JustPearlyThings - April 24, 2023


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9 minutes

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1,761

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47

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26

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, cheating in marriage and what to do if your partner cheats on you. We also discuss if cheating is a good or bad thing when it comes to children and how to deal with it.

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00:00:00.000 But then but then my question to you is what if like your partner is severely cheating and disrespecting you?
00:00:06.500 And you know, I agree with the divorce. I do agree
00:00:09.900 But at the same time, you know, you got to know how
00:00:13.420 You feel in a position how you're made to feel and respect, you know, maybe, you know, in that scenario
00:00:19.900 How would you take your cheating? Okay, I think
00:00:24.380 One women's definition of severe cheating is so it's like 1.00
00:00:29.280 Oh, he screwed one girl at the strip club. Now. It's a severe cheater. Okay. I 0.99
00:00:35.200 Think that we should try it should be a goal to work through cheating. It should be the goal
00:00:40.580 I think when you have children, it's not about you anymore your feelings
00:00:44.800 They don't matter and I think true and so I think at the number one goal work through it
00:00:51.700 100% you know what's the limit?
00:00:53.700 You know, I would be quite mad if he got another girl pregnant 1.00
00:00:59.620 So that would be it for you 0.80
00:01:01.540 So cheat all you like
00:01:02.740 But just don't get anyone pregnant 1.00
00:01:04.500 Um, my my goal would be for him to not cheat at me
00:01:08.420 That's the question though. I think I think it's much more deeper than cheating those like the reason for cheating
00:01:16.100 No, but it's the disrespect though. You gotta understand. How does it look to your family?
00:01:20.260 How does it look to your kids if you've got kids? Yeah
00:01:22.260 How does it look to your friends and well, you know, I mean
00:01:24.500 My question for the women is why do they all know? 1.00
00:01:28.180 He's not out there tell I know damn well the men are not out there telling everybody
00:01:32.820 Yeah, but some men do though 0.91
00:01:34.340 Yeah, some men are not smart
00:01:36.020 Well, this is why we get cool
00:01:38.260 This is why we should bring the fathers back in to help their daughters pick because we can't do it 1.00
00:01:44.820 We can't, we're incapable
00:01:46.580 I'm quite good at picking
00:01:48.100 I've actually asked my dad to help
00:01:50.020 You're quite good at picking
00:01:51.680 He refused
00:01:52.740 How so?
00:01:54.440 I just think all my boyfriends have been like amazing
00:01:57.740 Like amazing men and amazing boyfriends
00:02:00.120 Do you, do you want to be a mother?
00:02:01.460 Yeah, so do you have kids or no?
00:02:03.940 No
00:02:04.500 So it's like my question is where where's the marriage and the children then if they were all so
00:02:09.460 Because I would think if they're amazing you would, you know
00:02:11.460 I think my first couple of boyfriends they're amazing, but I don't think we were like perfect matches for each other
00:02:16.340 It doesn't exist
00:02:19.300 I think my current boyfriend is like a very very good match
00:02:22.580 Okay, so I am in honeymoon periods
00:02:26.260 So can I can I get a wedding invite?
00:02:28.260 Yeah, okay, great. I'll be at the wedding. I'll be there
00:02:31.460 I just think like women need to use their intelligence and self-control a little bit more when they're choosing men 1.00
00:02:37.620 If they're getting messed around, fucked around, like you just need to use logic 0.99
00:02:43.300 And that's it I think 0.95
00:02:45.700 Even if I've maybe like been a bit into someone I can get turned off very quickly if I don't think I've been treated well
00:02:51.300 Yeah, she's a good choice right there and then to you know turn back or 1.00
00:02:57.620 Go for it. Yeah, but would you would you agree that by and large women if we had to pick like 10 women the majority left to our own devices? 0.98
00:03:07.620 Don't really make the best decisions in men at least in our early 20s, which is when we have the most options 0.87
00:03:14.340 Yeah, most of most women 1.00
00:03:18.660 I probably have more options now at the age that i'm at now than I did when I did
00:03:22.100 I think women always have options they will always have options 1.00
00:03:25.780 No, well
00:03:26.420 It depends on a woman, but I feel like base everything on statistics sometimes real life 0.91
00:03:31.220 No, but like I said no, but see what that conversation I was saying like men can't like 0.99
00:03:37.380 You know get laid all the time like you've got to work for it, right?
00:03:41.620 Women can have options. You can go out and look good. Sometimes you don't need to look good 1.00
00:03:46.340 You can go to the shop brown corner get your milk and bread and you can get and you can get moved to by someone in the car
00:03:51.540 You know, it's it's real you have many options and that's what's that's scary
00:03:56.020 Over the age of like i'm gonna give women by and large
00:04:03.860 So from okay by 30 your options
00:04:08.180 Statistically have decreased by 50% as women
00:04:12.820 90% of your eggs are gone. So that's another thing
00:04:17.780 Geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. Yeah, so so that's another thing coming but looks wise 1.00
00:04:24.100 Yeah, women still can get it in their 30s some women their 40s. I think 50 but there's no 1.00
00:04:30.740 There's no age limit. We're supposed to live to 90 like you think women over 50 are really getting hollered at 1.00
00:04:37.860 by men they want 0.75
00:04:39.860 Some do
00:04:41.700 It depends how you look and how you present yourself like yeah, let's be real. You're a man. Yeah, let's be real
00:04:48.420 You know it sometimes if a woman looks good if a woman looks good. She looks good 1.00
00:04:53.620 Okay, can we can we talk about the rule whether she's 30s 40s? 1.00
00:04:57.860 What rule the rule though like the exception or the rule
00:05:01.380 Do the majority of women in their 50s get hollered at the same amount as women in their 20s? 0.99
00:05:08.020 Can we know okay? Okay? Yeah, okay. I hear what you're saying. I hear what you're saying
00:05:13.380 But if they look good, they look good
00:05:15.380 Yeah
00:05:16.100 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:16.740 It's about how they look at the same time
00:05:19.780 I mean how old is Ashanti
00:05:22.420 Do you know what I mean?
00:05:24.100 I don't know who that is
00:05:25.380 The single Ashanti
00:05:26.340 I'm assuming
00:05:27.300 I'm just gonna assume
00:05:28.500 I'm just gonna assume that this is some woman this is what they always do 1.00
00:05:32.420 Not not you know, this is just I've done enough
00:05:34.420 They give some woman that is a celebrity. So she's already hot. Yeah, she's already an eight nine or ten in her in her prime 1.00
00:05:42.420 She's also has all the access to the money. She's not the average 1.00
00:05:46.260 She's not the average. Yeah, there's exceptions. You know jail. I thought I thought it was gonna be J.Lo
00:05:55.060 10 out of 10. I mean, it depends though. It depends
00:05:58.980 I don't think it I don't think it depends. I think
00:06:01.940 The majority it's a no it's uh, it's not the same
00:06:08.180 I guess so
00:06:09.620 Um, sorry, just to go back a little bit because I did get cheated on once
00:06:14.980 He was still a very good boyfriend as in like my family and friends some of my friends were like
00:06:21.140 He's amazing to you. He's so doting that why would you want to break up? Apparently it was a kiss
00:06:26.100 Don't know for a hundred percent, but yeah, so some that's debatable whether he was an amazing boyfriend, I guess
00:06:32.580 He was apart from that. Sorry, okay
00:06:36.500 He probably still was i'll give it to him
00:06:38.900 It was just a one a one kiss maybe apparently and and I did end up breaking breaking up
00:06:44.980 I did break up with him. We had a break then we got back together and then I broke up with him after
00:06:50.580 But to what to your point that like you should be able to get
00:06:54.500 past that
00:06:56.180 When I look back, I don't regret it because I don't want to be with him because I love my boyfriend
00:07:00.340 But I do when I look back. I'm like I can see the love much more than I could then because I was paranoid
00:07:07.060 I had trust issues
00:07:08.180 I couldn't I couldn't really see
00:07:11.460 Rationally how devoted he was until after yeah
00:07:15.380 Well, I see your point
00:07:16.420 I I don't think you know, I think when you're in a relationship
00:07:20.100 That's different than a marriage
00:07:21.780 So I support if you want to leave your cheating boyfriend. Go ahead
00:07:24.420 Yeah
00:07:26.420 My thing is once you have the children
00:07:28.420 Yeah, you take the vows. It's not
00:07:30.900 It affects the children
00:07:31.940 If you're married and you don't have kids and he's cheating
00:07:35.300 I think the goal should be to work through it
00:07:38.100 I think that a lot of women leave thinking they're going to do better 1.00
00:07:42.020 And a lot of times they end up alone
00:07:44.420 I get this especially from like the like women will tell me like their moms how they left their dads or something 1.00
00:07:50.260 And then it's like the dad remarries the mom does it. Is that a better situation?
00:07:54.820 Do you know what? Yeah, I can I can speak on that because uh, when my parents
00:07:59.300 It happened. It was the same kind of scenario. I think it's more so of the man
00:08:04.420 That ends up alone
00:08:05.860 Because you gotta understand if they've messed up a good woman 1.00
00:08:09.780 It's hard to get another good woman the way that they had it 1.00
00:08:13.460 In some aspects and i've seen it. Do you know what I mean?
00:08:16.260 So like like I said when you touch base again on on women can have options 1.00
00:08:22.340 Not a lot of men can do you know what I mean? So
00:08:25.700 It's a lot harder for a man sometimes to find a good woman
00:08:28.580 And if you got a good woman and you're cheating on her 0.99
00:08:30.740 And you know now you want to settle down because you come to an age or
00:08:34.580 You feel lonely, you know
00:08:37.060 It's a lot harder. I'll be honest over it
00:08:39.300 So, you know, it's interesting though
00:08:40.900 The numbers will tell you like differently because under the age of like 35 or something
00:08:45.700 it's like 75 percent
00:08:47.700 of
00:08:48.740 women 1.00
00:08:49.780 Are in relationships, but it switches when women like men are over like 55 or something
00:08:55.380 really so yeah
00:08:56.180 So like men will remarry more likely than women as many of you know
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