Pearl Calls Out Fat Chick
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Summary
When women are held accountable for poor choices, they tend to victimize themselves and play the victim. When women are made accountable for their poor choices and are held responsible for their actions, the tend to blame themselves and make excuses for poor decisions.
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I saw this video that came up on my timeline and it was of a woman playing guitar talking about
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what it was like being an overweight kid and it was by a woman that very clearly was in the body
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positivity movement and I kind of hated myself a little bit when I saw it because the song
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was so retarded it was so retarded but it actually kind of slapped she was kind of good
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I was like I I hate myself that I kind of like this song but let's let's play it
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my grandma paid me by the pound said I should try to slim it down went to meetings with my mom
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the less I ate the more they applauded being hungry made me feel so proud
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did my best to lose the weight hoping the hurt would go away but damn skinny feels just the same
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okay so I was doing the math in this and she she says that she was paid to lose weight five dollars
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by the pound you know it's so funny you tell a man that he's gonna he's gonna start calculating
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that's 50 bucks for 10 pounds and she's got a lot of weight to lose that you can make a good chunk of
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change off of losing weight and it's interesting because what I can see here is the difference between
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men versus women when women are held accountable for poor choices they tend to victimize themselves
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and play the victim when really what I saw was an opportunity in this situation you can make like
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I mean she could lose like 50 pounds that that's that's like 250 bucks that's good money you know and
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and the thing is she puts herself in this victim mentality as if her parents were doing this because
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they didn't want her to love herself and she would just happily love her body if they didn't do that
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and it's not true because what would happen is she would be big in the future like she is now and the
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world would tell her very quickly that she is overweight I'm sorry but when you are overweight
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the world does not hide that from you they let you know really fast um and it would show in her
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life outcomes it's going to be harder to date it's going to be harder to play sports if you want to
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it's going to be harder to walk and you're going to have health issues the rest of your life her
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parents were trying to do the right thing and the issue is you get the body positivity movement coming in
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and coddling these women and saying oh you poor victims your parents were abusive and you would
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have just loved yourself if they didn't do that and so they'll put the blame on the parents and
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really what what is a parent's job it's to give kids consequences for their actions before the world
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does if you go around being an the world will let you know sooner rather than later so your parents
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job is to fix the problem before you are on your own and have to deal with it the rest of your life
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because whether she likes it or not she's going to have health issues and it becomes a matter of life
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and death does she want to end her life at 45 50 because of a heart attack or does she want to live
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a long happy healthy life so mr based responds to this and he says victimizing yourself because your
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parents wanted you to lose weight is pathetic and it is pathetic in life there's two kinds of people the
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people that can take criticism and learn from it or the people that will victimize themselves for a
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lifetime and in this situation she could have lost weight taking the 250 bucks which 20 years ago was
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a lot of money that you know it's still a good chunk of change now but think about what that was
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like 15 or i don't know was she in her 30s so 10 years ago 15 years ago that was a good chunk of change
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like i can't even i mean back then when you said you had 250 bucks you were rich especially like in
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high school and that's my point is the body positivity movement coddles women and allows
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them to believe that you are victims and if you believe you are a victim you will be one whether
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you like it or not and the truth is the world doesn't owe you understanding and it doesn't owe you any
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special favors so life is going to hit her in the face and it's going to be harder because she's hungry
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and it's funny because one of the lyrics was she's not full yet i'm like clearly like
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i mean you're huge what the it's like she's like she's like walking around like a big bull you know
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and she's like i'm not full yet i'm like obviously i'll say i'll say lose the weight if you can't handle
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fat jokes lose the weight if you can't handle your family wanting you to be healthy lose the weight so
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this weekend i spent a lot of time thinking about what true femininity is and i thought about how
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you have these women that sell femininity courses and they typically have on a lot of makeup and maybe
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they sell courses on makeup getting your nails done and looking elegant and really there's nothing wrong
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with that image matters image is important but a lot of times i'll meet these women and there's not an
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ounce of femininity in their body and i was trying to understand like why are these women not feminine
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i can see that they're not feminine but i can't exactly explain to you why and i thought about how
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one of the most feminine women i have ever met in my life um really she didn't have the latest fashion
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trends and she was overweight she wasn't what these women sell and i thought to myself what makes her
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selfless and the conclusion i came to was when you think about our great grandmothers and our
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grandmothers they they didn't care about the latest fashion trends they didn't care about being all
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polished and proper what was most important to them was the men in their lives true and this is what i
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tweeted true femininity is actually women serving men it has nothing to do with clothes fashion or having
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your nails done if you go get your nails done they are serving you therefore it is not feminine and
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my thought process was is all of these girls that are really into fashion typically live very selfish
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lives and the things they do are typically for them and therefore it makes them unfeminine so jo
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responded to this and he said femininity doesn't expand it enhances masculinity so then i had another tweet
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this made some people mad i said i heard married wives and mothers are getting botox why he already
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married you what more do you need spend that money on your children and i thought about the women that
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invest a lot into their looks again it's not feminine it's one thing if you are investing into your looks
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for the man in your life but men have overwhelmingly said we do not want this we do not want botox
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we do not want fake hair extensions we do not want a ton of makeup no no no we do not want this and it really
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just leads me to the conclusion that really most of these wives that are spending all of this money on their
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appearance are doing it for the external validation rather than their husband's validation therefore making it
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not feminine women that are getting work done if you pulled their husbands what percent of them would
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say yes i am so happy my wife is putting in injections into her face the mother of my children yes i am so
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happy that the mother of my children is tattooing eyeliner yes i am so excited that the mother of my
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children spends two hours every day on her makeup do men really want this and the common argument that i
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hear is yes men want it but they don't know that they want it and what that tells me is i get more
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attention from men when i do these things and my question is if you're married why do you need
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attention and validation from the outside world why is your husband's opinion not the most important
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really if you want to belong to a guy the question is what does he like when i wear it what does he
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want me to do and most men look at all of this stuff as an expense and and i expanded on this in my
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tweet i said the wives and mothers that are wasting all of this money on botox nails fashion are telling on
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themselves it shows their priority themselves their looks attention from men and not what ding ding ding
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their family and we have to talk about ideals on the show when we talk to women that are actually
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the ideals that really are the most selfless feminine women that you have met are they typically
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women that are worried about the latest fashion trends they are typically worried about their children
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and typically they don't want to spend money on themselves they want to spend money on the children
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that is a true feminine women a woman that puts the family above herself and what we have now is a
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bunch of kim kardashian wives that are playing pretend it's me me me me me my career what i want
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and it doesn't matter what my husband wants and the kids want and we saw this when kim kardashian and
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kanye were married and kanye repeatedly told kim that he didn't want her wearing certain types of outfit
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and her response is that well i was like this when you married me and while that is a valid point
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my question is are we all going to be exactly the same all through marriage and isn't it your job as
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a wife to submit to your husband's authority even when he changes directions and again it shows the
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problem with the modern wives it's a lack of control they need to be in control of everything everything
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needs to be the same from the day we get married till the day we die otherwise i have been deceived
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now i got a response from free ashley she says women need to work on their appearance through
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marriage so their husbands remain attracted to them physically also women spend too much money
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worrying about their appearance after they are married pick one you can't have both yes i can and
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i'm going to tell you how i can when i say worry about your appearance focusing on fitness and being
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healthy will actually put you in the top 25 of women because 70 of women are overweight in the united states
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so you actually can't have both you can focus on your appearance wanting to look good for your
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husband without spending hundreds of dollars a month on face creams moisturizers heavy makeup and
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botox we don't need this and typically women that are heavily invested in their looks are not happy with
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the option they have they simply want a better one i i asked my producers to give me an example of a
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woman in the media that has done a ton of work over time do you see on the left how she almost has this
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like feminine essence of her and it's interesting because even when women age and they get older but
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they don't get work done there's something more pure about the way they look there's something more
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feminine and then on the right it's almost like an older woman trying to cosplay as a younger woman and we
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can all see it maybe it's more visually attractive slightly but there's a difference between attraction
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and beauty and there's something about a woman that has gotten very little work done that just ages i
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don't want to say better but more gracefully over time and you you start to see these women that are
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too invested in their looks and i think a lot of women have been lied to and they end up at 50 just looking
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kind of nutty looking kind of crazy because eventually the botox starts to fade and then and then you know
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when you think about it how much money did you spend on yourself that you could have really spent on your