JustPearlyThings - August 09, 2023


Pearl Asked Them This TOUGH Question


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12 minutes

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188.40385

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2,345

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00:00:00.000 to the woman who suggested that men can suss out bad behavior how does this explain indoctrination
00:00:06.800 i spent five years being a provider protector and leader and then she was converted by the benefit i
00:00:11.680 converted by the benefit i provided when you give you lose um okay i think that's all of them okay
00:00:21.600 okay what percent of western women are marriage material in 2023
00:00:30.000 that's a really hard question yeah first thing that came to my head maybe 25 25 um probably 20 20 20
00:00:43.600 was the question what percentage of women are wifeable marriage material marriage material
00:00:50.400 yeah under 20 under 20 what do you think hmm i'd say 30 30 i'd say about 15
00:01:00.720 the way how things are going right now it's the last dying breed so that's 20 10 do you think
00:01:07.840 women are better off in 2023 than they were in 1953 and tell me why yes or no and why
00:01:16.080 i don't think so i think this is just my personal opinion
00:01:20.880 in 2023 you are better off materialistically um that's just the way society is we have to sort
00:01:30.880 of fend for ourselves so um you know if i really wanted to i can work out hard i can go out by a
00:01:35.840 mercedes get chanel bag whatever but you know i still have to walk down the street alone at night
00:01:44.080 not knowing what could happen you know and and like you know the option to sit at home and be a
00:01:51.840 housewife isn't readily available to me so i do believe that women in the 1950s were better off
00:01:59.760 just because life was simpler also like technology wasn't around back then and i think that especially
00:02:06.000 social media is the most toxic thing to happen to us you know we're we're more connected than ever
00:02:11.840 before but i think kind of what you were saying like spiritually we're further apart than we ever
00:02:17.360 have been because social media and and everything is just a front and and you get to tailor that front
00:02:22.720 how you want to be perceived um so yeah i i definitely think that me personally i would
00:02:28.720 have much preferred to have been around in the 1950s yeah i agree i definitely would have much
00:02:35.920 preferred to be around in that time because you know things were just i would say more
00:02:42.240 simple back then and just more just i wouldn't say easier but just there wasn't a lot of pressure
00:02:50.640 you know you you didn't have that much pressure to prove yourself or you weren't comparing yourself to
00:02:56.320 people all the time and you know you kind of just did what you did to get by and you know communities
00:03:02.560 you looked after your family and you know you weren't distracted by social media and you know
00:03:09.200 what people are doing and what people are wearing and buying nowadays so i i feel like we we have been
00:03:16.720 like brainwashed in a way um and i would much prefer to be back in those days to be honest
00:03:22.320 um i would say um obviously talk about gender right now but um for race um i think in 1953 like it must
00:03:31.760 have been way harder for like black couples to um be able to even like function um so and then 2023
00:03:40.800 um we're much more aware about like race and like um the effects that like black people have like so for
00:03:47.280 me to find a lovely black man in 2023 i feel like yeah it would be much easier for us to actually be
00:03:54.080 in an open relationship um like open open no not open open because no i want to be in a um monogamous
00:04:04.080 relationship but yeah it's what you know to even hold hands down the street without yeah so yeah i think
00:04:11.040 2023 can you ask the question again are women better off in 2023 than they were in 1953 oh no i think
00:04:22.560 like they're really influenced by society and that they're like chasing what society is feeding them
00:04:29.440 and like when they actually get there they're so unhappy because they've realized they've wasted
00:04:34.880 their life chasing something that was designed to destroy them i think that was always implicated
00:04:41.120 from the 1950s even till now there's always been fashion there's always been upper middle and lower
00:04:47.520 class so people have always been chasing something you know i mean to bear themselves so me personally i say
00:04:56.400 it's just more in your face because we've got access to it you know i mean certain people that
00:05:01.600 what we're now looking at and thinking oh wow they've got this and that there's always been
00:05:06.160 an upper class middle class and a lower class it's just more in your face now and we more look at it
00:05:11.200 like oh if they can do it i must be able to do it it's just you're chasing it quicker because it's in
00:05:17.840 your face but in aspect of like fashion and everything nothing has really changed i'll be honest it's just
00:05:25.840 more in your face it's just more accessible but for me personally i'm i'm happy in 2023.
00:05:31.760 social media makes women more delusional it does but it's in your face that's why it's like they
00:05:36.480 start thinking they look like the filters i hate it after a show i'll see someone message me off of
00:05:43.280 instagram i'll look at it i'm like what the who was that it's like they start to literally think that
00:05:50.800 they're the filters and that the attention they get from those filters is equates to real life and it
00:05:55.680 does it but like just as human beings we've always looked up like there's always been kings and
00:06:01.440 queens you know i mean like so it's just more in your face it weren't accessible like that like the
00:06:07.120 rich used to be around the rich the poor used to be around the poor do you know i mean and if you did
00:06:11.600 see rich person or you'd look up to being that person but it's exactly the same i'd say it's just
00:06:17.760 more in your face it's more accessible i think that's what the computers are designed to do like
00:06:21.840 the economy now relies on the computer which influences the outcome of society as a whole
00:06:28.240 i actually think women are better off today because they have no consequences for bad decisions
00:06:32.880 i don't think it makes us happy but i just think like before if you left your man you were homeless
00:06:37.520 now we have all these programs to bail us out of every bad decision that we made so if you look at
00:06:42.400 it very true i mean i don't think it makes us happy just like it's kind of like if you give a kid
00:06:47.600 everything they want are they really going to be happy at 18. i almost think women are spoiled in
00:06:52.800 2022. yeah 23. oh my gosh that's after me i forgot you agree disagree yeah yeah yeah yeah you don't
00:07:03.920 think women are spoiled in 2023. no i do oh you do i thought you said you don't oh no i think everyone
00:07:08.720 they're super reasonable oh okay this is pretty reasonable panel but i think you know you said
00:07:13.680 obviously like are women better off yeah i think i think yeah yeah i think i agree they are like
00:07:18.400 better off we are um my answer was more coming from like a personal point of view of what i'd like
00:07:22.800 and you're right it's about what what would make us happy but if you're actually looking at it black
00:07:27.680 and white yeah you're better off like if even if you do go homeless or whatever like starting early
00:07:32.480 fans like we have that option now or or it's like if you get pregnant they used to have if you get
00:07:37.840 pregnant they used to have shotgun shotgun weddings now they just have abortions
00:07:42.320 wow it's true yeah it is you know 40 of women that have had abortions have a two or more
00:07:48.560 40. wow that's a really sad statistic and so and 60 what are they going to have in the future
00:07:53.440 so it's literally a form of birth control in 2023 yeah people use abortions as birth control and it's
00:07:58.960 it's not great i don't think it's great but i definitely think we're better off in 2023 i don't
00:08:04.000 think we'd have been able to do this in the 1950s sit with a woman only panel and discuss topics so i'm
00:08:11.200 grateful that we're here they had some actually i've been reacting to some yeah it's like um there
00:08:15.840 was uh but were they like as watched as a view yeah it was it was well probably not as well i mean
00:08:22.400 i can't imagine they had the views youtube does nowadays but i was watching this debate i don't
00:08:28.160 know if we did we post the reaction of the debate of the housewife versus the
00:08:31.760 you remember it was like a housewife versus a career woman and it was so interesting because
00:08:39.040 it was the same conversation we're having today but it was literally it might have been the 60s
00:08:42.720 but like 50s 60s time frame but then maybe it wouldn't be as diverse
00:08:46.880 maybe probably not probably not like i'm i think we're better off now in 2023 yeah we've got access
00:08:52.880 to more things but it's like i think we're better off but we're not happier as a whole yeah yeah i
00:08:57.440 don't think women the outcomes like leave us happy and i feel like what you said um social media the
00:09:03.120 delusion i feel like a lot of us well i speak for myself maybe we spend so much time on social media
00:09:08.400 that we get distracted and we start looking at what we see and thinking okay this is what we need this is
00:09:13.280 what we should be doing this is where we should do and in reality it's not like that everyone's
00:09:16.880 showing their highlights nobody's showing what is really happening yeah well and i think the delusion
00:09:21.600 is leaving us single and childless yeah i mean what who is a kid here who's good you a kid and they
00:09:26.320 say 50 of women are going to be single and childless by it's 20 30 so i mean half of us like we look in
00:09:32.880 this room half of us probably won't have kids that's so sad that's really sad that is so sad i hope it's not
00:09:39.920 any of you but it's it's but does that make people happy and my grandma you know it's crazy my grandma
00:09:44.800 um she she's like pretty sick so i don't know how much longer she's gonna live but so i've been
00:09:48.720 asking her like these like deep questions i'll get them on video and one of them i said like do you
00:09:52.560 have any regrets in life and she told me i wish i had more kids and i said grandma you had nine kids
00:09:58.080 oh my god how many did she want she's like 12. wow but it's like when you ask girls i mean who here
00:10:07.520 wants nine kids yeah no no i don't really wouldn't mind yeah no i would have nine kids really have you
00:10:13.600 had one yet no but have the one first and then come back to me i don't even need to have the one
00:10:18.080 like i've already looked after children no i mean no child labor child child labor it's nothing it's
00:10:27.840 worse it's like i don't know a thousand times worse one of my body's built for that it is for that but
00:10:33.600 i don't know if you would go nine times for that but it's it's interesting because the conversation
00:10:37.840 you guys are having now that's like a modern conversation because if i said that to my grandma
00:10:42.000 she would be like yeah no have more than nine so it's kind of it's kind of just it's it's a testament
00:10:49.280 of the times definitely yeah i think i i feel like women really wanna well there's a lot of people
00:10:57.280 who actually want to just work so i think they're thinking that they don't want to have that many kids
00:11:03.040 just so that they can still have that freedom and that flexibility um and there's a lot of women
00:11:08.160 who actually don't even want kids as well and there is a study that said 80 percent of women
00:11:12.800 want children so the majority of women do want kids i think it's yeah because if i've had girls
00:11:18.720 come on the show and they'll say oh i don't want kids and then my next question is well what if it
00:11:22.080 was with this guy and there's always some say it because they they're with someone that doesn't want
00:11:27.520 kids or they just feel like they can't be a mother or they can't get the guy they want to have kids with
00:11:32.480 that's true and so it's almost like a coat now i don't i don't want i mean some girls really don't
00:11:37.920 but it's i don't think it's a large percentage of women yeah i wonder how old those women are as
00:11:42.640 well the women who say that they they don't i'd be interested to find a woman like mid 30s plus
00:11:48.240 it's usually a cope in my yeah i actually i want to do a panel with single childless women over the
00:11:52.960 age of 55 yeah it's hard to recruit for that though so if the comments want to help me in london
00:11:59.360 that's specific of a panel but just to get their point of view because i feel like
00:12:04.080 around like 50s women get more based a little bit where they kind of are not like you still
00:12:09.520 get the 40 year old saying oh i'm gonna have three kids like when
00:12:14.160 yeah yeah yeah and of course it's coming oh dear body clock