree to be together, then it's just going to be

00:02:52.220 us.

00:02:52.880 Okay.

00:02:53.440 And we have to be openly honest, whether it's through positive, through negative.

00:02:58.200 And if we don't see alike, we can figure out a way around it or away from it.

00:03:05.660 Because not everything always goes together, blends together.

00:03:09.840 Is marriage for life?

00:03:11.360 Yes.

00:03:11.960 No.

00:03:12.180 It should be.

00:03:12.760 Okay.

00:03:13.260 So one...

00:03:14.360 Is marriage for life?

00:03:18.160 Yes.

00:03:18.680 It should be for life.

00:03:19.500 It should be.

00:03:20.300 Okay.

00:03:21.080 Until death do us part.

00:03:23.980 Is it that way?

00:03:24.820 Unfortunately not, because there are many life-like situations where individuals don't feel the

00:03:31.900 same way they did when they were first married.

00:03:33.920 Is marriage about feelings?

00:03:36.700 It's respect to each other's?

00:03:37.420 No, it's about feelings, commitments, respect.

00:03:39.380 It's about a bunch of different things.

00:03:41.000 Okay.

00:03:41.220 So what would you say it's about?

00:03:43.960 Feelings, commitments, sacrifice.

00:03:46.140 Okay, so it is about feelings.

00:03:48.420 Yeah, definitely.

00:03:49.320 I would disagree.

00:03:50.500 I would strongly disagree.

00:03:51.960 I think if that was true, then India wouldn't have like the lowest divorce rate where it's 1.00

00:03:56.460 arranged.

00:03:57.560 They have no feelings, I guess.

00:03:59.580 I guess, no, it's not that they have no feelings.

00:04:01.580 It's about duty, I think.

00:04:02.780 Yeah, it's about duty.

00:04:03.600 But then there's also have to be some feeling and consideration backed behind it. 0.99

00:04:08.680 Because if there's a duty, okay, your duty is to go hunt and kill.

00:04:15.260 But behind that duty, there's a purpose.

00:04:18.360 If you don't kill, you don't eat, nobody eats.

00:04:20.720 You can eat by yourself.

00:04:21.900 Sure.

00:04:22.620 So be it.

00:04:23.080 Do you think it's good to rely on feelings?

00:04:26.480 Not so.

00:04:26.880 Not 100%.

00:04:27.860 It depends on the situation.

00:04:30.020 No, I do not agree.

00:04:31.700 But then there's always a situation.

00:04:33.280 Should a guy protect and provide when he feels like it?

00:04:35.800 Should a guy protect and provide when he feels like it?

00:04:40.580 Many of them do.

00:04:41.860 Yeah, why not?

00:04:42.800 Because he feels like a duty as an alpha.

00:04:45.520 Yeah, he'll feel it.

00:04:46.520 Even if he feels that he knows that it's negative.

00:04:48.540 If there's an intruder and he's scared, should he run away?

00:04:52.280 If he runs away, then he's not.

00:04:55.540 If there's an intruder and the man runs away and there's a household full of women and children,

00:05:01.680 male or female, under the age that cannot protect themselves,

00:05:04.780 and the male alpha runs away.

00:05:07.660 So he shouldn't do that based on his feelings?

00:05:10.720 He shouldn't do that anyway.

00:05:12.080 No, no, I'm saying he shouldn't rely on his feelings when he's scared.

00:05:15.740 Should rely on his duty, right?

00:05:17.880 Instinctively, duty.

00:05:19.600 And I say this for myself.

00:05:20.880 Okay.

00:05:21.340 Instinctively.

00:05:21.700 Would you say it's the same for women and sex? 0.99

00:05:27.940 Instinctively and duty for women and sex? 0.74

00:05:29.720 Yes.

00:05:34.780 Sure, why not?

00:05:35.820 Okay.

00:05:38.980 Did you have something to say, King?

00:05:40.740 Yeah, I just wanted to ask.

00:05:42.560 For the ladies, is a woman's emotional need important in a marriage? 1.00

00:05:50.940 Yeah.

00:05:51.580 Both of them are men.

00:05:53.380 I just asked a specific question.

00:05:55.940 I didn't ask about men.

00:05:57.120 For a woman, is her emotional need important in a marriage? 0.98

00:06:00.600 Yeah.

00:06:01.800 Is it important for a man to consider his woman's emotional need in a relationship and in a marriage

00:06:09.540 for that marriage to be successful?

00:06:10.900 Yes.

00:06:11.480 Yeah.

00:06:11.900 Okay, that's good.

00:06:13.080 So for a man, is sex important in a relationship?

00:06:15.920 Yes.

00:06:16.600 Yes.

00:06:16.960 All right.

00:06:17.500 So is it important for a woman to consider a man's need in a relationship for that relationship

00:06:21.680 to be successful?

00:06:22.440 Yes.

00:06:22.600 Yes.

00:06:23.180 Okay.

00:06:23.560 So do you realize how you guys have all argued against that point?

00:06:27.820 Basically, after you asked that question, yes.

00:06:30.320 I didn't answer that question.

00:06:32.060 Me neither.

00:06:33.820 But we said, what is the reason that she's not giving sex, right? 1.00

00:06:38.300 Exactly.

00:06:38.520 If there may be a real reason.

00:06:40.540 I don't see no reason.

00:06:41.520 The question was, if he was allowed to cheat, there's something different.

00:06:46.680 That's good.

00:06:46.940 So do you think there can be a reason why a man would not consider a woman's emotional

00:06:51.980 need in a relationship?

00:06:53.380 Yes, there is a reason.

00:06:54.680 I don't know what it is, but...

00:06:55.800 You may always ask, what is the reason why he's not considering my...

00:06:59.240 Before they start making problems.

00:07:01.600 Do they try to find out the reason why the man is not fulfilling his end of the bargain

00:07:06.520 or do they just start causing trouble?

00:07:08.200 This is why couples fight. 0.99

00:07:09.480 This is why...

00:07:10.260 Because they don't maybe communicate and they don't really consider each other's...

00:07:15.460 Does communicating typically lead to the problem being solved?

00:07:19.100 No.

00:07:19.560 Not if they communicate in a bad way.

00:07:22.980 So why would men communicate more? 0.91

00:07:25.000 And they are scared.

00:07:26.540 Men, they are scared to communicate sometimes because they know the woman will do a big fuss. 0.99

00:07:32.100 Maybe they will end with a big fighting and argument and they don't want that.

00:07:36.240 I disagree on that too.

00:07:37.440 Who communicates better, men or women?

00:07:39.480 Depends who.

00:07:40.680 In general, even in relationships, who do you think communicates better, men or women?

00:07:44.580 Women. 0.81

00:07:45.900 I would say women. 0.95

00:07:47.600 Are you sure?

00:07:48.900 I think women are more open to talk. 1.00

00:07:50.640 No, because women are more open to talk at all. 1.00

00:07:52.940 Women are more open to talk. 1.00

00:07:54.800 Do women typically communicate and get to the point? 1.00

00:07:59.000 No.

00:07:59.460 They will go around the subject.

00:08:01.260 Wait, just yes or no.

00:08:02.980 Do women typically communicate and get to the point? 1.00

00:08:05.280 No.

00:08:05.580 No.

00:08:06.280 So why do we think they communicate better when we don't get to the point?

00:08:13.800 Trying is better than nothing because some men, they don't even want to talk.

00:08:18.520 If I try to lose weight and I don't, does it matter?

00:08:27.720 Have you actually tried?

00:08:29.400 I think women have brainwashed society into thinking we communicate better, but we communicate 1.00

00:08:38.860 worse.

00:08:40.100 I don't agree.

00:08:41.100 I don't really agree.

00:08:42.600 Do men not communicate in relationships or do women not like the way men communicate?

00:08:48.660 The second.

00:08:49.660 Second, yeah.

00:08:50.820 I would say the second as well.

00:08:52.780 I think it depends still.

00:08:53.980 I think generally, if you're going to be a generalization again, once again, we're doing

00:09:03.440 the generally, women speak with emotion, right? 0.98

00:09:06.940 And so they speak emotionally.

00:09:08.140 I feel this.

00:09:08.760 I feel that.

00:09:09.620 Whereas men speak. 0.98

00:09:10.720 This is the facts that they think rather than maybe feelings coming into it.

00:09:16.880 And so that's the difference.

00:09:19.100 But what I've learned from my marriage was from my ex-husband.

00:09:22.460 He was saying to me, you all the times you go around the subject, he was saying to me

00:09:27.040 that I'm going around the subject like this and he is coming.

00:09:30.020 This is the problem.

00:09:30.840 This is the solution.

00:09:31.700 Let's do something.

00:09:32.800 Exactly.

00:09:33.420 Simple for the men.

00:09:34.000 But I'm more like that.

00:09:34.760 And we, and we as a woman, we are making the fuss and we are going around the problem.

00:09:41.100 I think that's a generalization because I think...

00:09:43.620 It's a generalization in general.

00:09:45.260 This is what women are doing. 1.00

00:09:47.860 Bullet points.

00:09:48.620 So, the cheating.

00:09:50.540 Should a man cheat if his wife will not sleep with him? 0.87

00:09:54.440 Sure.

00:09:56.140 I mean, I'm not married, never been married, but I've lived with different partners.

00:10:03.280 And sometimes, it's painful because you get that look.

00:10:06.180 And it's like, almost like a, first it's a no, it's bad.

00:10:12.360 Then it's almost like a disgust after a while.

00:10:15.380 Like, ooh, like, why would I sleep with you? 1.00

00:10:17.320 I'm like, fuck, we've been together for like, together for like years. 0.99

00:10:24.400 So, yeah, for sure. 0.99

00:10:26.320 After a while.

00:10:26.940 Yeah, or break up. 1.00

00:10:27.960 Fuck it. 1.00

00:10:30.540 How long can a woman not sleep with a man until she's a bad wife? 1.00

00:10:34.840 What a week.

00:10:39.120 It's been a...

00:10:39.980 It wasn't...

00:10:41.660 Who said that?

00:10:43.580 Who said a week?

00:10:47.580 They're going to be like, okay, we'll overlook the cheating.

00:10:53.060 Oh, my God.

00:10:54.500 If...

00:10:56.220 I don't know.

00:10:57.080 Depends on the man's libido. 0.97

00:10:58.540 If he wants it a lot.

00:10:59.900 And then all of a sudden, it's gone for like a week.

00:11:01.760 Just in general.

00:11:02.400 We're just talking about in general.

00:11:03.420 For the average guy.

00:11:05.100 Bad wife. 1.00

00:11:05.720 A couple of months.

00:11:06.720 A couple of months.

00:11:07.380 Six?

00:11:07.600 Yeah.

00:11:08.760 Two.

00:11:09.400 Two.

00:11:10.000 Okay.

00:11:10.580 Okay.

00:11:10.880 Two, three months.

00:11:11.620 That is rough.

00:11:12.680 What?

00:11:13.140 One couple of months.

00:11:15.460 They're lower than it.

00:11:16.580 They're like, we're not dealing with this.

00:11:19.300 Okay.

00:11:19.580 What about you?

00:11:21.580 Okay.

00:11:22.040 On this, like, I have a different opinion.

00:11:24.340 I don't think it will make it a bad wife if she doesn't sleep with you. 1.00

00:11:27.620 I strongly believe that as a practical man, I should try to find why is that happening.

00:11:32.260 Maybe I'm doing something wrong.

00:11:33.340 Maybe or not.

00:11:34.700 But if, let's say, I'm doing everything right, yeah, I wouldn't like a way to...

00:11:42.280 Do you think women reward good behavior? 1.00

00:11:44.620 No.

00:11:45.700 So then, why would you look to see if you're doing everything right?

00:11:49.300 Recognize but not reward.

00:11:50.800 No, not everything right.

00:11:52.140 I mean, like, maybe something like is major that makes her stay away.

00:11:57.140 Not for small things because no one's perfect, right?

00:11:59.480 But, yeah, they definitely don't reward good behavior.

00:12:05.000 So if she keeps not sleeping with you, how long?

00:12:09.840 I don't know.

00:12:10.700 It never happened to me.

00:12:13.820 But I would address the issue immediately.

00:12:15.840 Probably the first few times of attempt.

00:12:20.480 Okay.

00:12:21.660 I cannot say days because maybe you don't want to have...

00:12:24.040 Give her, like, a week.

00:12:25.560 No, no.

00:12:26.000 It's not about time.

00:12:27.320 It's about, like, a few attempts, let's say, because maybe I don't want to either.

00:12:32.740 But let's say I won't, like, and there is no, like, something like women issue. 0.96

00:12:37.120 And she does say no one, no twice.

00:12:39.300 The third time I'm going to say, listen, what's going on?

00:12:42.320 And then it's done.

00:12:43.820 Maybe it's going to be the first day.

00:12:45.340 Who knows?

00:12:46.060 If not now, I'm going to leave you.

00:12:50.240 What do you think about men's cheating if their wife doesn't sleep with them? 1.00

00:12:53.280 Is that the woman's fault or the man's fault? 0.58

00:12:57.320 That's an interesting question, you know?

00:13:01.580 It's common.

00:13:02.540 I think it's both.

00:13:03.700 It's equal?

00:13:04.680 No, it's not equal.

00:13:05.240 No, we've got to pick a fault.

00:13:07.280 Okay.

00:13:08.540 Do it.

00:13:11.200 If a man cheats, right?

00:13:13.060 Yeah.

00:13:13.700 And because the woman wouldn't sleep with them. 1.00

00:13:16.440 I think it's woman's fault. 1.00

00:13:18.380 But I don't strongly agree on that.

00:13:20.080 Okay, what do you think?

00:13:24.360 I'm sorry.

00:13:25.140 Whose fault is it if the man cheats because the woman won't sleep with him?

00:13:28.900 The woman's fault. 1.00

00:13:30.040 It's the woman's fault. 1.00

00:13:31.220 And you said a week until she's a bad wife? 1.00

00:13:33.180 Yeah.

00:13:34.360 See, this is why.

00:13:35.420 This is why the men want to stay.

00:13:37.560 They're like, whatever.

00:13:38.200 I want to say, when you marry, it gets different.

00:13:42.000 Yeah.

00:13:42.600 It's different.

00:13:43.460 Have you been there?

00:13:44.480 No, I haven't.

00:13:45.420 Okay.

00:13:45.940 I haven't.

00:13:46.660 Talk it to you back.

00:13:47.940 Go ahead.

00:13:48.440 Yeah.

00:13:48.660 I just feel like when it gets to marriage and you're together forever, because you're

00:13:55.260 going to be forever, you just need to please each other with whatever the other person asks.

00:14:00.880 And that's why, again, I'm going back.

00:14:03.100 That's why from the beginning you should say, okay, I don't like this.

00:14:06.120 You don't like this.

00:14:07.480 Are you willing to do this?

00:14:09.200 Are you not willing?

00:14:10.320 And it's just like, it's just simple conversation for me.

00:14:13.080 Okay.

00:14:13.860 What about you?

00:14:14.560 Yeah, same.

00:14:15.620 I keep going back to like, what's the reason?

00:14:17.740 Why?

00:14:18.080 Talk.

00:14:18.660 Like, I think it's very, now it's very much like, oh.

00:14:21.260 Is there a good reason to not sleep with your husband?

00:14:23.820 No.

00:14:24.060 There could be.

00:14:24.880 You don't know.

00:14:25.320 What is, what would be a good reason?

00:14:26.560 What is, what would be a good reason?

00:14:30.600 If you would have a kid and it would be absolutely hurting you.

00:14:33.200 Something went down there and it's been absolutely painful.

00:14:35.060 Outside of a medical issue.

00:14:36.460 So, okay, take the medical issue out of it.

00:14:39.640 What would be a good reason to not sleep with your husband? 1.00

00:14:42.720 I don't know.

00:14:43.040 I've never been in that situation.

00:14:45.160 So, so why, why, why does your automatic gut

00:14:48.080 gut reaction to say like, but, but there could be reasons if you've never had, but I'm saying

00:14:52.940 if you personally have never had a reason, like, why is your gut reaction to go, there

00:14:56.900 must be a reason?

00:14:58.140 Because why wouldn't you want to have sex? 0.77

00:14:59.640 Like, why wouldn't you want to sleep with your partner? 0.98

00:15:01.620 Yeah.

00:15:02.440 Do you think women can be controlling? 1.00

00:15:05.480 Yeah.

00:15:05.820 Absolutely.

00:15:06.480 Okay.

00:15:06.720 Okay.

00:15:06.840 Do you think, do you think women use sex to control men?

00:15:10.020 They can do.

00:15:11.140 So, you know, that happens, right?

00:15:12.600 Of course.

00:15:12.920 But it's just interesting because you've never had a reason to not have sex yet.

00:15:17.700 But, but you know that women can control men through sex, but your gut reaction is still 0.76

00:15:21.800 to protect the woman. 0.94

00:15:23.620 That's maybe because I can force women to have sex as well. 1.00

00:15:26.680 Right? 1.00

00:15:27.520 Men can force women to have sex as well. 0.99

00:15:29.780 Like we agreed that men are stronger, right? 0.77

00:15:31.660 Not legally.

00:15:32.240 But it's not intelligent than to make this other question, you know, if you're not considering

00:15:35.920 the other things as well.

00:15:37.440 So, and I think, I know we were talking about what happens if a man forces a woman to have

00:15:43.220 sex? 0.98

00:15:43.280 Then it's rape. 1.00

00:15:43.780 He will go. 0.99

00:15:44.360 So, what will happen to him?

00:15:46.740 He will go to justice.

00:15:47.540 He's going to go to court, right?

00:15:48.640 Okay.

00:15:49.040 So, he'll likely go to.

00:15:50.900 Yes.

00:15:51.620 Do you think the justice system favors men or women?

00:15:54.660 In this case, a man is forcing a woman physically to do. 0.86

00:15:57.880 No, no, no.

00:15:58.420 I'm saying, do you think the justice system, okay, okay.

00:16:02.500 So, it favors women. 0.99

00:16:03.620 Are you pro?

00:16:04.660 So, so, so, so.

00:16:05.580 My question is. 0.89

00:16:08.280 She, he cannot just have sex with her because the court will prosecute him, right? 0.75

00:16:12.980 If it's physically forced. 0.92

00:16:14.620 Correct.

00:16:15.780 Right. 0.89

00:16:15.960 So, so he can't just force sex. 0.86

00:16:18.600 No.

00:16:19.200 Even physically.

00:16:19.980 Okay.

00:16:20.340 Physically.

00:16:20.960 Correct.

00:16:21.460 Even if they're married.

00:16:22.380 Correct.

00:16:22.960 Even if they're married.

00:16:25.100 He can do.

00:16:25.760 You signed the paper.

00:16:26.720 You're mine.

00:16:27.140 I'm yours.

00:16:27.780 I can do whatever.

00:16:29.460 No.

00:16:29.800 No.

00:16:30.200 You're wrong.

00:16:31.580 Excuse me.

00:16:32.600 You are wrong.

00:16:33.820 Very wrong.

00:16:34.240 If you, if you say someone like that's wrong.

00:16:37.860 Doesn't matter if you are married or not.

00:16:39.760 Yeah.

00:16:39.920 I don't know.

00:16:41.220 I grew up.

00:16:42.100 No one has any rights on no one.

00:16:43.700 No, no.

00:16:44.220 It used to be thought of that way.

00:16:45.880 It's like lifetime consent.

00:16:47.780 But now the feminists kind of get in there. 1.00

00:16:49.760 I don't know if this like, but similar things to this happened to my mother.

00:16:55.620 My mom and dad, they married 34 years and they're still together just because my mom sit down

00:17:00.800 and just, okay, you're my husband anyway, so.

00:17:04.220 Okay.

00:17:04.540 Okay.

00:17:04.600 Okay.

JustPearlyThings - July 28, 2023

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