JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


Pearl Catches Obese Man Lying!

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Uber Eats Anorexia
This Unhinged Single Mother Gets Kicked Out For Saying This Trash Modern Women Are Bad Communicator

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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

187.35

Word count

1,829

Sentence count

198

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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Toxicity

8

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Hate speech

4

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Summary

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In this episode, I speak to the amazing and inspiring about her weight loss journey, her experience with weight loss surgery and the importance of body positivity. We talk about how important it is to have a healthy relationship with food and how it has a huge impact on the way we grow up and the impact it can have on our health.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 The thing is, there's a perception when it comes to people that choose to have elective surgery.
00:00:06.900 And that is what I try in my day-to-day life, try to allow people to see that it's not about just wanting to have surgery to get rid.
00:00:14.780 But some people are not best gym candidates.
00:00:17.940 I wasn't.
00:00:18.540 I mean, I'd spent thousands of pounds on personal trainers, on diet plans.
00:00:23.740 I was doing all sorts.
00:00:25.160 However, what happens is, yes, you might lose the weight.
00:00:28.760 The weight will go down.
00:00:29.620 And in my case, I had a hernia.
00:00:32.720 I'd had three C-sections.
00:00:34.680 My stomach was protruding.
00:00:36.040 That's the recti muscle in the middle had opened.
00:00:38.880 I needed to have muscle repair.
00:00:40.420 And that cannot be fixed in the gym.
00:00:43.140 So when I was losing the weight, in fact, I actually looked better when I was bigger because I could hold my own.
00:00:48.900 When I lost the weight, everything dropped and went down south.
00:00:51.940 And it looked worse, to be fair.
00:00:54.880 So when I saw that happened after I'd lost all the weight, well, what do I do now?
00:00:58.900 Because the gym is not going to help this.
00:01:01.600 I need to have a tummy tuck. 0.87
00:01:03.920 I need to have muscle repair.
00:01:06.160 So knowing that I needed to have that done, there is a number of people out there.
00:01:11.780 Why don't you go to the gym?
00:01:12.780 Well, I did.
00:01:13.660 Yeah.
00:01:14.100 For many years.
00:01:14.800 And my biggest thing is, too, if we're supposed to, like, enthusiastically support people chopping off their wieners and becoming women, like, you've got to shut up about this other stuff, too.
00:01:25.480 Like, guys, can I say something?
00:01:26.760 You've got to choose one.
00:01:27.700 You know, you've got to choose one.
00:01:28.580 Can I share something, please?
00:01:30.660 Can I just remind you all that body positivity isn't only, like, people with big, big, like, related issues.
00:01:37.320 No, of course not.
00:01:37.340 No.
00:01:37.660 It's about unable people as well.
00:01:39.780 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:40.140 And people are born deformed. 0.93
00:01:42.560 Some people are born with disabilities.
00:01:44.660 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:45.000 And I think body positivity is also linked with that.
00:01:47.820 But the main marketing component of body positivity is towards women to say, you can be obese and you're still beautiful. 0.99
00:01:55.300 I just don't think we should celebrate something that's a choice.
00:02:00.480 You're celebrating it when you're putting it on the cover of magazines.
00:02:03.760 That's a reward.
00:02:04.840 That's, like, a positive thing when you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size, when you're specifically trying to put it out there and make that the representation of in the media.
00:02:14.760 Yeah, and it's interesting, too, because earlier you said, like, that you seem to say, like, you couldn't lose the weight.
00:02:23.260 Was that what you were saying earlier?
00:02:24.820 Yes, I couldn't.
00:02:26.320 But it's like before the podcast starts, you drink a Coke.
00:02:30.060 I'm not trying to call you out, but it's like.
00:02:31.400 No, no, no.
00:02:31.980 It's like.
00:02:32.660 No, don't get me wrong.
00:02:33.920 Yeah.
00:02:34.720 Hello, I'm on your podcast.
00:02:36.360 I want to have a good time, you know.
00:02:37.780 I'm not at home.
00:02:38.600 I don't need to be drinking all healthy stuff.
00:02:40.800 But what I'm saying, okay.
00:02:42.740 The reason I say that is just because I'll hear people say that, but then I, like, watch what they eat and I'm like, it doesn't seem to add up.
00:02:49.580 Do you know, it's just about representation.
00:02:52.120 It's basically the little things from, like, there's, for example, you can go to a store.
00:03:00.160 You can't get certain things.
00:03:03.000 You can order something from online.
00:03:05.300 You can't see, you can't actually, because there's not the person wearing it.
00:03:09.140 You can't see it.
00:03:10.040 I was actually going to say something.
00:03:14.520 What I wanted to say is, it's actually just go on, go on, take it away.
00:03:18.920 I think it's just the mind thought just escaped.
00:03:21.660 That's fine.
00:03:22.320 I think it all starts as well from a young age and how you're brought up.
00:03:28.940 Yes.
00:03:29.120 And the way that your parents feed you and what they do for you being brought up.
00:03:35.600 Well, and that's why I think it's so important to, like, get in control of your eating habits if you want to have children.
00:03:40.860 Because it's not fair to the next generation to be brought up with eating habits that will give you an early grave.
00:03:47.200 And I even think about that with myself because I have, like, a horrible sugar addiction.
00:03:51.120 I literally love sugar.
00:03:53.280 It's so bad.
00:03:54.080 So does everybody else.
00:03:55.280 It's addictive.
00:03:56.520 But we do have, like, health problems because, like, a lot of people in my family eat a lot of, like, I forget what, the early onset something.
00:04:04.840 I don't know.
00:04:05.240 I'm not a medical person.
00:04:06.320 But, like, I think of this even for myself, you know.
00:04:09.320 So I think it's, like, important that we don't celebrate that sort of thing.
00:04:13.280 Yeah.
00:04:13.560 I agree with that because growing up, for me, I used to see my mom forever doing different diets.
00:04:19.540 Yeah.
00:04:19.740 Going on the Cambridge diet, you know, when you just eat the shakes and you have those cardboard bars.
00:04:24.140 Yeah, do you know the kilo diet as well?
00:04:25.480 Yeah, all of this.
00:04:26.500 And I saw my mom do that. 1.00
00:04:27.520 And I remember being at school and my mom was happy to say, I'd be like, Mom, I want to go on a diet.
00:04:31.580 And she'd pack my Rye Vita with my fruit.
00:04:34.320 And I was at school in year eight, year nine.
00:04:36.940 So it was 12, 13.
00:04:38.860 And my mom was happy to do that.
00:04:40.420 Whereas, you know, it's created bad habits for me and unhealthy eating habits.
00:04:45.920 Yeah, I think everything in moderation.
00:04:47.100 Do you know what I realized, too?
00:04:48.620 I think it's a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore. 1.00
00:04:53.500 Yeah.
00:04:53.920 Because when moms are in the home, they're watching, like, what everyone's eating. 0.98
00:04:57.360 It's like their full food.
00:04:58.260 It's tough to do that, to watch what everyone's eating when you're working, like, 20, 30, 40 hours a week.
00:05:02.860 In addition to that, too, in addition to that, a lot of these food companies are behind the body positivity movement because they know that their food is not really food.
00:05:13.060 It's like legislative poison.
00:05:14.860 Yeah.
00:05:15.060 They have so much high fructose culture and stuff.
00:05:17.560 Chemicals.
00:05:17.940 And then, in addition to that, too, the rates of home cooking is going down all across the globe.
00:05:25.180 Guilty.
00:05:25.760 Yeah. 0.65
00:05:26.100 And, you know, people want to order Uber Eats and this and all that crap. 0.84
00:05:29.620 And then you're just eating processed food.
00:05:32.720 And I personally, this is me, I'm not, well, I don't have a food degree or whatever.
00:05:37.320 My degree is in psychology.
00:05:38.560 But I do believe that the rise that we're seeing, we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people.
00:05:46.160 And I think that's directly correlated to the amount of processed food that we're consuming.
00:05:50.760 This is what I wanted to say earlier.
00:05:53.620 Body positivity is important.
00:05:56.100 And the reason why it's important is because people have grown up watching different things.
00:06:03.920 They've watched a certain type of people.
00:06:06.300 They've watched a certain type of behavior.
00:06:09.260 And people, there are some people that don't leave their house.
00:06:12.300 There are some people who travel.
00:06:13.640 There are some people who don't experience much.
00:06:18.780 And they don't know.
00:06:20.740 They judge people.
00:06:22.120 They have certain behaviors, what was taught on telly.
00:06:25.860 And that's why it's important.
00:06:28.680 It's not because it's important, like, big people should be promoted.
00:06:32.340 It's important because some people actually aren't nice.
00:06:37.020 And some people do judge.
00:06:38.700 And some people speak, use a certain language.
00:06:41.160 And if there was, while growing up, if there was a mixture of people, if there were a mixture of cultures, mixtures of backgrounds, all these things, yeah, body positivity wouldn't be needed.
00:06:55.180 But unfortunately, we've been programmed to think, this is beautiful.
00:07:00.220 That is beautiful.
00:07:00.900 I don't think so.
00:07:02.200 No, no.
00:07:02.540 Because if you look at, because they did a study on this, this is what I do for a living.
00:07:06.120 So let me just tell you.
00:07:07.280 So they did a study on female attractiveness across all cultures, over multiple different generations and time periods.
00:07:15.000 And what guys like is still the same. 0.78
00:07:17.920 Small hips, nice butt, big breasts. 0.98
00:07:20.980 I have something here, too. 0.99
00:07:24.680 It says obese women are 20% less likely to marry. 1.00
00:07:29.120 This is a survey of over 10,000 people, which is a huge sample size.
00:07:32.660 According to a large 2022 social survey on dating, 65% of men would assign a rejection score to three out of five women, meaning they're more likely to reject them.
00:07:45.240 And 18% of men assign a five out of five rejection score, meaning they would definitely reject them.
00:07:50.180 So on that, I'd like to point out that we are talking about obese people because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity and fat people are an easy target.
00:08:01.720 We can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything. 0.99
00:08:06.280 You won't hear a peep.
00:08:07.220 But their help is still in danger in many instances.
00:08:09.980 No, they did in the early 2000s.
00:08:12.000 They said the girls were too skinny. 1.00
00:08:13.560 I actually remember that.
00:08:14.760 Yeah, no, they definitely did.
00:08:18.060 Anorexia was literally a thing.
00:08:19.520 Models were, yeah, they were demonizing it. 0.99
00:08:21.600 The casting directors were getting sued all sorts.
00:08:24.060 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:08:24.880 People complained.
00:08:26.340 Where is that now?
00:08:27.120 The skinny girls aren't on the covers anymore. 1.00
00:08:29.360 They're replaced. 0.97
00:08:30.480 You think they're being replaced by fat people? 0.99
00:08:32.080 Yes. 0.99
00:08:32.660 No, no, no.
00:08:33.500 Girl, that's not true, please.
00:08:35.060 No, pern, that's not true.
00:08:36.600 I'm sorry.
00:08:37.100 Let's look at the Victoria's Secret fashion show.
00:08:40.400 That was like the epitome of modeling.
00:08:43.400 Yeah.
00:08:43.640 But Victoria's... 0.99
00:08:45.280 That was one of the top, like the epitome.
00:08:47.820 You cannot tell me.
00:08:48.680 That was not one of the most competitive, like everyone wanted to be a Victoria's Secret model.
00:08:54.260 And then since they've switched too, Victoria's Secret has been bleeding money.
00:08:57.920 They're losing money right now.
00:08:59.540 They're no longer a profitable business.
00:09:01.060 You need to think about how these brands are moving as well.
00:09:03.800 With Victoria's Secret, it was this tall woman. 0.86
00:09:07.980 There's this blonde hair.
00:09:09.960 Yeah, she's a certain looking type. 1.00
00:09:12.060 And you really see a difference in what Rihanna's doing.
00:09:17.020 She's involving a whole load of rage and she's getting the sales. 1.00
00:09:20.740 So Victoria's Secret didn't move with the time.
00:09:23.080 And now the event is taking over.
00:09:24.960 I mean...
00:09:25.060 But I don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices.
00:09:28.580 Like I don't like...
00:09:30.140 Because if you make a choice to be overweight, like why does society have to adjust to you?
00:09:34.340 Like why does there have to be representation?
00:09:36.380 Wait, let me finish.
00:09:37.640 Why does there have to be representation on the cover of magazines? 0.89
00:09:40.320 Why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people when really we should be focusing
00:09:44.720 on losing the weight?