Pearl CRASHES Their Ideologies With This Fact
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In this episode, we talk about modern women and their lack of respect in the modern dating culture. We also talk about the Justin Bieber scandal and how to be a good wife to your significant other. We also discuss how to earn respect from a woman and what to look out for in a potential partner.
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how many i don't know anyone that got married and closed their instagram i don't know anyone
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that did it like my age anyway actually i told you're right so yeah so i'm saying modern women
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are shitty wives why would you close your instagram i don't i don't understand that
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because it's advertised you know i was having more
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pull up pull this up i mean i i think it really depends you can't tell me that's not advertising
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i mean she is a model i mean yeah she's a model that's her job you could argue justin bieber's
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job is to screw groupies on tour what is different he's not a model right so i do get what you're
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saying he's a world famous pop star he's a singer world famous pop stars to do they screw groupies
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on the tour bro this is a tale as old as time that's fair i mean it's part of the job yeah it is
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what does chris brown do on stage come on is that his job yeah yeah and you know you can just tell
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she would have none of that if he was doing that yeah but it's like we're in the society where men
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aren't told they can do that they're controlling if they tell a girl to close her instagram but women
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immediately want you to stop sleeping with other girls and and you can tell like i know so many
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people in relationships who have told people unfollow her stop liking her yeah i know get
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rid of her if you do it to a man or if you're in a relationship with another girl and you tell her
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not to do that you're the bad person well you've got to be careful you have to it goes one or two
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like you have to look at it see i think that's a standard respect thing you've got to be careful
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now if you're going to do it one way and not accept it backwards yeah but there's different hold on
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hold on i feel this might be controversial but i feel like there are different um there are
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different reasons and there's people with different circumstances for example if there was if you was
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dating someone and she was for example like a content creator or something and she had she was in you know
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instagram engagement groups so if she was in an engagement group in an engagement group there are
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rules you have to like everyone's photo to help each other with the algorithm right so would you then turn
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around to your girlfriend and say to her i don't want you liking pictures of other girls the standard
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person isn't honest like i'm not i'm not famous on instagram i don't have to do that i'm just saying
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but would a good wife argue with him when he asks that and say well but my instagram grouper would
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she just say okay whatever you say honey yeah in a really traditional setup that she she would give
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it up probably you know if she's making six figures well regardless of no regardless if he's making
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six figures she should be like listen you know we're married now that is the i've made this
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commitment in the in the eyes of the law and in the eyes exactly and in the eyes of god so that's
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more important to me than having an instagram account you know that's what she would have said
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in the back of the day okay so i have a question why does he have to be making six figures to have
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to be listened to and do you have the same energy if a woman's mid does she if she's average
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looking does she not is she not able to ask for loyalty that's a good question like you know she's
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average looking so why why does she get to ask for that yeah i don't know i don't i don't really
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know how to answer that because i just feel like women do definitely look at men's financial status
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and we can sit here and argue about that all the time but at the end of the day there is survival and
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women will always try to go with someone above her level or at least on her level she will never go
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low so you said six figures that's that's that's that's high that's ten percent of men
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no i know i i was just trying to be funny there but like um no but i'm just saying like realistically
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she will always go above or on the same level so she's never going to go low so financial status does
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get looked at and that is actually how men earn respect from women i feel like it's one of the ways
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that if you want to earn respect from a woman you need to do that you need to be making bank yeah
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i'm being absolutely real you know i'm not gonna sugarcoat it you do need to be working
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how much does he have to make what about an average guy um i don't know i don't know what the average
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salary here is what is it like 40 30. depends on your age so like 25 year olds gonna be earning like
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35 000 all right um which in london isn't gonna be very much in in the standards of earning six
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figures and then it's on it's unfair to expect that off someone you've got the average you've got the
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average uk wage though which is probably like it's gonna be weighted higher in london yeah well yeah
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because you've got extremities you've got you know if you're looking at the mean it's going to be taking
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both the i mean does the man expect us to be top 10 20 30 percent of beauty no but why should they
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not if we're expecting them to be in the higher range i think they do want that yeah they might
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want it but they're not they're not going to hold out for it because most guys are quite thirsty do
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you know what i mean we were talking about this the other the other night most guys are quite thirsty
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they're gonna take they're gonna take what they could get you know oh oh i mean that's a good
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point it's a good point have you heard the husband store analogy no oh there's like i hope i say this
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right there's like a husband store analogy in the manosphere okay and basically every every store or
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every floor is a different set of husbands okay and you go up a floor um and the only rule is you can't
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go back down so there's five floors total and you can go up but you can't go down so the first floor
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is guys that love kids and are and are loyal to you oh that's sweet and so the women go to the
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first floor so they go to the first floor and they say you know what i want more i want to i want to go
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up so they go to the second floor and then they find the shitty one no no no it gets better it gets
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better so these guys love kids they're loyal and they're hot oh yeah so but they're like well
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what's on the next floor okay then they go they're just curious yeah yeah so they go there what's
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what's what's what's next curiosity and they say they say they say okay the next floor these guys are
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hot they make 70 000 a year they love kids and they're loyal but she's on the third floor and she's
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like well what's what's up what's on the next floor and so then she goes next they make six figures
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love kids love kids loyal everything but she wants to go to the fifth floor and on the fifth
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and there's dogs because die alone i mean so so so to make it fair they did a wife score or a wife
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store right so on the first floor there was women good sex loyal sixes and they never found out was
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what was on the second floor i think modern day woman no offense and i know i'm a woman but are
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super like materialistic i don't agree i really i i i love i love most of my friends but i know if they
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were given the opportunity to go with someone who aren't like over a million they will take it they'll
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take it and they'll cheat on the person that they love and they feel committed to and they won't
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and that's such an issue well they cheat for money so i mean they would yeah yeah yeah yeah and i think
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that's a gucci bag a lot of people but people people now have a gucci bag but it's been normalized
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it's seen as normal now to cheat and it's seen as normal to like be like oh yeah but he's better
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and they won't and why why not just she found it better because he had money exactly why is that
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why is that important i don't know exactly and that's why guys shouldn't get married because
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that's the dynamic but you're as a guy you're entering into a contract with somebody when that
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is the dynamic that's going on in society and that's and that's very problematic because you're
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you're basically marrying into it's like it's like buying a house that it's got loads of faults with the
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house and you're going to have loads of money to pay further down the line it's like you're buying
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you're getting into a contract with somebody who is being influenced by the society that's basically
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saying to you there's always going to be better there's always your and and not only is that
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always going to be better but you deserve better you know you go girl you go on to the next dude
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you just want more and more it's nearly like a mobile phone contract
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my grandma had 13 kids for a fireman and she submitted to him and that's and that's the thing
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like modern that's a good job but that's so no but that's beautiful that is what it should be it was an
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average salary back then and so i'm i'm just saying like you know i think it's this generation this
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generation is just getting worse but but money shouldn't be the end all and be all of it and
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and it is what it is now if you feel that emotionally attached someone like if you're someone like me
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that doesn't want to particularly get married if you feel that emotionally attached that you're willing
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to get married you should not just up and leave because someone else has more money or someone else
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maybe is is more attractive like it should be all taken as i've committed to this person for a reason
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there was something there unless there's something a lot deeper going on like abuse or or something
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that is a lot deeper and it's a lot more complex if it's something as simple as that person earns
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more i'm gonna go with them that's really sad so do you think that the woman so would you say
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you think that the woman should stick it out basically even if there is like a period of suffering
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not necessarily stick out but don't work through it say this man that she's with is like literally not
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hardly making any money they are really struggling like times are really tough for her and do you
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think that she should just stay and stick it out or do you think she should want better for herself
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can i can i can i just read something really quick okay go for it all right um
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um i take you for my lawfully wedded husband to have him for better for worse for richer or for poorer
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and sickness and health till death do us part if you believe in leaving the second there's a rough
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path but the whole point is like if if you believe in divorce then why get married there's
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no point just be in a relationship because you're not a wife i mean you you're getting married and
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then you think oh i'm gonna divorce one day that's why i don't have some prenups though because it's
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like i don't think anyone wants to get divorced when they get married they think it's forever but
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i think things happen yeah and you have to be realistic that but that's i'm not saying that
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maybe you marry someone and in the beginning it's all good and then suddenly when you get married he
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might lose his money and then leave him no i don't agree with that but i feel like yeah i feel like you
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should still stay with that person but if there's no progress there's no sign of him you know working
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hard or trying or trying to get back to that level that he was at before you know it's time to call
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it this is what that's one more time one more time for better or for worse for richer for poorer
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yeah in sickness and in health until death do us anyways that's it this is what roland tomassi the
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the author of the rational mail who talks a lot about this kind of these kind of intergener
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dynamics he talks about the burden of performance on men and that's exactly what you're talking about
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then there's always this there's this burden of performance on men it's like okay well he could
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have a rough patch but if he doesn't shape up after two years you know she's going to be like
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thinking well hang on what's going on which is i understand why you would say that but that is
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contrary to what pearl right now because the agreement is for better or worse for sick sicker and poorer
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because it could be he's got some underlying issue like he's got maybe some underlying like like
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depression or something like that he's trying to deal with some trauma and he's not working he's not
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pushing himself to the degree because of that but you know the the woman who disregards that could
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just say well sod it you know i'm going to go for steve over here because he's making six figures so i
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have a question so the same way you believe that um if he's not making more money or working or whatever
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you should leave should he leave her if she gets fat wow i mean
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if that's the standard he went for yeah yeah why not it just depends if you're if you're gonna flip
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it i'm looking i'm just asking yes um i think he's he's allowed to to bring it up yeah for sure
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i think no no out out oh well give her some chance you know to get in the gym she got like three months
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six months no well no because she's not gonna leave him like if the woman is like in that situation
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she's not we're not saying the woman's just gonna go right oh you're not working for three months off
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i go like it's not gonna happen like that she's obviously gonna stick it out she's gonna try and
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help especially if you've got kids it's different like she may not be able to go back to work
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they may have to find alternative ways of surviving i don't know it's very difficult
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but she's not going to leave straight away it's it's you know over a few years three four years
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maybe i don't know um and in the same yeah same energy for for the man as well if the woman's
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completely let herself go and you know she's not taking care of herself forget the man it's not even
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good for you as a woman forget him like it's about you like you want to be able to look yourself in
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the mirror and feel confident and happy and you know comfortable in your skin so go out and do
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something about it so i yeah but he have to make sure you you get like some compliments about it
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you know so he can make you feel better but are you gonna give him the same compliments if he has no
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job oh yeah yeah you know what i mean i think it works i have a question do you genuinely do you genuinely
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think most women nicely ask or do you think most women nag let's just nag about
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okay yes baby i'm so happy you didn't do that thing i asked you to do last week
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yeah very happy i mean that's the woman condition yeah it should be a way