JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023


Pearl BREAKS DOWN Why Men Avoid Post Wall Women


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9 minutes

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2,096

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139

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Misogyny

27

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In this episode, we discuss the difference between women in their 20's and 30's when it comes to non-monogamy. Why do women cheat in their 30's and why they tend to cheat when they are in their early 30's.

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00:00:00.000 If you look at the numbers, social media is the number one way people are meeting.
00:00:04.520 100%.
00:00:05.520 So, social media and dating apps, and when you look at, so then the question is, if that's
00:00:09.800 where people are meeting, what do the numbers look like in the dating apps?
00:00:12.960 Well, women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00
00:00:16.080 So that means on the number one way people are meeting, we're sharing men.
00:00:20.040 100%.
00:00:21.040 Because it's always going to be free men, because we're the hunters, so we're always
00:00:23.600 going to have to...
00:00:24.600 100%.
00:00:25.600 Wait, say that again?
00:00:26.600 Yeah, but when you're saying the average men that get women, they probably get women 0.89
00:00:34.360 over the age of 30, because women tend to go for looks, and so in their 20s. 0.99
00:00:39.200 I fully agree with that.
00:00:40.200 You know why I agree with that?
00:00:41.200 Because I feel like in the 20s...
00:00:42.200 Or single mothers. 0.99
00:00:43.200 You're 100% right, but between 20 and 30, women are very selective in what they do, and 1.00
00:00:47.160 then when they get to the 80s, you start wheeling off a lot of stats about pregnancy, geriatrics.
00:00:52.960 When they start realizing that...
00:00:54.680 And they go for the average man.
00:00:55.960 They feel like they can come back to the average man, or even go back to a man that was trying
00:00:59.780 to get them when they were 18, 19, and feel like they can go back to them.
00:01:03.140 But obviously, with men, it's a bit different, because men at 30, we start peaking.
00:01:08.120 We get better.
00:01:09.160 Yeah.
00:01:09.640 So we start...
00:01:10.640 There's a change.
00:01:11.780 You get what I'm saying?
00:01:12.260 Yeah.
00:01:12.600 Yeah.
00:01:12.860 And so that's why I say women pick non-monogamy in their 20s when they have the most leverage. 1.00
00:01:17.400 And they pick the 20% of men that in their 30s, we tend to pick the rest, basically.
00:01:25.360 And so the issue is when women cheat, who do they typically cheat with? 1.00
00:01:29.020 You guys know?
00:01:29.580 Anyone?
00:01:30.760 Their exes.
00:01:31.680 Correct.
00:01:32.040 100%.
00:01:32.640 Correct.
00:01:33.620 So the issue that a lot of these guys are getting into, and this is why guys don't typically...
00:01:38.160 A lot of guys will say, I don't date women over 30, and it's not a looks thing. 1.00
00:01:41.580 It's that if she's 30, how many relationships has she had? 0.59
00:01:45.260 Is one of those guys better than me?
00:01:47.300 And does she want to be with him?
00:01:48.760 And the odds are he probably is, because in her 20s, she had more leverage than her 30s.
00:01:52.520 So what are the odds in her 30s she can get a better guy than in her 20s? 1.00
00:01:56.320 Likely, right?
00:01:57.100 And he was probably top 20% of looks.
00:02:00.160 I feel like slyly, when they have that relationship from 20 to 30, there's always that one guy that
00:02:05.220 can always come back in the background.
00:02:07.400 Yeah, no, I've spoken to women that have had like, I don't know, six-year situationships
00:02:13.000 on and off, where between every relationship, and that's like how they keep their body count
00:02:17.780 low or whatever, it's like a say-so, they'll like go back to the last...
00:02:21.480 And it kind of, so, it kind of makes sense, you know what I mean?
00:02:25.060 Keeping your body count low, 100%, but you don't have to do that.
00:02:27.660 You can just use a toy.
00:02:28.240 Ain't that toxic?
00:02:29.380 Which is interesting.
00:02:30.340 Yeah, no, no.
00:02:31.700 Yeah, because like...
00:02:32.340 If you're going back to past situations, that may have not been good.
00:02:35.000 That's toxic.
00:02:35.280 So then if you meet a new guy going forward, that's too much toxicity that you're going
00:02:41.400 to bring to the new guy that you may meet, and then your trauma.
00:02:45.240 Yeah, and like, and anytime you mess up, he's sitting there waiting.
00:02:49.400 He's sitting there waiting.
00:02:50.260 He's sitting there waiting.
00:02:51.160 It's a mess.
00:02:52.080 Now, you've got to get rid of all the exes, you know?
00:02:54.720 Everyone's got to come off.
00:02:55.980 Yeah, but they are...
00:02:57.280 Usually, the guys are the ones that are on standby.
00:03:01.100 They're waiting, and...
00:03:02.080 You know why?
00:03:02.560 Men will always be on standby.
00:03:04.380 They're always...
00:03:04.940 And I know what they want.
00:03:06.420 I'm not saying that I'm fooled, but...
00:03:08.760 And you know why it works for women, yeah? 1.00
00:03:09.840 They're always there.
00:03:10.440 You know why it works for women? 1.00
00:03:11.760 And men will always be there, because men don't talk to men.
00:03:13.960 But I'm not going to go to Ted, and like, yo, Ted, I'm dealing with Pell, you know?
00:03:18.640 Boom, boom, boom.
00:03:19.700 Whereas women always want to go to women about stuff. 1.00
00:03:21.700 Yeah.
00:03:22.100 So, you lot, in terms of, you can always have your exes there, because my man will just
00:03:26.420 wait in the background.
00:03:27.640 In the shadows.
00:03:28.000 Yeah, in the shadows.
00:03:28.780 Like, all right, cool.
00:03:29.380 When you're done with mine, come back and you get me?
00:03:32.280 I'm going to say nothing.
00:03:33.540 But women, we try to have that one in the background. 1.00
00:03:36.640 Now she won't be the main one.
00:03:38.240 She want to go to the main woman and tell her, yo, we've been together. 1.00
00:03:41.600 How long?
00:03:42.280 Rare, rare, rare, rare, been in the background.
00:03:43.720 I've never had that.
00:03:44.420 You know what I'm saying?
00:03:44.900 I'm going to read, I'm going to read, this was a, I think this is like a $50, I don't
00:03:48.960 know, the conversion.
00:03:49.740 But Pearl, listen, all these discussions are pointless.
00:03:52.160 Walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes. 0.89
00:03:54.800 This phenomenon first started in Japan.
00:03:56.840 We are just a few years behind.
00:03:58.360 I went to Japan and all I see is women outside. 1.00
00:04:00.340 My main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms if you have to waste 0.99
00:04:04.560 time arguing, debating with modern women. 0.98
00:04:06.480 Society will collapse, just like Japan. 1.00
00:04:08.940 Women will say it's expensive to have kids, tee hee hee children. 1.00
00:04:13.780 But men are indoors with corn or what is, what is it, what is he implying?
00:04:19.820 I don't know, to be honest, I just read it.
00:04:23.560 I mean, I think in general people aren't leaving and especially like now they're going to have
00:04:27.500 AI and like, I think there's just more people aren't going outside.
00:04:31.480 It's his main point.
00:04:33.460 But I was, I was thinking about this the other day because I was like, if I was a guy, how would
00:04:37.900 you pick a good, because I've been interviewing men for this divorce documentary I'm doing.
00:04:42.320 So I interview the men that have been like stupid wrecked by divorced.
00:04:46.320 Okay.
00:04:46.640 So they're, um, and typically this happens like it's, this is kind of the story that I've
00:04:53.060 heard like from guys.
00:04:54.260 Typically he meets her and there's like an unplanned pregnancy and typically like they 0.99
00:04:59.860 get married pretty quick.
00:05:01.260 Like, and then, um, she'll go to a women's shelter, like accuse him of abuse on some level 0.70
00:05:07.780 when some, like they'll even prove that she was lying because you get a free lawyer here
00:05:11.920 if you accuse a guy of abuse.
00:05:13.760 Um, and basically they have their whole lives ruined.
00:05:16.220 They're on these really big child support payments.
00:05:18.040 Like one guy lost his job.
00:05:19.320 Like it's really, really sad.
00:05:21.240 Like I listened like there and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who they
00:05:24.960 used to be.
00:05:25.560 Right.
00:05:26.100 And I'll speak to these men and I'm like, okay, so she, and some, their girls had red
00:05:30.760 flags, but some it's like, she was from a two parent home.
00:05:34.600 Um, she, there's, there's one that's in the news right now where they're both virgins on 0.56
00:05:38.920 their wedding night.
00:05:39.980 Um, I'll see another that's like, she, um, she came from a Christian family.
00:05:45.020 She was from Eastern Europe and like all the, like on paper.
00:05:47.720 And I'm like, I don't know as a guy, how you avoid that.
00:05:50.760 And so that's, that's why I did this show is I was genuinely asking, how do you like,
00:05:54.600 what, what, where are the good women and how do men pick them? 1.00
00:05:59.400 And right now I'll tell you what we've got.
00:06:01.380 Um, hold on.
00:06:02.340 I have the list.
00:06:04.120 Um, go on a coffee date before or after you sleep with her, sleep with her as soon as possible. 0.90
00:06:10.340 Um, one month to a year, ask her to make a coffee, ask to cook on the spot, take her
00:06:15.960 on a coffee date, date as many women as possible to tell the difference, make sure you're not 0.99
00:06:19.300 on birth control.
00:06:20.400 Um, what is her relationship like with her dad?
00:06:22.760 Um, and I, and I don't even say this to like harp on women, right?
00:06:26.220 Cause like men have issues, women have issues. 0.99
00:06:27.860 But I just think like with how much guys have to lose, I'm like, how, I can't even think
00:06:32.560 of how you avoid it.
00:06:33.640 Well, I would say like, just don't, don't sign a contract when you get married, just get
00:06:36.660 married and don't sign the contract.
00:06:38.120 I thought this too.
00:06:39.020 I thought exactly like you, but no, it doesn't matter because when you have a kid, that's
00:06:45.800 true.
00:06:46.120 But I think if there was more purity in the world, I think if the, if, if men and women were
00:06:49.880 both seeking more purity from each other, like how, how honest are you being right now?
00:06:53.980 You know, how, how gentle are you as a pure person?
00:06:56.780 Do you want to harm people?
00:06:57.940 Do you want to, do you go out of your way to lie and get angry?
00:07:00.700 Let's, let's, okay, let's follow this.
00:07:02.280 Let's say the guy says, I'm going to be as pure as possible.
00:07:05.400 I'm going to have as little experience with women as possible. 1.00
00:07:07.660 How does he tell the difference between a woman with a high body count and a low body count? 0.61
00:07:11.440 If he has no experience with women, there's no way, not now there's, there's no, there
00:07:15.380 really is no way, right?
00:07:16.700 So I, but if he has, if he has no experience, no factual ways, no, but I'm saying, okay,
00:07:22.300 I would think you'd have to like kind of be with a lot of women to figure that out.
00:07:25.660 But if he doesn't want to, if he follows the purity route, I think that men still have
00:07:30.860 to date women.
00:07:31.500 I think men and women should, to date men, a few men and women at least to see like, see
00:07:36.340 what, see what people are out there to know the difference between different people.
00:07:39.100 And also observing other people's relationships is important, but I don't think you have
00:07:43.960 to sleep with somebody to know if somebody is a, is a, is a, is wifey material, you know,
00:07:49.040 I don't think you have to sleep with someone.
00:07:50.760 I don't think you have to sleep with someone.
00:07:51.820 Being like intimate, having intimate conversations, having relationship, you know, having your
00:07:55.840 traditional values play out in life roles, you know, cooking and cleaning and taking care
00:07:59.220 of the house, whatever.
00:07:59.820 I think those are things, those are important things to do.
00:08:02.560 And that's how you'll know if that's a woman you actually want to marry one day, but that's 0.98
00:08:06.120 very pure, right?
00:08:06.960 There is no like, you know, having the intercourse and making out and stuff like that.
00:08:11.360 But I guess my question is like the average woman and like, we could talk about like what
00:08:15.320 we should do.
00:08:16.700 And this is where like, it's hard because I used to think like this.
00:08:20.080 I used to think like you, but it's like, I think we're like red pill and like trad cons
00:08:24.000 tend to like talk past each other where it's like the average woman has slept with five
00:08:27.240 to eight people.
00:08:27.980 Like, why would he wait for a woman that's like, so I agree with this. 0.99
00:08:33.360 And like, they should not, a man should not wait for someone who slept with five to nine 0.89
00:08:36.740 women. 0.81
00:08:37.160 Right.
00:08:37.340 And so how would he tell the difference between a virgin who's lying and a girl who's at like 0.77
00:08:41.020 actually a virgin unless he's carry themselves.
00:08:43.440 I mean, like you may, you won't know.
00:08:44.940 You will never know.
00:08:46.260 Right.
00:08:46.560 I agree with you.
00:08:47.740 You'll never know for sure.
00:08:48.540 But the, but the way a woman carries herself really shows a lot about who she is and if 0.98
00:08:53.000 she's going to lie about something or not.
00:08:54.900 Yeah.
00:08:55.420 And what?
00:08:57.460 Yeah.
00:08:58.720 That's a practical solution.
00:09:00.280 I like that.
00:09:00.760 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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