JustPearlyThings - Pearl DESTROYED Feminist for Saying This

00:00:00.000 personally i've tried therapy and i've and the first time i tried it i walked out in an anger

00:00:04.640 and rage i was like fuming and the second time i told her look it's not gonna work i don't think

00:00:09.040 you can fix my problems i agree with you i've been to therapists before and i just thought therapy 0.55

00:00:13.760 was like stupid for the most part and now i'm in school for psychology and i see the women that are 1.00

00:00:18.240 therapists and they're nuts i would not go to therapy yeah i feel like they don't care they're 0.99

00:00:22.320 just getting paid to do what they need to do they don't give a so yeah yeah but but i do think 0.83

00:00:27.280 there are some male therapists that are helpful i just think it's mostly like male um what do you

00:00:32.560 think about that um i've never had a male therapist and i wouldn't go to a male therapist because i

00:00:37.200 need to i need to connect with a woman that's like do you know i mean like women no that's broken like 0.97

00:00:42.480 me not necessarily but i feel like women connect easier no i think i think women look to comfort

00:00:47.440 and men look to solve problems and that's why i don't think therapy works when they're women most 0.98

00:00:51.280 of the time there's exceptions because like men like women are just going to comfort you they're

00:00:55.040 going to tell you what you want to hear where men will tell you how to fix it but the problem is

00:00:58.720 like women we never want to fix it like actually fix it that's interesting yeah it's true i had a 0.99

00:01:04.080 male therapist actually for the i had a therapist for eight years i'm not in therapy anymore but the

00:01:10.640 first four years was it was a woman and the last four years a man and i'm not in therapy anymore and

00:01:16.320 i'm like i'm good now but that's because it was a man not a woman because when i was with a woman they

00:01:20.160 would just sit there and soak in all my issues and all the problems and there was never a solve

00:01:25.040 or a solution no one was trying to help me and then trauma what's your like and they call everything

00:01:29.920 trauma everything you know everything abuse or trauma i'm like what the what do you mean i don't

00:01:34.560 believe in trauma i don't believe in trauma either it's a bunch of bs it's just so that psychologists

00:01:40.480 can make money off yeah well i do i do believe in like war trauma like from war what do you mean like

00:01:46.000 i think if a guy goes to war and sees some like sees things that's real trauma but the way we use

00:01:50.880 it today my ex-boyfriend cheated on me my it's just everything's everything but can i say something

00:01:58.720 don't you think there's something called unhealed baggage that we be carrying with us because we

00:02:02.640 haven't overcome how we felt in the last relationship i think you should just get over it

00:02:08.160 yeah i think that we should quit whining our great grandmothers had to deal with it like they used to

00:02:13.920 have plagues and getting cheated on like this is just the example i'm using but most of modern day

00:02:19.520 problems are really nothing compared to like 100 200 years ago you could get the plague and like die

00:02:26.880 you know that'd be traumatic being afraid you know and you're right you know what because i feel like

00:02:31.360 personally i've been through so much i haven't had real therapy and i'm i'm strong i'm i'm still going

00:02:35.840 you know what i mean i don't really it's not affecting me maybe it is in a way but it's not in

00:02:40.560 in intervening in my life yeah strong strongly the reveling in the story is what a lot of the

00:02:46.080 women therapists were using penelope's my daughter and they were um you know really listening to your

00:02:51.120 story and and and giving a lot of emphasis to it like you were really overweight and the therapists

00:02:56.320 were like no no don't don't talk about it don't don't don't try to help her lose weight and i'm like

00:03:01.040 what do you mean like we've got to fix this problem like what's the plan it was so frustrating oh so they

00:03:06.080 were they wouldn't try to solve like how big were you i was 300 pounds shut up i was 300 pounds you 0.67

00:03:12.160 look great can we get us how did how did your life change from going from 300 pounds to i don't know

00:03:20.000 what you are now but clearly not so i lost 130 pounds actually wow and you're tall too yes what are 0.96

00:03:25.760 you six two no five nine and a half oh shit you look you look tall as heck okay um but basically i was 0.93

00:03:33.360 you know i think part of the problem was because i was in therapy for so long and i nobody told me 0.99

00:03:37.040 in therapy that there was anything wrong with me and i had depression i had anxiety i had suicidal

00:03:41.760 thoughts and i was not i didn't have a good relationship with my father at the time and nobody

00:03:46.560 was saying oh you need to lose the weight your life will be better if you just do that nobody they

00:03:50.720 tried to give me medication they tried to give me pills they tried to put me in more therapy and it

00:03:55.360 wasn't until one day i looked in the mirror and i'm like i don't want to be like this anymore i don't

00:03:59.120 want to feel like this anymore and to be honest the body positivity movement crushed my soul and

00:04:05.040 told me oh you should be you know you're beautiful no matter what size you are you're beautiful no

00:04:09.280 matter you know how much you weigh you're beautiful no matter what you eat you can eat anything you want

00:04:14.080 and you're gorgeous go girl and i and i thought it was okay wow i thought it was good because no one

00:04:19.280 said anything and i could be sitting here if 300 pounds or enough i didn't make the decision to say 0.97

00:04:23.600 penelope you need to get your butt off the couch and work out fix your diet fix your mental health fix 0.96

00:04:28.800 everything and now i'm perfectly fine no meds just naturally all natural what do you do you think 0.98

00:04:35.920 that contributes to 70 of women being overweight in the u.s completely i completely think that yeah 1.00

00:04:43.280 go ahead no i just think that i think that the fact that people are obese and that they make all

00:04:47.040 these excuses for oh i'm obese because of this i'm obese because you can lose weight no matter what

00:04:51.440 anyone can lose weight it's just about finding the right way to do it and what do you think of the

00:04:56.000 women that say we need like representation and magazines we need fat chicks on the cover victoria's 1.00

00:05:03.120 secret fashion show it repulses me so it repulses me to see that because you've been there it does

00:05:09.280 because i've been there and not only that but you are showing thousands and millions of women in the 0.98

00:05:14.000 world that it is one okay to be unhealthy two okay to be slowly killing yourself and three

00:05:19.040 okay to go outside and dress provocatively with your rolls out i was a plus-size model

00:05:27.200 really in the 90s you were a plus-size model in the 90s yeah is there anything wrong with a little

00:05:32.800 plus-size girl yeah because what about the people that actually what about the people that actually

00:05:37.280 can't lose weight physically they will never wait that's not a thing but but what about people that

00:05:41.200 actually but they mentally can't so that for the rest of their life they're going to be that same size

00:05:45.040 they need some they need some empowerment because otherwise they could you know commit suicide

00:05:49.680 do you go to a basketball game and look to see like an nba game or what do you guys have it's

00:05:55.440 football right football here you do a football game here and you try to see average football players

00:06:00.720 average like below average football players play football here when you go to a professional game

00:06:05.680 do we see them no do you do you go there to see that oh well no so then why do on the cover of

00:06:10.720 magazines which is supposed to be the epitome of beauty do we have below average women on it 1.00

00:06:14.800 right like why like why is that why do we need that i feel i feel ashamed but i don't like it i

00:06:21.200 don't want to see it i think you're right about the fact that they're doing it too because you know

00:06:25.520 if you want to talk about the health system and the way the world's set up they don't want people

00:06:28.640 to come out of a bce right so they're going to make it look like it's okay they don't want you to

00:06:34.160 so so why wouldn't we have healthy people on the back in front of mag i'm not saying like because

00:06:37.600 they don't want that yeah yeah but you you said we need that earlier no but i was saying that for the

00:06:41.840 for the people that don't that actually fit i think in my head i'm thinking for the people that

00:06:46.160 actually because a person that actually cannot overcome obesity and for the rest of their life

00:06:51.280 till the age of 60 70 they're still going to be overweight those people are probably feeling yes

00:06:56.160 like they're they're feeling okay they're you know they're empowered would you rather be empowered

00:07:01.040 than commit suicide because people think oh look at you you're fat but even when you're eat when

00:07:05.360 you're overeating you're slowly committing suicide my mother did it wow she died wow i was five

00:07:11.920 her cause of death was severe obesity and then when my daughter started gaining the weight i was freaking

00:07:16.560 out right and so that's why we're on a mission but don't you think there's a certain level though

00:07:21.360 obviously there's obesity and there's because i feel like the modeling world has always promoted unhealthy

00:07:28.160 unhealthiness and that makes sense even the slim women slim women was like six and like very small 1.00

00:07:33.440 do you know what i'm saying that would they look like they weren't eating i don't think so if you

00:07:36.000 look at i always hear that but i like i look at marilyn monroe she was healthy yeah but they were

00:07:40.320 talking about one person there's a lot of a lot of women in the modeling world was very slim and they 1.00

00:07:45.120 wouldn't eat or they wouldn't do something just to fit in the same category do you get what i'm saying

00:07:48.640 i mean there were some but i just maybe for like early 2000s but i think if you look at the last like

00:07:53.920 hundred years i think most women on the covers were just objectively beautiful what's the average 1.00

00:07:59.600 weight you would say uh let's see i don't know off the top of my head i mean as a ford model

00:08:04.800 the the girls who were in straight size modeling they were size four and that's because the samples 1.00

00:08:09.200 are made in a size four and so is your four different from uk four oh yeah it is a bit yeah

00:08:15.360 like more like a two i think it'd be more like a two two hair the average the average woman she's gone 1.00

00:08:22.080 okay the average woman is five four i'm in america and i can do uk in a second yeah five four 1.00

00:08:27.760 20 years old and weighs 170 pounds oh what's that in stone please

00:08:37.360 average stones i don't actually know

00:08:45.520 but that's overweight i would say that that average that she just quoted would be 12 stone 12 12.14 okay

00:08:51.920 because i would think that average is between 8 to 12. i think if you're in a good in shape 12 there's

00:08:57.440 good in shape 12 women anything above that then we're talking obesity you know what i'm saying 0.92

00:09:03.520 i mean i think it's bmi to be honest sorry uh to be honest it depends i think like around 10 years ago

00:09:11.280 it used to be way different i think now they kind of raised it you know yeah yeah i think 10 years ago

00:09:19.120 i went i don't know i was like 65 kilos i don't know what that is sorry in in stones it must be like 165

00:09:27.040 in um in america 2.2 to 1. yeah and they would already say oh you should try to lose weight you

00:09:34.160 know for your height whatever now if you look at that they're like yeah you're perfect you can be a

00:09:39.120 model yeah so it really changed in the last decade i would say really it did so was about around 10 years

00:09:45.920 ago was there plus size models is that a new thing i'll be honest not really they definitely were on

00:09:51.280 america's next top model i mean it wasn't that as common though but i definitely i i know i used to

00:09:56.240 watch tyra banks anyone yeah yeah anyone there there was some but they weren't like this they weren't

00:10:02.480 like the the the like super yeah yeah like you see today they're just kind of like they're like tens

00:10:07.840 big boned 10's all right 10's not big no 10's not big at all 12 12 for the modeling industry

00:10:15.920 well this is what i'm saying for the modeling world that's quite big yeah but again it's like when you

00:10:19.360 go to an nba game i want to see good basketball players like it's supposed to be the epitome of

00:10:24.160 beauty yeah but like now we're rewarding average look like i don't want to see average chicks like 1.00

00:10:28.880 faces on the cover of magazine i don't want to see average bodies but if she's like if she's a good 1.00

00:10:34.400 i'm not saying plus plus but she's a good size 12 with good curves in that man don't want to see 1.00

00:10:38.880 that we don't really want to just see slim girls all the time i'll be honest i believe that i believe

00:10:42.880 that some men like that i really do it's typically to be honest it's typically broke men because if

00:10:48.160 you look at rich men yeah yeah if you look at like it's so cap like i'm just i don't like liars no

00:10:53.760 offense but it's like like when you see rich men what do they have on their arms but the only reason why

00:11:00.560 they have slim women is because the slim women are in the higher echelons of places where the other 1.00

00:11:06.000 women no not in beauty no let's not talk about beauty only i'm talking about venues certain venues

00:11:11.120 certain places that they get to go to certain women can't get to go there okay you get what i'm saying

00:11:16.320 leonardo dicaprio if he wanted a big chick he couldn't find one no he can find one but i'm saying

00:11:21.760 in certain the plate the venue the events no the events he goes to it's from instagram come on

00:11:29.200 they can get any chick they want yeah they can but but but do you think leonardo just got in

00:11:33.920 in bear girls dms just hollering girls in the dms i think if he wants i think he'll i think he'll pick

00:11:39.440 like he hollered at that one chick uh the hadid who's that oh yeah yeah hello gg had it do you know

00:11:46.400 oh gg the model yeah i don't know what i say it's like if you look at the richest most successful

00:11:51.920 mandate they typically have slim women i'm saying if you're looking at the richest parts of events 0.99

00:11:56.720 and venues mayfair whatever and in america manhattan whatever if you go to the upper echelons of

00:12:03.040 places they've got to be you know what i'm saying do you really think that the only reason they're with

00:12:07.760 slim beautiful women is because of the events they go no but i'm saying because of the environment that 1.00

00:12:13.120 they're in okay i think that was because that what that is society's ideal of a beautiful woman 1.00

00:12:18.240 that's why and so i feel like the plus model came in when people started complaining that there wasn't

00:12:23.200 a selection of variety of different sizes why why is it that all around the world they like young

00:12:28.960 beautiful slim women everywhere even in different societies with completely different cultures please 1.00

00:12:35.440 please do not bring up this one fringent tribe in africa everyone brings up but it's like they're 0.99

00:12:40.720 it's such a small percentage of the world well africa there's something no they're trying there 0.99

00:12:46.880 they bring up some tribe in africa assist that that likes the fat women but it's a very very 0.97

00:12:51.600 i've done this conversation but if you think i hear that but if you think about it's the motherland

00:12:57.200 please don't go to disingenuous no i'm not being but i'm all right me coming out you know deep down you

00:13:03.200 know that men like slim women in general i'm gonna be honest i don't think they do i'm gonna be honest i don't

00:13:08.400 i don't like and i'm gonna say this coming from being a black man okay if i'm talking about being

00:13:14.640 a black man and from a black perspective of i feel like majority of us man like thicker women okay well 1.00

00:13:21.280 and and and even jordan not at all but you keep talking about celebrity men that are going to be

00:13:26.800 around higher women that out that certain women i'm from a one percent family my dad my dad my dad is

00:13:32.880 a top one percent earner i grew up around in a wealthy neighborhood i'm telling you they do not put fat

00:13:37.360 chicks on their arms in high class in high class society and celebrities want people with the 1.00

00:13:42.720 option to not have a fat chick on their arm do not all right but what even like i was having a 1.00

00:13:47.280 conversation the other day with with a woman and she was a slim woman she's from america as well so 0.98

00:13:52.000 american um i think like atlanta or emma and she said when she was slim she was only getting approached

00:13:57.760 by white men okay she put she put on a lot of weight no not a lot of weight but she's ticked got body 1.00

00:14:02.720 whatever and blah blah blah now she's getting approached by a lot of black men which is what

00:14:07.440 do you get what i'm saying but i'm saying if you if you look at it on on the democrats thing

00:14:11.520 which which was successful black men that we know are dating but are we only going to talk about

00:14:16.080 successful men yeah because those are the men with options broke men don't have as many options as rich

00:14:19.840 men definitely have options they do not have as many options as rich men so if you look at the men with

00:14:23.840 the most options to look okay so if we want to see what women want we got to look at the women with the 1.00

00:14:27.680 most options who do the most beautiful the youngest most fertile women pick if we want to look at men 1.00

00:14:33.120 what do men like we have to look at the men with the most options because it's not really fair to say

00:14:36.880 oh i like fat chicks if i make you know ten dollars an hour at taco bell right like you can't you don't 1.00

00:14:42.480 get no i get that but obviously if you're going if you're talking about celebrity celebrities are guided

00:14:50.080 no i didn't but i didn't just say celebrity i'm i'm from i'm my dad is in like he's a top one

00:14:56.160 percent earner i grew up with 10 siblings in a 10-bedroom mansion in a community where many

00:15:00.720 people made that amount of money yeah so so i've been around a successful wealthy man and they

00:15:06.320 don't put fat chicks sometimes they they do get fat later but they don't appreciate that you know what 1.00

00:15:11.200 i mean so yeah but i hear what you're saying but i'm saying the reason these men obviously going to go

00:15:16.480 for similar because they're around that's what you being in the top one percent and being in in this

00:15:21.040 neighborhood okay it allows you to see different things you get like i've interviewed no but if

00:15:26.000 you do have obviously if you do have money a lot of people with money are fit are in the gym they

00:15:30.560 do it because they have more time on their hands to do other things you get on saying no they have

00:15:34.080 less time guaranteed you think they have less time they're scheduled people absolutely have less time

00:15:41.040 no i could tell you a hundred percent but also i think the reason that a lot of women are slimmer and 1.00

00:15:46.560 why do you think more successful men want women who are slimmer it's because it's healthier for them 1.00

00:15:51.600 like their risk for getting you know diseases at an older age their risk for having pregnancy risks are

00:15:57.840 much lower if they're not overweight yeah so why would a man choose a woman if he wants to marry them 0.97

00:16:04.080 if they're going to die at 50 if they're going to die at 70 if they're going to have their children's

00:16:08.160 going to have i'd be at risk for birth risk i mean i would never want that and i don't think i don't

00:16:12.480 think men want that like when men are looking for wives they're not looking for children like

00:16:17.440 women who are going to have risks and we even saw how for you how your bad habit passed on to her 1.00

00:16:23.920 and that's like if you have a bad habit yourself you will pass it on to your kids and then it's

00:16:27.840 another problem that your kid like because i had the same my mom used to feed me like pop tarts and

00:16:31.360 stuff when i was a kid and i and my mom was pretty big and then she ended up like losing all the weight

00:16:36.240 um and she told me it's like she literally did it for my dad um and um yeah i have a sugar addiction to

00:16:42.240 this day you know what i mean so it's like bad habits pass from like the parents to the kids

00:16:46.720 exactly and sugar is more addictive than cocaine yeah yeah i do miss pop tarts they make healthy

00:16:53.600 pop tarts but they're really not healthy they're still junk food no i subtle i don't like i like

00:16:57.440 the cinnamon one i went in the complete opposite direction like total neurosis i got my bachelor's

00:17:03.280 and master's degree in nutrition i helped thousands of people lose weight regain their health and it was

00:17:08.400 almost like her rebellion so her choice to gain autonomy through overeating and ill health was 1.00

00:17:14.960 almost you know well it was just so so crazy for me because i was so healthy i thought you said you

00:17:20.880 were overweight as a kid i was but as an adult so you were super what were you doing my whole life until

00:17:27.280 i was like 15 i was like rebelling against her i was like i'm gonna eat all the junk food so i'd go to

00:17:32.560 my friend's house and i'd stuff my face with pizza and then their moms would call her and be like oh my

00:17:37.280 gosh is your daughter okay she's eaten like a box of pizza and like my whole box of goldfish wow and

00:17:43.040 i would just do that and then i'd come home and i would never like her cooking even though she's the 1.00

00:17:46.240 best cook i know but like i wouldn't i just rebelled my whole life yeah it was terrible as many of you

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JustPearlyThings - May 17, 2023

Pearl DESTROYED Feminist for Saying This

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